#im here im queer i can be fucking loud about it if i want to fuck you

[the-kipsabian]

before i go to bed, since its ace week

hi. my name is night. im an aroace agender person

i dont connect with a gender. im physically a woman cause i dont know what i want from my body to actually look like, and getting treatment is behind a wall made out of loooooong time of doctors appointments and therapy and tests and whatnot. even more so for a person like me who has been diagnosed with mental issues before. however, that doesnt change the fact that i feel no connection to this gender, or any other - i mentally see myself just as a meat blob, having to just exist in this body without another option right now, tho what i physically look like on the outside rn does not represent how i actually feel. i know im genderless. im not a woman nor do i want to be, im also not a man nor do i wanna be that either. im also not a secret third option, im no option at all. im the 'opt out to not answer this question' button. the none of the other

im also very much an aromantic. ive had crushes before tho so ive thought for the longest time i might be demi. cause all my crushes came to be after a mental connection with these people were made. but it also never came with more than 'oh this person was nice to me at a time i really needed that, i like them and wanna maybe like be close to them and idk hold hands??’ but thinking back on it now, ive never actually like. felt romantic towards anyone. i have never been in love as far as im concerned. i dont like kissing, hugs and hand holding are reserved for people i care about closely but not in a sense where i wanna date them. or maybe i’d like to try, but i also know im never gonna love them as more than my friends. any kind of intimate bullshit is out of the question unless we’re close friends and mostly when i initiate. i think im incapable of feeling romantic love, but i dont think this is a bad thing in the slightest. i just view it as the necessary evil in a sense, where all the love i do got to give is the same for everyone regardless of our status and their gender etc., and its just a sign that we are friends. i have a love language, but its not romantic, i dont feel it, but i still show it to people who i deeply do care about. and thats okay

ive always been ace. i grew up always thinking everyone else was weird (and honestly kinda gross lmao) thinking about sex and kissing and boyfriends and girlfriends and i was just. idk in a sense trying to fit in. but i never leaned that way, i still dont - ive known for the longest time that i am sex repulsed, thats nothing new to me, which is why even as a supposed adult at the ripe age of 30 (lol) im still not getting into smut, like yeah that should be saying something. like this started when i was maybe like 12 or 13 and this kind of stuff started to pop up for the first time in my small friend circle, and i just never got into anything like that that a person my age was maybe supposed to. i was never interested. and one thing im thankful about having grown up the fucked up way i did is that i never dated. i never had to find out about my orientation that way. like maybe i spent a lot of time thinking i was a demi on this section too, just thinking that it was very normal for kids not to be that horny as i wasnt either - but i still couldnt get into the “horny” stuff kids my age were getting into. it was weird. but, i had all the time to think about it, and eventually when i got old enough to separate the sexual and romantic attractions and online became a place i could search on my own safely (yay first own laptop!) and more informative about this stuff, the labels just. kinda fell into my lap. and it made sense. ive made my peace about being this way a long time ago and i dont care what that makes me in someone elses eyes (for example, my mom thinks its better that im “supposedly ace” rather than i would date girls :))) ), i know who i am and how i am. and im ace. and you can have all the sex you want idc im not here to preach i just know thats not for me and i do not crave for it, not now, not ever, and never have

oh and also yeah i think my bio says flux in there, its a thing i was made aware of recently in my last identity meltdown few months ago, which is basically like. you are the base of these identities (in this case, aroace) but some times it might very slightly but noticeably fluctuate towards something else for a brief amount of time - so if you’ve ever seen one of my gay panic moments yeah it might be actual real gay feelings i have. i dont know, but it feels appropriate and accurate and even if its not, having a little label to pin on it like an asterisk helps my anxiety about it so. yeah. and thats the most important things

im not only writing this to make it clear who i am and what i am, but maybe someone will see this and know that no matter what they identify as and what they are, they are valid and loved. if nothing else, i love you 💜

#night is an absolute mess on main #aromantic #asexual #agender #im tagging this yay #if you have a problem block and move on im not listening to your negative shit on ace week #im here im queer i can be fucking loud about it if i want to fuck you #anyways love you i need to go to bed lmao #aaa

[liquidstar]

i think that on here we've kinda talked a lot about how the traditional "coming out" narrative presented in popculture is flawed in reality. because it always presents this idea that you have to tell everyone who you Really are, that youre Hiding parts of yourself, that you can never be You until you bare your Secrets to the world. and that actually this isnt because people feel entitled to your personal business but that its hurting YOU when they dont know your personal business so you should really just tell them. (but also dont be "too" proud because thats annoying :( act mostly cishet please but dont lie about it! hehe!) it will work out every time for sure :)

but ofc thats not how real life works. i mean, naturally i understand that there are OF COURSE people out there who want to be loud and proud about who they are, and that this is incredibly important to their identity which theyve suppressed for so long. but that "coming out" narrative is harmful because it ignores many of the reasons it had to be suppressed to begin with. its fucking dangerous! its dangerous to a lot of people for a lot of reasons. they can lose their support system, family, job, house, and their entire life. both in the sense that they'll be completely uprooted from it, and in the sense that they could be killed. so constantly presenting the notion of "coming out is good for you no matter what because its the Only way to be your Real Authentic Self and also you HAVE to do it eventually because thats how this narrative is just Meant to go. be a good little queer and please dont stray from this path."

and the problem is that plenty of young LGBT+ people completely internalize it too! ive had so many convos with young people worried about coming out to their conservative family because, well, theyre supposed to! and their minds are completely blown when i tell them that actually they dont have to do that. that theyre under no obligation to tell everyone their business and its okay to just keep being them w/o making an announcement about it. ESPECIALLY IF IT PUTS THEM IN DANGER!!!! and to be clear this issue doesnt stop at age 18 or at moving out or anything like that either, there continue to be many obstacles for many people that make coming out unsafe, or just a bad life decision to uproot everything Right Now. it's okay to just be in the closet and it isn't a moral failing like cishet media wants to convince us. we all agree, right?

good! but here's what my actual real point is:

when we talk about this, for some reason, we seem to only reaaaallly be talking about the gay side of it, right? like im sure lots of people imagined, like, teenage gay boy movies. maybe a couple lesbian and bi characters too perhaps. and that makes sense because thats like the most common narrative for this sort of trope, so ofc those are the first examples we imagine. and ofc theres the more complex addition of "passing" when it comes to trans versions of this story, the idea that you gotta look a certain way to be "valid" adds another layer.

