#nurturing home

[anotherpapercut]

just had an absolutely sickening conversation with a 20 year old I work with wherein I had to impress upon her that her and her friends need to be extremely cautious going to the gay clubs right now with increasing attacks happening. make sure any very young, very newly adult queer people in your life know that we're a family and community and part of that is being willing to fight for your siblings lives if they're under attack. even if it's a person you despise, you stick up for your family and they will stick up for you. we are all we have. the cops refuse to help, and so do most people outside the community. we cannot survive without each other

#go in groups! leave before closing! bring something that can be thrown at someone! park close! #heart breaking #i dont wanna talk to the 18 year olds coming for the first time excited to have fun about how they have to be on guard at all times #i want kids who are just blossoming into the adults theyre going to be to have a safe place to feel loved and nurtured #im only 23 for christs sake #why am I having to talk to a 20 year old like im their 60 year old grandparent #i just want to feel safe with my community in what is essentially the family home

[biggest-gaudiest-patronuses]

utter bullshit that we stop growing at a certain age.

humans should grow (both taller and wider) at a continuous rate throughout our lifespans. i want to be 80 years old with the proportions of an average human being except i am the height of a multistory building. that would be so fun. that would require so much societal rearrangement. this isn't a want it's a need

#snyesyd #you want worldbuilding? here's your worldbuilding *shoves it across the table* #take it! confiscate it from me! i cannot be trusted to provide a nurturing home environment. #there are legends that certain tall people who manage to reach the age of 100 have in fact surpassed the height of the statue of liberty #it hasn't been proven solely bc people that Old and Tall have no interest whatsoever in standing up just to prove/document a point #they are 100+ years old and 150+ feet tall and they are Tired and they Do Not Give A Shit #they will stand up on their great-great-grandkid's birthday so the kid can sit on their shoulder & survey the majesty of nature & etc #anything more than that? they're not interested they're staying in bed

[gideonisms]

eowyn should have been a lesbian. Eowyn/faramir is like, fine, but it misses the point of eowyn for all baby dyke eowyn stans which is not that she longs for glory in battle and doesn't realize war is ugly and brutal, but that she's caught between two awful options and she doesn't want to be given one based on her gender. She's not in love with aragorn, she envies him because she finds the tasks he has in life more preferable and she hero worships him. Is this the point Tolkien was trying to make? Well, no,

#look it is LESS objectionable than other similar fantasy storylines because tolkien is making a point about the brutality of war #but i do think he correctly observes a particular impulse in some women without fully understanding the underlying tensions #he's like. for reasons unknown some women would prefer to face horrible dangerous circumstances than stay at home & tend the family castle #don't you see the castle is the important thing! #the castle is more important yes that's not the POINT #anyway. it will not be until many years later that some of those baby dykes will be able to articulate the vague feeling of betrayal #guy jobs are horrible and exploitative too on this we agree. but you see some of us will die if we have to figure out how to be nurturing

[frostbite-the-bat]

society if literally 80% of rw fandom and especially rw analysis youtubers (who are great, EXCEPT) stopped calling gourmand heckin' chonker chubby diabetic ginormous whatever and paid more mind to their whole character and not just the fact that they're fat

#watching a REALLY GOOD VIDEO #like its structured so well and already made me a bit emotional in the way it's retelling the story #and it's very entertaining and doesn't dumb down things much #ofc skipping directly reading pearl dialogue or iterator chat logs since that takes a lot of time #they appear on screen tho #id link it but i dont want any harassment + spoilers for molly #but oh my god they just got to gorumand and they instantly just. do this. #like yes gourmand is fat. they are heavy and they smartly utilize this for combat. they're definitely not just fat though there's muscle #underneath all that. they're strong. #and yes their quest is to eat things - but their whole deal is to enjoy the simpler things in life. in this dark tragic world #there is someone who is kind and nurturing and sees the beauty in all of this #and comes back home telling grand tales of their adventures #a great leader #all that is gourmand #but all ppl can talk about is OWO UWU THE CHONKER #oh my god you can acknowledge they're fat ass a descriptor without being so fucking weird about it #imagine if people did this for skinny characters all the time #ohh the twiggy! ohh silly skinny !! #look how dumb you sound

[livwritesstuff]

2007, established relationship, girl-dads!steddie and their 5yo daughter Moe, my favorite part of this by a goddamn landslide

“Papa,” Moe exclaims, running up to Steve with Ed close behind her, “I tried on one of Daddy’s rings.”

Moe holds up a closed fist with just the middle finger unfolded. One of Ed’s rings — the tarnished silver one with a faded blue pearl he always wears on his pinky — is hanging loosely from her tiny finger.

