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enjoloras · a year ago
In the wake of all the shit with JKR and the awful bathroom debate coming back up again, let me just say, as one trans man to others:
We need to stop with that shit where we post pictures of buff, post-transition trans men and say ‘Well terfs wouldn’t feel comfortable having him in the women’s bathroom, would they?’ as some kind of ‘gotcha!’
Because the argument that these hyper-masculine looking people shouldn’t be in the women’s bathroom is exactly the kind of shit that contributes to GNC and non-passing trans women being in danger. You may be well-meaning in doing so, but all you’re doing is perpetuating the idea that there should be a ‘you must be *this* feminine to use the toilet’ bar for trans women to reach. 
I know a lot of trans women have said this. We need to listen to them. We need to do better by our sisters. 
Now more than ever.
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actuallysafeforaspec · a year ago
cis 'allies' on this website will really be like "but trans men can have male privilege because of they pass well enough ppl will assume they're cis and treat them like cis men!" and have no fucking idea that they just explained why trans men Don't have full access to male privilege
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whilomm · 3 months ago
"but terfs say they love trans men" yeah well my pastor used to say he loved queer "sinners" too, maybe you shouldnt be listening to the people who think they need to fix us? if you can understand why its not really "love" when your homophobic grandma goes on about how she just wants to save you from hell, you can understand why its not "love" when terfs talk about how transmascs are their "sisters" who have been "seduced by the trans cult".
"but there are ex-transmascs in the terf community" yeah and theres also "ex-gays" running conversion camps what is your fucking point? like wow turns out indoctrination sometimes works even on people directly harmed by it. shockingly enough, internalized bigotry is a thing!!! and sometimes, people who get deep enough into that internalized bigotry can end up "benefitting" from it and hurting others with it.
idk how people suddenly forgot that "loving" abuse is a thing. yeah its not as overt and obvious as the very real and much more direct+violent shit that they do against transfems but jfc if you can recognize shit like people talking about "loving the sin and hating the sinner" or compulsory heterosexuality or teaching gay people they can be "saved" as homophobia you can recognize the efforts to spread misinfo and make transmascs hate themselves as transphobia.
you are all damn well aware there are many more types of homophobia than physical hate crimes, why is it suddenly with transmascs that it becomes "well, you arent literally being physically assaulted, sooooo guess youre not oppressed :) you have zero problems ever!!!!"
anyway unless youre gonna claim that homophobia only actually counts if its overt and obvious violence as opposed to also the subtle and insidious shit, fuck off with dismissing "loving" transphobia.
(like, not that there aint any overt and obvious shit, like we can get into the sexual assault/physical abuse statistics or healthcare discrimination and whatnot but lets start with the easy stuff here)
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susiephone · 2 months ago
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Please read this story from Vox. It’s always made me deeply uncomfortable whenever people look at queer representation that they find dissatisfactory for whatever reason and say, “A cishet person obviously wrote this” or “This is written for straight people” or “No queer people were involved here.”
Because like. You can’t know that. And saying that can be very damagng when you’re wrong.
The article is here and you should read it, but the SparkNotes version is:
we’re all familiar with the attack helicopter meme; reddit fuckheads saying “i identify as an attack helicopter” to mock trans people
trans people then proceed to reclaim the meme and undercut it by making a joke of it themselves
some time later, an author, Isabel Fall, (who is a trans woman) decides to pen a sci-fi short story about a person who does identify as an attack helicopter, in order to explore different facets of gender; internal, external, how it’s used by the public, its place in society, etc.
her story gets several reads and is nominated for an award, and then gets a massive backlash - often from people who didn’t bother to read it beyond the title
and en masse, it gets comments assuming the story was written to mock trans people and was written by a cis person
specifically, a cis man
so this trans woman who drew from her own experiences to write this story, was bombarded with angry comments and messages accusing her of being a cisgender transphobic man
she suffered a lot of gender dysphoria and had to check herself into a hospital because of it, and completely shut down her online presence and has said she’s given up on ever living or writing as Isabel Fall
Like. It wasn’t enough to force Becky Albertalli to out herself before she was ready because clearly, no queer person could’ve written Love, Simon? Now we’re just skipping to wrecking people’s lives?
