#and get over urself

[baeddling]

the originator of the term "transmisogyny" originally intended it to apply to both trans masculine and transfeminine people (in different but equally problematic ways), and resents that the term has lost all meaning out of context and turned into fight over which kind of trans person is more oppressed (as tragically often happens in minority spaces, usually to stunt our progress), or the idea that trans people of different kinds oppress each other in any meaningful way. i think the creation of the term transmisandry is the most recent awful step further in this direction. a damn shame.

#why do u people keep locating my inbox so efficiently #please go away #transmisogyny is not actually about everyone #get used to it #and get over urself

[inkskinned]

before you know about women, you hear that you do not need to love the man, just that you need to love him through his manhood. which is to say you have seen the future painted in lamb's blood over your eyes - how your mother shoots you a look about your father's inability to cook right. how your aunt holds her wineglass and says i'm gonna kill em. men, right! how your best friend bickers with her boyfriend, how she says i can't help it. i come back to him.

you learn: men are gonna cheat. men aren't going to listen when you're talking, because you're nagging. men think emotions are stupid. they think your life is vapid and your hobbies are embarrassing. men will slam things, but that's because men are allowed to be angry. if you get loud, you're hysterical. if a man gets loud - well, men are animals, men are dogs, men can't control their hands or their eyes or their bodies. they're going to make a snide comment about you in the locker room, about your body, about how you're so fucking annoying. you're going to give him kids, and he will give you the money for the kids, and you're going to be running the house 24/7 - but he gets to relax after a long day, because his job is stressful. the man is on stage, and is a comedian, and says "women!"

and you are supposed to love that. you are supposed to love men through how horrible they are to you - because that's what women do. that's what good women do. wife material. your father even told you once - it'll make sense when you're older. it was like staring down a very lonely tunnel.

it feels like something's caught in your throat, but it's all you know, so. it's okay that you see sex as a necessary tool, a sort of okay-enough ritual to keep him happy, even though he doesn't seem to care about happiness as-applied-to you. it is relationship upkeep. it is kissing him and smiling even though he didn't brush his teeth. it is getting on your knees and looking up and holding back a sigh because he barely holds you as you panic through the night. it's not like the sex is bad and you do like feeling wanted. and besides! he's a man! like... they're another species. you'll never be able to actually communicate, right. he isn't listening.

you just don't get it. you don't feel that sense of i'm gonna climb him like a tree. mostly it just feels fucking exhausting. you play the part perfectly. you smile and nod and are "effortlessly" charming. and it's fine! it's alright! you even love him, if you're looking. you could have good life, and a good family, and perfectly happy.

in the late night you google: am i broken. you google i'm not attracted to my husband. you google i get turned on by books but not by him. you google how to get better in bed.

the first time he yells at you, it almost feels like blankness. like - of course this is happening. this is always how it was going to end up. men get angry, and they yell, and you sit there in silence.

you mention it to your friend - just the once - while you're drunk. she shrugs and says it's like that with me too, i just try to forget and move on. men are always gonna hear what they want to. pick your battles and say sorry even though he's in the wrong. you play solitaire online for a month. you go to your therapist appointment and preach about how you're both so in love.

after all, you have a future to want. nobody lied about it - how many instagram posts say marriage is hard. say real love takes work. say we fight like cats and dogs but the best part is that we always make up. how many of your friends say happy anniversary to the best and worst thing to ever happen to me. if you really loved him - loved yourself too - you'd accept that men are just different from you.

the first time she kisses you, it's on a dare at a party. something large and terrifying whips through your body. you wake up sweating from dreams where her mouth is encrusted with pearls and you pick them off one by one with your teeth. fuck. you sit at the computer and your almost-finished game of sim city. you think about your potential perfect life and your potential future family. you google am i gay quiz with your little hands shaking.

you delete each letter slowly. you don't need to love him. you just need to keep going.

