#or 'disabled people are leeches'

[butchbyte]

learned helplessness does not happen to people because they're bad. it's a problem but it's also nothing to be ashamed about.

it usually comes from not getting the support you need for a long time. but even if it wasn't, it's not a crime to be a hot mess like damn.

#i swear some of you think stuff like 'being stupid is a sin' #or 'disability isn't an excuse for not being able to take care of yourself' #or 'disabled people are leeches' #and will then just spruce up your language just a little and think that we won't notice

[chromanticore]

I think one of the things that doesn’t get brought up enough about living with a chronic condition is that it becomes so painfully clear that some of your loved ones flat out hate you. Anger, frustration, confusion, and yes, jealousy are all too common reactions that non disabled folks tend to have towards their disabled friends and family. And when it’s family, it sucks on a whole other level, because on one hand they are people who claim to love and support you, but on the other are comfortable interacting with you in a way that they wouldn’t be with a stranger or acquaintance.

“I wish I could lay in bed all day do I nothing!” I don’t know how to tell you this, but no, you fucking don’t. It’s literally hell to be stuck in your own body like this, and your assumption that I’m just having the time of my life shows just how little you understand about chronic illness.

“You’re just lazy!” I have multiple doctors who beg to differ, but you know better than them about what’s going on in my body, right?

“I wish the government would pay me to sit around all day long doing nothing!” If this is the first thought you have after learning about someone’s disability, What The Actual Fuck Is Wrong With You?? I would also like to kindly point out that the stipend you might receive is barely enough to live on. Disability often forces us to rely on the very people who literally hate us for not being as “useful” as them. In fact, that blend of “steady income but not enough to actually live on” make us prime targets for abusers who basically only value us for that stipend. We’re not mooching off anyone, and it’s more than likely that someone is mooching of us. And if we have anything contradictory to say then we’re “ungrateful for everything that they do for us” and anything else they can think to accuse us of. After a point, anything anyone does for us becomes something to feel guilty about. Any time I prioritize myself, I am treated like some selfish narcissistic jerk who doesn’t care about anyone else by the very people who have made it their life mission to remind me of my “inferiority”.

Like, I’m not mooching off anybody, babe. I am a prisoner. I want to be self-reliant and not have to rely on others for my basic needs. That’s it, that’s my whole life goal. To be able to care for myself. It has taken me years to be able to take steps towards gaining my own independence. Now that I am finally well enough to attempt college, after a fucking decade, I am resented for no longer providing emotional and/or financial support for someone else.

TL;DR: living with disability and chronic conditions sucks, in reality.

#like #I wish all the people who go on about government leeches get into a car wreck or something #invisible disabilities are still disabled. #chronic illness #mental illness #financial abuse #mental abuse

[sweet-milky-tea705]

“Nobody wants to work these days” do you seriously think that all the people not working shit customer service jobs are living off government money. Name a single person you know thats living off government money simply because they dont want to work. Also do you know how many people literally died of covid. 6,938,353. Thats a lot of fucking people dude. A lot of people in customer service were forced to work during the pandemic due to being “essential workers”. Yeah no shit nobody wants to work customer service. They found better jobs dipshit. Good lord what the fuck kind of corporate propaganda have you been eating. My whole family literally thinks that nobody wants to work these days. And thats why the subway is understaffed and surely not because subway is notoriously one of the worst places to work ever and pays like ass.

#i cant be the only one who thinks this messaging is also incredibly ableist ?? #like the people living off government money are lazy sacks of shit leeches and not likely disabled. #and did you forget when we lived off of food stamps while our mom worked two jobs ??? jesus fuck ???? #hard times come to people. its a good thing that government welfare plans exist. what kind of sadistic freak are you to be against that ???

[marklikely]

saw someone say they thought the brother in texas chainsaw was the worst character and they were glad he died why do you hate disabled people

#franklin?? my fucking friend franklin?? if i was in his shoes idve been annoying too. #avpost #me seeing a disabled character getting treated ableistically by the people around them and #latching onto said character like a leech or perhaps a tick.

