#their capacity for care

[khruschevshoe]

Izzy Hands and Black Pete Hands-Spriggs

I am caught off guard by you

Like a wave I'm pulled into

It's a feeling I can't fight

Like a wildfire deep inside

You're taking my heart by storm

I'm lost in your love

-Ruelle, Storm

Izzy laughs, a hollow, wretched sound thanks to his dehydrated throat. "You picked the wrong people to torture. I don't know who's feeding you your information, but Blackbeard's not my captain anymore. He's not anyone's."

The Spanish sailor rears back, teeth bared, to break another of Izzy's knuckles, to punish him for the way he misled them. Izzy doesn't close his eyes. He doesn't flinch. He looks the man dead in his eyes, taking this one small victory-

Then a blade sprouts through the sailor's guts, and he gasps in shock. Izzy smirks despite the pain boiling his knuckles, an agony never forgotten despite the limb the toes were attached to being long gone as the sailor tips over to the side, blood spouting from his mouth.

Izzy's smirk instantly shifts into a tired but genuine smile when he sees the hero behind the blade. Pete has never been the most gifted swordsman, but it doesn't take a master to plunge a sword into the back of a man. It only takes someone with enough dedication, enough bravery, enough stubbornness to agree to infiltrate a vessel of the Spanish navy. (And also someone, apparently, who has black grease paint smeared around his eyes like the strangest racoon Izzy has ever seen.)

And all of that contributes to the most devastatingly lovely sight that Izzy has ever seen.

Izzy is woozy, but the words that have been floating in his head rise naturally to his lips. "I love you," he says, and it's as easy as breathing.

-aletterinthenameofsanity, i'm a dead man walking here (but that's the least of all my fears)

Listen, was I expecting to love these two so much? No, no I wasn't. Was I so absolutely glad to see the way the two of them ended up having one of the most solid, supportive, affectionate dynamics in the entire crew? Hell yeah! The fact that their relationship begins with Pete whittling Izzy his new leg? And the fact that he does it again after Izzy's leg is stolen from him when Izzy and Archie are taken by the Spanish? THE FACT THAT IT IS USED AS A METAPHOR FOR THEIR RELATIONSHIP? Dead. Gorgeous. 10/10. This scene, where Pete is the first one in to rescue Izzy during the Santa Joana situation, gave me everything I ever could have wanted. The two of them and Lucius really flesh each other out well, and I'm crossing my fingers that the promised Gravy Basket fic involves one of the three of them.

@possumsmushroom @yuenity @polikate @bricksbloggyplace

#izzy hands #black pete #black pete x izzy #izzy x black pete #ofmd #ofmd season 2 #lucius x izzy x pete #lucius x black pete x izzy #lupeteizzy #aletterinthenameofsanity #fic rec #fanfic #ao3 #moodboard #lyrics #ruelle #storm #i love their dynamic so much #their capacity for care #how supportive they are #and they also get so many cute background moments like their dance at olu/jim/archie's wedding

[blondie-drawings]

working on some silly tlt memes for my friend's bday and I liked how this one came out 🥲

#i havent read the third book im waiting for the paperback to be released ToT #i dont care if it's kinda ooc for harrow i think she has the capacity to be a tiny feral creature #also i think gideon is short but harrow is shorter. like it's important to me that they're both RUNTS #anyway uhhhhh this is your problem now #the locked tomb #tlt #gideon nav #harrowhark nonagesimus #griddlehark #gideon the ninth #harrow the ninth

[cemeterything]

the thing about "callout/cancel culture" that convinced me it's rotten to the core is the dehumanisation you face once you become the subject of a campaign like that. a lot of criticisms of callout/cancellation attempts appeal to the humanity of the subject, pointing out that it's unfair and unproductive to treat a person, a fellow human being, regardless of how much harm they've caused and how genuinely unlikable they are, like that. but unfortunately the reality of being the target of a mob mentality often means facing the very isolating and traumatising experience of realising that you've ceased to exist as a person in their eyes. you're a representation of your transgressions, an embodiment of harm that needs to be erased like a blemish, a spectacle for entertainment, a means of earning social approval by publicly condemning and humiliating you in what quickly becomes a competition to see who can strike the blow that knocks you down so you never get up again. nobody cares about who you are outside of what you did. people make mistakes and hurt one another, but there is always the capacity for change, for regret and reparations. you are an irredeemable monster. you can't change. the only way to make sure you can't cause harm ever again is to neutralise you entirely. to drive you off and hurt you so badly that you never consider coming back. and it often succeeds. but it doesn't make the world a better or safer place. it just tells everyone that certain behaviours will be punished, so you should conceal them, and harshly condemn them in others so that everyone knows where you stand; nobody will stand up for you if you're accused and brought out for judgement, so you shouldn't trust anyone, and always be on the lookout to take them down before they can do the same to you. you're not creating a safe, welcoming community. you're creating a panopticon built on fear and punishment.

