#narcissistic damage

[cowboycostume]

I just hope to God that we are right when we say: 'I love you' [youtube]

#m.amv #spnamvarchive #spn amv #supernatural #deancas #destiel #dean winchester #song: ghost stories #artist: the narcissist cookbook #spoken word #destiel amv #this one was such a doozy #honestly i am so sorry for the emotional pain i have/will inflict with this #ty to lu and bec and rennie and linds and the diner crew for beta watching this and gaining pre-emptive psychic damage #anyway yeah. i'm still making amvs just. not with the insane fervor of 2021 #also fuck engagement i'm posting at 4am <3

[grunge-samurai]

*watching Dune for the first time, when this scene comes up*

Me, having a strained relationship with my psychologically abusive, narcissistic father, who has never spent time bonding with me, nor has he emotionally supported me once throughout my lifetime:

#dune #dune 2021 #denis villeneuve #film #frank herbert #sci fi #science fiction #timothée chalamet #oscar isaac #paul atreides #leto atreides #house atreides #father son relationship #healthy masculinity #positive masculinity #dysfunctional family #narcissistic father #strained relationship #emotional damage

[npdvelvette]

knowing that nothing will ever be enough for me. no matter how much attention or success i get, it’ll only temporarily satisfy the emptiness. i need more and more every time, which gets to a point where that’s impossible to achieve. even when i get what i want it’s not good enough, now i don’t want it. i’ll always be chasing after something better, where others would be content

#it’s so miserable and it damages me & my relationships so badly #actually npd #npd vent #actually narcissistic #cluster b #npd #npd thoughts #actually cluster b #npd safe #cluster b pd #npd things #narc posting

[theotherrichardpapen]

(love is a mirror. in it you see nothing except your reflection. you see nothing except your real face)

hannibal - nbc // wuthering heights - emily bronte //  mirror traps - hera lindsay bird  //  the selected plays - helene cixous   // two children in a motel - ethel cain   // my cousin rachel - daphne du maurier  

#straight up posting this on the sideblog even though i told myself i'd wait until the account issues were fixed because i'm impatient 😎 #and it's been in drafts for 2 weeks now so have this #file this one under posts that would inflict irreparable psychic damage on gregory read if he saw them #him: they're not gay ! #me: haha get web weaved idiot #i dont know if this even makes any sense but it does to me okay. my mind just goes [REDACTED] everytime i think about them #and their dynamic . so poorly explored in the film by greghead #recently rediscovered the earlyrise cover of 'narcissistic cannibal' and my love for it. not necessarily a them song exactly #but a vibe for alex nonetheless i think #like minds #murderous intent #like minds 2006 #nigel colbie #alex forbes #nigel colbie x alex forbes #tom sturridge #eddie redmayne #web weaving #quotes #literature

[mooncalf87]

Moon rant 'o the day: Charlie Morningstar hate rant (don't cancel me this is jist my opinion)

Honestly, what the hell makes Charlie think she is capable of helping people to be better? She is THEE Princess of HELL, as far as she knows, she could be more vile and cruel then any sinner down there. She was born and raised in hell, wtf gives her the idea that she is so perfect?? And honestly I feel like her methods are just gonna make sinners worse. She hurts them emotionally, crosses firmly set boundaries, and doesn't seem to respect what anyone else thinks, always doing things her way.

Vaggie was hiding an extremely traumatic event from her, because she didn't wanna talk about it??? Oh yeah Charlie that is 100% your invitation to guilt trip her about it once you find out 😁 you're an AMAZZINGGG partner. I bet half thr reason Vaggie never told her was cause Charlie probably didn't give a shit enough about someone other then herself to ask Vag about her past.

She only ever seems to care about HERSELF, and making HERSELF look good to Hell and Heaven. She doesn't seem to give two shits about Angel or Pentious, or anyone else in the hotel for that matter. She never even called her father until she wanted something from him, and then only seems interested in his presence if it benefits her hotel and shit.

