#this is not for lack of being invited

[motleyfam]

ok, but after reading your analysis of the whole the who's carsick poll and the really cute Dick and Damian dynamic I cracked myself up thinking about a road trip without Dick, Duke, and Steph but with Damian where Bruce is secretly thinking 'sweet! we're gonna be able to make such good time!' blissfully unaware that he's weaving his way towards disaster. What a delightful though exercise!! Thank you! Also, what about Alfred?

(referring to this post)

lmaooo RIP Bruce thinks he's finally going to have some peace

#alfred... i just don't see him tagging along for family road trips #this is not for lack of being invited #the man just needs a fucking break sometimes #and being cooped up in a vehicle with these devil children sounds horrific #he flies out to meet them all at disney world #steps fresh off the plane in his pressed suit and sunglasses #while bruce and co. come stumbling out of the car looking like they've all had a brush with death #which honestly isn't too far from the truth after duke's window maneuver there

[ride-a-dromedary]

I personally think a nice way to give us more chances to talk to Halsin in Act 3 is giving us the option to ask him for a new story from his 350 years of life, and we get a new tidbit of information that changes based on how high his approval is, or whether or not he's being romanced. If the approval is low, he shares little or refuses. I want a chance to hear about how much he studies, meditates, and hibernates and not just the salacious parts!

#BG3 Musing #Halsin Posting #halsin is very clear that he's lived a while and feels a lot older than he is #i want to hear more about high forest and the emerald grove #i want a way for him to tell me things about himself that don't involve me having to have a rendezvous that casually brings up a bad memory #yknow? #karlach asking him for stories and him immediately being like 'no one really cares about those they're only really interested in escapades' #and wyll being like 'do you actually do anything besides meditate council fight train and make love?' and halsin just nonchalantly #'is such an existence lacking?' i know thats supposed to be funny #but he sounds so put upon by it #like okay and..? #maybe im just a sap but i want to hear more general stuff #if that writer on twitter is serious about taking suggestions heres one #also this isn't an invite to bash on act 3 halsin - most of the companions are dead air after you do their quest #this is an encompassing larian issue all around where the companions sort of all fall flat midway through act 3 #but that's another point entirely

[milf-harrington]

its so fucking disheartening realising that no one actually sees me as a guy, they just pretend to - and yeah its great being called theo but its less great being lumped in as one of the girls in the same breath

#i dont mind being the only non-girl invited to something (like my sisters hens for example) bc that just feels like a Gay thing yknow #but when the invite is 'hey girls' its kind of hard to consider that you see me as anything else #and i think the worst part - and this is probably the part of me that lacks self respect - is that i get it. #i have long hair i dress 'fem' and the only steps ive managed to take in my transition are wearing a binder and going by a different name. #so sure. but its still gutting and makes me feel fucking /gross/ makes my stomach hurt and my skin crawl #because like. theyll call me theo and a brother and an uncle and a son but?? do they even mean it?? #do they actually believe what theyre saying or is everyone just going along with it because they dont want to look like assholes? #i almost prefer my uncle whos at least UPFRONT about not understanding it #like at least hes honest at least when he calls me a girl i expect it #i just wanna curl up w my nephew and read bc at least he doesnt even understand gender yet #to him i AM just his uncle and thats all he cares about #captain speaks

[vickyvicarious]

Maybe Van Helsing should have revealed the truth to Jack the way Mina revealed the truth to Jonathan: make him supper first. She also probably didn't thrust the telegram into his face.

I respect this, and I certainly agree that a more gradual method of revealing the truth to Jack would have been better. However I also don't think that (a) van Helsing is capable of smoothly turning the post-dinner conversation to "so you know the woman you love who died very recently, I think she's a creature of the night", or (b) Jack would have taken it any better if it were delicately brought up after a nice meal.

The man was so miserable and is repeatedly so envious of others being comforted, I kind of feel like he would interpret the whole meal/gentle introduction of the topic of Lucy as an effort from someone to take care of him and just break down. Van Helsing gets as far as a soft "It's been a few days since the funeral of Miss Lucy," and Jack, who has a glass of alcohol in hand, a belly full of good food, has been enjoying someone seeking out his company after he has been isolating himself miserably in work, who feels like he doesn't have a right to ask for comfort for multiple reasons but who is very frayed at always trying to be the one to offer it and wants it so badly for himself - Jack starts crying hard.

