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knifearo · 9 days

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this year my challenge for everyone is to unlearn the association between love and morality. love is not something that is inherently morally good, and the absence of love is not something that is inherently bad. sex without love isn't morally bankrupt, it's just an action. people without love aren't less kind or less good, they're just people. when we can get past this false (and often unnoticed) dichotomy of good love/evil lovelessness then i think we are going to be able to take leaps and bounds in sex positivity, aro advocacy, certain discussions of mental health...

#and also. not the direct focus. but love doesn't make things good. you can be in love and do terrible terrible things.#people do bad things in the name of love and in despite of love all the time.#but!! imagine a world where people could exist as people and not be demonized.#sex positivity means being cool about All sex. reexamine your internal systems of moral judgement.#this goes for sex workers. for aroallo people. especially aroallo men. for aro people in general who might enjoy sex.#and frankly i think it can easily bleed into discussions about mental health disorders around 'not feeling' certain things #especially demonizing ppl who don't feel as much empathy. i think there's definitely a correlation between that and the emphasis on love.#our support needs to go out to Everybody and i think these things are all structured together in one way or another!!#it might not be immediately obvious but when i tell you it all leads back to amatonormativity..... little bit wild.... large bit wild....#anyway. horror movie psychopath 'oh he can't feel emotions or love' damn alright. well. let's take a closer look at that.#silly that there's an association between lack of love and Murdering. feel like that might affect some stuff.#love is just an emotion/a feeling it doesn't mean anything about you one way or another #same with empathy. you can feel it all you want but it doesn't inherently change the actions you choose to take #anyway. thesis statement. there is a socially constructed link between love and morality. unlearn that.#kiss kiss (<— lovelessly)#aromantic #aromanticism #arospec #talking #aroace #aspec #sex positivity

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hollowboobtheory · 5 months

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wasted a cop's time today

#beck rambles #wasted my own damn time too but lets focus on the positives

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barb-l · 1 year

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This could mean any of three things:

Just fanservice because they are aware of how ridiculously popular Enid and Wenclair has become

Enid is paralleled against Morticia so she's gonna marry into the fam--*GUNSHOT*

Enid gets adopted into the family or becomes a cousin(like Parker in the animated movie💀) because her family life is strenuous enough that Enid thinks she could be disowned for not being a proper werewolf

#Wednesday Netflix #Wenclair #ONE fear #but for now let me focus on the positives #lookit how her skull is even smiling thru her eyes awwwwwwww

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ride-a-dromedary · 1 month

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the darkest of nights, in truth, still dazzles.

a halsin fanmix [listen]

#BG3 Musing #BG3 Fanmix #Halsin BG3 #Halsin #Halsin Posting #my fanmix #i give up this is about as done as it will ever be - i've been talking about this enough i need to get it away from me #i could have made at least one or two other playlists with the number of songs i cut from this #there were some things that hurt me to cut but i figured others had them in their playlists so they're out there #(the impossible dream you will always be famous i am so sorry :(()#i had three goals with this 1. make it more of a timeline in that it follows a narrative order (which hopefully is easy enough to follow)#(it makes sense to me about as much as it is ever going to lol)#2. try to avoid using songs that other individuals have used in their playlists (with a handful of exceptions - i highly encourage you also #take a listen to the others around! lots of good stuff and i figured if you were missing it from this one you can find another with it)#(and if i did use one the context might be different #'closer here is being used in a different way than i usually see it - it's putting more emphasis on the 'you can have my isolation' bit use #in context of the matron and patron for example)#and 3. focus as much as possible on non-romance path elements of halsin's character - i.e. again that's a topic that is highly explored #in other fanmixes to great success - this one is about the childhood he references and the adventures and the capture in the underdark #and the shadow curse and the burying of people he loved and the uptaking of the archdruid position and the healing he did #and possibly did not do #and the radicalization he comes into when his goals are met and he's faced with injustices #and the struggle he has of redefining himself and figuring out who he is after all of it #hopefully the 'eras' are clearly defined but hey it's all gravy from here #honestly if there is one song to listen to that encapsulates halsin for me it's tapestry - highly recommend that #anyway i am blabbing - let the lyrics and such talk for themselves jemi please #but if fanmixes aren't your speed have a kinda nice edit i guess #edit: now with bonus song i just had to add after shamefully forgetting it

