#should i have an advice tag?

[sidebaxolotl]

I am christian, but I fear people hating me a lot. it seems no matter how nice I am, being a christian gets me blocked or harassed. even in real live I feel like I have to constantly defend myself. it's so strange how the culture in America has shifted from being majority christian, to straight up bigotry towards them. any advice? even just prayer would be appreciated

I mean, that fear is pretty natural I think! No one wants to be hated or harassed for their beliefs. We know that its our fate as believers but it can still be kinda daunting:

If the world hates you, keep in mind that it hated me first. If you belonged to the world, it would love you as its own. As it is, you do not belong to the world, but I have chosen you out of the world. That is why the world hates you. Remember what I told you: ‘A servant is not greater than his master.’ If they persecuted me, they will persecute you also. (John 15: 18-20)

I naturally am less inclined to care what people think about me (the Lord has blessed me in this way) but I think its helpful to remember that God knows that this was going to happen, and He is sovereign over it, nothing can happen to you that He is not watching over, yanno? Christ has already secured the victory for us! And honestly if this ordeal of depression + the big gay has taught me anything its that God frfr is our refuge and hard times can be an opportunity in disguise to lay down our weakness at His feet and increase our intimacy with him. Good, healthy relationships of any kind require vulnerability and honesty, and in this way our relationship with God is no different.

When I do feel scared or overwhelmed I try to pray about it--Like i will legit just spill my guts to Him and just be honest about what I’m feeling, and its so cathartic! When things were really bad and I couldn’t even think of what to pray I’d just crack open the bible to Philippians and read the infamous passage to myself out loud:

Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4: 6-7)

Also if you have other believers in ur life that you trust, it couldn’t hurt to tell them when you feel this way as well so they can pray for you and be there for you in a more personal way. You’re also welcome to come on back to my inbox if you need it as well! I hope this was helpful ;w;

#i rambled again lol #should i have an advice tag? #lotl advice

[victimized-martyr]

Sorry I never gave a proper update on tumblr——

here’s some brainstorming doodles from Keo and me on the white board and some examples Keo made in my notebook. I won’t forget it, one of my harshest note was “NEVER draw Kenny in 3/4!! Trey hates that!” 🤣 The story leads stressed that Trey is very particular with acting decisions and poses, most of which don’t translate into the animation. It’s for him at the editing stage, to “make his voice sing”. Getting into Trey’s head, funnily enough, requires FEELING. Feeling what he’s going for in terms of delivery, to learn what not to take literally in his script (when trey says “kathleen kennedy is like terminator” it’s not what you initially think it means), what emotion or gesture to put in to elevate a joke, to get the message through. It’s so fascinating!

In short, I didn’t make the cut. I was “too fresh”, and needed more experience with the technical aspect of storyboarding…. but I was complimented by Keo for my intuition, something that can’t be taught. I was over the moon when I was told I got the style of the show, whereas other trainees with 10+ experience couldn’t. Some of them tested but don’t even watch the show!! That’s crazy, but I guess that’s to be expected. My knowledge of the show and deep love for the characters got me this far, but I need to work on my actual story boarding skills (keo said my struggles are in composition and scaling) to stay!! 💪🏼 I’m taking this… as a not yet, not a no. I’m already on their radar, in their database, I’m incredibly lucky I got to make my THIRD connection in the studio, I just need to work on myself until I can arrive. I’m so grateful for all the support from friends family and industry moots to get me this far, it’s only the beginning of the year but I don’t think anything could top what happened to me this March!!!!!

#south park #kyman #i’m tagging kyman bc the damn ship got me this far too credit where credit is DUE 🤣🤣🤣🤣 #behind the scenes #it’s so funny actually I drew in a lil kyman moment in my boards at the studio (not as like a haha i’m a sneak this in. more like. it just. #flows outta me lol) #and when i received notes on that panel the leads didn’t say anything abt my kyman…. they zeroed in and kinda argued w/ each other if i #should have drawn more details for the lockers or not 🤣🤣🤣 #Keo came clutch so I followed his advice in not drawing the details but greg insists abt drawing them in #and then they went into ‘well trey doesn’t say anything when I do/don’t draw them in’ and i kinda stood there like 🧍🏻‍♀️ #I thought the whole thing was hilarious in the end #maybe I should draw that moment jgkgfjfh #talk tag #I feel like I scammed everyone like…. I’ve never professionally boarded in my life. How the hell did i get this far.

