#disabled homemaker

[kryptidkhaos]

I'm a disabled trans guy who is unemployed, and I don't bring any income to my household. I love to cook, clean, organize, manage calendars, appointments, etc. so in my polycule, that's the role I fill.

I'm a homemaker and very proud of it, but I wish I could say that with more frequency without constantly having people roll their eyes or interrogating me about my personal life.

"How can you be too disabled to work a job, but not to take care of your household? Don't the other people in your family do any housework? Are you being taken advantage of? Have you ever had a job? Can't you work part time? Why aren't you on disability? Have you tried a work from home job?"

I've been trying to find more support and community for people like me, but the sheer wall of red usernames that appear when I dip into any kind of "homemaker", "housekeeping", "domestic labor", type of tag is absolutely terrifying. It's either tradwives or radfems, with no in-between. "stay at home dad" tags are basically empty, and i don't even have a kid living at home with me anymore to bond with other parents anyway.

#homemaking #housekeeping #homemaker #domestic labor #disabled homemaker #original post

[crazycatsiren]

If I go "stir crazy" at home, it's from being fucking disabled, because being disabled is fucking boring and you can't do jack shit to fix it. Try being disabled and you'll discover just how exciting a life it is, all day everyday.

#disabled #spoonie #cripple punk #disabled homemaker #disabled women #chronically ill women

[vampireknitting]

It is devastating how controlling fatigue is. Got all the house work I wanted done, my yoga routine, and even managed to shower yesterday. But with endometriosis coming out swinging hard this month I am dead today. I even managed to sleep a good 9 hours last night. Hotpad and weed type of day my dudes. I doubt I’ll make it through the day without at least a 2 hour nap.

I’m so happy with how yesterday went too. Like I could feel this coming so i did as much as I possibly could yesterday. Smoked more than I wanted to get what I needed done before the full impact of the cycle hit. Got leg numbness to the max today. So it’s gonna be a stardew valley day where the hotpad and I hangout allll day. Thank god for electric hotpads with multiple settings.

#disabled homemaker #just ugh #the joys of endometriosis #menstrual cramps #tummy is full of fire and yuck

[brightgnosis]

I'm sorry ???? I am ??? Obsessed ??? With the Corning Ware 'Country Festival' (sometimes called 'Blue Bird') pattern ???

Like ??? Look at it ?????

#Personal #Homemaking #Housewife #NonTrad Homemaker #NonTrad Housewife #NonTrad Homemaking #Pagan Homemaker #Pagan Housewife #Pagan Homemaking #Jewish Homemaker #Jewish Homemaking #Jewish Housewife #Queer Homemaker #Queer Homemaking #Queer Housewife #Disabled Homemaker #Disabled Housewife #Wishing on a Star #Oklahoma

[myhappyhomeoflove]

This one is so much better!! It tastes yummy, it's got a nice crunchy crust, and it's gotta nice crumb to it. It looks nicer too

#tradfem #disabled homemaker #homemade #tradwife #home cooking #homemade bread #my cooking #sourdough #sourdough adventures!

[myneurodivergentlife]

Can we please stop associating being productive ( & having a job) with your health. And assuming just becuase someone is more or less productive they are more or less healthy. Cause I've had to quit jobs becuase it was affecting my health too much and got told by multiple people that me being "lazy" was just gonna make me more sick. And I'm really sick of those two things being tied together.

#disabled #disabled homemaker #spoonie #chronic illness

[vampireturtles]

I created this because I was yeeted from tumblr from some reason. Couldn’t find an email telling me I was nuked which only left me more confused. Tbh I’ve been debating on remaking so I can connect this to my streaming stuffs and just keep things rather simple for myself. I love tumblr and whatnot. But like I’m not willing to have a “professional” account and a personal. Too much work for meaningless payback. So this is me now lol

#small streamer #disabled homemaker #my thoughts #fresh start

[sakuranightmarez]

Life as a Housewife

Current woe: I swear to fucking god I JUST vacuumed this floor!