so i think its time more people started to acknowledge this about trans people too, right? i think we can all agree with this on paper already; no trans person is obligated to come out or present a certain way if theyre not in a place where they currently are able to do so. physically, mentally, financially... or just because they dont wanna! whatever the circumstances are, there is no criteria they have to meet to be vindicated in this. it doesnt only apply to 14 year olds living with shitty parents who plan to move out soon and become "Really Trans" (as if they didnt count before conforming to The Narrative), the person could be 40 and never planning to be completely out, and its the same. they dont owe you this "showing the world who you Really are in order to [earn the right to] Be Yourself" crap. thats their choice only.

however, i also think that even if most ppl on here in lgbt circles on here agree with the general sentiment... sometimes it doesnt always get applied it practice. though the whole "truscum" thing kinda died down (thank god) i still think that rampant transmedicalism has left its scars on lots of people and the things they internalize, combined with similar cisheteronormative messages in popular media about how your narrative Should go and how you Should act and look to be respected, and its Morally Wrong not to fit that mold.

so when encountered with people who dont pass, who dont TRY to pass and instead actively choose to look like their agab due to the fact that they are literally in the closet irl (lest we forget people have whole entire complex lives outside of the net) this sort of short circuit happens in ppls heads, where that internalized idea of "but you're supposed to be THIS WAY! youre not doing it RIGHT!" pops back up and they end up labeling that person as fake or Not Trans Enough for this reason.

and i do also think part of this stems from people not having enough sympathy for those whose paths are different, because they were told not to. theres a Right way, and they did it the right way. and likely they struggled for it a lot, so isnt it unfair that people are doing it the Easy Way (as if its easy to be closeted to begin with) and claiming theyre like you? thats Wrong. they have to Earn it. you lgbts should all get mad at EACH OTHER actually! this will help your community be better [in the eyes of cishetero society that doesnt really want you to exist to begin with]

additionally the reason im emphasizing the internet side of this so much is because... well, in this day and age, thats the space lots of people go to to NOT be in the closet. to at least microdose on being "out" while in real life they very much arent. like i said before, being in the closet is rough and taxing, suppressing yourself hurts which is why so many people wanna be loud and out and proud! not everyone can though, so turning to a place with relative anonymity to get that is great, and i think its probably saved a lot of people. but also because of this, its pretty much the only way to get the scenario this is positing to begin with- where you know a stranger can know that youre trans even if youre otherwise closeted completely, just so they can tell you that youre Not. but how many people in the past do you think lived lives where they never let these feelings out at all? how many alive today do you think dont even express them online?

you know that sort trope (often stereotypes in media) of a trans person "crossdressing" only when alone, in order to get a short bit of relief or euphoria that they cant in their closed life? i think that today we have the internet to do that. i think its kind of the same thing. but its also very different, because its not as private. its still secret, because its anonymous, but its also something shared with plenty of strangers at the same time. they dont know you irl, so its safe, distant, and gives you that rush of being yourself, and being referred to correctly by others too. theres community, theres support, and theres friendship too, once you get to know those strangers. its not a "second life" or a "persona" is just a side of yourself you dont show elsewhere, an identity that needs to be let out one way or another.

who the fuck are we to deny others the right to this life-saving connection just because they arent out? because they dont pass or dress the Right way irl? because we decided they arent trying hard enough to "fit in"? because they dont plan to change their lives to fit the right narrative anytime soon?

should they not be allowed into the community then? that would be perfect wouldnt it? leave many who need support out to die, because they did it Wrong. fight within our community over who is doing it Right until we've broken it in half. the righteous ones [according to cishet standards] are surely going to be treated with respect once they get rid of the Bad ones, right?

yeah, i dont think so. thats horseshit. we're stronger together than we are apart, thats why infighting is so useful to those who dont want us to be strong to begin with. its important to help each other, boost each other up, even if some of us arent playing the "right" part irl. are we really just going to sit around and accept the cishet norms as rules to live by? fuck that. not everyones story will reflect it, and you have to accept them anyway if you want a strong community. it doesnt matter how much they might look/act like their agab irl, if theyre telling you otherwise take it at face value, respect them the way you would any other. again, many of us agree with this on paper, but i think we still have to put work into acting on that too.

the end <3

#under the cut its just a way longer version of what i just said but in regards to how closeted trans ppl are often treated online #i cut it bc it was long but im telling you what it is now if you wanna read it basically #but a lot of this is personal musings too. its not connected to any kinda disk horse or anything #just stuff ive been thinking abt mostly. how i wish there was more support for such things #bc even online i feel like most ppl overlook closeted ppl who are not kids. yknow? #as if thats the only acceptable time to be closeted bc you have an excuse. tho part of it might be remembering personal experiences too ofc #but well. like i say here everyones experiences are different and we gotta respect that basically #and i think. its ok if you dont look or act a certain way. i guess

[plantboiart]

You know what I wrote about this in the tags of my latest post and it will be very present in the coming out fic im writing but this deserves its own post so here you go:

Kian’s entire rockstar persona that he puts on is just autistic masking, making himself weird in a way that’s cool or at least more acceptable than how he would naturally be. He can’t make himself normal so instead he makes himself into a character.

He can’t understand social cues or those rules in conversation that everyone else can get easily? He’ll just act like he does understand but just doesn’t care about them. He has trouble controlling his own volume when speaking and constantly needs to be told to either speak louder or to quiet down? Well no, he’s just always loud for the sake of being loud. Because he likes attention and being loud gets him attention, its as simple as that. He’s too obsessed with music because it’s his special interest and he doesn’t get that people don’t want to hear about it? He’s a future rockstar! Of course he has to be really into music, that’s like the whole point.

And it doesn’t just stop at the weird traits he gets from being autistic either. It’s everything about him that’s even a little bit unacceptable in society. He’s too feminine? It’s a fashion statement. He’s queer? Well, people won’t think that if he’s a playboy who’s constantly flirting with any girl he sees. He’s the child of hippies/cultists? …he cant hide from that one, so instead he just acts like it doesnt exist. Doesnt talk about his parents, avoids them whenever he can, distances himself from his family to avoid being associated with them.

Everything about ‘Kian Stone’ is a mask that he’s put on to avoid being just ‘Kian’. Because Kian is too loud, too girly, too weird, too chatty, too much. But Kian Stone is a fucking rockstar. And suddenly all of those things become acceptable.

#jrwi #jrwi show #just roll with it #jrwi bitb #jrwi blood in the bayou #blood in the bayou #kian stone #jrwi kian #bitb kian #jrwi spoilers #jrwi bitb spoilers #i dont know if this actually even includes spoilers but #just in case #bitb spoilers #character analysis #?

