#filial piety

[tmarshconnors]

"Be loyal and trustworthy. Do not befriend anyone who is lower than yourself in this regard. When making a mistake, do not be afraid to correct it."

Confucius, born Kong Qiu was a Chinese philosopher of the Spring and Autumn period who is traditionally considered the paragon of Chinese sages. Confucius's teachings and philosophy underpin East Asian culture and society, and remain influential across China and East Asia to this day.

Born: Qufu, Jining, China

Died: Lu, China

Life and Times: Confucius, also known as Kong Fuzi or Master Kong, lived during the Spring and Autumn period of Chinese history, around 551–479 BCE. He was born in the state of Lu (modern-day Shandong, China) during a time of political and social unrest.

Founder of Confucianism: Confucius is considered the founding figure of Confucianism, a philosophical and ethical system that emphasizes the importance of moral values, social harmony, and the cultivation of virtue. His teachings are primarily compiled in a collection known as the "Analects."

Five Relationships: Confucius emphasized the importance of social harmony through the concept of the Five Relationships, which include ruler-subject, father-son, husband-wife, elder brother-younger brother, and friend-friend. Maintaining proper conduct within these relationships was seen as essential for a harmonious society.

Ren and Li: Two key concepts in Confucianism are "Ren" and "Li." Ren refers to benevolence or compassion, emphasizing the quality of humaneness and the importance of cultivating virtuous relationships. Li encompasses rituals and proper conduct, emphasizing the importance of social etiquette and moral propriety.

Legacy and Influence: Confucius' teachings have had a profound and lasting impact on Chinese culture, ethics, and philosophy. Confucianism became a central part of Chinese thought and greatly influenced the moral and social fabric of East Asian societies. Even today, Confucian principles continue to shape aspects of Chinese culture and governance.

#Confucianism #Analects #Chinese philosophy #Confucian ethics #Sage #Filial piety #Five Relationships #Ren (benevolence) #Li (ritual) #Xiao (filial piety) #Confucius sayings #Classical Chinese thought #Moral philosophy #Virtue #Social harmony #Education in Confucianism #Confucian values #Eastern philosophy #Chinese culture #Master Kong (Kong Fuzi) #quoteoftheday #today on tumblr

[blorbingqls]

Thai BLs and challenging Filial Piety

I don’t know if people have noticed but it is becoming very common in BLs these days to see flawed portraits of adults and kids challenging their respect towards the said adult in order for them to acknowledge what they are doing is wrong and act towards it. Here is a list of where i saw such instances. 

(you may reblog and add your own instances in other QLs as well)

1. Bad Buddy

The whole storyline is based on families hating each other and passing on this hate to their kids. But when the shit hits the fan, we get this scene:

and this:

They are angry at what their parent did and understand the hate they have but that does not stop them from being in a relationship with each other. And I admire that. Usually, because of rivalries, BLs notice many breakups. But, I’m glad they challenged that notion. 

2. KinnPorsche The Series

The plot deals with flawed parents/adults: Gun, Arthee, Korn and (possibly later) Nampheung. It talks about abuse (physical, mental and emotional) in its very truthful way. 

After dealing with so many fuckups with Arthee and seeing his Hia in danger, Porchay says this:

Porchay does not include Arthee in their future and tries to reassure Porsche on whatever that he has done, he has done his best. The scene is just *chef’s kiss*

We all know that Korn is a massive manipulator. In ep 7, he shares an anecdote of the knife getting rusted and wanting him to leave that pursuit against Porsche: 

and then our beloved Kinn gives his lucky gun:

This to me shows that he challenged his father against that notion. Admirable. 

We all know that Gun has been physically and mentally abusive to Vegas. For the first time ever, Vegas says this in response to his abuse:

In a small way, he did respond back. (However, that hurt him even more later but anyways lets not talk about that please.)

3. 180 Degree Longitude Passes Through Us

THISSS!!!! This whole show is based on adults not being able to accept the past and the young generation asking correct answers for it. Damn. I ADORE THIS SHOW SO MUCH I WILL CRY!!!!

The whole show is just dealing with a lot of points we come across most BLs in the most HARD HITTING kind of way. My favourite scene is from ep 7. You will understand why. 

and the message in the last episode. Linking @xnoel‘s post because it is necessary. 

https://www.tumblr.com/xnoel/697028308899102720/the-message-at-the-end-of-the-180-degree-longitude?source=share

 4. The Eclipse

This whole show challenges the school’s rules and regulations and devels into pressure built on students and teachers to maintain dictated and outdated rules of the school. 