[dixiedingo]

Once I move out I'm fucking done. I'm cutting ties with that man I don't care how much everyone screams and cries about how fucking selfish I am I'm through. I should not be obligated to take care of a man who beat me and stole from me to feed his addiction and then tore down my psyche because mommy didn't hug him enough either. Fuck you.

#im being very bitter and angry rn sorry my brother scammed me out of $90 #and everytime I tell everyone I want nothing to do with him #i get this whole diatribe like oh its what your mom would've wanted #oh he can't do it without you oh he needs you #god says so and so about forgiveness so you cant heal until you forgive him #nah man my healing process is cutting him out and moving the fuck on because he's a parasite. he'a a lying #coniving piece of shit who does nothing but leech off of others and use his disability he gave himself as a pity ticket #i am incapable of loving this man anymore because he has abused my trust #the worst part is i have to pick him up at 8:30 #tomorrow morning #so he can get to work #so *he can get to work* #while he blows up my fucking phone asking for money #like i do not like the word hate i do not like saying I hate someone frivolously #but i wanna say it i wanna say it so fucking bad because this man has wished death upon me more times than he ever said i love you #my big brother has told me to die more times than he said he loved me and im tired of pretending its not true #i dont fucking care about wha5 dead people think or what some omnipetent being said 500000 years ago #he has never done anything good for me. he has never been genuine to me. and to pressure me into communicating w him is. also shitty. #the only and on god do i mean the only reason I talk to his dumbass is because of grans #vent #personal

[crazycatsiren]

How about y'all just, let disabled people complain, instead of shut us down whenever we bring up anything shitty that's happened to us, instead of make everything about you every time?

We get shit for not being independent and on our own, for living with family members, for being unemployed, for depending on caregivers. People call us losers, leeches, burdens, lazyasses. Like, all of this happens to us all the fucking time. We literally live this.

It doesn't matter one jack bit, doesn't mean a rat's ass to us, that it hasn't happened to you. You are not what these conversations are for.

#ableism #ableds stfu challenge #disabled community #cripple punk #disability advocacy #disability awareness #disabled #spoonie #chronic illness warrior

[hellyeahsickaf]

Abled people don't fucking get it.

You don't get to imply I'm living some kind of "forever vacation". It's perpetual pain. If you see me doing something I enjoy, it's not because it's what I'd rather be doing than being "productive". I fucking miss the gym but things like video games are just a much more accessible activity these days. I'm not "lounging", I don't get a break from the pain just that sometimes I'm able to take my mind off of it

Unemployment isn't some kind of break or excuse to not participate in society (capitalism is garbage but being disabled=/=unemployed for the hell of it). For reasons, I fell behind in school, bad. But I got myself a diploma equivalent and finally felt I'd chosen the line of work I wanted. I had connections, opportunities. I had fibro and some fatigue (unknowingly CFS as that was manageable) but I was getting PT and managing it as best I could. All I needed was to take courses and I was ready for that even with the difficulty of my then undiagnosed ADHD.

And then I got sick, really sick. Worst mono infection my doctor had ever seen due to medical neglect, Shoutout to those shitty CVS minute clinics. It made my ME/CFS so much worse, I was stuck in bed all the time before getting put on Adderall for my then newly diagnosed ADHD. Then I thought the fatigue was finally healing and a side effect of Adderall was a huge crash and wave of fatigue. No it turns out when it wore off I just felt the fatigue again lmfao

I was told I'd be better within 6 months. Okay so I can opt for the Spring semester, no big deal. 8 months go by, a year, a year and a half. I waited and waited. Hoping that "when I get better" I could be caught up with everyone else I knew my age. That was over 7 years ago. Do people think I wanted that all taken from me? To get progressively worse and worse?

Do they think loss of agency is something I enjoy? Needing help, being unable to drive, to enjoy my old hobbies, cook for myself regularly? I've been accused of enjoying this and not wanting to get better as if this hasn't put my head in very dark places. Sometimes I feel like I see a way out of this and it isn't recovery. They don't get it. I don't enjoy being heavily medicated but I know I need to be. I don't enjoy having things purchased for me because I want more financial independence. I don't enjoy feeling like a leech, actually.

