#nonnie i don't know if this addressed your question

[mister-eames]

I love and worship the beloved “mustn’t be afraid to dream a little bigger darling” but ALSO can we please talk about the moment leading up to it? how right after “do it faster!” Comment (a misplaced anger) by Arthur to eames, When eveyone is hating each other and themselves, and eames who really didn’t have to help Arthur (mr-i-missed-the-part-about-fischers-militarized-mind-so-i-have-to-take-all-of-them-down-myself), stayed behind to help him?, I haven’t seen anyone talk/write about this part quite as much as the beloved “darling” comment, cause eames KNEW his idiot husband is blaming himself and just went there to help him and show that he’s not alone? Can we please??

You are correct, nonnie. I suppose I never really noticed Arthur taking it upon himself to deal with the combative projections all on his own in that warehouse, as if compelled to do so. They didn't really need to take them on (or any of them out really) - yes, they were getting 'boxed in' but the rooftop snipers weren't really a threat tbh. They'd be hoofing it outta there in that van in a matter of minutes, regardless.

A: How are we going to reconcile them if they're so estranged?

E: Well I'm working on that, aren't I?

A: Do it faster.

Arthur says 'do it faster' and then goes to take on snipers all by himself. Arthur, who can't just sit around and twiddle his thumbs while they're loading Saito up in the car. Arthur, who may have cocked up this whole job and Cobbs chances off ever getting home by missing the militarisation. Arthur, who must not only must he be blaming himself for this, but he must also be absolutely terrified and cannot, will not show it. Before, the job was a long shot. Now it's a gunshot between him and limbo and whatever horror Arthur perceives limbo to be. It's one gunshot between everyone else and limbo (purgatory? hell?) and them never coming back - or worse, coming back wrong.

Maybe Eames was being cocky and trying to get a rise out of Arthur. Maybe he was trying to distract him. Maybe it's all of the above and Eames knew Arthur enough to know he was kicking himself. What Eames did was he took a bit of the load off Arthur's shoulders with a size joke masqueraded as (valid) advice and a 'darling' and a big ol' explosion - and I think that is one of the reasons why dreamhusbands is so powerful. Because we love the 'darling' line, god knows I do, but what we really love is all the text and subtext that came before it - 'darling' didn't create the Arthur/Eames fandom - it's just another ingredient in the stew.

Eames says 'darling' and we hear 'darling' (supportive), 'darling' (derogatory), 'darling' (affectionate), 'darling' (cautionary). Their entire relationship throughout the film is laden with loaded words and unspoken words that speak to their history. And that really is the thing - Eames didn't need to be there. He didn't need to tell Arthur to 'dream bigger' in that moment. Eames, who is trying to juggle a severely shortened timeline and has as much pressure on him than anyone else, if not more, to try and play therapist to Fischer, still didn't let Arthur's snappish finger-clicking get a rise out of him. Still saw in Arthur what Arthur was feeling. And Arthur, who says 'do it faster', welcomes Eames helping him out - in fact, when he sees Eames approach, his whole body relaxes like his strings were cut. It's fucking teamwork.

#they're husbands ur honor #nonnie i don't know if this addressed your question #but i got to rewatch that whole part a few times #and they way arthurs body just... relaxed #like #he knows in his core Eames has his back #great moment #dreamhusbands #arthur x eames #inception

[foibles-fables]

hi foibs, hoping you’re doing well. there’s something i’ve wanted to ask you since burning shores…can you say more about why you weren’t impressed by seyka/seyloy? i’ve valued your hzd opinions for a long time and am curious and interested to learn more about this one. but if you’d rather not answer that’s fine!

Hi nonny!! I told myself I wasn't going to answer any of these, but I really appreciate your kind tone and am happy to address this again for you!

I won't go into a list of specific reasons why here. I do enjoy a good bit of piece-by-piece analysis a LOT but--frankly, picking apart another ship in a public zone like this is not what I want to exemplify on my blog, at all. It's not the kind of environment I'd like to create or discourse I'd like to foster. If those conversations are to be had at all--which, let's face it, they're probably not--they're to be had one on one, with a promise of good faith and open-mindedness between participants.

So to answer your question, I'll give a little more info, but still in generalities.

First and foremost, it's the simple fact that their dynamic, as portrayed in HBS, didn't spark for me! If y'all know me, you know that there is a very specific ship dynamic that I tend to latch onto, and this repeats ad infinitum across fandoms. I just wasn't compelled by the material, which is fine! More power to you if you were, for sure.

That loops into the second reason I'll give: yes, I did find the writing of HBS to be lackluster in many aspects, including the relationship between Aloy and Seyka. The sloppy writing absolutely influenced the way I viewed/reacted to Aloy and Seyka as a ship. To me, it did feel rushed and very much removed from the character and pacing of the series we've known for years. And that was not a boon for connecting with the presented narrative, the same way I began to feel disconnected from HFW. Once again, though, totally subjective and valid if it did hit for you!

I wanted to like Seyka so much more than I did. (This is--as I've shared other posts before--commentary on the writer's room character work, not on Seyka.) I wanted her to oust Alva as my favorite Quen babygirl (A HARD CHALLENGE, I'll admit). I wanted to be compelled by her, and by her dynamic with Aloy. She didn't, and I wasn't. And that's not an attack on Seyka herself, or on folks who enjoyed her. That's my own peeve with the writing and the way she was presented both in the narrative and in the HBS marketing.

If I can also use your ask to be a little vulnerable, nonny? It's been a hard six weeks. I feel like the posts I've put up and the opinions I've offered with regards to this have been nothing less than respectful and pleasant and, in a lot of cases, that grace hasn't been returned. From being blocked/unfollowed/vagued by other Horizon wlw shippers with whom I've built a rapport over the years (which of COURSE it's anyone's right to curate their feeds--still stings on the other side, in this situation especially)--to being directly compared to the Actual Homophobes for supporting the idea of romance options in game three (the same Actual Homophobes sending death and other threats directly to my inboxes)--it's an unfortunate state. I'm doing my best to be positive for the whole fandom, but some days it's harder than others.

In any case--I'll say, contradictorily--there is a Seyloy idea I've been working on, in attempts to connect more with them and sublimate my quibbles with what was presented in canon. So I hope any Seyloy enjoyers who might read it eventually (and this!) will take it in good faith when it's finished, as it's being written in nothing but good faith!