#🐉 #yes ive been the target of multiple harassment campaigns. yes i was in the wrong and deserved to be held accountable. #no i didnt deserve to be treated like that. and no i didnt change because people were cruel to me. #i changed because i was lucky enough to have friends who supported me and pointed out that they wanted me to be better because they cared #their disappointment and earnest belief in my capacity to be a better person was what made me realise i could and needed to do better

[prettyboysdontlookatexplosions]

by the way on this the first day of dracula season let me just say that if you are wondering whether you, yes you personally, should sign up for dracula daily this year to see what all the fuss is about, the answer is unequivocally Yes, Do It. dracula is one of the weirdest books i have ever read (if you like i was are only familiar with it through cultural osmosis you are in for basically unrelenting surprise when you dive into the actual text), a horror novel about train schedules, an action movie about archival diligence. it’s an extremely victorian novel that i really do think speaks to our time both in spite and because of the extent to which it’s a perfect distillation of what fears and values the british empire was haunted by in the twilight it didn’t yet see coming. it’s funny by accident but also on purpose - like, really, really funny - and scary and gross and horny and strange and romantic by accident and also on purpose and if i had to choose one word to capture its emotional mood i would say sweet. discovering it in the real-time serialized format offered by dracula daily was honestly a highlight of my year and one of the most fun and rewarding reading experiences i’ve ever had, and its mix of silliness and earnestness i really think makes it a weirdly well suited novel for pondering on this particular website. it’s a love story baby just say yes!

#dracula daily #and meanwhile if you have made up your mind NOT to care #block that tag because i have the capacity to get VERY annoying about this

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

Assisting Acquaintance Acquired.

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#poorly drawn mdzs #mdzs #wen ning #wei wuxian #Ignore how Wen Ning's hair looks here because I messed it up. Let's pretend he just sported a different hair style for a brief moment. #I am not exactly great at consistency but I am trying very hard to work on that (immediately messes up again). #Absolutely *love* how Wen Ning clearly remembers and admires WWX...who does *not* recognize him. #This is the best day for Wen Ning and it means *nothing* to WWX. A painful one-sided crush made worse. #It is bittersweet to realize that we care about someone more than they care about us. Sometime we pour love into a relationship- #-with someone who just can't reciprocate. It isn't always a conscious things either. Some people just aren't aware we care. #And painfully - so painfully - You can't make them aware. No act of kindness or gift or self sacrifice will make someone care about you. #You can martyr yourself for someone and they will continue on unchanged. #I think a lot about the parallels between WN and LWJ. Not foils - just reflections. A theme repeated. #People who give so much of themselves to someone who doesn't have the capacity to give any part of themself away. #I will die on the hill of 'Wen Ning would be the love triangle romance if that trope wasn't being avoided'. #And to be honest - thank the stars above that is the case. I do not know any good love triangles in media. #We are skipping some of the sad Jiang Cheng content because I really want to finish season 2 before May. #Sorry JC emo moment lovers...I'll deliver another time.

[snekdood]

i dont think non-transmasc allies realize that- it's actually their job to uplift our voices and make us more visible. it's actually their job to bring others awareness to us and to advocate for us. it's their job to use the platform they have to talk about us, accurately portray our struggles and/or bring trans guys into the discussion to talk about our problems. we can only do so much alone and if no one else is advocating for us, then people are less likely to listen and take us seriously.

y'know how white men hafta talk to other white men for them to actually listen about and understand the struggles of people of color? it's like that. people of your own demographic are more willing to listen to you than listen to the people you're advocating for, unfortunately, but that is the reality. you need to bring us on when you're having discussions about us or at least get your info from transmascs if you're going to talk about us w/o us there. I can shout at the top of my lungs about trans men everyday but at the end of the day it doesnt reach as much people. it's the responsibility of people with more visibility and a platform to boost our voices and message.