It's not a vacation, it's hell. You can go on about how much more exhausted you are because you work or whatever but the thing is I don't need a job to feel what you feel after working. I feel like I worked a 12 hour shift after taking a shower on some days, no exaggeration. You can't compare your able bodied exhaustion to the effects of a chronic illness that fucks you up without you needing to work a full time job. This is my full time job and it wasn't the one I was hoping for exactly

#chronic pain #disability #chronic illness #fibromyalgia #cfs #chronic fаtiguе ѕуndrоmе #actually disabled #spoonie #me/cfs #cfs/me #long covid

[psychiatricwarfare]

autism is so fucking hated, you arent allowed to be high functioning because youre "faking it", you arent allowed to be low functioning because youre "faking it" and all of us are expected to just try harder and "stop acting stupid" (which is extra insidious when intellectual disabilities are so commonly comorbid with autism)

oh you need some help with getting things done? grow up

oh you need someone to remind you to shower/take meds/etc? grow up

oh youre nonverbal/nonspeaking or lose speech at times? just Talk

oh you Cant Eat unless its This Specific Food? grow up

oh you dont understand when something is dangerous? stop being stupid

oh you need lots of help with bADLs? youre a leech. do it yourself

oh you need a caregiver in order to keep yourself alive? youre so dramatic, everyone else manages just fine without one, why cant you?

oh you can get around for the most part in day-to-day life but need extra support in some areas? youre just exaggerating, youre not really autistic

autistic people are literally never allowed to just exist in society. we are always expected to prove something, whether thats being autistic or being human beings that deserve respect

youre either not autistic enough or too autistic for allistics and its really fucking annoying. autism is a real disability and those of us who are autistic live with it every single day. it can be extremely disabling or it can be a bit of a nuisance or it could be both or somwhere in between or fluctuate depending on the day

stop shaming autistic people for being autistic in a way you dont like or arent used to seeing. that goes for everyone, other autistic people included

#bug talks #bug rants #autism #autism awareness #autism acceptance #autism awareness month #autism acceptence month #high functioning autism #low functioning autism #high support needs #low support needs #ableism #tw ableism #actually autistic

[swordsonnet]

self-proclaimed radical leftists: in the communist utopia that exists only in my head, everyone will work, by which i mean a full-time job in the post-industrial revolution sense. this is because work is obviously the only way one can contribute to society, and everyone who doesn't work is a parasite that will be eradicated in my Communist Utopia™. i don't even care about the products or purpose of people's labour because, as everyone knows, employment equals morality and so having a job is inherently virtuous and not having a job makes you a lazy leech who doesn't deserve to live. trust me, this is a very communist idea. i'm practically an expert because i read 1.5 tweets about marx.

what? omg why are you making this about disability, i was obviously talking about normal people 🙄 if you're disabled, you have an excuse to be a useless waste of resources who can't contribute anything 😊 in my ✨ Communist Utopia ✨, you don't have to work if you're not able to. don't worry, we'll have rigorous and dehumanising tests to determine if you're disabled enough or if you're just a lazy faker! this process is infallible and has no drawbacks whatsoever for disabled people. have you considered that maybe you're the real ableist for criticising me? 🤔 anyway, have i mentioned how much i love employment and also the taste of boot leather

#so many internet 'leftists' are actually just deeply reactionary if you look even a millimeter below the surface #and it clearly shows in their complete refusal to treat disabled people as even remotely human #anyway if someone needs to disclose their diagnosis to you for you to treat them with even a modicum of respect #then you dont respect disabled people at all. period. #just as mocking people for being harmlessly weird is always wrong and not just when you know for a fact theyre autistic #you can't just act like having a job is the only way to contribute to society and then go 'but it's okay if you're disabled' #because you're still saying that we're useless. and going 'okay but you cant help it' is not as supportive as you might think #disability #ableism

[bebsi-cola]

it's okay if you're disabled and can't work and live supported by benefits. it's more than okay, it's rad awesome of you. i don't care if people call me a leech but actually i think whatever the government gives disabled people should be tripled and we should get free stuff forever and live with enough support and money to have a good time. there is literally nothing more meaningful than supporting a life, not the economy or police budgets or loser royals. people who complain they have to work for a living are having their frustration of being ruthlessly exploited under uncaring systems redirected towards more vulnerable and disenfranchised groups - as always.