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tikurrdurr · 2 months

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ppl in this community will jump on any opportunity to rip on someones ship and its a little pathetic

like id understand if it was like rly bad like maxvid but it seriously is just normal ships that dont hurt no one

#yes this is abt the hot takes account lol #literally One Positive Message abt danvid and then like 3 shitting on it follows #i dont even blame the admins either #like can we stick to calling out the commuitys weird racism instead thats when yall were cooking #but no lets focus that energy on ...... two...characters kissing #lol okay then #love: a danvid disliker #camp camp

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kiose · 11 months

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imagine pinkie wearing this:

Ok, yeah, I know you said imagine... but I accidentally went and drew it instead (and drew it so fast my tablet almost catches on fire haha)

AND Dash is here too...surprise! I just can't visualize Pinks in my head without having Dash around and viceversa, that's just how my PinkieDash brainrot works... so it accidentally became PinkieDash too, my B

#Pinkie Pie #Rainbow Dash #PinkieDash #RainbowPie #MLP #My Little Pony #My Little Pony Friendship is Magic #Art Zone #Ask Kio #asks #I drew this in like 3 hrs a couple of days ago...better release it into the world before I have any regrets #I'm not happy with how the hands look but eh...gotta learn to let go...I'm busy rn there's no time to fix anything #gotta focus on the positives which are 'More PinkieDash for the world'... and for my soul #oop I'm pony posting far too much...so I will try to post stuff from other fandoms too

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suaimhneas-gairid · 8 months

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I love when people get appropriately compensated for their work and time 🙂

#wasn't gonna chime in but #this is his job and he deserves money for the amount of work he puts in #and we aren't entitled to anything #this isn't a dig at anyone in particular #just we shouldn't be upset #let's just focus on making the gigs good!#if they're fun then maybe he'll feel better!!#there's no point feeling bad #let's keep being positive and contribute to the fandom!! :D #käärijä

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clits-and-clips · 4 days

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Since writing the affirmations and starting manifestation again, I've actually been in a much better headspace. It's crazy how things align, and you end up where you need to be, especially through pain

#txt #have been reading the affirmations every day twice a day sometimes #doing my intentions and manifesting what i wsnt #which is mainly independence #also a good relationship with my ex from here #mainly stuff for me tho #and the full moon on Wednesday which is in scorpio which is his sun sign #will be a big release and maybe i can let go a bit or a lot lol #i need to move on and focus on myself and what i want in life and doing it all on my own #with support obviously but ive never been fully independent and im so ready for the blessings and the open doors #i dont know if ill truly ever be over him but i have to try for my own sanity at this point #i dont want to manifest anything selfish like him coming back to me because it probably wont happen anyway lmao #i hope i dont sound crazy lmao but coming back into my spiritual journey is definitely what i need #connecting with myself and my purpose feels like the only thing i can do rn #have a driving lesson tomorrow but in all honesty i could just go do the test and pass cause ive been driving forever and im good at it #just need to practice certain things but im nearly there! so close i can feel it and see it #anyway i hope i can keep this energy up and continue to head in a positive direction because it feels really good #if i need to cry about him and the loss then i will but im not going to dwell on it too much #i just need to take it as a lesson and let it go :)#cause at the end of the day i really did lead myself here whether it was his choice to end it or not #blah

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wonder-worker · 27 days

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Margaret of Anjou’s visit to Coventry [in 1456], which was part of her dower and that of her son, Edward of Lancaster, was much more elaborate. It essentially reasserted Lancastrian power. The presence of Henry and the infant Edward was recognised in the pageantry. The ceremonial route between the Bablake gate and the commercial centre was short, skirting the area controlled by the cathedral priory, but it made up for its brevity with no fewer than fourteen pageants. Since Coventry had an established cycle of mystery plays, there were presumably enough local resources and experience to mount an impressive display; but one John Wetherby was summoned from Leicester to compose verses and stage the scenes. As at Margaret’s coronation the iconography was elaborate, though it built upon earlier developments.

