#transracial adoptee

[antiradqueer]

Since the most popular PRAT terms are all stolen, I (mod Adam) decided to make flags for the actual definition of these terms to try and take them back :)

Transage - Age regressors, dreamers, and chronosian people who prefer the term. Can also apply to those who feel sort of “age stuck” due to trauma or neurodiversity.

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Transracial Adoptee - A person of one race or ethnicity adopted into a family of another race or ethnicity.

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Transspecies - Nonhumans or alterhumans who prefer the term.

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Transabled - People with BIID who prefer the term.

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‼️ ALL THESE FLAGS ARE ANTI-PRAT ‼️

#this is probably the only time you’ll see flags posted here #mod adam #anti radqueer #symbols are: axolotl (tribute). adoption symbol. transspecies symbol (symbol was not made by prats). and biid ribbon #alterhuman #nonhuman #biid #bid #body integrity identity disorder #body integrity dysphoria #transracial adoptee #transracial adoption #age regression #age dreaming #chronosian

[autistic-ben-tennyson]

@kanansdume, I am thinking about something. While I like the Jedi and agree with their overall philosophy on not being possessive of people and being mindful, I do have one reservation and something I have a hard time with the fandom romanticizing. I saw your post about how it was a moral failing for Anakin to not accept the Jedi as his family compared to Leia and the Organas. I am well aware of how Jedi do not kidnap babies and how similar that argument is to real life blood libel. That said, as an adoptee, adoption irl isn’t always this happy thing. Here in the states, it’s often been used by white evangelicals to adopt BIPOC kids, strip their culture from them and many adoptees do have trauma from that. I know the jedi let their members keep parts of their culture but that’s not how it goes for many real adopted kids. This isn’t a pro 50s nuclear family post btw, but is it wrong for someone irl to want to know their birth parents or even meet them or bond with them? I consider it less like Anakin being possessive of Shmi and more like Luke wanting to know his father. If an adoptive family is abusive/let you down or you struggle to truly fit in, and I am aware the Jedi were not abusive btw, is it a moral failure to not see them as your family? I know SW is for kids and meant to be a black and white fairy tale, but it also tackles some deeper sociopolitical subjects and I am a bit curious about this. I am not an Anakin apologist and don’t blame the Jedi for his crimes, but I don’t think adoption is as rosy as portrayed in SW.

#star wars #adoptee #pro jedi #jedi order #jedi #adoption #transracial adoption #transracial adoptee

[babe-con-el-poder]

I'm adding excerpts from a story in today's NY Times because they trigger a flush of memories that I think speak to the core of transracial adoption and the perspective it creates. A perspective that I think only kidnapped hostages might relate to.

I remember 1998ish after my high school days when I met up with some friends of friends at a random garage party. I was the only one who wasn't white because I was only ever surrounded by white people my entire childhood. I'm not white though. I was always in danger of racism but in a particularly horrific way where it is not blatant. More of a gimmick or fetish. On this one evening I was surrounded by mostly young white men who liked rock music and beer. One of them was someone I recognized as actually a sweet boy from a few years back. As he talked to me and we laughed about school days he proudly showed off his new tattoos. Tattoos of large Nazi Swastikas. I was horrified. But I knew the unspoken game I was supposed to play...having been adopted into a white world...I wasn't a "real" threat as a brown person. I wasn't like "those trashy N-words". So I was safe. I could laugh at his stupidity if I wanted to and he would laugh in agreement that his tattoos were just meant to be a joke. A ploy for attention more than...being a Nazi sympathizer.

He flirted with me and asked me to sit on his lap while we chatted and drank. And as I did, my heart broke for him. And my mind downplayed my own fear of his probable violence. I was being brainwashed into white supremacy, so that I would remain safe. I put his comfort first and foremost above my own discomfort so much so that I actually felt empathy for him. But now I realize that I was heartbroken because this moment just proved all my fears were valid. That the mistrust of the all white environment I grew up in was legitimate. Again I was feeling the free fall of abandonment.

And I've seen this repeated by white supremacy over and over....the use of coercion and twisted humor to cover up the insanity of bigotry.

This NY TIMES story occurred decades after that crazy night in the garage. Kids are still dealing with the same problem. No matter how liberal or educated or wealthy a town and community wants to be in this country....there is a sickness that runs though our United States culture.

As long as it keeps being ignored and laughed off it will continue to thrive.