You cannot be sure if someone is queer or not without forcing them to out themselves. You just cannot be sure, and it’s rude and dangerous to assume you can.
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veilchenjaeger · 4 months ago
German trans people: Ι’m so sorry. You deserve a government that supports you. Laws that don’t demean you but accept you and respect your agency, your autonomy, and your Menschenwürde.
Still, we’re moving forward. That this discussion is happening at all, that there are people in the government actively working for trans rights, that a bill like the Selbstbestimmungsgesetz got proposed and debated in the Bundestag - this proves that change is possible and that it’s happening right now.
Keep going and keep fighting! Queer and trans activism has won so many battles already. We’ll win this one too.
All Germans: This is your sign that you need to vote in the upcoming election, and it should give you a solid idea who (not) to vote for.
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lampgate · 5 months ago
Can I be honest? Maybe it's not my place to talk because I am a cis lesbian woman, but I feel like the trans Dean posts are just.. kind of offensive? Not only to Jensen but as Dean as a character. Dean isn't trans. He doesn't look trans. He grew up as a boy. I feel like making a canon cis character trans puts harmful stereotypes onto them.
"Maybe it's not my place to talk because I am a cis lesbian woman" YOU'RE RIGHT IT'S NOT YOUR PLACE TO TALK! YOU'RE NOT TRANS! This is so horrifyingly transphobic I don't even know where to begin! Like I truly don't even know how to respond to this! There's no such thing as "looking trans" and hc'ing characters as trans literally harms NOBODY. literally get the FUCK out of my ask box and block me.
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just-antithings · 2 days ago
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not censoring the url bc I feel like y’all should see how this user is doubling down
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mogaiz-heaven · 15 days ago
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bunabi · 2 months ago
the terf rhetoric of "um we're protecting womanhood and letting girls be themselves!!" is so insane to me tbh. i had a phase of being teased for ~looking like a boy~ as a kid, and that's obviously not on the same level as what trans people face, but i can't imagine how demoralizing that would have been if the school and the parents were all on board with it too. terfs say they're radicals, but there's literally nothing radical about "little girls should have Long Hair and Be Delicate and Look Ladylike," you can get that from any random conservative old person.
so true badgering women who have the 'wrong' jawline, hips, muscle density, body hair, etc isnt progressive at all just a bunch of adults with a high school bully complex :~/
it costs zero dollars to be normal and let folks live as they are, as they wanna be, or any other circumstance
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aspecpplarebeautiful · 27 days ago
What is the aro/ace exclusionist movement? What do they believe and who are they? You mentioned that terfs often use it as a stepping stone to get people to believe transphobic rhetoric, can you elaborate on that? I’ve never seen anything about this, so I’d like to be more informed about it.
What is the aro/ace exclusionist movement?
The ace/aro exclusionist movement was something that began sometime around 2015, a wave of people claiming to be part of the discourse suddenly started overtaking ace/aro spaces and tags, especially here on Tumblr. The discourse being whether or not aces and aro (though usually aces as they often forgot aros existed) should be in lgbtqia+ spaces.
Most of their arguments weren't new, a lot of what they were saying are things I've been seeing around for years. What was new was the name 'discourse' and I think also calling themselves 'exclusionist' and just the force of it. What used to be a very rare isolated comment was suddenly flooding ace/aro spaces.
What do they believe and who are they?
Instead of giving a breakdown I'm going to post the LGBTA Wiki page on this which shares a lot of their arguments and tactics they used. But basically they seemed to believe aces/aros weren't valid identities or if they were they weren't LGBTQIA+ identities.
