#sam and dean deserve better

[angelsberrymilk]

sam winchester the King of dying poetically and erotically. no I won't explain shit.

#I don't even know how to explain #he dies so well #like dies so prettily #like a princess #Super tragic but had a beauty in it #do I even make any sense #spn #dean winchester #supernatural #sam winchester #sam and dean #supernatural fandom #sam and dean deserve better

[avalonlights]

Been trying to finish this drawing for 3 years. I know in my heart they're alive and together. ❤️‍🩹

#supernatural #destiel #saileen #dean winchester #castiel #sam winchester #eileen leahy #jack kline #supernatural fanart #november 5th #nov 2020 was a rough time lol #avalonlights art #the definition of deserved better

[sadgirlbadpoems]

I think that the Supernatural fandom doesn't give Dean Winchester enough credit or hold John Winchester accountable nearly enough. I would argue that John's abuse (mental, emotional and physical) and its constant effect in both boys lives is constantly downplayed by a majority of the fanbase.

The parentification of an elder sibling has been proven to cause lasting issues and we see this throughout the show; when Dean is overly protective of Sam, treats Sam's life as more valuable than his own, can't picture a life where he's not needed, and his dismissal of Sam as a valuable contributor in an equal partnership. Dean is often criticized both in canon and by fans for being overbearing and codependent on Sam. This is a direct result of John Winchester's inability to parent.

Dean's emotional repression is shown to be caused by his father's militant behaviors and approach to parenting. Dean doesn't see his feelings as valid or important and thus turns to repression or unhealthy coping mechanisms as illustrated throughout the show. His alcoholism, violent outbursts, and unhealthy relationship with sex are all coping mechanisms he uses not to feel.

Through flashbacks (and some dialog) the viewer is show that Sam is more resentful towards John than Dean, and that he even holds resentment towards Dean for being the "perfect little soldier".

That's part of the reason Castiel is such a great foil for Dean, both are loyal to absent fathers' but while Dean was born with free will he follows his father's orders unwaveringly until sometime after his death, Cass a being created without free will breaks free of the command of his father and from his father's mission, becoming for all intents and purposes a Prodigal son like Sam.

Dean's adherence to his father's word is, much like Sam's rebellion a response to continued and repeated abuse, neither brother is perfect. And their father was the furthest thing from it.

#supernatural #dean winchester #sam winchester #john winchester #john winchester bashing #cw alcohol #tw abuse #cw sex mention #am i really talking about this in 2024 #spn #castiel #dean deserved better #sam did too #parentified child #sorry for the rant #i have so many thoughts #and feelings

[completelymindfucked]

#samdean #wincest #i miss them #please please please #they deserved so much better #the way sam looks at him #hurts my heart #blurry wife should of been Dean #sobbing #I’m physically I’ll #it makes me so sick

[valeron99]

Happy birthday, Dean Winchester🎂

#destiel #dadstiel #happy birthday dean winchester #dean #dean winchester #castiel #cas #sam winchester #jack and dean #jack and cas #jack kline #birthday #supernatural #spn #spn art #casdean #deancas #it could be better #they deserved it #birthday party

[esswantspez]

The way Destiel makes me physically sick… all that buildup, all that character development, the angst, the feels - just to end. It was right there, but then they just haaaad to kill Cas? Yes, the parallels and the cinematography and the acting is out of this world and it HURTS - having Dean go through losing him one last time, unable to do ANYTHING, not even having a body left behind… being completely broken but finishing off the big guy anyway… being lost and then DYING ON A FUCKING HUNT CAUSED BY LOOSE ENDS FROM FUCKING JOHN and telling Sam to let him go and tell him it’s okay, only to go to heaven and hear about his parents when all he wanted was Cas. And they deserved so much more and I just arghhh it makes me so sad because it’s so beautiful, but it makes me so unbelievably angry. We deserved to have Cas come back to save Dean at the last second. Breaking all the rules. We deserved to see them happy in heaven. Dean breaking free from the mental chokehold his father had of him and letting himself be happy with Cas. Anything.

