#not an excuse

[ewanmitchellcrumbs]

I have been off of Tumblr all day. But I am saddened and sickened to see what I’ve returned to.

I have a genuine love for the people I interact with here. While I have had my differences in the past with people, most have been resolved by talking it out like mature adults in private, so that we can move past it and resume our friendship. As it should be.

I will admit, I have been unkind about people I have had mutual enmity with, where a resolution was not possible and there was ill feeling on both sides. But who is not guilty of that? The post circulated today contains a blend of genuine screenshots, and a lot of ones that have been doctored. For those that converse with me on a regular basis, you’ll be aware of my use of syntax, turns of phrase and general mannerisms of speech. To quote a good friend “this Ange feels very ooc to me.”

To further address the racism, I will hold my hands up and apologise for not speaking out sooner. I have never excused it, simply been avoidant of it because I did not feel safe to speak out. When someone repeatedly uses the p-slur, laughs at your discomfort and continues to do it, claiming it’s fine because they are of mixed race, it’s difficult to know how to respond beyond simply pulling away quietly and hoping it stops.

I didn’t feel safe to speak on it sooner. To be honest, what forced my hand was finding out that I had been doxxed. That was frightening to me, and has very real life consequences. I have since learned that further illegal action has been taken against other users. That’s not something I want to be a part of. No, I can’t excuse racism, and I can’t excuse doxxing and cyberstalking either. If you felt there was a genuine concern for your safety, wouldn’t you want to act on it? Everything that has transpired since is utterly bewildering to me. The level of hatred is atonishing.

I don’t care what happens to me or this blog, if I’m being perfectly honest, but I do care about the feelings of others, and I appreciate that my inaction has hurt people. If your space feels safer without me in it, please feel free to do what you need to do to remedy that.

All I have ever wanted is to write, and to encourage others to contribute towards the community. I genuinely love this fandom and the friends I have made within it, but sometimes when you love stuff you have to let it go. And I am willing to do that if it means people can move on and continue to be creative.

#not an excuse #but an explanation

[mia-martian]

I wish there was a way to tell minors to be careful and back off of some content.

I know how it is- literally my whole generation has experienced growing up with the internet to some capacity. I grew up with completely uncensored internet, and the reality is that it traumatized me. Because the things I liked had adults interacting with it and making adult content.

And now, there are adults and content farms making traumatizing content diRECTLY targeting kids. Which has happened before, but now I feel like it has increased. I worry a lot for the kids and teens online nowadays.

To any young people that might be reading;

It doesn't matter if "gore doesn't scare you" or how desensitized you may be. When you put yourself in an online space that isn't made with you or your best intentions in mind, you are going to get hurt. You are going to get scrutinized. You're going to see things you aren't meant to and shouldn't see. Being desensitized isn't a strength, it's a result of repeated trauma.

Interact with people your age. If you are not the target demographic for something, tread with caution or just don't interact with it at all.

If you see ANYTHING or ANYONE that makes you uncomfortable, it's okay to just report it, block them, and move on. Don't linger on what makes you uncomfortable or disturbs you. Not for ANY reason.

You don't always have to be an advocate. It's okay to curate your own online experience and focus on what brings you joy. You don't have to constantly think about every issue going on in the world or online. You have to rest before you can act. It's not immoral to choose your mental health over whatever internet drama or controversies or real-world issues may be going on. When things are out of your control, doing your best is more than enough, and stepping away isn't a crime.

Take breaks. For the love of god, try to take breaks. It's hard enough being young as is.

And pLEASE do NOT follow me. Everything else I post is with an adult audience in mind. I'm just some dumbass in my 20's, and I'm still figuring out whatever the hell IM supposed to be about.

Just heed my warnings, and may our paths cross in a later date. Or something cheese like that.

#and yes im going after specific fandoms #tadc #the amazing digital circus #welcome home #hazbin hotel #helluva boss #will wood #can't think of anything else right now #add your own fandoms in the replies ig #really hope this doesn't backfire on me for some reason or another #im trying to show the best intentions #im also autistic #not an excuse #but could be an explanation for my horrible communication #mlp fim #mlp #fnaf #five nights at freddy's

[cuckoo-on-a-string]

Does anyone else hesitate to reblog because of the usual childhood traumas, or is that just me?

After decades of conditioning to not engage unless I was 105% sure someone wanted me to interact (or be mocked, called "annoying," etc.), I'm so used to quietly leaving likes and moving on that the idea of reblogging is still a little terrifying.

Like, this shit still happens on Facebook. With people I know. Let alone strangers.

So it's really, really okay to just reblog? I know the logical answer, but the conditioning is SCREAMING.

#i am trying my best #reblog most often from mutuals I know won't be mad #but seriously #not an excuse #i'm working on being a better tumblr citizen #but i still see posts and think #oh that's a cool person thing #do not touch #do not invite harm #reblogs #reblogging #tumblr biosphere

[ramen-flavored]

FYI, being abused isn’t an excuse to be an asshole.

It’s not an excuse to be racist or misogynistic or an abuser yourself.

What happened to Billy is atrocious but it does not excuse his actions towards Lucas or Max or literally anyone else.