#transandrophobia #i dont feel like thats too much to ask. #and no- boosting the opinions of only trans guys you agree with isnt enough. diversity of perspectives is important. #also- if you keep antagonizing us- it's gonna make it harder for us to survive and sub sequentially all trans ppl to survive. #the longer trans men remain invisible- the more people will just target trans women. #antagonizing us and choosing to smother our voices aids you in 0 capacity and makes life worse for all trans people. #i shouldn't have to ask you to care enough about us to actually advocate for ALL of us.

[redrobin-detective]

My favorite part of my Adventure Time binge is I pick what looks like the most silly episodic episode with a weird title and a plot that seems pretty open and shut and it goes in the most unexpectedly painful and lowkey horrifying direction that leaves me shook. I expected shenanigans and got an existential crisis instead.

#adventure time #haha princess monster wife has Ice King assemble a wife from other princess parts how silly #instead Im repeatedly kicked in the face with Ice King - Simon's - utter capacity for love and empathy #Like yes he kidnapped those princess parts but the love and care he showed his monster creation in making her feel “normal” and loved #the dual nature of Ice King's curse is he acts out irrationally but then the love he can't contain still leaks through somehow #And how his wife eventually gave back the stolen parts herself -damning her own existence- bc she knew IK loved her beyond her physical for #BECAUSE SIMON HAS BEEN LOVING AND IDOLIZING AND PINING AFTER BETTY FOR 1000 YEARS WITHOUT SEEING HER #Betty wasn't fully introduced for like another whole season but her footprints on IK's heart can be seen and felt so clearly in this ep #i just wanted something silly in the bg while I ate breakfast and now I need to lie down and cry

[pippuns]

the only thing that could have improved SVSSS is if shen jiu was in the background providing scathing hateful commentary the entire time. i want to see him and shen yuan eat each other alive <3

#svsss #shen yuan #shen jiu #shang qinghua #og shang qinghua #pippart #im so interested in the tragedy of sj's whole thing #like there's the obvious bit #with a guy who gets replaced by someone else and its obvious that the new guy isn't the old guy #but no one really cares to look past their initial misgivings about the situation and just accept it #both bc of false rumors about the old guy but also bc he's just. really too wounded to connect with other people in any meaningful capacity #but im also just soooo interested with what shen yuan does with shen jiu's life #because its literally objectively better #he doesn't get tortured to death #he has friends. his disciples love him. his martial siblings rely on him. his reputation is improved on all accounts. he finds love. #he's more sociable and he trusts other people more and other people trust him in turn #but in order to get this result you have to completely divorce the old goods from the new #its a similar reason as to why im so interested in kris's whole thing in deltarune #is this something sj could have gotten on his own if someone had reached out to him first? #was sj ever in a place where he could have accepted a hand reached out towards him? #or was he always doomed to be his own downfall? #anyways. i am very normal about the media i consume. #obsessed with the stranger vibes of svsss SO much #hello fellow tma enjoyers that podcast permanently changed how i evaluate characters #hello tumblr exclusives you get the benefit of seeing my deranged thoughts in the tags #bc im too shy to just tweet this out

[quasi-normalcy]

#it's never natural. it's always artificial. #It's always asking yourself ''is that too much? is that too little? is my tone right here? should i be smiling?'' #''Does this person actually want to know? How long should I listen to this person talk about something I don't care about?'' #''Is it reasonable to leave yet? Will I miss out? Will I appear creepy if I linger?'' #''How familiar should I be? Am I giving away too much about my emotional state? Am I giving away too little?'' #Obsessively trying to guess what the other person wants and is thinking so you don't weird them out. #Obsessively trying to remember what you know about the other person so you don't seem indifferent? #''No theory of mind.'' Fuck you. I wish I had no theory of mind #I wish I didn't have to waste mental capacity thinking about it.

[fredoesque]

see the THING about goodsir and stanley is that goodsir may be way less inclined to act cruelly but he has a far greater capacity for it.

