#do not invite harm

[cuckoo-on-a-string]

Does anyone else hesitate to reblog because of the usual childhood traumas, or is that just me?

After decades of conditioning to not engage unless I was 105% sure someone wanted me to interact (or be mocked, called "annoying," etc.), I'm so used to quietly leaving likes and moving on that the idea of reblogging is still a little terrifying.

Like, this shit still happens on Facebook. With people I know. Let alone strangers.

So it's really, really okay to just reblog? I know the logical answer, but the conditioning is SCREAMING.

#i am trying my best #reblog most often from mutuals I know won't be mad #but seriously #not an excuse #i'm working on being a better tumblr citizen #but i still see posts and think #oh that's a cool person thing #do not touch #do not invite harm #reblogs #reblogging #tumblr biosphere

[maxphilippa]

Hey. Listen. II fandom. Look at me RIGHT NOW.

Just because you hate a character, that won't mean that you can ignore their growth and arcs, and deny that they had any of those in the story, or actually changed in the end. You are allowed to not like a character, but denying that they did get better/denying their arc is bullshit, and ultimately not really getting that the point of the story is changing to be better, or losing yourself in your own misery. ESPECIALLY with characters that thought that what they were doing was okay because of UNDERSTANDABLE REASONS and got to understand that they were wrong, and wanted to fix that.

AND ALSO.

Just because you like a character, it doesn't mean that their actions are immediately justified/or that they were just misunderstood, they still did do all of that shit and portraying them as innocent or well intentionated, and missing the whole point of a character in the process, doesn't help either. MUCH LESS when the character in question was fully aware of what they were doing too, saying that "they didn't mean it" or anything is not getting the point

Go big or go home.

#the first part goes to the nickel haters #the second part goes to the taco enjoyers #you bitches say “oh we need more morally gray characters” you bitches can't even handle Nickel. #yes he is morally gray. #adam said that all/most of the ii characters are morally gray. #you guys can't even handle the characters at all. #inanimate insanity #ii #inanimate insanity invitational #ii fandom neg #maxposteo #btw i do know that some taco likers do get her character but. i've been seeing lately how people think that she didn't mean to do harm and- #no yeah she pretty much did.

[uncanny-tranny]

It's really odd to realize that the passivity I hold toward my own self-destruction isn't, as I thought it to be, ingrained into my soul and fate itself, but it's a product of outside forces which themselves were passive toward my destruction. It's odd, because I accepted that my self-destruction was an inevitable consequence of me being alive, being myself, and I never once questioned that because it was reinforced by outside forces. I accepted this "fact," and then engaged in self-destruction even after I was freed from the abusive situations I was in, and it feels almost... sacrilegious to rebel against the "truth."

The passivity you hold toward your own self-destruction is not, in fact, ingrained, staining your very soul. It is not fated that you are to "deserve" harsh, unfair, and cruel treatment, and it is not a natural consequence of you being you. You deserve so much.

#mental health #mental health support #self harm tw #sh tw #abuse #abuse tw #(just in case) #anyway. something that suddenly hit me for a very weird reason... #...isn't that how most mind boggling ideas pop into your head though? #i am upset that that was taught to me but that doesn't make it true #how often do i learn that the things i was taught in school were false or fabricated in some way? pretty often actually! #does it not stand to reason that some of the most ingrained things i was taught from those who mistreated me were also wrong? #i guess i make this post to invite others to consider if it also resonates with them

[leederpfucker]

I love Springy I'm going to throw them against the wall and maul him like a dog

#inanimate insanity #ii #inanimate insanity invitational #ii springy #i do genuinely love springy; don't get me wrong #but at the same time they active my feral violence instincts #i wanna pat them on the head and than torture him looney tunes style #beat them up even #i bully and harm springy out of love <3 #/gen /vsilly to all of that btw

[angorwhosebabyisthis]

there are a lot of reasons i think pericles is really slept on as one of the most tragic characters in sdmi, and they start with how easy it is to connect the dots that he took a mind-destroying curse full to the face as an infant. one that breaks adult humans and renders them unrecognizable, when pericles was not only a baby but is from a species that is explicitly much more vulnerable to it. right from the beginning of his life the entity obliterated his sense of self so thoroughly that there's not even a version of him who shows up in the Sitting Room.

fuck, man.