#i dont like charlie if you couldn't tell #shss fine ig #but #she seems really narcissistic #and she is DEFINITELY a guilt tripper #that bitch started crying after angel got beat up??? #“oh no! angel! i caused you ti get physically and emotionally damaged! im gonna cry now so you feel like its all your fault 😇😙” #seriously wtf is wrong with her #anyways #dont cancel me this is an opinion #hazbin hotel #charlie hazbin hotel #charlie #hazbin hotel charlie #charlotte #charlie morningstar #hazbin charlie

[mokkkki]

i know this is a personal ask, so theres no pressure to answer, just something im curious ab lol. i was wondering what type of relationship you had with your parents cz im reading swte (wonderful writing btw) and i can really relate to your descriptions of orion as a toxic narcissistic dad as somebody who had one lol.

this IS a personal ask how dare u. im falling to the floor w the audacity. never show ur grey circle face and stupid shiny sunglasses on my dash ever again.

in all seriousness, i hope youve healed from whatever paternal trauma youve faced <3 and thank you for the kind words. my relationship with my parents has its ups and downs. we love and hate and support and dislike and care and annoy and miss each other as all families do.

#asks 🍡 #swte #parents #tbh this was quite deep but it made me get introspective #HOWEVER i have had a close bond with a damaged narcissist and let me tell you that was terrible

[dennisboobs]

we do a little ranting in the tags, as a treat.

#i think a good portion of the fanbase would benefit from never using the word 'narcissist' again #every time i see people claiming with complete sincerity that dennis is a narcissist i go monke mode #the word youre looking for is VAIN. vanity to cover a deep insecurity and mask his actual feelings #any narcissistic traits he possesses are learned from his mother and not inherent. #that's why dee shares them and why he 'confusingly' doesn't fit the mould for a cut and dry NPD diagnosis #begging y'all to look up what happens when narcissist mothers raise golden child sons specifically #den's approval-seeking behaviour is masked by his vanity. he needs others to see him as desirable or he loses his worth #reddit bros and armchair psychologists on the wiki trying to fucking dx him with all kinds of personality disorders i hate to tell you this #but trauma is a hell of a thing. and dennis is not a cartoonishly evil caricature of a narcissist. he's a deeply fucking damaged guy. #not that the two are mutually exclusive. but.

[funkervogt]

This is like the only site that doesnt completely mask off demonize NPD its so crazy this constant throwing around of the term narcissist like Is Your Mom A Narcissist? How to Avoid Narcissists. How to diagnose everyone you don't like in your life with Narcissism. The existence of the colloquial term Narcissistic Abuse. And its funny they never say NPD. Thats not their buzzword. Its an issue of nobody taking accountability. Oh you did something that broke my boundary so im diagnosing you with Evil And Unfixable Disorder. (They dont know about neuroplasticity) Yes sure its treatment resistant but that doesnt mean that every case is unfixable and no one with npd will ever be aware of their disorder. Becuase part of the fucking problem is everyrhing online is How To Deal With Evil Narcissistic Parents or Boyfriend or whatever and there is like no education on its core causes and onset that is presented with empathy and understanding and ways to heal. Ive seen someone diagnosed+self aware+healing say it feels like you're sick inside. It feels horrible. It develops in childhood as a defense mechanism. Thats all it is and it makes sense. The core of it is shame and everything is built around it to defend against it and control what triggers it. It hurts others because that's what mental illness does. It's so complicated. It destroys your relationships. People are not required to stay with you when you are doing very real damage to them. The thing is that THERE IS HEALING for npd, but there's so much fucking stigma that finding out how is almoat impossible and you just get told you're evil forever with no cure and everyone should stay away from you forever to protect themselves and you deserve to be alone forever. When one of the keys to healing is always self compassion. Search NPD on instagram explore and tell me how thats possible to even begin to foster with all this buzzword shit out there. Ok. Whatever. Hi. Infographics when u tell them u have bpd vs infographics when u tell them u have npd

#Disclaimer ive never been diagnosed with anything and dont claim to have anything #Im genuinely just weirdly passionate about cluster b personality disorders. Maybe its because i lightly relate to some of the traits. #It doesn't really matter to me. I just think people need to be understanding of difficult and abrasive mental disorders. #And those with disorders need to learn to healthily be aware of any damage they cause so they can begin to heal. Etc #This is mostly because NARCISSIST is youtubes and instagrams latest buzzword to pin on anyone whos being mean to you

[arbor-et-um]

just to be clear this blog believes any human has the capacity to abuse another human and that being narcissistic has nothing to do with it. it could be helpful context to know that your abuser is struggling with npd as well, but if you assume someone's going to be abusive just because they have npd you're actually Ableist As Fuck

#not that this should be a hot take #i have been abused by narcissists so i dont want any shit for this either #I understand the damage another human being can do to a human being #k #i promise being an abuser is a character trait that they developed separate from their disorder

[regicidal-defenestration]

["Perhaps a city is a living thing. Each city has its own personality, after all. Los Angeles is not Vienna. London is not Moscow. Chigaco is not Paris. Each city is a collection of lives and buildings and it has its own personality."

