#psa for neurotypicals

[isabellehemlock]

PSA for Neurotypicals

If a neurodivergent person shows you their adaptations to help them conserve mental energy in order to function in a neurotypical world, please please please do not mock it or make comments such as:

(Under the cut for ableist commentary)

"I could never live like that." (Thanks, I have no say in the matter.)

"Why can't you just do it the way I do?" (In this essay I will -)

"That's so annoying that you carry [ insert planners/lists/fidgets, etc ] around with you." (Would you say this to someone with a physical limitation, like tell them to leave their cane at home?)

"I don't know how your [ partner/family/friends ] doesn't want to strangle you for how annoying this is." (WhY wOuLd YoU sAy ThIs?? No, for real, all of these have been said to me.)

So again, please do not make unnecessary commentary, or ableist statements, some of us are doing the best we can with the tools we have.

#nd coded #adhd #neurodiversity #neurodivergent #psa for neurotypicals #tw ableism #ableism tw #ableism

[crispycreambacon]

Guys stimming is very good y'all should try doing it more to shake off excess energy even if you're not neurodivergent

#saying this as an undiagnosed probable neurodivergent but is officiallh neurotypical: AGHHHHHHHH!!!!!! #SHAKING YOUR HANDS FEELS SO GOOD!!!!!!! #AGHHHHH STIMMING STIMMING AGHHHHHHHHHHHHH <- about to have a heart attack /hyperbole #FUCK WHOEVER JUDGES YOU FOR STIMMING!!!! BLAST THEM WITH LASERS!!!!!!!!!! #this has been a psa #stimming #chris p fried what?!

[rxttenfish]

everyone’s always like

oh you have to open up!!! its not healthy to not tell anyone anything and keep it all to yourself!! you cant just hide your emotions away all the time, its super abusive and youre a bad person if you dont tell people youre upset or hurt!!! people will thank you for opening up about it and you’ll lose everyone otherwise!!!

while also wholeheartly blaming you for not being healthy already or for not phrasing or thinking of shit In The Exact Way They Want You To and calling you abusive for opening up about it or telling people that something’s wrong or just being mentally ill at all and if you dont jump through every single fucking hoop they put in place then you’ll just get hurt more until you finally shut up

and then they pat themselves on the back and say they’re not ableist in the slightest

#actuallyborderline #actuallybpd #actuallynpd #do you see the problem. do you see it. #its why i fucking hate vast majority of those mental health psas that float around on here #because every single goddamn time its like theyre blaming people for being. you know. mentally ill. #like im sorry but if you wanted someone who's perfectly fucking mentally healthy talking to you maybe #you should just go talk to neurotypical people #if you cant deal with mentally ill people being mentally ill maybe you shouldnt have mentally ill friends #if you think people are bad or evil for that kind of shit maybe you arent as safe to be around as you like to believe #sorry this is just #me being absolutely fucking irate and irritable because so much shit has gone wrong lately #ableism is exhausting to deal with and i dont have the spoons to be nice or phrase my words nicely

[mychemicalroadworkahead]

Okay. Some things I really want people, both neurodivergent and neurotypical, to understand and consider in the future because it feels like everyone recently has just. Forgotten that other people are real people with feelings? Idk okay

1. Don’t ghost people. “But Frank what if I can’t bring myself to answer messages for a while?”. That’s okay, but you should explain that to people when you get around to answering the message or if you see them in person sooner. I can’t stress this enough though, you can’t blame people for being upset with you when they think you ghosted them. If you’ve never explained that you sometimes, or always, have difficulty responding to messages before, that person probably thinks that you were purposely ignoring them. Please don’t get immediately offended by them being upset about that. I understand that you didn’t mean to upset them and you weren’t ignoring them on purpose, but you still need to actually explain that to them. If they’re still upset with you after you explain, okay, that’s not on you anymore, you did wha you could and explained why you didn’t respond, if they don’t like that it’s their problem. You have to at least try though.

