#social q's

[thatbadadvice]

Help! My Investment Advice Is Not Being Taken

Social Q's, New York Times, 1 February 2023:

I was advising my adult daughter on a great investment in a field we know well. I even offered financial assistance, but she told me she was afraid to proceed. So I shared a very personal story: When her father and I were engaged, he was offered a similar opportunity. I begged him to postpone our wedding and use the money to make the investment. But he didn’t; he was afraid, too. I told her that marrying her father, instead of making the investment, had been a poor financial decision I’ve regretted ever since. I urged her not to make the same mistake. She then forwarded our entire text exchange to my husband (her father)! It didn’t cause any trouble between us. But she didn’t know that it wouldn’t. How do I deal with such a betrayal? I will never trust her again. — MOTHER

Dear Mother,

On the scale of human betrayal, it is hard not to situate what your daughter did to you as one of the more egregious crimes that humans have yet committed against each other lo these 230,000 or so years. The Bad Advisor doesn't pretend to say that humans aren't capable of coming up with something worse than asking a man about some shit he was already well aware of, but it's hard to imagine what that might be, and the Bad Advisor daren't speculate for fear of what nightmares await.

You ask an age-old question: Who dares snitch to Daddy? Where does a child, who is an adult and allowed to do whatever the fuck she wants, get off doing whatever the fuck she wants, up to and including telling her dad that her mother said a thing that both of y'all already had a conversation about decades ago? A thing which your husband is by his own admission not at all concerned about? The gall boggles the mind.

You could have been in big trouble with a man who openly gives no fucks about a thing he was already well aware of! What if your daughter had exposed you as a person who had feelings about an investment decision you expressly and specifically told your husband you had feelings about and with regard to which he gives not the barest shit today, nor gave the barest shit about ages ago? The consequences of your daughter telling a man a thing he already knew are nigh life-or-death, and she wholly disregarded them.

But what if your husband, who has known since the dawn of your marriage that you disagree about investment opportunities because you told him so, didn't know that thirty years ago -- when you specifically said that you wanted him to invest money in Dot Com Stocks Dot Co Dot Crypto instead of paying for a nice reception at the VFW hall and he said "Nah fuck it let's buy a huge fucking cake instead" and then y'all literally did that -- that you were actually specifically saying that you would rather him spend money on Dot Com Stocks Dot Co Dot Crypto, and he said no let's not do that let's do the wedding instead, which is what happened? Imagine the horror that might have ensued if your disruptive daughter, who refuses to take your investment advice, had disclosed to this man a thing that would not have surprised him in the least because he actively participated in it?

Well, you needn't imagine the horror. It happened: your daughter told your husband a thing he already knew, and here you are bearing the brunt of the consequences: deep betrayal by a woman who not only is obligated to listen to and take your financial advice, but who dares communicate with someone else who decided not to take your financial advice about their shared hobby: not taking your financial advice.

So: we know what betrayal looks like. We know of the Trojan Horse. We know of Benedict Arnold. We know of Brutus stabbing Caesar. These stories have shaped Western history, and given us a means of understanding ourselves and others. But do we know of the daughter who expressed vague trepidation at her mother's investment counsel? We do not, and the whole of humanity is the worse for it. On behalf of the world, we thank you for sharing your awful tale so that others may learn from it.

How does a mother deal with such a betrayal? A mother can do what only a mother can do: invest deeply in crypto, and let the ~ gains ~ speak for themselves.

#advice #bad advice #social q's #new york times #financial advice #investment #crypto #ftx #sam bankman fried #mother knows best

[glowsticcc]

not to overanalyze about qphil again but i’m gonna overanalyze about qphil again;

is the reason he’s collecting so many birds and “new friends” because he feels the loneliness of missing his kids and husband

like qphil is miserable rn that much is clear and the past few streams he’s been extra rambunctious bc there’s no one there to slow him down

#qsmp #q!philza #philza #my cubito is a lonely bird #birds are social creatures it makes sense he’s so restless #first day drinking now bird-napping give this man his family back please

[kathaynesart]

This panel... i don't know it reminds me of something familiar-

..uh oh (THE POTENTIAL- unsure if you'd allow such potential to be released though. perfectly fine if you don't ^^)

Hahah close! His reaction is actually based off of the Kombucha Girl Meme!