Starting at Bablake gate, next to the Trinity Guild church of St. Michael, Bablake, the party was welcomed with a Tree of Jesse, set up on the gate itself, with the prophets Isaiah and Jeremiah explaining the symbolism. Outside St. Michael’s church the party was greeted by Edward the Confessor and St. John the Evangelist; and proceeding to Smithford Street, they found on the conduit the four Cardinal Virtues—Righteousness (Justice?), Prudence, Temperance, and Fortitude. In Cross Cheaping wine flowed freely, as in London, and angels stood on the cross, censing Margaret as she passed. Beyond the cross was pitched a series of pageants, each displaying one of the Nine Worthies, who offered to serve Margaret. Finally, the queen was shown a pageant of her patron saint, Margaret, slaying the dragon [which 'turned out to be strictly an intercessor on the queen's behalf', as Helen Maurer points out].

The meanings here are complex and have been variously interpreted. An initial reading of the programme found a message of messianic kingship: the Jesse tree equating royal genealogy with that of Christ had been used at the welcome for Henry VI on his return from Paris in 1432. A more recent, feminist view is that the symbolism is essentially Marian, and to be associated with Margaret both as queen and mother of the heir rather than Henry himself. The theme is shared sovereignty, with Margaret equal to her husband and son. Ideal kingship was symbolised by the presence of Edward the Confessor, but Margaret was the person to whom the speeches were specifically addressed and she, not Henry, was seen as the saviour of the house of Lancaster. This reading tips the balance too far the other way: the tableau of Edward the Confessor and St. John was a direct reference to the legend of the Ring and the Pilgrim, one of Henry III’s favourite stories, which was illustrated in Westminster Abbey, several of his houses, and in manuscript. It symbolised royal largesse, and its message at Coventry would certainly have encompassed the reigning king. Again, the presence of allegorical figures, first used for Henry, seems to acknowledge his presence. Yet, while the message of the Coventry pageants was directed at contemporary events it emphasised Margaret’s motherhood and duties as queen; and it was expressed as a traditional spiritual journey from the Old Testament, via the incarnation represented by the cross, to the final triumph over evil, with the help of the Virgin, allegory, and the Worthies. The only true thematic innovation was the commentary by the prophets.

[...] The messages of the pageants firmly reminded the royal women of their place as mothers and mediators, honoured but subordinate. Yet, if passive, these young women were not without significance. It is clear from the pageantry of 1392 and 1426 in London and 1456 in Coventry that when a crisis needed to be resolved, the queen (or regent’s wife) was accorded extra recognition. Her duty as mediator—or the good aspect of a misdirected man—suddenly became more than a pious wish. At Coventry, Margaret of Anjou was even presented as the rock upon which the monarchy rested. [However,] a crisis had to be sensed in order to provoke such emphasis [...]."

-Nicola Coldstream, "Roles of Women in Late Medieval Civic Pageantry," "Reassessing the Roles of Women as 'Makers' of Medieval Art and Culture"

