#online folk are good about this

[fanotastic]

If you wish death upon my reptiles/snakes or make comments about turning them into shoes/purses. I'll say the same about your dog or cat. 🙃

#i take my most well behaved reptiles out sometimes #get smells and enrichment #the best ones meet other people and I proceed to educate people about them #the basic shit ya know #they're cold blooded / they're not slimey / my snakes are not poisonous you mean venomous and no they are not venomous #but then i get fucking assholes who say they'd straight up kill my animals #who fucking does that #what if i walked up to you and said I'd kill you fucking dog #get the fuck out of here #online folk are good about this #if you like my pets you like my pets #if you dont you ignore them #but when i go out in public thats when people feel bold enough to make threatening comments about my animals #fanblog

[uncanny-tranny]

This might seem like an "old man yells at cloud" situation, but it's just wild growing up and being told how dangerous distracted driving is - how, at highway speeds, you can traverse the length of a football field (100 yards, 91 meters) in a matter of seconds - how one split second sending a text while driving could result in a potential fatal crash, and then getting on the road as a driver and being surrounded by billboards. Their entire purpose is to catch one's attention, so they're lining major roads, which tend to be highways. How is it that you're told how important it is to never be distracted while driving, but still being advertised to?

At best, this type of advertising is an eyesore to pedestrians and motorists and a general waste of electricity to light it, and at worst, it is an active danger considering they are there to advertise and therefore, must catch people's attention.

I'm not even against advertising in theory, but this particular mode bothers me so much and I hate how pervasive it is - especially in large cities or highways.

#politics #i don't know much about são paulo banning marketing billboards but on paper i want that here in the USA #as a motorist it at best just makes me more anxious driving in those larger cities because i want to FOCUS ON THE ROAD #and passing 5000 billboards per mile isn't helping actually! #i've gotten good at filtering that out of my FOV but it's still fucking exhausting lol #i especially hate those modern electric billboards. despise them actually #i am aware that advertising is a critical aspect to business management in some cases... #...but it shouldn't risk the safety of the populous for you to advertise to them and i see things like billboards as risking safety... #...i feel similarly about online advertising in that so much of it risks internet user's safety... #...such as flashing ads online which risk triggering epileptic seizures in light/photo-sensitive folks #distracted driving (texting): NO >:( || distracted driving (being advertised to): YAYYYY :D #i've been driving on my own for a few years now and i've been thinking about this for ENTIRELY too long

[adhdandcomics]

adding to my tags because i’ve been thinkin a lot about the post i just reblogged and have more thoughts:

i’ll be real, the more i saw ‘hey adhd influencers are so annoying’ the more i worried that i was unconsciously contributing to the spreading reputation of adhd folks as annoying and over-pathologizing every symptom they experience

and then i realized. i am not a goddam influencer or life coach or representative. obviously i have some obligation as someone who cares about myself and the people that like my comics to not spread harmful ideology or blatant misinformation but i never intended myself to be a “’increase your productivity!!’ blog OR a ‘if you have XYZ you have adhd!’ blog. and i do this for fun, and originally started this blog bc i had a lot of internalized shame and self loathing about my adhd and thought if i could make it funny i might have less of that. let’s get real! and it worked!

i’ve obviously done this kind of thing— (hey these symptoms might be adhd!) a lot before in my life & on this blog, but there’s more to it than trying to be an “influencer” or whatever. a term that didn’t even exist when i started this blog!

i felt very isolated trying to find out if i had any mental problems & what have you originally because of large advice (etc) blogs with staunchly anti self Dx views at the time

so i overcorrected when i DID get dxed and tried to validate everyone who was like me. and of course. not the best course of action always for the ol mental health. tried to be the source of positivity and jokes that i didn’t see because the online adhd presence was near non-existent.

and anyway. i make a lot of fun of myself & the way m brain works in my comics obviously but it is not my obligation to... how do you say.... not be annoying online.