They seemed to be a mix of people. From radfems, especially TERFS (but also a lot of SWERF rhetoric seemed to make its way into their posts), and a lot of young people who didn't know much about the community and its history seemed to be the largest groups.
You mentioned that terfs often use it as a stepping stone to get people to believe transphobic rhetoric, can you elaborate on that?
Yeah, so two parts to this. Number one is that ace/aro exclusionist rhetoric and TERF rhetoric is extremely similar to the point some arguments are almost 1 for 1.
Some examples I've seen personally:
'I just don't want cishets in lgbt spaces' vs 'i just don't want men in women's spaces'. Cishet is a common dogwhistle for ace/aro people the same way 'men' is a common dog whistle for transwomen.
'There is no A, it's just LGBT' vs 'It's 'It's LGB not LGBT.' Just like TERFs want to drop the T, and will even pretend there was never a T, or it's just a fringe movement adding it on, despite it being there for years. Ace/aro exclusionists act like the full acronym is LGBT and it's always been that way when it a. hasn't been that for years, and b. wasn't always those four letters.
'Allo is a slur' vs 'cis is a slur.' Sometimes they don't say it's a slur but will say it's disrespectful to their identity to be referred to that way.
'The LGBT community is a community about attraction and gender identity, not about if you like sex or not' vs 'The LGB community is about attraction, not about gender'.
And we have documented posts of TERFS using the ace/aro exclusionist movement to try and recruit people by pointing out how similar the rhetoric is: Here's one that was going around for a while.
But the very basics of if they can get you believing these things about one group of people, it takes very little work to convince people the same logic can apply to trans people. I'm also not sure if we know the real origins of the movement, but TERFs have definitely been a part of it since the beginning. And while a lot of ace/aro exclusionists claim to be anti-TERF, it's very rare to find a TERF who isn't also an ace/aro exclusionist.
The ace/aro exclusionist movement has definitely died down a lot here on Tumblr, they were very aggressive for a long time. The wider LGBTQ+ community has also in general caught up to them and gotten better and countering their tactics, but it was basically everywhere in 2015 and 2016. And I remember things like being on ace/aro themed discord servers and they'd join and troll, or they'd harass ace/aro blogs (including this one, though I have a block and don't interact policy). It was definitely a really difficult time for the community. They are still around, there's some tags you can find them in sometimes, though I think they're more active on sites like Twitter and TikTok where they can get away with it more. The best way to avoid them is definitely hang out in more moderated spaces.
So hopefully that gives you a bit of a rundown and covers most of the basics. If you have more questions though or want anything elaborated on, let me know.
All the best, Anon!
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wastelandbaby7 · a year ago
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If you didn't believe that Rowling is a TERF here's proof. The fact that she thinks she can talk about queer community like she's one of us makes me sick.
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field-of-sungflowers · 3 months ago
I still like Repo a lot and the fandom’s shaped uhh my whole adult life but we’re not doing this god worship of terrance zdunich nonsense
That is a trash pile of a human being
From his blog himself (not available now, but source from the wayback machine): 
(Not sure how to tag but warning for gross sexualizing of teenagers)
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and from his ex-girlfriend’s blog (source)
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daloy-politsey · 3 months ago
On my first date with Yehoram, I offered him a sip of my prosecco at the hip Tel Aviv bar I had brought him to. He tensed, paused and quietly replied, “I’m not sure if I can. I don’t know if it’s kosher.” I immediately recognized his confession for what it was: a coming-out. I told him that it’s fine, that we can ask the waitress if the wine has a certification, that I grew up in an observant family too. He finally breathed.
I already knew that Yehoram is female-to-male transgender. In fact, it was the only thing written on his dating profile. Over the course of our year-long relationship, and then our seamless transition into friendship late last year, he explained to me that the queer community will often accept that he is trans but not that he is religious. But the same is not always necessarily true of the religious community – and particularly of his family.