[thesadboisguidetolife]

My sweet angel @iamanimaginarybeing tagged me to post a selfie and answers some questions so here we go!!

Had to pull the shirt down because these trunks leave NOTHING to the imagination lol also because this shirt is one of my favorites

Are you named after anybody? I was actually given my name BECAUSE my mom didnt want me to have the "family name" lol

Do you have any kids? i do! i dont talk about it much though because its not my place to put out my kids info like that unless they're comfortable with it.

Do you use sarcasm a lot? Nooooooooooooooo. Not at aaaalllllll.

When was the last time you cried? Oh babe, i cry a good amount lol. there was a post i reblogged about the guy who went back to retake this picture in this old timey place that had me misty eyed. If we're talkin like haaaard cry..... a couple of weeks ago my depresso got kinda bad and i had me a little cry in the shower. but im good now 🥰

Whats the first thing you notice about people? oh God im gonna come across SUPER LA but, the vibes. Whether someones timid, loud, how they talk, body language, just the whole thing.

Eye Color? Brownish?!?! Ive been told i have little bits of green in them but please don't look into my eyes. I get embarrassed and feel uncomfortable in a comforting way if that makes ANY sense at all

What sports do you/have you played? Soccer and Basketball in teams growing up. Nothing much other than that lol

Any Special Talents? I can knit, crotchet, play guitar, bass, ukulele, im decent with a sewing machine, i can cook, i would like to think that im getting better at photography, i can pop my left shoulder out of my socket (?) haha this ones hard for me.

Where were you born? In the Antelope Valley, Southern California.

Scary Movies or happy endings? Scary Movies WITH Happy Endings. FUCK The Strangers. I love/hate that movie so much and i know it goes against my answer because it has one of thee most fucked up endings but.....damn lol

Do you have any pets? 2 cats

How Tall are you? a humble 5'6". lol

Favorite subject in school? Cooking, followed by French, followed by Weight Training lol

Dream Job? Cook at the Queer Commune lol honestly, i think im currently working on something id LOVE to do till the end of time but we'll see. I dont want to jinx it

Imma tag @sucker-for--anything-acoustic @campcrow2 @adamsmasher @floofiest-doof @beast-0f-lavendertown @circle-of-power @odeada-nightspawn @jambos6 @spider-boy1989 @skiingcows @snikt-yip @penismage @traumadumpling @chibi-masshuu @kaleidoscope-cosmic-power for now 🥰

#me #tags #selfie

[appleteeth]

Im sorry about this i need to rant. I thought things were getting better but Izzy stan Twitter is at it again with their whining, truth bending and self-victimising.

'Do you like OMFD but wish the queer disabled hero didnt die?' IZZY IS NOT THE HERO OF THIS SHOW!!!!! He is at best a reformed antagonist. What an insult to the other disabled characters, and what about the actual heroes of the show??

'We've been betrayed by straight man writing queer stories'. First of all, way to dismiss the other writers. Also, its not his fault you project your personal traumas and mental health on a fictional character on a show with death in the title.

'GB's ending is comphet (?????) because 'we only need eachother' and theyre breaking away from their queer community' ED HAS BEEN WANTING TO LEAVE PIRACY SINCE LAST SEASON!!! also, its progress that Stede was able to resist basic flattery. And David made it clear that they still have work to do. This one truly broke my brain.

Im just sick of all this. Izzy stans have been coddled for the past week, being told its ok to grieve, but theyve crossed multiple lines. I do wish some things had been more explicit in this finale, only because David overestimated the maturity and media literacy of some people.

Sorry for this but i needed to talk to people here. Its beyond annoyance at this point. Im angry and sick of petty crybabies actively working to poison what we've built.

The fact that I sent my own anon rant today shows you're not alone in this, and there are more and more people who aren't afraid to say it. It's infuriating that this very loud corner of the fandom can't get a grip that this wasn't Our Flag Means Izzy, and that he wasn't the hero protagonist.

I've had people tell me they're not going to watch the show any more and right now I'm at the point of "Fine! Good! No need to announce it! Buh bye!" because I don't think I could deal with them watching S3 and getting angrier and angrier that Izzy isn't back (or if he is back as a ghost is still not good enough, etc etc).

Izzy got most of the screen time apart from Ed and Stede this season. He got the best fucking send-off I've seen in a long fucking time. The characters I've cared about over the years who died got at most 20% of the care and love Izzy got from the writers.

Honestly I've managed to avoid most of the most rancid takes because I had the word Izzy muted on twitter and I can only advise you to do the same.

#ask #may delete later we'll see #happy for people to rant in my asks #if you send hate/bad takes i simply delete it

[powerpolyculeshowdown]

Bittersweet anon here, i hope this doesn't annoy you or is too long or anything and you don't have to post it if you don't want to but i just wanted to share my favorite bits of the threat with you because some parts of it made me think about our conversation about this whole thing:

"It is clear to everyone that this relationship is open to interpretations ranging from poly, to open with a +1, to platonic soul mates, etc right? And that this is left ambiguous due to the nature of the self-insert medium?" (this was a poll question he posted, where 98% of people answered yes and only 2% said no)

"I got a bunch of hate during Chapter 3 because I didn't explicitly state exactly what the relationship was, despite openly stating that any interpretation be it romantic, platonic, etc. was valid and welcome! No one was ever told no, or that they were wrong."

"These seemed to be people who were relatively new to my work, and(...) weren't there for the panic that swept through when Seth appeared and people thought Alphonse was going to break up with (listener), or that the relationship would change in a radical way."

"But damn, there were a few really loud folks during Chapter 3 that stole a lot of the joy from me during that time. Imagine telling a queer creator that they're baiting because they didn't pat your head and tell you you're the one true correct interpretation. Yikes!"

"It got to the point where I was questioning myself, wondering if I had drastically misjudged my audience and understanding of expectations. But...no, I think it was just a few people whose expectations from other creators didn't translate to how I do things."

"Which is fine, I don't want to appeal to everyone, and I create for me first and foremost. My art is for my joy, my story, my heart. But if you want to be a jerk about it, I will probably tell you to go fuck yourself moving forward."

"For those of you who have been supportive, voiced additional support in the face of the most bad faith shitty takes the fandom has ever seen, or just vibed in your own lane and enjoy my boys in peace...bless you. You keep me going. <3"

"It means a lot to me that interpretations like this exist and are valid. There's so many stories about jealousy and bitterness and miscommunication that would blow up a relationship like that. Sometimes it's nice that people can grow together and just be family!"