#so close though #I have to put a FEW memes into Replica #since Rise had so many spoofs and social media driven jokes #replica #rottmnt replica #Q&A

[yeetlegay]

Best part of Pit Babe is how we breeze right past any “alphas don’t bottom” bullshit. Babe is an alpha who loves getting knotted and has a limited edition platinum uterus, and if you don’t like it there’s the door and Charlie on the other side of it with a baseball bat

#even better is how babe’s entire extended social circle is just like ‘oh there goes our golden boy alpha off for his daily breeding regimen’ #pit babe the series #q

[ladybugsimblr]

Squaaaaaaaad!! My fave twins Lyric & Legend are preteens. Let the shenanigans (and random photoshoots because I'm already obsessed) begin. Happy Birthday!! 🎉

#i. love. them. #lyric is never giving up on her social media dreams #legend is smarter than we thought #q hates being late but also should be used to this by now #b is surprisingly the calm one re the kids growing up #rebi is here to baby slay. the end. #bklegacy #bklgen2 #bailey kay #quinton #lyric #legend #rebi

[femmefatalevibe]

Femme Fatale Guide: How To Find & Be A Good Friend To Other High-Value Women

Approach finding friends like you would dating (which is essentially a networking activity). Meet and mingle with as many people as you desire but refine your vetting process for your friends well before your next social interaction – whether it's a group get-together, coffee/lunch date, or a party/work event from which prospective friendship could potentially flourish.

Set your friendship standards. Know the types of people, common interests, values, lifestyle, etc., you desire to have within your friendships. Consider the type and frequency of communication that gives you energy. Be aware of your boundaries so you can communicate them calmly, clearly, and with kindness. Embody the type of friend you would want to have in your life already. Compatibility will minimize conflict in any type of relationship, including friendships.

Remind yourself that it can be more fulfilling to have friends that suit different needs, interests, activities, and sides of your personality. Once you understand what your "ideal" friend or friendships look like, you use this "best friend" archetype to divide up these qualities among the people you meet IRL. See if you click with someone who suits some of these characteristics & shared goals/interests. Choose friends you admire in different areas of their lives. Some friends may be in your life because you connect over your ambitious personalities or bond over working in the same industry/field. Other friends may be so much fun to go out with or chat about romantic relationships with, while others can be great travel companions, intellectuals, workout class friends, etc.

Practice differentiation. Understand both of you have your own boundaries, expectations, desires, and personal limits. Communicate your needs directly without people pleasing while still showing empathy and validating the other person's equal right to have their own boundaries, expectations, desires, and emotional/logistical limitations. People-pleasing is a form of manipulation because this self-sacrificing leaves you resentful of the relationship and blindsides the other person because they didn't know they crossed your boundaries. If someone crosses your boundaries and you address it from a compassionate "it's me, not you" POV, genuine friends will react to your reply from a place of understanding. To be a good friend, you need to do the same. Good friends respect each others' needs and would never threaten the friendship because you need to take care of yourself first.

Be their ultimate hype woman. Show up when it counts, follow up, and engage with a genuine interest. Cheer your friends on when they're going after and achieve their goals. Don't let jealousy & a scarcity mindset get to you. Show support for their wins. Be genuinely happy for them. Go to their milestone events (if you're invited and able to within reason), and send them words of encouragement before a big work presentation, interview, date, etc. Follow up after a coffee date to see how a certain conversation or event went if it seemed important to them. Ask them questions and thoughtful follow-up questions about their lives/something they brought up to discuss. Curiosity is the simplest way to form a connection – especially in conversation.

Don't try to one-up your friends. You appear haughty and insecure when you do this. Good friends complement and compound – not compromise – each others' successes.

Keep it real. Set each other up to win. Good friends don't let their friends ruin their lives, goals, health, or reputation. Call out a friend's bad or desperate behavior by using language that criticizes their behaviors vs. their character (Ex: "Remember how bad your ex made you feel about yourself, you don't deserve to put yourself through that again and spend this precious time with people who care about you or going on dates with others who will value what you have to offer." vs. "You're dumb for getting back together with your ex. You're so desperate for his attention/to be in a relationship." Another example: "Yeah, not working out and eating junk food all day can make you feel sluggish and lazy. You're too cool to be acting like this. It's time to live a healthier lifestyle again so you can be your best self so we can all appreciate your energy to the fullest again." vs. "You've turned into a slob. Get it together.")