#housewife #homemaker #disabled homemaker #meadz

[samwisethewitch]

*takes your face gently in my hands and looks sincerely into your eyes* listen. your home does not need to look like a showroom. homes are meant to be lived in, and that means a certain amount of mess. it's okay if there is clutter on your desk or if you don't remember the last time you cleaned your oven. mess is morally neutral. but at the same time, you deserve to live in an environment that is safe and comfortable, and that means someone has to clean sometimes. things like mold, spoiled food, and dirty litter boxes are genuine health hazards and need to be dealt with before they make someone sick. think of cleaning less as "my home needs to be completely spotless" and more as "I am an animal and I need a habitat that is free of hazardous material." it's okay. *kisses you on the forehead and tucks you into a blanket*

(and of course it is always acceptable and even good for you to ask someone else to help you with cleaning if it's physically or mentally difficult for you. even if you're paying them to do it.)

#this post is for my inner child exclusively #cleaning #housework #homemaking #adulting #adulting tips #self care #adhd #actually adhd #neurodiversity #neurodivergent #neurodiverse stuff #mine #disabled #actually disabled #cottagecore #farmcore

[lunarharp]

being attached to that moment qifrey held a baby one time and my ideas for the future :)

#witch hat tag #orufrey #brief small post before i return to Real and Emotional things again...but tbh...this makes me feel real emotions too #i think the manga will end up with a epilogue chapter showcasing little things in the girls' future and orufrey holding hands or kissing... #to like Indicate things. if it doesn't happen beforehand. #But. Who. Knows. also then i suddenly started thinking about them raising a baby for ages today because of how narratively poignant it'd be #for things to end that way after having raised almost-daughters all those years. and how healing it could be for qifrey and etc. #thing i said on twt: girls visit so often that the kid's first words are Professor Olly #“deja vu.. i'm not your professor kid - i'm your father!” #sorry but they are literally a gay couple where one truly is like The Mom and one truly is The Dad. to me #i think a housewifey homemaker type lifestyle would make qifrey happy. be harder now that he's disabled - well that's why he has his man. #i dont normally care about stuff like fankids or whatever..characters becoming parents for real..but like..Come on #This is the couple to think about this with.....they already ARE parents..i want them to be happy for eternity #once all the horrors are over we have to make it there.....children are so precious families are so precious.... #i have bad relationship with parents personally and haven't interacted with children in years. And yet i still know that. #the fact that orufrey fight for children to be safe and educated and happy...qif wants to help coustas too.. #aaaanyway today was a pretty weird and difficult day so i deserved to think about happy futures for a bit. i hear it's possible #btw i'm most sure about tetia becoming the princess of zozah. i think that will happen. and riche should have the ribbon tassel.

[citronavalkiro]

So I am a homemaker mostly because I can’t work a full time job due to my disabilities which I collect SSDI for. I see a lot of these posts about tradwives and housewives being domestic goddesses while my own house is a mess because it is difficult keeping up with housework. My first year of not working I tried to do the whole tradwife thing and do whatever I could to make my husband happy but I found after a while I couldn’t keep that act anymore because I was ignoring my own needs and not speaking up when I needed help. It’s great if you want to be a housewife or SAHM but it is important to still practice self care and not ignore your own mental health in favor of your husband and kids because failing to do so is not sustainable. It was so liberating when I allowed myself to ask for help when I realized I wouldn’t be a nag. I think it is something to keep in mind as a homemaker that self care is important and doesn’t make you bad or lazy. After all most of those ads from the 50s we like to emulate only represent a very idealized life of that time. Most husbands at that time were still dealing with a lot of trauma from WWII after all. I still love being a homemaker even if I don’t quite fit that mold but that is okay.

#tradwife #homemaker #self care #disabled

[crazycatsiren]

As a disabled woman who had no choice but to stop working and was forced to give up on a career with a master's degree for due to chronic illnesses, I don't want to hear your mouthpieces on independence, gender roles, domesticity boredom, confidence, as if women who voluntarily or involuntarily stay home full time are all miserable baggage pieces.

You've seriously come to the wrong place with that talk.

#cripple punk #ableism #intersectional feminism #disabled #spoonie #disabled women #chronically ill women #disabled homemaker

[vampireknitting]

Why must so many shirts be crop tops? Got a pj set because the fluffy pants made me so very happy. I thought it looked a tad short for a long sleeve, but the shirt wasn’t important, fuzzy fluffy pants are. I put them on and the pants are as wonderful as I thought they’d be. But I put the shirt on and it’s a damn crop top. How to you remain warm and comfy if the tummy is exposed to the elements?