And, FINALLY, because every single time this question comes up, I say "I DON'T DISLIKE SEYKA" out loud in Nadja's voice, and this is the perfect opportunity to finally make the joke in public:

#again I appreciate you nonny and thank you for asking so genuinely! #horizon zero dawn #horizon forbidden west #horizon burning shores #horizon critical #seyka #not tagging the ship in a critical post because we don't do that here my siblings in GAIA

[kalopsiavn]

How would the LI react if MC became seriously ill? I'm sorry if this question is poorly worded, my English is terrible and I'm barely learning.

It's okay nonnie! I get the non native english speaker pain TvT

Angst warning!

Cain

Being a clergy has made him learn how to nurse a sick person very well. Expect him to handle you with utmost care. He feeds you, he bathes you, he even tries to exercise your limbs so they don't get stiff. When you are finally able to stand up and walk, you will find him, in the middle of the night, praying with his hands clasped together.

"God...you never gave me anything I asked for..but please for the first time..make it true...please heal them..."

Aiden

He would get seriously worried. He drops his hard to get act and brings you a literal personal doctor. Expect the perfect setting in the room where you will be staying. He takes a hiatus from his public life just to spend more time with you, take care of you despite having maids to take care of your food and hygiene.

"I'm sorry..I couldn’t spend more time with you..."

Isaiah

He attended med school for a few years so he knows a few things about healthcare. But if your condition begins to deteriorate, he will urgently take you to the hospital. He will spend many sleepless nights, waiting for you to get well...waiting for the doctor to give him the good news.

"My rose...why have you withered? I took care of you everyday...please come back to life...please don't leave my garden.."

Haruto

He has the money to spend. Knowing how his little bird is sick, he will immediately call for his family doctor to go check you. Doesn't care about the fact that this might freak you out but it's a bunch of professionals at your doorstep..doctors you have seen getting awards. Will call you from an unknown number to check on you. Who might this mysterious guardian angel be..you wonder.

"Get well for me soon, okay, little bird?"

Axel

Don't ask them how they got your address or how they even got into your house without a key. But they will be there for you, crying their eyes out, holding your hand. They will spend all the money they had to find medications for you. They can't lose you...

"Please..please...please...don't take away the only light of my life...please.."

#💜 kalopsia vn #⚜️ about cain #💎 about aiden #🌹 about isaiah #🫐 about haruto #🌱 about axel #angst yea...

[khaire-traveler]

Hiya!

This might be a weird question and I don't mind if you don't want to answer this, but do the gods know what we're thinking? I've been super paranoid about it lately, since I have pretty hubristic (?) intrusive thoughts. Thank you, have a good day/afternoon/night 🦭

Hey, Nonny, thanks for the ask!

I've seen a lot of people with this question, and I think the answer varies from person to person. In my personal belief, I think that deities can read our thoughts but that they don't do it all the time. To me, the gods are not all-knowing; they know a lot of things, sure, but not everything - this includes our thoughts.

I believe they have the ability to read thoughts, but I personally don't think they do it randomly or when we're just generally existing. I believe that they likely only do it if we're praying to them in our heads or are addressing them very directly. I don't think they're creepy or intrusive about it. They respect our privacy and the fact that we are individuals with free will and the ability to think freely. Even if they "tuned in" at a time where we were thinking about something "weird", I highly doubt they'd judge us for it, honestly.

But yeah, there are many different views on this question, and this is just my personal view. I know of some people who don't believe the gods can read our thoughts at all, which seems to be somewhat common, actually. I believe that they're able to but often choose not to, unless we are speaking to them directly. Deities don't tend to enjoy being invasive like that.

I hope this helps, although it's just my personal beliefs. Please know that it is perfectly ok and valid to have intrusive thoughts, and I'm sure the gods would never judge you for something like that, especially since it's outside of your control. Take care, Nonny. ☺️🧡

#anon asks #answered asks #upg

[i-hope-this-is-a-phase]

Hi gang!

I received a bunch of anons that weren't exactly positive, but I do want to address them before closing further public conversation on the Gogtroversy.

They will be put under the cut because they are DICEY my dears. Will have the same tags though and with proper responses :)9

(Also apologies for the caps people seem to be missing my point so I'm trying to emphasize the important bits to help with comprehension).

Hello nonnie!

I was, in fact, very confused when you wrote "Yes does not mean consent" because, out of context, I was asking myself "Then what is consent?" Thank you for clarifying.

Now, onto your points:

As I have stated multiple times, I do not blame Caiti for what happened; that also does not mean I blame George for misreading her signals. I wish this had not happened to her, and I hope George NEVER does something like this again, but I also realize that this was MOST LIKELY based on PAST EVIDENCE an honest mistake.

Furthermore, as I also have stated, alcohol is a gray area I simply have no right to explore since I personally do not drink. If you want to argue about the morality of that PARTICULAR situation, please do so with someone else. That is why in my statement I excluded my opinion on the matter because I simply cannot give one. But for the miscommunication and incident I do have enough experience to discuss those.

Moreover, Caiit herself admitted she was already drunk before she was at the party. She chose to drink, which, YES, is illegal, but it was her choice to do so. All other party members were MOST LIKELY under the assumption she could drink since she already was.

Finally, please, PLEASE, stop calling this sexual assault. He touched her under her shirt above her waist. This was, at best, molestation, and even the evidence for that is slim. He touched her in a flirtatious manner, which made her uncomfortable. Since you mentioned legality, no court would view this as sexual assault or molestation.

That said, he SHOULD have asked for her EXPLICIT consent, and I do not support that. I ALSO think he can grow from this and become a better person without losing his friends and livelihood.

If anyone believes that a single mistake should dictate your entire life course, then I am sorry to say that you will have a reality check as you grow up and make those mistakes yourself.

Hi nonnie!

So, uh, the last bit of your ask seems kinda irrelavent to the discussion as I have never spoken about those here? So I won't be addressing that.

Also, I stated my reasons why she should have kept this private:

She will most likely not receive a proper apology if she used her situation against him.

In my opinion, this situation did not warrant public attention because, at best, it was molestation, and, from outside perspectives who saw this evidence without knowing anything about the fandom, most likely flirtatious advances gone wrong.