2. If someone asks “what did I do?”, ANSWER THEM. They are genuinely asking you to explain what they did to upset you so they can apologize and not do that again. If you say some bullshit like “you know what you did”, they aren’t going to be able to adjust their behavior for the future. It’s okay if you’re upset with something someone did, but if they ask what they did wrong you need to answer them seriously. If you want someone to not do something, you have to tell them what you want them to stop doing. Example: John is bouncing his leg and it’s really annoying Kyle. Kyle says “please stop.” John asks “stop what?” Kyle says “bouncing your leg.” John stops and says “oh sorry.” Kyle says “it’s okay, thank you.” End of example. It’s genuinely that simple, but I still constantly run into the issue of people getting upset with me over something and when I ask what I did wrong they just won’t tell me. Trust me, I want to apologize and adjust my behavior accordingly so neither of us are upset or uncomfortable, but you have to tell me what it is that upset you before I can actually fix it.

#Frank screams words #this has been a psa #PSA #neurodiversity #neurodivergent advice #neurotypical advice #advice for being a person #how to person

[mythvoiced]

-. FC change~

Doing some maintenance while I get my queue back in order~

Taejoo - Ahn Hyo-seop to Cha Eun-woo

Taejoo is another one of those characters I like the general premise of but can't really keep a lot of muse for, so I usually try to change the FC wondering if I'm just bothered by whatever face I smacked onto them lmao Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't (like in the case of Taejoo's last fc change), so here's to this being The One. As a lil info on Taejoo, he's a dealer at a casino with repressed telekinetic abilities and a Lot of anxiety to go around. I'll probably add a sort of 'runaway' vibe to him, as well, mwah ♥

#;ooc #;psa #mr cha clenches his jaw so fricking fking often in a good day to be a dog i am so concerned for his teeth oh god #he's so right though it's the Anxiety i'm kithing jin seo-won's forehead btw #Taejoo is the kind of character you should approach only if you're neurodiverse or neurotypical with prior exposure #to neurodiversity bc ya boi cannot do the whole masking thing lately #anyways if you're waiting on me ooc I KNOW I'M SO SORRY i'll be with you as soon as possible ♥ #;queue

[fiascobaby]

No one is gonna see this but the post that’s going around that’s like “take pictures of your stove knobs before you go on vacation so you don’t worry about leaving the gas on” is fine and all, but one of the top reblogs says this is good advice for people with OCD and I just want to say that FUCK NO IT ISN’T. People with OCD do not need more reassurance-seeking behaviors that can easily become compulsions in their own right. If you’re recovering from OCD, one of the most important things is learning to tolerate uncertainty, and you sure aren’t doing that if you’re taking the stove picture out every time you have the thought that you maybe left the gas on.

Maybe you left the gas on, maybe you didn’t. You will cross that bridge when you come to it. There’s nothing you can do about it right now.

Please for the love of god don’t carry the picture of the stove around with you.

#nothing fires me up more than people applying neurotypical advice to people for whom it would cause more harm than good #this is a PSA I guess #my own OCD tendencies got really bad again recently so I’m primed to be mad about stuff like this

[audhdnight]

Quick little PSA because I keep seeing confusion on this topic:

“Allistic” simply means “NOT autistic”.

It DOES NOT mean you are neurotypical. It is not a bad thing. It’s not some kind of accusation that you need to be defensive about (literally saw someone throw a huge hissy fit about being “lumped in” with neurotypicals by an autistic creator).

You can be neurodivergent AND allistic, if your neurodivergence is ANYTHING OTHER than autism. You can have OCD, schizophrenia, adhd, anxiety, DID, or literally anything else. As long as you are not autistic, you are still allistic.

Please stop using allistic as a synonym for neurotypical. Please stop acting like it is an attack if someone refers to you as allistic if you know you do not have autism.

That is all.

#sincerely #an autistic person #actually neurodivergent #actually autistic #comorbid autism adhd #nightramblestm

[unabashedhonesty]

PSA For Neurodivergents

Don’t unmask. It’s not worth it. It destroys every kind of relationship you can form. If you think you’re safe, you’re not. Once they see you without your masking, they’ll never see you as they did before. You’re not the same to them anymore. Those who say they accept you will use it against you later. Everyone runs out of patience eventually. Normally, I would say to wear your weirdness with pride, but the world is cruel and people are intolerant. Don’t make my mistakes. Don’t unmask to neurotypicals.