#bebsi posting #disability #physically disabled #cripple punk #chronic illness

[zebulontheplanet]

if you think that disabled people who arent contributing anything to society are leeches then you are Ableist. Disabled people who arent able to contribute much, or anything to an already fucked up society are worth it and are amazing.  Disabled people with higher support needs are told constantly about everything wrong with them instead of being told about everything thats right with them. How about instead of constantly tearing disabled people down, you instead love them because they’re HUMAN. 

I see time and time again. “Go outside and do something. Everyone can do SOMETHING.” What if they cant? WHAT. IF. THEY. CANT? Then what? They arent worth any less. They arent moochers, or leeches, or anything like that. They are disabled. Stop being ableist, take disabled people into account with your language because your privilege shows. 

#autism #actually autistic #high support needs #medium support needs #support needs #actually disabled #disabled #ableism #intellectual disability #neurodivergent #neurodivergencies #epilepsy #bpd #neurological disorders #actually neurodivergent #bipolar #alzheimers #multiple sclerosis #cognitive disorders #brain disorders #adhd #scoliosis #cerebrovascular #cripple punk #spinal cord injury

[pezpenser205]

the thing about being fat is that it just makes whatever bigotry you already deal with way worse.

like youre trans and fat? well now you being trans is even more creepy and unacceptable.

youre gay and fat? same shit.

cant speak for poc but im sure it makes life way worse for you too.

mentally ill and fat? creepy incel/crazy attention seeking bitch stereotype upon ye.

a woman and fat? get ready to be objectified and fetishized 10x more by men.

disabled and fat? now people see you as 10x more of a lazy leech.

this is just multiplied if youre "ugly" by societys standards bc they only value who they find fuckable even if they wont say it. in order to be "one of the good ones" of anybody youve gotta be fucking attractive and skinny. shit sucks

#op #fatphobia

[bonefall]

Better Bones: CW List

Can't believe I have to make this disclaimer, but here we are

Better Bones is not a project that aims to fix canon by making the Clans wholesome and unproblematic. Though there can be fun and kindness in it and my philosophy is an optimistic one, It's not an escapist fantasy. It is a story about semi-realistic cats of human intelligence in a violent, war-obsessed theocratic dictatorship, and how they attempt to change it over the years.

Clan Culture is flawed, that is on purpose. Addressing and changing this is what the story is about.

I am very disappointed I have to state this because it should be obvious from my main post where I explicitly say that my goal is to "Address (Canon's) Problematic Elements." Not remove.

If you cannot handle themes or depictions of;

Physical and emotional abuse; Domestic, authoritative, and familial

Child abuse and inter-generational trauma

Somewhat graphic medical discussion, such as abortion, wound infection, and the use of leeches and maggots

The killing and processing of small animals into food, including tanning and butchery

Semi-realistic cat behaviors, specifically marking things with urine

Ableism; both externalized and internalized, Clan culture treats disabled cats poorly and this is something several characters struggle with

Xenophobia; to a violent degree, including stochastic terrorism, hate crime, and discrimination

^^^ read that one again. Consider that on this list twice.

Politics; Authoritarianism, fascism, and liberalism as an enemy, discussion of dog whistles and ideology

"Redemption arcs" of people who did bad things

Cosmic horror and supernatural curses

Graphic violence, including against innocent bystanders, through assault, poisoning, drowning, falling, and even being eaten alive by large fish and demigods.