Her story is now no longer being used to support her but instead is being used to attack the Dream Team.

Caiti's story is now being scrutinize for "if it's real" "if it is really assault" "was it malicious" isntead of validating her emotions and feelings. At the end of the day, those questions don't matter: what matters is she felt uncomfortable, and although George most likely did not, he needs to apologize.

To your statement "George does not care about consent," I honestly don't know the answer to that. I am not George. I won't know his every thought or if this was malicious.

What I DO know is that if we treat this as unforgivable, we set a dangerous precedent for people who want to change. So, for that reason, I am choosing to BELIEVE he did not mean it maliciously, and until FURTHER EVIDENCE COMES FORWARD, I will see this as a single mistake and not a pattern of abuse (which was the case in Wilbur's situaton).

Also, again, this isn't sexual assault, please check yor facts as I am. Moreover, please re-read my statement because almost everything I said was in that initial statement.

Hi nonnie!

Saved this for last because it was very polite, and I appreciate it :)

I think we will disagree on this point, and that's okay. In your opinion, content creators should handle serious allegations publicly, which you consider these as such. In my opinion, I believe smaller issues should be handled privately without accusations since I don't view this as a serious allegation (although I still know Caiti is uncomfortable and deserves better).

In this current moment, based on what I know, what I have learned, and what I can interpret, I stated my opinion on the matter. I stand by the words I say here because they are, again, based on the knowledge I have. If, one day, I come to realize I was ignorant, like you said, I will change my position.

Thank you, nonnie :)

#WOW that was a doozy #like #oh my god #dicey #Rei answers

[blueywrites]

If you’re making edits to your TKYM series, you may want to edit the section where you insinuate Chrissy “needs” a padded/push up bra. If you had written that a plus sized character was wearing spanx and that it slimmed their stomach, but as a thin reader “you’re not wearing one because you don’t need it” I don’t think that would not read well. Not saying this bc I’m a Chrissy fan, I don’t really care for her and didn’t like her in your series(which I believe is the point). It’s just unnecessary

Hi, nonny! I’ve been away, and I was made aware of some anon asks on other blogs about me and TKYM, and I think maybe those were from you? I know you sent this to me after I reblogged this post and mentioned wanting to make changes to my story when I returned from my trip, so if you thought I was ignoring you, I promise I wasn't! I think you sent this ask on Thursday or Friday last week, and I was packing and driving lol.

Regardless, I wanted to take the opportunity here to address your concern. Please, if you are this anon and/or if you have any follow-up questions, come to my inbox and we can discuss! I would like to have an open conversation with you about this, because while I do understand why this line could have been taken as veiled criticism or judgmental of people with smaller breasts, I promise you that was absolutely not my intention. I also saw (maybe not you, but other people) saying that the line was in there just to dog on Chrissy because I don't like her, and that is equally untrue.

Screenshots of TKYM and explanation below the cut!

For reference, here's the part in Ch. 4 of TKYM that refers to the use of a padded bra, which Chrissy purchases with Reader when they're out shopping together:

First, I totally agree with you that in isolation, the line reasonably appears to be saying that Chrissy's small breasts are undesirable, and that could make readers with small breasts feel bad about themselves. However, I think the nuance changes when you view the line in the context of the larger work. Later in that same chapter, Chrissy's breasts in that padded bra are described with flattering language:

And, in the previous chapter, Reader also looks at Chrissy's smaller breasts and feels insecure because she sees them as preferable to her own:

The narration isn't observing that Chrissy's breasts are inferior because they are small; the mention that she chooses a padded bra and Reader doesn't need one is intended as an objective observation. Reader doesn't need the assistance of a padded bra for cleavage because her breasts are large and have natural cleavage, but she also admires Chrissy's small breasts and prefers them in that moment when she compares the two.

So, okay, maybe the intention wasn't to be critical. You also asked the question, why include those lines about the padded bra in the first place? The descriptions of their different choices in lingerie are there to show that each woman has chosen a set that fits her preferences - Chrissy wears something bright pink, padded, and strappy because that is her style. She wants her breasts to be lifted because she prefers maximum cleavage, just like she prefers keeping herself shaved bare beneath her revealing underwear. It's there as indirect characterization to show her personality, just like Reader's sheer, delicate lace shows her personality. She has chosen a bra that is unlined and boned with underwire to provide the right amount of support that she prefers for her breast type.

Then, here's the final question: is the word 'needed' really needed in this sentence? Well, after thinking on it a bit, a better way to express that a padded bra wouldn't work right on Reader could be to say, "That style of bra doesn't suit you; you have enough going on as it is." I think once the word "need" is taken out, the intention behind the statement becomes more clear. When I make my adjustments to TKYM for inclusivity, which I have yet to do, I will also make this adjustment to reword this part too.

I know that some took your ask on that other blog as an opportunity to attack my character, so this is not directed at you, but I would like to add this:

I am human and I make mistakes, but I am not condescending or rude. I don't think I'm better than anyone. I'm just a neurodivergent writer trying to balance my online life with the rest of my life, and sometimes that means I have to take more energy to respond to things. If I reblog something before I answer your ask, it really is not because I'm ignoring you - it's just because I am waiting for when I have enough brain power to reply, just like I do with text messages and emails and phone calls.

Thanks for reading! 💙

#blueyblabs #tkym

[eventiderpg]

Anonymous asked: i would like to apply but it wouldn't be the first time i've heard about this group being cliquey, and now this ask about not having enough space for new interactions to maintain activity. is this changed somehow and are you giving space for another characters and players be part of the plots and decisions and are there starters that are not closed or ship-based?

Hey Nonnie! Putting this under a read more because I feel like there's a lot here. First off, we would love to have you here but I understand your concerns and I want to address them.

In terms of us being cliquey, nobody has reached out to the admin team about this. Still, I understand it could be hard to approach a subject like that. If any of our muns feel this way, I plead for you to reach out. However, I can only speak on things I know. For a long time, eventiderpg was a small group. Most of our former muns are no longer here, we were only single digits then. But we did have a fun dynamic between us all. We were just down to clown and fuck around on the things Suzanne Collins gave us. Then we got a wave of new muns, most of which shared a history of a same roleplay. Our small group became bigger. In time, we got even more muns.