#disabled homemaker #2 am thoughts as I try to sleep in this silly crop top sweater thingy #like yes I probably should have paused and thought about the shirt. but the texture makes me so happy. like best lazy pants

[brightgnosis]

Our Responsibilities: A Note on Homemakers and Homesteaders, "Traditionalism", and the World of NeoNazism

As a Hearthkeeper, once upon a time I fell head-first right down the Traditionalist rabbit hole. So much so that I was the OG "Liberal Tradwife" of Tumblr. I helped both create and spread the lie that you could be a "Liberal Traditionalist".

I'd just really started exploring what "femininity" meant to me for the first time in my life. I'd just gotten married. We'd just moved into our first house alone, together, as newlyweds and had a whole slew of renovations ahead of us. And eventually I had to come to terms with the fact that I was disabled and could no longer work- and thus was forced to become a Homemaker without a choice.

Baruch HaShem, I had good friends and an amazing support system to help educate me, and learned better very quickly about how Traditionalism is directly tied to White Supremacy, and largely stems from Nazi ideology about things such as the nuclear family; they warned me about how Nationalists frequently coopt motherhood and homemaking in order to target new mothers and newlyweds looking to start families- preying on their fears for their children and their anxieties about the changing world around them, in order to sway them to their side. Often without even knowing or realizing it.

It's a sinister radicalization. A disturbingly quiet one that sneaks in when you're least aware of it. I was lucky. Plenty of others unfortunately aren't, however. And I've been fighting back against the active harm that I caused the homemaking community on this platform nearly every single day since as a result ... Unfortunately there's an equally disturbing penchant of people wanting to shove their heads in the sand and rub it off as "just the ramblings of a madwoman". But it isn't.

Whether we want to recognize it or not, there are near-literal mountains of evidence which have been collected over the course of decades, which should actively concern us; written about the active co-option and weaponization of motherhood, homemaking in general, and homesteading (and plenty more topics besides), in order to further nationalist, alt-right, Neo-Nazi, and white supremacist (and so on) ideologies in the modern age. Indeed, this action and the propaganda which facilitates it stretches as far back as WW II, and even further.

Without realizing it, increasingly familiar terminology (like the use of "traditional" to refer to ourselves Homemakers, and the "simple living" lifestyle) often descends directly from these very same ideologies. Much of the increasing anti-globalist and anti-modernist rhetoric we use likewise stems from it as well- such as the desire to isolate ourselves from the greater world; the desire to be wholly self-sufficient; and so on ... Even the very things we think of as being "traditional" altogether are completely artificial constructs which stem directly from their propaganda and rhetoric.

Does that make us all inherently nationalists simply because we're Homemakers or Homesteaders, or because some of us actively dream about those lives? Absolutely not; though we always need to be careful of romanticism, at its very core there isn't anything that's inherently wrong with wanting a simple (especially agrarian based) lifestyle which is free from the confines and stressors of modern day capitalism and hustle culture. Indeed, it's arguable that our society, as it currently stands, actively needs this shift.

However: It is indisputable that even in all of this dreaming, we need to recognize these facts. We simply can't ignore their presence. And the first step to that? Is actually taking this threat seriously instead of blowing it off as a "limited minority problem" (it's absolutely not).

There's a stark difference between saying "Hey, there’s historic links to Traditionalism and Nazi / Nationalist ideology and propaganda. The Homemaking, Homesteading, and general "Slow Living" communities hides Nationalists / Nazis who actively seek to take advantage of people like new mothers and those looking for anticapitalistic lifestyles; the weaponization of motherhood and homemaking especially for nationalist purposes is a very real and well documented phenomenon. Y'all're also constantly reblogging from a lot of these Nationalists / Nazis without realizing it. We need to not only be aware of this and educate ourselves on the warning signs of Nationalism / Nazism, but also actively start doing more to combat it within our communities” ... And saying "You actively have to completely abandon everything about your lifestyle, your values, your dreams, and everything else about homemaking and homesteading and slow living that you enjoy or hold dear in any form".