#warm up #writeblr #this is also about being ace btw #my identity has slowly shifted over time and maybe if everyone is REAL cool i'll talk bout it #bc it's complicated and nuanced. but this is like #trying to warn u that if you find it “relationship upkeep” to have sex with ur partner #and don't actually enjoy it or seek it for urself. u might just not be attracted to them. #which is fine ! ace ppl can be perfectly happy in any relationship they feel good in! #but also i wasn't as straight as i had expected! #> the first time i saw dick i was like. huh. oh okay that's fine i guess #> the first time i saw pussy i was like. WAIT ACTUALLY HANG ON I GET IT #i just assumed sex wasn't all it was cracked up to be ya know #but also like. btw? this IS NOT saying ''u might be gay not ace'' #bc tbh i'm grey ace/demisexual #it's saying u might not be into ur partner. explore urself & ur feelings. turn inward. #TAKE THIS IN THE MANNER IT WAS MEANT> GENTLE AND KIND #AND NOT IN A WEIRD INTERNET WAY PLEASE #bc the truth is that there ARE ppl who are gay who assume that they just ''don't like'' sex #and ace ppl who might need a different partner w/different needs #and i would have REALLY needed to hear ''check in w/urself about if u actually like sex'' #WAY EARILIER in my life. but nobody said anything bc they assume if ur having sex. u like it. #not just the actual act of sex. not once ur turned on. do you ACTUALLY like it. or is it a burden? #even if ur gay. check w/urself. maybe ur more ace than u realized. in which case. ADDITIONAL FLAG BB #i love collecting my flags. i'm at like 354 at this point #but also btw this is about how toxic relationships are SO normalized that u can be in one #and have everyone around u being like ''THATS JUST MEN LOL''

[gunsatthaphan]

#superior friends.

#cooking crush #cooking crush the series #cooking crush ep11 #offgun #tenprem #ten x prem #off jumpol #gun atthaphan #neo trai #gmmtv #thai bl #bl drama #😭😭😭 #get urself a squad who will have a meltdown over your relationship dkjhfd #screaming lmao

[oheyfox]

#get urself a man that carries u over water #its a ref to a video like last year that i thought was adorable #art #digital art #twisted wonderland #twst #twst wonderland #jack howl #disney twisted wonderland #twst fanart #twst jack howl #oc

[leoserblog]

Ok this might be an unpopular opinion but someones gotta say it...

Cassandra is a better Casey Jones than Casey Jr

Ive gotta be honest... i think casey jr is a kinda mid and i dont particularly think all the fanfare about him is warranted LOL

I want to note real quick that i dont DISLIKE him! He is a good character who only got as much development that a 2 hour movie could give him, and he filled and satisfied the role he needed to play in the movie, but the way the fandom latched onto him over the og casey... kinda makes me raise a brow

(Essay/rant about the prioritization of casey jr vs og casey under the cut :P)

Fandom spaces love a traumatized boy from the future, and believe me i do too! But the amount of attention given to casey jr after being revealed as casey is a wild amount compared to the amount of attention the original casey gets. Maybe its just me getting into rottmnt after the movie aired, but this seems a little baised?

Not only that, but the amount of... idk the best way i can think to describe it is infantilization of casey jrs character isnt helping my opinion of him. It feels like most content surrounding him babify him and reduce him only to his trauma post movie. I understand that it can be interesting to explore his trauma now that he no longer lives in the literal apocalypse, but it feels strange to see him reduced to someone who cant get around on his own and lives with the turtles when the original pitch for the movies ending has him leave to explore the world, which i feel is very appropriate for him and wish they had kept it in

In the movie when april shows us where the og casey has been and what shes been doing throughout the film, it tells us that casey is friends april which in theory, shouldve also shown us that she and the turtles are friends to some degree as well and should already have her place established within the group as this generations casey jones

However the final shot of the movie is a group shot of the family+casey jr, which subtlety implies that he's the new casey instead, and that this is the main cast moving forward (should it move forward *sob*). While both caseys being considered in the main cast could be true, it does strike me as a little odd that this was the final direction the rot team decided on for the official ending versus the scrapped ending, especially because it complicates the pre-established canon. It wouldve been one thing if our og casey was a different character, but that isnt the case.. y... (<_<)

Casey jr is an interesting character though! And i can understand why he appeals to fans, especially as his character post movie is fun to expand on aswell as developing his past involved with future versions of the main5, but one (me lol) could argue that the og casey is just as interesting of a character to delve into as she was involved, when you boil it down, a cult most of her life, and that concept, as well as the guilt she could hold for working with the foot and releasing the shredder, ontop of trying to befriend and gain the turtles and aprils trust are also intriguing concepts that could be explored, yet finding content that mentions her at all beyond her relation to casey jr is scarce

It feels as though shes been reduced to a background character within the fandom despite being a reoccuring character for the entire show.

