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[bethanydelleman]

AITA for going to dinner with my husband?

u/BoyMom4ever

I am a devoted mother (F24) to two boys (M4, M2), I spend all my time caring for them while my husband hunts or rides around in his ciricule. I cannot even drop them off with my mother-in-law because she always gives them far too many sweets! So when I was invited to a dinner at my in-laws, I really wanted a nice break for myself.

Unfortunately, my eldest fell out of a tree and dislocated his collar bone the day before the dinner. I was at his side day and night, luckily he has been recovering quickly and there is no damage to the spine. Thank God.

However, when it was time to go to the dinner, my husband said that he would go and that I should stay with our son! I could not see why a father can leave an ill child but not the mother. I said that I wanted to go too, but then he started on this sexist "mother's domain is nursing" routine and really wanted to leave me behind. We have a nursemaid and the dinner was only a short walk away! He would have been fine.

My sister offered to stay with my son, he is her nephew after all, so my husband and I both went to dinner. However, I felt like my MIL was judging me the whole time, even though she sends her children out to school, which I would never do. And of course, my eldest is doing great! Back to running around. AITA for going to dinner?

Top Comment:

u/PrettyInPink You are so valid for going to that dinner. How dare your husband tell you to stay home when you've already been nursing your son all day! He's probably the type that says he's "babysitting" when he watches his own kids.

I'm sure your sister sees how unfairly he is treating you, I'm so glad to hear that she stepped up to help. What a great sister!

NTA

u/BoyMom4ever This makes me feel so much better. Thank you. And I have a chronic illness on top of being a mom, so it's really hard for me right now. My husband really doesn't help enough at all and it's so hard for me.

AITA Masterpost

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[firawren]

Mary Musgrove energy:

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[showmethesneer]

Mary: Captain Wentworth said you were so altered he should not have known you again.

Anne, internally:

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[sisistringer]

Mia McKenna-Bruce as Mary Musgrove in Persuasion 2022

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[gifshistorical]

PERSUASION (2022)

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[nasty-bog-boy]

one thing i find funny (but probably shouldn't) about persuasion is that jane austen writes herself into a bit of a corner with regards to louisa musgrove and to get herself out of it she gives louisa permanent brain damage !!!!!!!!

wentworth himself admits all of the flirting prior to the fall has made everyone think theyre engaged (and possibly louisa thinks so too) and so he cannot pursue anne like he truly wants too because he won't jilt lousia.

and obviously jane austen needs to find a way for this couple to face obstacles but also end up together, so when shes got everyone convinced there something between wentworth and louisa she gives louisa a massive head injury that permanantly alters her behaviour. at the end of the novel charles musgrove tells anne that ever since her accident and coma louisa hates loud noises and twitches about and needs to be soother by captain benwick. obviously now we can read that as brain damage from her huge head injury.

idk theres just something so extreme about jane austen's most romantic and melancholy novel about reuniting with your lost love also featuring brain damage as a plot device to break up a potential relationship!!!!!! its bananas to me!

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[violaobanion]

MARY MUSGROVE’S OUTFITS in Persuasion (2022), requested by anonymous

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[comicaloverachiever]

The Elliots being an awful family to Anne | Persuasion (1995)

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[jaeausten]

Mary Musgrove’s Costumes in Persuasion 2007 (requested by anonymous).

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[bethanydelleman]

I just watched Persuasion (2022) and I am beyond upset. I watched it with my parents so I had to sit through the entire thing. They don't know much about the Regency Era and they haven't watched any other period dramas so they think that piece of trash is actually a good adaptation.

"He's a ten and I don't trust a ten." WTF?????? Persuasion is my favourite Austen novel and the way they literally ruined Anne is sick.

What was your first reaction to watching it? I wish I could wash all of it away. Any words of comfort that will hopefully cleanse my mind?

I'm so happy you sent this because I've been working up a little rant.

The reason Anne is so wrong, with her near hatred of her own family, rolling her eyes at the camera, the fact that they gave her masculine leaning clothes even, is that Book! Anne Elliot is the poster girl for the unseen, unacknowledged, and underappreciated labour of women.

There is something very fundamental to women's experiences from Austen's time to ours (and I'm sure before) where women do the dirty, mindless, emotional, and unpaid labour that keeps our whole society rolling and get zero credit. And yeah, it's getting better but this problem IS NOT FIXED. Now Anne is upper class so she's not mopping the floor, but this is her experience. Anne plays piano without thanks because without her no one can dance. Anne watches the sick kid so her sister can go to a party. Anne smooths over all the little arguments so that the family can function. She visits sick friends (lifted right out of the movie). She gives and gives and gives of herself and she's "just Anne". Because nothing she does is showy or important in the eyes of the world even though it is vital.