[catgrub]

doodles of my blorbos-in-law

#i have seen approx 3 episodes of this show. #house md #also apparently i should use the tag #hatecrimes md #thanks for the advice crow. this is all your fault (affectionate)

[corrodedcoughin]

It is of my opinion that Eddie would actually have a killer falsetto which Steve discovers when he walks into the trailer kitchen to find eddie singing along to the radio playing you make me feel like dancing while waltzing (surprisingly well) with an upside down mop

#Steve is leaning up against the counter arms crossed and smiling just watching #until eddie notices and when he does he shields his ‘dancing partner’ and stage whispers to it ‘DONT worry my love. he will never separate #us. our love is too strong. he is but a jealous voyeur’ #and Pretends to make out with the mop head complimenting the ‘thick and lucious hair. much better than anyone in hawkins’ #Steve feels like his heart is going to burst with how much he wants to kiss the smile that Eddie is fighting Down #they aren’t even dating (YET) #Eddie recounts the whole thing to Wayne later that night because he needs boy advice and Wayne may be exasperated but he is supportive #mayhaps I should have put those tags in the main post… #alas I cannot be bothered #go listen to Leo sayer #and wham rap because it’s fun #stranger things #eddie munson #steddie #steve harrington

[electric-plants]

cyno: could you give me advice on how to get closer to alhaitham?

kaveh: huh?? why are you asking me? i hate alhaitham

cyno: haha oh yeah that’s one of my favorite jokes you do it’s so funny :)

kaveh: …..one of your favorite what?

#cytham #haino #cyhaino #cyno #alhaitham #haino incorrect quotes #i think cyno should just take it all as a very intricate joke instead of just stubborn friendship denial #kaveh would be spiraling rip #suddenly has to wonder if EVERYONE thinks it’s a joke #(they don’t) #and yet somehow he’s closer to the truth than everyone else😌 best investigator fr #also this would have astronomical implications for cyno’s ‘he lives rent free in each of our hearts’ quip #and also ALSO kaveh being torn between giving cyno advice and acknowledging he’s friends with alhaitham openly #or refusing cyno and feeling BAD but maintaining his reputation #is my aesthetic #also he would OBVIOUSLY give the advice while pleading that cyno does NOT tell anyone he did #which cyno doesn’t because he keeps promises and also because he’s excited he gets to be in on their joke #srry for all the tags my brain gets one (1) thought about them and runs with it forever #genshin impact #genshin incorrect quotes

[transmascutena]

these lines hit different when you read utena as transmasc

#i mean the first one is really awful regardless. #pretty sure i read somewhere that the words akio uses means something along the lines of 'you really should remain a child' #as opposed to 'you really should remain the gender that you are.' which speaks to his whole thing about keeping these kids from growing up #and there's So Much in anthy's line even without hypothetical misgendering #anyway the au where utena has already transitioned by the time he gets to ohtori is really good #and i of course have lots of headcanons about post-ohtori utena and gender #but i've been thinking about one where he's actively questioning while he's there and is not out to anyone. #and i guess not a lot would really change but akio's attempt at making utena more feminine would have a whole other layer of awful to it #and unfortunately i think in this scenario the first person he would come out to would be akio. which is so sad #like maybe it could be anthy but idk. i think it would be something he'd be apprehensive to be open about with her #(in the show utena does tend to be more vulnerable with akio than with anthy. at least the vulnerability with him comes first. #he's her go-to person for advice in the black rose arc and utena doesn't really begin opening up to anthy like that until the third arc) #maybe i should write something for this au. i can see it so clearly. #utena talking about his confusing gender feelings in one of those black rose scenes in the planetarium #and akio doing that thing where he sounds supportive and helpful but absolutely isn't. #that fake sympathy that's actually really patronizing and condescending and dismissive but subtly enough that utena doesn't realize it #and THEN the contrast when utena finally talks to anthy about it and she empathises by talking about her own confusing gender feelings #(transfem anthy realness !!!!!) #oh wow i did not mean to write so much in the tags #revolutionary girl utena #utena tenjou #my posts

[crossbackpoke-check]

it’s all the rest of what i want with you

connor dewar/brandon duhaime :: 8k

Summary:

“Brandon,” Connor says with a sigh. “There’s no baby in there.”

