#which obviously don't apply to me

[ineskew]

when i call myself queer i’m rejecting not only the split attraction model but the model that delineates sexuality from gender identity. my asexuality is inextricable from my aromanticism is inextricable from my lack of gender; each is just an extension of the others. there aren’t a lot of labels that do that so i’m attached to the one i have

#the only other labels i can think of that break the split gender-sexuality model are ones like butch & femme #which obviously don't apply to me #it would be nice to have something more specific but otoh queer is kind of rejecting labels so i'm cool with that #this isn't slur d!scourse just late night musings #ace tag #aro tag #trans tag #queer #lore #bri.txt

[teddybasmanov]

I hate the 'you work so hard' type of comfort audios. I don't work 'so hard', I definitely don't work hard - I barely work at all.

#asmr roleplay #this is about the new #zsakuva #audio obviously #not his fault #it's just such a popular thing - so many comfort videos are Like That and it's frankly not comforting at all #I get it not all comfort is for everyone - you cannot make it generic enough to fit anyone while keeping it compelling #and I presume a lot of people are working hard so this type of comfort is popular and logical to make #honestly I don't even know what kind of comfort would feel authentic to me #probably none of it because if we do try to project it on reality I just cannot imagine what can I be actually Comforted about #like not Helped - logical productive solutions to actual issues (most of which I already know myself - just don't want to apply those to #life) #but comforted emotionally #I guess this is a #vent post #now #so #tw vent

[halalgirlmeg]

I'm very weary of narratives and dynamics that paint people of color as like bullies, or intolerant/bigoted, or anything of the sort against white characters cause it's not that we're infallible either within specific communities or as a collective but like...idk like I feel like we're usually in these roles more often than not (its ESP Black women and girls, and Dark skin women and girls even moreso) like, esp when shows tout themselves as progressive cause knowing how Fandoms roll esp in regards to bleeding into actors off screen I just know there are people like going the hell in, because even when they're not bad people at all or just like a fleshed out human beings let them do one thing wrong, or do something fans don't like, people never shut the fuck up about it (look at Meredith and Amelia from Grey's vs Maggie and Bailey, esp in like the second half of the Grey's run) meanwhile white characters can never do anything wrong ever even when they're very much in the wrong which hmmm does that not also sound like real life?

#tbh this is about a lot of shows but I keep seeing clips of that show heartbreak high #and it's this lesbian couple I think and one is white and autistic and the other one is Asian #and I always see clips of the asian girl being very like abelist and mean and people talking about her #which she seems to always be ragging on her gf one way or another which obviously no one should be doing that #but again there's always an implication that we as woc are always the aggressor or mean #and it's like why did you make that choice #of you've actually seen it tell me if I'm wrong #but it's like I kind of can't unsee this dynamic it happens a lot in television and film #it's like when people wanna do this Black people vs LGBT ppl very much ignoring all the people with both identities #but also acting as if Black people are just so intolerant that we don't know any better or could even be supportive if not a part of #these groups #I'm sure this applies to other groups too I'm just speaking on my own experiences at this second #idk if I'm making sense it's like 3 am #random

[rotisseries]

the age old "two cakes" mantra of fandom creation is so true in that genuinely you should not worry about doing what someone else has already done because your take on the same ideas is valuable anyway but I do so hate when all of a fandom's popular content is sort of the same thing. its like going to a bake sale and everyone brought a red velvet cake with cream cheese frosting. it's so good, but I can only eat so much cake. the frosting is getting to be too much in my mouth. I just want someone's homemade specialty cookies

#this is an invitation for all of you to drop your favorite really uncommon au fics in the tags for me to read if it's a pairing I like #especially bylers. I would like to see something other than our 3 cycled ones #SHOW ME YOUR WEIRDO NICHE SHIT #for bylers specifically it doesn't even have to be that niche like it could be an au that's decidedly not niche in any other fandom #I just feel like we have exclusively 1. modern au/college au (paired together cause they're barely different) #2. mildly canon divergent 3. fantasy #but that like. only applies to fics like I see people drop insanely cool moodboards like “oh paranormal investigators au” #WHO IS GONNA WRITE THE FUCKING FIC. ANY OTHER FANDOM THAT WOULD BE EASY TO FIND. WTF #and like I know the obvious answer to this to you may be “well don't only read popular shit try to branch out” #which. obviously. but I do not have the TIME or DESIRE to sift through thousands of fics #especially when I want to stumble across someone's weird niche shit like what tags do you use for that

[maddy-ferguson]

season 4 is not a good season to be a steve fan it actually made me like him less