For the two seasons of rottmnt that we did get, we are shown just what kind of character casey is and her possible dynamics with the turtles+april. Shes passionate and powerful and beyond determined to prove her worth and reach her goals. Shes also playful and reckless, a side that fits well with the main cast and their humor and, if the show was given more time, couldve developed naturally as the newest addition to the family as most caseys are. I could also argue that her characterization fits that of previous caseys more than casey jrs does (though i will admit that considering the plot of the movie, i cant positively say what hed be like outside of life or death scenarios, but i also cant imagine hes going to make a 180 in personality without it feeling jarring and ooc)

Now, i wont ignore the fact that her arc was cut horribly short and her involvement in the movie was quite literally a brief mention, both of which definitely play into how under appreciated she is. But at the same time it almost feels like everyone, including the show runners, have willingly pushed her aside for this new boy version to fill the role of casey jones. Hell, even when you look up rottmnt casey jones, cassandra barely shows up. Its casey jr which further proves my point

Idk, TLDR im pretty disappointed that despite being a consistent character for the entire show, no one seems to write or acknowledge her and if she is mentioned, its only relevant to push forward casey jrs character development or a brief cameo. As much as i do love casey jr (i can feel like hes mid and i can like him!) it seems like most people forget about the original casey, or favor casey jr in her place and she deserves more love and credit than shes given!

#rottmnt casey jones #rottmnt cassandra jones #rottmnt #rise of the teenage mutant ninja turtles #leoserpost #sorry to get so passionate about her #shes my little meow meow you see #now OBVIOUSLY some people write about her and casey jr #and they do it well #and im well aware of the rushing of the show along with the strange gap btwn it and the movie #but i still feel its important to mention because shes so cool!!!!! #and the best!!!!! #and i love her very much!!!!! #(also i didnt get into how fandom prioritize male characters over female ones and how that also likely plays a role in her being overlooked #(but i didnt feel like starting an argument w ppl who refuse to examine their own internalized misogyny so :P #we'll leave it at this) #plz appreciate her!!!!!!! #she deserves so much more!!!! #i want in depth fics about her life post shredder!!!!! #*if u want it sm go make it urself* i hear some say #and listen bud #<< #im thinking about it so hard in my brain #maybe i will! #😤 #ddjsjka ok im done #this is all very much my opinion #and maybe theres cassandra circles im missing out on #but this is also what ive observed #at the end of the day these are just silly cartoon characters and i just happen to feel strongly about this one!!

[marimbles]

does anyone else obsessively scroll through their own art tag or reread their own fics scrutinizing every detail and trying to determine whether it’s Actually Good or not or am I just a freak lol

#I’m always staring at my art like ‘ok if I were just scrolling and came across this piece and it wasn’t mine would I think it was good #would I look at my stuff and think I was worth following #as if it EVEN MATTERS !! #‘good’ is subjective and all art has value bc it is a creative expression of meaning to the artist! #what’s this bs part of my brain that wants so badly to Be Really Good at things like I’m having a nice time isn’t that enough for u. omg #me rereading my own fics: how would I rate this on a scale of 1 to 10. if I weren’t me would I click out or keep reading #puts myself in a chokehold. literally get over urself bro

[brucespringsteen]

When u feel loved and supported u genuinely can get through anything. And im not just talking about personal inner resilience but its such a relief to have people around who wanna help you through a mess. Life is so much easier and feels lucky

#once u get over urself and allowing help and winning the mental war that u deserve it

[copepods]

having a crush is the most evil emotion imaginable. thank god im only afflicted like once every 2-5 years if i had this shit on the regular id actually die

#text #I HAVE A DISEASE #bro i literally just wnat to chill out and my brain is making me feel emotions. get over urself loser

[daisy-mooon]

A reminder that some of you guys only use LGBT activism to shit on religious people and do exactly no activism whatsoever if you can't use it to be anti-theist. Some of you will have no problems harassing and being racist and homophobic to queer people if they're religious.