“Not yet,” Brandon says. Connor feels his stomach twist, almost like what he would imagine a baby kicking to feel like.

in these trying times of dewvorce, may i offer you 8k of pwp inspired by @stillfertile’s wonderful art which i had. several breakdowns about 🫶 anyway please enjoy!!!

#OFFICIAL FIC ANNOUNCEMENT 🗣️🗣️🗣️‼️‼️‼️ i wish i had pretty fic graphics but alas i have No Skill and also. so much work i should be doing bu #HI SHE’S HERE i would love to say this is a complete surprise drop except i have Anxiety & i needed to ask you guys about it beforehand #in my defense i started writing this in like. january far before any tragedy occurred #because square asked about my tags on their dewey2 art and she spawned like. a million more thoughts about it #including the part where i got absolutely kicked in the face with the lightning vision of those two lines. #like those two lines are the first actual lines of the fic i wrote ajdhkwdiowdjiw ANYWAY please be nice to me i know i am always like #‘this is not the first real fic i ever thought i’d post’ and if i had a nickel i’d have three but this is the first pwp i’ve ever posted #and it’s 8k and it’s not a fic for an exchange (although technically i did very much write this for the dewey^2 hivemind so.) #i have SO many things to say i have so many comments on this doc also i couldn’t pick a title for the LONGEST time and i finally decided on #this one but the full quote was too long: #all the rest of what i want with you that scares me shitless #so. i was angling SO hard to make a yung gravy lyric as a title bc i saw the video of him at a wild game but i couldn’t find a good one #and instead y’all got a very sentimental title l m a o. #liv in the replies #shout out to the extended universe this lives in and also my unhinged comments in the docs. #if you liked fun fuck a baby in him friday i’ll be here all week i promise i am the exact same in the comments as i am in the tags 🫡 #the NUMBER of times i wrote something in this by pulling it out of my ass and then actually went back and did the research & was RIGHT is. #far too high. also the amount of coincidental things that dropped while i was writing this (yung gravy song about pregnancy AFTER i wheeze #laughed myself into a yung gravy title the athletic player poll confirming my restaurant & bar choices from googling ‘st. paul good bars’…) #also if anybody got advice on formatting for these little announcements. help. this is different from my miro/luka one &i’m still not happy

[neurosiscocktail]

Anyone have any tips on how to find a beta reader? I’m back to writing fanfiction and I haven’t since ye olde fanfiction.net days. I’m writing an OFMD Steddyhands fic and just feel like my fic is missing something but I can’t put my finger on what.

#fanfiction #ofmd #our flag means death #archive of our own #izzy hands #tagging Izzy specifically because it’s from his POV and I just feel like I’m missing something here that should be here #figure I might have better luck getting advice if I include the primary characters #edward teach #blackhands #steddyhands #stede bonnet

[curry-and-gunpowder]

Real talk. Don't wanna be controversial here but. Shouldn’t shipping be something you do because you enjoy a pair's dynamic? What's literally the point in trying to drag another ship down?? It's not going to somehow make your ship more legitimate??? Ship rivalry is literally so stupid, why tf are people so pressed about the things other people like? If you just focus on the stuff that brings you joy and stop comparing it to the things you dislike your experience is going to be so much more enjoyable, I guarantee.

Just. Stop being babies whining and crying about other people doing things you don't like. Grow the fuck up.

#how do i even tag this #Brought on by seeing some ridiculous shenanigans in the odazai tag again #seriously what the fuck is some people's problem? #ship and let ship is dead ig #i support everyone's right to ship what they want even if i think their takes are dumb af personally #but I'm getting seriously annoyed with constantly having to deal with side jabs about odazai #which is like #such a fucking obvious ship? #like you have to actively try to not see it? #and even if it's not your cup of tea then at least you should be able to see and accept why it would appeal to others #anyway. I'm done vagueposting #doubt the person who inspired this will see it but #just take it as some general advice

[uncanny-tranny]

Once I started being completely honest with myself about how I wanted my body to look and how I wanted to present, the clearer my path forward has become.