#and okay you'll think i'm lying but i've said this before i'm known as a steve fan like i don't even need to put myself in the shoes of #steve fans i'm talking from personal experience. i mean yeah i said it made me like him less that's about me but just. more context #like yeah he's there a lot that's great but what he's doing on screen...like nancy's character is not the one that's suffering from the #stncy comeback. because she's not the one who likes the other again obviously but omg i was so annoyed the first time i watched it and i #was annoyed with steve #like i can see why they'd do that but it's also like they don't even care about steve that much😭 substantial screentime =/= good screentime #but this actually applies to like the show as a whole the show is not a good show to be a steve fan the way people in fandoms are fans of #characters. which is why i loved him more when i didn't care about him in a fandom way. okay that doesn't make sense. i don't care about #him in a fandom way which is why he isn't that high on my list of favorite characters like two years ago he was higher but i still like #him the same amount. technically. or a little less because season 4 made me. but my point was comparatively i like him less even though i #enjoy him like i've always enjoyed him #does that make sense #and like i say: brf slt

[la-galaxie-langblr]

The epics highs and lows of summer job hunting

#former manager said she can't guarantee i get my job back so fair enough #i've applied for 13 jobs and counting #2 rejections 2 interview invitations one of which was revoked once i told them i'm a student #i'm really hoping the 2nd invitation doesn't get revoked #but at least i'm getting invitations #still #i actually applied for my old job again so if i don't get that it'll be embarrassing #i would prefer something with more hours/better pay though but i'll obviously take what i can get #if i had my own car my options would be much wider but i've had to limit myself to a 10 mile search cus i doubt my parents would drive #further than that #anyways i should get a time for my not-revoked interview by the end of the week pls send good vibes that they'll agree to do it over phone #and also that they'll be fine with me only being there for the summer #ellis exclaims

[covertblizzard]

the lie bruce tells himself (and others): he recruited jason to save his life

closer to the truth: he needed a robin

the truth: he missed dick

#bruce wayne #dick grayson #jason todd #batman #nightwing #robin #mypost #dc thoughts #to be honest i don't like any of the versions T.T #obviously my most detested version is the lie version #for OBVIOUS reasons #needing a robin is my favourite option i guess it made me think of the post that said how when tim said batman needs a robin #but it's never applied to jason #which is kind of funny reading this because he SAYS SO HIMSELF hahaha #i like the he missed dick version on one hand because dick and bruce's relationship means SO MUCH TO ME #but also i simply do not find the idea of adopting another child because of empty nest syndrome as charming or endearing #as the rest of the fandom seem to sometimes #but also the framing of this whole thing just seems like #he convinces himself that it is FOR jason and but the truth is that it is for HIMSELF and because of dick which is just sad to me :( #anyway... pre-crisis bruce loved jason more you cannot change my mind #probably because so much of post-crisis is written by starlin too but still

[daisywords]

.

#ended up one on one with our intern today #she was like ''so what year did you finish your undergrad again?'' #um. 2023 #''like? this year?'' #yep #''so...how did you get this job?'' #girl. I applied #idk what to tell you #weird vibes bc she like has a master's degree and stuff #but is a newcomer to the field #vs. I did a college major and two separate internships that are directly related to this job #which is more or less what I said to her #but yeah she asked me if I thought our team would hire anyone new full time anytime soon #and like. the true answer is. no and also if we were you would probably not get hired #but obviously I did not say that #anyway idk what my point is #perfectly normal things for an intern to be asking and also good for her #maybe just set off some more imposter-syndrome-esque feelings for me #and also idk just in general. don't like when people have the mindset that something I have trained and studied and practiced for #is something that anyone can. just do. with the same level of quality #especially bc I am still so inexperienced compared to my coworkers #and also. this girl has less experience than me but is very confident and well spoken and I still feel like a frightened deer

[binch-i-might-be]

I just realised that my life is genuinely like. falling apart lmao

#shit job i'll probably lose in like teo months #never hangs out with anyone not my dad #haven't seen my friends in months or longer #flat always dirty and untidy #i have to sign up for uni soon which i don't want to do because i don't give a shit about anything you can study around here #still haven't applied for a new passport and mine is expiring next week #no therapist no psychiatrist even though i've been 'trying' since october 2021 #has massive breakdown every second day #all mental illnesses are worsening #meds stopped working #unable to do anything at all #i can't even work on the book because i feel too bad. there's a pit in my stomach/chest at all times #i feel terrible #also i'm itchy???? for the past few days i've been itching myself to the point of bleeding and idk why #it's not like i'm dirty or anything i just ITCH? #anyway this was a very sobering realisation. like girl this id pathetic #also i'm daydrinking now. whiskey at noon babeyyy #i need to email my old therapist but what if i annoy her and also what if she hates me like every other person associated with me #all my coworkers fucking hate me (no proof just Vibes) and my supervisors OBVIOUSLY despise me #i don't have any friends and everyone hates me........ i love this song #this is like school ages 6-14 all over again #rayrambles