#neurodivergencies #neurodivergent #adhd #audhd #masking #unmasking #dont do it

[eclaire-went-bam]

GUYS NOT TO GATEKEEP BUT IF YOU'RE FROM TIKTOK PLEASE DON'T BASE WHETHER OR NOT YOU'RE NEURODIVERGENT (literal different BRAIN) OFF ONE QUESTION ??? 😭😭

my parents use tiktok and according to them, something that's viral right now is the question "what does 7 and 2 have in common??" (which i noticed instantly ! i was asked that when i was assessed for autism) & i haven't seen the tiktoks myself, but based on how they acted, they made it seem like if you answer anything other than "they're numbers," you're autistic ????????

so now my mom thinks she's neurodivergent — which could be very possible! i am NOT trying to discredit that possibility knowing the underdiagnosis of autism & it IS suspicious that i'm the only one in my immediate family with diagnosed autism when it's a genetic thing

however, she called my sister neurotypical (Like Her Dad™) for not answering in a 💕neurodivergent way💕, which is harmful when we really can't know for sure (and she suspects she has adhd too 😭)

and said sumn like "but that's okay i'm just neurodivergent and that's okay! everyone thinks differently"

YOU CAN BE NEUROTYPICAL AND STILL HAVE DIFFERENT THOUGHT PROCESSES FROM OTHER HUMANS THAT'S STILL POSSIBLE !! EVERYONE'S NOT EXACTLY THE SAME !!!! ONE question without any further research on neurodivergence & reflection is NOT gonna be a reliable way of telling whether or not you're neurodivergent !!!!

thank you psa over

#neurodivergent #tiktok #autism #actually autistic #adhd #dyslexia #tourettes #schizophrenia #down syndrome #sensory processing disorder #cluster a #cluster b #cluster c #there are other neurodivergencies obv but i don't feel like tagging a whole lot #but this one is mainly about 💕autism💕 #asd

[goqmir]

because im messaging more ppl than ever rn cuz of this app, gonna write a simple psa: i have unmedicated adhd. its often and likely that sometimes when u are messaging me i wont respond to you for a day or two. its uncommon but happens to most conversations eventually that i will forget to respond to you at all, period. this is just the way i function. therefore, feel free to double text me or just send whatever whenever; dont think im playing mindgames or that youre being impolite or whatever if youve been messaging me for a while and i stop all of the sudden, i just cant text like a neurotypical person can. if u dont want to deal with this aspect of communicating with me or feel personally slighted by it, id recommend not communicating with me then

[did-someone-say-aliens]

PUBLIC SERVICE ANNOUNCEMENT

listen. gays. straights. autistics. neurotypicals.

YOU. CAN. LIKE. A. PIECE. OF. PROBLEMATIC.MEDIA. AND. IT. DOESNT. MAKE. YOU. A. BAD. PERSON

okay. nowadays, everyone is problematic. the dsmp, refrainbow, colleen ballinger, ddlc, danganronpa, homestuck. EVERYTHING AND EVERYONE IS PROBLEMATIC. You can like/be in a fandom without supporting thise problematic people or condoning their actions.

Whats that? You like boyfriends but hate refrainbow? great!

Huh? You like the dsmp lore and dont suppprt the racist jokes made by the creators? Totally fine!

Huh? You listen to bo burnham/mindless self indulgence but dont condone the fact that they said slurs? YEAH! THEIR MUSIC IS PRETTY GREAT.

EVERYONE IS PROBLEMATIC AND YOU CANT JUST TELL PEOPLE THEY CANT LIKE SOMETHING IF ITS PROBLEMATIC

literally just- shut up. be quiet. let people like what they like

same thing goes for fandoms with problematic fanbases

“huh? you like BTS? uGh… you must be such a creep.” okay. take that FILTHY MOUTH AND GO CHUCK IT IN THE SEA?? their music is good! I’m literally a fucking aroace lesbian i’m not out here THIRSTING OVER SUGA.

“WhAT?! You like DANGANRONPA?!? Total red flag 🤮” AND???