"I cross posted this on YouTube and got such a lovely response from the community there as well. Thank you all for the validation, I was really miserable after Chapter 3 wrapped but this comforts the hell outta me."

it doesnt annoy me at all!! to tell the truth i was worried about the author when you told me about the hate they got for choosing to keep it open. it's extremely frustrating to me that soany people target queer creators or queer media in general for not being what they personally consider Perfect, as if not fitting one specific mold makes it irredeemable fsr??

like ive seen ppl accuse media with a roch cast of queer characters where a few happened to die as "bury your gays trope" like no!! thats not how it works!! gay characters can die the problem is when you kill off your only rep!!

an auhor can leave something open to interpretation, especially smth like this where like the listener is a character and you're trying to make a large group comfortable, that's not baiting. the characters are even canonically gay and open to polyamory, like, someone's personal interpretation of the relationship status doesnt change that??

im happy to hear the author is feeling better now nd that they got support too! thanks for sharing these w me since i couldnt look at the thread on my phone, i appreciate it!! i might not be in the fandom but i do like when people tell me aboit the stuff they like so im always happy to listen when you send messages about bittersweet! (same goes for any other ask ive gotten that just wanted to talk about their beloveds!!)

#polyasks #not poll related #bittersweet yuurivoice

[temporarymoods]

mwah

scatch what i said on that last post. idk her. im CHILLINGGGGG!!!

MarMon today: yes I celebrated. you gotta. duh. Patriot's Day-- a Mass thing!? Hilarious.

We went to the race and yelled and screamed and cheered on at various points. Walked a bunch. Got sunburnt in that shallow way, but my nose is pink. It was pretty emotional! So proud of everyone. Kept thinking that this is kind of one of the best things humanity can do. Anyway-- B)

Got sambas, lmfao?! Trying to look like a boy. Followed by some really good pasta. and then trying to look like a girl. i went to a frat! for the first time! i got champagne on my sambas. christened. the person who clocked me as queer at the party said "christened" after i had minutes prior. yeah. a good thing

- - i know the gender thing of it is ridiculous but for some reason my soft complicated body craves that sexual weirdness between men and women and particularly these young men and women in that..disgusting atmosphere. a disgusting atmosphere. really hungry for that generalization.. it's true. im really attracted to men

other than that^ being tough,

i went DANCINGGG!!!!!1!1!11!!11!!

and I LOVED IT SO MUCH!!!!111!1

What a GREAT night!!! i can't put into words how amazing i feel even though that is why i came here...shucks. has the moment past? did i spend too much time on the queue?

My foot is sore as I type this. I came home so inspired and read up on country swing vs other kinds (I knew jazz swing was the thing, and swing dancin aint line dancin !) then i listened to a lot of good music:

Slow Dancing - Aly & AJ * total classic for me lmao. damn they have the best spotify top 5

Let's Get Married - Bill Elliot Swing Orchestra * when i didn't yet understand that i had to look up **country** swing music. now i know ;) god i cant wait to go again

-- what is it?! i think its that i really love to dance, to move my body, to try and get it right, to improve? to be good? to have fun in a choreographed way. to conform. the do the correct thing. idk

here's what i think its really about: i think i like smootheness. and i like the click of a phenomenon you can't pull a word for. and short counts. and intention. and shape. mostly shape. beat, sure, too. i like beat. i like rising to it, and not tiring. i dont know how i get so obsessed. i need to go back. that was exactly what ive been looking for for months, and what i thought i found but only got in part in the club, which i go to for the dancing, the loud music, the blindingness. but i dont contribute there. my ears are filled but the sound can only vibrate me a little. im not, swung, literally. and i cant provide energy to the space like you can witcha boots awn. so yeah, i think thats really it. dancing. i fucking love dancing. ive always fucking loved dancing. for real! really! i never got that good, yeah. but i fucking loved it thats for sure. i always wanted someone to actually teach me shit. they didnt do that enough in theatre. maybe they did. maybe i just wasnt that talented. not now though. dead. fucking. ass. just input my entire work calendar that i have access to because this shits getting real my life is mine and theres fan fucking tastic things to be doing with it.

alright...i could continue...i'll pick up the rest in my dairy ;* not gonna get too personal, phew. uhm. eh hem.

That Don't Impress Me Much - Shania Twain

Tequila - Dan + Shay

End of Beginning - Djo * lmao i got on this because i saw some interview w him online as im jamminggugghh i got sucked in. then all this happened:

Change - Djo * so much better than the one blowin up btw

Sweet Dreams (Are Made of This) - Eurythmics, etc * i looked up more songs like Change :| hahaha. then all this happened:

Lifetime - Yves Tumor

Pop Song - Perfume Genius

Here Comes the Rain Again - Eurythmics, etc

Here Comes Your Man - Pixies

Eye in the Wall - Perfume Genius

Boys - Amen Dunes * at this point my original mission is fucked. the intention's gone. i'm so far from where i started: country lovin

at the same time the joint i rolled before we went out and shared on the way home is getting its way through my system for sure. its approaching 2am, woah! full day tomorrow but not nearly as inspired at this one. this one's literally how you're supposed to live . well maybe beer not getting stolen at the bar mmmm. mhm. yeah i'll tack that on as well.

i didnt, dont, want to let go of tonight skrrreorgihveouhv!!!! uuuummm! yeah i should keep thinking about it. : ) : ) hehehehehe

Man! I Feel Like a Woman! - Shania Twain

<3 , so much ;)

Kate

#AAAAHAHAHAHA #YKTR #name of the blog bitch #cuntcuntcuntcunt

[cebwrites]

hey! i'm a gnc trans gay dude who uses she/her and recently ive been feeling kinda insecure about it like im faking or something 💔 also im tired of pretending fem she/her reader is about me. can i get hcs/scenarios of law, zoro, yamato, and one other character of your choice bragging about their gnc pronoun nonconforming boyfriend? only if you're comfortable ofc

dw pronoun anon we champion gnc transmasc solidarity in this house, fuck yeah expression doesn’t equal gender 🤝🤝 admittedly i've never used neos or interacted with anyone who does before so here's my preemptive apologies if i mess up ;0;

oh also i changed the limit of characters from 4 to 3 a while ago, just updating for anyone who isn't aware! :] love this all trans lineup tho 🤭

bragging about their boyfriend who doesn't use he/him pronouns (Law, Zoro, Yamato)

he/they law, trans zoro  reader’s pronouns: they/them, she/her, it/it's, ey/em/eir, ve/vis word count: 0.6k

Law

Being a he/they bitch himself, there’s no way in hell that Law would ever question your pronoun usage and anyone who does is getting their head swapped with their ass