I think we have fun. It seems everyone is pretty active in our ooc channel on discord. Additionally, we regularly post questions for people to answer about their muses and people react to them. People send memes and tiktoks sometimes. My favorite thing is when people will see something written on the dash and send it to the discord with their reaction to it. But all in all, I think it's a vibe.

In terms of starters, we do have a starter blog with a decent bit of open ones on it! I would say that none of our opens are ship-based. Really our biggest restriction there has been in our most recent event. That's mainly due to some muses being in the arena or others being in places that only allow mentors or victors, etc. Those aren't the only starters we have though, and we're very past thread forward too! Which means whenever anyone joins, they're welcome to anything current as well as building their muse in the past however they see fit!

Our group is a fan of closed starters though, this is true. I certainly don't think it's a bad thing! We utilize plotting and starter calls a lot here. All you have to do is like them and soon you'll have someone in your DMs to plot or figure out a starter between your muses. I'm blown away with the things our muns come up with.

In terms of the plot, for our first two events we had approached different muns to involve them. For example, our Effie at the time found Porter Millicent Tripp before she ultimately passed. In our second event, our Madge was in on what was to happen as well as our Constantinus Snow was the one to end the interruption. We didn't approach anyone really for event 3, but that was mainly because it's the The Quarter Quell and a lot was already going on. Throughout it though we've collaborated with the muns who have muses in the arena!

We do ask in our mun intros now if they're open to being contacted about their muse(s) being used for plotting for the rpg as well. And we do try to put out a survey before every event to hear about our muns thoughts, because their voices are important to the admin team. We're slowly getting stuff finalized for our mockingjay era and approaching everyone for that. We will also put out more surveys for then as well.

Ultimately, it breaks my heart if people feel left out here. And if you do, please reach out to the admin team. We can try to resolve it as best as we can. But a lot of our muns have reached out and said how much they enjoy being here. I hope you still feel inclined to join. But either way, I hope you have a lovely day, Nonnie.

#eventideadmin

[starrierknight]

helloo

i’m back, yet again after disappearing for *checks calendar* a while

uhh nothing much is happening with me besides the horrible sore throat i’m plagued with rn,, bro yesterday it was horrible but now it’s a bit better,, hopefully non existent by tomorrow

hope ur doing well and oh !!

for the ask game,, how abt number 3 for satoru and, my beloved wife, suguru (in pink cuz i love that color)

-🩰

hi hi hiiii!!!!! aaaaaaa i've missed you, nonnie <3

YOU'RE BACK!!!!!!!!!!!!! WARRRRRRRRRRR ISSSSSSSS OVERRRR!!!

oh gosh i swear everyone i know is under the weather :/ your poor throat!!!! maybe i should kiss it better? ;3

3. Least favorite canon thing about this character?

satoru: hmmmm okay first of all: i love him flaws n all <3 but that doesn't mean i approve of all the shit he does LOL. i'd say my least fav canon thing would be how he can say some pretty crushing shit to his students :/ it's a lot more beneficial in the long run to mind how you phrase things around impressionable/young minds that you're tasked with educating. that's not to say that i don't understand why he says what he says, it's just to say that i don't have to like/agree with how he handles it lol

suguru: this is honestly pretty tough!!!! i suppose i would probably say the way he addressed maki in jjk0. again - i know why he did, but i still didn't like it. i think most ppl would automatically go to "he's insane" or "he wanted to kill every non-sorcerer" first, admittedly so did i.... but i'm more looking at this question along the lines of: "what's your least favourite canon thing about this character [that they have the power to change, but choose not to]?"

suguru cannot change by jjk0 that he's set on killing every non-sorcerer, -- but i do think it's very telling of how he treats/views ppl he percieves as inferior to himself. sort of like when someone is unnecessarily rude to a waiter.

satoru cannot change that there is a (literal) infinite gap between him others caused by his strength, but he can adapt his speech to be less harsh -- especially since he wanted to be surpassed in strength by his students. it's gotta be hard to here your teacher say "you're weak and will never amount to anything if you do xyz, but i want you to surpass me"... like that's a shit tonne of pressure that won't do any good to a kid

#i went off on a tangent hhhhhhh #꒰ =͟͟͞♡ ꒱ — love letters #꒰ ♡⃕ ꒱ — 🩰

[matan4il]

So fascinating that Carla will be back for the fantasy episode and Chris episode. Let me clear not speculating because I don't. But you also like to write so your perspective please? Carla is a curious character to me because she is like the Buddie Fairy Godmother .

She was witness to Buck in whoo mode with Abby

She is witness to Eddie with just Chris.

She sees Buck with them.

Weirdly she's the one to tell Eddie follow his heart. Honestly weird advice to someone in a healthy relationship unless.... You know he's not in it, and also know the behavior of the other part of the pairing. It's not like Carla sat there studying Anna and Eddie you know?? Also Buck thought "things were going great with Anna" supposedly months after that moment. Carla honey what did u see!!!

Then last year was back for Eddie's decision to leave the 118. She's his sounding board. Kind of like Maddie is Bucks.in conclusion I can only hope for something sappy and life changing.

Hi Nonnie! Thank you so much for this ask!

I do think Carla can be used as a Buddie Fairy Godmother. She has been portrayed as someone who is both observant of other people’s feelings (even before that “follow your heart” conversation, for example back during s1 with Abby) and unafraid to speak up, giving her own opinion and advice on a certain situation. She’s also someone who’s shown as honestly caring about her clients. Currently, that’s Eddie and Chris. But we also know she considers Buck a friend, so she’s perfectly set to connect the dots and help our resident oblivious morons figure out some stuff.