Now, instead of being blinded by traditional ideas of the masculine body, I'm embracing the masculine body I've always had. Even though it isn't "traditional," I have never felt more masculine and more secure in my maleness and also my place in the world.

This is why I so strongly recommend that people leave out as much societal pressure as they can when they think about what is best for themselves. It's unreasonable to ask people to completely leave society out of their decisions, I think, but doing that as much as you can where you are at currently is very freeing. It has taught me how to value myself and how to build my sense of self-worth.

#anti diet culture #bodily autonomy #advice #not sure how to tag this but!!! this is heavily inspired by anti diet culture!!! and is why i wanted to make this post :) #my thighs feel so muscular now because i'm embracing that this is what my *own* maleness is #and i won't pretend like i'm ~above society~ and am never influenced by my surroundings (because i am to a degree!) #but i want to do my best to learn how to prioritize my own drives and ambitions over the shallow ideas of what i 'should' do y'know #if you want to try this out: please do. you have nothing to lose but your chains. you are ALIVE

[sparkofthemachine]

can the guardian get a one day vacation? no? can someone bake THEM some cookies?  they're overworked 

#destiny 2 #four the ghost #season of the seraph #d2 season of the seraph #I miss when at least ghost talked to us about his worries for us and how much he cares #it's nice to see tender advice and words between NPCs but sometimes it feels like our guardian is invisible #we're just a tool everyone depends on to save the world but no one really stops to ask us if we're ok and tell us that we should rest #I know that's part of the point of being an active player in the game's narrative but it would be nice to have our tirelessness acknowledged #we may be THE guardian but we're still 'human' for lack of a better term #whew long tags #my art

[emblazons]

I would personally like to thank all the gen x and elder millennials who allowed me to be the “kid” in all of my favorite fandom spaces 15+ years ago because lord knows if I was anything like the youth in some of my newer fandoms I should have been blocked by at least 2/3 of my faves

#I think there was a whole other rule of law in fandom back when I was under 18 honestly #and honestly in my very early 20s too #because the idea of yelling at my faves for being creeps for talking to me about a video game #while encouraging me when I had a test or even giving me advice when I asked for it? #none of them talked to me about anything that I wouldn’t tell my kid sister EVER. and they reminded me to be safe too! they were great! #now tho…everyone is super suspicious of everyone while treating the internet like their diary and it’s insane #…I feel so sorry for the young ones. I really do LMAO #(grateful I was trained to both not give every single detail of my life and mental illnesses away online) #(while also not being paranoid that everyone over 18 was going to do something inappropriate) #(it’s reversed now and the youth are SO MUCH WORSE for it) #….I may have aggressively dated myself with this but LMFAO the people should know I am not that young by now #the me tag

[flutterbyfairy]

i have a neurologist appointment in about a month that i'm quite nervous about due to previously being dismissed/not having my concerns listened to, so gonna post this to ask for some advice on getting Taken Seriously or if anyone knows things about the type of condition i might have about what i should be asking them to do/test.

might be quite long so putting it under a read more, and tw for medical stuff and doctors being dismissive. also i am So So Tired and therefore not able to think very clearly so apologies if i've messed up any of the medical info about conditions i mention and apologise just generally for the rambliness of my writing.

summary of why i'm going:

bunch of disabling symptoms that have continually progressed over the past 5+ years, including: muscle weakness, fatigue, muscle twitches/small spasms, nerve pain, blurry vision, lack of coordination (have this from autism, however has gotten significantly worse recently so might also be related to neuro stuff). first symptoms were difficulty having my arms over my head (like having to take multiple breaks while putting my hair into a ponytail because i couldn't hold my arms over my head for the like.. three minutes to do a ponytail) and blurry vision (that optometrist has said seems like might be due to a systemic disease because of how variable it is) since i was 13, which was seven years ago. i started getting more impairing symptoms when i was 15, and began needing a wheelchair for anything that required standing or walking for more than 10 - 15 minutes. i'm currently 20 and need my wheelchair whenever i leave the house, i can't leave the house or do things around the house often, i can stand for a max of like four minutes and can't hold my hands above my head for more than like 30 seconds to one minute. pretty much all my symptoms get a lot worse with any exertion.