because if folks interpret MY little jokes as a strict guide to diagnosis. that’s on them, really, not me. i also believe “making adhd your entire personality” is a non-issue. so what if people find out they have it and get over excited with identifying as adhd. saying this as someone who DID do it. criticism of this gives the same vibes as people being annoyed that young queers make “being queer” their whole personality. im very obviously more than a guy with adhd, and id reckon other adhd comic artists are too. (im friends with a lot of them!) it’s fine to post about it online.

anyway. i just don’t take myself too seriously and i’m a comic artist for myself first! and you know what, i’ve been considered annoying my entire life. what do i care if a few more folks think i’m annoying. neurotypical or not

#i think the article did have some good points especially on the capitalism and marketing angle but i oft think it did venture into #being mad at individual folks who post jokes about adhd. which is literally fine thats what an opinion piece is for lol #i am just very tired of people pretending that a lot of reaction to online adhders is not in itself just an extension of the ableism #we already were facing #'adhd people are so annoying everyone does this youre pathologizing everything' ok and how exactly are you helping. #i hesitate to throw my hat in with hating on adhd tiktok because i am simply not on tiktok and have no way to back up my thoughts #that they may be annoying and oversimplifying a complex disorder on the 'drains your attention span' website. #and i think perhaps the value of each adhd resource varies widely depending on who made it and what theyre even posting. #sometimes its a joke made by a person with adhd. sometimes its sourced and cited research. sometimes its someone discussing their personal #experiences in depth. sometimes its someone talking completely out of their ass. sometimes its THINLY veiled ableism. #its up to the individual to research and determine the value of the memes and resources you seek #anyway. perhaps these points are tough to clarify on sites like insta and twitter. bless. #text #adhd #im punk now #oh and yeah i also agree lots of folks do not talk about the unsavory parts of adhd but rather the funnies and the sillies. but that is #once again a larger capitalism and marketing and ableism problem #r we not talking about them because we are actively trying to infantalize this disorder or is it because we collectively experience a lot #of internalized ableism and hesitate to talk about our worst symptoms for fear of the backlash #weve always gotten about them 🤔🤔🤔 #much to consider #if youve read this far sorry for tangent number 56 about this. but also start being more unapologetic about your disorders. fuck it! #<3

[allthepresidentsmen1976]

have been thinking about this a lot lately and i do just want to say that i think a lot of people Online™ really don't realise how genuinely dangerous being gay offline is. and even when it isn't physically dangerous, how profoundly uncomfortable being gay makes straight people. i need you to understand that though the online world is part of real life, it is not the whole scope of things and i do believe that to forget that can be very very unwise both for yourself and for other people.

i'm not saying the world isn't getting better or that being gay is something you need to be aware of at all times, i'm just saying it is absolutely a disservice to yourself and everyone else by refusing to acknowledge that at this point in time, society even in more progressive spaces has not moved past cold hard homophobia. and even if you haven't experienced it yourself, you need to know that your experiences aren't universal. if you assume that they are, it will harm people in one way or another. i'm not saying be scared, i'm saying know that there are still many, many significant steps to take even in more progressive places wrt to lgbt rights, let alone places where that's not so much a thing. i just think it's essential to understanding the world you're living in as a gay person, to understand this.

#not any mutuals afaik but just the Online folks in general i think really need to know this #bc i KNOW why i'm stared at on the bus sometimes and i KNOW what the guy who says "oh. i thought i was p good at knowing who was a f- gay #but i didn't clock im ' mean s #*him' #and it means !!!! this isn't acceptable !!!!! #and this is minor minor minor stuff not even getting into physical violence and proper slurs and ESPECIALLY what ppl #outside of liberal-enough cities experience #idk i've been thinking about Some Things and idk to ME being a gay woman esp the more gnc i get is like being a Woman in the sense #that it IS something ur aware of when out in public bc it IS smth that is going to get different and potentially negative responses yk #hmm idk if i'm wording this right but whatever come chat 2 me abt it if ur interested i'd be curious to hear ur thoughts !!! #also this is okay 2 rb but someone else has prob written it nicer somewhere alkdnjskfhg

[dimonds456]

Hey, guys?

People on the opposite side of the political spectrum can be good people too.

