#fuck arophobia

[musingaro]

i love you aroallos. i love you cishet aros. i love you non-sam aros. i love you aros that society deems ‘not queer enough,’ you existing is enough.

#haven’t been on tumblr in a minute but i logged on to see bs arophobia on my feed #fuck that #i love you all aros we are here we are queer we are enough #aromantic #aro #aroallo #non sam aro #arospec #cishet aro

[starredwrites]

i'm having thoughts about amatonormativity and why it sucks and they're long-winded and hard to properly express bc it's late at night but i wanted to share them so i summarized them with a meme

this realization brought to you by the realization that a lot of people who say acephobic shit without actively denying asexuality exists just mentally swapped "virgin" for "asexual" and carried on with their lives. this best evidenced by people being "accepting" of asexual women but ignoring/erasing asexual men.

#i'm either galaxy braining hard enough to write a grant proposal for this novel #or i'm wrong and i doubt i'm wrong tbh #sometimes being aroace in a traumatized way makes you like. realize things #ace #aro #acephobia #amatonormativity #arophobia #aphobia #there's. there's equally fucked up assumptions about aromantic ppl #but i am too tired to express them coherently i may do it in the morning in a rb #actually 3rd option. i am explaining it Really Badly

[beeziewe033]

Whenever i see a alastor ship the comments are always like

"isnt he aroace tho?" and the replies are

"Im pretty sure he's just ace"

"He was confirmed Aromantic too"

"No??? He's just ace"

"his VA said he's canonically aroace"

"aroace people can still date"

"thats not gonna stop me from shipping"

Like thats EREASING Aromantic rep and aroace in general, people are so obsessed with ereasing aromantic character

#aroace #aromantic #asexual #ace #aro #aphobia #aphobes dni #aphobes fuck off #arophobia #Hazbin hotel #hazbin hotel alastor #alastor #beez thoughts #bee yaps #bees risky posts

[hussyknee]

I don't care how much you reblog ace positivity posts if you don't learn to recognize and call out every form of radical feminism in queer spaces. My community was decimated and our support systems destroyed because of this shit. Both we and the aromantic community have still barely recovered. Many of us won't feel safe in queer spaces ever again. And now I see the same vile shit now attacking trans mascs. Slapping "TERFs DNI" on your bio is worth fuck all if you're fine with keeping the door wide open to the same scumbaggery wearing different hats. If you aren't also dedicated to stamping out this culture of oppression Olympics, of trying to find acceptable targets by conflating individuals with oppressive systems, and making social justice into a cudgel to beat people into submission with, we're always going to be vulnerable to self-righteous bottom-feeders out only to validate their own trauma by hurting anyone within reach.

#asexuality #ace awareness #ace positivity #aromantism #transandrophobia #biphobia #aphobia #arophobia #panphobia #asexual awareness week #anti radfem #anti exclusionist #queer solidarity #queer as in fuck you #lgbtqia #knee of huss

[greenteaandtattoos]

whoops my non-existent artistic hands slipped

#lgbtqia #aromantic #aro #discourse #arophobia #emphasis on the non-existent artistic part #but i had to get it out there #because it happens every. single. fucking. time.

[moonlit-dreamers]

i fucking hate the phrase "love is wut makes us human"

actually, wut makes us different from most animals is our ability to cook and to use tools that arent used for food; and other animals r already catching up to the latter

not a single emotion is wut makes us human. We Are Not Special For Feeling Emotions. whos to say animals cant feel love too? wut if dogs and cats can love their owners? or is that impossible just bc theyre animals? animals have shown compassion, selflessness, loyalty, fear and so much more. animals can have similar reactions to trauma the same way we do. birds can speak and many other animals can understand words. many animals can walk on two legs. many things we have learnt have come from animals (we learned how to build planes by studying how birds fly and their wings)

WE R NOT SPECIAL FOR FEELING EMOTIONS

and its especially alienating for ppl who have limited/dulled emotions. many disorders can limit how u experience emotions; often times making specific emotions very difficult/rare to experience (i have difficulty caring about ppl. theres just a numb feeling where ig it would be. i show some form of care/affection towards ppl but i dont feel it how many others seem to do)

also wut about alter/nonhumans who do feel love? does that suddenly put them in the box of human?

again its just. bullshit to define the entire experience of being human as one single emotion. being human is such a complex and complicated thing. EXISTING is such a complex and complicated thing. to describe it in such a specific and singular way is just. foolish.

so shout out to my loveless ppl. ppl who r loveless bc of trauma. ppl who r loveless bc of other disorders. ppl who r loveless and tired of hearing this god damned phrase. ppl who r loveless who r told that it "makes no sense" and "everyone feels love". shout out to ppl who r loveless and have been alienated and dehumanized bc of it. and shout out to the ppl who arent human and still experience love.