GP thinks i have myasthenia gravis, but the test for acetylcholine receptor antibodies was negative and he doesn't have the ability to do other tests.

the neurologist has already said he thinks i have functional neurological disorder and that i should do CBT and pysio to improve my functioning (i already know CBT is horrible for me, i'm in other therapy which is good, i've done some psyio before but she just taught me some stretches and that was it, more psyio could be good but it'd have to be with someone who isn't trying to do a graded exercise therapy type thing since i get PEM). he has mentioned doing a spine MRI but this hasn't been done yet. he said he doesn't want to do further testing for myasthenia gravis but i will probably try to get him to agree to doing a repetitive nerve stimulation EMG or something.

i also have scapular winging on the side of my body with worse muscular symptoms which has also caused a lot of nerve pain, and i might also have some sort of spine issues (straightening of cervical lordosis was seen on a CT scan, they said it was probably due to muscle spasms, and i get a lot of neck pain which might be due to that? as well as a ton of back pain along my spine. might have CCI but haven't been tested yet). since it seems like i'm getting some structural changes in areas where i also get a lot of the pain and weakness and spasms i'm hoping if i bring that up the neurologist might maybe look more at organic causes + the state of those structural changes but i dunno.

he did a basic neurological exam in my initial appointment with him and said that i have give way weakness/waxing and waning weakness because when he got me to do the pushing my limbs against resistance i could do okay for a couple seconds but couldn't maintain it. he also said in the letter that i had positive hoovers sign however i am.. very confused by this because from my understanding hoovers sign is mainly looked at when someone has one limb that's at least somewhat "normal" and one that either can't be moved or is very weak, and then the person can't move the weak leg but when asked to push the stronger leg against resistance they push the weak leg down. both my legs are strong enough that i can stand and whilst one leg is a bit weaker they're relatively similar. i lifted and pushed against resistance with both legs so.... i am not sure how hoovers is applicable here? does anyone know why it was applied and if that was correct or if i should be challenging that? he's saying that the give way weakness and positive hoovers are indicators that the problem is "non-organic" and therefore should be treated with CBT and pysio.

i'm not sure what i think is actually going on. i think myasthenia gravis might make sense, but also so could other neuromuscular diseases like a mitochondrial disease or something. also very possible it's myalgic encephalomyelitis (aka chronic fatigue syndrome) but obviously that one is a diagnosis of exclusion so i want to rule other things out if possible. i want to know what's going on so i can have the best chance of being as well as is possible for me. i know CBT is not right for me and whilst some type of pysio could help a bit/prevent some decline (based on past experience i know it won't Cure Me but obviously it can help a bit to build some muscle or maintain range of motion and things like that which are important) if there's other things i can do on top of that i want to.

i've tried to do research to work out the best tests to ask for and i think EMG might be good but also know a normal EMG doesn't typically pick up myasthenia gravis so it needs to also have repetitive nerve stimulation i think?

i can't see a different neurologist at least not anytime soon, so i need to get this neurologist to do as much to help as possible. a social worker from where i get therapy is coming to the appointment to help me so that should be good but i need to work out what the best way to advocate for myself is and what tests are going to be the most useful to ask for.

if anyone has any advice for getting doctors to take you seriously or for any tests i should be advocating for or conditions i should be looking into or anything i would really appreciate it <3 (emoticon description: heart)

#in case it's relevant: i also have type one diabetes autism and POTS #things i've had ruled out : FSHD and multiple sclerosis (had brain mri and spinal tap) tho a nurse told me she thinks i should get checked #for multiple sclerosis again because it can have false negatives? not sure #FSHD was tested through a research project thing and the result was negatiev #medical tw #doctors tw #gonna put this in a couple of tags so people who have had similar experiences/might have advice might see it #cripplepunk #actually disabled #neurological disease #neuromuscular disease #ME/CFS