Will she? That’s an interesting question. I feel like something drastic has to happen to Buck and Eddie in order to get them to step outside of their comfort zone and see what they actually mean to each other. That can’t just be yet another chat with a friend. However, once that something drastic happens, Carla can be the perfect address for one of them (most likely Eddie) to consult and hear some eye opening truths from, which would help in dealing with whatever happened, and with drawing the right conclusions from it. And yes, I absolutely think that could be Carla, and she can help introduce something sappy and life changing for Buddie. Would it be in 6a? I’m not currently holding my breath, but that’s because I think that if something drastic like that would happen in 6a, then the Carla talk that would help Buddie would come later, so presumably in 6b. Do I think something drastic will happen in 6a? It might, but I always assumed that if Buddie were to go canon, it would be at the end of a season, not as a mid season finale. It just makes more sense to me that the show runners would wanna use that kind of buzz to keep the viewers returning for a following season. But this is just broad speculation. As always, take everything with a grain of salt! ;)

Thank you again, hope you have a great day, and here’s my ask tag! xoxox

#buddie #911meta #buddie meta #911 meta #9-1-1 #evan buckley #eddie diaz #edmundo diaz #evan buck buckley #911 spoilers #911 speculation #carla price #ask #anon ask #911onabc #911 on abc #911abc #911 abc

[awesomefringey]

Hey Sabine, I'm a larrie but after louis' dm I feel really unsafe in his fandom or being his fan. Idk why he is so pressed about a ship in the fandom. And so desperate to tell people that kid is his when he knows how it was pushed in the media. He just looks bad with this. How does he expect us to believe thats his kid? I don't understand how are all the larries still larries? Can you tell how you changed or are you just ignoring that that happend? Anyway I want to be in the fandom as a harrie but I don't want to follow solo henries

Hi nonnie, I'm so sorry you feel this way. Everyone has to find their own individual strategy to handle BBG for sure. And if you take Louis' behaviour as the final straw to leave the fandom or stop supporting Louis altogether, then this is what you have to do. Don't feel bad about it. Fandom should be fun, and overall something that's adding value to your life.

I hear you asking me to describe how I handle it but I'm not sure if it would help you. I don't feel unsafe and strangely enough, I don't even feel addressed by the whole thing. I won't suddenly un-see BBG, this is for a totally different target group. (TikTok Larries in this case.) I can understand that plenty who haven't looked into BBG, or are newer fans or younger fans, will be impressed enough to not question his fatherhood in the future.

I've got a lot of emotions towards the whole thing myself. And while I'm trying to make sense of it, I also know I often only understand these things in hindsight. But for now, I was mainly very angry that something that should've been so pure and sweet (an artist meeting their youngest fan) was used for something entirely different. Not saying that it coincided, but it was around the time when the ink was barely dry under the BMG contract and with LTWT on the horizon, it feels like a preemptive crowd control measurement. (Also knowing now for certain, BMG has signed Louis, the queer het indie artist.). That's why I also believe his team expected Bentley's mum to share her experience (and the dms) much more openly right after, since she's not one to keep those things to herself. I'm glad she didn't because that paired with the Christmas crap, I don't know how it would've impacted the vibes for the live audience only a couple of months later.

Today, I'm glad that for this tour we proved Louis' fanbase is able to work together, we've established beautiful (rainbow) lights projects, some even inspired Harry's shows. I know, I didn't expect it at all either. I was so worried for those who brought a tiny rainbow flag in the beginning of the US leg of LTWT. It was Harry's birthday and fans singing a birthday song in the queue were harassed to stop and that was only the first show... I'm so sure Louis had no idea of what to expect either, so he must've been blown away by the outpouring of support and seeing how much he means to so many (Larries or not). Louis did point at at all those rainbow flags, those Larry signs, those TPWK merch wearing fans (looking at you @lululawrence) and sang about Larry on stage every night. He LOVED interacting with Larries, he did encourage all of us. And I'm not even getting into his coded fashion because that was unhinged and I love him for it. And I love Helen Seamons. She's a genius!

I hope now - after over 78 shows - Louis and his fans are less intimidated by one another. So it's even more unfortunate that we're ending this tour on a note that isn't celebrating us as a united fandom (even if it's been only for his shows), being proud of Louis, the band, the crew for everything they and us have accomplished. Instead it led us back to before tour angst, feeling disconnecting from one another, scared and confused, with questionable faith in the future.

A stubborn part of me wants to forget about a stupid dm that was written before tour because so much has changed since then. Louis and us have grown together over the last months like we never expected, we've built so much trust, he would even jump into the barricade every night, and I really don't want to ever forget that. It means so much more to me than Louis enforcing LT(TM) to a fan on TikTok last year. I'm sure I'm not making enough sense for many, but this is where my heart is at and that's why I'm not only very okay but very confident where I stand in the fandom.

#ask #bentleys mum #louis' image #bbg #louis is a daddy but not a dad

[jerzwriter]

I am sorry to bother you on your personal blog, but CFWC does not allow anon asks.

Is there a reason that you don't share all Choices creators work on your blog? I notice some of my favorite creators aren't featured. I am curious to know why.

Hello Nonny,

No worries about reaching out here. I'm happy to answer.

CFWC shares Choices related fics and some other creations from all creators without bias. To ensure their work is featured, Creators must tag CFWC. Please see this post for more information. Perhaps the creators you're speaking of aren't aware of us. Please feel free to pass our information along to them.

We make an effort to check main tags for posts when we can, but we cannot do that on a consistent basis due to time restraints.

Also, some creators do not wish to have their works shared by CFWC for various reasons. While it is our goal to support all fandom creators, we don't believe it would be right to force anyone to participate.

We have addressed this issue before, and you can find more in our Frequently Asked Questions post.

I hope this answers your question, but if not, feel free to contact me, and I'll be happy to speak with you further.

#choices fic writers creations #cfwc rules #playchoices #asks answered

[dissociationswagcompetition]

How the fuck do you figure out if you're plural or if you're just mentally unstable in a different way?

*Raises metaphorical glass* Ain't that the question of the century

Sadly nonnie, and it sucks to hear, but the best one to answer that is yourself. You're gonna know your own mind better than anyone, and sadly there isn't a "checklist" of quantifiable things that determine if you're plural or not.

That being said, if you have access to a therapist or other trusted mental health professional, I highly recommend going to them. You're the expert on your mind, but they're the experts on how to best treat whatever's going on. Regardless of what does or does not get diagnosed, a professional could help manage your symptoms in a way that best benefits you!

@plural-swag-competition shared a resource in the past called More Than One, it goes into a surface level understanding of plurality and lists multiple sources for further reading if you'd like, and it may help you figure out yourself (or selves!)