He’s hardly the braggy type though, mostly leaving that to the chorus of his crew to pick on if you ever needed some extra support - of course, not a single one of them would bat an eye at it, either

They do, however, make a concerted effort to use your chosen pronouns more when Law gets a hint that you’re feeling out of it

“Tell ey to bring these to my office later,”

“It’s their turn on dish duty today, don’t let them out of it,”

“This is eirs, right? Toss it in the wash,”

All just slightly within earshot and casual conversation - once the captain starts, the rest of the crew is sure to follow, too

They don’t mean to be obvious, but the moment the Heart Boys (genderless) are tipped off that you aren’t feeling too hot, you’ll also be accosted here and there throughout your slump to conveniently do all the things you loved or at least enjoyed in their company 

Even your partner themself is a little bit more cuddly in private during that crummy self-doubt day or week, not that he’d ever mention it, but that’s neither here nor there

Zoro

Zoro’s a bit (a lot) confused as far as neo pronouns go, but he’s got the spirit 

He’s as transmasc as the next feral swordsman you’d find on the Grand Line, but pronouns have never really been a thing that he’s had to put too much thought into (in Zoro’s mossy brain: he/him is typically used for guys, so he’ll use he/him because he’s a guy, easy)

Zoro knows that’s not the case for you, though, so he’ll make adjustments to his vernacular accordingly

He slips up every now and again grammar-wise, using the wrong subject and possessive forms here and there, but it’s nothing that a quick correction can’t fix - he’s always at least a little guiltily pouty too, so you can’t really stay mad at him, honestly

Bragging, though, is an artform that Zoro is clearly familiar with

“In your dreams, Swirly, I’m clearly going to win because ve has my back!” (”Oh? So it’s not your own power then, Mossy?” //insert loud queer squabbling)

“Hmph, its MY boyfriend and it could kick your asses any day!”

“Doesn’t matter, this is vis and cause we’re dating I get half a dibs, ve’s a lot cooler than you all anyway,” (”That’s really not how that works, Zoro”)

A lot of these brags have to do with your power, forgive him, Zoro’s a very simple man-

There’s a very minor learning curve that some of the other Strawhats have to adapt to, too, but again it’s no real issue after the first week or so

Yamato

Yams is your BIGGEST cheerleader, he’ll bulldoze ignorant assholes out of the way for you and howl about how great you are and how much he loves you from the highest rooftop without even asking

He’s 100% supportive of your decisions and won’t stand for anyone who doesn’t (if you don’t want to cause a scene you may have a little trouble holding him back or have to discuss it with him beforehand because Yamato absolutely will call someone out on their bullshit when he sees it)

Sometimes you even get a little flustered or overwhelmed with the intensity and vigor that he supports you (very much the ’guns blazing’ type) but it’s all with an endearing air and the knowledge that Yamato only wants your best interest at heart

“Have you met her? She’s my boyfriend!”

“My boyfriend’s so handsome today, isn’t she handsome everyone?? <3″

“I love my she/her boyfriend!!! She’s so fucking HOT!!” [yelled from the tallest building in the Flower Capital]

Yamato is so embarrassing and openly affectionate the Akazaya are sick and tired of him, someone PLEASE leash this puppy and take him home, preferably away from them

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[askaniritual]

25 episdodes of rgu!

from my notes tonight:

the slapping

i keep thinking im gonna come up with an explanation for why there's more slapping than a real housewives reunion episode and i haven't come up with anything that feels quite right yet. feminine forms of aggression? subversion of shojo tropes? violence via the body (slap) vs violence via an object (sword)? something about anthy's vagina hands during the duel sequences? i will continue to ponder

masculine to feminine transition

i wrote this about the composition of the council going from patriarchal force with one woman to 4 men at the start of the show to transitioning to being two women and one (highly feminized) man at this point. i also wanted to work something in here about how long + loose hair is associated with masculinity while tighly bound hair is associated with femininity (nanami's braids, anthy's pin curls, juri's ringlets)

contracts/marriage as contract 

the whole black rose arc seems to be about how marriage is a contract that allows you to perform state-sanctioned violence against people you purport to care for. obviously the engaged and the rose bride are also in a contract, plus the contracts that akio creates (because he is The Literal Devil from Hell). idk i want to write a more complete thought about this specifically because i think what this show is trying to say about contracts and promises and what you owe somebody that you are contracted to and under what circumstance a contract can be made is all very interesting

adulthood

i feel like i am coming to understand why the movie is called adolescence of utena. the show is really fixated on how wanting something very badly places people in a permanent childlike state. they can't grow up because they are ontologically capable of being fulfilled. see: tsuwabuki with nanami, nanmi with touga, mikage with mamiya. fulfillment + personal growth = sex, specifically penetration, and being trapped in a relationship where consummation is impossible places the user in a state of permanent childishness

the inherent erotic queerness of cars

nothing so far had made me say "woah" out loud until akio and touga started fucking on that bed

#egg world

[caramelmochacrow]

hey. im sorry but i need to just. spill this because it's sorta been in my mind for a few months, not outwardly, but a feeling i finally realized when this term ended.

(a vent about myself under the cut, sorry.)

i really hate how much im separated and need to hide myself from people. even if it's something simple and dumb to hide.

like, will you believe me if i say i need to keep my love of math from all of my classmates? everyone in my class hates it, they complain all the damn time and im the only one who genuinely enjoys math (even though i get frustrated with it sometimes). everytime i say "i love algebra!" or "i love graphs!" they look at me as though i am a liar or im some sort of freak. even my friends, they tell me to shut up when i say it out loud even though i dont say anything when they say they want our math teacher to die or they complain about something i like about math. (which kinda hurts me as well lol)

i understand the dislike for math, i disliked it before, but saying you genuinely want our teacher to die just because she teaches a subject you dislike is fucking dumb. i was starting to unlearn that, but now im starting to relearn it, which isnt helping myself at all. (i really want to tell them off about it, but i dont want to also.)

there's also my love of music that i've complained here before once, i need to keep it quiet because when they hear someone likes anime or j-pop they think im a weeb that's obsessed w anime men and want to see them butt naked. i hate it. i hate when i listen to rock, i hate when i listen to metal, but i love it so much i cant. i don't even listen to music in school anymore because i feel so self conscious about it. i feel that i'll be judged at and be seen as some sort of weirdo that they'll whisper about behind my back.