#sdmi #scooby doo mystery incorporated #professor pericles #sdmi is fundamentally a show about the cycle of trauma and abuse--about breaking a very literal generational curse #and i think it does a real disservice to both that theme #and pericles' narrative specifically #that he gets painted as That One Guy Who's Just Evil and Abusive for No Reason #when everyone else gets the benefit of 'even thoroughly horrible people are still people' #'and that doesn't mean they didn't hurt you; or that you have to let them keep hurting you' #'or that you're obliged to proceed in a way allowing for the possibility they'll decide to stop. that's on them to do. and they might not.' #even w/o the systemic oppression or decades of torture and psychiatric abuse #pericles was a victim of the entity in genuinely and quite possibly the most thorough way of them all. and yet he made a lifetime worth of #choices and many many many of them were to harm people in horrific ways; to his own ends and for his own satisfaction #and like. what do you do with that. #it is difficult and uncomfortable to sit with that and draw conclusions from it that are neither 'his trauma means none of that counts' #nor 'okay yeah well he's a victim BUT HE DID BAD THINGS SO THAT DOESN'T MATTER FUCK HIM' #if there's any show that invites you to do that it's sdmi; i love that about it. but you can't leave pericles out w/o defeating the purpose #especially when the nature of his being a link in the cycle of abuse is critical context for exploring the trauma of his victims #the vast majority of what he does to ricky is very clearly projecting and reenacting his own trauma onto a vulnerable target #and just. aaaaahhhhhh i have so many feelings about it god #abuse cw #grooming cw #SDMItag

[vickyvicarious]

Maybe Van Helsing should have revealed the truth to Jack the way Mina revealed the truth to Jonathan: make him supper first. She also probably didn't thrust the telegram into his face.

I respect this, and I certainly agree that a more gradual method of revealing the truth to Jack would have been better. However I also don't think that (a) van Helsing is capable of smoothly turning the post-dinner conversation to "so you know the woman you love who died very recently, I think she's a creature of the night", or (b) Jack would have taken it any better if it were delicately brought up after a nice meal.

The man was so miserable and is repeatedly so envious of others being comforted, I kind of feel like he would interpret the whole meal/gentle introduction of the topic of Lucy as an effort from someone to take care of him and just break down. Van Helsing gets as far as a soft "It's been a few days since the funeral of Miss Lucy," and Jack, who has a glass of alcohol in hand, a belly full of good food, has been enjoying someone seeking out his company after he has been isolating himself miserably in work, who feels like he doesn't have a right to ask for comfort for multiple reasons but who is very frayed at always trying to be the one to offer it and wants it so badly for himself - Jack starts crying hard.

#dracula daily #van helsing #jack seward #i understand his reasoning for not doing so but i still think van helsing's smoothest introduction would have been when she was still alive #if he presented it more gradually as 'something attacking her in the night' maybe brought up bats. kept them on guard. #then led up to his suspicions of a supernatural being - and emphasized that even if his suspicions are wrong he isn't prescribing anything #that could possibly harm her. just garlic flowers and supervised rest. i think jack would be very reluctant but go along and only resolve t #watch him closely as in canon. and vh could even invite him to do so. #as long as it is framed as 'this is to save lucy' it's all an easier sell to act on than 'lucy is a monster' ever would be when they're all #grieving her. #of course he lacked the confidence/knowledge to do that. but if he'd met the harkers earlier maybe he would have felt emboldened to do so.. #maybe things could have changed... or at least been a smoother/less traumatizing shock #(i don't think he'd tell anything more than the suspicion of something getting her in the night to anyone but jack. but that might still be #enough for art to tell quincey and quincey to go vampire bats? as in canon and for them all to be watching the windows/not leaving her) #anonymous #replies

[rhineposting]

i don't see enough people talking about that feeling when you see someone you knew once pop up on your social media. especially if it's someone who unknowingly contributed to who you are as a person now, if at their own cost.

what would they think of you now? would they like the person you became? is reaching out again a good idea? none of that matters. life went on for them, just like it went on for you. chances are, they don't even think about you anymore.

it's insane how someone could be of monumental importance to your life, but to them you could be merely a fleeting moment of little consequence in theirs. and, sadly, sometimes that's for the better, I think.

#this one goes to all the kids who used to latch onto and idolize adults in their fandoms yet still wanting to be on the same level. #this goes to all the adults who had clueless kids clawing up their legs and inviting themselves to spaces where they weren't welcome #and forming weird and unhealthy relationships with them in the process that were best off nipped in the bud. #really sucks how growth occurs only when it's already years too late to fix the harm done and all you can do is feel guilty #and just. hoping from afar that the person is happier now without you in their life. #man. #rhine rambling tag #might delete later.