If it helps, I can also go into a few ways that we realized we're likely plural, so it it helps to hear from someone very new to this, I'll put that under the cut because it's long and personal

Fair warning, this obviously gets a bit personal. I'll be giving brief mentions of trauma and abuse, though will go into no detail. Also disclaimer: while we're still figuring things out, it appears that our plurality likely manifested from a place of trauma, so we may not be a good frame of reference to anyone trying to figure themselves out if their plurality manifested in non-traumatic ways.

Hi, I'm Damien, aka Mod Jetstorm. Host was originally making this post but I'm starting this section from scratch, nice to meet you all!

So, we're in the "we've known but have been in denial for many years" boat. We're not sure where we originated, to be honest. We've had dissociative experiences for as long as we can remember, though we're not sure when plurality came into play.

We were teenagers when we realized that there may have been more than one of us in here. Again, don't know when/where we originated, but teenagehood is when we realized ourselves. We were unfortunately trapped in a bad emotionally abusive dynamic with an adult who had power over us. As such, at that time in our life our dissociation worsened significantly, as we needed to continuously separate ourselves from our reality in order to prevent further abuse. That's where myself and Hyde (Mod Rodimus) manifested strongest. We started playing around with giving ourselves names, as we all kinda realized that... yeah, we were able to talk to each other and seemed to be different people. Our names kinda changed over the years as we explored our identities, but we're happy with Damien and Hyde right now.

As years went on, we found more of us in here, which is why when we realized our plurality, we were so quick to have six of us listed out. All but one of us have been around and named for literal years, we just never called ourselves "plural" till now. We keep pretty good communication, though we sometimes fight or will act in ways that sabotage others' intentions, sadly.

We thought that we were just some kind of elaborate coping mechanism, and called ourselves "personified states of dissociation". That never felt quite right, but due to wanting to avoid the stigma of it possibly being anything else, we avoided addressing it as anything else.

A large reason we kept ourselves so hidden was that we felt that we weren't "system enough" to warrant "actually" being a system (aka we thought we were faking, or at least being overdramatic), and the alternative of being "personified states of dissociation" also hurt, as those who suffer from dissociation know that it's often distressing. While that's very true for us, allowing another to front has often been a neutral experience, and we hated being treated like we were "bad" for merely existing or that we were "obstacles" for getting to Host.

Recently, Hyde was having a bad day, and this bracket made us a lot more introspective of ourselves lately, so he wrote an entire 3-page journal entry. He named all of us, explained why we are the way we are, and ranted how he hated being treated as a "bad part of the host", rather than just as his own person. We read this over later and went "... Our therapist should probably see this." and sent it to her. We've since then been discussing what plurality means for us. We were mostly only "permitted" to exist, by ourselves and others, in terribly negative contexts such as being abused or emotionally distressed. The idea of being "allowed" to exist in neutral and positive contexts, while scary in concept, exhilarated us. Our therapist explained that, if we wanted to, we could continue to be this way- We already exist in negative contexts, so possibly allowing ourselves to exist in positive contexts may help us overall and increase positive communication between us and others. As you can see, we're trying to do just that... by taking baby steps and mostly keeping any talks of ourselves being our own people to this blog only haha.

I think a big thing is that: When dissociated, one will often feel like someone else. But out of that dissociation, a singlet will go "Oh that was just me, I was just dissociated", while someone plural may go "No that was still someone else". Obviously not EVERY singlet nor system will always experience it that way, but it may help. I do not see myself as our Host, nor as Hyde, nor anyone else other than myself.

We even have slightly different tastes in music, fashion, etc. We're still figuring ourselves out as we've suppressed this desire to be our own people(aka HAVE different interests than the Host) for so long, but that may also be something to consider. Though haha yeah it's hard to tell the difference between "Am I just in a mood for something else today" versus "Is this someone else's interests"

Oh, another thing- Host can semi-often speak to Hyde in their dreams. We used to assume this was some strange lucid dreaming thing, but we have spoken to each other in the dreamscape before. It's usually just Host and Hyde, though I recall one time were I was able to speak to Hyde in the dreamscape as well... I forget if Host was in that one or not. But I've heard that other systems sometimes speak to each other in dreams? Obviously again not every system but yeah another thing that made us realize "Oh wait this is a plurality thing isnt it"

One thing we'll also do is write each other notes from time to time. Which is funny, because we don't have any time loss between switches to our knowledge, so we don't need to leave notes. But one thing we may do is- if someone else is fronting, one of us may take the baton for long enough to leave a compulsory note, we have a few examples I'll leave below to get a chuckle

One of us, Roy (Mod Shockwave), left this after changing our phone backgrounds in the middle of the night

Hyde (Mod Rodimus, surprise surprise) very suddenly made us write this when we were picking mod names

And lastly, something I wrote to Host in our original draft of this post before taking over.

Not every system will do this of course, but this kind of helped us realize that we're probably not just one person.

Hope this can help maybe? Everyone's experiences are different but this is what helped us realize!

#misc #resources #personal #asks #nonnies #long post #mod jetfire #mod jetstorm #we'll give fire the tag for the first half of the post haha #but dont even get us STARTED on fictives because this is hard enough to figure out WITHOUT the possibility of having fictives in here too/j

[nalyra-dreaming]

I'm not sure what the intention is between the double asks but I also don't want you to be put off with the double questions or feel like your answers are insufficient. It would sadden me greatly if you stopped your asks! Virginia is great and so are you. I actually love going between both pages, as well as a couple other bloggers for IwTV, and feel like you two are often on the same page on topics even if they aren't the exact same question. Still think you both need to collaborate on a podcast....you both are a blast. Keep up the good work on your blog and on AO3. Your fics are also 🤌!

Thank you nonny, and also for the nod to the podcast *laughs* AND I'm glad that you enjoy my fics!! *hugs*

No, I'm not gonna stop asks, no worries, I do love them?! :) But I'm also glad in a way I addressed this, because Virginia seems to feel similar at times, and that's also always good to know, you know?^^ As much as the internet connects us, but ... we're all so far from each other, and ... well. Always room for doubt it seems.:))

On that note: In the Hannibal fandom we had show conventions in the end, and... actually meeting each other from all over the world is SUCH a blast. (Exhausting and a blast^^) Fingers crossed that we get those for this show, too :)))

#Anonymous #asks #personal #thank you nonny!!!! #ask nalyra

[hopeswriting]

Hi. I really like how sweet and respectful you are whenever you receive asks. I hope you had a good day wherever you are.