there's also the glaring obvious fact that im very-gay-for-girls-but-also-a-transguy. im in an all girls school, but there are a few non-cis people here for semi obvious reasons. i dont feel comfortable being out much for obvious reasons and i feel miserable here. most of the people here are actually chill w the trans people in my school but some just love asking uncomfortable questions like why they were there instead of the boys school or about their names. it freaks me out. it scares me. it makes me want to never come out and be myself. there was this time today when i was in my business class and made my nickname for this game 'birdboy' which led to my teacher asking why i used boy rather than girl, which led to me and my friend (another non-cis person and one of the people i came out to) saying that it just flowed better and not because i was a transguy. that teacher was surprisingly chill w trans people being in her class though, she asked my friend his preferred name and started calling him that, there's also another friend of mine in that class and she's also chill w him and his name, so i think she's ok.

other than my gender, there's my sexual orientation, which im not even sure on. i like girls, girls are can be pretty and handsome, but if i said that, they would hate me for being gay(?), which is also terrible because most people in my school are homophobic, yay. i got asked once for no fucking reason and without prompt if i liked girls or boys and i fucking panicked and said i didn't like either, which led them to asking if i was straight or bi (didn't even say lesbian, smh) which i also denied because i didn't rlly liked men anyway (what they got for not saying lesbian) and also didn't want to say i was gay(?) to my entire class before a fucking we went to our social studies class. i was so fucking scared when they asked that.

like, my school is accepting of queer people and lets them wear what type of uniform they like (except for me because my mom filled out my form for me which didnt let me put my preferred pronouns and kind of uniform) but it feels so hard to believe with the amount of hate towards specifically those who aren't fem presenting. it makes me feel torn apart with if i want to be who i want to be or be hidden behind this false version of myself that ive been hiding behind for almost my entire life. i feel so terrible.

i feel so disconnected from people of my own culture as well. i suck at tagalog, i know how to talk in tagalog, but i speak like a little five year old. every time i speak to other filipino people, there's a disconnection, there's a thing i dont understand or know about my own culture. i feel like some sort of failure as a filipino person.

im better at english than tagalog, so that means i must be fine, right? no. not at all. other than the other stuff i said above, they dont use american english, the one i learned. and since i lived my entire life in the philippines, i dont know some stuff in new zealand. they get shocked when i dont know something that is pretty much so well known here, when i dont know the british equivalent of an american word or when i dont know any maori words. i feel so fucking dumb every time it happens.

i just hate how much i dont know and how disconnected i feel from the world and those around me.

#vent tw #vent cw #venting cw #venting tw #transphobia tw #transphobia cw #sorry there's probably a lot i need to tag that idk yet. #but.... eugh. #i think that's the main stuff that could trigger people #again im sorry i just needed this out of my thoughts.

[suffering-frombrain-rot]

So me and my friends have a document of quotes that we have said or heard and I felt the need to assign quotes to the members of buccigang, maybe ill do la squadra next?

Anyways we are stupid and say stupid things there are more for certain characters because they fit, Bruno and Fugo don't have as many and none that I could find sounded like Trish but anyways here we are

Mista: Get fucked! ......Nevermind I'm getting fucked

"You can like women I guess but you're gonna be hella fruity at the same time" - god creating Mista probably

Mista: If you put your funds to buying guns you'll have less butter proportions

Mista: Sometimes the best medicine is a bullet in the brain

Mista: I'm very miscellaneous

Mista: you don't understand. They want to steal my cheezits

Mista: I'm sure Mr. Whisper played many a round of hopscotch in his youth

Mista: Mustard on a hot dog is just piss on your dick

Mista: Whatever you're going through is not more important than beans

Bruno: I will gladly take care of any crotch goblins you have, I love kids!

Bruno: I only know it was a bone cuz I licked it

Bruno: Astral projected my ass directly to 9 years ago for about 3 seconds

Bruno: Welcome to the mafia, if the depression doesn't get you, the others will

Bruno: I'm not sad I'm just concerned

Bruno: Sorry I can't hear you over the sound over me PAYING

Bruno: Which one of you piddled on the table

Bruno: If I cant have a cool dad!!! ILL BE THE COOL DAD!!!! *honk honk*

Bruno, upon meeting Abbachio: You're an alcoholic? That's pretty poggers

Abbachio: Giorno, I've only known you for a short amount of time and I am going to punt you directly into the sun

Abbachio: I am not above hate criming a child

Abbachio, about Bruno: he's just out here getting attached to other men

Abbachio: You're 70% water go drown in your bodily fluids

Abbachio: You wanna see jesus?

Abbachio, to Fugo: Can you not give me a virus

Abbachio: *incoherent mumbling for 12 minutes accompanied by loud ass music* I can't deal with this *mumbling continues for like 30 minutes*

Abbachio: Shut up grandma I'm gonna put you in the gadamn nursing home!

Abbachio: Ahhh it be the cockroaches up in this peace! Is he trying to kill me

Abbachio: I just came back from WhatTheFuckVille, population huh?? To hear yall talking about bug fuck

Fugo: I'm like a plague but I don't spread, I linger

Fugo: I want to charge into people and gore them

Fugo: you are 15 pounds of nothing

Fugo: Classy men don't eat doors

Fugo: I identify as a threat

Fugo: I was gonna beat you over pickles that weren't mine I hope you know that

Fugo: You and your 3 inch lightsaber are disappointing

Fugo: Im going to staple you to the ceiling fan

Giorno: I've harassed my therapist with moths

Giorno: why do you insist on assaulting me with fake fruit

Giorno: We're going to exploit capitalism and pay for the couples ticket when we're single

Giornio: maybe illegal activity is the way to go

Giorno: honestly i can tolerate capitalism when theres dragons and ritualistic sacrifice involved . but ONLY when dragons and ritualistic sacrifice are involved

Giorno: Date idea: plot to overthrow the government

Giorno: Sky daddy really fucked me in the parent department

Giorno: The boss smells like a sussy baka

Giorno: I’m a minor, I have a giant eagle advantage card

Giorno: Ice cream grew bones the day I did this

Narancia: I'm dumb and queer Bucciarati, all i need is caffeine and i'll be fine i'll be ready and willing and able to fistfight god and fuck the devil

Narancia: fuck Pythagoras, me and my homies hate Pythagoras

Narancia: I was fully ready to drop everything and believe Bucky Barnes was a sexy demon butler

Narancia: DO YOU PROUD OF YOURSELF

Narancia: I share a lot of common interests with neurodivergent lesbians

Narancia: Oh, that’s oxygen?

Narancia: Mr. Whisper and the proclaimers played hopscotch together

Narancia: There’s a Snoop Dogg lego set?