#dracula daily #van helsing #jack seward #i understand his reasoning for not doing so but i still think van helsing's smoothest introduction would have been when she was still alive #if he presented it more gradually as 'something attacking her in the night' maybe brought up bats. kept them on guard. #then led up to his suspicions of a supernatural being - and emphasized that even if his suspicions are wrong he isn't prescribing anything #that could possibly harm her. just garlic flowers and supervised rest. i think jack would be very reluctant but go along and only resolve t #watch him closely as in canon. and vh could even invite him to do so. #as long as it is framed as 'this is to save lucy' it's all an easier sell to act on than 'lucy is a monster' ever would be when they're all #grieving her. #of course he lacked the confidence/knowledge to do that. but if he'd met the harkers earlier maybe he would have felt emboldened to do so.. #maybe things could have changed... or at least been a smoother/less traumatizing shock #(i don't think he'd tell anything more than the suspicion of something getting her in the night to anyone but jack. but that might still be #enough for art to tell quincey and quincey to go vampire bats? as in canon and for them all to be watching the windows/not leaving her) #anonymous #replies

[bangcakes]

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#personal #i think that like... the dam's broken. for lack of a better term #or i guess the ice ???? idk man #either way. been messaging back n forth with him like crazy for the past few days #i just decided that like.... whatever. if i feel like saying something i should just say it to him !!! #and i think me being open has led to him being open.... #god its so hard when both ppl only really talk when they have something to say JFJDJDJDJDJDJDJDJJD #like... i cant even make up a reason to talk to him. i cant pretend to be dumb n not understand anything. he'll know its bullshit NDJDJDJDN #n e way...... defs met my match here lmao. but really its been so nice just being able to talk to him when i want. bc waiting until being i #person was getting so !!@@@ long !!! like god. i didnt know i could miss someone so bad...... its so !!@@@@@@ #gah !!!!!!!!!!!! #n e way. things are goin in the right direction #and hahaha !!!!!!@ i have a game plan to make sure we stay in touch too !!!!! me n one of my other friends promised to keep in touch with #each other and i was like oh should we invite everyone else. and she was like oh !! maybe ____ so i was like !!!!!!!! #so true !!!!!!!!!!@ #gosh im so excited i really like them both so much we're all similar temperaments so ya..... ive wanted to make sure i keep them JFJFJFJD #n e way. we still havent asked him but hopefully he says yes !!!! bc he always sits behind us n im just like !!!! ik you wanna sit with us #so just sit beside us istg !!!! but ah ... i think hes shy #god hes so cute #and shes like not competition btw. like..... she has a bf. she knows i like this guy now (i spilled. i couldnt hold it in 💀💀💀). and ya !! #hopefully exciting things coming!!!

[ask-ursa-tonypeter]

[fic: wicked love] So Peter, can you sense pheromones? Did you have a sense of what Tony was thinking about when you were sharing a bed? 👀

What? No! I mean-- yeah, I could hear his heart so I knew he was making himself anxious, and I sort of-- after we figured out that skin-to-skin touch was helpful I just… It’s Dad, I knew he would at least think about it? If just to rule it out, and… When it kept happening I could kind of put together that he was thinking about, um, helping me sometimes. Did Dad think it was pheromones?

#fic: wicked love #wicked love: peter #ursa interlude: #to clarify in that particular moment peter was correctly identifying that tony was Anxious and inviting him to talk about it #because he himself spent the whole fic being desperate to actually talk about the elephant in the room #he didn't know in that moment that tony was anxious because he was thinking about sex with peter #but he did put it together later as part of a general pattern #tony himself was just being paranoid and projecting his guilt/anxiety about Thinking About Sex With His Son #+ not at all catching on that peter was repeatedly trying to get him to talk about the situation throughout the fic #and peter asking 'what were you thinking about' was an invitation and not an. accusation??? for lack of a better word????

[robots-on-film]

Reading through a lot of Batfam posts as hit me with a idea. Okay so, fanfic idea! No continuity in mind just vibes for this one.