#no listen to me bc stanley is cruel out of uncaringness #oh your toes are getting snipped off? well don't expect any coddling he's got better things to do #but that's the extent of it he doesn't care to hurt anyone either #(and yes obviously carnevale shows that he very much can hurt people but even then the hurt is not his /goal/ #it's a necessary evil so he can help people. of all things) #in contrast with goodsir who cares so so much about things and about doing them right #including. when pushed far enough. cruelty #the terror #i hope people know whenever i make a mean post about goodsir i do like him #i just think one of his best qualities is that he kinda sucks <3 #also tbc having a capacity doesn't mean living up to it. it just means you could

[insteading]

As someone who’s done bereavement care for almost 20 years, I’ve observed again and again and again that it is not staying with grief that cuts us off from other people, it’s suffocating grief and suppressing grief. It’s impossible to repress grief without also repressing all sorts of other things like joy and memory. Actually, expressing grief naturally connects us empathetically to other people. It is not an accident that right now when there is such a profound suppression of global grief, we’re also finding ourselves in a moment of such isolation.

Rabbi Elliot Kukla, in them magazine

I sought out this piece because Rabbi Kukla was quoted in today's sermon in reference to the ongoing genocide in Gaza ("It is lifesaving to mourn our humanity in inhumane times").

But this paragraph about grief hit me so hard I wanted to single it out to share. It is relevant to corporate grief of the sort we might experience when a state is doing harm in our name (police brutality, displacement, execution). It is also relevant to individual griefs.

In the bereavement calls I do for hospice, I have noticed, this is precisely what gets people stuck in grief: the feeling that there is no safe space and time to express grief. Companies tend to give very little accommodation for bereavement, if they give any at all. Culturally we're expected to get over losses in a matter of days. But grief rewires us, and some losses-- particularly losses like war, displacement, and police brutality where a state or institution does the same kind of harm repeatedly-- are complex and ongoing.

Grief impacts sleeping, eating, executive function. (I don't ask people in bereavement calls, "How are you doing?" I ask, "How are you sleeping?" "How's your appetite?" Maybe "Are there moments from your caregiving, or from your [loved one's] dying, that keep coming up for you?" Because of course you're not fine! You just lost someone essential to you. What I want to know is, is your body getting a chance to repair itself as your mind and heart process what you've experienced?)

People have talked to me after a loss about feeling exhausted and overwhelmed by daily life. It's not unlike recovering from a major injury and having a sizable portion of your bandwidth given over at all times to the tasks of bone, muscle, and nerve repair that are not under your conscious control. When tasks you're used to thinking of as having one part suddenly make it clear how complex they are? Cooking a meal takes more out of you. Doing a load of laundry takes more out of you. If you're already an introvert, the cost of social engagement goes up, at a time when social engagement might actually be very helpful.

Doing some of our grief work with other trusted people shares the load. It recovers some bandwidth. But many folks learn early in the grieving process that they have fewer trusted people than they thought. Or that it feels like the wrong time to deepen an acquaintanceship they'd hoped might become a friendship. Or that they aren't as comfortable asking loved ones for help as they thought they would be.

And the bereavement model I'm trained in assumes that a grieving person has experienced one recent loss. We know that a recent loss might poke us in the tender spots left by earlier losses. But that's still different from the experience of a tragedy that affects a whole community at once (as in an entire region's population losing multiple loved ones in a very short time and being forced to flee).

I don't really have a conclusion here, but I'm finding the activism that feels most healing and hope-filled to me has lament built into it: a chance to name the people who've died in our county's jail, while advocating for better communication with families of people inside. A chance to call out the names of people lost to covid while advocating for policies that will mitigate risk to vulnerable people.

Maybe it takes days to name all the people impacted by ongoing genocides in Congo, Palestine, Yemen, while urging our government to end its role in those genocides. Maybe our systems and structures, which aren't even good at honoring our grief for members of the nuclear family we're taught is our primary world, are disinclined to give us that time. Maybe we ought to take it anyway.

