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magpie-murder · 5 months

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being in a romantic relationship while aromantic is like. i love you, i think as much as you love me, but i will always love you wrong. i've never felt butterflies and my knees don't get weak. i love you like i love music and the moon. but i don't know if you'll ever understand what i mean by that. i will spend every minute of my life trying to make it up to you. i love you, but not correctly. it will bother me even if you don't mind it. i will always be convinced that someone else could love you better. that anyone else could love you better. i will never know what's going on in your head or your heart— more than what happens in mine, at least. surely. i love you. i'm sorry. and mostly i'm just sorry that you happened to fall in love with something like me that cannot ever grasp the part of your soul which drew you to me in the first place. i love you

#aromantic #romo aro #cupioromantic #aroace #hopeless aromantic #aro #quoiromantic #arospec #aromantic spectrum #romance positive

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batri-jopa · 5 months

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Growing up as aromantic / asexual:

In my childhood and adolescence

After 10 years of desensitization by watching popular media...

...and after few months on Tumblr

I did not even realize how much fed up I already was with all the cisheteronormative couples struggling with stereotypical "gender roles" dilemmas, "traditional family" conflicts and "social expectations" of patriarchal world...

I mean how many times can you watch the same issues over and over again when none of it ever was part of your own not-partnering single life in the first place?

#I needed disgusted-Miguel-reaction-meme but it turns out nobody did a meme out of this scene before??? so I did it myself #asexual #aromantic #arospec #acespec #aro ace #aroace #aspec #a spectrum #a spec #sex repulsed #sex positive #romance repulsed #romance positive #miguel coco #coco miguel #miguel reaction meme #reaction meme

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aro-bird · 1 year

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Liking or disliking sex and/or romance should never be the litmus test that determines someone's intellect, morality, and value. Liking or disliking sex and/or romance is simply a neutral thing and should not determine what your worth is as a person.

You are allowed to like or dislike sex and/or romance as long as you don't shame others who hold a different opinion and as long as you're not forcing these things on people who had not given you consent.

The ability to pursue any romantic and/or sexual activity and relationship is inseparable to the ability to create boundaries for your own safety and vice versa.

Your actions should not trample on the rights of others and that includes forcing romantic and sexual acts on someone as well as forcing romantic and sex negative resistance against another person.

#mayaposts #sex positive #sex favorable #sex repulsed #sex negative #romance positive #romance favorable #romance repulsed #romance negative #aromantic #asexual #arospec #acespec #aromantic asexual #aroace #aroacespec

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saffigon · 2 years

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I know I'm the Loveless Heartless Badass Guy on aro tumblr, but we, as a community, must work on supporting the more romance favorable, the lovequeer and arolovic, the romoaro, the greyspec etc part of the community.

The recent shift in focus to lovelessness, heartlessness, repulsion has been great in giving representation to those that feel underrepresented, but it is ultimately coming with the cost of pushing out those that enjoy and enjoy experiencing romance and love. That's not to say that those that are favorable, lovequeer, romo aro, greyspec, etc cannot also be loveless, heartless, repulsed, etc. Nor is it to say we should now push the loveless, heartless, repulsed folks out of the community. Or that lovelessness, heartlessness, or repulsion doesn't also experience strife still.

It is instead to say: we as a community are fostering a space of romance negativity, and to a certain degree, love negativity. Treating romance or love as something evil, something weird or wrong, equating them to illnesses: these are all the examples of romance negativity seeping into our community.

Romance and love still have a place in our community just as much as not experiencing them do. The unique intersection of being arospec and experiencing romance; The unique intersection of being loveless and lovequeer; These experiences are so important to our community and ultimately enrich it. We as an aromantic community must do better.

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manyminded · 2 years

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shout out to aros in romantic relationships<33 aros who are dating allos<33 aros who are dating other aros<33 aros who feel alienated from both allos and fellow aros. ur doing awesome sweeties<33 /gen

#aro #aromantism #aromance #aromantic #romo aro #romance positive

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rainbowsandchocolate · 1 year

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Being not only aroace but specifically oriented aegosexual and cupioromantic has a really interesting effect on how I view amatonormativity.

We have talked about how aspecs don't subscribe to conventional amatonormative ideas and often exist outside of those, not needing sense or romance. But for those of us who are sex/ romance neutral or favourable it changes the entire premise.

Generally, the consensus is that sexual / romantic acts are based on sexual/ romantic attraction and when that isn't there it's either fake or unhealthy or even in some way predatory. Of course sex without attraction isn't "new", neither are romantic relationships without attraction. But they aren't ever seen as the "real deal". Sex work is work but is it the same as "just sex"?

An asexual person, who genuinely wants to have sex, challenges that premise. An aromantic person who is in a happy, committed, romantic relationship uproots the whole concept. Suddenly, those things are just acts. They are just things that you do (or don't) because you want to (or not). And it leads to questions. Sex is still fairly well-defined as an act. But what makes a romantic relationship romantic? The common answer is "the feelings" "the love" or something like that. Not to say that those aren't valid and important, but I think the real answer, for allos and aspecs alike is much subtler. (I don't have it, it's very individual).

