#like I’m not a transgender person I’m just me

[polyamorouspunk]

Fully agree with you on the trans thing. It’s something I struggled with for a LONG time that I didnt *want* to be fully 100% trans. Like I fit in with trans people, I was transmasc, but I never felt *trans*. If that makes any sense??

People used to tell me all the time that I had to be trans if I checked xyz boxes. And I hated it. Now, years later, I’ve made it to a point that I just *am*. And it took me SO LONG to realize that was even an option. To just be myself without putting a label on it. I dont need to be fully cis or fully trans. Im just a little bit of everything and fully me.

It still confuses my queer friends. That I just *do not* care and dont put any importance on it. So its nice to see someone else with that opinion. Thank you

Yes!

Listen like I do not care if people reblog my posts and disagree with me. Like that’s you’re right as an individual. But what I don’t like is when I make a post talking about my identity and someone “corrects” me on it.

The problem with the push to be super inclusive, sometimes, is that people stop making it about who *wants* to be a part and who doesn’t.

I know people who are gay men who have 0 interest in being part of the LGBTQ+ community. Gay men who are like I’m not queer I’m not part of the community I’m just gay but I’m not identifying with the community in any way.

I know people who have described their “gender” to me almost verbatim the way that trans people have described to me their gender and have told me they do not consider themselves trans in any way, and it kind of sucks because I’m like… I know that if I were someone else they might put that label on that person even if that person doesn’t want it?

I’ve had people ON THIS BLOG send me asks telling me I am not trans and other people send me asks saying I’m not cis. Like lmao it’s so fucking funny pick one you guys. I gotta be one or the other- SIKE no I don’t. I’ve had people dump me over saying “I’m both cis and trans” which in hindsight seems kinda ableist because that was actually when I started IDing as plural so like. The idea you can’t be both is like. You know there are people with different experiences than you right. Like some common enough to be in textbooks. Not like some “out there” concepts like if you can grasp the concept of DID you can understand how perhaps to some degree a person can be different than their literal AGAB without being trans. Just for one example.

Sometimes I also fail to realize this but. When you reblog someone’s post, or comment on it, or send them an ask, etc… you are coming into THEIR space. I mean it very much went through my mind to be like “just ignore it” but I was like someone is coming onto MY post where I try and validate MY gender experiences and telling me people like ME are quite literally exactly what I’m talking about where I’m like actually I’m valid if I’m a little trans and outright saying “YOU AREN’T A LITTLE TRANS UWU” like. Hi it’s you you’re the problem you’re the people I’m validating myself to. Like I don’t care how politely and nicely you try and dress it up with inclusive language do not put me into a box I do not want to be put in because you think “that I have to be trans because I check xyz boxes” yeah literally. I know fully cis people who check “xyz boxes” and I ain’t out here telling them that actually they’re trans and valid for it. Like bro if you tell me you’re cis who am I to disagree.

In the near future you’ll never hear the words “I’m transgender” come out of my mouth directly. I might post it on here or say irl that I “dabble in transgenderism” but I do not outright say irl in person that I am transgender not because I’m “dealing with internalized transphobia” and “not ready to fully accept myself to be transgender in the real world instead of just offline” like no I just don’t ID as “transgender” period. Or you know what maybe I am but also who are you to say that’s what I am? How are you helping exactly? How is acting like I can’t “really accept myself for who I truly am” helping me any? Idk. Just because you have good intentions doesn’t make it better than the people who have bad intentions. Both are issues. Both are problematic.

Learn to go “actually it’s not my fucking business if someone is trans or cis or neither” and “they can call themselves whatever they want” and that includes NOT wanting to be included.

#bro like even Nimona says in the movie ‘I’m not a girl I’m just Nimona’ #like I’m not a transgender person I’m just me #punk gets mail #personal

[thefleshyougoveggie]

most of the time, it’s very noticeable to me whether when cis people are used to being around trans people or not.

those who have atleast one (the more, the better usually-not always) trans person who is close to them/they know very well tend to understand my transness in a completely different way than other cis people. like ofc they’ll never understand me in the same way other trans ppl will (with some exceptions ofc)-but they seem to get it in a way that other cis people do.

whereas those who don’t really know any other trans ppl will sometimes act/say things that are unintentionally just… not… ideal…. like theyre (usually) trying but…. it’s just noticeable they’re very used to only being around cis people.

this is in my experience extra noticeable with men, but that doesn’t mean that’s how it’s for everyone ofc:)

