#youre great tho

[heavens-aesthetic-kitchen]

Came for the dell love post, stayed because your takes are GOLDEN

Honestly I was just saying what i was thinking for a long time now lmaoooo i didnt know it would blow up all of a sudden

#thank you lmaooo #idk how to react to this #youre great tho

[giantkillerjack]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

[cowardlykrow]

Stop light shenanigans

Extra:

#this came to me in the shower as most great thoughts do #I’m so sorry for this LONG ASS POst #Bill Woodward #ted spankoffski #paul matthews #My mom said this was a one one two but with an extra one…. which is boxing talk I guess #Basically ‘’ tom coming in with the left hook’’ #which I’ll take as this being at least somewhat funny #tho does it count when the only people you have to ask is who you got your humor from? #Tom Houston #digital art #digital drawing #art #fanart #Hatchetfield #Tgwdlm #nightmare time #jane’s a car #Is it obvious I have no friends in this fandom except my momma??? #starkid #hatchetfield fanart #black friday #//Komic

[neytui]

I never guessed how close you were to me 🧚‍♀️❄

#httyd #fairy au #hijack #httyd hiccup #rotg #jack frost #hiccup haddock #how to train your dragon #hiccup #frostcup #art #rotg jack frost #my art #this took me long wth #I think I would be doing only silly drawings of this now on tho #letS PRETEND I DIDNT CONFUSED HICCUPS BAD LEG ALRIGHT #It was too late for me to correct it #acorn instead of a flower bc its hiccup #the great divide such cute song but listen to it in spanish #anyways them :)

[infinizero]

Ok so

There is this trope about ghosts not reaching maturity until they've been ghosts for several centuries

There is ALSO the trope that ghosts fight as a sort of way to communicate

With the power of these two tropes combined-- I give you this strange headcanon:

Ghosts become mature adult ghosts after 500 years.

Danny and his usual troublemakers are all in the same "daycare".

He's just the youngest + most unique ghost so they like playing around with him the most. In other words, it's the ghost version of older siblings ordering their younger siblings around

As far as ghosts go,

There are blobs, ghost animals, shades (those are ghosts as we know it) and ghosts (aka Infinite Realms Beings) etc etc

The blobs and etc are, well, blobs and etc

But ghosts need a while to fully grow up and be considered adult

And so, if these ghosts are children, they need guardians or caretakers at the daycare right?

Correct

Baby ghosts are under the care of the nearest authority (Ancient or Leader or etc etc)

Except baby ghosts usually stay near where they were born and Danny and Co just so happen to be near Pariah Dark

Pariah Dark is asleep

But Fright Knight is there!

Except Fright Knight is also sealed

And it's one thing to wake up the ultra powerful megalomaniac tyrant kinda parent figure but not really you're supposed to have and another to drag your oldest adult sibling out of their room to touch grass

In other words, the surrounding authorities just went eh the babies can contact fright Knight if anything happens

But then Danny defeats Pariah and inherits his authority

So he technically becomes the caretaker of baby ghosts in the area while being the youngest baby ghost himself

Hence the other ancients visiting and *playing* with him to see if it's ok to leave the babies with this other baby

And since they're ghosts who don't have human guidelines or morals, decide that since he's that strong it should be fine to leave it alone

Besides he has Fright Knight! Good 'ol Frighty will definitely help out this new baby kid ghost with doing everything!

Meanwhile, Fright Knight waiting for Danny to come claim the crown and ring: ...

Cue Danny's rogues coming up to him to show him shit they accomplished

Youngblood : Phantom look at this cool baking soda volcano that spews out real lava!!

Danny: It does WHAT

Youngblood: Look!

Danny: NO

Ember: Hey Babybop wanna listen to the new song I wrote? It compels humans to start cults based on my name!

Danny: Ember, no

Ember: I think you mean Ember YES

Skulker: Ghost boy I have skinned an alien and brought you a pelt turned into a coat

Danny: ...you did WHAt

Skulker: It is nearing winter time and one must always be ready for winter time

Danny, having an existential meltdown after seeing his parents and Vlad get it on together: Desiree what the actual fuck??? Did you do????

Desiree: I merely fulfilled a wish

Johnny: Hey Phantom look we got matching tattoos to celebrate our anniversary!

Kitty: Wait what did you just say?