“WHAT? ur a furry?!? LIKE U GET TURNED ON BY ANIMALS AND STUFF??” no- i just like the way it looks! its fun!

hate to break it to yall but cringe culture is dead 🥺we live in 2023. everyone and everything is problematic so honestly just pls shut up and let people enjoy things without supporting the problematic things that creators/fandom has done

this has been a psa, thank you 😌

-Enzo

#this has been a psa #psa #public service announcement #problematic #controversy #cringe culture #furries #danganronpa #boyfriends #boyfriends webtoon #bts

[reptileofdoom]

Public PSA and Callout Of Hawkshadow/Luna: A Continued Pattern of Hurt and Manipulation Part 1 of 2

Hello, my name is Autumn aka reptileofdoom on Twitter & Tumblr. I debated whether to make this post for a long time and continually questioned myself; however, I've realized that if I don't, that guilt will sit with me for a long time. This post is directed toward Luna; known on AO3 as hawkshadow, on Twitter as @/dage_mingjue and on Tumblr as @/petesbubblebutt and @/hawkshadowwrites.

I am extremely concerned that Luna continues to be a big name in the community; her "big name" status gives her credibility that is, frankly, undeserved, and it makes people lower their guard, which allows her to take advantage of them better. Please, please be on your guard around her.

This isn't just my story. Other people have given me permission to use their names and testimonies as part of this post. I have done my best to provide proof and evidence of everything mentioned, and when unavailable, I encourage readers to question. Please reply if you would like additional information regarding any of the points in this post.

Since I will most definitely be accused of clout-chasing, let me be clear: if you follow me just because of this post, I am going to shatter your kneecaps. Do not follow me for this, I repeat.

Some screenshots have had information covered solely for the sake of privacy. I think she's dangerous, but I don't want to give her personal information to the internet, or involve unrelated people. That being said, due to the nature of the issue, sometimes it's impossible to cover without removing relevant information.

Additionally, due to who she is and how she operates, I have opted for the safety of posting conversations IN FULL; which means 5-10 screenshots for each conversation. I would rather be safe than sorry, because I WOULD otherwise be accused of concealing. So this will be a long read, which is why I am using a "read more" break.

So, here are the basic details, presented first from my own point of view:

Luna and I used to be quite close fandom friends, in the period of August 2022 - January 2023, when our big "breakup" happened. During that time, Luna created an extremely uneven dynamic within our friendship: constantly talking about her own problems, trauma-dumping, and complaining about various things. My own personal issues, when brought up, were either never addressed or I would be outright berated for bringing them up.

Additionally, and I am using this word with its full intended meaning: she would intentionally gaslight me, making me question the reality of our friendship, claiming that I was "emotionally manipulating" her, all the while trampling over my own boundaries and not being able to give even basic courtesies expected in friendship. She blatantly took advantage of my autism, gaslighting me by telling me that social norms didn't work the way I thought.

For full context: I am autistic. At the time of our friendship, I lived with my parents, who have for years emotionally abused me for said autism. There were many unsafe things about the environment I was in. On top of that, there is an 8 year age difference between myself and Luna. (She is older.)

I bring up my own age not as a "gotcha", but as important context to keep in mind for the conversations you are about to read as we get into the meat of this. I am aware that Luna is also neurodivergent but 1) that is not the same thing as autistic and 2) I gave her many, many benefits of the doubt throughout our friendship. Please keep in mind neurotypes are not an excuse for continued horrible behavior.

(About my own age: I am 20 years old. When entering Kinnporsche & Vegaspete fandom, I was under the impression the show is merely 18+ and it is labelled as such in most places. I did not even hear of it supposedly being 21+ until a few months ago. Nevertheless, I do my best to respect everyone's comfort and leave spaces not intended for me.)

One last disclaimer: I am not trying to frame this as a "cancellation post." Most of all, I intend for this to be a warning for anyone in a similar position to myself, easily taken advantage of. If, on the other hand, you read everything and see no issue with any of Luna's behavior, then I will not argue with you. I am not asking people to abandon their friendships with this person - merely to guard themselves from being hurt the way I was, over and over again.

Timeline of event (summary):

Luna and I first started talking in August or so. Unfortunately, due to the mutual blocks, a lot of our Twitter history is inaccessible to me; but I know the rough timeframe because at the end of August is when Luna and I sent each other our first DMs on Discord. Most of the events happened there; some others happened in her server, which I left after our breakup and have no interest in returning to.

