#fully speaking from experience with this

[michaeljoncarter]

and i do think Brothers in Blood is one of the most important comic book stories ever written btw. think about how many people have gotten into comics specifically for jason after the utrh movie or seeing the fandom zeitgeist or whatever. if they're unfamiliar with comics and have utrh as their first experience, they still might not exactly understand what they're in for. they might think this is, like, a normal form of storytelling that makes sense and maintains literally anything even slightly resembling cohesion or a consistent tone or like. sanity

and then the very next story they click on is him having made his own hand-sewn dick cosplay specifically to murder people in & make the public believe nightwing's gone insane for literally no reason. and then instead of that being the main conflict in the story, it pivots to being about these random dudes who turn into flesh monsters. one of them eats jason and then throws him back up in a big egg & keeps him as decor in their apartment for a while where he hallucinates about dick calling him a little bitch until he manages to get free except he's been turned into a shapeshifting cannibalistic tentacle monster and swallows a guy whole (twice) but the guy can split atoms and causes a nuclear explosion in his stomach that levels an entire city block, but you know jason survived because he somehow manages to get a message through to dick's random girlfriend via 19th century telegraph

a concentrated shot of comic book fuckery straight to the heart. that shit was like some sorta boot camp to get you ready to deal all the different types of comic-specific crazy. it had every weirdass trope specific to the medium happening at the exact same time, and they did that for US. to make us stronger. as a people

#this is barely a joke btw i think about this every day of my life #fully speaking from experience with this #it was only like the second comic i'd ever read and i thought i was having a fucking stroke #10/10 5 stars would recommend

[gay-artificer]

I've seen people be like downpour ruined how people see five pebbles and im gonna be honest if you were here for any number of years pre-downpour the fandom was always god-awful with the nuance in his character. thats not a downpour thing thats a fandom thing

#niche comparison but if any of you know angela from lobotomy corporation/library of ruina #in the years prior to LOR angela was probably one of the most demonized characters ive ever seen in my goddamn LIFE #NO ONE was going to bat for this girl as anything other than a absolute villain and bitch #i was and im sure some others were too but the vast vast majority fucking hated her #because she spends most of the game being mean to you and then betrays you at the end #and you had to read between the lines to get to “wait a minute whats happening to her is kinda immensely fucked up” #and this is someone betraying you at the end of a very /very/ hard game to 100% and beat proper #then LOR came out and fully explored the depths of her trauma and anger at the situation she was put into #how desperate she was too take something for herself and how little she cared about how the effected others because she was not given that #and suddenly it clicked for everyone! #suddenly she wasnt a heartless bitch anymore! but of course now you had the #'literal infant' crowd because it also explored some ideas of parental trauma/lack of experience with the world #but god it was way more refreshing to see people actually move on from 'theyre an evil bitch' even if it came with 'so shes like a kid?' #and i feel that way about pebbles tbh #i dont get super super into the iterator lore so i cant speak much for the quality across downpour #and its higher focus on them and their stuff #im sure it carries plenty of issues as many things will #but god people sucking at reading the room on the iterators is not new lmao #actually five pebbles and angela are shockingly similar.... #huh?

[voids-cave]

"Shipping characters who've explicitly said they don't wan't a partner is aphobic"

"Well- I'm asexual and I ship-"

SHUT THE FUCK UP!!!!! SHUT UP!!!!!!

YOU'RE ASEXUAL, YOU MORRON, NOT AROMANTIC THEREFORE YOU DON'T SPEAK FOR US.

YOU DON'T HAVE OUR EXPERIENCES, SHUT THE FUCK UP!

#when the FUCK are asexuals going to get that them being in the fucking aspec doesn't mean you get to fucking speak on the side of the #spectrum THEY ARE FUCKING NOT. #like jesus fucking christ. #look dude im an aromantic ship enthusiast so i don't necessarily fully agree with the statement made #but i DO get where it's coming from. and it always is Endlessly annoying to see fucking ace ppl saying #im ace and im okay with you shipping this character who said romance disgust them :D #that isn't your experience. Shut The Fuck Up. YOU are not allowed to give anyone permission. #oh but you wanna know what IS real fucking aphobia? whatever the FUCK the hazbin fandom has going on w alastor #he's Canonically fucking Aroace #i don't like hazbin so i don't know the character but like cmon. you cannot fucking convince me that this dude would be Love-dovey #from what I've seen from him.

