#INFJ Doorslam

[mariamthe1st]

When the INFJ finally comes to the realization that they must move on, this looks nothing like the previously emotional state they were probably in. Once the INFJ has made the decision to shut someone out, they are very level-headed and rational. This may be frightening to people who are used to seeing the warm and gentle INFJ. They often appear very collected and even cold when they are set on slamming the door on someone. They know what they have to do, and this often takes removing all emotions from their actions. They have to shut off from this person, almost as if they are dead to them. The INFJ considers the loss of a relationship much like a death, and they are already spent time mourning this loss. At this point they are simply removing the finale memories of the lost relationship. This is no longer the mourning period, the INFJ has completely come to terms with what has happened. If the INFJ is still emotional or upset, then there is hope to resolve the relationship. Once the door slam has happened there is no going back. The INFJ has made the decision to move on and to them it is already done.

#INFJ #Door slamming #INFJ Doorslam #infj relationships #infj personality #infj confessions #infj dark side #infj problems #shut down #mourning #toxic relationship #self worth

[breezeinmonochromenight]

What's your mbti

INFJ(-A). MBTI might be pseudoscience, but that doorslam ability is real lmao.

#anonymous #if that even is your real name #misc.

[suicideandcheese]

INFJ Doorslam

To quit, or not to quit. That is my insomnia. I'm leaning towards An early morning fuck You, to get Monday off Walking the black dog. I've tossed and turned For months. That meeting Friday, though, for fuck. If you can't invest in me Now, likewise is my attitude. My seniority means nil. My bank account is gonna Dildo itself asswards. I'll have to laugh. Absurdity Being life, being despair, Being why, getting by. Well, when you're out, You're out. It's quits, shits. My honesty is a shotgun To the feet. These steel- Toes don't matter anymore. You're dead to me within The send of an email. Instant resignation, Instant relief, Instant panic, Instant belief I will find Some other fuckery To hustle for. Lucky to me, There's always the bridge Down the hill. An early Step into traffic. But I got Some new books in the mail, You know, to prolong the Inevitable. Ugh, despair's Like finding heaven In your pints but even They get too godly. 6 am comes early like Church— I'll be sitting hard At home, blinds down Battling eviction, addiction, my own conviction, demons In the diction. Lighten Up, there's that liberation You've been grinding toward Lord. Sleep, man, manifest Multitudes in tomorrows. Throw the fucken brick Through the window. They'll do fine without me. Everything in its rightful Chaos. The entropic embrace. Grinder gonna grind A way out, eh.

#poetry #poem #poets #twcpoetry #free verse #writing #infj problems #how's the despair? #words #poets on tumblr #quitting my job #spilled ink #forget about it #poemblr #my writing #writers and poets #original poetry #spilled thoughts #freedom

[citylightsandpenthousedreams]

Realizing that I’m extremely guilty of the INFJ doorslam. But honestly it has been warranted 90 percent of the time

#me #personal #infj confessions

[dykepuppet]

Mbti is bullshit until I do the infj doorslam

[trdr1]

This personal introspective journey is a surrealistic dive into some weird rabbit hole. First getting the confirmation that I am still an INFJ, 10 years after mbti testing first time. Then, following through the enneagram point of view, the bare naked truth is printed black on white paper, Steinar; «you are ONE». Sounded good in my mind, and my ego really liked it, until we started reading what that is, traits, and whatnot. What the ffing hell!

A whole lot of googling accept and letting go followed. In addition to anger and resentment of course. I mean, how dare they talk to ME in that way?

Oh well, back to daydreaming again, thats my comfortable happy place. The enneagram people probably defines it beeing dissociative….

Still have the dream, and hope may I add, of being a closet INTJ. One day I will show ya, yes you sorry ass personality chrushing entrepreneurs slash coaches, I was right, I win. Oops, sorry, was that my shadow side, or passive aggressive 3 or 10 year old INFJ demanding accuracy? You know what, I dont care anymore, I hate the world, BANG = Doorslam (was that «right»?)

#infj

#mbti

#introvert

#enneagram

[myinfjworld]

An INFJ’s Fear

People always act like the infj doorslam is so important and interesting... but honestly it’s just terrifying...

It’s scary to know you have the power and brokeness inside you to shut out someone you love... you’ve done it before and if you’re not careful you could do it again... leaving heart break and ruin behind you....

How do you love, when you know the evil you are capable of...how this could end...

#infj #infj thoughts #infj girl #infj feelings #infj love #infj doorslam #infj door slam #infj fear

[mbtimyths]

from Lena Void via MBTI *memes* only

#infj #infj meme #infj memes #infj relatable #infj doorslam

[soul-filled-with-flowers]

The curse of feeling and thinking too deeply.

Being an INFJ is probably the personality type most affected by the “feeling and thinking too deeply” curse. I mean this as something that’s happening at the same time. Some people may say that they are overthinkers, while others are the emotionals — but perhaps the INFJ got the worst end of the stick of having both.

Feelings and emotions are something that is free flowing to INFJ’s due to their good hold of Fe. While overthinking or rather, living inside their heads, is also supplied by the “always on” Ni. Not to mention that Ti is a bad supporter of the Ni during stressful situations. Inside a stressed INFJ’s mind is an overflowing battle between the Ni-Ti and Fe because for some reason, Fe is always illogical and Ni-Ti is always firm and harsh. In this part, the INTJ’s got it easy by turning off their emotions effectively – their Ni-Te will do its work and they can move to the next project without any issue or remorse.

But the INFJ will both feel deeply and overthink – at the same time – and they can’t really stop it. Their default mode is to use the Ni, which is a double edged sword that just gives the outcomes they thought would happen. In the first place, the source of the INFJ stress is when their Ni fails. But the Fe tends to worsen the situation with its irrationality. Overall, it’s easy to overload.