[quokkabite]

🐰 🐝 💗

🐰- do you believe in soulmates?

the way i was actually hoping id get this question. i have thought about this so much in say, hey, the last year and a half, and i’ve decided yes. i do believe in soulmates. platonic or romantic - i don’t think it even matters. people who feel like they were meant to be in your life no matter what, and who understand you on another level, id like to think it’s something cosmic.

🐝- describe your aesthetic in emojis

🖤

💗 - who do you miss?

listen, i miss so, so many people. i basically spend my life missing people. and i fear i am stating the obvious here, but… you and lizzy. like all day every day i miss you guys sm. i also miss my best friend in my hometown because life hasn’t allowed us to sync up lately. and last night i had a dream about a really important person to me and i haven’t seen or talked to him in so long and i miss him all of the fucking time. (he is supposed to text me soon but like… here i am… still waiting 😭)

#ty friend 💗 #i’m doing this thing where i allow myself to believe and hope in things even if they’re not true (if those beliefs aren’t causing harm) #as for the aesthetic - i love being simple and comfortable in my style but also inviting #it’s true - i miss you a ton - i love you 💗 #n the rest of the crew ofc but you guys are special to me 😭 #ask game

[wild-at-mind]

Listening to Jon Ronson's podcast series on the 'culture wars' that ignited during the pandemic, and it had a very interesting insight on what makes people so vehemently convinced of their conspiracy theory beliefs- if it mixes with personal grievances it can become incredibly strong for that person individually. Example given was Judy Mikovits, a scientist who fell into conspiracy thinking after her research into potential viral causes of Chronic Fatigue Syndrome was discredited in 2011. Those speaking on the podcast who knew her work believe Mikovits made an honest mistake caused by contaminated lab equipment. And from the interview with her, it was clear she feels very strongly about finding something that can help sufferers of CFS. So there's the powerful emotional aspect of her being unable to accept her own failure to do that.

For my dad, it was the fact that his mother, my grandmother, who is in her 90s and had been living alone in good physical and mental health, began to show symptoms of cognitive decline early in lockdown when she could no longer meet her friends and socialise. She's now in a dementia home. And she is very elderly so you could say that she might have developed dementia anyway, but my dad who was visiting her regularly saw it happening in real time and made the direct connection to lockdown. That started him off with the emotional bias against lockdown. (Also he hated masks because he's extremely short sighted and was sick of them fogging his glasses- I feel like there were probably solutions to that one that he didn't try though, as a fellow glasses wearer.)

I've ranted before about people trying to give smart insights on susceptable groups (the old 'did you know left wing people can fall for conspiracy theories?? And intelligent people??' ones who tell on themselves by revealing they think this is somehow about intelligence level). This is the first time I've seen someone make the connection to an individual emotional upheaval. I think it's very good insight. We sort of knew that what happened with his mother was connected to his views on the pandemic in some way, but this was somewhat of a lightbulb moment for me.

#someone i love is a conspiracy theorist #quick note- this post and all my conspiracy posts aren't meant to excuse people's harmful views and the damage they do #it's also not an invitation to talk about how lockdown shouldn't have happened- that ship has sailed #and i would hope that no one would deny that lockdown had serious emotional and developmental consquences for some people #talking about that doesn't negate the positives of slowing disease transmission in the slightest #the podcast is called things fell apart and it's made by BBC sounds #and i'm specifically talking about s2 e2

[rovermcfly]

if there's a good chance people will get called slurs or cyberstalked etc after commenting on your video or whatever content, your account is not safe.

#I wish ppl understood a safe space by definition cannot invite the people who do harm #if you constantly respond to bigots and interact with them on your account it is not a safe space #words mean things #also ppl gotta stop pretending like they have 0 power over things like their comment sections #you can delete comments. you can block people. you can choose not to directly interact with these people #I know you can't 100% get away from it online but you can do a LOT to avoid a lot of it #so either be open about what you do and understand that interacting means becoming a target or learn how to protect yourself #it's like if a journalist went into a warzone and was surprised their life could be in danger #like you gotta understand the risk of what you do #and if you do understand the risk and accept it and are prepared for it don't pretend like you didn't knowingly take the risk #negativity

[andthebeanstalk]

My sister-in-law frustrates me to no end even though we barely ever interact because she keeps inviting my partner to parties with her Christian Republican friends, even though my partner told her not to send an invite to us if those friends will be there. And even though my sister-in-law is bisexual!!

