#it took me forever to find that video

[hollandaya96]

From the first video we have of them…

To this…

❤️

#tomdaya #tomdaya 1.0 #tom holland #zendaya #I guess I will find any excuse to post this photo #it took me forever to find that video #it was on my old iPad #lol #still don’t know how we got here

[hongjoshuaz]

#seventeen #svtdaily #svtsource #svtcreations #svt #joshua #joshua hong #snow.gifs #userngocchi #userzaynab #apologies for the poor quality #if you look at it for a long time or from a distance it looks fine #don't look very close #anyways #he really is a man with a big heart #literally and figuratively #this video took me forever to find

[inkskinned]

i both firmly believe that self-diagnosing saved my life and i think that the way tiktok and instagram have recently been spreading misinformation about mental illness/neurodivergence is incredibly harmful.

people who are looking for answers are already people who are in a vulnerable situation.

much of the misinformation appears logically sound; and is presented as definitive fact (prefaced with claims such as "research shows"). it's imperative we remember correlation does not prove causation. it is incredibly dangerous to make definitive statements like "if X happened in your childhood, you now Z as an adult." real scientists will almost always use may or other less-definitive terms. similarly, equating one behavior/experience with any single condition is also unsafe. many conditions have overlapping symptoms; and many people "mask" their key symptoms, even to themselves.

we cannot discern from a singular data point any conclusion. in official diagnosis, for a behavior/experience to be considered a symptom, it must significantly influence your life. many people enjoy an organized space. that is a preference. disrupting your daily life even at personal cost in order to prioritize organization is more likely a symptom.

again, a single data point is not an effective diagnostic tool. it is necessary and important work to catalogue and consider all unwanted/distressing behaviors in order to understand a complete picture of the person.

i will see creators in paid partnerships make generalized behavioral/emotional claims that apply to a large portion of a community, and then they will suggest that the "solution" to that behavior is through their paid partner/through their personal support. "follow for more psych tips/facts" is an incredibly evil marketing tactic. i very rarely see unpartnered/unbranded content on how to aid/comfort those behaviors and feelings.

much of the misinformation employs a subtle technique (called confirmation bias) of setting up a conclusion before "proving" the conclusion. "you know you have X when you experience A,B, and C." no person's experience of their conditions/behaviors will look exactly the same as another's. while knowing certain things might be a sign/symptom of a condition, it is irresponsible to consider it definitive.

confirmation bias is unfortunately extremely effective on tiktok specifically. the algorithm will notice that you interacted longer with the video that "proves" (through a singular video) that you "have" a condition. it will continue to feed you related videos that further confirm what you believe.

this is dangerous because we are, unfortunately, not good at knowing ourselves. i did not know it was unusual to vividly nightmare every night; i didn't consider it a symptom. i was similarly dismissive also of any other signs of my PTSD - i incorrectly assigned them to anxiety/adhd. on the small scale, this can mean a longer journey to healing. on the larger scale, it can mean people with extremely difficult situations are unable to get the help they need.

please, if you can, and you're looking to self-diagnose: be careful about what you assume about yourself. try to keep an honest journal of what you're thinking/feeling/doing for a few days.

do not go in with an assumption. try to keep an open mind. i think we all "suspect" we have something - but like i said, i completely missed my own PTSD symptoms, because i suspected the ADHD the most, and only "saw" those symptoms.

do your own research. if the tiktok says "research shows", google that research. figure out who paid for that research. do further research related to that study - has it ever been repeated? is it peer reviewed? do other researchers seem to accept it as conclusive?

if you feel you really resonate with the materials of one person's experience with a condition, find other examples. see if you relate to other creators who identify similarly.

and please - please do not stop once you come to a conclusion. i fully believe that the diagnostic process should be seen as a first step, not a destination. by knowing what you might be struggling with, you gain an incredibly powerful tool on how to gain peace with that condition.

if you feel yourself emotionally respond to a tiktok/etc that suggests something that might be true about yourself, i'm glad you had that experience. but it's also important to not relax into the "easy" answer. interrogate it. start googling what else that could mean; what ways you could work on healing that wound.

healing does not "belong" to any one condition. i want you to begin to look into healing no matter if you have "proven" you have a condition or not. it is never selfish to practice responsible self-care. even if you don't relate to having adhd, you are not harming me by using adhd-inspired study tips. it is not making my condition worse for you to seek peace by asking for more time on tests. even if it was - the fault would be with the system, not in your need of something the system makes inaccessible.