#historicwomendaily #margaret of anjou #my post #henry vi #yeah I don't necessarily agree with Laynesmith's interpretation (that it was essentially Marian with an emphasis on shared sovereignty)#which she herself says is 'admittedly very speculative'#as this book points out that interpretation tips the balance too far on the other side and has a somewhat selective reading #It's also important to remember that this interpretation was not really reflected across wider Lancastrian propaganda at the time #which isn't really talked about - let alone emphasized - as much by historians but remained focused on the King #For example: look at the pro-Lancastrian poem 'The Ship of State' which hails Henry VI as a 'noble shyp made of good tree'#and emphasizes how he was widely supported and defended by many great Lancastrian lords and the crown prince #but not Margaret who was entirely absent #also look at the book 'Knyghthode and Bataile' (presented to Henry) and Fortescue's various pro-Lancastrian texts in the 1460s #even the recording of that Yorkist trial which was iirc reported in the 1459 attainder #all of these were entirely conventional and highlighted the presence and importance of the King. Margaret was not emphasized.#so either the Lancastrians were impossibly inconsistent about what message they actually wanted to convey about the role of their own queen #or the Coventry pageants were not actually meant to emphasize Margaret in the lieu of Laynesmith's interpretation #and would not have been viewed in such a manner by contemporaries #I think we should also keep in mind that we don't really know what Henry VI's condition was like at the time of MoA's entry to Coventry #we know he had been injured in St. Albans and had only just recovered from his second illness #this is especially important to consider since we know he had also arrived at Coventry before Margaret but much more discreetly #and was not welcomed by any pageants that we know of. This is VERY unusual and can be best explained if we consider the fact that he #may have simply not been in the right state (be it physical or state of mind) for it at the time #in which case the pageants for Margaret should be viewed as more of a improvisation/cover-up/temporary measure to bolster prestige #or Henry may have deliberately taken a more discreet role to emphasize the position of his heir - especially important after the long wait #imo I think Kipling's interpretation (ie: that they addressed Margaret but really referenced the prince & heir) makes a lot more sense:#'Coventry [...] regarded Margaret's entry as a kind of triumph-by-proxy: the Queen entered the city but Coventry received its Prince'#though I think he tends to view Margaret as more of a cipher (and has a very questionable view of Henry VI) which I also don't agree with.#The pageants very much DID focus on and reference her but they most prominently emphasized her 'motherhood and duties as queen'#ie: I think Kipling and Laynesmith tip too far on opposite sides and I think this interpretation takes the most realistic middle ground

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utilitycaster · 1 year

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My unpopular opinion is that Im0dna is a great example of "just because someone knows you the longest, doesn't mean they know you the best". They don't really underwater each other like other people in the party already do

Hi anon,

So the ask meme is done but I don't actually know if this was intended as part of that, as I also have the sort of personality that solicits unpopular opinions into my inbox anyway. (Also I am guessing underwater is a very funny autocorrect mishap for understand; I have been there).

Anyway, yeah. I think my favorite meta I've seen is that what Imogen and Laudna actually ask of each other is just to be there - because it is true that they have both lived incredibly lonely lives. For what it's worth I think loneliness/missing someone is perhaps the most common thread among Bells Hells, with a secondary theme being victims of circumstance/irrevocably altered by events beyond their control, and it frustrates me that a lot of framing of the ship ignores that Imogen and Laudna are not uniquely suited to understand this about each other. But it is true they have experienced loneliness that, in my opinion, is at least partially self-inflicted (also not unique) and that their response has been to be there for each other.

But it also means there's little room for change, because change threatens that status quo, and there's therefore no space to delve deeper. It's a little bit of the classic problem of if you start a romantic relationship with a friend and then break up, you might lose both the romantic relationship and the friendship. But it's more than that - Chetney and Imogen have zero romantic interest in each other and aren't even terribly close within the party, but when Chetney asks Imogen if she's okay Imogen is actually able to answer with some amount of honesty without pretending everything will work out, as she's not worried about making sure he feels comfortable. Deanna, who's known Imogen for less than a week, is able to address Imogen's constant use of psychic powers in a way that's not unkind but is in fact the honest sort of thing a best friend should be able to tell you. Or for another example, FCG's tendency to strongly urge people, including Imogen, to confront their pasts isn't always the most skilled, but it usually comes from a place of good intentions, whereas Imogen and Laudna's relationship feels...unconsciously transactional? I think we saw in the gnarlrock fight that they're just absolutely terrified of being in a fight and don't really know how to resolve conflict in a way that actually moves forward rather than smoothing things over. Like, it's not an unfair relationship - they're both getting the same companionship out of it - but there's not really space for one person to be angry at the other or to feel wronged. There's no room to breathe.