[prisonpodcast]

some ccs are just straight up nuts there’s no other explanation

#saw a comment on r/dwt2 and it made me look into the moonzy/draggie situation #this freak accused him of having ‘grooming tendencies’ when he was YOUNGER than her #he showed all their DMs and it was just reciprocated flirting ?? #he was initiated more but it seemed reciprocal to me? #she just got mad at him bc he replied to one of her tweets where she was flirting with Karl with ‘ouch’ #<- replied in DMs I mean #I guess bc she thought the flirting was a joke ?? #how is this an ‘experience’ you need to speak up about im loosing my mind #‘guy flirted with me I flirted back but I wasn’t really interested pls show ur sympathies and like and subscribe🥺’ #and in her statement she was talking about an anon who came out about their experiences prior #saying they had been groomed but draggie had fully debunked that years ago #so idk why she was bringing that up ?? #and ofc you have aim.sey and max and sniff in the replies with their heart emojis #straight up nuts I’m losing brain cells here #btw she’s the one who said something about how a lot of ccs didn’t support her #including big ones from that ‘stupid mine.craft server’ (meaning dsmp obv) #just nuts straight up nuts #negativity #like I have to be missing something (and if I am pls tell me but I don’t think I am???) #because saying this cringe flirting with someone YOUNGER THAN YOUUU is ‘groomer tendencies’ is fucking nuts #it’s just what is with these people like what’s wrong with them #why does mildly uncomfortable experience = horrible predator we need to inform the public about bc they’re a danger to society #sorry I’m done I’m just actually upset lol

[moe-broey]

*pulls out a crumpled up piece of paper*

My transfemme Fire Emblem Headcanons. Include:

> Rosado, transfemme non-binary, most likely to use neopronouns or multiple sets of pronouns (fae/faer, she/he, never let 'em know your next move)

> Forrest, has been on estrogen for years but still says "I'm a prince" if asked and insists on using he/him pronouns (may be closeted, may be in denial, may do so out of a sense of obligation, may be a case of pronouns being "indicative of but not exclusive to gender identity", may also just have an exceedingly complicated relationship with the gender)

> Loki, a shapeshifter, chooses to look Like That (and she's so based for it)

> Gullveig. Just. Everything Seidr/Heidr/Kvasir and Gullveig have going on. Is so transgender. To me

And on vibes alone

> Triandra

#fire emblem #i just think. more transfemme hcs in the world. peace and love 👍 #i'm transmasc so you can take these w a grain of salt lmfao #also. very much. just the selection of charas i'm in deepest for esp feh oc wise. #i don't have a lot of fleshed out thoughts on trans triandra aside from it's just normal actually. sometimes people are just trans. #and also. like. a lot of trans people do not/did not have easy home lives. like it just makes sense to me #which is like i don't want the trans experience to be defined by suffering but also i think that's why you should have MANY dif trans hcs #like i think rosado perfectly captures trans joy and being dedicated to advocacy and social justice #meanwhile i think. forrest is in the trenches. i'm so sorry. #also the transformation of seidr into gullveig fucks w me SO HARD. i am so insane i know #but it really does feel like a trans allegory. being outed before you were ready. before you even fully knew what it meant for yourself. #and having it fuck your entire life. like she is so transgender to me #also i think any shape shifter is trans by default. ESP if they have a 'main form' they typically present as. #loki is a titted up as wide as she is tall scantly clad goth woman. on purpose. #this is. how i feel. speaking my truth. ect ect #rosado #fe forrest #fe loki #gullveig #triandra

[ms-all-sunday]

i say this with so much heart, one piece has more respect for mentally ill people being a dick because of trauma than i would have in that exact situation. like sanji in wci when hes fully being a massive huge wet pathetic asshole that. like. completely justified that nami reacts so negatively to that while the narrative has a lot of empathy for him because i would kill someone in real life if they did that to me. even if it was a beautiful blond haired man and i had been playing heterosexual chicken with him ever since we first met. the self control on nami there is literally neverending.

like its good that this is the case, well written narratives about mental illness should be this empathetic while fully understanding the consequences of someones actions LIKE wci. these two things are so often treated like theyre mutually exclusive but for op they're not. and i love that. but jesus. she really loves him huh.