There are many preconceptions about his family. The matriarch Mazal, 74, and patriarch Yehiel, 78, were both born in Sana’a, Yemen, and immigrated to the newly-declared State of Israel in early childhood. (Haaretz is honoring their request not to publish the family name.) They are visibly Haredi: Mazal wears long skirts and tucks her hair into modest black caps; Yehiel trims his salt-and-pepper beard, and wears a uniform of crisp dress shirts, black pants and a black velvet kippa.
They speak with heavy Yemenite accents – which have been at least partially adopted by their seven children – and their speech is seasoned with religious aphorisms and allusions. People are surprised to learn that Yehoram, 32, is accepted and supported by his parents, to a degree that is rare even in the secular homes of Tel Aviv.
At their kitchen table in a town near Rehovot, central Israel, Mazal has set out water, juice and a homemade cake. Yehiel has set down a voice recorder of his own, to make sure he isn’t misrepresented. They have a story to tell about being the parents of a trans son, and they have decided that I am allowed to tell it.
Before we begin the interview, both are apprehensive. After much deliberation, they decide that I can publish their names but not their images. Yehiel is a respected figure in religious circles: he serves as his synagogue’s main cantor on the High Holy Days, is a mezuzah scribe and kashrut supervisor for the Chief Rabbinate. He spends his free time poring over religious texts, with Yehoram often alongside him. His son no longer attends the local synagogue in which his father plays so large a role; the congregation knew him before his transition, and it could hurt his family’s reputation.
If someone goes to the rabbi with this article in hand and tells Yehiel that he’s out of the fold, “at our age, there’s no fight left. There’s nothing you can do,” he says. “It would destroy me.” When he thinks I cannot hear him, he says that he suspects that one of his contracts as a kashrut supervisor was not renewed for this exact reason – because of his unconventional family.
But if getting his story out shows religious parents that they can embrace their own LGBTQ children, he wants it published. “I want to help,” he says.
Mazal chimes in. “Both of us do. You hear these stories about parents throwing their children out ... I don’t understand it. I don’t understand how you throw out your child.”
She recounts going to the shivah of a friend of Yehoram’s – the transgender queer activist DanVeg, who took her own life in 2016.  “I saw them all in the living room, with their heads on each other’s shoulders. I started to cry. I wanted to hug them all, to go one by one. And they came to me; they saw the look in my eye. There was a man who had become a woman, who came to hug me. And a young girl, and more. I couldn’t take it,” she says, wiping away tears that are coming faster and faster. “More and more of them told us that they’re alone, abandoned by their parents. How can you throw out your child? The child of a human being!”
I get up to hug her, and she cries into my back: “Why? Why would you throw your child out of your house? Why?”
They say they never suspected that Yehoram was different before he came out to them, if not unconventionally, as queer at the age of 18, some 14 years ago.
He did not employ the usual lexicon: “I told them, this is how I am – I’m wearing pants from now on and I’m not interested in men,” he recounts. In Yehoram’s absence, Yehiel recalls it as well. Yehoram sat his parents down in the living room and said his piece, and then asked his parents for a response.
“We got up immediately, as if it were coordinated,” Yehiel says. “We hugged [him] from both directions … and we told [him], ‘You have nothing to be afraid of, no need to worry. You’re our daughter, it doesn’t matter what you do.’” Yehoram then opened his backpack to show a couple days’ clothes inside. “If you didn’t accept me, I would have killed myself,” he told his parents.
From there, they worked to make sure that their son wouldn’t, for one moment, forget that he is loved and cared for. They also made sure that he could live a normal life. “It was important that he be self-sufficient, have a respectable career, be able to build a life without us,” Yehiel explains. “Every day, I’m afraid that he won’t be here. I think about how he can build his life so he’s not dependent on anyone else.”
Mazal and Yehiel tend to refer to Yehoram with female pronouns when he isn’t in the room, and occasionally slip into them when he is. To her, Mazal says, he will always be their daughter. “It’s hard for me,” Yehiel concurs. “[He] should be patient.”