#destiel #they deserved better and so did we #jackles knows it and he’s still fighting for them #so is misha #dean winchester #castiel #sam winchester #supernatural #spn #spn spoilers #deancas

[pendragonsclotpole]

I need to preface this post with the fact that I’ve been aware of Supernatural for as long as I’ve known what the terms fanfiction and fandom mean. It’s one of those pop culture moments that’s existed on the periphery of my mind as something really beloved and bemoaned about by people on the internet, but it’s never been something I really cared about outside of some iconic memes.

For the past four days, I’ve been watching Supernatural non-stop in my free time. I think I sat through eight episodes straight on one of those days, and I just have to say, the show is phenomenal.

I don’t know where to start, I could make a dozen of these posts about various points throughout the first two seasons and it still wouldn’t be enough. I’ve now taken a break at episode one of season three, because now that it’s a weekday I have work and can’t dedicate the time I could on the weekend.

First, Jared Padalecki’s acting is so beautiful and poignant and emotional. He really makes Sam Winchester into the bleeding heart of the whole show, and the entire time he’s on screen I worry about Sam. His portrayal of Sam’s heartbreak and desperation at Dean’s impending death after the car crash, as well as Sam’s horror at the reveal of what John told Dean before dying held a tragic desperation and denial that really embodied what the character represented in the first two seasons. Even as a hunter and with his special abilities, Sam felt like a quasi self-insert for the audience. I don’t mean that in a bad or overly tropey way, but in the way that he felt robbed of a proper childhood in favor of his father’s crusade. Sam is the angry, indignant younger sibling who never bore the brunt of responsibility like the older sibling did and it shows. In some ways, it makes him more entitled—I don’t mean that Sam does not have the right to be angry with John Winchester. He does. Fuck John Winchester. I mean entitled in the unintentional, coincidental way that your little brother or sister always demands the things you never had or rebels against the authority of the parent without ever dealing with the consequences you did as the older sibling. It reveals the veneer of freedom he had and the protection he received by virtue of his place in the Winchester Family. For me, it made him unbearably real, and this feeling of realness was made worse by the genuine naivety and innocence he keeps even as he continually gets screwed over by the demons. There’s a steadfast belief in the goodness of others within Sam that often conflicts with the sense of goodness he believes he lacks.

Sam trusts so easily, but he understands people in ways that should be antithetical to his upbringing. It took me forever to reconcile why he seemed so familiar, until I realized that Sam Winchester, for all that he was one of John Winchester’s son, had received the unconditional love of an older sibling for his entire childhood.

I don’t mean the perfect, kind, healthy love that often exists between fictional siblings. Too often I’ve watched media that makes me wonder how siblings like that even exist, or conversely, made me glad my siblings weren’t so fucked up.

I mean the kind of platonic love that exists between siblings living in the liminal space of love and hate thanks to the single fucked up connection that draws them back together continuously out of some sense of duty or commiseration or the need to be understood.

I mean the kind of love between siblings that would wither away when in a perfect world that does not stake their survival on their codependence of each other, but that in an imperfect and real world is equated to familiarity. Sam and Dean against the world—against John Winchester.

Out of all of the episodes I’ve watched in the last day and a half, perhaps the one that struck me most was episode 20, Season 2. What is and What Should Never Be. Not only was the title a bit of emotional whiplash—the juxtaposition of Should and Never lending a finality or a sense of wrongness that can’t be replicated by the words “Could Never—but we see Dean and Sam in a world where their one connection, hunting, has completely vanished and at a high cost to all the people they’ve saved, but mostly to Sam and Dean themselves. They’re connection as ride or die brothers is gone, replaced by an ostensibly better, healthier, more normal future liberated from the expectations of the rest of the world.