"So?"

"So, if a city has a personality, maybe it also has a soul. Maybe it dreams." End ID]

[This city sleeps / And it sleeps deeply / Drawing long heavy breaths you might mistake for the growl of traffic / Or the groan of machinery / And when it dreams, / The empty streets swell with figments of its dreaming / Like you / Like me. End ID]

["If the city was dreaming," he told me, "then the city is asleep. And I do not fear cities sleeping, stretched out unconscious around their rivers and estuaries, like cats in the moonlight. Sleeping cities are tame and harmless things." End ID]

The Sandman #51 / i think i'm going to leave my phone at home tonight

#was going to look for an eskew quote to put in here too but then i read the ep30 transcript and caused myself too much emotional damage #anyway Do You See What I'm Saying? #the narcissist cookbook #the sandman

[feral-radfem]

You will never make me feel bad for people with narcissistic personality disorder.

You aren't born with that disorder. It is an act of choice to be selfish and dissuade your empathy and to pin your poor behavior on some obscure thing that happened in your past. Plenty of people tell narcissists they're being bad people who are hurting others and they don't care.

Even if it was completely out of their control: if you lack the ability to feel empathy for others and treat them humanely you are not a good person whatever your excuse may be, no matter it's legitimacy. I'm so tired of seeing pro NPD shit. You don't get to be an honorary good person just because you think you have a good reason for why you're not. People are not allowed to actively choose to f*** others over for their own selfish game their entire life and then have people feel bad for them for it. I don't care if they're more likely to commit suicide because most the times narcissists have tried to threaten suicide with me it was so they could get what they want. Just because they have a low enough self-esteem and a big enough gotcha attitude problem to actually follow through doesn't make it my problem they're choosing to kill themselves. They can live or die with whatever choices they decide to make, but I don't coddle narcissists.

#lily responds #I have known a few narcissists and they have ruined my f****** life I never cared once about the damage they were doing #they can die I don't care #this can be my controversial opinion y'all know #everyone knows threatening suicide is emotional manipulation until your abuser actually does it then you should feel bad #y'all can f****** eat me I hope all narcissist abusers f****** kill themselves

[goldfyshie927]

Setting boundaries with a closet narcissist results in them calling you toxic and poisonous because they can’t fathom a world in which they are free to make boundaries for themselves and have them be respected.

#your damage is not my problem though bestie #please get therapy stat #anyway you’re blocked now so you won’t see this #but for anyone out there who is dealing with the absolutely horrendous experience of being friends with #a chronic people pleasing narcissist #I wish you well and remember that their issues are not your problem #and you aren’t a bad person for cutting them from your life

[caparrucia]

Apropos of nothing at all, I will share with you the dumbest fucking example of self-inflicted "anon harassment" I've ever been subjected to.

It's also why I have a good chunk of the old Homestuck circle I was tangentially part of blocked: they're friends with this person, and they follow them and reblog their posts all the time. This is not me saying they shouldn't be friends with her, or that no one is allowed to reblog/like her stuff. This is just me quarantining the wank so I don't have to be exposed to it, even on second hand.

But this particular idiot that I shall not name, because I'm classier than that, sent us (me, my friend and the shared blog we kept) a long ass tirade of like, sixty anon messages in total. Basic anon hate 101 shit. Basic bullshit.

The thing is, the anon hate was not targeting us. It was in fact weirdly, passive-aggressively complementary about us. It was targeting the idiot in question, and giving us a laundry list of all the godawful, terrible things this idiot had done and why we shouldn't associate with her, etc. Etc.

Obviously it was meant to prompt us into defending the idiot in question, you know, disputing all the allegations and publicly reinforcing our friendship and care for this particular idiot.

Except for the bit where half the anon messages were not, in fact, anon, and came straight from the idiot's own blog.

This is in fact the reason why I refuse to call this person anything else but, the idiot, but without Significant Capitalization, because they've shown both such callousness and such stupidity, they don't even deserve that. They're just a run of the mill idiot, cruel and crude and common. Completely unremarkable when you get down to it.