It's starting to make me really uncomfortable how divided everything is. People have adopted an "if you're not with us, you're against us" mentality when talking about the other side, and it's so jarring going from online where that's the norm to being in an Uber and your driver is the other side.

Online parties make the other side out to be monsters who want nothing more than to watch the world burn. And while that is absolutely true for some people (on BOTH SIDES), most people are far more sane than that.

Everyone's actions make sense to them. Everyone thinks they're in the right, at least to some degree.

Left-wingers aren't monsters under the bed out to kill and eat kids or something.

Right-wingers aren't shadows on the wall that stalk their prey at night.

But holy fuck the way they talk about each other, you'd think they are.

I'm not saying you gotta switch sides. What I am saying is that you're not helping out anything by "us vs them"ing the other half of the population in your head.

Most offline people either don't think some issues are as prevalent as they are, or just don't see how it applies to them and focus on their own lane. This (the second half) can be a bad thing, absolutely, but it can also be a good thing, too. Mostly it's neutral from what I've personally seen. The first half just means they should do more research, but if someone doesn't see why it matters then convincing them to do so in earnest will be hard.

That doesn't make them bad. Just means they're focused on other things. Just because someone doesn't get it doesn't mean they're the scum of the earth. There's plenty you don't know about, either. How dare you not know about every tiny conflict happening out there right now, y'know?

Love thy neighbor n all that. We're all just trying to live as best as we can at the end of the day.

#its wild. i was in an uber a couple weeks ago and my driver and i got to talking about lgbt stuff #and he was generally not knowledgable but casually supportive #and then he threw out there that he was a trump supporter. just casually. didnt think anything of it. #it was so jarring cuz online we're conditioned to think trump supporters are automatically the worst of the worst #but he wasnt #same with my family. a lot of them support trump but they support lgbtq folks too #my dad says he agrees with trumps policies which. i dont wanna unpack that. but my dad is a good person. #he just doesnt KNOW. #and if your immediate response to this is thaf i need stronger boundaries then you missed the point #polarizing ourselves like this isnt good and is just gonna make shit worse #anyway. im awake way too early and im going to bed. #dimond speaks

[runawaycarouselhorse]

Who wants to hear about the Nimbasa City underground?! No one? Just me? Okay!

#vent art #Dento #pokeani #Cilan #I'm not even roleplaying Trip anymore and folks can tolerate or even take interest in my discussions about anything else but whoops #if something sets me off about my special interest and I go on and on and get ignored it feels like dying of humiliation very bad not good #must rein it in and save it for someone who cares #I do not like dead silence in response to my enthusiasm it makes me feel like never sharing anything with people ever #I'm very good at not info dumping in real life and saving it all for online but maybe I need to also save it for tumblr and not... plurk #pkmnart #Dent #Pokemon #my doodle #negative *

[rovermcfly]

for anyone who needs to hear this: your intrusive thoughts aren't the reason bad things happen. you aren't manifesting bad things happening just because you thought about them happening. your energy or whatever isn't changing your surroundings. you have no reason to feel guilty when things that are out of your control happen after you thought about them, it's not your fault.

#I feel like a lot of the ✨manifest good vibes✨ stuff going on online severely backfires for a lot of us mentally ill folks #you can only control your own actions #the universe doesn't change based on your thoughts or feelings #it's nice to imagine putting positive energy and thoughts out there makes good vibes n shit #but if that were true the opposite would be true too and it just isn't #you don't have to knock on wood to prevent bad things after you spoke about them #they're not gonna happen just bc you said them #it's okay #you're okay

[darehearts]

good morning glitter bombs  !  i think i will unfollow everyone who didn't follow me back in over a week  😔✌🏻

#i see a lot of the folks just haven't been online at all but yeah i think #over a week is plenty right? anyway HAPPY FRIDAY WE MADE IT <33 #i'm sending you all lots of good vibes for the weekend. ya girl at work #as usual but we all know i'll be crying about mr. james t through it sksk #tbd