Okay so so, set up is that Eddie is trying to get out of crime n he is doing the whole private detective thingy, aight? Anyhow the fic is about Eddie struggling with his life but the format is a la 5+1 thing (except this time is 7+1) as he is slowly eased into the Batfam by the batkids revealing their identities to him.

The +1 thing is Bruce inadvertently revealing his own identity while taking his kids and Eddie to batburger after a mission well done in the batmobile (which i picture to look freakishly long now that it has to accommodate for 7 people), causing Eddie to short circuit. The end

#batfam #batman #fanfic idea #au #the riddler #edward nygma #Martín speaks #look i am very self-conscious about my lack of knowledge of the on-continuity comic's but. in my defense this has the au tag- #anyhow the finale bit was going to be eddie getting invited to a holiday potluck at wayne manor n being confused yet going anyway because #he can't help himself n then he learns about Bruce being batman. he still short circuits. anyhow changed it because batburger is funny to me

[alchemiclee]

there's so many popular repetitive video games that seem so boring to play, but then I watch people stream them with a group of friends, and they make it seem so fun just because the people playing are so lively and goofy and funny. I want that. I want to be part of a group of streamers or at least group of friends that make receptive and otherwise boring games fun and hilarious. a group that's not boring, serious, competitive. one that cares more about having fun and laughing than completing the video game objective 😭

#like the currenr one lethal company #it doesnt look fun at all and looks like it would get boring fast. UNLESS you have hilarious friends to laugh with #which i lack. i dont have enough friends and most people i know and would play co op games are too serious and boring #people probably think the same of me. im generally quiet and confused when playing games and bad at them #usually people get mad at me for being bad or goofing around so its never fun. but the fun people never invite me #probably because they thjnk im the boring one. but i absorb energy like a sponge!!!!! be silly and funny and i will too! #i really need a group of people with great silly fun energy who i csn feed off of. i miss laughing. i need to laugh. i never laugh anymore😐 #lee rambles #every time i tried playing with people i know I honestly got so bored. I feel bad because they're the only ones nice enough to play with me. #but they're too serious and not funny. so I haven't played with them in like a year at least and am afraid to ask lmao #why do the silly fun people avoid me and only the serious boring people would agree...i need an energy boost #i need a person to be my battery. where do i get a battery #want to play l4d2 again. its been a while. its so hard to fill the lobby and the couple people that used to play with me arent funny 😅 #if i could get a group of silly funny weirdos together then id try lethal company. but i wont try with boring groups #there's so many games i bought to play with people and got ditched that could use a goofy group too. sighs. #why am i still rambling. i dont even have the energy to speak to multiple people at once and play a game #but maybe that's why i need a battery #anyway i kinda really miss doing silly goofy rp and regular gaming hasnt been able to replace the laughter that brought me 😭😭 #i need a good laugh. cant remember last time i laughed until i cried. laughing makes me feel good for a bit sighs. someone make me laugh pls

[forestofmemories]

also thinking about the way hapu views pokemon battles at first in the anime. she’s the granddaughter of a former kahuna, so to her battles were something that helped her grow strong, something that is useful to be knowledgeable about when protecting other people or pokemon- something sacred, even. the duty of a kahuna. she constantly refuses satoshi’s requests of having a pokemon battle with him bc the way she sees it, he battles for fun, bc he likes it, not bc it’s something you *must* do (whether to protect something or someone or in a dire situation). it’s no wonder she’s appalled when she learns satoshi wants to battle tapu fini seeing as at that point in time poni island had no kahuna (which meant there was no grand trial to take), bc hello that’s a guardian deity, this kid seemingly has no respect for customs and what the tapus mean to alola and to us and just wants to battle for fun

but she slowly opens up to the alola gang, to the point that she confronts tapu fini, a pokemon so important and sacred to her, just for a chance of getting her new friends back, bc at this rate they might never comeback. she opens up to the point that she readily, happily accepts satoshi’s challenge the moment she becomes a kahuna. to the point that she looks forward to battling satoshi again bc it was *fun*

she already knew that pokemon battles help people grow (stronger), especially when it comes to the challengers taking on the grand trial, but she comes to the realization that they can also help you grow as a person. it’s something that can help you understand and learn something about both your own pokemon, and the person you’re battling. something that can be fun and enjoyable