[the-tenth-arcanum]

I signed up for a mentorship scheme back when I still had some hope in my heart, and today I had a call with my mentor and needed to share my screen and I completely forgot I had a tab open on LinkedIn job postings

#and if “I don't want to stay in this team” wasn't clear enough. #also actually my boss asked me if I want to switch to another team. the role that I interviewed for ages ago #which rendered that call with the mentor a bit pointless #I don't fully trust that it's happening yet. I just said yes sure I want to switch #bc our team is horrendous #I also told my colleague -- the one who's also desperate to leave #who also wanted to move to this other team (but she knew I had applied too) #its a long story. anyway she took it bad #like really bad. like “I'm resigning on monday!!” bad #and perhaps I shouldn't have told her but she asked me what the meeting was about #and idk I didn't even think not to tell her? #I mean if its really happening she will find out soon enough #but just this morning I was complaining to her about this weird meeting with our boss #and how it was probably gonna be about some stupid new project I didnt want to do #but that I had no idea what it was gonna be about and so on. so obviously she asked about it #and it would've been weird to brush it under the carpet #she literally said 'what if its about changing teams??' and I was like 'lol yeah as if' #I genuinely didn't think it would be #but she suspected it so. her reaction was even worse than expected #I don't feel excited or anything I just feel stressed and guilty now #I don't even care about the new stupid team!! #I just want to leave ours #uuggggh #corporate drama #*

[tenrose]

You know if you want to boycott something you should just completely ignore the whole thing instead of making it trend everywhere on the internet, thus grabbing everyone's attention. It's like they say, all publicity is good publicity.

It always hurts them more to be ignored.

Just a thought tho, obviously you can do as you want.

#this is because I've been reminded of the existence of the thing cause you are all talking about it #while i would absolutely have no remembered about it if you all didn't talk about it in the first place #and you know some people are going to buy it just to see by themselves #which i mean they do whatever tf they want with their money #but maybe some wouldn't if they weren't aware in the first place #also personally i like to boycott on my own terms #like if I agree with the general opinion i will boycott too but i won't push other people to do the same #and that's why i rarely talk about things I'm against #unless prompted to do so #then it unfortunately unleash the beast inside of me lmao #this does not apply to Amazon tho #i will always trash talk about Amazon whenever i want #but like being one the biggest corporation worldwide it's not like me talking about it give them more exposure lmao #but like movies books etc. #just completely ignore them is my advice #like show them you don't give a single fuck about it #make it flop that way #it's often more effective #i mean look at Disney or netflix #i mean if the topic is brought on the table you should obviously unleash the beast #but otherwise it's just not worth the energy #of course it also work to openly say why it's something bad #so both options are not like 100% against each other #but yeah i think it's a double edged sword and sometimes you get the opposite of what you wanted #it's especially true with big entertainment corporations #because yes they might pull off something if everyone is threatening to boycott because the thing is racist/homophobic etc. #but unfortunately they can also do it when it's the conservative crowd screaming about something queer being inappropriate for example #which tbh show pretty much how they don't give a f about diversity and just want money #ignoring something by not consuming it and by not giving it press damage their wallet more #misc

[daffythefox]

hate hate hate the "are you there" "no" joke like on vcs and stuff because you said you weren't there. like if something happens and I like spill a drink or smthn and I'm giving my undivided attention to cleaning it up, I might be there physically but I'm not like ready to do anything! and if i respond to "are you there" with "no" and they assume I'm kidding when I'm not that is so frustrating

if I'm waiting to start smthn and I'm like doing a kind of roll call to make sure everyone's there and someone says "no, i'm not here." then i'm like "ok we gotta wait for em" and they're like "ofc I'm here i responded it was a joke" and I'm like "you know it's funny when you have to explain it"

and then ppl like make me feel stupid for giving them the benefit of the doubt and then I get angry and I feel like a complete idiot it's not good