Animal abuse; Human beings harming cats on purpose and Clan cats generally being terrified of all humans, even kind and loving ones

Clan cats, both villainous and culturally mislead, glorifying these things in-universe, not immediately staring at the camera and breaking character to tell you "This Is A Bad Thing!"

Then Better Bones may not be for you. I would at minimum rate this project as PG-13, but PG-16 would be a more accurate bet.

I have sympathy for you if these are not topics you can handle. My project tackles very upsetting real-world issues and not everyone is looking for something challenging; that's understandable and there's no fault in that. I try to tag appropriately but can't promise to catch everything, so please keep yourself safe.

There are other, softer projects out there run by cool people if this is not for you, and you can add #Better Bones AU to your tag filters and this project will not show up!

But, I'm not responsible for your comfort with my art. If you followed me under the assumption that BB is "Warriors without any ableism/xenophobia/violence" you were mistaken. If you don't have the maturity to act responsibly when something upsets you, or DO have the malice to read a disabled person's work with the most bad faith interpretations you can muster, LEAVE.

#It's better bones not Brand New Bones #better bones au #cw list #masterpost #I'm dead serious get the fuck out. I don't want people like that here #I'm not writing this for the people who couldn't handle steven fucking universe #This is NOT a feelgood happy story with distant lackadaisical problems #A guy gets gutted on-screen and then they sing a song about how cathartic his gruesome death was #Because they all watched him equally gruesomely kill a bunch of innocent people including kids #Bumbs was going to get MURDERED before ThunderStorm bowled in #Really can't believe I'm saying this but guys there are some fucking People out there #Hi! I'm a random weirdo who doesn't follow you type shit #Clans are XENOPHOBIC. #THEY TREAT FOREIGNERS BAD #There is going to be a WHOLE THING about Berry the Evil Educator and how she uses 'proper grammar' to shame and demonize Heart's guardians #christ

[thedisablednaturalist]

I love you fellow physically disabled/chronically ill people. We go through so much, we work so hard just to stay alive, and are then called lazy and leeches because we can't do more than that. Because we can't make someone else money. Because we have to make hard decisions every moment and sometimes it means choosing your health and not someone else.

We fight to get the care we need and we shouldn't have to. We shouldn't have to be strong to live. We shouldn't be cast aside by our communities, we should be surrounded by them. We deserve to love, to laugh, to cry, to relax, to be angry and horny and happy. We are forced to be tough, we aren't allowed to be soft anymore. We can't be sensitive or emotional bc then we just want attention but if we are too angry and assertive we are cast as the villains. We are either the victims or the villains. It's so wrong.

We are simply just HUMAN

This community is amazing, everyone is willing to help eachother anyway we could. We are constantly learning and holding ourselves accountable when we mess up. We give either advice or just a shoulder to cry on to complete strangers. Because we aren't really strangers, we know each other better than anyone else really could.

#wrenfea.exe #chronic disability #chronic pain #spoonie #disability #physically disabled #physical disability #cripple punk #cripplepunk #cpunk #chronic illness

[jpgmaya]

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[rjalker]

Classist, ableist leftists are all "Fuck capitalism!" and "Eat the rich!" until you tell them to stop mocking disabled people and the unemployed, then suddenly they're no different from any conservative Fox News fan seething about how people who don't have jobs, and are too disabled to work, are worthless leeches on society and have too much time on their hands, and if you criticize any bigotry at all that means you're making things up to get mad about and you should go outside and touch grass and get a job.

Also they're going to misgender you this entire time despite claiming to love trans people and having just established that they read your pinned post, so they know what your pronouns are.

(Sarcasm) But oh, it's okay for them to say these blatantly ableist things, because they're disabled too <3 and they have a job, so that means if you don't have a job it's because there's something inherently wrong with you as a person and it has nothing to do with your disability <3 (End sarcasm)

#classism #ableism #leftist ableism #cripplepunk #neuropunk #actuallyphysicalldisabled #actually physically disabled #actuallyautistic #actually autistic #hypermobility #transmisia #exorsexism