Narancia: I'm about to break all known laws of aviation

#jjba #jjba part 5 #jjba golden wind #jojos bizarre adventure #jjba incorrect quotes #giorno #giorno giovanna #jjba giorno #mista #guido mista #jjba mista #fugo #jjba fugo #panacotta fugo #narancia #narancia ghirga #jjba narancia #bruno #bruno bucciarati #jjba bruno #abbachio #leone abbachio #jjba abbacchio #bruabba

[jaanlouis]

“Choose not to” co exactly. Or even “can not” co. When did we decide they have the green light to do whatever they want whenever they can? It’s still their job, it’s still a huge business that involves multiple stakeholders. There’s a reason we barely see queer representation in the industry, it’s not like suddenly everything changed and celebs are free of pr stunts look the fuck around. Some people forgot about the concept of closeting and I’m actually curious why. What changed in their minds??

I think a lot of people were expecting a lot more than what we got after louis left syco and are under the illusion that he has more control than he does, im not claiming to know what is happening behind the scenes I have a lot of thoughts none of them are concrete but you will never catch me being angry at someone who is closeted for maintaining their closet, whether it’s their choice or not but historically speaking it’s not been his choice 🤷🏾‍♀️ I think certain people are tired of being here with seemingly no changes (which is not even true, because a lot has changed within the last two years but people don’t see it bc it’s not as big or loud as they want it to be) but ultimately they don’t need to be here lmao so idk why they are ! if ur not gonna have sympathy for someone you believe to be closeted what are u doing here

#asks #anon

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My Top Posts in 2022:

#5

twitter users please migrate to instagram instead. you wont like it here we say bad words and hate brands and are very problematic

5,296 notes - Posted November 17, 2022

#4

anyway 4/13 is tommorow and there’s never a better day to start reading homestuck so i’ll probably pin the free unofficial recovered version for anyone who wants to read! i know homestuck is cringe and everyone says they hate it but tbh ive never known a more enjoyable and memorable character-driven story. if youre looking for something to get into, well, it never hurts to try something new

also its ok if you dont understand everything in the first acts, itll make a lot more sense on a reread. the characters are whats important anyway :]

5,390 notes - Posted April 12, 2022

#3

tbh wilbur sharing his dream has me fully believing technos in a good place now. its silly but legitimately since i heard that im not even sad anymore. hes resting, and hes having a grand old time, and all thats left to do is share his stories warmly. hed still want to be making people laugh, i think. idk. its helping me

6,808 notes - Posted July 2, 2022

#2

i know this is just one post on tumblr but i am BEGGING people who can to be loud about strange world.

it is so fucking unfair for disney to not properly promote this movie at all and for it to bomb so badly in theaters like it’s doing just because it actually had genuinely good poc and queer rep! i am SEETHING about how they intentionally set it up to fail and i can’t imagine how the people who worked on the movie feel!

See the full post

20,826 notes - Posted November 30, 2022

My #1 post of 2022

tbfh i love when people will headcanon characters as being of their culture and then draw little comics of them participating in traditions that the artist is clearly intimately familiar with. like YESSS share your personal cultural experiences with me through the blorbos!!! i love to see it!!!!!!!

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[humankoalaa]

P VALLEY!! 2X07

*SPOILERS*

been a minute since i did one of these!

LORETAAAA U BETTA SAAANGGGGGGG.

not this wig. p valley…. y’all know damn well wigs in the 60’s ain’t look like this.

baby clifford 😭 i needs to know how the “uncle” came to be.

UNT UNT. absolutely not. heaven can wait. not my graynmuva. bye.

timeout.. you can show all this cleavage in heaven? i ain never seen no angel let me stop playing.

you not offering me shit in joe dirts wig. absolutely not. im just not doing that. talm bout come home 🤣

ion wanna go where they’re letting her do the lords work in that wig cause that alone tells me they fake.

they got earnestine at the pynk in pajamas, bed slippers and a feather boa 😭 JAIL.

ONE TWO BREAK EM’

this the coldest theme song since

golden girls and the proud family. no debate. argue with your breakfast.

🎶 DEE NIGGAS GRAN HARD BUT DEE BITCHES GRAN HAHDUH 🎶

“grandaddy honeycomb” 😂

one thing about autumn knight ne lakeisha savage ne hailey colton.. she gon get cussed tf out deservingly and still be on some fuck shit.

UNT UNT not earnestine. talm bout 6 feet. .6 feet where? in the ground? because when and where 😒 alexa, play crime mob, knuck if you buck.

“what you not gon do is piss in my mouth and call it kool-aid” 😭😭 THE WAAAAAYYYYYY i hollered.

why they got hailey in earnestines wig from the 60’s 😫 JAIL!

OOP.

brandee evans is just 😍

not maybe paint my room.

terricka… you not that damn pregnant.

terricka: “can i drive?”

mercedes: “absolutely the hell not” 🤣

can’t believe teak gone 😭 lawd these flashbacks worst the second time.

“that chicken and dressing clifford made gon take me before that rona do” 😭

“okay chef negro dee” 😫💀 alexa, did we ever figure out if heaven got a ghetto because the waaaaaayyyyyy im on my way.

OOP.

smh.

keyshawn. sweetie.i know it’s hard… but the mf gotta shower at some point ANDDDDT i KNOW you’ve seen diary of a mad black woman and i KNOW you got baby oil. IYKYK.

“lil homicide” 🤣🤦🏾‍♀️

WAIT HOW DID I MISS THIS THE FRIST TIME 😭 “what if it’s a carbon peroxide leak” unc, please 😂

the chucalissa strangler 🤣

“lil calculator” 😭

cliff: “i thought you said you choose the money over love” oop.

lil murda: “i said i usually do” OOP. listen to these wedding vows. your faves could never.

“im scraight” lie.

cedes: “i know w you ain’t talm bout no weak pull out game in your condition” 😂

terricka: “well how do you think i

got in this condition” 😫💀

not mercedes asking tarricka if she gon make up her mind about keeping this child at the baby preschool graduation 😭

terricka: “well julissa said that taylor said that her mama said that getting an a portion gives you cancer”

Mercedes’: “well julissa, taylor, and her bald headed hoe mama ain’t got two brain cells between the three of them” 😭😭😭😭 the way she put her hand on her hip 😭 katori hall need to be locked up for that line. im crying 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣💀🤦🏾‍♀️

this episode is hell 😭

cliff ain’t no reason you being this loud.

“nigga you lready here ain’t it” OOP.