#and i mean cishets tend to be worse than cis queers but still #it’s like??? the guy i’m seeing right now is cis but he has several trans friends and he just gets it in a way im not used to at all #and it’s so refreshing bc it’s so… obvious to him? like in the same way it is to me #some things we don’t really agree on #but in general #he just gets it in a way im not used to cis people getting it tbh #trans #transgender #nonbinary #queer #lgbt #lgbtq #atlas the thinker #personal

[gremlin-pattie]

will wood was so real when he said “I am quantum physics— my witness brings me into existence” in reference to gender. that’s literally It. he gets it

#i wouldn’t feel a need to define myself by gendered terms if people die not perceive me in a gendered way #i’m just a person with fluid expression #but some of my expressions are ‘traditionally’ feminine or masculine #and that causes people to perceive me as a certain gender or type of person #i would like to just be A Person but we live in a gendered world. and within the terms of that world i am nonbinary. i am somewhat masc #but what does that really mean? #gender #trans #transgender #gender fluid #gender fluidity #nonbinary #queer #will wood #i/me/myself #the normal album

[judasviscariot]

genuinely truly I don’t think the majority of the trans community actually sees trans guys as trans. they see us as Women Lite™️. full stop point blank period. I can’t discuss my feminine trauma or the fact that I was abused and experienced hell as a woman without being called a terf. I don’t get celebrated in the LGBTQ community, and definitely not by other trans folks. I don’t get solidarity. I discuss my wariness of cisgender straight men and get accused of spouting terf rhetoric. I get lectured on my own experiences BY OTHER TRANS FOLKS because “well u know cis man hate hurts trans men :(“ I FUCKING KNOW! I’m the one living it! but ALL my trauma comes from that demographic! all my trauma comes from the fact that I was born with a uterus and raised as a woman! it doesn’t make me a fucking terf! does anyone hear us?

#IM SO ANGRY WHAT DO I DO WITH ALL OF IT #just saw a video where a trans woman was ranting about never calling her mother a chest feeding person #like it was the worst shit she’d ever heard #we don’t even exist to our own community but I’m expected to stick my neck out for everyone else? #absolutely not! #transgender #trans man #trans men #trans issues #afab #I’m so? #like I CANNOT neglect my girl self she’s still here she’s still with me #I am holding her gently #queer

[forgiven-disobedience]

Just a douchebag in a wife beater ☠️

#personal #just me #me #septum piercing #selfie #body positive #ftm #transgender #pale #trans man #tatted #wife beater #i look like a douche bag #green hair #tattoos #tank top #gay boys #this is my husbands tank too that i stole since I’m out of town for work

[magnus-rhymes-with-swagness]

#trans #transgender #transmasc #covering my face with my hands and peeking through my fingers aaaa #i performed that school project i was talking about earlier (the one with the hammer of thor) #and this very cool trans guy who i really like was like. smiling and nodding throughout it i think #his performance was SO good i went up to him at the end of class to tell him how much i liked it #and HE BEAT ME TO IT AND SAID HE REALLY LIKED MINE #i just about died hbdsjdbsn #our performances both dealt with gender in sort of a similar way which was cool #he even mentioned recognizing my book HAHA #actually nearly every time i have a mcga book in public someone tells me they’re also a fan which is always cool #hot transmasc in my area has been sufficiently impressed for today 🫡 #i’m being so silly about this dfkfjdnj #my words #personal

[arcsin27]

I kinda hate the “cis people will never ever respect us so trying to convince them is pointless” thing

I’m hoping they don’t genuinely mean every cis person alive so I’m gonna ignore that part

People… change their minds. That’s a thing that happens. Like the people that famous racism killer Daryl Davis has converted for example.

And especially when reasoning, facts, science, etc is used. If I told someone Jupiter could have aliens they’d think I’m crazy. If I explain how tidal forces likely give Jupiter’s moon Europa a saltwater ocean they might believe me.

Plus… if debating, explaining, sharing research, etc didn’t work, why would we be worried about it at all? Why would we even give a shit about people like Ben Shapiro if changing peoples minds with debates and facts was impossible?

Am I meant to believe convincing people to be allies is impossible but convincing people to be bigots is?