#modposts #i point out nami here because i really relate to her perspective in wci #luffy i could comment on luffy but i cant like fully comprehend where hes coming from #because its so like deeply empathetic and i can only speak to the fact #he has a lot of experience in situations like these and generally has great emotional intelligence in the sense he doesnt waste it on peopl #who dont deserve it and i think thats admirable #generally he goes about life in a way in which other people sort out whether theyre assholes for him #he loves sanji a lot too obviously. #black leg sanji #cat burglar nami #op #one piece meta #wci #whole cake island #they both love him in different ways where luffys is kind of unconditional and namis is conditional and that makes it special #and i relate to the love being conditional but choosing to love someone whos fucked up anyways

[corfisers]

you see, talking about transgender reading of yashiro inevitably leads to talking about his bisexulity, which is another thing that you could kind of hand wave and people generally prefer not to aknowledge

#as a bisexual with a heavy preference whose sexuality fully clicked only after getting the gender question out of the way #i'm willing to die on this hill because it all makes a lot of sense to me and i can speak from experience #but again. you can hand wave it with “it's yashiro's internalized homophobia” i guess. which i'm personally not a huge fan of but eh #it's the same conversation about gender where you could pick and choose the explanation you prefer and neither goes against canon really #i'm just going for the less fandom friendly ones lmao #saezuru tag #trans yashiro folder

[baldurs-gate-official]

All that trauma and bullshit and he still has the capacity to trust and have a healing journey?? To love? I think a lot of people don't fully grasp just how difficult that is

#bg3 #astarion #seriously #speaking from experience trust is HARD #I have friends. Plenty. Do I trust them? to a point. I trust them in the sense that I love them and trust them to be friends #I trust them to be there for me - to a point. I trust that they're trying (maybe I just don't trust myself to be worth it??) #But I don't trust them not to hurt me eventually. I'm always preparing myself for that #and I don't trust them to keep me safe. Even when they're bigger or stronger than I am #I'm always prepared to get in front of them if something happens. even if I know I'll get hurt from it. #feeling that way is tiring. but its so hard to turn off #I don't think I've even fully felt safe with/trusted anyone I've been with romantically. Not for lack of trying #tbh I don't think anyone can make me feel safe #or maybe I just don't give people the chance to. I probably don't #in my defense tho someone I loved deeply tried to murder me several times SO I think it's pretty damn understandable to feel this way #anyway my point is its really nice seeing Astarion able to achieve these things #trust. healing. a happy ending. love #all those things feel insurmountable in the face of trauma #i need to stop rambling like this #q

[doodlesonly]

Thinking about a new blorbo to dump my religious trauma on. More at 5

#haven’t figured out a name for him yet #but he’s trans #he used to be a priestess but when he was fully initiated he realized #hey #this actually sucks and my entire life is a lie #not that I’m speaking from any real life experience or anything

[uncanny-tranny]

I think people assume gender dysphoria is an "online thing" because a lot of trans people who experience gender dysphoria vent about it or make jokes about it online. I certainly have done this personally, and you know why I did so? It's because I knew nobody else who felt the way I did, so I didn't ever express my dysphoria. And you know what? I've seen a lot of trans people say that they, too, analyze their gender and dysphoria and meme about it because they don't have the resources they need to be open fully.

So this is why it's weird when transphobes say that you can detransition people by taking away their access to the internet. All that will do is take away an outlet where a trans person feels safe enough to be open - it isn't going to take away their identity and it certainly doesn't cure dysphoria.