In October is when the first concerning behavior popped up; on the 31st of October I attempted to pull away from the friendship, not quite realizing what was happening but becoming aware that every interaction I had with Luna left me feeling anxious and panicky. I was guilted into staying and feeling bad for ever trying to do that. Our worst interaction happened in November. After this things calmed down throughout December, precipitating again in January when we made the decision to work on and post fanfiction together. The posting of this fanfic became the straw that broke the camel's back.

A deeper dive into these events:

A lot of this is going to seem like very personal drama. Unfortunately, it is only through showing all this that I can show the horrible manipulative tactics she would use. Please bear with me.

As mentioned previously, the beginning of our friendship was on Twitter, where we have now blocked each other. As such, I have lost access to our DM history. I have tried downloading my Twitter archive and various other methods, but nothing I have tried has allowed me to regain access.

Proof that I can't message and/or look at DMs from her:

Proof that our DM conversation did, at one point, exist (yes, unfortunately I have to use vegetable porn here to prove my point):

Since we were not too close during the Twitter era, there thankfully isn't much that needs to be brought up from those days. However, there is one extremely critical fact in those conversations: It was there that I told Luna about my living situation and trouble with parents. Most of all, I very specifically told her I would get called "emotionally manipulative" just for having meltdowns.

It is now impossible to retrieve that conversation, unless by some miracle she unblocks me. I do not have high hopes for this happening. For now I ask: please just believe this happened and keep it in mind.

With that established, we get into when the manipulation started blatantly showing. It first came about as a result of... a GC, of all things. That Luna would frequently post screenshots of and I felt envious of. Perhaps it was my own mistake to not resort to clear communication immediately, but here is a conversation where I first brought up the topic, implying I would really like to join.

Her responses aren't.. bad, per say. Obtuse, more like. There is nothing incriminating here, but look at what she focuses on, what specific things she does not address - and where the conversation ends up, with who comforting whom.

(From now on, passages of interest will be circled in yellow.)

So Attempt #1 was a bust, right? Okay, no biggie, we commiserated a little over mutual insecurities, I just have to ask my friend outright so she knows what I mean-

Right. I am not quite sure how to commentate this entire exchange, even half a year later, but let me give it my best shot.

At this point, you're probably still giving her benefit of the doubt. "She is just really, really bad at knowing how to communicate" you might say. That is what I told myself at the time. (Note: I am hyper empathetic so please know that at every point I was primed to believe her and empathize.)

It's really, really awkward to have to make this point through conversation about people essentially unrelated to this, but this unfortunately became our driving issue. For context, this famed GC had all of.. 5? 6? people apart from her. So if you are imagining a massive server with strict rules? Nope.

Next, notice how instead of just. Admitting she can ask her own friends a question, she tries to make me seem unreasonable. "What, you want me to stop mentioning my friends?" basically. She then also, specifically, makes a point of saying "You are not being rejected." This will become important later.

At around this time, I came to realize: this friendship wasn't good for me. I did not have the words for it, nor could I believe any of the blame was on her, but I knew a few things:

I was always the first one to start conversations.

It would take Luna long amounts of time to reply.

When she did reply, it still ended up being an unbalanced conversation, with me doing about 70-80% of the talking.

Every time I talked to Luna or was waiting for a reply, I would feel horrible, anxious and, in short, like shit.

Now, I turned all these issues inward and looked for the root of the problem inside myself. Having been blamed for my autism all my life, it ended up being my justification for many of these things, sometimes in creative ways.

This is the message I sent Luna on October 31st and the ensuing conversation:

My first message doesn't fit the screenshot; full text is in image description.

She then proceeded to post MULTIPLE screenshots of her latest conversations with not only fandom friends, but real life people including HER ROOMMATES. As proof of her lowered capacity for responding to people. I will save my commentary for the end; Let us continue:

A screenshot of her Twitter DMs to show who she has responded to and when.

Interjecting that at this point she still had not done the extremely basic thing of just. Asking her friends if she could invite someone. And notice the use of the word "manipulative."

Let's take a pause here because I shit you not, that was the end of the conversation.

Did you see the immediate guilt-tripping? The language implying I am to blame for everything? "If YOU think our friendship is toxic" "if YOU think this is best for you"

There are many things she says here that are, in hindsight, INSANE. But chief among which is her insistence on hierarchy and social dynamics.