We have this: 

and this:

and this:

https://www.tumblr.com/liyazaki/698300294605537280/chadok-being-an-actual-criminal-vs?source=share (Akk being asked to take care of the situation as he is the school prefect by Chadok and Aye responding that you’re putting so much pressure on Akk)

and this:

I just LOVED this so much. 

This is where i saw this and I feel it is a lovely change because we are also holding our elders responsible. Media representation gives courage to do that stuff in real life as well. 

Thanking @liyazaki @joontay @ncppanut and @xnoel​ for their GIFs and posts. 

#kinnporsche the series #filial piety #thai bls #asianlgbtqdramas #the eclipse #180 degree longitude passes through us #bad buddy #I loved these shows so much #DAMN THIS TOOK ME 3 HOURS TO CURATE

[seasideretreat]

The circle of life

Some of us will say that life is a curse: that time is an illusion, that we must free ourselves from, and that we must move casuistically into the netherworld of being and nothingness, to see the true essence of the Here and Now, or the emptiness of existence (a kind of reciprocity). But this is - verily - the purest sound of being automatic and senseless.

The hoary old sages of the eternal time are venerable entities of systematic thought, that fool around in the majestic nature of exalted, edified nutrition and togetherness, that has no bearing on the cantankerous vicinity of ferocious cunning that provides only temporal releases from the buildings of architectural simplicity that goes nowhere; so, in fact, the building-blocks of artificial synonymity are drawn back to the furrows of therapeutic attenuation that sees no brilliance in the kept majorities of democratic synonymity, which is now the hope of the governmental statesmanships that point indiscriminately towards the variety of deconstructive analyses that make the man who builds his house on the rock in fact realize his manifold attenuations to the happy virility of dependant captainships in the structure of play and verisimilitude. Wisely, then, our initial thought of "love" then is reduced through a magical act to the chemistry of solidary acquirements in the purpose of magisterial seigneuriality against the hopefulness of detrimental causes and virile acquirements against the visibility of visual examinations that corrupt the status quo. In this totality, buildings of rarified enunciation are opportuned to the viscerality of tentamount normalcy that gives us a brink of seriousness in the bellicose nonsense of synonymic arrests that we have found in the brilliance of correct usage of terms in the examinatoric revelations that send us, impossibly, to the borderline of acquaintance and research.

Kierkegaard described Hegel as having built a vast mansion of thought, but occupying just a tiny kitchenette in the back himself. Arguably, then, the filial piety of these vehement Buddhists that have conveyed a post-colonial revolution to the builders of the new world will certainly not encounter structural tendencies in the brilliance of visual tendentiality in the wilderness of kinetic feeling and amorous divisions in the grave tendrils of the cosmic unity. Therefore, I will say that the family is certainly a complete home in the constructive sense, but only a factory or workshop in the operative sense. So normal accounts of the future are in fact symbolic; and the geography of terrorism is frankly countered in the schizo-religious amateurism of the present moment, which is just a military, Anglo-Saxon Protestant work ethique, that forever sends us spiraling towards criticism, practicals and contrasts. In summary, life is a fight, but gentility is possible, and moreover, a pastime.

#deconstruction #confucius #yi jing #filial piety #kierkegaard #hegel #buddhism #postcolonialism #homi bhabha #wasp #derrida #deleuze

[sokkastyles]

Do you think zuko is a horrible brother to Azula? given ahem….certain….blogs seem to spout this

I find it incredibly telling that these certain blogs will spout this nonsense while never, ever, suggesting that maybe Azula could have been a better sibling to Zuko, and will go on about how you can't blame Azula for how she treated Zuko because she was abused, and about how, actually, she really loves him, honest, and try to twist every situation in which Azula hurt Zuko into an act of kindness which Zuko is just so ungrateful for, but won't extend the same sympathy to Zuko even though Zuko has far more sympathy for Azula than she ever deserved, and what she deserves from him is absolutely nothing since she tormented him for their entire lives and felt entirely justified in doing so.

Zuko was raised with the mindset that he was less than his sister and deserved to be mistreated, and was abused by his father who also encouraged his sister to abuse him. How is he supposed to be a "good brother" to her in that situation? He wasn't expected to be a good brother, he was expected to be a scapegoat. Criticizing him for not being a "good brother" when he was expected to be a punching bag is victim blaming garbage.

