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I've also realized that this strong desire puts a lot of pressure on my friendships, I feel dissapointed anytime I feel misunderstood, any time I feel unrelatable. I need to allow friendships with whoever to be what they are and appreciate them for what they are and acknowledge that the dissapointment I feel comes from a deeper place. The pain of loneliness and isolation i've felt for so much of my life. The agony of not fitting in, of being seen as strange, undesirable, not worth getting to know. Every time I feel unheard by a friend I feel the sting of that old wound.

As single as I am, sometimes I long more for the sweetness of a friend who can truly understand me, listen to me, entertain my thoughts and ideas. I want a friend who can understand me and get where I'm coming from, someone who sees my sensibilities and loves what makes me who I am and what makes me human. Someone who is curious to want to know me more and caring enough to be inquisitive. I want a friend who knows me so well, they can speak for me to others and introduce me as someone they truly know. I want a friend who I can refer to when people say 'how would your best friend describe you?' I want a friend who finds me as a silly human being funnier than any jokes I can think to make. That kind of friendship I sometimes miss more than any relationship i've been in.

#going deeper #thought #mine

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As single as I am, sometimes I long more for the sweetness of a friend who can truly understand me, listen to me, entertain my thoughts and ideas. I want a friend who can understand me and get where I'm coming from, someone who sees my sensibilities and loves what makes me who I am and what makes me human. Someone who is curious to want to know me more and caring enough to be inquisitive. I want a friend who knows me so well, they can speak for me to others and introduce me as someone they truly know. I want a friend who I can refer to when people say 'how would your best friend describe you?' I want a friend who finds me as a silly human being funnier than any jokes I can think to make. That kind of friendship I sometimes miss more than any relationship i've been in.

#me #mine #friends #thoughts #vulnerability #friendship

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Went camping and hiking , it was an amazing time ☺️ I took all these photos myself remotely controlling my camera with my phone 😂. Some shameless leo moon vanity.

First night I was with friends and the second night I camped and hiked alone, it was great tuning into nature, reflecting, and getting in touch with the environment.

#me #mine #camping #hiking #arizona

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#mine #arizona #chiricahua #nature

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The Victim-Victor Mentality

A common thing we can fall into is feeling like we are either a victim or a victor. We either feel like we are being victimized by the people around us and blame those around us for what is happening in our minds, or we feel the need to be superior to them, to feel like we are above them and that we beat someone else.

Either way it stems from insecurity. Its an expression of feeling powerless, that our circumstance and those around us dictate our lives. In that sense, being a victim or a victor is two sides of the same coin, both stemming from a deep sense of insecurity. The victor mentality may be trickier to see in that light , but it is also that because one feels a need to be above others from a sense of feeling really beneath everyone, a person who is secure in their sense of worth would not feel the need to be superior to others.

I imagine most everyone struggles with this in both subtle and explicit ways. The key I believe is to observe your experience , observe your mind and get better at feeling into the experience, integrating that wounded insecure self, and becoming more of an author of your own story, recognizing that you don't need to be a victim to others, you are in charge of the narrative of your life. You also don't need to be a victor, its not a competition and your self worth is not dependent on you being the best, or the greatest , or even being better than other people.

#mine #me #psychology #victor #victim #Inspired by The Presence Process

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#mine #desert #arizona #fog

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#selfie #me #mine

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Wow this game has good graphics :o

#mine #me #arizona #sky #photo #phone photo

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I want to go here😩 I stopped by in a hotel for a night here and it was beautiful, but didn't get to stay and explore

Arches National Park in Moab, Utah

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Keep things simple.

Everyone is doing their best. Give people grace, everyone is trying hard whether we can recognize that or not. Be forgiving and spend more time enjoying the company of others rather than criticizing them or fixating on their flaws.

We all have gone through tough experiences and all have our psychological complexes. They aren't even ours most of the time as we have so much intergenerational trauma that has been passed down for generations. We are all tossed about by our collective issues , our environment , and we are all subject to the factors of that environment and culture we find ourselves in. There is only so much someone can do to work against that alone and we are all trying hard and doing our best in the level of conciousness that we are at. Everyone wants love, everyone wants to feel joy and happiness and we are all seeking that whether in good ways or the only ways we know how.

So give people some grace, be forgiving, appreciate the good things about people and brush off the little things that ultimately don't really matter all that much. Cherish what is good and forgive the rest. Keep it simple, enjoy life, love those around you.

#mine #me #thoughts #forgiveness #psychology #philosophy

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Woke up with this song in my head. This song is too good for this lame album cover, idk why he chose that.

#mine #spotify #music

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Turkey Vulture doing Turkey Vulture things

#mine #bay area #california #turkey vulture #vulture #phone photo #mid flight

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I love wide open spaces

#Baylands #Bay Area #California #mine #Spring #green #landscape #phone photo #hawk

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Most played song for me this past week. Its a vibe 😎

#mine #me #music #spotify #sultans of swing #dire straits #song of the day #Spotify

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#song of the day #mariah carey #mine #spotify #I don't actually feel what the lyrics are saying #just vibing to mariah

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I'm gonna start posting songs that randomly pop into my head or that i'm vibing with on the day I'm vibing to them.

This one popped into my head while I was meditating 😂.

Everything's gonna be alright 😊

#mine #spotify #me #alicia keys #music #no one #a classic #song of the day #Spotify

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𝖲𝗇𝗈𝗐 𝖼𝖺𝗍𝗌 ❄️

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