Mazal calls him by his chosen name – an anagram of his birth name – to make him happy. “And to connect with [him] – what can you do? We love [him] either way. [He’s] our daughter.”
There have been difficulties in accepting him along the way, she concedes. But like many parents of LGBTQ children, they are mainly rooted in concerns that he will be able to live a safe, fulfilling life.
No one should mistake their acceptance for liberalism – they repeatedly note that the Pride Parades, with their scanty clothes and glitter, are unsightly. “The left brings it in,” Mazal says. “Non-Jews from abroad, with all their tattoos and whatnot.” However, their embrace of their transgender son and the many queer people who have passed through their doors does not come in spite of their firm religious beliefs, but is the direct result of them.
Yehiel, a lifelong religious scholar, has poured over sources biblical, talmudic, rabbinic and kabbalistic. The kabbalistic concept of the soul provides a simple explanation for the transgender phenomenon, he believes.
“We have the knowledge that Jewish souls can be reincarnated into anything – into non-Jewish families, into animals, even into food,” Yehiel explains. “We were taught that the soul of a man can be reincarnated into a woman, in order to remedy something he had done in a past life.”
When Mazal was pregnant with Yehoram, she had already given birth to five daughters and was hoping for a son. The couple went to a respected rabbi, who told them to buy a bottle of wine for the circumcision ceremony and to come see him 40 days into the pregnancy. Yehiel says that when the time came, it was hard to get hold of the rabbi to schedule an appointment, and they were only able to see him eight months in. The rabbi gave them the blessing regardless.
“The body was already formed female,” Yehiel says, but the prayers had worked: “The soul was male.”
And there is scripture to back up the existence of LGBTQ people within Judaism. “You’re not different, you’re not strange,” Yehiel says. “This [phenomenon] has always existed. It’s in the Torah, and it’s in the mystical sources.” Mazal adds: “It’s a shame that we don’t lay this out these days, to have everything written up and organized to say that it’s all there in scripture.”
At 26, Yehoram told his parents he was transitioning. He underwent top surgery – a double mastectomy – without informing them. “On the one hand, it hurt us,” Yehiel admits. “For us, it meant that’s it – it’s sealed. If he’d told us in advance, we would have told him to wait. Maybe the situation would change.”
But what’s done is done, Mazal says. “What hurt me is that [he] underwent the surgery and I wasn’t there. That ate at me.”
Both loudly agree that the important thing is that he is happy and healthy. “We hope just for success – and thank God there are many successes, so everything is alright,” she says. “I’m just waiting for children,” she laughs.
Yehoram, who has taken a seat next to her, smirks. Mazal jokes about him coming home pregnant one day. He’s slightly irked, but jokes along. A couple of years ago, he froze his eggs through Ichilov Hospital’s fertility clinic for transgender men, and hopes to one day become a father, no matter how he has to do it. His parents strongly supported the move. They have 31 grandchildren and two great-grandchildren.
Yehoram asks a question of his own: Whether his parents want to talk about the time they took him to an esteemed rabbi in Tel Aviv, after he came out at 18.
“After he told us everything, we consulted with a rabbi,” Yehiel relays. “I remember that he got angry and yelled at him. I didn’t like that. He hurt him, and I couldn’t stay any longer, so we left.”
“The rabbi told me that I had lapsed, deteriorated in my spirituality,” Yehoram explains. It’s clear that he remembers it vividly. “That I had fallen.”
After that, the rabbi told him to leave the room, and for his parents to stay. “I heard shouting, and then you left the room,” he says to his parents. “You didn’t say anything, I didn’t say anything. We were quiet all the way home.”
No one discussed the incident for days after, and they barely spoke at all. After three days, Yehoram says, he asked his mother what had happened after the rabbi told him to leave the room.