#transracial adoptee #adoptee #adoption #i am adopted #adoptees unite #mental health #adoption is trauma #racist structures #racism #racism in the USA #high school #adoptee support #my story #growing up brown #brown girls #white supremacy

[they-ra420]

#transracial adoptee #adoption is cultural genocide #anti adoption #adoption trauma #trans art #transgender #libraljane #https://www.instagram.com/liberaljane/

[transracial-trainwreck]

Can we all agree that celebrating the day someone decided not to keep you is mad weird

#transracial adoption #adoption #adoptee #transracial adoptee #transracial #biospawn dont interact

[dykeluc]

shout to transracial adoptees, your the backbone of the adoptee community and without you we would have nothing

you are loved and cared more than you know 💖

#transracial #Transracial adoptee #transracial adoption #adoptee #adoption #tags so people can actually ses this #im not transracial but you guys deserve all the love and supprt #cant type ugh

[adoptee-moments]

Adoptee Moment #21

#adopted #adoption #adoptionisawesome #transracial #transracial adoptee #adopted kid moments #adoptedkidmoments #adoptedkidproblems #adopted kids #adoptee problems #adoptee

[liuwithheadcanons]

Adoption in Omegaverse

So, I decided to make this post cause I am a Transracial Adoptee and I know omegaverse isn’t irl but it’s very involved in its fantasy sciences

When I talk about ‘adoption,’ I do not mean family adoptions I mean an unrelated person taking care of an unrelated person.  Overall Tw because I will talk about the affects/effects it may have on individuals and also this isn’t a post about a set conclusion. This is me ranting and questioning on how things would go. I also implore and encourage you do to your own research about how adoptions have positive and negative affects/effects on adoptees 

I also want to emphasis you do not have to make adoption bad or negative in your verse. The point of this post is me asking questions as an adoptee myself and how’d it work. 

Questions that I asked myself: When a baby is separated from its mother in real life, that child suffers neurobiological problems. Pit this with omegaverse? I bet that that would be increased by a significant amount.

Why?

Scent.

A wolf pup will look for its mothers scent to help comfort it- that’s just a biological thing pups will do. And if she comes back smelling not correct the pup will then get confused and maybe even ‘aggressive,’

I can see in omegaverse that pups separated at birth and given to another non biological person suffering some amounts of scent confusion. (As in they have no one to really seek that biological scent comfort from and scramble to adapt to that scent but due to the nature of kids being passed around I can see this being difficult for many individuals.) Ofc they can grow out of this- or maybe they don’t, it all depends, just like irl

I also wonder and ask myself will the life of omegaverse with all of its technologies and emphasis on ‘biology,’ will be aware of this and more open. I also wonder of adoption agencies will be less sleezy and exploitative as irl or maybe they’ll be even more exploitive. Saying stuff like how the pup hasn’t had an efficient scent to cling to and thus pulling the heartstrings of parents 

 Now as for adoptive parents: Omegaverse puts a lot of emphasis on pups. Ones that cannot have pups will turn to adoption but as like irl the intent is important: adoptive parents who want a kid more than wanting to help a kid who needs a home are walking red flags. Same with vice versa. (One wanting the picture perfect child and one having a savior complex.) There needs to be a healthy balance

And with all the biological needs and social emphasis on needing pups I feel like humans in a/b/o verse would very much be on the “turned to adoption because we couldn’t have any,”

So case in point: I think adoption in a/b/o would be kinda more fucked up than irl, and just like irl I do think there is a safe and humane way to adopt. (That is a whole other thing that if you need to ask, I can explain.) Our world now just isn’t doing that, and maybe due to the technological advancements that the a/b/o world has they figured out a way to do that already.

How? I don’t know exactly.

I’m sorry of this post was a downer, it was just a post to get people thinking and I am open to answer any questions regarding what I’ve said here 

Also another thing I am not a huge worshiper of biological relationships- even though I acknowledge that adoption has fucked with me, I still love my adopted parents. Even if they could have done better for me.  fuck ‘blood must stick together’ and fuck ‘love is thicker than blood’ - you don’t need to consider either more important. You can have a balance. As long as you’re happy where you are that’s all that matters 

#transracial adoptee #adoption #alpha/beta/omega dynamics #alpha/beta/omega headcanon #alpha/beta/omega verse #alpha/beta/omega au #a/b/o au #a/b/o headcanon #a/b/o verse #adoption is trauma

[adoptee-reminders]

it is not okay to steal terms from a minority group. Please stop using the term transracial as it is an adoptee only term. It means for someone to be adopted from a race/ethnicity other than their own. Stop appropriating our terminology. 

#adoptee #adoption #transracial #transracial adoptee #transracial adoption #adopt #adopted #radqueer

[chaos-and-ink]

It's almost funny that we know more about my dog's family history than we do mine. We know his mom and dad. his birthday, where he was born, a list of his relatives and health conditions they may have, etc. meanwhile i'm just floatin' around like yea I got nothing.

#chaos #adoptee #adoptee things #transracial adoptee

[red-envelopes]

Adoption Day

does anyone else feel very ? off? during the days/weeks coming up to your adoption day?

