#aphobe

[decolonize-the-left]

Ive seen an influx in posts asking the LGBT community to hold itself accountable for ace/aro bigotry and they're fucking right.

How are we supposed to hold homophobes and transphobes accountable and demand they do better when we won't even do that for each other?

We're a community right? A family who's supposed to look out for each other? What happened to everyone being valid? Is a sibling saying "you hurt me, please correct it somehow" not valid?

For my part I'll admit I was part of this.

I was on the side of the asexual exclus back in the late 00's/early 10's. I was deep in the belief that oppression had to be systematic in order to count and at the time I didn't see any systematic oppression faced by aces. I even identified as ace and I didn't consider myself oppressed for being asexual. I saw the hostility and vitriol directed at aces everyday...but I didn't see it as wrong. I didn't see it as bigotry. I saw it as righteous anger.

I know how awful things were because I was one of the people making them that way. There is Real trauma that was experienced. There's no fucking way that a normal person could be invalidated that much and take the vitriolic bigotry aces/aros did everyday and have it not leave a lasting impact.

I fucked up. That was wrong and awful of me and I'm genuinely so fucking sorry.

I see the broken trust and promises between us now in 2023 and I see how shattered the community is and it's partly my fault. That gap is there because of me and people like me.

We should have loved and supported and welcomed you. We should have saw the way you were being treated and said something. You deserved to be protected and loved and supported from people who treated you that way.

And you weren't. We didn't. And it was normalized.

We absolutely fucking failed you as a community and as human beings. I need to own that. And I need to be one of the first people to trying to repair that.

And I know an apology is barely even a first step and I know it's just a drop in a giant bucket but I am sorry. For everything it's worth to you, I'm sorry.

Because of me and people like me you experienced the kind of identity trauma that typically only homophobes are capable of. And you experienced it at the hands of the community that's supposed to be fighting specifically that sort of ignorance against a-typical sexualities.

We fucked up

And it'd just be hypocritical salt in the wound if 10+ years later we ignored your asks for accountability and didn't do anything about it when it's resurfacing.

So yeah.

I was a bigot. I hurt people. I hurt my own community. I thought I was right and I wasn't. I was wrong. And so is everyone who insists on continuing that today.

There is no excuse or justification for it. I thought there was too but I was wrong and I'm gonna spend the rest of my life making up for it.

Whatever justification you find for treating people with a-typical sexualities and genders is shit. It has no leg to stand on and it sure as hell isn't being done for the sake of the community.

The LGBT community was founded not by people with checklists on how to be a Good Gay or Acceptable trans woman but by people being treated like shit for who they were choosing to love or not love. It was founded by people who's gender didn't fit in cishet boxes. It was founded by people who just wanted to be free to exist as themselves.

You can't treat asexuals or aros or bisexuals or pansexuals like shit and say that it's in the name of the LGBT community.

It's not.

It spits in the face of everything our community is supposed to be and it's time someone besides aces and aros said it.

None of us should be okay with how they're treated and all of us should be part of stopping it

#aces #aros #asexuality #queer history #asexual history #i threw in the others because the bigotry for them back then overlapped a LOT #i didnt personally have a hand in anything against the other identities mentioned but itd be wrong not to include them i think #lgbt #queer #ace discourse #lesbian #gay #bisexual #transgender #asexual #aromantic #lgbt history #aphobe #aphobia #aphobic

[theaceofarrows]

Aphobe: Asexual isn't a real orientation-

Asexual: [kicks them, kicks them, kicks them, kicks them, kicks them, kicks them, kicks them]

Asexual: What about my foot in your face? Is that real?? Huh???

#asexual #asexuality #ace #acespec #aphobia #aphobe #aphobes fuck off

[pissedoff-transdude]

I've been silent about this for as long as could be

I fuckin hate how asexuals work!!!!!!!! I hate what they've done to the LBGTQ+ community!!!!!!!

I'm so fucking pissed!!!! that I, a transgender + gay man, can't say anything like "I wish books and movies had less meaningless sex scenes!" without some weirdo pushing their asexuality on me and being disgusted when I tell them I'm not!!!!!

How asexuals view the other letters is fucking disgusting!!!! They treat us like we're some deranged perverts just like cishets do!!!!!!!!

Fuck them, honestly!!!!

#transgender #transmasc #acespec #asexual #aphobes fuck off #aphobes dni #aphobe

[lonelyassassin96]

Found on Reddit. I’m just. So. Done. I know demisexuality is a thing, but the way this synapses is written makes it seem like asexuality is a thing that needs to be “fixed”. It’s so incredibly disgusting. I’m so done with my sexuality being treated as a challenge by ignorant aphobic jackasses.