My question largely has to do with the Tsuna. I genuinely believe that anyone placed in his shoes and subjected to the same trials and tribulations would eventually change. So, it's fairly amazing to watch how Tsuna developed, but his fundamental core remained the same.

I know the ending is open-ended but... what if he rebelled and not like weakly statements about how wrong the mafia is but actually like make his threat greatly known. Like he'd actually went after reborn his own tutor and the mafia in general. Holy SHIT.... that's kind of scary. How would that change with his dynamic with his own guardians.

You know if I was Tsuna I'd always be wary on where I stand with the mafia as a whole because I'd always wonder on the back of my head if I don't do what they command would they kill me? Who's to say they don't have another spare heir around.

🥺🥺🥰 hi nonny! i’m glad you think so because i’m always super happy whenever you guys interact with me, so i’d hate to ever make you feel like you aren’t welcome to or you’re bothering me when you do.

i did have a good day, thank you! i hope you’re having/had a good day too, and thank you for the ask and your kind words! 💕

yeah exactly!! i really love that resilience of his and that it was essentially his character arc, staying firm in his beliefs and principles and morality despite everything he was made to go through.

haha, what if indeed? this is typically the type of things we were left wondering about because that wasn’t ever where the manga was heading towards, but i love thinking about it too! i just want to address the last thing you said first, because i think tsuna knowing he is, in fact, the last legitimate and eligible heir, is the only thing that’d stop things to turn too ugly once he really starts fighting back against being forced to become vongola decimo.

and i feel like he’d know he’s the last heir because otherwise, what is stopping them from just getting rid of him and try their luck with the next heir on the list? because yes, as much as tsuna never really acts on his desire to not become vongola decimo, he’s still constantly very loud about it, and always tries his damn best to not let them change him into “the perfect mafia boss” and drag him further into the mafia, and would they really put up with all of it when they could just kill him and move on with the next heir? they are mafiosi after all. and yes they can say all they want they chose him partly because he doesn’t want to have anything to do with any of it, but you know.

so as much as tsuna would, of course, ask himself what would happen to him and his friends once he starts rebelling, for me he’d still have an advantage and some silver lining of protection to some extent in knowing he’s the last heir.

would he go after reborn tho? i mean if we’re realistic about this he’d have to, yeah, but it’d tear him apart and it’d be super interesting to see actually zerfdtdfd!! like, he likes reborn. loves him even, and was all but too ready and willing to put his life on the line for him. and actually that insidiousness from vongola is the most fucked up thing about all of this imo, because they don’t only bring bad things in tsuna’s life, and that was entirely on purpose.

they give him friends, people to care about and protect, and people who love him back just as much as he loves them. they make him care about life again and make him look forwards to it again, and give him things worth getting his hands bloody for, and though ultimately tsuna would see he shouldn’t be forced to get his hands that much bloody for them, does already see that in canon, he’d still be torn and feel guilty about rejecting all the bad things while still fiercely holding onto the good things because that’s just how he is.

and talking about his guardians, i know they’re sometimes made to be happy and willing enough to become mafia, and to ignore tsuna not wanting to become mafia because they want to, but for me that’s just not the truth and how it actually is. so as much as i think not all of them would necessarily understand why tsuna would be so resolute in earning his freedom from vongola (gokudera and lambo come to mind), i think their dynamics wouldn’t change at all and they’d stand right by tsuna helping him fight for the things he wants. and if nothing else, they would undoubtedly profit from not becoming mafia either (kyoko and takeshi’s father and haru’s parents staying safe come to mind).

would tsuna thoroughly try to cut all of his ties to the mafia tho? because he’d want to keep his guardians by his side, that much is a given, but he made himself mafia friends too, didn’t he? what about dino, dino who’s vongola and wouldn’t have any other choice but to go after him if he was ordered to? what about enma and his family? what about his dad? and what about reborn once again, where would he stand in all of this? on whose side would he stand once shit hits the fan?

all that to say, no matter what things would really go ugly, and as much as i believe tsuna would have a chance to win the fight for his freedom, he wouldn’t win it unscathed by no means. it would come with heavy sacrifices, would have to when we’re talking about vongola here, and all its power and resources and influence.

so i agree too that to make it happen tsuna would have no choice but to go after the whole mafia in general indeed, and wouldn’t have the luxury to do anything less but burn vongola down to the ground tbh. and talking about him having mafia friends, maybe he’d even do that from the inside, by staging a rebellion/leading a coup against vongola. and i mean, he’s been chosen as the heir to begin with because vongola became too corrupt and whatnot anyway, right? so maybe they’d even thank him while he’s setting everything up on fire lol!

#katekyo hitman reborn #khr #khr meta #sawada tsunayoshi #khr asks #Anonymous

[incarnateirony]

Ah, good morning world. So now that fandom has had a bit of a wake-up about 2p0 and his violent sources and their real motivations,

While I say everything on his blog is as dumb and wrong as it gets, finally in all of this, he said one true thing people should listen to: People can lie about M&Gs. Easily. Especially people with biases, such as the regulars he uses for sources. All the time.

All Pat ever HAS is M&Gs. It's his whole schtick. Him unironically admitting they can be lied about and manipulated is the only true thing he has ever said, because it's all he and they do.

A huge section of Profound Bond fell for this child fucker's nonsense. They've let him rot dialogue, try to control people using their basic eyeballs on The Winchesters, stomped down people observing what the show is doing to try to save his throne, and it's not gonna work.

I can tell you right now. I didn't lie about the M&G and on site, 2p0's sources didn't either, because they were raging about it. They snarked sarcastically back about questions. They asked to try to identify who the girl was that knew the song, or asked the question, and then the threats started, then they're going "how do people know what was said?" because your drunk asses (already a CE violation) were ranting in the lobby about cutting people.

It's time to pay real, real close attention to 2p0. His actual patterns. His actual agendas. Not just what he says or claims, but what he does and who he engages with for what purpose.

That nonnie "well he can be out there but I prefer your (pat) level-headed-" fuck your comfortable civility culture. The truth is the truth, what about that are you jackasses not getting? No rebel ever accomplished anything by making sure to keep their voice down and saying yes maam yes sir, I'll eat and consider your bullshit.