#trans #transgender #lgbt #lgbtq #ftm #mtf #nonbinary #transphobia #transphobia tw #dysphoria tw #when i was a kid i only had access to flash games for my internet and guess what? i still was dysphoric... #...because i simply had gender dysphoria. #now when i got older amd used the internet in more ways i DID vent and discuss about dysphoria... #...and all that did was give me an environment where people GOT me... #....my dad even explicitly said he didn't 'get' my dysphoria and that made me not want to talk about it... #...why would i want to talk to anybody about something this personal if they can't even COMPREHEND it? #i also had plenty of mental health professionals say basically what my dad did and that TANKED my trust in them lol #if i had my spaces irl and online taken away where i could be myself fully then my depression would be worse absolutely #and it will likely be that the trans person would bottle up their feelings until they cannot anymore (speaking from experience) #this post is inspired after seeing one of the worst 'takes' about dysphoria i have ever ever EVER seen #(though i have seen it repeatedly it doesn't make the 'argument' any more convincing)

[b0ngwaterwizard]

huntlow antis when traumatized people are capable of having healthy romantic relationships despite their past

#i’m sorry no hate but it annoys me so bad when ppl say hunter isn’t ready for a romantic relationship #like first of all healing happens in community not isolation so jot that down #secondly he’s a teenage boy and is going to have crushes and date???? #thirdly you never fully heal from abuse (speaking from experience) so is he just supposed to be single forever??? #idk i’m not a discourse person but i’m sick of seeing this take

[astranauticus]

the hilarious thing about the orv experience for me so far (ep 41) is i already know that if i get far enough into this story its gonna completely take over my brain but the fact that its a webtoon im reading on my phone (not a big fan of the way it gets formatted on my laptop) means im also making my way through it very slowly so like im basically just delaying the inevitable LMAO

#asto speaks #idk sometimes i get these PremonitionsTM about a story thats just gonna Get Me #like how before i watched bnha i was fully 100% convinced todoroki was gonna be my favourite character #im just missing like one more Thing from orv before i get the full brainworm experience #like some traumatic backstory or another probably KJDFHKSDJFH #but yeah this story's got everything i just havent fully experienced all of it yet #sad wahoo #also!! now i understand why the venn diagram overlap between lc and orv fans is so high (in my experience) #like just anecdotally the last convention i went to every artist booth that was selling lc merch was also selling orv merch??? #yeah. yknow what. i see why now #and soon i will join that group! fun #orv liveblog

[mantisgodsdomain]

Also have realized that we may have worded things oddly to exaggerate the amount of the Wasp Kingdom that is actually in active conflict but in our defence the power structures we currently have there have it so that whenever there aren't things to fight something like 40-80% of the Wasp Kingdom military gets re-allocated to Basically Whatever The Wasp Kingdom Needs At That Moment since they're, like, the Designated Supply Of Able-Bodied Wasps That The Queen Uses To Do Shit.

Marble is also banned from the non-combat parts of that setup, btw. Their particular tendency towards volatile-yet-effective is not something that ANYONE wants designing things that will be used in day-to-day civilian things just Around The Wasp Kingdom because generally you don't want your heavy-use architecture to Fucking Explode if you don't read and religiously adhere to the 120-page manual.

#we speak #marble #ocs #the wasp kingdom's hive tends to get significantly damaged or destroyed a few times a decade thanks to. The Deadland Border Thing #and when that happens instead of shrinking their military they just start making their footsoldiers learn construction instead #pretty much everyone has to be at least competent in combat because if they Aren't then people Fucking Die #for related reasons they tend to have surprisingly decent attitudes about shit like disability #because injury in the field is something that around 60-70% of wasps will experience in their lifetimes #and that's a VERY LARGE part of the population that they Really can't just leave out of work or anything #because they need all the damn hands that they can get most of the time #which results in things like WMS having a truly ridiculous number of variant signs for amputees or people with limited range of motion #its uhh. plus side: wasp kingdom is insanely ahead in disability accommodations and such compared to Everyone Else #minus side: it's because any member of the wasp kingdom is fully expected to become disabled in some way during their lifetime #plus side: they will accept anything and everything into the kingdom up to and including parasites and criminals #minus side: it's because they live in one of the single most deadly inhabited areas in bugaria and you will be drafted into the military #also there are Quite A Few Things that make socialization cross-kingdom Difficult #and if youre a mimic fly coming in especially you Really have no indication as to what is friendly and what is Not #and you Know when youre being mocked but youre also not gonna be capable of viewing Friendly Interaction as Nonhostile #because everyone here grew up getting at least mild battle training more or less from splitting the cocoon and expects you to play rough #and you are a fly that is not going to interpret someone biting and shaking you in a non-aggressive manner #even if it's a deliberate play-shake that doesnt actually Hurt or break shell #worldbuilding #they only actually need the kaiju squad like once or twice a year but uhh. yknow. The Beasts

[miss-styles]

seeing hozier live was a religious experience...