Anyway - I think the party split is really illuminating this! Imogen is benefiting immensely from this arc, as it both spotlights her relationships with other party members and gives her some time to process after being the central focus for so long. While I have to admit that Team Wildemount is the one I'm far more interested in for a number of reasons (fantastic guests, all the main PCs have cool plot hooks to explore, I love Uthodurn and Molaesmyr) I do hope that we get to see Laudna similarly have a chance to branch out (pun kind of intended).

#answered #Anonymous #critical role spoilers #cr tag #i need to write up about loneliness and choice tbh bc like #honestly the aeormaton date conversation ACTUALLY did everything people claimed the 3x49 conversation was supposed to be doing #and it just feels so disingenuous to ignore that fearne's felt abandoned and orym's experienced profound loss #and ashton fcg and chetney have all been altered in ways far beyond their control and been incredibly lonely as well #sorry to tag rant on your ask anon but like. i still maintain this isn't a notp for me yet #it's just...generally not working and then the fanon is so unbelievably dismissive to everyone else in the party and wildly biphobic #that whenever i'm like let's focus on the positive! my brain instead decides to be Hater Columbo like JUST ONE MORE THING

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jaythedagger · 1 year

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i think being a face model for a game is so cool. being the motion capture / voice actor is incredible too, but there is something awesome about just giving the rights to your face to a gaming company for a new video game and then months or years later you see a trailer for said video game on youtube and then you just go. hey. that’s me.

and you see youtubers and streamers playing the game with you as the character they are controlling. even more interesting if you don’t know most of the game plot like cascina caradonna (for dina in tlou2) and the whole time you just think damn i look cool! look at me go!

#jaytalks #resident evil #leon kennedy #the last of us #abby anderson #ellie williams #joel miller #video games #cascina caradonna #tlou #resident evil 4 #or it’s hell on earth and people will bully you #but let’s focus on the positives

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ddagent · 2 months

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Reasons to be Happy

Great friends and followers

Lindt chocolate

Dropout TV

Go West

#dd's reasons to be happy #let's focus on some positivity

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zainmalik · 3 months

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#now this may sound crazy #but i think i’ve broken the deep parasocial relationship with louis #i love him and i’ll never stop loving him #but i now feel like it’s not the obsessive kind where he takes over my life #not to be Like That but the medication may have played a part on it #i can enjoy my other interests and focus on my real life goals and responsibilities #as i said i’ll never stop loving him. he’s my fave. my baby. my pookie #but i can now establish a healthy relationship with him #i feel like this is better and it’ll allow me to enjoy him in a positive way #i’m excited actually. i can follow him without needing to know everything he’s doing all the time #i just feel great right now and i’m gonna enjoy it for as long as it lasts. and when the bad days come i’ll keep going #because the good days are worth it #also this is a formal request to not send me any discourse about the husbands #i’m not interested in engaging in that anymore #no stunts. no bbg. nothing about that. just chilling #i’m here for the music and their journeys #riley if you’re reading this. thank you for being patient with me and letting me rant to you and for the intervention #you were right and i feel happier #love you so much #logan.txt

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captaindamianos · 1 year

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I haven’t done one of these in years because I either drew nothing at all or not consistently enough. I’m genuinely happy and proud I actually managed it this year.

It’s been a tough year and it wasn’t always super fun to share my art. But I’m happy about the progress I made despite it all. I’m thankful for the people who have been kind throughout the year, I cherish the messages I did receive, I’m thankful for every person who takes the time out of their day to add tags to one of my fanarts, or comments or gives me any kind of feedback. I know you have no obligation to do so and I’m just really glad you decide to do so. If there is any kind of feedback or excitement to feed on, it really makes all the difference for me.

Happy Holidays to everyone who celebrates!