#this is not about my favorite silly little pirate show #except insofar as ofmd touches on grief / and actions to preserve the show acknowledge the grief we feel losing something meaningful #grief is the shape our love takes when we lose someone or something we love #and we should be able to name that person or thing #i'm never going to stop being mad at managers / well-meaning acquaintances who tell my clients 'it's been a while; you should move on' #seriously fuck all the way off with that; whoever hurt you / don't pass that hurt on #a person who is grieving is a person who has the capacity for love and care / and that capacity ought to be nurtured #because it's the basis of mutual aid / support / positive action / and a whole host of other things we need more of #anyway: strive to be a person who is safe to grieve around #and strive to be a person who is not too cool to care about anyone or anything #and if you wind up in any kind of position of influence or authority someday? make your environment more supportive to people in grief #grief care #community trauma

[victorianpining]

That's it everybody, victorianpining is no longer accepting any new followers, my count is legally required to remain at 1,895 until the end of time or until there is an explicitly confirmed Holmes/Watson adaptation, whichever comes sooner. Thank you for your cooperation in this matter.

#rebs blogging #it might come across as disingenuous since this is about 10% of my old follower count #but I do find it surreal that anyone still cares about keeping up with me in any capacity at this stage #anyway thanks for the silly number <3

[man-down-in-hatchet-town]

Forever thinking about the part in “One Step Ahead” when Curt says “you’ve lost your mind” and Owen just… doesn’t disagree.

#I think that to a degree Owen is aware that he has gone off the deep end #he just doesn’t care because all there is left in him is hatred for a Curt and a black hole and a great capacity for violence and killing #what a character #I am afraid we will never stop analyzing him #spies are forever #Owen carvour #agent Curt mega

[dribs-and-drabbles]

Oh btw if anyone's interested WE'RE GONNA GET BOYFRIENDS SHARING CLOTHES

#last twilight #last twilight series #it's the 'capacity intensive care' shirt #it's also not lost on me that mhok wearing BRIGHT PINK might be a thing for them now #😭😭😭 #last twilight the series

[youhavereachedtheendofpie]

I am not, and never will be, over the fact that Cassian Andor looked at an imperial security droid, the same model that tossed him about, nearly choked him, and helped put him in prison, and said to himself: actually, I'm gonna make you my buddy

#cassian andor #k2so #andor #rogue one #he is so deeply kind and caring actually #he has such a capacity for love #🥹🥹🥹

[rhys-writes-some-shit]

Could've sworn someone asked for an Alastor x Anxious!Reader fic a while ago, but I can't seem to find the ask... Oh well! Here's something I whipped up really quick!

Alastor x Anxious!Reader Headcanons (Queer-Platonic)

💔 Alastor probably wouldn’t understand your anxiety at first, considering the time period he lived in before he died. 💔 It would also take him a while to notice any outward signs. He’d probably sign it off as a “quirk” or something before he realizes it causing you actual emotional harm. 💔 If you tell him about it, he’d probably brush it off before doing a little retroflection and research once you’re out of sight. 💔 “That sounds like a bit of exaggeration, dearest, perhaps you’re over-reacting?” Proceeds to frantically look for a book about helping people with anxiety while you cry yourself to sleep 🙃 💔 Once he’s well-read, he starts taking mental note of any trigger or outward symptom you display, no matter how small. 💔 He won’t really do much unless things get bad or if he can tell you’re close to a panic/anxiety attack. 💔 Then he’ll gently pull you aside so you can calm yourself down. 💔 He’s not very good at coaching you through breathing exercises, but he’ll occasionally reassure you that he’s there and he’s willing to wait for you. 💔 Then, if he’s feeling generous, he’ll hug you before leaving and acting like nothing happened. 💔 If Alastor is anything, it’s subtle. 💔 He won’t tell anyone about your anxiety, nor does he expect anyone else to know. 💔 If you’re in a situation you can’t leave, he’ll put a hand on your arm, reassuring you that he realizes and is there for you. 💔 He’s never confirmed it, but you’re almost positive he can hear your heartbeat and can tell when it picks up. He’s typically at your side before you have to say anything, even if you’re masking your symptoms. 💔 All in all, Alastor is never the most sympathetic or outwardly helpful, but he does care in his own way.  💔 And once you realize it, it’s hard to miss. 💔 Now Alastor just hopes that no one ever notices he cares, or else he’ll have to kill them, and no one wants that. (That’s a lie, he sort of does).

#hazbin hotel #alastor #hazbin hotel fanfiction #alastor the radio demon #alastor x reader #alastor x reader queerplatonic #hazbin hotel alastor #rhys-writes #gn reader #anxiety #bruh its so hard to write soft!alastor bc he has the capacity he just doesnt care