remind yourself that everything you experience is real. and because it is real, it is complicated. while things might be related - even sometimes clearly related - a stranger on the internet cannot make that discernment for you. you as a person deserve the work, attention, and care that goes into the process of unravelling the harm that has been done to you.

it makes me very, very upset to see how popular these videos have become, because they're so irresponsible. and they clearly are targeting a vulnerable group. for example, making generalized claims about children of unloving caretakers is targeting those who have experienced neglect. there is no way to use 30 second videos to correctly analyze what that neglect might have caused in your adult life. i'm sorry, but it's snake oil.

i know it is so powerful soothing to recognize that you aren't broken. that others exist like you out there. i want every person looking for answers to find their answer. i want you to feel seen and heard and understood. i want you to find your community.

i just want it to happen safely.

#every time i write this im like #i just want to say a short thing about this #and every time it ends up being 12 pages long #but since it keeps happening #and i keep seeing shit like this... #this isn't even everything i feel about this #i hope this is clear like #what im saying is #NOT ''you don't have it if u selfdiagnose'' #it's instead.... #you might!!! just don't let 1 or 2 videos confirm it!! #also!!! don't assume that symptom A belongs to condition X!! #even as someone who did eventually get diagnosed like #i still find myself being like - oh that's my adhd #only to figure out 12 hours later. nope that was a panic attack #also none of those videos are about how to HELP the behavior #also this doesn't talk about getting a therapist eventually but please get professional help if you can #it took me fucking forever tho #what im saying is that in the meantime #u can heal now #this is too long im posting it on a sunday so nobody reads it

[warpquark]

fuck it *makes a mash fancam*

#mashblr plz find this it took forever #1 minute and 16 seconds of me curing my mashdepression #mash 4077 #mash #mash4077 #hawkeye pierce #bj hunnicutt #m a s h #video #fancam #edit #margaret houlihan #frank burns #charles winchester #sherman potter #henry blake #max klinger #father mulcahy

[gavidaily]

Gavi + Pablo Torre

#Gavi #Pablo Gavi #Pablo Torre #gaviedit #*gavi+ #the pablos of fcb <3 #anon dearest #sorry this took forever but it was difficult to find videos #sorry for being mia this week #be patient w me i'm going through a break up #i'll be alright it's just a thousand cuts #hope you all are alright and taking care #it's matchday tomorrow yay! #let's hope for a win cause we need it

[leonsliga]

Jo and Leon’s thank you message for We Kick Corona (X)

#this was literally their sexiest era and you can’t change my mind #they both look SO good in green and their hair was just extra fluffy and their eyes were sparkling in the video and I- 🥵😮‍💨 #side note: it took me fucking FOREVER to find this video but it was SO worth it #been finding a lot of gems on my deep-dives lately…stay tuned :) #kimetzka #kimmetzka #leoshua #joshua kimmich #leon goretzka #fc bayern munich #fc bayern münchen #fc bayern #videos

[lunastyrs]

Floyd doesn’t care that the cops are getting called

#twisted wonderland #I can’t draw but had to share #Floyd version #i couldn't help myself #twst #twst floyd #floyd leech #Took me forever to find the video #It wasn’t even the right one but close enough #twst port fest

[anothermonikan]

Ayo this you??

Context uH

A friend threw me into the uni discord and I was looking around to see if someone played Rain World (no results D:) BUT then your thingo came up ultrakill and I was like..mmm close enough

And then your only post was a Tumblr link

And the cogs in my brain were turning real hard and It took so much scrolling to find that video on the tag but LiKe

Hello???? You like robot??? Machine??? Have you heard of Rain World?? Massive city sized semi-organic supercomputer???

^^^ Live footage of me reading this ask on a tumblr break from my work

...Needless to say I'm never posting a tumblr embed in a discord server again ^^;

but yeah. hi! What I post on this blog stays here, no one outside of here and my immediate friend group knows about my little weirdo blog, welcome to the club! wahhahsdhshsasah

I've never heard of Rain World up until now! I did mayhaps. took a little peak through your blog. and looked at the steam page for the game and it definitely looks right up my alley, I don't know why I hadn't heard about it up until now!

I'll definitely have to check it out at some point! I'm trying (and failing miserably) to save towards smth right now, so mayhaps after the term ends ^^;

Thanks for the (Insane, I was literally sitting in the library head on hands after reading it) ask!