Johnny: uh, we got tattoos for our anniversary?

Kitty: ...our anniversary is in TWO MONTHS. THAT was for my DEATHDAY.

Johnny: ...oh shit

Danny, about to soup them both: Man, get good

Lunch Lady: Phantom have you eaten your proteins today?!

Danny: uh... Yeah?

Lunch Lady, already throwing meat at him: EAT MORE

Danny:

Box ghost: WITNESS! THE GREAT BOX MECHA!

Danny: oh come on seriously

And on the other hand,

Walker, dumping ten piles of paper in Danny's room: Phantom, here are the latest forms that need revisions

Spectra: What do you MEAN you're not allowing me to open a beauty salon in order to dig into other girls' insecurities and maintain my own beauty?! That's why it's called a beauty salon!!

Cujo and Wulf who are both the best boys and favorites, with smug faces:

Fright Knight still waiting for Danny to accept the ring and crown:

Plasmius: What the heck is this weird feeling my ghost side keeps making me feel??

Plasmius: is it... Is there perhaps a ghostly way I can adopt the little badger??

#danny phantom #ghost king danny #ember mclain #skulker #youngblood #vlad plasmius #desiree #johnny 13 and kitty #walker #fright knight #lunch lady #box ghost #the ghosts are all baby #400 is considered the 17 yrold of ghosts as in you are practically already an adult? #but not yet just a lil more #youre getting there tho #500 is the 18 wow hooray you are now a full adult! #550 is the 19 youre an adult wtf do you do now #600 is the 20-24 hey look at me im doing great at adulting! #650 is the 25 you are now FULLY developed look at you #fright knight is in the 600-650 yrold stage #the guys technically an adult but still lives at his parents house until he figures his stuff out

[saracastically]

happy 15 yowling, lounging, plant-snacking years, kiddo 💛😾💛

#she’s old and she wants to make it your problem! and we love her #the loudest cosiest cat #amber #illustration #i’ll get away from the riso stuff soon i think it’s just been fun to play in #my buddy just got a whole riso printer and i’m sooooo jealous #they’re gonna do great things w it tho absolutely wholly deserved :) #art

[somewhereincairparavel]

if you are ever upset about Jason Grace slander, remember that the more people don't like him, the more we truthers can gatekeep his awesomeness to ourselves, so one day if the fandom might change their opinion about him for the better, we can claim our "always been a fan" ticket 😤💅

#Jason Grace ppl r blind to your greatness but you will be famous one day 😔 #I have hope for his mainstream rep tbh bc yknow how a few characters get sm love all of a sudden when they were originally hated a lot? #I do see improvement in jason love tho recently so that's good #I found a jason fanclub account on Instagram of all apps and i couldn't be happier #Our accounts will make a difference in jason grace appreciation #I've been told that I'm converting ppl into jason stans sooo 👀 #pjo #pjo fandom #percy jackson #jason grace #pjo hoo #pjo series #pjo hoo toa

[ryllen]

sebek is literally the PERFECT character for a slow burn, many misunderstanding, romance. Not in a "I can fix you" way but in a "there is so much more to you that you don't see and you will soon love to learn about yourself" way am I making sense? Idk if I'm wording that right

let the people who read this to understand it by their own term

#literally the whole diasomnia boys are slow burn to me because i really had the least interest in them #tho i guess it's bcs the japanese twitter fandom itself cannot fed me with too much art of them anyway bcs their story had not dropped yet #mod posting #i do want sebek to see more of himself than malleus for great seven sake #don't make malleus ur personality! i want to see YOUR personality!!

[blueskittlesart]

deeply refreshing to see someone critical of Swift who also like, genuinely likes her. Like i'm neutral to positive on her, but the online discourse has been absolutely rancid. flipping between "Taylor Swift has never done anything wrong ever and she's a fucking genius" and "Taylor Swift is the worst lyricist of all time and also a bad person" is exhausting, so thank you for like. nuance or something lmao

not to make it serious for a sec but i genuinely think that being able to like things that are bad is really important. like I think that it's an important skill to be able to look at something and see what you personally enjoy about it and then take a step back and acknowledge that objectively it's flawed. and to also be able to acknowledge that liking something isn't necessarily an identity or a moral stance. and i think that fandom space in general could really benefit from more people taking the time to learn how to do that. it's okay to like things that are bad