#cancel me #very controversial #lgbt #trans #transgender #transsexual #truscum #transmed #kinda? #it’s not really about that but this argument is used against transmeds a lot #since transmeds are the ones that try to use science and research to convince people trans people deserve rights #i’m just annoyed #make it make sense #why would ”hey this is why we’re like this” have zero chance of making anyone go ”ohhh I get it now okay!” #that’s how many people react to new facts. what. #and god almighty if they think every cis person alive is transphobic I’m gonna lose my mind

[loveofastarvingdog]

thinking about the overlap between autism and transgenderism and also being aspec…

#timothy's txts. #this was because i was like huh i don’t know how anyone dates … i would for real be the person in the fanfic who had to ask what it’s like #being in love and then break someone’s heart because i thought i was doing it wrong #and then i was like. huh. not even in an aro way…. just like. how does anyone date without knowing all the rules…… #what about the Terms and Conditions…… #on the plus side i like clear communication on the cons side…. #well. i’m always worried about the secret rules #needless to say. of course i’m transgender #i don’t like what everyone else did to the place (<- that is to say the assumptions they had about me etc etc)

[trashcandroid]

just watched synecdoche, new york and i can definitely see its influence in the rehearsal lol

kinda in a synecdoche ny / the rehearsal / the curse / the truman show / house of leaves / dark city kinda mood rn in general. i’m sure it doesn’t mean anything

#sorry people searching this stuff in the tags this is just a personal post lol #mine #kinda wanna rewatch the rehearsal now even though i’m also still rewatching the curse with two different people #it also makes me want to rewatch the smokers allowed episode of nathan for you #i’m on a bit of a nathan fielder kick if it wasn’t obvious by this post lol #but i also wanna watch more of charlie kaufman’s stuff because i liked this and also being john malkovich #weirdly enough both of those movies involved one of the main characters realizing they’re transgender? like it’s pretty explicit?

[thefleshyougoveggie]

getting correctly gendered by someone who doesn’t even know you’re trans is so euphoric to me

#like someone who had only ever seen me once and never really spoken to me called me he and guy #and it made me so happy #like yes!! i am a he!! and i am a guy!! thanks for acknowledging that #i’m not a guy in the traditional sense per se #and i don’t like being called a man #but just a little guy… that’s definitely me #and idk since i’m pretty dysphoric about how i’m perceived and i fairly often just assume ppl assume i’m a woman #it was so refreshing that someone just… proved me wrong about that!! #even after i had spoken a few words he still used he! not sure how much he heard but STILL #whenever someone hears my voice they tend to misgender me #and idk maybe it was bc he might’ve not heard a lot but… still #idk it’s a small victory and it just made me happy and euphoric #trans #transgender #transmasc #nonbinary #lgbtq #queer #atlas the thinker #personal

[theforesteldritch]

‘People with CAIS are men not women because XY blah blah and I equate sex with gender even though CAIS is an intersex condition so literally not a binary sex’ ‘People with CAIS are always women never men because phenotype socialization blah blah’ anyone who agrees with either of these needs to shut up shut up shut up shut up shut up we can be women we can be men we can be neither or both or something else we can define our sex for ourselves we can define our gender for ourselves.

Trans people with CAIS I love you cis people with CAIS I love you people with CAIS I love you we as intersex people deserve better than this.

#I saw terfs claiming we’re men because of our chromosomes #And that we also shouldn’t compete in womens sports or be classified as women #I’m going to fucking scream #This is why bio essentialism is dangerous #Because some girl diagnosed with CAIS is going to see this not knowing what I know #And think she’s less of a girl or a woman and she’s NOT she’s just as much of a woman as a dyadic woman #or some boy or man with CAIS will see this rhetoric #And think that his existence is impossible #Or a genderqueer person like me with CAIS is going to feel even more alone #trans #transgender #lgbtq #intersexism #lgbtqia #Intersex #terfs fuck off #CAIS

[valravn72]

I don’t understand why people are offended by cis people using xenos. The whole point is getting to decide what concepts you get to define your gender using and that includes replacing ones assigned to someone by cultural society. If a cis woman told me she thinks her gender is associated with seashells I would be like fuck yeah explore your own personal definition of woman girl fuck it up ily. People get so pissed at the concept of cis people dipping their toes in trans concepts for fun because we’re scared of getting like. Culturally gentrified or something but the alternative is continuing to ensure that cis people have no self awareness and are scared of exploring what their genders mean to them.

#transgender #xenopronouns #xenogender #I’m sorry I’m going on like a whole gender tyrade rn a terf ally-leaning person interacted with me and wow misguided people are everywhere #and they think they’re against us because they think we have the same opinions as transmedicalists and truscum and misogynistic trans men #that’s fucked up #sorry for vagueposting about u if you’re seeing this love I’m just having a moment bc I hate that centrists use the same labels as me #I’m not going to block you just please DNI in the future I am a minor I am not charge of being at the frontlines for my community

[mage-propaganda]

Pride stuff is coming out in stores again, at least where I am, so gentle reminder not to go up to people and ask them about their gender/sexuality in public????