Be trustworthy. Everything they share in confidence is top-secret information unless they disclose otherwise. Only share their successes in public. Keep friends' struggles private. Don't be two-faced. Stand by your friend to their face and when they leave the room.

Schedule time to make each other a priority. Invite them out. Set a date on the weekly/monthly calendar to hang out, Facetime, have a long catch-up call with each other, etc. Create fun rituals you do together with each friend or in groups of friends.

Follow through with the plans you set in stone (unless there's a true emergency/late night at work/you feel sick, etc.). Never cancel last minute unless it's essential for your well-being. Show up when you say you will. Respect other people's time. Don't be flaky.

#making friends #friend advice #friendship #high value woman #high value mindset #femme fatale #girl advice #social skills #socializing #it girl #dark feminine energy #dark femininity #communication skills #the feminine urge #female excellence #queen energy #female power #dream girl #femmefatalevibe #q/a

[serialreblogger]

"many people are coerced into sex work by societal factors including racism, classism, cissexism, and ableism, & these people deserve better social supports to provide them with real options, because coerced consent is not consent" is a true statement

that can and does coexist with "sex work is valid work, people can and do choose sex work out of preference rather than desperation, and conditional consent is still consent"

the consent of sex workers can be safeguarded by (a) providing reliable, non-punitive, consensual social supports to keep them safe & hold clients accountable for their behaviour in work situations, and (b) providing accessible public funding for universal needs, including food, housing & healthcare, and rectifying the social barriers that limit the options of marginalized individuals

if nobody really wants to engage in sex work, the latter initiative will eradicate it completely. so if that's your goal, focus on helping the people you perceive as being coerced. but the sex workers that currently exist - including those who do, actually, want to pursue their chosen career - deserve to be safe, too.

Sex is not something anyone should be forced into. It's also not something anyone should be punished for having.

And saying someone's consent doesn't "count" because it doesn't meet your idea of acceptable behaviour? Telling them they don't know their own mind as well as you? Arguing that some people don't have the right to control what happens to their own body, and define and enforce their own limits?

Yeah.

Don't rob people of their autonomy in your quest to keep them safe.

#linden's originals #sex positivity #sw rights #social activism #consent #q

[burntoutuserboxes]

[This user finds it hard to communicate their feelings.]

#communication #social #this user is #userboxes #userbox #dark userboxes #black userboxes #black aesthetic #dark aesthetic #;q

[quintin]

Gonzo from the Muppets and Klinger from MASH are the same character for different audiences

#muppets #the muppets #gonzo #gonzo the great #klinger #max klinger #mash #q attempts social interaction

[faresong]

give it up for fat transgenders 🎉

#nonbinary transmasc q-taro; transfem michiru & nao <3 #michiru has her evil estrogen because... of course #while nao has only socially transitioned thus far :] #// #yttd #your turn to die #kimi ga shine #qtaro burgerberg #tia safalin #michiru namida #nao egokoro #my art #folder

[nymphia-wind]

NYMPHIA WIND @LGBT Community Center NYC

#nymphia wind #q drag queen #sapphira cristal #plane jane #drag race #rpdr 16 #rpdr16 #rupaul's drag race #banana buddha #social media

[spocks-kaathyra]

Cardassian conlang (part 1?)

Finally started making my Cardassian conlang and I'm having so much fun already. Get this:

There's a distinction between alienable and inalienable possession, something that occurs in many natural languages. An example is, like, "my nose" vs "my hat". My nose is inalienable because it will always be mine, while my hat is alienable because it can stop being mine. So in languages with this distinction, you'd use different words for "my" in those two situations.

In my Cardassian language, possession is indicated with suffixes attached to nouns and people's names. People are "possessed" in the sense that, y'know, they're your mom or your friend or your orthodontist or whatever. Generally, you'd use the alienable form for people. Your orthodontist might not always be your orthodontist, your friend might not always be your friend. The exception is that you always use the inalienable form(s) for family. Your mom will always be your mom.