#op is a bisexual aroacespec christian and will run you over with a fucking car if you clown in my notes #to the trans person who called me a nazi and said that i would get killed and raped the last time i made this post go fuck urself idgaf #queer discourse #lgbt discourse #theism #religion #religious #queer religion #queer christian #lgbtq #lgbtqia #lgbt religion #religious discourse #anti anti theism

[queencaramilflinda]

The real message of Lucy vs Buddy is that worshipping a divinity is about following the values that the god puts forth, not about preaching or praying or evangelizing.

When Buddy was offered to die a Helio worshipper or live with a different god, he chose to abandon the faith he claimed such devotion to. When Lucy was offered the same thing, she looked to her values as they related to her religion and decided that she would not add to the coldness of the world. Lucy, even in death, remains a light in the dark, the warm memory in the coldness of the ratgrinders. That’s true devotion. That’s the point of religion.

#thinking about. when I went to the leadership conference in January #and we each were given a list of like 100 values. and we each had to choose 5 to claim as Our Values #and at the end I looked around the room to find that 90% of other people had picked self serving values #family. friends. inner peace. self esteem. faith. etc #and I had things that helped the world. empathy. justice. knowledge. etc #and like… there is nothing wrong with valuing family or self esteem. those things when positive can make life worth living. I get it #but would those people who chose to value inner peace and family have chosen the god of rage? #if u value inner peace over world peace what decisions will you make that fuck over the world to save urself? #this is certainly too deep for a d20 post ignore me #cienna talks #fhjy #fantasy high

[vulgarcunt]

Maybe YOU aren’t the bitch with aspd/npd/bpd that’s a bad person but I am

#i hate people with pds that wanna appeal to neurotypicals so badly #‘look at me i have this pd and i am good!!! give me a sticker!!!’ #🙄 get over urself get off your high horse bitch #if you even sneeze wrong those people u wanna be liked by so badly would lynch u #im a bitch with many pds and i have no morality and no desire to conform #and apparently if i am im contributing to the stigma #like I really don’t give a shit #let ppl with pds that are labeled as evil be evil #no my pds do not make me a bad person either im just a bad person with said pds #the empaths would have a stroke if they met me #cluster b #aspd #npd #bpd

[blackbloodredpepper]

like im sorry but horse lady just fucked with Tina's entire confidence and got away with it??

tina was just a ready and willing student who was already knowledgable and eager, and horse lady just shit all over her

Not to mention that plops should NOT have been available to the camp to use with campers... he was definitely only given to tina bc she annoyed horse lady

AND THEN WHEN PLOPS DROPPED HER???? he went all the way back to the camp BY HIMSELF and she didn't even bother looking for Tina and just waited for her to somehow make it back alone

#Like bitch. ur gonna punish the only girl at that whole camp that actually gave a fuck about what you're doing? Get over urself #i will never forgive the creators for doing this to her #tina belcher #bob’s burgers #bobs burgers #tx #rant

[lord-shitbox]

Had a realization. Ais would be that guy with a shit ton of pets but not all of them are dogs. Like at least two fish tanks, a horned lizard, snake, giant colorful tube enclosure for his rats, and a turtle that's set up to hibernate in his fridge

#he has like 3 dogs tho dont get me wrong. #touchstarved game #ais #hibernating your turtles in the fridge is normal btw my buddy's turtle has its own tupperware and everything #ais invites you over and shows you his pets and shows you his pets and shows you his pets and then once youre comfortable enough to get #urself a drink from his fridge you open it and SURPRISE! ANOTHER PET. #hes famous on reddit for all this btw #mhin uses tumblr and ais uses reddit. no wonder they dont get along

[oceanwithouthermoon]

i think its weird that i have to make this disclaimer but the internet is crazy so wtvr,, anyway,,

if i say i dont like something, that doesnt mean "that thing is bad and nobody should post it.."