Anyway, it's like the closer you look at it, those amatonormative concepts don't really hold well, even within an allo society. And I think that's super cool.

#asexual #aromantic #aro #ace #aroace #aromantic asexual #aromanticism #asexuality #cupioromantic #aegosexual #aegoromantic #romance positive #sex positive #amatonormativity #cupiosexual #queer #lgbtq

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shiutsu · 8 months

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How ironic how often people tell attraction limited aros that they shouldn't make attraction positive people feel bad for feelings for feeling attraction,but it's never the other way.

Cuz often attraction positive people like to shit on the other side of spectrum & often get mad that the other side doesn't feel something they do & also tries to guilt trip them to feel bad.

How fucking ironic.

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vaguelyaperson · 1 year

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I wanna throw a little self-love and validation to romance and/or sex positive aroace-specs like me.

(Not to invalidate acearos who are looking for platonic partnerships - that's a valid subject in of itself with its own obstacles - but I'm specifically talking about acearos who explicitly want romance and/or sex.)

For me, I often feel like I don't fit into either allo or acearo spaces, because like most allos, I enjoy and want romance and sex, but like most aroaces, I don't particularly need either and can go years without feeling genuine attraction to someone.

And when I do feel attracted to someone, as soon as that situation ends, it feels like I've just reset the clock and will have to wait another few years to meet my next person.

I've seen other romance/sex positive acearos express the insecurity that they'll never find someone who's okay with unreciprocated romantic or sexual attraction.

It gets lonely and frustrating and I wish so badly to be like the aroaces who find solace in rejecting amornormative culture. But when I've tried to do that, it only made me miserable, knowing deep down my hopeless romanticism and sexual desires are just as intrinsic to me as being acearo-spec.

So I just wanted to carve out a little space for people like me. A bit of positivity and support while we wait for our person(s) to come along.

#acearo #asexual #aromantic #demisexual #graysexual #demiromantic #grayromantic #sex positive #romance positive #ace spec #aro spec #self validation #kinky asexual #kink positive

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a-romantic--aromantic · 2 years

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Have some romo aro tumblr headers.

[ID: 9 romo aro flag banners. The first 8 have text, the last one is just the flag. The images read, in order:

Romantic Aromantic (pink text)

Romo Aro AF (pink text)

5 hearts, mimicking the aro flag

So What if i’m romantic (pink text)

Sorry its only for my f/o </3 (green text)

Yeah um. I didn’t ask. (green text)

Still Fucking Aro (green text)

Your Loss <3 (green text)

/End ID]

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entropy-sea-system · 1 year

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Reminder that romance is not inherently something that causes 'drama' and to imply as such is both romance negative and amatonormative.

#romo aro #romance #romance positive #romance negativity #amatonormativity #arospec #I hate when ppl imply this #my ex fwb kept emphasizing that me being aro good bc 'no drama'#and it was just like. bro just say you cant inherently see being aro as good and are being romance negative.#-Rift #basically you are implying only romance has the intensity or closeness to cause drama AND that its inherently dangerous if you say that and #mean it

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forget-me-not-automaton · 8 months

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I sometimes feel like I’m wrong for loving romance/romantic relationships as an aroacespec person =[

#I feel like asking permission if I’m allowed to enjoy lovey dovey stuff #this is terrible #lgbtqia #lgbtq community #lgbtqplus #lgbtq #lgbtqiia+#aroace #aroacespec #arospec #acespec #greyromantic #asexual #romance positive #sex positive #feeling alienated #owchie

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aro-bird · 1 year

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While I'm here, it's also important to note that there's a difference between sex and romance repulsion from sex and romance negativity since I see so much confusion with those terms.

An individual who is sex or romance repulsed is someone who doesn't personally like or doesn't feel comfortable with participating or viewing acts that is sexual/romantic in nature because of personal repulsion.

Sex or romance negativity is a moral position wherein the sex/romance negative person believes that people who participate or view romantic or sexual activities even if it doesn't affect them in any way, shape, or form is morally wrong. In sex negativity, this could range from those who shame others for enjoying pornographic content to participating in kink, regardless if the involved parties are all consenting adults. For romance negativity, it's the shaming of others for engaging in romantic relationships or enjoying romantic media and could even lead to the pure demonization of love and romance as a whole instead of accepting these things simply as neutral concepts.

If someone's sex or romance repulsed, it doesn't automatically mean that they are sex or romance negative.

On the other end of this, romance or sex favorable is different from romance or sex positive.

An individual who is romance or sex favorable may personally be fine with participating or viewing romantic or sexual actions and may even desire these actions for their own reasons.

Someone who is romance or sex positive is an individual who is supportive with the freedom of any individual to engage in any sexual or romantic activity without shaming them for any moral failing.