“this gucci 234 B.C.?” 💀 ima fight katori.

ive never seen black men let alone black men in a queen storyline written this well 😭

katori hall really said i know im straight and over qualified HOWEVER,i am a writer so writers, SPECIFICALLY AND ESPECIALLY queer writers im available 5 days a week from 9-5 since yall have no idea what you’re doing. argue with a pamper.

ernestine where in the hell you going.

uncle clifford running 🤣🤣

murda correcting the paramedics 😭😭😭😭 your faves could never!

“whatchu lookin at r. kelly” 😭😭

cedes don’t do this to yourself 😭 you are not patrice 🥺

terricka… 🤦🏾‍♀️ ugh i hate it here.

“cause im ya mama” 😭

mf’s don’t ever use soap in tv showers.

lamarcus please 🤣

besides… i want to.. feel yo..🫢

this sex scene 🫢🫣 your faves could never.

fill me who?! LAMARCUS 🤭

coach somewhere like damn.... pitter patter.

😭😭😭😭 they’re so in love i can’t.

ion know if patrice a preacher or ms cleo.

ion have a clue in hell what autumn is talking about.

same keyshawn.

watched it for a third time and now i get it…. hopefully she don’t pull that you owe me shit on keyshawn.

#p valley #uncle clifford #lil murda #nicco annan #brandee evans #the pynk #keyshawn #p valley spoilers #shannon thornton

[kaijumilf]

literally never going to be able to forget the time i walked into the 7-11 down the street during pride month and walked out in total shock, got in my car, and started sobbing.

just bc the older gay man working at the counter saw me. like. really fucking saw me.

the whole place was decked out in pride decoration and i complimented it while i was checking out. he was like “thanks! gotta be loud about our signaling yknow, love to throw it in the face of all the people around here who say theyre cool with it, but really they just want us to be quiet” ((i live in a very performatively liberal place atm. very yoga wine mom beach hippies kind of vibes.))

i just laughed and was like “ha, yeah well, as much as the watered down liberalism sucks, its a hell of a lot better than where i grew up.”

so he asked me where i was from, and i describe it a lot of different ways since most people usually have no clue what im talking about. some common ones, for example: “the closest thing to the deep south you can get in California”, “horse country, CA”, “a middle-of-nowhere stupidly religious hick town in the Mojave desert”, “a literal fucking chemical wasteland”(sometimes ill preface this one with, “you ever play fallout new vegas? yeah. there.”).

i give him a few of these, along with some more concrete geographic identifiers, and i watched him look more and more like he was realizing something terrible with every description. finally he just asks, somewhat hesitantly,“can i ask what the name of this place was?” so, i tell him.

and immediately his entire face twists into one of pure grief. he literally reaches out and grabs my hands and his voice had become so serious, but so earnest when he goes, “oh baby. i know exactly where that is. i am so, so sorry. “

i was stunned and kind of laughed it off and said, “its okay, just glad im out of there,”or something similar. i thanked him and walked out and. yeah cried a lot. i dont really process the reality of growing up there often, especially as a queer person. but it was nice (i think?) to be validated that way. for someone to know the gravity of that town’s name.

#like i laugh about it a lot cause i kinda have to #idk. #im just writinf this out cause i like to document things here like its a journal #but thanks 7-11 guy #ive been working on processing that particular trauma for months #i mean i had to #so i guess that was the best awakening i couldve asked for #newt speaks

[casperillion]

i cant post the orignial context because i think op blocked me but thats fine, i just want to air my thoughts and tbh if theyre not looking anymore im happier abt that.

to summarise a little bit of what this is abt, i replied to an article that very much implied that all trans men are loud misogynists, especially towards trans women which is not something i agree with. my reasons for not agreeing with this is very much based on my real world and online experiences of growing up in the queer community with many trans people around me. I stated that i dont think that misogynistic trans men (which look, i know they exist, ive met them) should be considered the majority and on top of that it feels very weird to focus so heavily on that when trans men do not hold a position of power over other trans people, especially not systematically.

to be fair to op i didnt explain this as clearly as i could originally since my first response to the article was very much an emotional response.

anyway op told me the world would be better off without me in it and that i should kill myself, that im a transmisogynist, and that im the reason they hate that theyre trans masc. someone else told them to back off bc while they agreed with op they thought it was a bit fucked up to say that, i responded to them and clarified my points and this person also ended up agreeing with me.

op then messaged me privately with this

okay context done here are my thoughts, i'll try to split this up so its a bit easier to read Original point

so for this one, trans men and our issues are very often erased or only ever brought up as an after thought. I dont feel like i need to explain why erasure is bad but the biggest issue i find with this is lack of resources and lack of coverage or even knowledge about the shit trans men deal with in a cisnormativity society.

this article was rough for me to read because it described every trans man that the writer had met as someone who became a loud misogynist and the conclusion was that all trans men were that way, if not openly then secretly. I know this is not the case because i know many trans men and trans masculine people, many of those men are very passionate supporters of trans women, nb people, and cis women. honestly i think these experiences say more about the person who wrote the article than trans men as a whole.

this attitude is used by TERFs to harass trans men who they see as "traitors" and its where i see this sort of thing most often. its very weird to be this focused on this subject especially without discussing how complex being trans masculine is.

its kinda hard to put everything into words, i'll add on more when i remember it later

To the person who posted the article that is now harassing me

im not gonna name them but looking through thier blog actually... made me really sad. they are the type of people that have fallen victim to this kind of thing. they hate men, and they hate themselves even more for being one.

its so sad to me that they see themself like that, its kinda hard to even know if theres a way i can help them, i want to though. even though they were incredible weird towards me.

digression into them being weird actually bc ive been thinking abt it.

they were very quick to judge who i am as a person without knowing anything about me, made a lot of assumptions that arent true. it felt a lot like projection because like?? idk its wild to doubt that i care about my close friends???? you dont know any of us?? you dont even know what community i come from?? i know trans women from like, actually idk the youngest age but roughly from 20 years old to 40+, most of the trans men i know are in their 20s, and i dont even know what the range for nb people i know is because ive met too many and i stopped keeping track. I've lived with other trans people in person of all genres (idk i dont have a better word) , ive volunteered in places where ive met and helped trans women get back on their feet while experiencing financial hardship. as a teenager i was involved in creating safe spaces for trans and gnc teens in my city to meet each other and hang out. less relevant but ive also be outright told by women im close with that they value my perspective when we have discussions about misogyny, actually that was literally 2 nights ago while we were discussing the best way to create a safe space for women and trans fems. obviously op knows none of this but its wild that they just.. assumed so much and decided that my voice was not important or worth listening to.

#idk i have more thoughts but this post is already so long #shut up casper #i sent them an ask #i kinda want to see if i can chat to them over discord #bc over text they seem to just want to insult me as much as possible