So, to use the inalienable possessive for a friend would be to say that they are as close to you as family, that you trust that they will always be your friend. This is often, like, a milestone in dating. To start saying "my girlfriend (inalienable)" marks that your relationship is serious. (Traditionalists will say that you shouldn't use the inalienable form until you're properly betrothed, but kids these days have their own ideas.) In this way, it becomes a pretty straightforward term of endearment (or, rather, grammatical particle of endearment).

Since there's no equivalent in Federation Standard, the translator often renders it as "my dear."

Here's a table of the 10 different words for "my"

So, presuming that the speaker is a man, and the person they're referring to is also a man who they don't have to use the honorific form with...

/alʊk/ - "friend"

/alʊkɬei/ - "my friend"

/alʊkxa/ - "my dear friend"

/ilɨm̥xa/ - "my dear Elim"

#no I don't know what I'm doing but I'm having so much fun hehehe #disclaimer: so much respect to the awesome cardassian conlangs that already exist and the ppl who made them!! #not trying to step on any toes I just thought it'd be fun to make my own :)) #these r the first words I've come up with after settling on a phonemic inventory. which was fun in and of itself #THERE R EJECTIVES !!! ISNT THAT COOL !!!!! also no voicing distinction and nasals r usually voiceless #anyways. honorifics r mostly abt age I think. but also social class and rank probably #I like how the casual forms don't distinguish the speaker's gender. reflects that gender differences r more pronounced in formal situations #cardassians #ds9 #asit #star trek #elim garak #narcissus's echoes #q's cardassian conlang

[csuitebitches]

What’s your thoughts on a girl without Instagram or very little social media presence??? I am 25 now and feel like I want to quit my private Instagram. I don’t want anyone to have this kind of access of me but I am unsure in case this might become disadvantage in terms of socialising …. What’s your opinion on maintaining a social media?

I don’t have any form of social media except tumblr and LinkedIn and Reddit. If you wanna be friends with me and vice versa, we’ll exchange numbers and set up a lunch date. If you want to ask me out, you’re gonna have to be a big boy and ask me for my number. If you wanna talk work, here is my business card, reach out to me on LinkedIn or email. Social media is not the best way to stay in touch with anyone - it’s unlikely yall will become strong friends by only sending memes to each other and it’s also very low effort on the guy’s part to slide in ur dms and say wyd. not having social media forces you to interact more in the real world.

However - will say that this works only if you have pretty privilege. The combination of being attractive and not having social media can either go very well or nowhere.

#Q/a #Quit social media

[bleue-flora]

So ummmmm… Here’s something I’ve been wondering for awhile: Who was the lava room in the finale actually for?

#so many options… it is to obvious for it to be Sam and Q? #here take my take my distraction can we please talk about something fun… please. #dreblr question of the day… #dreblr #this is fine #dsmp analysis #I just want to love and project onto the Minecraft torture box in peace is that so hard?… #ahhdkanbdjnabdjkanhdnkajanbsb….. so much for his week being better than the last… :’( #dsmp #c!dream #dsmpblr #dream smp #dsmp finale #dsmp lore #Since when did social media become a place where we just air our grievances with other people? #like can someone please explain to me why any of this needed to be handled publicly #especially when we already know how dangerous this sort of thing can be to the people involved and their loved ones #dsmp dream #agh I have so many things I want to say……

[femmefatalevibe]

How to stop oversharing?

Slow down: Always pause and think before you speak

Consider anything you share with someone who hasn't earned your complete trust or whom you have a transactional relationship with to be a PSA; Don't trust anything to be confidential with someone you don't fully trust

Reflect on why you overshare in the first place: Do you use it as a tool to soothe social anxiety or pauses in a conversation? Are you lonely or feel like it's a struggle to feel heard/seen/appreciated in your everyday life? Start journaling and/or go to a therapist to work through these very valid emotional wounds

Give yourself a "do's" and "don'ts" list on topics you will and won't discuss at work, different social events, with certain acquaintances, family members, etc., and stick to it

When you feel yourself starting to overshare, take a pause and ask the other person about themselves – it makes you show the other person you're interested in connecting and gives you time to think/reflect on what you should or shouldn't say

Hope this helps xx

#social skills #oversharing #social anxiety #life skills #people skills #meeting new people #work life #social life #new friends #relationship tips #interpersonal skills #interpersonal relationships #self improvement #self reflection #self worth #self awareness #q/a #femmefatalevibe

[juyeonszn]

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