An individual who is sex-repulsed can definitely be someone who is sex-positive, so is the romance-repulsed be romance-positive.

#mayaposts #romance repulsed #sex repulsed #romance negative #sex negative #romance favorable #sex favorable #romance positive #sex positive

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shk0lstun-flagz · 2 years

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Romance / Sex Favorable A Spec Flags

Romance Favorable Aro spec Flag : ⬇️

for Aro specs that are romance favorable : One enjoys the act or concept of romantic interaction. For those on the aromantic spectrum, they may enjoy romantic content, romance, or other romantic acts and/or seek out romantic relationships, possibly because they enjoy the emotional sensation, because they want to use it to enhance a sexual relationship, or for other reasons.

Sex Favorable Ace spec flag : ⬇️

For ace specs that are sex favorable : One feels favorable towards or enjoys sexual interaction. Those on the asexual spectrum, may enjoy sexual content, sex, or other sexual acts and they may seek out sexual relationships, possibly because they enjoy the physical sensation, because they want to use it to enhance a romantic relationship, or for other reasons.

Romance and sex favorable Aroace spec : ⬇️

( For those on both Aro and Ace spectrums ) Being both romance and sex favorable

These were intended to be “side labels” or something like that ( eg. Sex-favorable Greysexual, Romance Favorable Aroflux, Romance and Sex favorable Aroace etc.. ) but they can also be used as a single label by itself

Links to the other flags

Romance / Sex Indifferent

Romance / Sex Repulsed

Romance / Sex Ambivalent

Romance / Sex Oscillating

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manyminded · 3 months

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I doubt my aromantic identity a lot.

I want to date. I am very romance positive. I think I’ve had crushes before? Love is something I dive headfirst into - hell, I’ve even called myself ‘love incarnate’ multiple times. Shouldn’t I be, like, disqualified or something?

Like, yeah, my ‘crushes’ are usually sexual/platonic, any romantic attraction is very few and far between, and wanting to date is just nebulous and no attraction to anyone in particular (more just a vague yearn).

but it still feels…weird. I don’t relate with a lot of the community because of my experiences. It’s isolating. Yeah, I’ll stand with the rest of us - support every aro or support none of them - but it’s…lonely. I guess I just want to meet more people like me.

I know I’m aro. The label and its community has made a lasting impact on me, and I don’t think I’ll ever be able to see the world the same way again. (This is awesome!!) but I guess I just feel…alone, sometimes. For how it presents in me. This leads to doubt.

but in the wise words of punkitt - “do whatever you want forever.”

#aromantic #just blabbering. I guess. Hope y’all don’t mind #I hope it’s LEGIBLE tbh #aromantism #arospec #aroallo #aro #lovequeer #romance positive #romo aro #greyro #greyromantic #greyromance #greyromanticism

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aroaceconfessions · 2 years

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the aspec community is really cool about a lot of things but. man i wish there was less hostility towards everything that has to do with sex and romance.

like i get it, i really do, i'm sex-repulsed and actively avoid anything to do with it bc it makes me uncomfortable. but i also like romance songs/stories despite being arospec, and bc of it i kind of have to avoid aro communities because so often i'll see posts that like. imply that you can't enjoy romance if ur aro. and it always bothers me, like i'm not allowed to identify this way because i don't think love songs are gross or annoying.

and ofc there is a lot to be said about toxicity being romanticized in romance and how prevalent cisheteronormativity is and all the things that have been discussed for ages. but i can't help but feel that sometimes people bring up those things just to justify why all romance media is bad all the time and idk. it just doesn't sit right with me. like being romance repulsed is fine and i understand if you want to make a vent post abt how you hate all romance! but there's a difference between someone ranting on a personal blog and a post with 2k notes saying "when ur listening to a good song but it turns out to be about romance lol no one wants to hear about your toxic love life you stupid hetero"

idk. maybe i'm in the minority on this one since aggressive posts like that seem to get popular a lot but it's always bothered me. it's part of why it took so long for me to id as aro in the first place, i figured since i didn't despise romance i had to be alloace

#aromantic #asexual #aroace #arospec #acespec #aspec #aroacespec #arose #sex repulsed #sex positive #romance positive

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mrsfrecklesmarauders · 2 years

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Conan Gray has two songs that speak about the aromantic and asexual experiences. I think perhaps these two songs talk about two sides of the spectrum. (There might be more, of course)

Crush Culture - Asexuality and/or Aromanticism for people that are sex/romance repulsed or indifferent. It might be for people in the spectrums that are just tired of the normalization of sex and romance as the only source of happiness.

People Watching - Asexuality and/or Aromanticism for people who desire some kind of romantic experience, or are romance positive. Maybe it could be about sexual attraction as well.

Just my opinion, btw. As an aroace I feel related to both of these songs and I love Conan Gray.

#aromantic spectrum #asexual #asexual spectrum #aro #ace #aroace #conan gray #crush culture #people watching #sex repulsed #sex positive #romance repulsed #romance positive #aromantic

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