Steve looks up at his husband, eyebrows raised.

“No—” Ed chokes out a laugh and crouches down by Moe’s side, “What’d I tell you to say?”

Ed whispers something in her ear, and then Moe looks back up at Steve, a massive grin on her face as she continues to hold up her middle finger.

“This is for you, Papa.”

“Uh-huh,” Steve says, unamused.

“Daddy said it’s your favorite ring.”

“I bet he did,” he replies, trying his best to not laugh, “How ‘bout you give it back to Daddy so it doesn’t get lost — and tell him to take better care of his stuff. I know which ring is his favorite and if he keeps this up, he’ll end up losing that one too.”

Ed throws his head back and laughs.

“Oh, you’ve got jokes, Stevie, that’s very funny. But, alas, you know I don’t believe in gay divorce, so you’re gonna have to try way harder than that to get rid of me.”

“What’s gay divorce?” Moe asks, looking curiously between her dads.

“Nothin’ you need to worry your big brain about, sweet pea,” Steve tells her, brushing her bangs out of her face.

#ed is determined to create a loving and nurturing home environment for their daughters while also raising them to be complete menaces #its about the balance #for reference this is in response to steve telling moe that it's ed's turn to take her to the bathroom #moe does not know she's flipping her dad off #steddie #liv’s steddie dads verse #steddie dads #steve harrington #eddie munson #stranger things

[wrenwinchester]

When Lucifer killed Cas, and Mary sacrificed herself for Sam and Dean, both of them were heartbroken.

Sam reacted how Cas would have wanted him to (he wanted Jack to get a chance to save the world), Dean reacted how Dean always reacts, emotionally and defensively.

#of course Dean reacted emotionally #of course Dean shut down and rebuilt any walls that had been torn down #of course Dean wanted to neutralize a potential threat. he can’t grieve if he’s worried about having to save the world. again. #and of course Sam chose to nurture Jack #to give him a home #Sam knew what it was like to be an outcast because of something out of your control #Sam knows what it’s like to be a freak #to feel unloved despite the fact that your mother literally died for you #and of course Sam wanted to respect Cas’s wishes he knows what it’s like to have your choices be disregarded #supernatural #dean winchester #sam winchester #spn #the winchesters #jack kline #jack winchester #castiel #castiel winchester #sastiel #destiel #the winchester brothers

[androdconstruction]

The glory of gardening: hands in the dirt, head in the sun, heart with nature. To nurture a garden is to feed not just the body, but the soul.

~ Alfred Austin

#glory #garden #gardening #dirt #sun #nature #nurture #feed #home and garden #Gardening Life #Nature Lovers #Green Thumb #Gardening Tips #Garden Inspiration #Garden Design #Garden Goals #Gardening Community #Outdoor Living #Garden Life #Botanical Beauty #Gardening Quotes #Garden Therapy #Nurturing Nature #Garden Love #inspiration #inspiring quotes #quotes

[clownjacket]

MARK BITION RESOLUTION!!!!!

#mentopolis spoilers #mentopolis #mark bition #elias hodge #don avaricci #I know this probably isn’t canon but Mark running a secondary school that Avaricce is funding to help foster wayward interests into #real skills and passions that can be creatively persued or open job opportunities for us #while all the interests still have a stable supportive nurturing home life in The Fix and Pasha #is really cool #Also Elias retakes up bass and developed it from an interest into a skill!! #Ambition to keep practicing and find real world applications for your passions can turn an interest into a skill!!!! #Also he still stays in contact with The Fix #But this time they’re BOTH helping the kids grow up for adult life in the big city! #And of course Avaricce ‘s the Benifactor because he has to stick his duck in somewhere #Guilta/Madame Loathing and Mark Bition we’re supposed to trade places #I actually love this for him

[dirtytransmasc]

I love the tsu'tey lives au and the Spellman siblings! 💙🩵

I can't help but wonder how'd Tsu'tey react to them and their situation, especially if he didn't realize/notice the whole thing (the siblings adopting/raising Spider & living at Hell's Gate) till later on when the twin where like 13/14.