#I think you might have sent me a message??? A while ago??? #I ignored it because of the immediate lack of context...I've heard some stuff about clicking messages like that ^^; #I don't talk all that often on the discord server....but between you and me I've been thinking about posting in the tf2 channel #I don't play competitive BUT I do play casual. a lot. #That ultrakill video really must of took forever to find it was all the way back in September ^^; #I'm kinda running out of things to say wahhhh. uh. I reblog and post about Ultrakill a lot here. and other things. like liking computers #Stick around if you want :thumbsup: or whatever. wahsashasdhashasyasho8hosad #Android Answers #Android.txt #Okay I just checked maybe I'm misremembering the message I get an unbelievable amount of bot spam #asjsajdsjsd

[mattodore]

I adore your sims and the way you create narratives. They're all wonderful and your style is so gorgeous. I was wondering if you had any recommendations for more realistic details, like scars, cuts, burns, just any sort of thing along those lines. Finally gave in to the urge to ask after seeing your post captioned "Family Lineage".

Your sims are so alive, the last sim is so cool and i love how you embrace features.

Do you have go-to creators for those sort of details, or are there any sliders or any specific cc pieces you recommend? I'm not sure what to really call those sort of features, 'imperfections' doesn't feel right to me, they are a part of oneself and they deserve love too! So I hope this makes sense?

I love creating stories and making ocs. I want to bring more diversity into my sims. I hope you have a wonderful day sorry if this is a lot and thankyou so much in advance if you decide to help out, take care <3

first off, thank you for being so kind. i do spend a lot of time toiling away in cas when i'm making sims, so i appreciate you for saying that. just a lot of love from me to you <3

okay, so as for recommendations... i'll just start this off by saying that my skin details folder alone is 45gb... so. there's honestly too much for me to rec everything, but i've got my mods folder open right now so i'll just go through the main contributors here.

this got a little long so i'll put a little read more here to save the mobile users some grief fkhnkfjh

as just like a general baseline for cc, i'd download everything from @obscurus-sims, @sims3melancholic, @ddarkstonee, and @northernsiberiawinds. these are my favorite skin detail creators and i promise you every single sim i make is guaranteed to have at least one piece of their cc on. i won't mention them in the recs from here on out, but they all have some of what you're looking for!!

then i'd download the color slider mod before getting into the actual skin details themselves, because there's still a lot of cc that doesn't have appropriate color swatches for darker skintones and i have to use the color slider mod more than i'd like in order to get scars or other cc of that nature looking right.

now okay, so for realism i'd say you're going to want to download wrinkles, eyebags, veins, body overlays, and facial structure overlays. most of my realism cc is from faaeish....... but well. you know what happened there. i don't know if there's an archive of all their old cc, but if there is you'll want to download decades, chubby cheeks, and structure. nolansims, gerbitshi (nesurii), and simulationcowboy have some good wrinkle cc! and i really like using okruee's misc. skin detail cc for the last few swatches which add wrinkles. nell has some face veins i like to use on my older sims to add to the look of thinning skin as they age. sammi-xox and moonchildlovesthenight are for body overlays—so like, if you have a fat sim with a skin on that you like but the skin is just, like, supernaturally jacked for no reason, you can use one of their overlays to fix that. thank god. my facial structure folder is full of remussirions' blushes and contours as well as goppolsme and nesurii!! marigolde and mari have good stretchmark cc. OH!!! and download acne cc! breezytrait's acne scar cc is actually REALLY good for giving the effect of pores and aging skin. i used it on matthias's father!

as for scars, burns, birthmarks, etc.! with scars i just googled scar cc and downloaded everything even if the previews looked bad lmao. but nell is my main creator for scars. they make the best scar cc hands down and i might be misremembering, but i'm pretty sure their scar cc works very well with the color slider mod. pyxis and redearcat also are all over my scars folder. if you've seen alessandria, she's literally covered in redearcat's scar cc. mintyowls has really good eyebags and birthmark overlays. adelarsims and pinkpatchy have some body prosthetics and limb mesh edits i like, though they're not very functional </3

almost forgot to look at my presets but i believe nv-games will have what you're looking for in terms of any larger scars. WAIT. sorry, i'm only just now looking at this but if you saw my tags on that last post ignore them!! matthias's father actually uses nv-games' eye preset! i totally thought it was [redacted] who made it. but anyway, nv-games also has more presets that you should look into as well. they have really unique cc. love them fr.

onto face sliders!! i don't have a ton so i can just post a pic of the folder for you. just kidding totally didn't realize that the screenshot showed the sliders i have from [redacted] so pretend you didn't see that.

based on the nature of your ask tho, i'm definitely gonna recommend the face asymmetry slider by luumia (i like to use this veeeery subtly but go wild with it if you want), the esotropia and exotropia slider by obscurus as well as their eyebrow slider which allows you to disrupt the symmetry of them, the thicc slider by hiland which adds fat under the chin, the mouth scale slider by teanmoon for bigger and fuller lips bc fr what was ea thinking with their lip slider, and dani-paradise's cheek slider!