Do you see why I wrote that she took advantage of my autism?

"I'm not the one at fault, YOU are the one who is fundamentally misunderstanding how group dynamics work."

I talked to my friends about this. I vented to them about being so dumb and stupid I couldn't even understand a basic thing, without showing them the conversation of course. I felt immense self-hatred because she convinced me it wasn't her being weird and unreasonable - it was just me being dumb and disabled!

And a necessary reminder: She was very clear about the fact that she WASN'T rejecting me. She really DID want me there! It's just she had no options :(

Why did I make myself seem so pathetic as to practically beg her to let me join her group? Because at the same time, she'd tell me shit like I was her favorite person and encouraging me to go make friends with the other people and surely THEY would want to then invite me.

Last of all, please notice how the conversation ends. Two apologies and no response. But a prompt idea? Something fandom-y? Yeah, she'll engage with that and make no acknowledgement of anything before.

A lot of these conversations are so frustrating to look back on in hindsight. Obviously, she had no interest in me and did not actually care for a proper friendship. I was somebody to conveniently vent to and get fanfic ideas from; otherwise, I don't think she had much interest in me as a person. (Something further supported by the things we're gonna be getting into next.)

Now, where we last left off I was guilted into continuing this friendship. A friendship, I emphasize again: I had multiple times stated was unhealthy for me and was actively causing me frequent breakdowns.

The following conversation happened as a result of something in the server. As mentioned: I no longer have access to those records. In short, however: Luna and I had a short disagreement where she stated she didn't like something I was saying. Which was fine! I felt very apologetic and apologized. To which she responded "okay" and... nothing else.

So I sent a few message in the server chat. Waited. No response for hours. My anxiety went through the roof - I started having an anxiety attack and, in desperation, DM'd Luna multiple times privately because I had no idea what was happening: whether our disagreement was resolved, or if she was still mad, or what. I would like to make it clear the only thing I was looking for was just a confirmation of: "are we good?" If the answer had been "oh, yeah, I accepted your apology" there would have been zero problem. Instead, this is what happened:

This is the conversation, in its entirety.

Do you see why I used the term gaslighting? In its full, actual definition as an abuse tactic?

It is hard to write a commentary for this. Look at how many times she twists what I say and mean. To be clear; I am fully aware of how passive aggressive my language in this conversation becomes. I am not proud of it. But as mentioned, I had been worn down by months of constant anxiety; in a weird way, I do feel proud looking back, that I was able to stand up for myself in this moment. In the end, I put all the blame on myself again, which led to a.. small concession from her.

I hope it is clear from these images that I was never looking for more than 5 seconds of her time, whenever she was able to check her messages. The expectation with messages, in general, is that the person will get to them when they get to them. Her insistence that I was being selfish, messaging her while she was at work, comes out of nowhere and is especially strange because.. she would message at work all the time. It was not a boundary she had ever enforced before.

I am not coming here from a position of "we argued once and now I hate her." I am coming from a position of "this is a person who messed me up for months in a way that has required extensive therapy." THIS is why I am making a post like this, about how dangerous she is and how much I want people to be aware so that they can please, please protect themselves.

She would constantly come to me with more intense problems, all the time. She had me talk her down from panic attacks at work. (Not shown because 1 - image limit, 2 - it is very personal, and I still feel bad exposing her personal stuff.) But when I had a single time it got bad, when all I needed was "yeah, I'm not mad, don't worry"? This was the response.

There is more. It gets worse. Unfortunately, I have hit the 30-image tumblr limit: this will be continued in a second post, that is linked:

PART 2

#hawkshadow #vegaspete #kinnporsche the series #fandom stuff #fandom drama

[hiccupmistress]

PSA; autistic people have a tendency to take things quite literally. I saw a TikTok the other day (I'm afraid I didn't save it, sorry) where someone was talking about when neurotypical people will use a question as a veiled insult. I.e, "Why are you doing it that way?" is often meant to mean "You're doing it wrong", whereas neurodivergent people will take this at face value and answer why we find a method of doing a thing preferable, and vice-versa, we'll often ask "why are you doing it that way?" out of genuine curiosity to learn, and neurotypical people will interpret it in the veiled insult way.