It's bullshit. You guys know it's bullshit. It was convenient to attach to, to continue to nurse rather than address your own trauma like this show is designed to even walk you through. And people latched on. And now you're realizing it's bullshit and going WELL HE'S MEAN.

No, I'm fuckin mad. Because this fandom is liable for dragging queer creatives, representation movements and more all in its own petty personal wants, and they don't fucking like hearing that. But we're in new Orleans. Get your shit together and learn how we do, here.

half the sunday crowd is a hair's breadth from getting blackballed as a start. I take after my big bro, alright. the one you deny exists, because you think reality can work like that.

2p0 has been lying and controlling PB's narrative for years manipulating M&Gs, occasionally scrambling to look like he has actual sources by pulling ancient scripts. He denied the market testing, berens intent, the confession, the roadhouse, the omissions, and the winchesters pilot script itself along with the direction the show itself is shaped into. He denied it all. bc of his super itk M&Gs he reads badly.

Look past finding crumbs of old scripts he buys. Look how his sources failed him repeatedly on The Winchesters, even on payroll, even if he waves her around a LOT. Remember my warnings about low grade coffee runners not knowing their place like Manchin and the market testing. See the entire little clout game they're playing.

It's a bubble for wincels and bronlies and multishippers to try to pretend this is gonna be another decade they can pretend shit is relative in rather than like, a season. It's talking and being loud and turning you against your content and faves. That's why it's this cobbling of wincels and samstielers and salty megstielers all sticking on an I Ship Destiel pin to fuck around in PB. Like, Quickreaver? Are you guys fucking insane?

You wanna know why servers like mine exist to house PB refugees? It's this insufferable rot. Hundreds of people just wanting the fuck away from the fake noise and hysteria these people intentionally inspire that clutters up and makes your server just outright unenjoyable. The amount of people that outright blame 2p0 for chasing them out because he won't let them have eyes and watch the show is astounding.

Pay. Attention. All he's ever had is M&Gs. Stop trusting this incestuous son of a bitch with whispers from a god awful, physical harm threatening, j2 tinhatted friend ring and y'all been letting him and these people yank your chain for years because they're salty it isn't their ship, literally. Look at 2p0's post that like. Fic Must Be Appropriately Only Subtextual, As I Enjoy Platonic Friendships, But I Ship Destiel. Let Me Dogwhistle By Manipulating Queerplat Terms.

All that asshole ever does. Pay. attention. The one time he has ever told the truth is that people can lie during M&Gs, and that's his entire grifting fandom career.

His pet spnscripthunt project others sold out to work him with has one script left, so fire away, fire away dude. From here anyone is as fair game as the next there too, and well, your wiki script source seems to have an 8 month concept delay and frankly, the fandom isn't gonna need the scripts for the near future so whatever dude.

Fandom's realizing your M&Gs are years of nonsense, your script queue old is empty and new is just you playing games with shit they coulda enjoyed back in February, lmfao fuck off. Anyway people can enjoy my film hunt tags framing out the episodes or flights in for the guys if they want.

#there's a message for all of you in the war room

[lutawolf]

oh! hi Luta~ 4am thoughts have reminded of a question i've had, that i have tried to find the answer for on the internet, but failed. so i am a big brat lover, all my fav characters are bratty or have sharp tongues or more mischievous. i am also really into kpop, and all my favourite group members are either the designated brat or super mischievous. and its like, that's what I want, in my heart of hearts, but i feel like i can't. i have a really really big deep fear of saying the wrong things and making people hate me more than I already hate myself (which i've gotten to a point where i can maybe say i don't hate myself on someday, so improvement!) but even with close friends, I hold back and never get playful or poke fun. even with your blog, ngl, I read your rule about always saying at least "Hi Luta" and I immediately want to do the opposite like a dumbass jfuisbxjanzjjre. so ... are like, broken brats a thing? bc that's what i feel like i guess. i also feel like a fake human most of the time, biggest of imposters. i exist in a state on constant fear, and like, i don't fight or flight, i freeze like a deer in the headlights. and that freezing and fear is the thing that's kept me alive probably, and i think i want out of it. but what if i am just a fake wannabe brat?? ???? is that possible??? but i guess mostly i wanna know if broken brats are a thing and can they be fixed. sorry for the wall of text, my brain isn't letting me break it up bc i need a physical representation that somewhat matches my thoughts in my head. tysm for reading this far if you did. sorry for being weird on main.

Hey nonnie,

We need to address a few things you said. That honestly have me concerned.

A) It's normal to feel some struggles concerning how we view ourselves. On loving ourselves but it should be surface level not any further.

B) Dove, you are more than surface level. The kink community is not where you fix this. It's incredibly unfair to not only yourself but a Dom who would try.

C) You have a problem with authority and it has nothing to do with being a brat. There isn't a brat who respects me that has an issue addressing me. Even a a good Dominant isn't going to have an issue because it's a sign of respect.

The dangers of you entering the kink community at this point. You would push a Dom to either using their's or your safe word. If you didn't freeze and not use your safe word at all. That is never the goal of a true Dom or submissive. We aren't here to hurt each other or break people but instead help find stability. A submissive, even a brat wants to serve and please. It's not about pushing authority until someone snaps. Even if one wants to be punished it isn't done like that. Even if you aren't concerned about yourself, think of the trauma you could cause a Dom.

What I'm hearing from you is you want to fight authority. Even if you respect it. You are seeking punishment. This usually means that authority figures have repeatedly failed you all while keeping control. So you are now spiraling because you neither want control but can't trust to give it up.

The “freeze” response happens when our brain decides we cannot take on the threat nor are we able to escape. Those with a freeze response have high anxiety. Freezing releases endorphins which serve to calm the body and are also pain relievers. Why would you need pain relief? Because freezing allows one to block out scary experiences that are too difficult to process.

Are you broken? No, but maybe a little cracked and in need of tlc. I once was actually broken but now I'm a survivor. Maybe I have to carry around peppermint to sniff and say the mantra "This Too Shall Pass" but I love and am loved. I also love myself.. now. I don't know what you have been through. I won't even try to guess based off the little I know. What I do know, is for you to have written this and started thinking about the future, that you're stronger than you think. You just need some tlc 🕊 Then we can work on the kink community part.

I wish you the best. Let know if there is anything I can do to help. 💜💜💜