#and it’s only when she earnestly battles tapu fini and decides to go against what she believes in (sorta) that she’s acknowledged as kahuna #even though she’s wanted to follow her grandfather’s footsteps and become a kahuna for the longest time #she was still lacking something #the power of friendship…….. #she went from being very reserved and rather reluctant to interact with other people/the kids outside of what felt necessary #(her parents *live* in poni and yet she’d rather live alone which. is very messed up wtf where even were they) #to inviting them over to her house. to happily waving at satoshi during a press conference of all things #i love hapu so much you have no idea #half the time i don’t think i express myself the way i want to but i have. so so so many thoughts #head full only sm #does any of this even make any sense. am i making a point

[insertcoolnameherethanks]

I havent really been on interacting much i know I've been tagged in things or sent things. Sorry I haven't really responded, I've been mentally not good

#I saw a post that was almost identical to my situation on here and I thought damn is someone pretending to be me or do people just suck #People I grew up with and were extremely close with are no longer in my life and I am #I am done with the one like I've put so much effort im tired i held on after it ended far too long #Another person's wedding is coming up and it's someone who to be honest I thought would be in my wedding party if I got married #And they said I would be in theirs and im not even invited.... #And that stings #My mental state has just been garbage recently and it's like damn #Like how tf are these people younger then me getting married and moving on in relationships and im still single #Not for lack of trying...well now im not trying cause fuck it but #I am not unhappy being single but I don't have a single relationship that has a deep connection anymore #I would be fine being single and just having a close friend again #I have only one person and I dont always get to have her because she's married and also going through things #I just want a connection to someone gsjdksl #Hello I'm speaking here

[the-magicians-ravens]

the gay mike wheeler tag is growing i am incredibly happy about this development

#i remember checking it a month or two ago and being disappointed about the lack of fics #but we're nearing 500 now ! #i love bi mike too ofc but #gay mike typically invites a more complicated thought process of mike which is so delicious to me #byler #stranger things

[blackgirlcinephiles]

Monique Coleman speaks on her experience with Disney and the HSM franchise

#monique coleman #hsm #high school musical #one day #not today #but one day #im going to make a long form post about the empty diversity of a lot of these shows and film franchises #listening to her Monique speak reminds me of Ashley Murray and the other Black actresses from Riverdale #talk about not being invited to Riverdale #it reminds me of their Josie & Pussycats effectively having no storyline after a strong introduction #It reminds me of Candice Patton speaking about the lack of cultural nuance given to her and Jesse Martins characters on The Flash #it reminds me of Nicole Beharie being written off her own show #it reminds me of the recent conversation surrounding the Black characters on Wednesday #these shows with large casts often throw in POC characters #but Black characters specifically to add to the VISUAL diversity of the show #the show LOOKS diverse and inclusive on a billboard or promotional material #but then you watch the show and then… #the reality hits #and there are several reason for it #but the bottom line is I’m sick of it #Black women & girls in tv/film deserve better

[rubberbandballqueen]

had one of them "quarterly work meetings" just now and what i have learned is that i am severely lacking in the genre of social script that dictates how to behave when first joining a group of people you will be working with regularly from that point on

#i think mostly my coworkers are all people who are fairly neurotypical and so they like. Know how to do this stuff i guess #n so i'm kinda just standing there. like a vampire. needing to be invited in for lack of practice w/these scripts #n like i briefly mentioned this in the tags of a post on my other blog yesterday but like i notice smth similar in my chem lab #it's like i'm missing the first scene of a script to a play but have the rest of it memorized blocked n ready to go #as Soon as i know that my entrance isn't like a disruption of the expected flow i'm fine!!! i can do that shit!!!! #and more recently i've been learning n mastering the opening scenes to the play of 'making online friends' #which is different from real life bc online friendship is asynchronous. realizing now that's why online/irl friendships differ sometimes #n this is also why i tend to be more actively inviting at the start of smth new like a class or semester #bc those are the periods when the ~flow~ is setting itself n if i can manage to integrate into *that* i'm good i can do this #but i don't know how to *slip in* to an existing current as an active participant. i just know how to observe n absorb #bc it's ~personal sharing time~ (lol) but like obviously being Neurodivergent(tm) i misread a lot of cues growing up #n so now the goal feels like 'transition seamlessly into thing so that you're not a despised disruption' #which is why i've become so grateful to the kinds of people who make active efforts to include new people #like. thank you communications majors. i love you communications majors. i owe you my life communications majors. #bc it's so!! 'i promise i'm not snubbing you it's just that my direct instructions were to work Here so even though you are three feet away #'literally on the other side of this wall i'm not gonna come out n initiate conversation w/you bc those are Implicit Instructions' #'/Individual Expectations that i'm too afraid of reading incorrectly but if you come talk to me i will be normal abt it i promise' #the worm speaks #like pretty frequently these days i find myself thinking abt that one post that's like #'yeah back in the olden days being a good host was a learned skill n it involved these sorts of specific things' #'like matching up n introducing guests to each other by saying 'this is x this is y you both like turtles :)' #like i feel like that's the Spirit of icebreakers these days but even if you have interests in common w/someone across the circle #it can be kind of awkward to cross the room afterwards to talk to them so you just end up talking w/whoever's nearest or no one at all