You’d think this would be common sense, but in an era where more and more people are becoming accepting of personal identity (in some places) it just…isn’t? Apparently? Bro, I’m glad your parents and friends and family have always loved and accepted you, but I can’t have you coming up to me and asking me if I’m queer because my eyes lingered a little too long on the pride section in front of the [family member] reason why I’m still in the closet in the first place. That’s dangerous for me.

It seems to be young people, like teens and really young adults, doing this mostly (I’d assume, that’s around the age the people who did it to me looked). It might be easy to forget we don’t live in a gay paradise where everyone accepts each other, but we don’t and a lotta people still have unaccepting family members or live in dangerous situations.

#gay #queer #trans #personal #bisexual #transgender #just as a friendly reminder #I’m simultaneously happy and terrified that pride month is approaching #I love seeing people get to be out and open #and supported #but it’s also like more dangerous for me #can’t wait to move out but also why #what do I say when someone asks directly if I’m queer #if I’m gay or trans or bi #like why do you make me lie like this #yes I am but I can’t say it

[halfricanloveyou]

here’s the thing about being nonbinary for me personally: it is not and has never been about breaking boundaries or daring to be different or freedom of gender expression that made me suddenly choose to be nonbinary.

i have always been this way. i’ve always known but never fully understood why i felt so uncomfortable being a woman. it had nothing to do with leaning more towards femininity or masculinity or gender roles or hating women.

i have always felt that i have never been a woman. it never felt right to me being defined as one. though i share a lot of experiences with women due to society seeing me as a woman and people in society treating me that way, disliking femininity wasn’t what made me think i was nonbinary.

what made me really fully realize and understand was when i realized that when it came to me personally, i didn’t care about femininity OR masculinity. i didn’t really think in those kinds of terms when it came to myself either. the idea of gender isn’t one i felt applied to me, as a person.

i didn’t care about being a woman. i didn’t care about what things were labeled as “feminine” or what i was supposed to be like as a woman. i didn’t WANT to be a woman. i didn’t feel like a woman.

at the same time, i didn’t want to be masculine. i didn’t want to be seen as a man. though i feel i have more in common with men, i still never felt that i was a man.

it was always really difficult and alienating for me, not understanding why i felt so much dysphoria at being seen as a woman OR as a man. why being called either just never felt fully right to me. why trying to be either felt like a chore or a costume i had to put on, and when i was called or mistaken as either i felt like i wanted to scream and cry. why i never understood why i wasn’t good enough as either gender, not feminine enough or masculine enough, not fitting into either category.

i tried to force myself to be a woman. i tried really hard to be more feminine, really hard to force myself to see myself as a woman. i tried really hard to be like the many women i know and have known. and i tried the same on the opposite end. i tried to force myself to be more masculine. i tried to dress differently and posture differently. and it still felt deeply wrong to me.

i’d always appealed more to animals specifically because they didn’t have to worry or care about whether they were seen as boys or girls and they could be loved just as dearly even when their owners had no idea or what gender they were. how being a girl or a boy had very little impact on who they were because it didn’t really matter to them, and how people were always excited to see a dog or cat and what gender they thought the animal was didn’t change how they approached that animal because in reality, whether the animal was a boy or a girl came secondary to the fact that it WAS a pet, a dog or a cat, and in reality nobody really cared about what gender the animal was. and the animal itself also didn’t care or have any sense of it’s own gender outside of hormones and reproduction.

with the several farm cats i owned gender meant nothing when it came to their group dynamics: the cats that were “in charge” or the more combative cats that would chase off and fight cats outside of their colony or the ones who would hunt and bring food to share with each other, who were protective of the other cats in the colony and would attack any troublemakers that intentionally tried to pick a fight; or the ones who preferred to lay back and were more affectionate, who would all lay together and who would simply sit and stare when a cat they were unfamiliar with tried to enter their territory; or the cats that were the ones who seemed to be targeted and picked on by the other cats, who pushed the boundaries of the cats around them, who would randomly pick fights just to lose consistently, who would growl at the other cats and get into spats only to run away or be chastised; gender had nothing to do with which cats tended to fall into which role.

the cats i had that tended to be skittish or aggressive or active or affectionate…gender had no bearing on any of that. i always felt so jealous of that. i wanted to be a cat (especially in childhood lol) because i wanted to live in a world that had a dynamic like that. a world where gender didn’t matter, where no one really had any concept of gender and it really didn’t matter. no cat cared about whether the other was male or female and it didn’t change how they interacted. (unless it was something like intact male vs neutered male or female cat in heat and male cat)

when i finally heard the term non binary, that it was something that even existed, i knew instantly that it sounded like me. i was scared at first, went through a lot of self doubt and questioning myself, calling myself stupid for considering it. but then i started to understand what it really meant.