#river dipping #asks #anonymous #keep #resources #wcif #...? just gonna use this tag in case anyone else is looking around my blog to find some recs tho this isn't really a wcif #also while answering this i realized there's two other messages in my inbox that i just completely missed bc of all the spam #that i got the other day which i still haven't cleaned out....... i'm so sorry fdjhbdkjgfnhjkdfhg WILL GET TO THOSE SOON I PROMMY #i wish i could be more thorough but i'm so serious my skin details folder is crazy kjfdhnkdjfgnh olli's seen it like. i'm v serious abt it #i really wanna sit down and just record a video of me making a sim to show how i do it since i've been asked abt it before.... #i really don't think i do anything crazy it's just that i layer a lot and i fill out every single slot i can #anyway this took forever to answer soz

[la-bruja]

(x)

#this took me fucking forever to find. the tiktok search function is almost as bad as tumblr #thinking thoughts #tikok #video

[duchess-of-mischief]

This is easily one of my favorite moments in the whole show just watch Nick’s face and you’ll agree

#turtle’s tangents #Heartstopper #nick nelson #charlie spring #it took me forever to find a YouTube video with this clip in it

[vague-humanoid]

@midians-world

#took me forever to find this video again

[akkivee]

Could I please have the link to the bat debut livestream? Thank you!

it’s uploaded on hypster fc if you’re a member!!!! if you hit menu➡️hpnm➡️archive it should be on page two!!!!

if not, the only link i have is this one, which comes with about 10 minutes of extra stuff before the vid starts to throw off whatever dmca rules are out there in the seasian region lmao but doesn’t include the last half of the stream that i was talking about a few days ago. you can find most of that here but it ends before it gets to the good part unfortunately (bb seiyuu suffering lol) so jOin hYPsTeR FC—

#vee got an ask #pls absorb how cute they are in this stream lmao #i used to inhale that link for breakfast after they took down the videos from niconico yet it took me forever to find it again lol 😭😭😭 #so sorry for the wait 🙇‍♀️ #no but really PLS ABSORB HOW CUTE THE BAT SEIYUU ARE OF COURSE YOU STAN AT FIRST SIGHT 😭😭😭😭😭😭

[leondxs]

THE FRUITS OF MY LABOR PAID OFF

#{ this is part of the first video } #{ it took me forever to finally find out how to get the paper like this and I’m so happy with the result } #||❧ нανє уσυ нєαя∂ σƒ тнє нιgн єℓνєѕ? ;; ooc ☙||

[leonsliga]

I’m going feral, I’ve been looking for that Leon driving video (which you gifed) for ageeeees and I can’t find it anywhere

Fear not, anon, for you have come to the right place! The video’s down below:

And if you’re looking for the full documentary, I’ll link it here as well: (X). The Leon scenes are kinda scattered throughout, but the timestamps for his appearances are roughly 5:33, 20:05, 22:34, 28:54, 31:29, 44:52, 47:26, 54:20, 1:00:49, 1:03:15, and 01:05:41 :) happy watching!!

#anon 💖 #it took me FOREVER to find this video and I’ll be damned if that work was in vain 😂 #leon goretzka #my asks #football asks #videos

[lonelybitchversion]

taylor swift coat of arms emblem

my version of the coat of arms emblem ✨️ as seen in the lover video, the second "not a lot going on at the moment" post, the mini wine bottle in the anti-hero mv.. I tried my besties🩷

the emblem is also available for embroidery on our bags, the ribbon, and the zipper pouch 🫶🏻

#taylor swift #does this count as an edit??? #i mean i did make it #tsedit #i did this in illustrator... a frenemy of mine #there was some screaming and pleading involved #i made the video all cute so you're seeing it again #the newbies might not even know this exists #tswiftedit #it took me forever because i couldnt find the original version i made only the embroidery version #which is a mess so the machine could read it how i want #this takes 40 minutes to embroider... as a patch