If your first reaction to someone saying "Hey, beware of and educated about the warning signs of Nazis / Nationalists, and help us actively fight them within our shared community" is to believe that people are somehow telling you that you must abandon your lifestyle, your values, your dreams, and everything else that you hold dear- and that they're calling you, personally, an active and intentional nationalist by proxy? Then you need to be examining why “beware of Nazis / Nationalists here” reads to you as “abandon everything”- and not what it literally says right there on the tab. Which is: “Beware of Nazis / Nationalists”.

It's very concerning that's your first reaction to a statement asking you to be careful where you're stepping, educate yourself, and help us take out the trash. And I hate to tell you this, but if that's the case then you might actually be unintentionally aligning yourself with Nazis / Nationalists ... Or, at the very least, you're really close to getting there, even if you don't realize it yet. And that's a very dangerous rabbit hole to fall down.

We need to educate ourselves as much as we can on the history of nationalism- especially where it intersects homemaking and homesteading.

We need to educate ourselves as much as we can about nationalist dogwhistles and what White Supremacy looks and sounds like- even in its most cushiony, pink lace forms designed to attract us.

And we need to begin to actively do more to combat those legitimate nationalists and white supremacist elements which currently sit comfortably within the homemaking and homesteading communities, spreading this rhetoric and propaganda without any recourse. That means keeping an eye out for that kind of behavior and rhetoric, and doing your due diligence to confirm it- and then clock, report, and warn others whenever you see it.

And yes ... It also means actively changing the terminology and rhetoric that we use so that we're not quietly aligning ourselves (even accidentally) with what is still an active and ongoing belief system that causes harm to others.

Speaking as the person who unfortunately originally popularized the idea that you could even be "Liberal Traditionalist" in the first place (you cannot be): This goes double and triple for anyone who currently still claims to be a "Liberal Traditionalist", or a "Non-Trad Homemaker"; if you truly care about the values you claim? This isn't optional for you, especially. It's a mandatory requirement.

We cannot continue to ignore nationalism in the homemaking community; we cannot continue to stick our heads in the sand and pretend it doesn't exist. Because it does. It's well documented that it does, and we don't get to just decide the truth doesn't exist, or try to change it because it makes us uncomfortable.

Not ignoring it means that you have to do this. It's not an option; it's not "live and let live" or "just let people enjoy their life" like it doesn't have very real and serious consequences. It is something we all need to do for our safety, and for the safety of our community.

↞⬩↠ Nazism / Nationalism Resources ↞⬩↠

How to Spot and Respond to White Supremacist Propaganda (Web)

Decrypting the Alt-Right: How to Recognize a F@scist (Video)

Endnote 2: White Fascism (Video)

You’re Not Immune To Propaganda (Video)

The Alt-Right Playbook: How to Radicalize a Normie (Video)

The Alt-Right Playbook: Mainstreaming (Video)

The Alt-Right Playbook: I Hate Mondays (Video)

The Alt-Right Playbook: Control the Conversation (Video)

The Alt-Right Playbook: You Go High, We Go Low (Video)

The Alt-Right Playbook: Always a Bigger Fish (Video)

My Own Dogwhistles Tag on Tumblr

@analyzingantisemitism TikTok Account (Web)

Antisemitism Education Blog Post (Web)

Antisemitism 101 (Web)

Me and White Supremacy: Combat Racism, Change the World, and Become a Good Ancestor (Book)

Religious Nationalism: A Reference Handbook (Book)

Unholy Alliance: A History of Nazi Involvement with the Occult; 3rd New and Expanded Edition (Book)

The Holy Reich: Nazi Conceptions of Christianity from 1919 to 1945 (Book)

Roots of Theological Anti-Semitism: German Biblical Interpretation and the Jews; from Herder and Semler, to Kittel and Bultmann (Book)

Endnote 3: The Origins of Conservatism (Video)

How Conservatives Co-Opted Christianity (Video)

The Power Worshippers: Inside the Dangerous Rise of Religious Nationalism (Book)

The Origins of American Religious Nationalism (Book)

God Bless America: How the US is Obsessed with Religion (Video)