And then she turns around and complains about not knowing how to deal with her friends saying, like, horrible sexist stuff as though that is just some natural unavoidable quirk of having friends!

Like, these Christian Republicans she has befriended don't seem to be kind - they're not even nice a lot of the time! They don't make for good friends, and she doesn't seem happy or supported in relation to them. In fact, she basically only ever talks about how her friends and/or current boyfriend are making her unhappy!

Because here's the thing: The effect of prioritizing 'including your Trump-supporter friends at your parties' over 'being invested in creating a safe space for marginalized people in your home', is that people who DO care about creating those safe spaces... won't wanna hang out with you! Because if you invite both cats and mice to your table equally, only the cats will show!

She's so afraid of losing the shitty friends she has now that she allows them to act as barriers to accessing friends who are invested in her wellbeing in a capitalistic hellscape!

It makes me sad because she's basically trapped herself, and there's nothing I can do to offer help without either compromising my morals or making my partner's life way harder by starting shit with her family.

Like, I consider myself a good friend, yeah? I try really really hard to be one, and it matters to me immensely. I am ride-or-die for the folks I love, and I am invested in being open and vulnerable and radically safe to be around when it comes to building strong friendships that are mutually fulfilling. I have a unique talent for validating people that I have honed for years because I genuinely want to make sure people feel safe and loved and seen.

And if my sister-in-law and I were friends, I could give all of that to her. I would strive to be an example of what it looks like when someone decides to care about you and treat you right on purpose, without expecting anything in return but your mutual respect. She would be family. She would be [Queer] Family. I would see to it that she knew she could call on me when she needed a friend.

But like.

This asshole has invited me to hang out with Trump supporters on multiple occasions.

We ain't gonna be friends.

#original #diary #family shit #I'll just continue to act friendly at family events #my friends help make me a better person. i don't think she could say the same for hers. makes me mad and sad #reminds me of the time i had to end a friendship bc a woman i had been inviting to group events revealed to me that she was #literally friends with Kelly Ann Conway. yes the aid to the president. that Kelly Ann. and when i tell you this friend of mine did NOT #understand why her defending Kelly Ann Conway made me feel unsafe. it was WILD #that's how my sister-in-law reacted when my wife was like 'hey stop inviting my non-cis ass to parties with transphobes' #both made arguments similar to 'i already don't have many friends why do you want me to lose more??' #like girlies you can't invite me and a bunch of homophobic Christians to the same party what is fucking wrong with you?? #you can goddamn bet if you came to one of my parties there wouldn't be anyone there who'd try to defend the Trump administration #loneliness is frightening and painful and no joke but cowardice is no joke either #and this attitude meant that my wife and i could not safely rely on her when we went through several crisis situations #and this is something i find difficult to forgive bc shit was touch and go over here for a couple years #my wife isn't even as salty as i am about it but she never is when the primary person harmed is herself #maybe if sister-in-law recognized the flawed behavior and changed but she probably won't tbh and i have shit to do #have fun with your fascist friends girlie i wonder if sometimes it feels more lonely than if you were alone #have fun practicing the white silence our parents got so good at; you're really carrying on the family business your dad must be so proud < #i haven't had to deal with friends saying sexist shit for literal years sorry you've made yourself unsafe to trans people i guess #making friends is hard i know that all too well. but i also know that the more friends i make who make me feel sad and small #then the less time i have for friends that make me feel loved and motivate me to be a better person. time=limited. people=over 6 billion. #school was harder because the amount of folks was more limited. same with small towns. but we are all ADULTS LIVING IN CHICAGO #capitalism makes finding friends harder too but like it has GOT to matter to you that Trans people and POC feel safe #we each have control over whether oppressed people feel safe around us. don't fucking waste that.

[siixkiing]

While Wukong is free of the circlet, he actually has it in his possession — though it is hidden away in a secure location and he keeps it a secret that he does not share with others. The reason? He has used it on himself, especially when he feels he’s severely messed up or feels he deserves the punishment for whatever he’s done.

Fortunately due to his enlightenment and such, wearing it isn’t permanent and him or another can easily remove it from his head.