Even then, Ursa did try to encourage the children to have a good relationship and we see Zuko try to be a good brother, like that moment when he expects Iroh to say that he should try to get along with her because she's his sister, which I think probably came from Ursa but also comes from the idea that he blames himself for his bad relationship with her, because he's internalized the idea that he is the problem, because that's what he's been taught to believe. (It's also worth noting that Zuko thought Iroh would say this because it fits with what we know of Iroh as a person, which also means that, contrary to the beliefs of these certain blogs, Iroh did not have this weird vendetta against Azula even though she clearly hated him.)

The fact that Zuko blames himself for his family not getting along is also why, as angry and fearful of Azula as we see him be in the series, he still ends up believing her and seeking her out for advice, even while resenting her. I've argued before that he's emotionally dependent upon her in a way that a lot of abused kids end up being, because he was conditioned to believe that she was better and stronger than him.

Azula is also emotionally dependent upon Zuko, but in the opposite way. Because she was taught that she had to be better than him, she depends upon Zuko being brought low to lift herself up. I think this also creates a curious contradiction in Azula where she both expects Zuko to be the weaker and lesser sibling and also resents him for it, because her big brother is supposed to be stronger than her, but Zuko is not supposed to be those things.

Zuko was never allowed to be a good big brother to Azula, but we do see him want to be. We see in the comics him saying that she's still his sister and he wants to help her, we see him envious of the bond Sokka and Katara have, we see him internalize what the Earth Kingdom scholar says about family reflecting on rulership and blaming himself for institutionalizing her (even though she tried to kill him), and we see him as a young child ask his mother why she has to be so mean.

We also see Zuko as a child in "Zuko Alone" try to appeal to Azula's empathy when she says Iroh should die so that their father can take the throne. We see him be dragged along with her to spy on Azulon and Ozai even though he's clearly scared. He also told his mother he didn't want to play with her on another occasion, but that's a pretty reasonable thing since hanging out with Azula often ends in him getting scared or hurt, and this was something that was sanctioned by their own father. Even so, he's a far better sibling to her than she ever is to him, even considering both that he was never allowed to really be a good brother and that he's entirely in the right for hating her and would be in the right to want nothing to do with her.

I once saw a post claiming that the lack of filial piety in the Fire Nation royal family was culturally inaccurate, specifically mentioning Azula's lack of piety towards her older brother, and the thing is, what that post was missing is that this is not a cultural inaccuracy, but a sign of the abusive dynamic that was going on in that family. The breakdown of social norms is one of the signs of the FN family's dysfunction. Ozai resented his own father and older brother and thus put his younger child on a pedestal and put down his oldest son. Zuko acts younger and more subservient than Azula because that's how he's treated. He resents this role because it's abusive and cruel, and he has every right to.

Which is not to say that the concept of filial piety itself is above criticism. It's inherently misogynistic, for one, and also can create a situation where parents can get away with abusing their children. Ozai himself, while disregarding filial piety towards his father and older brother, absolutely expects his own children to show him filial piety to abusive levels.

I also think the concept of filial piety informs Ozai and Azula's abuse of Zuko. Because Zuko is not the big brother that commands respect, and can't be, that's used as a justification for his abuse. It's a chicken and egg cycle. Zuko is encouraged to believe he's not good enough, and then is punished for fulfilling that role, and punished for trying to step outside it.

Zuko fighting back when Azula is literally trying to kill him is also used to paint him as not a "good big brother" and that's just plain old victim blaming.

To sum, Zuko is a better brother to Azula than she ever was a good sister to him and even if he wasn't, he doesn't owe her that at all, and even when he tries to be, because he's a good person and won't abandon his sister when she needs help, she takes the opportunity to verbally berate him, physically attack him, and put everyone around him in danger, and Zuko has no obligation to put himself through that for someone who would never do half of it for him. Which we know because when Zuko was in need, Azula took the opportunity to use his fear to manipulate him and forced him to maintain a lie she told that put him in danger.

#azula #zuko #ozai #abuse cw #filial piety

[waitmyturtles]

From The Ethicist column in the New York Times:

I’ve been VERY DEEP in my feelings lately on family issues vis à vis the dramas I’ve been watching -- Moonlight Chicken, Bed Friend (omg almost too intense), 10 Years Ticket (the residual childhood trauma is shaking me), catching up with Bad Buddy, even The Novelist: Playback had intense family scenes in it -- and it was very refreshing to read this Q&A. Episode 5 of Moonlight Chicken looks like it has a LOT going on family-wise as I read the early analysis, and I gotta brace myself. My headspace has been all mush lately.