I've only began noticing it recently but especially this year, but in the weeks running up to my adoption day everything has felt completely out of sorts, i'm experiencing the whole shebang of unexplained psychosomatic symptoms, stressed out for no reason, extra vulnerable etc.

for me it's like the body remembers what was happening to me. all of these symptoms went away after my adoption day passed. i don't know how else to interpret it.

the 6 weeks between my birthday and my adoption day have been extremely difficult for me psychologically and emotionally (and physically at this rate lol) and have been for years but i can only put a name onto it now. is this a common enough feeling?? does it have a name??

the day came and went without any big hurrah but i always feel so hollow after my birthday, and i feel hollow after my adoption day but somehow less so.

adoptees, please let me know your thoughts and experiences too <3

#adoption #adoptee #adoption thoughts #transracial adoptee #adoptee thoughts #adoption day #my post

[may-or-may-not-be-me]

*spiderman pointing meme*

Me, wasian: thinking my friend, who is visibly part asian but has a white last name, was wasian like me

My friend, 100% Chinese transracial adoptee: thinking I, who to her looks 100% Korean but has a white last name, was a transracial adoptee like her

#idk I just thought this was neat #op #wasian #mixed race #transracial adoptee

[autistic-ben-tennyson]

Anyone have trouble loving their parents

I always have had a hard time loving my parents and at times I’ve felt like a monster or sociopath. When they tell me “I love you” I of course respond with “love you too” but it feels empty. I often struggle with communication but some of it comes down to trust issues. How do I know I can really trust you? You can claim “you can tell me anything” or “I’ll support you no matter what” and it just feels empty. Maybe because I remember all the times you yelled until I broke down crying and called it tough love. You can claim to validate my feelings while getting pissed off if something I say accidentally comes out wrong and shout “don’t give me attitude”. Am I not allowed to be angry? Do you really value what I think or do you just want to change my perspective to yours? No, I don’t want to go to Florida, ever! I’m happy you got that job, but I don’t feel safe or comfortable there. Especially since I’m questioning my gender identity and I’ve heard the stuff you’ve said about trans athletes. You can claim to be supportive all you want, but again how can I trust you? You praise my autism when I am acting quirky, but then humiliate me about my struggles with social awareness when I make a small mistake and force me to play with kids I don’t even like to make me feel “included” when I just want to read about dinosaurs. Am I wrong for feeling any of this?

Edit: I think some of these feelings come from being a transracial adoptee as well. I may have some trauma that I don’t even know about. As I do relate to some of the symptoms.

#actually autistic #autism #vent post #neurodivergent #estranged parents #adoptee #transracial adoptee

[babe-con-el-poder]

In a far away land....that used to be ruled by empires and trade routes to places beyond the southern hemisphere, I was created by a young, beautiful, somewhat lost but well loved woman.

She worked hard to care for others' homes and children. She was friendly and sweet and so unassuming that noone realized she was pregnant until she was about to give birth. But sadly, she knew the baby she would bear would not be safe with her. She had no financial means or quiet home to take la niñita to so they may live a warm and happy life together. There was no welcoming of her new daughter by her family because she knew the unfair shame of being alone and pregnant. She was desperate. And heartbroken.

I was born only 5 lbs and came to the world very early. I stayed in my mother's arms only a week then was brought to my permanent new home. I was more than a lifetime removed from my mother's world. I was surrounded by English speaking white people in a very cold but beautiful countryside. There were gorgeous farms and lots of safe places to play outside. Nothing like the crowded city my mother and her family lived in. But she ached for me. Finally, as her heart began to somehow heal slowly, she had a chance to live closer to me. She was promised a chance to watch me grow and flourish in the English-speaking world.

But life is hell. And I learned this lesson before I could really understand what it fully meant. My mother died tragically in a fiery car accident in my first year of life. If I had not been sent away I would have also perished with her.

Her legacy is ME. She is my guiding light. Her voice has protected me in the darkest hours. I still wonder why me? Is there a why? Does it matter? How could I have survived this insanely tragic beginning to my story and continued on as normal?

I know so much from living this story. I know that we take every moment for granted. I am a transracial, transnational adoptee. I sit in my power having learned from grief and loss as my very first life experience. And I'm here to share and learn.

#transracial adoptee #writer #listen to me #adoption #abortion #adoption is not a solution to abortion #adoptees unite #adoptee #my story #share #get to know me #womens history #feminist #the personal is political #mi existir es resistir #end erasure

[they-ra420]

I feel guilty that someone loves me and wants to be with me because I’m neurodivergent and have childhood abuse(s). I want to be more give more I want to illustrate the effort in my brain because sometimes my behavior doesn’t seem to match. How is it fair to ask to be loved and considered when I know I’ll make my mistakes over and over again. Why would I let someone love me when it will just be work and a journey to resenting me for my partner. Yet still I want to love I want to give love I want to light her up from her soul. I want to be not depressed not adoption trauma no disability not sexually abused not hated for my skin no trauma for losing love coming out for gender and sexuality. I want to succeed at helping us look forward and see hope see the chances to love and keep each other safe. I want to inspire her I want to encourage her.

I will never be inspiring and fully functioning god my heartbrain hurts. Loving is something to do so carefully and the world has the laziest scripts. We’re doomed to hurt each other even if you’re not neurodivergent or systemically hunted and oppressed. It’s so hard to do well to be mentally soulgentle and conscientious when everyone misunderstands and your disability makes weighing social queues, bodily language, stigma, tone, past behavior really daunting plus RAW and undefeated ptsd. I wish if you wanted something good and loving for the world or others and that has self improvement elements that you would succeed.

#actually adhd #actually neurodivergent #adoptee #transracial adoptee #brown trans problems #trans nonbinary #anti adoption

[transracial-trainwreck]

Fear of abandonment hitting hard today

#transracial adoption #adoption #adoptee #transracial adoptee #transracial