Without the death of Mary Winchester, Dean and Sam are no longer Dean and Sam. They’re just two people, connected by the two people that raised them, and likely to drift apart after that connection dies—frayed ends of a tapestry pulling apart and unraveling. Dean gains a mom and a normal life, but metaphorically loses a brother and a sense of purpose. Who is Dean Winchester if he’s not a hunter and Sam’s brother? And the sad thing is, neither of these are traits Dean ever chose. They are conditions foisted upon him, perhaps not intentionally, such as in the case of Sam, but ultimately placed on his soul until they tethered themselves to the very core of what being Dean Winchester is supposed to mean. The end of the episode, and Dean’s choice to return to the real world, regardless of Sam waking him up, is Dean fully giving up his dream in order to save Sam and be a hunter. The fallacy of the episode is in the choice Dean makes, which the more I think about it, feels less like a choice and more of an inevitability but one compounded by Dean’s readiness and willingness to go with it.

This is where I get to the crux of my surprise with these first early seasons of Supernatural: Dean Motherfucking Winchester.

I don’t know what I was expecting from early seasons of Supernatural, especially with the context of the later seasons. Maybe an overly cheesy, early 2000s ode to roadtrip Americana with a self-reverential take on the classic gun slinging frontiersman of the Wild West and bad supernatural CGI. Not to say it isn’t that (shout out to Sam’s comment on Dean’s particular brand of butch), but what surprised me was how real the connection between the characters was manifested on screen and how much good will the show built up in the audience. There came a point where I sided with Dean so much in the events of the show that I felt like I was riding shotgun in the impala. I saw it with every compliant “yes, sir” he gave to John, with every teasing comment he threw at Sam, and with every act of selflessness he exhibited by protecting other people. This isn’t to say that Dean is perfect. Sometimes he doesn’t take things seriously enough, or he’s willing to sacrifice people for some misguided greater good, or he’s obsessed with saving Sam even when he wouldn’t be if it were anyone else, but Dean has a conviction so many people lack. He has the capacity to love at a great cost to himself, either because he believes himself unworthy of being loved or because he’s not used to anything else.

Jensen Ackles does such a good job at this portrayal and with such a different technique than Jared Padalecki. Ackles embodies the desperate need for self-assuredness that Dean breathes, as well as the genuine fear he has of being seen. I love laughing with Dean as much as I love screaming at him for how stupid he’s being. If Sam is the self-insert, then Dean is the tragic hero, although that comparison feels like a poor facsimile for what Dean Winchester truly is because I don’t particularly feel an overwhelming sense of pity at his state or at his hinted downfall with that demon deal. If anything, I feel a sense of indignation mixed with understanding and frustration that Dean can’t catch a break but at the end of it all, is just how he prefers it.

It shouldn’t be a shock to admit that even without knowing what happens from seasons 3 to 15, I know how Supernatural ends. Just thinking about the ending makes me wonder if I should even continue it past season 5, but that’s a decision for another time.

For now, there’s something unbearably tragic in seeing Dean Winchester so close to a chance of a normal life and apple pie happiness (something he really seems to desire no matter how much he denies it) and then having to give it up, not just because it’s not real, but because he believes it should never be real.

Dean Winchester deserves better.

#supernatural #dean winchester #sam winchester #supernatural season 1 #supernatural season 2 #supernatural season 3 #dean winchester deserved better #dean winchester deserves better #sam and dean #jensen ackles #jared padalecki #character study

[weanwinwhester]

Fergus.

#supernatural #supernatural crack #castiel #dean winchester #dean winchester deserved better #sam winchester #muppet natural #muppetnatural #lucifer #the cage #crowley #rowena macleod #fergus macleod #king of hell #muppets #the count #lucifer in the cage #the devil #deancas #casifer

[wraithlafitte]

halfway thru season 12 and i’m joining the mary winchester hate club

#sam was so betrayed and dean went into protective big brother mode #and i just. CANT #bc they were all excited to have a second chance with A parent and she is just letting them down #wraith watches spn #supernatural #spn #sam winchester deserved better #mary winchester #dean winchester #sam winchester #sam winchester defender #wraith.txt

[authorstellarainbow]

I have this "I need to protec this baby" sort of love for Dean Winchester, and it makes me dislike or get annoyed by (to varying degrees) a number of characters.