And that is probably why the doorslam becomes their next step for self-preservation. As long as they fuel their Fe, the battle will not end and they will grow very tired and very weary and very unhealthy. But even as they grow tired, the emotions feel as strong as ever. Other types can probably last a long time grieving over failed relationships because they can, but for someone who feels like dying everyday just because of “feeling things” – it has to end. It’s basically a choice between keeping the memory or ourselves alive. The choice was never easy, but it just had to be.

#infj #infj doorslam #introverted intuition #extroverted feelings #doorslam #mbti

[infjparadox]

Hey, just stumbled across your account. Super cool! I am an INFJ myself but I'm new to the language of the MBTI and Enneagram types. You said that there is a "doorslam" that INFJ's do. Would you be willing to explain? Thank you so much!!! ❤❤❤

Welcome!!

So “doorslams” are not unique to INFJs, but they are something we’re known for. Essentially, this means that after someone we know crosses a line (or crossed it for the last time) we slam the emotional door to that relationship. We completely shut that person out and often sever our ties to them completely. And it’s not that difficult. (Or healthy).

As INFJs, we are great at analyzing other people’s emotions but absolutely suck at understanding our own feelings. Sometimes it’s easier to just walk away instead of dealing with that flux of sadness or anger - it just takes too much energy to process and forgive.

I think this comes in handy sometimes, especially when it comes to toxic relationships or one-sided friendships. But it’s also not the best way to deal with conflict, and it can be pretty damaging to the other party when we just...vanish.

#infj #infj doorslam

[mariamthe1st]

INFJ's doorslam ain't a joke..

#memes #infj #mbti #narcissist #facts #comedy #doorslam #infj doorslam

[poiseandapples]

The INFJ Doorslam

Reading about it has ironically opened up a lot more realizations and possibilities. Hitler was actually INFJ. I am not surprised, and I thought I couldn’t relate. I don’t want to delve into the psychological aspect of it. Of course, I do not have genocidal tendencies. I also do not have homicidal tendencies. I tend to have violent tendencies once in a while, but most of the time they’re all in my head. However, I always have that doorslam tendency, and I have managed to use it for my convenience, a lot of times, without even my knowing it. A lot of times, it is the more comfortable way out. I guess this is how you “kill” people in your head. It’s not that you want them dead. It’s not that you hate them. But it would be much, much more convenient for you if they were out of your life, and so you do the doorslam. In a way it’s even worse. You could go about your day, you could keep encountering that person, and a lot of times, he or she could be in your work place. But once you’ve slammed the door in his face, nothing he does can affect you anymore, because you live in a world in your head, and it that world, you’ve reduced him to nothing. It’s as if he does not even exist. You’ve made him hollow.

I am not speaking for everyone, but INFJ people do tend to have a lot in common. I have blended very well with people who are INFJ. Sometimes (no, a lot of times), we could be thinking about the same thing at the same time, and it would be expected but no less hilarious. The thing is, even if we are constantly interacting with someone, we can manage and choose to shut that person down in our lives if we decide to (yes, like a computer), especially if we don't need them. Unfortunately, if it's someone like your boss, I don't see myself being able to let it NOT affect me. I haven't experienced that before anyway, because I also find ways to compartmentalize parts of my life -- work and home, different sets of friends -- that when they overlap, I get a weird kick out of it. THAT's how much I live in my own head. This scene in Spongebob which revealed that he had filing cabinets in his head came to mind as a metaphor.

I always thought this was related to borderline personality disorder, when things tend to be categorized as either black or white, but that's an extreme. This connection with Adolf Hitler and the thought that some INFJs may have that psychopathic tendency is also another extreme. But maybe that doorslam is the one which enables some people to go those extremes. Because the doorslam IS extreme. I am made aware of this only now. This is why compartmentalization was so important for me, and if I am not able to do it, it frustrates me. Everything and everyone has to be compartmentalized. From there, I decide what I do with it.

I can't say I can detect lies very well, it must depend on how willing I am to give benefit to the doubt, but I believe I am able to detect insincerity sharply. Underlying causes are very important to us, and we tend to be sensitive both in the good and bad sense. When motives are not the least bit constructive is when I start to put people in boxes and decide how to go about with it. I try to build my confidence around how I am going to respond to it -- and non-response is, I guess, a response in this case. For example, one can come off as caring and informative on the matter, but if there's even the least bit of arrogant intent to inflate the self, I believe I am able to sense that. However, I do appreciate people who do it constructively, and are really out for your growth; people who can come off as harsh and strict, but are really for your improvement. We live in the world in our head, but that does not mean our senses for the external are not acute. 

#INFJ #INFJ doorslam

[endless-nife]

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[perditious]

i wish i remembered what this was about lmao

#infj doorslam #apparently

[kicsidudu]

I always find people speaking about INFJ-s like "bevare of The INFJ Doorslam, they will shut you out of their life" like all of the INFJ-s will do it regardless...

No I won't do it. I want to doorslam so freacking bad, but I just couldn't, responsibility is stronger.

#infj doorslam #infj #mbti infj #mbti #mbti infj doorslam

[apixiedyedhere]

Is it normal that I suddenly feel tender emotions for an individual I lacked these for in the past? Has my brain turned the memories of them into a sort of avatar through which to channel delayed emotional responses to many different things and people? I am averse to their return, but in my mind, we are on good terms and I am content with never seeing them again.

#infj #infp #introvert #ampdg #anti manic pixie dream girl #dreamer #journal #mpdg #infp thoughts #thoughts #schizoid #hsp #numb #infj doorslam #door slam #infp door slam #introvert relationships #empath #apathetic #apathy #i love from a distance