[manic-pixie-dick-girl]

I am happy trans men and other trans mascs are largely welcomed and celebrated in the lesbian communities I'm a part of. Genuinely. To throw them out and ignore that these people were part of our community until they asked us to refer to them with a different pronoun would be awful. I want lesbian spaces to be a safe and welcoming space for trans mascs.

But. When I see trans masculine ppl celebrated by lesbians like happens in communities I'm in semi-frequently, a little part of me is resentful. Jealous, even. Because I don't see trans lesbians get the same treatment. I don't see cis lesbians holding up and celebrating their trans sisters like they do their brothers. Women like me aren't really visible in lesbian communities I'm in. And that hurts.

Seeing trans men celebrated by lesbians rubs salt into the wound. Because I think where is that excitement for people like me? People who are or should be considered at least as much lesbians as trans masc lesbians? Why do you make space for them, and not us?

I'm not saying stop making space for trans men in lesbian communities. That would be bad. I want more trans inclusivity not less. I am just asking that trans lesbians are helped to feel welcome.

#Trans discourse #Being sad today #Not talking about TERFs this isn't about transphobia that's a whole other thing #This is about the lack of trans women in lesbian spaces and media #I feel like in the lesbian community I'm invited to the party but nobody really wants to talk to me when I'm there #AGAIN THIS IS A PRO-TRANS-MEN POST #I am just jealous that they get the welcome they deserve #While ppl like me don't #There is so much more i can write on this too like the intersection with TERFs getting louder #How cis lesbians are mostly super chill with trans women but as a whole most trans women are scared to engage with the lesbian community

[subarucarthief]

straight up? i do not wanna do it anymore :)

#personal #like I’m Good. i’ve had my fill. #vent #the job hunt isn’t worth it anymore ! being a bad daughter isn’t helping anyone ! #my brother gets to live his stupid fucking millionaire fantasy life while I never get to see my niece or nephew #he’s taking vacations that cost 3 months of my rent and utilities Per Night #he doesn’t talk to us anymore now that he’s all successful and busy #i’m not even invited to my nephew’s christening #bc I’ll embarrass the other stupid fucking millionaires or whatever #and I can’t land a job in my field #this lack of structure without school is fucking me up so bad #and I can’t just kms bc believe it or not! it went really fucking poorly last time! #besides if i die mom won’t have any kids left #bc god knows my brother won’t step up in my absence. #and i just can’t do that to her #so Y’know. if anyone wants to hire me to continue to saving my mom the heartbreak. hmu #contribute* #i have a degree in broadcasting. as if that helps anything.

[sar3nka]

One thing I love abt the AITA blog on tumblr is that there's hardly ever an ask where someone is the asshole in the situation. Like it's so clear it's all sent by tumblrinas who are too insecure and anxious to ask for ketchup at mcdonalds. "I did this completely reasonable thing anyone would do. AITA?" lol female ass website

#no but srs its giving lack of confidence and sense of self worth... girl you did the right thing why do you need the internet to know it! #on reddit there was plenty of posts where you just wanted to kill op for being a waste of air #but here its really like. um i didnt invite my super abusive family to my wedding aita 🥺 #i followed hoping for something spicy but its all so painfully boring. no real drama.