#Loss of Powers | {OOC} #Time For The Hero Stuff | About the Muse {Sun Wukong} #Read this in a few fics and stuff where he still had the circlet or such and used it on himself at times; gave me ideas #Yes; he is technically self harming in a sense #It isn't often tho and he tends to try to keep others from finding #He keeps his possession of the circlet a secret and he won't tell anyone he has it #But yeah when he feels he's messed up or such; he will find a quiet spot or secure location and use it #Self-Punishment in a sense #You Are Not Invited | {Do Not Reblog}

[brainjuicey]

my mind is so funny for making me relive my worst nightmares and memories everytime I go to sleep

#my uncle is threatening to harm me and my family again but especially me this time for some reason but this time we're making a case #and if it goes to trial ill have to testify even though he hasnt come up to the house and ive never seen the text messages #and i have all my end of year assignments due rn and im dying from stress #and i still havent passed my drivers license its all so #overwhelming #and then i have to go and dream about the christmas i went to visit my bff and ex in germany #and crashing at my bffs house he got drunk and assaulted me over and over and in my sleep as well #and then i went to my exs and we stayed w her family for xmas eve and they were horrible to me and then we broke up that night #and she just cried forever and said i deserved better and i just sat there in bed like how did i even get here totally detached #you invite me to xmas with my family in another country only to realise that you'll never be mentally stable enough to move and be with me #and its been like 7 months since i made that decision and you could've told me something before? but you didn't? #life was good when i was the one making all the sacrifices. right. #life was good when i did all the work. but as soon as you have to enforce your own boundaries its too hard. #do you ever believe someone when they say theyre getting better? and then look like a fool? #every now and then i remember something about that relationship that makes me fucking angry #its all very. art installation i just cant help myself

[bootwearingfairy]

Thinking about a sadistic dom telling me where to cut and jerking off to me actually doing it

#warning: don't try this at home unless you know how to handle sharps and at least basic first aid #disclaimer: i dont cut out of self harm. its purely a kink/sex thing #✨️spicy masochism✨️ #even if i did still cut to self harm this scenario would continue to be hot. perhaps even hotter #my advice is if youre gonna fuck around with shit like that learn first aid and keep your space as clean as possible #change your utinsils often and clean everythinf with alcohol. bactine is an excellent antispetic and will numb the area #use fresh gauze or bandaids only #you dont wanna get your shit infected or spread/invite bloodborn pathogens #if you’re gonna do this be safe and smart about it #im all for people doing what they want with their own flesh but im even more for people being informed about what they're dealing with #also learn anatomy and where major blood vessels are so you dont fucking kill yourself by accident ffs

[daffodilsfortomorrow]

I have some thoughts about Angels Fly

#to me... it sounds like the flip side of How to Save a Life by the Fray or a reactionary addition of louis' own version of Leave the Light #On by Tom Walker #both of those are about helping a friend who is suffering and struggling and being neck deep in worry about how they are going to deal with #it #this feels like louis' version of those two songs: both of those songs suggest a way/reaction to seeing a friend struggle #louis' version goes you are going to make it through this night and by god i am going to be on your side throughout the night #you will make it through this night without having to talk about it because tomorrow we will deal with it it doesnt have to end tonight #you dont have to do anything drastic because come tomorrow we will talk about it and figure it out #its not as overtly visually suggestive like the other two songs but that could also be because louis has said he wants to keep things #emotionally light on fitf #the song itself feels like a hug #like a big cuddly bear hug and a forehead kiss with a whispered its going to be alright #anygays #suicide tw #self harm tw #angels fly #louis' song interpretations #ALSO i love the contrast to the other two one where the friend is going to/or invited to talk about their issues to the narrator's place of #choice and the other where the narrator is waiting for their friend to turn #IN COMPLETE CONTRAST TO THOSE TWO louis is going to his friend #he really said i'm on my way i'll come knocking in some time just hold on #and then we'll get through the night together

[theghostofashton]

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#i am just. tired lol #opening twitter as a poc and seeing constant microaggressions constant racism people constantly being bigoted as fuck #and not being able to say anything about it #not being able to talk about it in case you invite MORE racism personally directed at you #like....and no one cares #that's the kicker #we are invisible and just have to deal with this shit day in and day out #we say anything we're attacked #i can be so careful and respectful with what i say and still get attacked to the point where it's like. #respectability politics is a fucking nightmare but the moment we allow ourselves to get angry we're branded as aggressive #so we literally can't win lol #our experiences turn into memes and jokes and no one ever wants to have the conversation about the actual harm they cause #we're constantly trying not to step on anyone's toes and getting hurt in the process #and it's like. how much of this do we have to take lol #when will it end #delete later #clearly i'm having a Morning lol