#birdcage rambles #yippee! listen to me scream into the void on this weeks of ''birdcage is losing his fucking mind over amatonormativity'' #sorry i needed to fucking explode :) #actually aromantic #loveless #loveless aro #aromantic #aplatonic #< since i think this fits as well #aromantism #aro awareness week #actually aroace #aroace #actually loveless #i fuckin hate tags man #arophobia #i think since it discusses it #aphobia #amatonormativity

[altschmerzes]

"what do you MEAN character x looked at character y like this and they're not In Love" [the image is literally the man's face mostly obscured by an oxygen mask and someone else's hand and his eyes are mostly closed as he is passing out from blood loss and he just... looks like a guy who is passing out from blood loss]

i complain about this sort of fandom behaviour a lot but this one is just. fucking spectacular. great job guys.

#this is so fucking funny #girl help is it True Romantic Love Forever No Heterosexual Explanation For This!!!!! when you [checks notes] #pass out from blood loss? #gav gab #this particular fandom is the one that has tested me the most in the last decade i swear #sorry to ****** shippers i am marooning you all on an island until you learn how to behave #and not be fucking terrible to other people and also like. amatonormative as hell en masse #*** fandom when people ask it to care about the casual arophobia and amatonormativity that runs rampant in it-

[qufy]

ENOUGH! *aromanticize every love song*

#SICK OF IT #NONE OF THOSE ARE ABOUT ROMANCE ANYMORE #BECAUSE I SAID SO #EVERY FUCKING TIME I'M TIRED #Internalised arophobia QPR aroflux anything #aromantic #aro #arospec #aroace #aroflux

[thatineffablewitch]

Reminder that I need to hear so hopefully other aros benefit too:

You can be aro and still enjoy consuming romantic content. You can be aromantic and still get immense joy from shipping characters. You can be aromatic and maybe want a relationship with romantic elements one day, or unsure exactly what you want, with no deep desire to date and figure it out immediately. It is a spectrum of little to no romantic attraction, and we are valid regardless of where we fall on that spectrum. You are not fake or a poser, you are just a human being using language to better understand and describe your experience. If aromantic is a term that resonates for you, that’s enough. You are valid.

#Read Ace Dad Advice’s new book I Am Ace today #Particularly the chapter on micro aggressions and dating while asexual #Even though it’s a book on asexuality #I realized a lot of the micro aggressions are the same #And they’re words I’ve been telling myself about being aro #“It’s just a phase” #“You’ll meet the right person” #“Maybe it’s just trauma” #Maybe I’ve been valid all along and every doubt I’ve repeatedly told myself is just my own internalized arophobia making me feel like shit #No more #fuck that #i am valid #aromantics are valid #I love being aromantic #And I love myself #Suck on that arophobia #aromantic #aromanticism #arospec #aro #aroace #aroace community #aromantic positivity #aromantic pride #aromantic spectrum #aromantic asexual #aspec #arophobia #Arophobia can piss right off #my post

[tristinian]

It’s always “what will you do when you’re old and you have no one to look after you” and never “there’s a societal problem where we expect people to have partners or children that can look after them”

#and like this affects people in so many ways #like people will stay in relationships with people they don’t love and have kids with them so they aren’t alone when they’re old #and I don’t feel informed enough to speak about how it screws over disabled people but it definitely does #and that’s not even mentioning how it hurts a-spec people #and anyone who doesn’t end up in a relationship for whatever reason #my answer to the question will always be that I have friends who I know I can rely on. but not everyone has that #anyways #fuck amatonormativity #arophobia #aromantic #actually aromantic

[chrollohearttags]

I literally never had an issue or felt insecure abt my sexuality until I start interacting with heteronormative, allo ppl lmao. one convo and I’m ready to off myself.