I will never like John Winchester for this very reason, and right now I'm also mad at Sam for telling Dean to kill him if he goes darkside. As if Sam doesn't know exactly how important he is to Dean.

As if Dean hadn't picked dying with him over living without him when he thought he was infected just one episode before.

#supernatural #spn #dean winchester #sam winchester #dean Winchester fucking deserved better #protec dean Winchester

[antimisery-core]

Thoughts about Spn’s ending (!spoilers!)

Every now and again, the fact dean dies in the end keeps me up at night. And, in thinking about it, I’ve only come up with more reasons why it was bitterly unfair.

He was always going to die the same filthy death he thought he deserved. The same death Cas, Sam and everyone that’s ever loved him had been trying to get him to stop chasing. Deans death confirms that what you are born as and made into due to circumstance is immutable. That you can never change enough to escape your fate. That no sacrifice is big enough to change your destiny and that every step you take to escape it is, in fact, a step toward it. His death is the writers taking every self loathing thought he’s ever had and saying, “You’re right, you were born doomed. You never had a chance.”

What cruelty it is to give dean hope that not only can he have a life outside of hunting but that maybe, just maybe, he might even deserve it, only to prove that he doesn’t by killing him.

This is what gives the “Chuck won” theories merit.

Because only God could be that cruel.

#supernatural #spoilers #dean winchester #deancas #dean x castiel #sam and dean #spn #sadbuttrue #sam winchester #castiel #jimmy novak #he deserved so much better #destiel fanart #i will never recover #i will never shut up about this #i will never get over this #deanisthemosttragiccharacterintheshow

[angelsberrymilk]

Not at Sam saying "What are we?" to Dean with his whole pussy in season 8. Sir, that's not something you say to your brother.

#what a bunch of weirdos #they wanna fuck each other so bad #and they get mad and jealous and pissy when they go fuck other ppl #what the hell is going with the Winchesters lmao #wincest #spn #dean winchester #supernatural #sam winchester #sam and dean #supernatural fandom #sam and dean deserve better #samdean

[earthherbsandlove]

crowley deserves smut fics too.

#crowley spn smut #crowley #king of hell #spn #supernatural #sam winchester #dean winchester #castiel #destiel #jack kline #kelly kline #rowena macleod #fergus macleod #crowley macleod #my man deserves better fr #in desperate need of smut fics of my husband.

[deanwinchestersucks]

Just seeing gifs of Dean with Miracle makes me grind my teeth to the bone.

Anyway, time for a dash cleanse

Bones! The only dog I acknowledge.

#sam deserved better #miracle deserved better #dean did not deserve a dog

[cthulhum]

the way i see it the supernatural finale could be interpreted as disrespectful and a slap in the face to the characters who fought so hard to create their own story, write their own destiny, define all odds and live their lives outside of gods will in this case but personally to me the whole "this was always gonna end like this", "love was there and it didn't chnage anything. but it still matters that the love was there", and the fact that their story and legacy will live on and the fact that sam and dean died the way they were introduced to us in the very first episode and the way both characters always predicted,, is kind of,, its kind of beautiful,..

#don't get me wrong i kind of hate the finale #i wouldve loved an ambiguous very much open ending i feel like that wouldve been the besg choice tbh #but its okay #let me find beauty and symbolism in the disappointment #dean u shouldve lived such a long life u shouldve had many days of comfort and happiness #no like he actually fr had none of those and ACTUALLY #i will always love you dean winchester my favorite character in the world #dean winchester #supernatural #destiel #sam winchester #sam i love u so much sometimes i feel like i understand u on such a deep deep level its amazing #castiel my beloved u deserved so much better #i fully blame the writers for everything #and john winchester #fuck john winchester

[mmaeeve]

daily dean quote #86/366:

“kids aren’t supposed to hunt, sam.”

- season 8, episode 18, freaks and geeks

#supernatural #dean winchester #spn #sam and dean #spn season 8 #freaks and geeks #oof firsthand experience on that one #yeah they deserved better #this quote causes me physical pain