#i feel forever changed as a person #i felt my soul ascened!!! #it was so so good like i cant stress that enough omfg #never forgiving him for not playing like real people do or wasteland baby #like how are you not gonna play the title track #be so serious #but omg he talked to us sooo much #and it was so so special #like i was fully sobbing during his speech before someone from a warmer climate #the way he speaks is just so wow #i could listen to that man talk this mind for an unhealthy amount of time #ALSO THE CROWD WAS SO LIVE #like it all felt so safe #take me to church absolutely broke me #ripped my soul out of my body etc etc #he took me to church! #i dont even remember the break before the encore bc i was just gripping the chair in front of me #like trying not to collapse to the floor #everyone screaming amen killed me #it was just such an experience #i love him sm #that concert fixed me #i dont even wanna talk abt work song #there are videos that my friends took #and im just full on SOBBING #no exaggeration #anyways yea #it was so good #highly recommend #he also sounded sooooo good

[ember-not-amber]

Monty and Jasper should have been a couple, they had more chemistry and would make more sense as a couple. Their relationships with women were so boring and the way they were written (their relationships with women) just didn’t give me a reason to care about them or root for their relationship. Harper came out of nowhere in season 4 like we had barely seen her in the earlier seasons and she’s not even a main character so we don’t see why she and Monty would like each other. I hope that will be cleared up in the books bc I’m planning to read them and I’m hoping this is just the show fucking up details in the books.

Monty x Jasper would be the childhood friends to lovers trope and it just makes sense bc as viewers we’ve seen them have more interactions than they have had with their female love interests. LET THEM BE GAY!! GIVE US MORE THAN CLARKE BEING SAPPHIC I WANNA SEE THESE MEN KISS!

#original post #the 100 #jasper jordan #monty green #I found it difficult to root for Monty and Harper bc she barely had any speaking lines until season 4 so Idk why I should care about her or #why Monty cares about her. I definitely would have rooted for them if she got more speaking lines in the seasons before S4 bc then I would #know more about her as a character #I’m a straight girl and I usually like straight couples bc I can mentally insert myself into it #but not when one of the characters hasn’t been around long enough for me to know anything about them and they seemingly come out of nowhere #I also didn’t really care for Maya bc she was from Mount Weather and didn’t fully understand Jasper’s life as someone living on the Ark and #then being sent down to Earth as part of the 100 and having to fight Grounders and watch his friends die and having to bury them #like it’s just a whole experience that someone would have to be there in order to bond with that person #but sometimes maybe that’s what a person needs is someone who doesn’t know a life like that so that they can finally live a normal #fulfilling life with no more death and fighting to survive just pure living #but even so I still found their relationship boring and I didn’t really like Maya #and I feel like Jasper and Monty would make a better couple #the 100 fandom

[epic-sorcerer]

This one time I was talking to soemone about how abled fandom can really bend over backwards headcanoning characters as neurotypical. And I brought up how a character in a show I watched can’t dress themselves without assistance and is still seen as “normal” by a lot of people.

And they laughed.

Hard

#I think about this sometimes #from my own little galaxy world #merlin #bbc merlin #speaking from personal experience #no one in their right mind would choose to get assistance for dressing if they didn’t need it #also I knwo most ppl headcanon arthur as depressed or having ptsd #but I never once see anyone tie his inability to fully dress himself to any condition #including depression or ptsd or any other disorder commenly attributed to him #and I used neurotypical as short hand bc there isn’t any good way to refer to what I’m talking about tbh it’s all gonna be either extremely #clunky or a generalization