#I’m going to scream #aphobia #aphobe #asexuality

[ttearsofthekingdom]

op is an aphobe

#yeah talk about how Ls and Gs cant be biphobic but youre an exclusionist #sometimes the call does come from inside the house sis #aphobe #blocklist

[zemathememequeen]

#aro #aro memes #aromantic #aphobes are losers

[chroniccoolness]

ngl I'm gonna need this site to stop right the fuck now with whatever rising aphobia has decided to suddenly skyrocket in the last month of 2023

#asexual #aromantic #I've blocked like. 50 aphobes in 2 weeks. what is this 2016

[aholotte]

Aro men. you agree. reblog.

(plaintext because idk if gradient text will show up for everyone: aro men. you agree. reblog)

#important #aromantic #aro #aro men #aromantic men #arospec #lgbtq #queer #aro men are sexier than aphobes #aphobes fall into a sewer

[notbrucewayne48]

"aphobia doesn't exist"

bitch literally not that long ago an aroace youtuber animator was insulted by almost half of its community for being it

#i did some research about it and found out that the problem was principally that she had previous experience in the romantic area #so people just didn't take her seriously and said she was lying #even though she stated multiple times that she wasn't comfortable in those situations #now things are more calmed but damn #mind your own bussiness #i believe she knows more about herself than you #sorry if i offended you with this comment but i hate how aro/ace/aroace people are always left behind #insulted and rejected because they “dont know what they are talking about” #or because they “just have to wait for the right person” #or because they are “psychopaths and they are missing something” #i love that animator and she helped me realise a lot about myself #and now that i know the context i think i will start making a list and killing aphobes one by one #aromantic #arospec #asexual #aroace #acespec

[makelimeade]

"the a in lgbtqia stands for ally!" wrong. it stands for atomic bomb.

#detonates the aphobes #aro #aromantic #aroace #arospec #aspec #ace #asexual

[bucketfulofbabs]

there was a lot of aphobia going around so I thought it would be cool for these boys to show their true colors

reblog to scare aphobes

#fnaf daycare attendant #moondrop #sundrop #ruin eclipse #asexual #APHOBES GET FUCKED

[decolonize-the-left]

so bcuz you do nothing all day and hated ace ppl you think everyone needs to atone??? what are you catholic??? sorry the allure of bigotry got you but most of us are different 💋

Did I say everyone needs to atone?

There's a lot of projecting happening here. Idk who you are but I didn't tag you personally in that post. It's not about you. You could've just scrolled if it didn't apply to you. Whatever weird feelings you have about me Demanding Others Be Accountable For Their Bigotry are yours to deal with. Not mine. Keep your attitude to yourself, it doesn't serve me or you dragging it into my asks.

Besides are you allergic to Other people saying sorry and trying to fix things? what are you a bitch?

Anyway, I have 10k+ followers. Statistically I'm definitely not the only ex-bigot in my direct reach/network who owes someone an apology. I absolutely hold myself and my followers to a higher standard, and if they follow me I expect them to expect that sort of thing from me.

Which is why I made that post.

Sorry if you don't reach that standard and it made you uncomfortable to be held to it though.

Get well soon ✌️

#why should i have to say sorry #- someone whos definitely definitely never said or did anything bigoted /s #asked #answered #aphobe #aphobia #asexuality

[daisydumm]

I be of the aphobe type (the first letter of the English lexicon frightens me to some extreme degree)

#aphobe #this is not about aro/ace

[dam-bluecookies]

"that's not very aromantic of you" "that's not very asexual of you" WELL that's not very minding your own business of you

#MY LIFE IS FOR ME TO UNDERSTAND APHOBES #tw aphobia #ace #aro #aromantic #asexual #aro ace #aspec #arospec #queer #actually arospec #actually aroace #actually aromantic #actually ace #1k #2k #3k

[eroswmorals]

if A is for Ally, I suppose G can be for Glock, L can be for Lizard, B can be for Batman, T can be for Teehee, etc. etc.

you know, since we're making shit up

#a is for aspec #asexual #aromantic #aroace #lgbtq #lgbtqia #aromantic pride #asexual pride #aspec #queer #aphobes dni

[aaaroace]

aphobia is so funny to me. like. you’re mad just bc i refuse to have some bitches and just wanna do my thing?

#it’s so incomprehensible to me #and the ‘that’s how it works. you’ll be lonely blah blah blah’ comments. #how abt u shut up #i could’ve had written something coherent and actually serious but I’m too tired to think abt aphobes rn #aromantic #aroace #aro #asexual #ace #aspec #aroace memes #aphobia