The Growing Threat Of Christian Nationalism (Video)

Why Is American Patriotism So Weird? (Video)

Traditionalism: Just A Fancy Name For Oppression (Web)

The Eugenics Roots of Evangelical Family Values (Web)

How White Nationalists Weaponize Motherhood (Web)

Inside a US Neo-Nazi Homeschool Network With Thousands of Members (Web)

The Real Housewives of Q-Anon: How Conspiracy Theorists Co-Opted #SavetheChildren to Lure Suburban Moms Into Q's Labyrinth (Web)

American Fascism And The Groomer Panic (Video)

Sisters in Hate: American Women on the Front Lines of White Nationalism (Books)

A Soft Face For Saying Extreme Things: The Dangerous Elements In the TradWife Subculture (Web)

Frilly Dresses and White Supremacy: Welcome to the Weird, Frightening World of ‘Trad Wives’ (Web)

The Agoraphobic Fantasy of Tradlife (Web)

My So-Called #TradWife Life: ELLE asked me to live like a “stay-at-home girlfriend” for a week. It didn’t go well (Web)

#TradWife Life as Self-Annihilation (Web)

Tradwives and the White Supremacists Who Love Them (Video)

'Oppressed' by Choice: Tradwives Against Feminism (Video)

Jesus and John Wayne and Mel Gibson’s William Wallace from the Movie Braveheart: An interview with Kristin Kobes Du Mez (Web)

Cottagecore, Colonialism, and the Far-Right: On the Darker Side of Our Obsession with Picnics and Cottages (Web)

↞⬩↠ Historical Homemaker Resources ↞⬩↠

Women's Work Men's Property: The Origins of Gender and Class (1986)

Culture and Society from 1780 to 1950; 2nd Edition (1983)

Having it All in the Belle Époque: How French Women's Magazines Invented the Modern Woman (2013)

Women and the Popular Imagination in the Twenties: Flappers and Nymphs (1988)

A Strange Stirring: The Feminine Mystique and American Women at the Dawn of the 1960s (2012)

Women of the 1960s: More Than Mini Skirts, Pills and Pop Music (2016)

Among the Bohemians: Experiments in Living from 1900 to 1939 (2002)

Singled Out: How Two Million British Women Survived Without Men After the First World War (2007)

Making Marriage Modern: Women's Sexuality from the Progressive Era to World War II (2009)

Marriage, A History: From Obedience to Intimacy; or, How Love Conquered Marriage (2005)

The Way We Never Were: American Families and the Nostalgia Trap; Revised and Updated Edition (2016)

The Way We Really Are: Coming To Terms With America's Changing Families (1998)

Not-So-Nuclear Families: Class, Gender, and Networks of Care (2004)

American Families: A Multicultural Reader (2008)

Homeward Bound: American Families in the Cold War Era; 20th Revised and Updated Edition (2008)

A 1950s Housewife: Marriage and Homemaking in the 1950s (2011)

A 1950s Mother: Bringing up Baby in the 1950 (2013)

The Cute and the Cool: Wondrous Innocence and Modern American Children's Culture (2004)

The Social Origins of the Private Life: A History of American Families from 1600 to 1900 (1988)

The Secret History of Domesticity: Public, Private, and the Division of Knowledge (2005)

The Grand Domestic Revolution: A History of Feminist Designs For American Homes, Neighborhoods, and Cities; 3rd Edition (1982)

The Domestic Revolution: How the Introduction of Coal into Victorian Homes Changed Everything (2020)

The Making of Home: The 500 Year Story of How Our Houses Became Our Homes (2014)

The 1950's American Home (2013)

Perfect Wives in Ideal Homes: The Story Of Women In The 1950s (2015)

The 1950's and 1960's and the American Woman: The Transition from the Housewife to the Feminist (2012)

The Parlour and the Suburb: Domestic Identities, Class, Femininity, and Modernity (2004)

Building a Housewife's Paradise: Gender Politics and American Grocery Stores in the 20th Century (2010)

Accommodating 'Mrs. Three-in-One': Homemaking, Home Entertaining, and Domestic Advice Literature in Post-War Britain (2007)

Three Squares: The Invention of the American Meal (2013)