[hisnamesdylan]

“Don’t let life define you. Life can pass you by, beat you up, stress you out. It can also give you a reason to live. A reason to smile. A reason to get up in the morning. Life is meant to be lived. One thing or another along the way will probably make living that life hard. Almost impossible at times. But when I feel the warmth of sunshine. When I hear the sound of laughter. Or try something new and amazing. Whether I end up liking it or not. All those things. They make it worth it. I don’t always see that. Don’t always feel it. But it’s there. It comes and it goes. And I always look forward to finding it again. Life was made to be experienced. And I’m not going to let an image of what’s expected of me stop me from living it. From experiencing it. So don’t let life define you. Just live it.”

—me

#no one asked #but I was feeling sentimental #life #idk #advice if anyone wants it #quotes #advice #positivity #live laugh love type of stuff #white girl aesthetic #obviously this can be for whoever #do you guys check the tags? #whoever or whomever? #I have not once in my life used the word ‘whom’ #anyway #why do I feel like it should be ‘whomever’ in this case? #this can be for whomever #english is my first and only language #(currently anyway) #but grammar is not one of my strengths #I looked up the definition #it did not help #when did school fail to teach me grammar #is this something I can blame on the school system? #or is this one on me?

[mustelid-approved]

Inscryption has been Mustelid Approved. A joyous day.

We need more talking mustelid representation in media, though I am aware that he is not an actual stoat. However, I think he counts anyway as an Honorary Mustelid. If he even wants to be one (probably not).

It's a fine card (both versions), though I am not impressed by the supposed "Scrybe of Beast's" addressing of it as a "lowly creature" (iirc). As a stoat myself, I find it quite hard to empathize with the Scrybe. More research is needed.

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#mustelid:approved #mod:ermine #inscryption #inscryption stoat #Should I tag the robot? Probably not. #Also: can I have ALT text advice? I've never written it before and I feel like I did too much. #mustelid #mustelidae

[which-qsmp-egg-would]

What is the "tong incident" that your bio refers to? I've looked it up, but Tumblr's search is awful haha

Sorry it took me a bit to get to this! (although if you've ever sent me a poll ask, you're probably used to it)

I don't have a link, but the "Tong Incident" refers to a poll that got a LOT of notes for a very specific reason a few months ago, entirely centered around this

Yup. A pair of tongs. The problem is, they had EVERY name for this, EXCEPT tongs! And people LOST IT over that! I think it has somewhere between 150k and 200k notes by now?

Now I'm not sure if everyone else refers to things like this, but to me "Tong Incident" type polls means when people make polls that intentionally make people feel negative emotions just to get notes!

I have a personal rule, when it comes to having an online presence (I may not be a big blog, but it makes a difference!). I want to make something that people can be happy browsing, no matter what. Everything I post, I do everything I can to avoid making things more unfriendly. Not every opinion has to be put on the internet! Not every take must be talked about! Not every upsetting thing is a 'problem'!

I'm ranting.

The point is, the Tong poll made me realise that a lot of polls are made to upset people into giving them more notes. I love to get notes; reblogs feel amazing. But I refuse to get those at the expense of upsetting people! I would rather get my following the right way, rather than exploiting the system of tumblr.

#not a poll #now let me say; when I say 'not everything has to be said' I mean that we should think to ourselves. #'is there any benifit to me posting about/complaining about this? will this make anyone else feel better? will this make ME feel better?' #because sometimes #when you spend all of your time complaining #you stop noticing the good in your life #I'm a poll blog. I'm just 1 person doing what I can to make other people happy. I might not have the best advice or the largest following #but its a nice thing to consider. The smallest thing you do can make someone else happy #There's a fun game I play in my IRL life actually that focuses on that! #When I pass someone on the street or I'm at a cashier or something #I make it a point to find something; just ONE thing about them I can compliment #And it usually makes their day! I love getting into conversations with absolute strangers about their hair and how they dyed it you know? #Okay I know that's a lot of tags now #Thank you for the ask #I really wanted a chance to rant about that <3