[hella1975]

my mum now knows what fanfiction is and thinks it's 'really cool' and that i should 'give it a go'

#:'))) #it was such a sweet conversation actually #basically ive just had this two days with bam of just being able to totally be myself re my writing and fic and all that #bc it's a HUGE part of my personality that im used to just keeping top secret at all costs #and specifically just our time in waterstones was so <333 #and i was like okay this is actually a good way to bring fic up to my mum actually #bam i used your dissertation as a convo opener actually lmao i was like 'oh so it's super interesting basically-' #and i explained what fanfic was to her! and she thinks it's so cool! #she literally was not weird about it at all and i kinda knew she wouldnt be bc im very much the problem #when it comes to limiting myself like IM the one who internalised all this shame around writing IM the one so scared of being 'cringe' #and my mum has always hated watching me do that to myself so i think she was really happy just seeing me talking about this stuff #she made a really good point actually she was like 'every sanditon adaption is fanfiction bc austen never actually finished it' #and 'kate bush's wuthering heights could also be a form of fanfiction' #i was like babygirl you're RIGHT and you're getting way more into this than i expected lmao #next step: tell her i accidentally started a cult and am weirdly popular in the online writing sphere #we're making progress folks this is huge for me and it only took me two fucking years LMAO

[calnexin]

ʕ •ᴥ•ʔ

#ngl whenever I post my drawings I almost always immediately feel a twinge of regret #like I normally don’t get flustered that easily IRL but something about sharing my stuff online feels humiliating #like “Oh you’re not happy enough just drawing for yourself? You gotta seek attention for it? You gotta have folks see it THAT badly?” #“You think you’re THAT good huh.” #I don’t think my brain is wired to be online as much as I am these days #anyway. I can’t decide if tumblr is really making me happy or not #I somehow feel lonelier online than I do irl which probably is a sign I’m not doing this right 🤣 #maybe one day I’ll reach escape velocity and move on with my life

[bluinary]

return to tunglr for mental health purposes 💀

#this is unfortunately the safest of the apps #even posts i dont agree with arent like. fatphobic racist or transmisogynistic yk? #and no middle aged str8 white men trying to bully everyone around them here 😊 #just a bunch of fellow neurodivergents and disabled queer ppl #its like coming back to my hometown in the sticks #just simple folk leading their simple online lives #you post a pic of a frog and everyone collectively nods and goes 'yeah' #occasionally someone will say something rly true about societal oppression and action to be taken #its a good place. it is the least stressful social media site ive found. #i love you guys #i have no idea what half the posts I see are about anymore. but i love you guys #about me #my face #also isnt it crazy that I considered myself masc-leaning for so long 💀💀💀 #the inherent masculinization of black women is a hell of a drug. im so far from butch lmfao.

[perfectly-clear-from-here]

...WHY ARE FOLK SO MEAN WTF 😭😭

#what in gods name did that lad do to make you THAT ragin oh my goodness #mate. if someone aggrivates you that much- go talk to your therapist about it #dont. yk. wish death on them online 😭😭 #seriously what happened to going for a nice long walk #or having a bloody cuppa #or a candlelit bath listening to barry white or summat for christ sake- #just- dont be a div?? #i will never understand how folk wake up in the morning and choose to just be so rude to other people LIKE HOW #anyway ill shut up now

[natugood]

I dressed up as a light rail train from my local transit agency for Halloween and someone took a picture of me during my morning commute and sent it to them. Little did I know that my transit agency posted the pic, and across platforms it’s gotten over 1.8k likes?!? Multiple people stopped me on my way home to ask for pictures or talk to me cause they’d seen me online. What a weird day.