#head mush #family issues #intergenerational trauma #filial piety #the dramas are all SO GOOD but they're putting me OUT man #i need something crazy #like another dirty laundry

[puppyl0ve]

#filial piety #mis

[priest-iuput]

Proud of my mother

#filial piety #iuput

[eggwhiteswithspinach]

Imagine living with the damage of losing relationships as a result of someone imposing their cultural beliefs on you, and have that be written off as adequate healthcare.

#FilialPiety #racism

#filial piety #racism #mental health #codependency

[douyinvids]

by 勇敢哥特 @ Z777700000

《Growing Up》 #thisisasadstory #salvationlieswithin #filial

#douyin #tiktok #funny #filial #filial piety #irl #misc #skit #勇敢哥特 #Z777700000 #salvation lies within #this is a sad story

[vulnerasti-cor-meum]

very telling how one of my mother’s main bases for praising me is my “obedience” and “listening to [her]”

#codependent relationship #filial piety #codependent parents #codependency #I hate my family so much

[tmarshconnors]

"If you hate a person, then you're defeated by them."

Confucius was a Chinese philosopher and politician of the Spring and Autumn period who is traditionally considered the paragon of Chinese sages. Confucius's teachings and philosophy underpin East Asian culture and society, remaining influential across China and East Asia to this day.

#Hate #Defeat #Emotions #Anger #Resentment #Power #Control #Personal growth #Healing #Resolution #quoteoftheday #today on tumblr #Confucius #Philosophy #Ethics #Morality #Virtue #Filial piety #Analects #Chinese culture #Education #Social harmony #Relationships #Wisdom #Learning #Self-cultivation #Confucianism

[ramyeonpng]

There’s the all-or-nothing view of what it means to be BIPOC, with even positive-meaning phrases like "you’re so good at English" holding an insidious deeper ignorance of ignoring that BIPOC are all the same in this on-switch, off-switch manner. This view ignores that within diversity there are different opinions, different relationships with our culture and history.

#FilialPiety #racism / #FilialPiety #racism

#filial piety #racism #mental health #codependency #asian mental health

[ghosthousemate]

There is a limit to the disrespect one should accept from their family. Filial piety is a two way street. If your family does not honour you, do not honour them. Having said that, long term disrespect in a family is best treated with indifference, for anger is a vulnerable emotion and the hurt feelings behind it will not be vindicated.

#rambles #ramblings #youd think id be used to it by now #still hurts like an open wound every time #filial piety #family #eldest daughter syndrome

[tabernacleheart]

To love Jesus means to keep His commandments. [Such keeping] is not a matter of mere obedience but of loving imitation. [Try as one might, it is impossible to honestly obey anyone unless one also loves them; neither pride nor indifference can even feign the virtues of humility and dedication required to observe another's commands. On the other hand,] if I love a person, I want to keep that person’s commandments, both out of loyalty and out of respect for that person’s qualities: [for as one who loves will easily discern,] the commandments [given] will reveal and mirror that person’s qualities. So, the Law given by Moses reveals God’s nature by what He commands. Just so, the actions of Jesus reveal His and the Father’s nature: He heals, He loves, He judges, He forgives, He commands. To obey the commands [given by our loving God] is a response in love, [not legalism. To keep them, like a gift, is the natural and necessary consequence of our personal relationship to Him]: we need to do just that.

Dom Henry Wansbrough; Commentary on John 14:15

#i never thought about it like this before #this is a game changer #obedience #love #filial piety #strive to imitate christ #love is the fulfillment of the law #love is the greatest commandment #jesus christ #biblical commentary #reflect on this #dom henry wansbrough #this is absolutely vital #the ten commandments #Moses #the nature of god #this is deeply moving #knowledge of god #this is a vital distinction #john 14 #god is love #i could think about this for days #john 14:15 #if you love me keep my commandments #our religion is a relationship #this is why i love being catholic #remember this #service #do everything for the glory of god #i love this so much

[1luvb00ks]

filial piety

Your parents sacrifice everything for you, always thank them for bringing you and making you become the person you are.

#filial piety #pictures #sacrifice

[closethikikomoriblog]

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Our parents are humans, just like us

I remember fondly the first time my mom shared stories of her early life with me—the topic came out of nowhere, and I was excited, intently listening and seeing her in a new light.  Mom’s eyes gleamed with childish glee, and at that moment, I saw a woman whose identity had nothing to do with me. 

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#Amy Tan #Daughters #Family #Filial Piety #Love #Mothers #Reflections #books #books and reading #book blog