#hate hate hate needing to feel superior than others and also not getting social cues #like there's a couple things where it's like 'haha neurodivergent ppl do this which means you understand it or you're dumb' #just bc you're autistic and you do it doesn't mean I get it at all #like the 'says no and then immediately starts doing it' thing #i don't understand that #i'm just sitting there watching them the entire time they're doing it trying to make sure they weren't being truthful #bc i know if they say that and then they don't do it they'll be like 'i told you i wasn't going to do it obviously' #'why would you assume i would when i just told you' #BECAUSE YOU'RE A FUCKING ASSHOLE #a bit of a vent #if this post applies to you and you are angry then let your eyes fly past it and onto the next post #me when i

[yanbot]

sad news everyone in the new demo jack's female presenting nipples will be censored

#this is a half joke #they got rid of the shirtless scene is all which isn't a big deal obviously but its a very funny change to me #sex scenes are fine but him being shirtless for a bit is far too much lmaooo #this is for the softcore version tho so like maybe this don't apply in the normal ver??? #swwsdj

[terezipyropescrocs]

also i just don't have a lot of patience for the "stop telling people that x thing can be a symptom/sign of y thing" mentality if i'm completely honest. you can make fun about people thinking every little thing is indicative of something larger all you want but a lot of the time it's literally the smallest details that resonate with people and lead them to do their own research.

#that and the people who actually need to hear it are the ones more likely to be scared away by that attitude because imposter syndrome! #and think “i don't want to appropriate this identity/experience which Obviously doesn't apply to me even if i relate to this and this and-” #texts

[findingoblivion]

afab trans girls...what's next? let's just ignore the decades of suffering we've gone through and how our rights are still being taken away today, anyone can id as a trans girl! joe biden is a trans girl! trump is a trans girl!

#if you say some shit about intersex people i'm ripping your throat out #obviously intersex people aren't a part of this #and OBVIOUSLY non binary people aren't either #specifically referring to the people ON THIS SITE #who are like oh yeah the cis girl can be trans if she wants gender is a fuck ahhaha it doesnt mean anything #which is true! gender is a fuck! #you can id as whatever you want! but you sure as fuck cant use words that don't apply to you #nyways i'll probably be called an exclusionist for this post so just go ahead and unfollow me its whatever

[maddy-ferguson]

People really need to read up more on surrogacy, I'm pretty sure those in favor of it just think "Well if the woman wants to do it why not" but there is so much more to it :/ It's extremely exploitative in most cases, not to mention that wombs and babies shouldn't be seen as products to be bought.

exactly thank you...so many different angles to choose from too like commodification of the human body commodification of women's bodied specifically exploitation of poorer women...like TO ME it's liberalism on an insane level

#like any one of these can be developed enough to argue against it #altruistic surrogacy is like well personally i still think that's crazy (but that's probably because i don't wanna be pregnant ever lmao) #but without the money it's different #even though obviously you can say money makes it better but like. idk does it. but like i don't care as much ig #all of this applies to other topics that are like debated in the same way (where you can argue commodification of the human body+of #women's bodies+exploitation of poorer women amongst other things and they can say it's their choice so you shouldn't be against it) #and on other topics even though at the end of the day i feel the same way i've gone back and #forth on it more than i have for surrogacy. like none of the arguments sound convincing to me like at all #and i don't see myself changing my mind anytime soon? like i Have tried i've thought about it but this is where i always end up #in french law it's prohibited because of the first thing you can't sell your organs so you can't rent them for nine months either and #like idk sounds sensible to me! i studied law for three years maybe it's my law student baggage (it's not) #people are debating it again rn and a leftist politician basically said what i said commodification of women's bodies + exploitation of #poorer women and some of the qrts of the video were like wow i don't like [his party] they're so behind on lgbt issues...excuse me what #like we're literally talking about women straight couples gay couples irdgaf i'm against it for everyone and some people are trying so hard #to make it sound like anyone that's anti-surrogacy is homophobic when like yeah obviously to the far-right (and others) it's an excuse to #be homophobic but there's another part of the population you're not considering it's literally been a feminist debate for a long time💀 #the law for it in ukraine is very liberal and when russia invaded people were like nooo i have a woman who needs to give birth to my baby #there like oh my god. the exploitation of women from other countries too like it's crazy. (also applies to regular adoption in foreign #countries obviously which is why some countries were like stop. for both adoption and surrogacy for foreigners) #and i say this but it could all be like women with the same kind of money hiring each other and i would still feel the same way because #it's like the principle like i feel strongly enough about the first two. but also there's never gonna be a world where it's just that #(i'm sure tons of couples hire women that wouldn't be like on the street without surrogacy) because it's also a class thing. including the #women in other countries in that #ask