#transmlm

[teamlm]

What if we were dead and our bones were made into the same crab box

🥺👉👈

#and we were both boys #Feel free to ignore this one guys #Mlm #Gay #Transmlm #I lost a contest of wills

[skeletuneplayer]

imagine a picknick date on a nice summer day. I brought sandwiches and orange juice, you brought fruits and muffins.

the plums burst open in sweetness under my tongue and I watch you smile as I moan with the taste. We exchange sweet kisses under the shade of a willow and the taste of peach lingers on my tongue after kissing you.

#mlm #queer #trans #transmlm #trans mlm #nblm #cute mlm #mlm prompt #summer #picknick #date #mlm date #gay

[mmmffgf]

want a pretty boy under me …. Mmmfgf.,…..,

#cishet dni #lgbt #transmlm #transmasc #t4t #t4t nsft #t4t mlm #t4t ns/fw #bisexual #aro

[azursrevenge]

puppy bf x bunny bf >>>

#mlm #mlm positivity #nblm #nblm positivity #lgbt #gay #transmlm #werewolfbf #puppybf #bunnybf #monsterbf #monster #mlmblog #nsftmlm #mlmnsft #nblmsfw #mlmsfw #mlmpost

[a-faggot-with-opinions]

I just wanted to drop in with some links to some now-deleted but still very good articles on Transmasc Comphet (which is a term I think needs to be spread around more when discussing Transmlm social pressures)

"Transmasc Comphet (and the road to faggotry)" the original article - web (dot) archive (dot) org/web/20210109231028/https:// medium (dot ) com/@neilklein/transmasc-comphet-and-the-road-to-faggotry-62ed750f391f

"Transmasc Comphet — the Followup" - web (dot) archive (dot) org/web/20210124071417/https://medium (dot) com/@neilklein/transmasc-comphet-the-followup-46fddbda7c4

I think a lot of it is stuff you and others who discuss anti-transmasculinity already touch on but I think it's another piece of language we really should be using (even though I know someone is going to find some reason to hate us more over it). Thanks so much for everything you do on the blog my guy

Every gay trans man on the planet needs to read this.

In all my many years of being alive, there has not ever been one other article that I have read that has resonated with me even close to the way that these two have. I used to think I was either a lesbian or a bi woman and would pretend to myself that I'm attracted to women when I am now, and also was at the time, repulsed by the idea of being romantically involved with women. I remember for a while I called myself a butch lesbian because it felt like the closest thing to what I thought I was (a masculine woman).

But something still wasn't right, because I'm not a masculine woman, and it didn't feel correct even at the time. I brushed it off and kept going on with my life as one does. For a long time after that, I thought I just had a fetish of myself as a man. But I think that accepting myself as a gay trans man was inevitable after I got really invested in the FOB fandom. Now, I am a gay trans man, and I feel so much better than when I identified as bi or a lesbian because this is who I really am.

Talking to a lot of other transmasc MLM has made me realize that my story is not unique. So many baby trans men identify as bi or straight for this reason before realizing that they are actually gay. And that's not to invalidate straight trans men—they exist—but I am saying that so many of us are convinced that we're straight because as men, that's what society pushes onto us. And even before we know that we're men, we subconsciously know that we are in some sort of societal role where we should love women, which is why, I think, so many gay transmascs identify as lesbian or bi before even realizing that we're trans.

One other thing that I resonate with that Klein brought up is the fact that it's impossible to separate my homosexuality from my transness because sexuality and gender don't exist in a void separate from each other. This is the main reason that I identify as nonbinary and am uncomfortable describing my gender as a man unless I'm making it clear that I'm oversimplifying my actual experience. By saying that my gender is male without elaborating, what I'm saying is that I'm like other men in some way, and that my experience of gender is similar to other men.

But that just isn't the case for me. I tend to think of myself internally as a third gender, separate from male and female, largely due to my experiences with being gay. In the framework of maleness, I'm GNC, femme, or whatever else you want to call me that basically means the same thing. The simplest way to describe my gender identity, and in my opinion the most accurate, is that I'm gay. I am like others who are gay, and I fit into that community. My expression, then, is built around a framework of being gay.

Often when cis people talk about people like me, they tend to put our transness first, and think of our homosexuality as being something that exists because of our transness while in my experience transness and homosexuality are equally important parts of my identity that can't be separated. I am not me if I am not trans and gay. To put it in simpler terms, there might be an alternate universe where I am female due to my transness being something innate to my being that I feel would still exist even if I was amab, but there is no universe in which I am not exclusively attracted to men.