I'd like to add to this with an experience I just had of taking something literally when a neurotypical person was being somehow non-literal. My Mum approached me with her laptop and said "I'm in no way telling you what to do, but this just popped up and I thought you should know". It was an advert for a new job vacancy at a local business. A local business that I have applied for numerous times in the past and not only have they rejected me, but their rejections have been rather condescending and inconsiderate. I simply said "They haven't exactly been encouraging in the past", and my Mum then shouted "WELL CAN'T YOU AT LEAST APPLY???", and I said "I thought you weren't telling me what to do?" and my Mum then silently stormed off, went out the front door and got in the car and drove off to have a sulk. For real though, why did you say you weren't telling me what to do if you were literally telling me what to do??

My Mum is always insisting she understands my autism and tries to accommodate it, but she is always doing things like this, no matter how many times or how carefully I explain it, and I'm apparently always the bad guy. Just say what you mean and its less of an issue, if you're about to tell me what to do, don't preface it with "I'm not about to tell you what to do". How do neurotypical people even function when nothing they say is what is meant??

I've heard of "reading between the lines", but should I just assume every day is opposite day?!

EDIT: I should clarify that I love my Mum dearly - she's the most supportive person in my life by a country mile, and she is just trying to help me get a job in this anecdote. No issue with any of that, I'm grateful. Just wish she was a little more receptive to me explaining my issues - its unfortunately a repeating pattern and I've done my very best to communicate it.

#autism #neurodiversity #neurodivergent #i literally can't help it #you made an absolutist statement and i took it at face value what was i supposed to do? #how in the world do neurotypical people function

[tuhbanbuv]

Wait wait wait if the tw about mental illness is real and Clown said that all of the characters share their neurodivergent traits

Is the Welcome Home show itself a like pre-k or kids' show about neurodivergency, autism, adhd, ocd and stuff? Like Sesame Street did PSAs and episodes about family death, divorce, hell even an autistic character, and several episodes about that

Wally strikes me as very autistic and Poppy with ocd (as someone with both autism and ocd) and I would REEEALLLY love someone doing an "autistic horror" or a project that shows off the stresses and trauma of being neurodivergent, going through ableism/abuse through a horror lens so neurotypicals will be like "ok THATS what it feels like"

hopefully it gets a happy ending too because I really just want Wally to be happy.

#welcome home #I accidentally tagged it as hello neighbor before because I mix the names up #except welcome home is actually good lol

[cartoonscientist]

im not articulating this well but i think the constant internet psas about how neurotypicals speak between the lines in coded language and don't actually mean what they say unintentionally primed me to accept emotional and psychological abuse and blame myself for abusive people getting mad at me for "misunderstanding" what they said

#cw abuse

[anthony-ant-14]

TW: Mentions of ableism

I hate making posts on Tumblr only to feel existencial dread and anxiety about other people seeing my posts even though obviously other people will see them because this a public forum

I don’t know I hope other people can relate to this because I feel goofy as shit talking about my interests sometimes (the neurodivergent phase in life when your made fun of or given weird looks for having interests in “weird” things coming back to bite me)

Even though the “weird” things are just literally anything and neurotypical people will jump at a chance to make fun of “weird” kids even though we weren’t weird we were just neurodivergent and god forbid someone is different from someone else

I know this specific topic has been talked about by every neurodivergent person ever and it’s been dragged to hell and back but I feel like that really says something I could probably fill an entire library with books and posts about neurodivergent kids being bullied in school and that’s horrible to anyone who has experienced this or is experiencing this you deserve or deserved better and I really am sorry because that wasn’t your fault at all

As a PSA as long as your not hurting yourself or others you should be able to enjoy what you enjoy and I hope that if this post actually has people who relate that your much happier now and can love what you love without anxiety or just general fear good luck out there

#neurodivergent struggles #i hope people understand this #i hate anxiety #fuck ableists #adhd problems #quit bullying neurodivergent kids #you’re not cool for that you’re just a jackass #public service announcement #this is a psa #i was a weird kid #except I wasn’t weird I was just a kid like everyone else #the people I was around thought I was weird for having non conventional interests and I hate them for that #anxienty #the neurodivergent experience #heavily /neg