#if you live in Portland and saw the pics of the MAX guy? that’s me lol #most of the comments online have been really sweet too which has been nice #especially since I was really stressed out and couldn’t sleep last night because I was nervous about wearing this costume #I also find it funny because in the picture from the morning I was on my phone. What was I doing on my phone? #I was studying for my transportation operations exam. literally caught me on transit dressed as transit studying transportation #overall the costumes reception has made me very happy and to me highlights exactly what I love about Transit. #because of my costume I’m making people smile and I’m getting to talk and connect with folks around me #many of whom I’ll never see again. my costume is helping connect my community and build bonds between us #that’s what transit does! when you share that space with other people and talk to them you are connecting with people in your community #people who you likely won’t ever see again! but those conversations still matter and are good!! #they connect us all to each other #everyone is a neighbor on transit. we are all connected on transit. we are all transit users. #and that’s a community that stretches into almost every other subcommunity in the community at large #transit connects people - not only from place to place but also with each other #googoogajoob

[tsukihigui]

deleted my twitter app (not account) bc i really can’t handle the intense no-nuance high-stakes takes right now. not that here is all that much better but it’s definitely less of a time sink

#i just. #ok. #i just think if ur gonna go scorched earth on prioritizing high minded ideals over outcomes ur not actually as morally pure as u think u r #and I also think if ur gonna do that u gotta say with ur CHEST the collateral damage you’ll sign onto #both by abstaining from concrete action now and by destroying infrastructure in the name of a brighter future #im not even gonna tell you ur wrong. but i want you to say who u think is worth sacrificing #i have awful news for you the folks who don’t make it thru the revolution are very rarely the rich and healthy and connected #it’s gonna be folks who are desperate enough to fight and folks who can’t handle more instability. #poor folks. sick folks. disabled folks. disenfranchised folks. unhoused folks. #you think you can build a functioning mutual aid network from scratch during a revolution serving tens of millions? #i know it’s a nice thought that the failures of US welfare programs are Just Capitalism. and that’s a huge chunk #but it’s also because IT IS DIFFICULT. and that’s WITH billions of dollars and a chokehold on the global supply chain #im not saying any of the options are good. but when u call for revolution u gotta acknowledge ur stealing from today for tomorrow #and look hard at the folks who stand to lose the most. say you’re fine with martyring them - whether or not they agree #I’ve got myself all worked up now and i wanna post about it. to maybe share some god damn perspective. #things are bad! things are not good. unsustainable trends abound. but wow for all ur whining online #about how everyone needs to know EVERYTHING about ALL ISSUES in EVERY CONFLICT or else you are EVIL #ur missing the forest for the trees my dude. takes are easy - policy is hard #get fucked. don’t get people killed.

[aboutmercy]

there is literally nothing worse than finding out that there’s a director’s cut of a film you enjoyed, and you didn’t watch that. you watched the normal version instead 😐

#this is about demonlover (2002) #so annoyed omg.. but also i thought that was kinda perfect??? #very lynchian.. which i know is an overused term by terminally online film folks but im being fr. #reminded me a lot of lost highway and just a lot of the overarching themes lynch works with #T’WAS A GOOD FILM … AM SAD I DIDNT WATCH THE DIRECTOR’D CUT 😡😡 #director’s*

[tired-reader-writer]

Is it just me or is the Ascendance of a Bookworm fandom on Discord kinda rotten

#it's never a good experiences in fandoms that value homogeneity huh #look I don't mind someone having different divergence tolerance in interpretations and stuff #so long as they don't blatantly disrespect me or other folk who interpret things “differently” than canon or the mainstream fanon #if you start saying right to my face that I have “shit takes” or that I'm “using fic as a shield to spout nonsense” #?????? WE WERE TALKING ABOUT DIFFERENT ALTERNATIVE PAIRINGS FOR ONE CHARACTER ASIDE FROM THE ONE GOLDEN SHIP????? #I mean it's not like you can't talk about canon dynamics in the fic channel but like like #it's another story if y'all butt into a discussion that's CLEARLY about hypothetical fic ships and alternate canon interpretation #(aka projecting queerness on characters which ain't in the canon discussion sphere anymore tbh) #I'm not gonna respect you either #being online behind an anonymous mask sure makes folks bold about disrespect huh #I even extended an olive branch repeatedly and apologized for getting heated up #but they???? ohohohohohohoho they fucking don't take the olive branch #pls fuck right off #Yurgenschmidt's rigid allo social structure sure does attract a Certain type of folk huh