#asks #transmasc comphet #transgender #ftm #trans man #transmasc #gay #long post #transandrophobia #transmlm separatism

[honeyroastedpeanus]

something interesting to me is i read a lot more wlw stuff than mlm as a mlm and i honestly think its bcuz 1) i have majority wlw friends so they recommend me stuff and 2) i relate to the characters more. like i have more in common with a lesbian than a cis gay man bcuz i was a lesbian at one point and even though im mlm im also mostly ace and ive never been a cis man . guys who knew the intersectionality of gender and sexuality was this confusing and hard to figure out <- me i did ive been thinking about this for 9 years

#probably why i like davekat so much bcuz TO ME dave is trans #and transmlm is literally me

[fagsex]

orchid and also edelweiss lmao

orchid ⇢ what’s a song you consider to be perfect?

my whole receiptify this past month are perfect songs to me but i am really into the writing techniques of penguins and polarbears by millencolin rn ^^

edelweiss ⇢ how’d you think of your url/username? what’s it associated with to you?

LOL i dont even remember anymore genuinely i remember i got it a couple weeks before my 16th birthday and changed it to that then. my old url (transmlm) just felt too soft

ask meme

#radio feedback #ask meme #orthodoxxing

[happyimage]

♪★ about the blog ★♪

will | he/him | transmlm | 06

nature, nostalgia, cute things

occasionally dogcore stuff

[bisexual-cat]

I'm like Draculaura if she was transmlm

#luka rambles #monster high

[willwood-enjoyer]

Thought for a moment that transmlm means transmultilevelmarketing mb

#rq #radqueer

[brilliantsnafu]

Image description in alt text.

This one goes out to all the men who love men <3 Follow the twisting rainbow from top to bottom!

The perfectly startling state of things!

Two men, the very picture of delight

Full of pride

Bursting

Beyond the power of suppression

#blackoutpoem #blackoutpoetry #queerartistsofinstagram #queerart #queerartist #mlm #menlovingmen #menlovemen #gaymen #gay #bisexual #bimen #bisexualmen #pansexual #panmen #pansexualmen #transmlm #queermen #queer #mlmpositivity #mlmpride #redactedpoetry #foundpoetry #alteredart #bookpagepoetry #poetsofinstagram #gellyroll #sakuragellyroll #alttext

#just found this in my drafts from pver a year ago??? #anyway #blackout poetry #blackout poem #gay #queer #mlm #snafustuff #snafuwrites

[a-faggot-with-opinions]

i think another big difference is that lesbian separatism was founded on bioessentialism and the idea that even if you were genuinely attracted to men/enjoyed having sex with anyone with a penis, as a woman you should force yourself to only have relationships with women or to abstain entirely (a lot of people who tout around the "Asexual Manifesto" by Lisa Orlando like to ignore that it's a radfem separatist work BTW) i.e. "Political Lesbianism". I've never seen someone promote something like "Political Transmascism" in the same way and I doubt it'd even be a coherent thing if they did?

I think it would be good to have an alternate name like what the Trident Anon was suggesting for those uncomfortable, but people need to understand that we're already called "separatists" in a derogatory way just for trying to talk about things like facing physical violence or assault.

I wouldn't want to be in a transmasc-oriented space because I hate everyone that isn't transmasc/think they don't suffer as much as I do/are all evil or whatever. I would be there because I'm tired of not being able to talk about things like my struggles with my anti-transmasc endocrinologist (who dosed me low, denied me refills, and tried to convince me I was 'just a depressed girl') and I want to know if I'm actually as alone and crazy as I feel.

☝️☝️☝️

#asks #transmlm separatism

[mars-isoffiline]

I'm feeling kinda shitty today (half is dysphoria, half internalized homophobia) so I just wanna say this if anyone else needs it.

If you're trans and gay (mlm), you're enough of a guy as it is.

If you're trans and gay (mlm), you don't need the validation from cis queer men (especially gay ones) to "prove" that you're an actual guy, you already are one.

If you're trans and gay (mlm), you're not predatory towards cis gay guys solely for the fact that you're trans.

If you're trans and gay (mlm), your stuggles with internalized homophobia are just as valid than any other queer guy.

If you're trans and gay (mlm), you have the right to enjoy media (tv shows, books, comics) about queer men without feeling guilty/feeling like you're being predatory, you're a queer guy and you deserve to feel represented.

If you're trans and gay (mlm), you're gay guy, not a straight girl, don't let anyone say otherwise.

#mlm #trans #transmlm #trans mlm #transmasc #trans positivity #gay mlm #vincian #trans thoughts #dysphoria #trans masculine #gay #internalized transphobia