((I know he'd probably notice earlier bit we can pretend that he was busy with adjusting to life with his injuries/helping Jake be olo'eyktan))

he knew of the infamous 'spellman siblings' around the village, a group of 3 - previously four - children who were incredibly intelligent, prone to violence, and extremely protective of spider. he also knew they were raised by norm spellman, the 'nerd' as jake called him.

spider talked of them frequently, he was practically obsessed with the kids, many would argue they were family. tsu'tey, as much as he loved the kid, was happy to have another set of hands helping him out when he was stretched thin. he had a lot on his plate, jake needing guidance as the new olo'ekytan, his own disabilities to learn to work around, a rambunctious toddler/child (why did they grow so fast? he looked away for five seconds and the little five year old clinging to his leg was suddenly almost 10 and very much not a toddler anymore. it broke his heart a little more then he'd like to admit). he had met the kids a few times, though they seemed weary of the village people, himself included; he knew some had harsh feelings on them taking spider in, he faced it himself, and had attempted to squash it with little success. but even when he tried reaching out to the little ones, they shied away from him as well; knowing they lost so much so young, has been raised by an avatar in a lab, and had formed a bit of a secluded bond to spider, made him assume that they were just shy kids who clung to familiar family.

he had just assumed that spider was in their care while out in the world, and went home with them to his adoptive family, or at very least the 'nerd.' he was wrong. sure he saw the signs of neglect in the little human, it was easy when he was the odd one out, when the reason for his neglect was obvious (even if it was wrong, tsu'tey knew, and had excepted why it happened). it was a lot harder to spot it in kids that already had their own issues before the neglect began; the loss of their elder sister, amongst many other children they were close with, shot in front of them. the death of their parents, their people, their home. it spelled trouble for their young minds, so tsu'tey stupidly assumed that had been the reason the whole time, not the fact they were being raised by people on screens and raising an orphan on their own.

he realized it slowly, over the span of a few months, something was off, more off than he could stomach. it was little things; the older two were defensive against any adults, including the man that should be their father, being near spider. this extended to him, and it took spider begging and promising that tsu'tey was ok, "he's not like them" he said. then he realized how they never spoke of parents, not their own, not norm, not the scientists, or the adoptive family of spiders. they didn't have parents, they had each other, and that was it. then as they began spending more and more time at Hellsgate, their stuff, their voices, there presence began to dwindle from the village, until one day they were gone. as spider trained under tsu'tey the kids became more and more used to his presence, and clung to him more and more each day. something was wrong, so wrong, and he couldn't put his finger on it.

then he talked to norm, who claimed they had 'aged out' of his care, said they stopped seeing him as a dad, so he let them go on with their own lives. he assumed they were fine, and not wanting to overstep as the 'second' parent.

he talked to the siblings, hoping, praying, that somehow, someway, what they were going to say would fix this, make this normal. it didn't. when they took on spider, and norm didn't take him in as his own, didn't try, even when he knows the poor thing needed it. when norm rejected spider, the twins rejected him, and set out to be parents to their two younger siblings.

after that, he slowly built a relationship with the kids, inviting them to stay with him and spider (he stayed with him once a week), sleeping their hammock, eat meals with them, join them for lessons. eventually he works them back into the village, not completely, norm may not be there home, but the lab was, and spider couldn't stay out in the village every night, it was too dangerous. but he did make them feel like they had a place, a home, someone to love them and take care of them and their fragile baby brother.

he has a bone to pick with the people of hellsgate by the end of his little discovery and attempts to mend the damage of said discovery, but, at the end of the day he had 4 kids instead of one, a little family to call his own, and he got introduced to digital media, which movie nights are a win in his mind. cause listen, he is disabled, stressed out with jake and all the other adults being stupid, and 4, wildly smart and energetic kids. having a time where he can lay out and relax in a pillow fort, with his kids in his arms, watching some shitty (amazing, cause the siblings have amazing taste) human movies, that sounds pretty nice to him.

#they showed him httyd and he cried like a big baby #soft tsu'tey #tsu'tey #now I'm making him collect little brats because I can #its my mental illness I get to write characters completely ooc for my own comfort #no one can stop me #plus I want my baby's to be happy #spider socorro #miles socorro #miles spider socorro #avatar the way of water #avatar 2 #spellman siblings #they've all been through too much #plus gruff grumpy dad who pretends he didn't sign up for it being the most nurturing caretaker ever to already emotionally fucked up kids? #throw in the fact that he's disabled and kinda miserable with life #losing his (arguably) soulmate in sylwanin #losing his home and future title in the span of a week #he's a sad dude and all the sudden he's got 4 kids in the blink of an eye and everything just #ok again #he's ok #I love that for him #Spider te Rongloa Tsu'tey'itan

[orgasming-caterpillar]

Do you think letting go is love or not letting go is love?