#stranger things #stranger things vol 4 #stranger things volume 2 #stranger things volume 3 #anti billy hargrove #not an excuse #lucas sinclair #max mayfield #the upside down #vecna #mind flayer #Billy apologizers give me the ick #ramen-flavored

[ariiiiilynn]

Being in a bad mood isn’t an excuse to be an asshole. It can explain why you said/did something impulsively but you still need to be accountable for hurting someone else

#accountability #hold people accountable #bad mood #impulsive #be kind #be nice #just be nice #it’s not hard #not an excuse #excuses #being mean #bullying #harassment #anti bullying #anti harassment

[mountielle]

it's all "be yourself" or "don't let other people get in the way of your dreams" until the person is non-white, queer, disabled, (mostly the victims of this are low-functioning) neurodivergents, non-American/European, anything that's not Christian, non traditionalist or if someone's dream is """stupid"""

Then it's always "Why can't you be more like others?" "You'll repent eventually and realize the error of your ways." "You want to do ["weird" hobby] as a job? How stupid! Wouldn't you want something normal instead"

Kinda contradicts the moral, doesn't it?

#not transformers #tw christianity #ive come to hate it over time #because so many people abuse it so they can apply their whims to it #like #you cant tell other people or me what to do with my life #because we are not you #we will never be you #(this is about christians soo whoo boy) #and btw stop thinking that people are less worthy or wrong just because of your bullshit #stop harassing people for having different opinions than yours #and then claim to be oppressed when you wouldn't know the first thing ab it #stop using tradition or respect of elders as an excuse to pass on homophobic #transphobic or ableist laws #CHRISTIANITY IS A RELIGION #NOT AN EXCUSE #okay rant over

[prettyices]

I knew it would never work but I forced it anyway because I wanted to be delusional for your sakes only.

#don’t fight me on this #breathe #keepmovingforward #forgiveness #no drama #mental health #my thoughts #honestly #hard to breathe #hard to explain #i hate this #bad gyal #love #a new hope #itll get better #not an expert #not an excuse #just saying

[momorelis]

currently bribing the duffers so they can include someone calling mike per "homo-sapiens" in the script of season five. I wanna watch his little chad-coded brain go berserk.

#mike x will #byler #stranger things #internalized homophobia provides context #not an excuse #let him suffer for a little bit #i dont care anymore #but after that byler endgame obviously

[monkeygirl727]

Me: *fucks something up*

Me: *tries to explain why I fucked up the thing, cause ya know my brain is a little full of ADHD*

Somebody: "I don't need excuses"

Me: am...am I high???? I wasn't giving an excuse????? I'm trying to explain???? The intricacies of my mind???? And how trauma leads to me avoiding things???? I'm trying to give you the reasoning??? Which yes in someway I guess counts as an excuse but is also reasoning???

#life #yes #adhd #mental health #every single time #god damn neurotypicals #why you no want explanation? #not an excuse #logic #who needs logic

[lifblogs]

Deleted my reblog with my commentary. Gotta make my life easier for myself and not be a drama queen.

#maybe my bpd has been acting up? #not an excuse #just wondering #damn i gotta look at my dbt workbook

[ao3commentoftheday]

would you?

#I have no excuse for this #image description in alt

[captainsaltypear]

IS ANYONE ELSE GONNA TALK ABOUT THIS OR

#hazbin hotel #huskerdust #hazbin husker #hazbin angel dust #hazbin angeldust #angeldust #husker #hazbin husk #look man im all for overlord husk but EXCUSE ME???????? #WHERE DID THIS COME FROM #I LITERALLY YELLED W H A T AT MY COMPUTER SCREEN WHEN HE SAID THIS #I KNEW HUSK WAS STRONGER THAN HE LET ON BUT AN OVERLORD??????? #GURL?????????? #DAMN SON #THIS new piece of information caught me so offguard that i was still reeling from it even after the emotional bomb that was loser baby #anyways huskerdust truthers how are we feeling #HOW DOES VICTORY FEEL #NO LONGER CRACKSHIP BROTHERS #WE'RE REAL #AND IM FEELING SO GOOD ABOUT IT #anwyways im doing very emotionally good how are you guys #im...gonna put a hiatus my own personal webcomic to cry over this for the next 6 months #girls help #keith david...........im so sorry i ever doubted you he ATE THAT UPPPP #hazbin hotel spoilers #pear post #scheeze art

[greykolla-art]

My blog has become infested with angst goblins, and they must be fed with some hypothetical scenarios!🙏💚

#grey art #fan art #hazbin hotel fanart #hazbin hotel #Hazbin hotel comic #JESUS WEPT THIS FUCKING THING WAS A BEAST #BUT I LOVE IT! #hazbin charlie #hazbin alastor #Alastor #charlie morningstar #angst #hurt/comfort #whump art #I know what you people are I’m one of you! #I heard your cries for more angst and I aim to please! #also good excuse to use clip studio more #I only bust that out for something special #now let’s do something else! like eat!

[softausterity]

like okay if we're talking about this anatomically the ear holes on a human skull and a cat are actually in the same spot it's a difference in the shape of the cranium. you can see what's happening if you look at hairless cats

ears is big. so you can put the cat ears wherever you want if you start them at the same point as where the human ears would go.

just like. pull the sideburns back a little and it's fine. it's fine.

it's the best way to catify your blorbos with visible human ears. but that's just my........ purrsonal opinion..............

#excuse the drawing quality on literally everything that isn't the human skulls #.....i don't have a tag for this. #art tag

[redvelvetwishtree]

#who on earth is still using the hamas excuse #palestine #free palestine #gaza #gaza strip #middle east #free gaza #israel #fuck israel

[astraystayyh]

this post actually broke my heart.

#i can't believe more than ten thousands children were killed #and yet we are still grappling on whether israel is commiting a genocide #i can't believe how inhumane some people can be #how cargo ships matter more than human life #fuck you if you still support israel #if you still excuse it if you still think of “two sides” #fuck you genuinely i wish you nothing but pain for the rest of your miserable life #palestine #free palestine #gaza #free gaza