My point is that, after a while, you realize that just like random strangers in the bus won't set you up flawlessly for a scathing witty comeback that will end up in a public standing ovation, pretty much all anon hate isn't set up in such a way you can take off it and have a witty, incisive conversation off it. Because anon hate is stupid by definition. It's mean-spirited and cruel and purposefully not acknowledging your humanity. Because it's not meant to acknowledge your humanity. You cannot win a screaming match against someone leaving anon hate in your inbox, because there really isn't another person behind it, in so much as they're not available for you to converse or connect with. That's why the general advice is to "turn it off" or "stop reading it". Because there's nothing to gain by engaging with it, and you're just subjecting yourself to abuse, and potentially subjecting your followers to abuse, if you post that sort of thing publicly.

Unfortunately, there's some very unscrupulous people that, much like the idiot I just told you about, have figured out they can use the boogie man of anon harassment to manipulate people around them. It's not hard to notice, either, but if you've ever been the recipient of hateful words, you'll probably have the impulse to dismiss the realization. No one, surely, can be that callous, that crass, that hateful.

They are, sadly. And the best thing you can do is turn around and put as much distance between you as possible, when you realize it. This particular brand of idiot is a specialist in splash damage.

#shut up rie #anon hate #anon harassment #that idiot is still around #believe it or not #we never confronted her #recognition only feeds that level of narcissistic damage

[thee-radio-host-is-a-kookaburra]

*Googles “how to deal with a narc crash”*

the first fucking result:

#saw the title and was like “oh wow! something actually helpful- wait nevermind it’s just ableism. fun” #literally all the results are about how evil narcissists are and that narc crashes are “traps” (actual word i saw used) #and how it’s just “their fragile self-esteem being damaged by not getting what they want” #ugh #ableism

[spurgie-cousin]

Giiiiiirl have you been watching 90 Day Happily Ever After?! Ed may be the most toxic person I've ever seen.

Listen I don't think I've ever hated a reality show person more than I hate Small Ed, the shit he has put that poor, obviously traumatized woman through FILLS me with the burning fury of a thousand suns lol.

#ohhhh dont get me started the amount of ranting ive done at this man on my tv #emotionally stunted abusive narcissist who chases damaged women 30 yrs younger than him bc women his own age can #see through his bullshit #90 day fiance

[chooey]

just finished breaking bad

#spoilers ahead so! tread lightly #breaking bad #bc i binged a lot of this show some episodes do not stick out to me like i cant tell u what happened on which episode or even which season #the naz!s were so left field like i think the story would still be the same without the hooked cross tattoos #it was surprising how the drug cartel or whatever didnt have much involvement in s5. like why did i think for sure theyd relocate to mexico #a follow up wouldve been nice is all im saying #OK. characters! my fav were mike jesse gus skyler and saul. hated walt literally since day 1. didnt change much up until the end #listen i can understand the concept of characters being morally bankrupt egotistical narcissistic abusive and manipulative #but walt was just . not charming enough a character to do it sorry he is what he is. sorry to him but i cannot stand him #i can appreciate some of his monologues though! fly (episode) was great for that the show needed it at least in my opinion #i like that all the characters are fundamentally flawed ! walt is at his core insufferable but he makes a good tragic story👍🏼 #hank was so stupid like? 😭 when lab equipment from walt's school were stolen i thought that'd be it lollll #it was well written for the most part i think!!!!! some parts needed suspension of disbelief but whatever yk #what matters to me the most is whether i cried or not and yeah. yeah i did cry!!!!!! so what!!!!!!!!! #THEMES. obv theres change/corruption... power and abuse of power. toxic masculinity? and family. living life to the fullest if ur insane #also!!! just finished el camino and i liked it! simple story but i like the themes in it. this man's been through so much #jesse was point blank a victim of abuse and im glad he gets to leave the past behind and move forward with his life #owned up to the choices that gotten him up to this point. had control over his life again and building a new future for himself #very cool. also the ending of brba? i think it's good enough i mean i cant think of anything more fitting #but man did he do some incredible... maybe irreparable damage to his family huh. midlife crisis things <3 #i hope they heal <3 somehow <3 #wait about the themes too in brba!! one is reaching ur full potential... again if ur insane #idk maybe sometimes it's ok to flop. just as long as ur enjoying ur life and ur happy... i think that's fine! walt u and i will never agree #izza💭