#Captive Prince #my art #I had this whole post already written but i hoped i'd do another fanart this year #maybe i still will #but i wasn't in the best headspace then and it got long winded etc etc #let's focus on the positive instead of everything that made me cry this year haha

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scummy-writes · 4 months

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This time of the year is always a mixed feeling for me, since it's at the peak of seasonal depression for me. It's a time where you have to think about how much has changed in this year, and the previous years. This year has been pretty turbulent. I moved to a new state, got a new job that I am not experienced with at all, met a lot of new people and lost a few. I started out this year with covid and the belief that life wasn't going to change at all, only for it to change in Way too many ways that were great and awful. I am! scared of the upcoming year, to be honest.

I want to say that my lack of writing this year was due to all of that, and in a way it is. But it's also due to personal issues of repressing a lot of my wants and enjoyment. There are many a draft where I have steamrolled through only to stop and have a lot of panic and obessive, destructive thoughts over how to end it, how it will be read, xyz, and then I can't bring myself to finish it. And I wish it was as simple as just having someone shake my shoulders and go "It's fine!!!!" but it is not that simple at all. I am constantly in a fight with my brain and left exhausted, and often giving up.

I will say it is. disheartening. getting critism over new interests, as if I have kicked my 'old' interests to the curb completely. As if I am not actively talking to friends about isaac or arthur, or any other favorites I have. It is annoying finally managing to post something and getting people wishing for something else instead, rather than just politely trying to engage with me about those characters/things instead.

I know I will continue to write, and I will post things in the upcoming year. It is a given. I do not know how frequent it will be. Depression has taken a lot from me, and this past year is evident that it's taking writing from me slowly but surely. I greatly dislike making resolutions for the new year, but I do hope that I will be able to have more patience with myself, and that more people in this fandom will focus on empathy and patience as well whether it is with themselves or others.

#scum talks #i am going to focus on more positive stuff now #i just kept going to try to write positives and kept thinking about a shitton of negative stuff #so now that is out of the way #i think the main thing im going to focus on is lessening my interactions with those who view fandom as a competition rather than commonplac #i am so exhausted of petty fandom bullshit just let me fucking write and be happy #i dont want new or returning complexes over writing just leave me alone if you have to compete with others #i am not in the ring

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padfootastic · 1 year

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Related to Remus being made the brilliant one and how that possibly stems from us seeing him studying for the Transfiguration O.W.L., people forget that Sirius isn’t studying because he already knows the material and doesn’t need to review. Is it cocky? Yes, but considering McGonagall’s later statement that Sirius and James were brilliant, it’s likely that he did do well (combined with his expectation of getting all Os). Sirius and James were effortlessly brilliant, the kids that barely have to take notes and still score the highest, and Remus may have been an intelligent student (he becomes DADA professor and was actually competent, but that doesn’t necessarily mean he was brilliant in all his classes, just that DADA was a class he did well in), but Remus had to work at it

no but it’s literally so funny how remus became the uptight nerd as if the man literally didn’t cause unending chaos on his literal first day???? he was a whole marauder (for whatever that was worth), a very fuckall prefect, and in a resistance against ~dark forces.

i think it’s down to like, 1. poor, shallow reading comprehension where teacher=swot; 2. trying to force the golden trio dynamics (which in itself reiterated how badly people read these characters bc hermione, for all her know-it-allness was so ruthless and mercenary???); 3. trying to contrast james’ and sirius’ perceived traits (how else would u imply remus was superior 😌😌)

#it’s such a classic case of like—stupidity and people being unable to look past the text #bc of course they focus on the dude w the books (the ‘teacher’) over the guy who literally doesn’t need the books bc he’s so smart #ugh #we have so much in text evidence of sirius being outstanding too #and the complete opposite for r #like for eg. how so many fics say that remus would’ve been forbidden to contact harry #or there’s creature/magical wards that kept him away #u think if it was sirius in that pairoon he would’ve let that stop him?#position*#would’ve probably invented a whole new field of magic just to get to his godson #anyway sorry that’s irrelevant and me being bitter #point: i hate everyone’s interpretation of these characters lmaoo a #pen’s asks

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