A Square Meal: A Culinary History of the Great Depression (2016)

How the Other Half Ate: A History of Working-Class Meals at the Turn of the Century (2014)

Perfection Salad: Women and Cooking at the Turn of the Century (1986)

Something From the Oven: Reinventing Dinner in 1950's America (2004)

Through the Kitchen Window: Women Writers Explore the Intimate Meanings of Food and Cooking (2005)

For Home and Country: World War I Propaganda on the Home Front (2010)

How We Lived Then: A History of Everyday Life During the Second World War (1971)

Millions Like Us: Women's Lives in the Second World War (2011)

Victory Girls, Khaki-Wackies, and Patriotutes: The Regulation of Female Sexuality during World War II (2010)

Good Girls, Good Food, Good Fun: The Story of US Hostesses During World War II (2015)

Making War Making Women: Femininity and Duty on the American Home Front from 1941 to 1945 (2011)

#Personal #2023 #Tradwife #Tradfem #Traditionalism #TradWives / TradFems Get Fucked #Some Tunes Shouldn't Be Whistled #Homemaker #Homemaking #Housewife #Hearthkeeper #NonTrad Homemaker #NonTrad Housewife #NonTrad Homemaking #Pagan Homemaker #Pagan Housewife #Pagan Homemaking #Jewish Homemaker #Jewish Homemaking #Jewish Housewife #Queer Homemaker #Queer Homemaking #Queer Housewife #Disabled Homemaker #Disabled Housewife #Disabled Homemaking #Folk Life #Slow Life #Homesteading

[myhappyhomeoflove]

Creamy bacon potato soup with a sirloin roast.

I caramelized onions with chicken broth, using them with the beef and the base of my soup. Used my homemade bone broth in my potato soup. Took about almost 7 hours because I’m still healing but my goodness was it worth it. Fibromyalgia is kicking my butt with this healing process and the dizzies are not fun. But I feel very accomplished today.

I know wisdom teeth removal is a major surgery, but I’m getting a tad jealous that everyone else can leave home without being worried about fainting, but my crippled butt can’t. It’s been almost a week now and I know it’ll take at least another week before I start feeling kinda normal again. At least I have soup for days.

#disabled homemaker #homemade #soup soup soup #good soup #potato soup #baconbaconbacon #beef roast #my cooking #my recipes #fibromyalgia #tradfem #tradwife #home cooking

[chronicbitchsyndrome]

sometimes, when someone is criticizing the stay-at-home-wife movement being sold to young women by conservatives, it loses focus on the "selling you a repressive and authoritarian worldview" point and slides into... well... implicitly leaving disabled people to die.

and what i mean by that is, it's all well and good to say you should do everything in your power to make sure you're not financially dependent on another person... but what if "everything in your power" is "nothing?"

what if how society is structured means you have absolutely no choice but to be financially dependent on another person? what if it's that, or simply die? this is the choice disabled people are faced with. not even uncommonly... frequently. people who need full-time carers, or who have very expensive medication and assistive tech needs, or people who simply can't work in the current job structure, often have the choice of... well... find someone to be financially dependent on, or face a slow, painful death, usually without housing. even if you're lucky enough to get on a fixed income, it's never enough to even make monthly rent, and that's not counting the extra costs of food, toiletries, medicine...

in fact, a lot of disabled people (certainly notably women, but absolutely not limited to, and in fact i see this happen to trans men over and over again, and i've lost a dear transmasc friend because of this) are funneled into being stay-at-home parents and homemakers, forced to do all of the domestic labor and childcare in exchange for a roof over their head and access to their medications/assistive tech, and isolated in all the same ways tradwives are isolated. in fact, this even happens with leftist partners/parents. all the time, i see disabled people disappear from public life entirely, lose contact with all their friends, and consign themselves to a life of cleaning up after someone while struggling to handle their own health needs, even having their disabilities exacerbated and their lifespans shortened by the amount of domestic labor they're required to do.

but it isn't a choice... it can't be fixed by focusing on academia or work... and it's not due to buying into conservative propaganda. all i ask is, please remember this, and please never leave us out of these discussions.

#dyspunktional #cripplepunk #cripple punk #actually disabled #actuallyautistic