a gender identity that is neither male or female. a gender identity where the concept of gender simply didn’t apply. an identity where you didn’t have to pick one or the other or lean into one or the other. and once i finally let myself accept that identity i finally felt right. i didn’t have to pretend to care or go out of my way to be feminine or masculine. i didn’t have to care about being a lady or a woman or lean into being a man or wanting to present as masculine or any of that. i didn’t have to be what i was “supposed to be.” i didn’t have to be a tomboy or a girl that was proud to have masculine interests and still be as much of a woman as a feminine girly type of woman. i didn’t have to be a man at my core, being proud to have feminine interests while defining myself as just as much of a man as a more masculine man.

none of those felt right or felt like me or who i was. knowing that i didn’t have to force myself to be any gender or present/lean into any feminine or masculine ideal was freeing to me. that i could like any of the things i wanted without really thinking about whether they were feminine or masculine was so relieving. i could decide it didn’t matter to me. i could be someone who was neither or someone who none of those ideas applied to.

though i still suffer from low self esteem issues and mental health issues, i finally don’t hate myself for not being able to choose one identity or the other. i finally understand why i am the way that i am and why i felt so wrong and inadequate and unable to be the woman or man i was supposed to want to be.

in understanding that i didn’t have to be either if i didn’t want to, i was finally able to accept the person i’ve always been. and i’m finally able to accept that that person exists, even if people don’t understand or are disgusted by them or make fun of them. even though it’s supposed to be one or the other. i don’t have to choose. i don’t have to pick the option my body is biologically defined as.

#nonbinary #NB #enby #long post #honestly this is the first time i’ve been able to sit down and put my thoughts and feelings into actual words #i’m sure no one will read this #but i wanted to write it because i’m not allowed to talk about it #until i am able to defend or explain it in a way that can be understood by someone who hasn’t experienced it #or met someone who was similar or perhaps even the same way #NOT ALL NONBINARY PEOPLE ARE THE SAME THOUGH!!! #this is just what it means to me #and my experience as a transgender person #especially as a transgender person who didn’t feel dysphoria towards their own body #to me it’s always just been a body and i never really hated it for what it looked like #i didn’t like my body for what it was perceived as #to me though biologically my body is considered female #i never really saw it that way if that makes sense #the reason i struggle with it is because it’s the reason i can’t be seen or identified as anything but a woman by other people #i hate that this body is considered female #i hate that this body means people will always call me a woman and see me as one #but the body itself has never been the issue i don’t experience dysphoria because i want it to look different #how it looks really doesn’t mean all that much to me #other than being overweight tbh #men can have breasts or even vaginas and still be men #and women can have short hair or not have breasts or even have ducks #and still be women #in that same way i can still have this body but be nonbinarh #trans #transgender #lgbtq+

[magnus-rhymes-with-swagness]

they need to make an emoji to convey the specific feeling of being complimented by an attractive trans person. something like 😵‍💫😎😳🫣🫠😎 combined

#trans #transgender #YES I’M MAKING ANOTHER POST WHAT ABOUT IT #in my defense he’s soooo kind and talented and gorgeous and wonderful and even likes the same books as me #i don’t tend to talk about my crushes on tumblr (NOT ROMANTIC i just like the word crush) #but this guy is making me SO SILLY #also i don’t always label attraction honestly #sometimes a cool person makes me insane and that’s all i need to know lmao #my words #personal

[filmcel]

When will it be my turn to get my hands on t :[

#:[ :[ :[ #i’m so sad #i genuinely think about it every night #i can’t do this anymoorrrrrree #it’s DEPRESSING. #captain’s log #i genuinely just don’t know what to do #i’m very much a ‘don’t share this w anyone’ type of person regarding HOW I FEEL #if even sharing my issues w anxiety w my parents caused me and them to be insane well #the transgender thing is gonna b a whole nother pile of shit #i don’t wanna deal w it #but i want to GET STARTED W MY LIFE :[ #i just don’t know how or what to dooooo about it :[ #pleaaaaase #genuinely a cry for help idk what to do idk who to talk to about this i need A SOLUTION OTHER THAN DYING 😭 #(<- no i’m not gonna harm myself =_= it’s just like those stupid things. dw about it.) #(like damn ig i’ll just die then. u know it’s casual and silly it’s not real ) (i promise i don’t wanna die 👍)