“I didn’t know what happened, I assumed the worst. You told me that [Dad] got very angry and told [the rabbi], ‘How dare you hurt and belittle a Jewish soul?’ You said you had to give him however much money, and that you just threw a small bill onto the table and left the room,” Yehoram tells his mother. “It really surprised me. I thought you were on his side, and then I suddenly heard that you were on mine.”
When he is with us in the room, Yehoram sometimes seems agitated by his parents’ insistence that their acceptance has always been complete. He tries to direct them toward other instances, other rabbis they don’t or won’t recall. It is often difficult for parents to acknowledge the pain or discomfort that their actions caused their children, even if they were accidental. Mazal brings out a picture from Yehoram’s bat mitzvah, of them embracing the young girl he was. They look almost exactly the same, 20 years later, beaming. Young Yehoram, in a long-sleeved, high-necked dress, is smiling, but the smile does not reach his eyes.
Elisha Alexander, co-CEO and founder of the transgender advocacy and information organization Ma’avarim, says that even though Yehiel and Mazal’s acceptance of their son may seem unique, he would like to think it’s more common than we assume.
“There are religious and even ultra-Orthodox people who accept their trans family members, but it’s usually in secret. The main problem in these communities is the leadership,” he says.
But if more of them realized that embracing their children was a matter of pikuach nefesh – the Jewish concept that saving a life supersedes most religious commandments and norms – they would be more inclined to find a halakhic solution to integrating transgender people into these communities.
There is also a misconception that acceptance is a binary choice: That any parent who does not kick their transgender child out of the house or disown them has, by default, accepted them. “This could not be further from the truth,” Alexander says. “Accepting your child means accepting every aspect inherent to them, including their gender identity, pronouns and so on.”
When parents refuse to do so, their child may seek acceptance elsewhere. He adds that studies show that acceptance within the family drastically reduces the suicide rate among transgender people.
Knowing this, Yehiel says that any parent in his position must continue loving and supporting their child. “This child can fall,” he says. He does not mention it, but he is aware of the stories and statistics: trans youth who find themselves on the street face high rates of abuse and exploitation. Thirty to 50 percent of transgender teens report suicidal thoughts and behaviors – a rate three times higher than for teens overall. But that figure falls to 4 percent when families accept and embrace them, says Sarit Ben Shimol, manager of the Lioness Alliance for families and transgender children and teenagers.
Yehiel adds that it is the duty of parents to give children the support they need to thrive. “As a parent, it is your responsibility to tell your child: You are my child and you are my life. My life depends on you. Watch over me so that I can watch over you,” he says.
As we get up from our seats, Yehiel looks at me for a moment and asks, “If it’s not too personal – since we already opened up the topic – what is your relationship like with your parents?”
I tell them that I talk to my parents, and especially my mother, almost every day. That it was difficult for them to come to terms with my sexual orientation as well, and that sometimes I have an inkling that it still is, even if they won’t say it outright. But I try to be patient.
“Good,” Mazal says. “It’s important to be patient – they’re learning too.” She embraces me again, and Yehiel rests a hand on my shoulder. They invite me to come again, whenever I like. “After all, you’re like our daughter, too.”
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lampgate · 5 months ago
i love how like. a ton of the takeaway that bitter cis people are getting out of trans dean truthing is "BUT HE ISN'T ACTUALLY IN CANON!!" okay yeah. we fucking know that. he is intended to be a cis character because that's what we are used to.
besides, do u really think i believe kripke and singer can pull off a good trans narrative within supernatural? absolutely not. but I can pull off a good trans narrative because I AM TRANS. I am allowed to see myself in this character and trans people are allowed to feel connected to something, whether or not you are comfortable with it. It's not for cis people to share their opinion on because it's not for you. If you are uncomfortable with trans people existing in a place that you want to gatekeep, maybe figure out your issues on your own rather than making trans people hear your transphobia-laced complaints about it.
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niceferatu · 4 days ago
literally horrifying that some cunt can write a couple of children's books and become one of the richest and most influential transphobes in the world
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