i swear literally every time i even mention that i dislike something, people will go "wow does that mean u fucking hate me cuz i post that thing? ur a fucking stupid bitch and all ur opinions r wrong" LIKE ?? er.. no. just because i say i dont like certain characterizations of certain characters (the saiki k fandom is CRAZY about this cuz i can state an opinion on literally any character and a group of people will still go 'well only we're allowed to post our opinions about them because we're always right!1!1!'), or certain ship tropes (mentioned my hatred of toxic yaoi maybe once or twice on here months ago and people STILL get mad at me as if i said toxic yaoi lovers r evil or something), or certain ships, or WHATEVER, does not mean that i HATE the people who are posting them or that i think they shouldnt post them at all, NO, im just posting about my personal tastes on my personal blog and it would be extremely weird and hypocritical if i decided that i was the ONLY person that was allowed to do that,,

i think the only reason people assume that is because there are a lot of other people on here who ARE like that, and a lot of people toe the line between posting that they dont like something and posting that they think everyone who likes that thing is stupid, annoying, and wrong,, so i guess all i can say is, sorry for whatever made you make these assumptions but they arent true about me so plz leave me alone ʘ‿ʘ ur doing the same thing to me that ur accusing me of but i didnt do it in the first place so ur just actively being a dick for no reason

#crazy that the mindset some people on here have is that theyre the only ones allowed to post their opinions #ive repeated this a lot on this blog but i rlly think people forget that the person on the other side of the screen is in fact a person #if ur harassing people and publicly making fun of them then ur just as bad as any real life bully #that shit isnt as funny or harmless as u like to pretend it is #not once have i ever targetted anyone or went on someones blog to harass them over my opinion #yet people think its fine to do the same to me and treat it as if its like. revenge or something #like ? me saying 'i dont like toxic yaoi' is not equivalent to someone going on someone elses page and going 'how tf do u like toxic yaoi' #I DONT CARE !! all ive ever done is sit in my own little bubble and had opinions and that makes people mad #honestly though the people who will publicly talk and post abt it are significantly meaner #and i want to act like im not bothered by it because i know most of them r just angry that someone has a different opinion #and they want all their followers to bandwagon off of them (idk why maybe for validation or whatever-same reasons anyone would bully) #but seriously if u actually do think that something i said was out of line and crossed thise boundaries- just fucking tell me ? #im a person bro. ur solution to disagreeing with me shouldnt be 'lol im gonna post abt this and make everyone harass them' #have a conversation with me dude i dont bite ? if u cant talk to me like a person then just dont fucking say anything wtf #its so cowardly to be like 'well no i didnt wanna say anything to u cuz i didnt wanna be rude.. so instead i publicly made fun of u!' #LIKE WHATTTT STOPPPPP </3333 #ok anyway this post wasnt supposed to get THAT serious. #MY POINT IS just be considerate of other people and dont base ur hatred off of assumptions #ur deflecting the blame onto someone else because u dont want to admit that ur just a fucking bully lol #being inconsiderate on here is something ive also been guilty of back when i first joined the fandom and was clueless #but grown ass adults who have been on here way longer r still doing that shit which is crazy #and i cant say anything because they have so much leverage over me and idk if its on purpose or if they dont even realize #ok im putting fandom tags cuz i want people to see this sorry. this is my one post thats actually targetted but its at a lot of people #so if u look at this and think 'hey i do that' pls evaluate urself<3 #i mean its also targetted at everyone who does this anonomously so i dont know who it is OKOK IM DONE BYE SORRY HOPE THIS IS UNDERSTANDABLE #watch nobody read this fr #saiki k #tdlosk #the disastrous life of saiki k. #meows post

[starscelly]

just a messy, messy sequence

dal@sea 5.7.23 | round 2

#what if we got the 3 messiest men on this team. and made them all gang up on one man #i would say he instigated it. but delly deliberately held onto his stick so- djfsjkf #whatever. i needed this game to be over. this was my only clip from the third so. bon appetit #mason marchment #ty dellandrea #jamie benn #vince dunn #dallas stars #seattle kraken #stars lb #cel gifs #scp23 #tag urself im mush yelling 'pussy! pussy!' in the last gif (if i can read lips at all) #seattle ppl lmk if u want me to get this out of ur tag xoxo

[snowysoong]

smile :)

#snowy art #trying to practice symmetry......... #sniper is kinda off but shhhhhh shut the fuck up #cant get over the fact that sniper canonically has sharp teeth #please believe me #actually no check his model urself then youll see #scout tf2 #sniper tf2 #medic tf2 #tf2 sniper #tf2 medic #tf2 scout #tf2 #team fortress two #team fortress 2 #team fortress 2 fanart