One of the worst scenes in Persuasion 2022 (I mean it's hard to pick there are so many), is how Mary basically manipulates Anne into staying back with little Charles. In the book, Anne clearly has the idea first and offers. In the movie, Mary has the idea and Anne rolls her eyes and groans before offering.

No!

Anne in the book is constantly giving of herself without complaint. Also, she does not want to see Wentworth for the first time! It's going to be painful for her, so she does something selfless but also spares herself from distress.

In that scene in 2022, Anne is a doormat giving in to her ridiculous sister. She also deeply regrets not going to dinner. In that scene in the book, Anne is a compassionate sister who after first attempting to reconcile Mary to her duty, offers to take over. She makes the choice of her own volition and she doesn't regret it.

She knew herself to be of the first utility to the child; and what was it to her if Frederick Wentworth were only half a mile distant, making himself agreeable to others?

It's this complex and emotional scene that was just ruined.

The triumph of Anne Elliot is not just getting Wentworth back, it is that people begin to see and acknowledge her labour and value. The Musgroves are absolutely devoted to her after she helps Louisa. Wentworth sees her worth and declares it in front of everyone. One of the best moments in the book is:

"but if Anne will stay, no one so proper, so capable as Anne."

SHE IS FINALLY SEEN! And valued, and loved! Not romantically (though that too) but because everyone (except Sir Walter and Elizabeth) finally realize how much they need her. The woman who stayed back from a dinner party to nurse a sick child becomes the person they need in a crisis. She goes from the last thought of to the first. In Anne, the necessity of women's labour is finally recognized.

Persuasion 2022 DESTROYED that, and it's infuriating.

Everything else sucks too. To finally give us the scene where Wentworth takes the kid off of Anne but then make him call her stupid? Gah! I was cringing so hard it was painful.

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[mametupa]

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[quotes-and-recs]

My ranking of Jane Austen's 6 novels before and after reading them

Before:

Pride and Prejudice I've read this many times, so I know I love it. And I think it's the general favorite among Jane Austen's readers (that, or maybe Emma) so I expect it to remain my favorite.

Sense and Sensibility Maybe it's just the title & the two main characters being sisters, but this one feels a lot like Pride and Prejudice to me, so I think I'll like it a lot.

Persuasion I really like the premise of the novel, and honestly, that's all I've got to say about that one.

Emma I think this one is the second most popular, so I expect to like it, but also I don't generally like characters like Emma (or characters that I presume Emma to be like) so we'll see.

Mansfield Park I'm actually most of the way through this one (whoops) so this is probably where it'll be after I've read them all, but we'll see. I like it, but it's not quite as dramatic or romantic as I imagined it would be.

Northanger Abbey Kind of like with Emma, I just don't expect to like Catherine Morland. I'm already shuddering with second hand embarrassment for her. I expect my opinion will change once I've actually read the book, though.

After under the cut

After:

Pride and Prejudice I love all of the characters in this and I really love all of the settings, too. I feel the most transported when I read this one.

Persuasion This one felt the most gentle to me. The most anxiety I had was when Louisa had her accident. It was a smooth read and I really love Captain Wentworth and Anne. (I also love how the Musgroves love Anne more than Mary.)

Mansfield Park I liked Fanny more than I thought I would, I really liked Susan, and I enjoyed hating Mrs. Norris. When I finished this, I liked it, but I didn't really have any strong feelings about it. Now that I've let it marinate in my brain, though, I like it more and more every day

Northanger Abbey I adore Henry Tinley and Catherine. Henry is probably my favorite of Austen's heroes. I felt like I was in Bath with them. I really liked this as I was reading it, but almost immediately after I forgot what made me like it so much.

Emma I did not like Emma--not the story or the character. I can see why people like it and her (I didn't dislike her as much at the end), in the same way I can see why people like Sense and Sensibility. But it just wasn't my cup of tea.

Sense and Sensibility I was really surprised and kind of dismayed that I didn't like this one. I didn't have any strong feelings about the characters, settings, or events. It was incredibly boring to me.

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[gifshistorical]

Mia McKenna-Bruce as Mary Musgrove · Persuasion (2022)

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[wandering-jana]

The Mary Musgrove, a Savannah River ferry, named for a British/Muskogean-Creek woman who was an early interpreter and trader in what became Georgia and the Carolinas.

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[yesimahopelessromantic]

If Mary Elliot Musgrove has 1000 fans. I am one of them. If Mary Elliot Musgrove has 100 fans. I am one of them. If Mary Elliot Musgrove has 10. I am one of them. If Mary Elliot Musgrove has 1 fan. I am the one.

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