#cherry chats 🍒 #rant in tags #like how am I supppsed to respond lmao #and please don’t get me started on the infantilization #‘you poor baby you just haven’t found the right person yet 🥺’ please go to hell lmao #and I’m so serious #it’s so frustrating bc you’re literally happy and then the world around you makes you feel like ur broken bc you don’t live like them #‘ur still a virgin? that’s so cute 🥺’ I literally wasn’t comfortable being around a man alone until 2 yrs ago and couldn’t tell anybody why #lmao get the fuck out my face #and I shouldn’t have to disclose trauma to justify something I’ve felt since I was old enough to understand relationships #cw discourse #cw sa implied #cw acephobia #cw arophobia #i’m sorry yall #I’m just in a spicy mood tonight #one of my old friends hmu just to talk about her man and I wanna claw my eyes out #this is why I’ve been ghost from social media for 6 mos

[villain-life]

i HATE that people treat me like shit cause i’m aro. Like- everyone keeps saying “y’all are the reasons why our generation is fucked up.” GIRL, i can’t control my feelings and i don’t flirt with anyone for breaking their heart or have situationships.

It’s true, i can like someone for a short period of time, BUT MOST OF THE TIMES I DON’T EVEN TELL THEM SO- why tf would you say us aro are ruining our generation? Just cause we might like someone sexually only? Just cause some of us have feelings for a limited amount of people in our lives? Just cause we loose feelings soon? How-

#aro lesbian #aro #aromantic #aphobes fuck off #arophobia #grey aromantic

[numberonepartyboy]

wow. just got blasted with arophobia as a aro man!!! thanks guys!!! good to fucking know most of the lgbt+ community fucking hates me and sees me as predatory!!! get hit with a fucking bus if you hate aromatic men!!!!! im literally so fucking tired of this 'discourse'. it's 2024 already and all of you are still fucking think that all men are predatory WHICH IS A TERF IDEALOGY BY THE FUCKING WAY. the radfem rhetoric never truly left the queer community. and it's terryfiyng that the only place where i can express myself thinks of me as a predator, bc i don't exprerience romantic attraction which is i guess means that i only want to fuck people and abuse them. holy shit go fuck yourself.

IF YOU THINK THAT ARO MEN AREN'T QUEER BLOCK ME. IM SERIOUS. IM AN ARO NB MAN AND I DON'T CARE IF YOU ONLY SUPPORT 'QUEER AROS'. ALL AROS ARE QUEER!!!

#aromantic #pinning this post. serioursly if you think that aros are predators literallt kys. get the fuck off my blog. #pinned post #arophobia #aphobia #abuse mention #im so fucking angry. fuck off

[skeletalroses]

Spock was one of the OG aroace characters and somehow we just. Never acknowledge that. Spock is so screamingly aroace-coded but when we talk about TOS from a queer perspective all we talk about is K/S shipping culture

and then the reboot movies fucking allowashed him

#there was a whole episode with him being gleefully unaffected by the sexy women that had all the other men hot and bothered #there was a whole episode where he suddenly had a sex drive and found it incredibly distressing #whenever he had an amorous encounter it was a sign that either he had an ulterior motive up his sleeve or /something was wrong with him/ #how the FUCK have the aspecs not claimed this guy #I haven't seen any of the new shows but if those allowashed him too I swear to fucking christ #actually asexual #actually aromantic #actually aroace #Spock #Star Trek #asexual #aromantic #acephobia #arophobia #fandom hell #fictional characters #why this is hell nor am I out of it

[ineffable-doll]

Your post where u said that u would make aroace spite fics bc u saw arophobia is resonating SO HARD. I just saw some acephobia that made me want to scream until glass shatters. Im so mad but instead of yelling Im gonna make aroace art until my fingers fall off. I WILL make an atleast ONE aro/ace feel less alone in this world with my art jst like how your writings has done for me. My queer rage will sustain me til the sun explodes but until then I'll write about love that would kill aro/acephobes

YES YES YES YES!! EXACTLY!! Their hate can't kill us because in the face of it, we create art. It's better for ourselves mentally than responding in kind by stooping to their level, and as you say, it allows us to bolster community and connection. That is always the most important thing in my writing, to reach people seeking a reassurance the world often won't give.

If they won't hear our screams, they will hear our songs. And if they won't hear our songs, that's okay - so long as the right person who needs to hear it can sing along.

#asexual #aromantic #aroace #acephobia #arophobia #aphobia #queer #queer as in fuck you

[spiltcandycoatedpunkblood]

my value is not based in my sexuality or ability to provide romantic relationships

#aromanticism #aromantic #aro #ace #asexuality #asexual #aphobia tw #acephobia tw #arophobia tw #queer #LGBTQIA+ #i'm so sick of seeing romance everywhere like it's some great fantastical thing #and that i should put up with people telling me that i'll be alone if i don't embrace those things #it's none of your fucking business #vent #rant #ok to reblog