Neither. Love isn't letting or not letting go. Love is about caring, remembering, understanding. If you have to let go of something -or hold on, for that matter- then is it really love? If you have to let go, then that love isn't appreciated and love that isn't appreciated doesn't deserve to be given. If have to hold on to something just to love it, you're not holding on to love, it's grief you're holding on to. If someone puts you in a situation where you have wonder if you should let go or not, then it's not about love anymore, it's about you and how long you want to keep breaking your heart for.

#hold on to love for too long and you won't realise when it will rot #the rotten love (grief) will make a home in your arms #it will bite you and scratch you and hurt you like every wounded animal gone mad with pain #until you become one yourself #or until you let the animal jump out of your arms and run away #and it will #your grief will end whether you want it or not #even rotten things grow flowers after a while #but when the flowers grow they won't remember the name of the love that nurtured them #they'll remember the grief though. that's what gave them life. #do you want to live with flowers of grief; a distasteful memory of the smell of rot #or do you want to let go #choose your answer wisely; the wounded animal won't wait for long before snapping #orhasming anon #anonabanana

[iliveinprocrasti-nationn]

if you want to volunteer at a wildlife rehab to satisfy your desire to cuddle animals then you should reconsider volunteering at a wildlife rehab

#ive met people who are like this and what it leads to on top of harming the animal and their chance of release is just being irresponsible #ive been soaking wounds on a juvie possum who was terrified and in pain and had a coworker stop to stare at the animal and coo at it because #it was ‘so cute’. i get it i get the urge i catch myself behaving irresponsibly like that sometimes but even doing that is irresponsible #if you want to cuddle animals volunteer at a shelter because doing that at a wildlife center is harmful #this is about the account i just saw who started volunteering in march of this year and stated that getting to cuddle and nurture animals #was a motivation which. if you’re rehabbing wildlife cuddling should not be happening #and then a month later they were home rehabbing baby possums and the list of things they posted themselves doing was horrendous. if we did #that where i work we’d be dismissed. i don’t know how they’re home rehabbing after a month when there’s no way a person can be certified in #that time. and it shows because the things they’ve posted themselves doing are incredibly irresponsible #wildlife rehab adventures

[marzipanandminutiae]

SJCILA (Shirley Jackson Character I'd Like To Adopt)

#shirley jackson #just started Hangsaman and #nope nope nope #Natalie you're coming home with me #you and Merricat can be BFFs who I will cherish and nurture forever

[liquidgirl13]

#stay-at-home Mom #love #children #nurture

[odetolovers]

i wish i knew more queer women who were very into their careers

#i've always struggled with gender and while i've settled with being Just Me i can't deny that i was raised on the belief that i would be a #homemaker and upon figuring out that i dont want that and i actually want a #pretty high profile career i'm really struggling #i'm a very veryyy femme lesbian and the way that my relationship is set to work in the future means i won't be the one to carry a kid or #stay at home. and i love that because i know who i am in that regard and my strengths Do lie in career and working #but i struggle with it too because as a person who didnt figure out she was queer until she was 20 and thus thought she'd have the #heterosexual experience of marrying a dude & carrying a kid & not being a huge career person for years #it's a bit of a shock to the system #i really struggle with overcoming gender roles that i've grown up being indoctrinated into believing and still thinking of myself as a good #& kind & nurturing person despite not wanting to be the stay at home mother #i wish i wiiiiish i knew more queer women who went through this realisation and came out the other end of it because it's harddd for real #valentina talks #i never realised how deeply how i grew up and the society i faced drilled into me that being a career woman & gay & taking on a more #traditionally “male” gender role was Bad and made you Wrong TM

[leos-regression-cove]

In total caregiver mode today ngl. Really want to hold a little and kiss their forehead and just give them so much love and attention... </3

#🎠 chatter #theres a baby at work who keeps wandering up to me lol #and also my partner just needs emotional support #idk i just want to hold and nurture yknow? #i dont like babies at all #but like the thought of just babying a little rn is overtaking me #but my partner is not a little either #so i gotta write when i get home i guess lol

[radio-charlie]

"Us women... at the end of the day... we really need to be protected... we need that something sturdy and dependable to lean on... our sensitivity and emotional nature is our strength but also our weakness... that's why... no matter what... we still need a man to take charge"

Sorry but skill issue. My women friends are ironclad, can lead just fine if the situation demands, and get by on their own. If all the people you think of as men were to suddenly die off from smoked meat deficiency or wtv I would still make sure you are not allowed to leave the kitchen because you will conlangaofirm fuck things up for the rest of us

#u see the problem is that this specific type of woman here #will always say that kaum hawa is the nurturer. the angel of hearth and home #but then u look at what actually goes on in their hearth and home and realise that these women are fucking domestic terrorists