#people ask me sometimes why ill occasionally talk about something i like and then go 'but it's bad' and the answer is usually because it is #i love teen wolf. i love genshin impact. i love detective conan. and i fucking LOVE taylor swift. that doesnt mean theyre good #it just means i like them. and recognizing their flaws actually helps me better identify what i like about them! #it's like. in my mind bad > good is the x axis and i like it > i dont like it is the y axis yk. they're not mutually exclusive #tldr it's not that serious. we can all relax a little #irt taylor swift i do also think she has done some real harm to her fans in enabling them to deflect all criticism of her as misogyny #and i don't think it's fully the fault of these people who are parroting that response bc so much of her marketing has deliberately #reinforced this idea that to be a swiftie is to be a part of a sisterhood and that any attack on taylor is an attack on all of those women #who are in that in-group. when that's obviously not the case. but she's marketed herself as. for lack of a better term. 'girl music' #to the point where it makes her fans feel as though any criticism of the music or the woman responsible for it is an attack on their #personal experience of womanhood/girlhood/sisterhood/etc. and that's how you get all of thess bad-faith accusations of misogyny #i don't necessarily think this was her deliberate goal with her marketing tho because like. on first glance such a strong sense of communit #among fans sounds like a great thing. the friendship bracelets i got at the eras tour movie are really genuinely special to me. #but it does present a problem when your fans are unable to separate how they feel about the community and experience your music has fostere #from how they feel about you as a person. especially when you are a billionaire who absolutely CANNOT be above criticism in this economy #anyway. tldr i love taylor's music and i don't think swiftie hivemind is as deliberately malicious as it may seem #but it's obviously necessary to be able to take a step back and look objectively at what you're participating in. #anyway stream ttpd or don't idc <3 #taylor swift

[daily-ethoslab]

[608] Heres a scavenger hunt! Try to find the album that inspired the colors of this etho! Hint: the name of the author is on the shirt :^P

#the prize is that you get to listen to the album #I recommend #community gardens #starstruck #admire the architecture #and Jeannie youre a Tragedy #thos are just my favs from the album but ohfjsadfksj the whole thing is great #idk i love the scary jokes #all the music they make is #chefs kiss #etho #ethoslab #hermitcraft #etho fanart #day 608 #im quite sure ive talked about them if not this album before #tikas favs

[aveloka-draws]

I’m so pathetic that I’ve disabled damage in cotl despite it being on easy mode- I prefer the cult mechanics over pvp mechanics-

Y

You can disable damage?

What

#ask a bird #play how you wanna i guess #im not great at games but ive been improving a lot i think #curse u kallamar and your bullet hell of a boss battle tho

[swiggity-swexual-i-am-asexual]

DPxDC Prompt

Thinking back on it, Danny probably should have been more wary of being given the title ‘Ender Of Timelines’.

#dpxdc #dp x dc #danny phantom #dc x dp #dcxdp #I guess any crossover but it’s the one I was thinking of at the time #probably a summon fic? #they’re like Oh Fuck Who Have These Cultists Brought In?!?! #panic. mayhem. chaos. #meanwhile Danny is like. you put ONE alternate universe version of yourself into your own CLONE and SUDDENLY it’s a PROBLEM #he steadfast ignores the other times he fucked with time and then refucked with it to fix it #arguably it’s a title that should go to Dark Danny who I’m calling Dante because #chefs kiss ITS GREAT #maybe it applies to both so it’s like. a coin toss who shows up #Dante is like. ugh. community service says I CANT. let me give you the most bored speech on the planet about loving the earth and making… #the most of your timeline. #you know. up until he actually NEEDS to go light some fires. which he’s maybe a bit too quick to jump in on as soon as he can #meanwhile Danny is like. I can barely pass geometry and now I gotta help solve THIS problem TOO?! #they’re both good at it. just. different approaches #the timeline is capital f FUCKED if both show up tho #the mythos… you could have so much fun with it lol

[heavendraven]

day 1: Dark/Light

(not sure if this doodle really fits the prompt well but I take any excuse to draw high contrast black and white)

#my art #baroryuuweek2023 #baroryuu #barok van zieks #ryunosuke naruhodo #the great ace attorney #dai gyakuten saiban #I was gonna clean this up more but then school and a zine and more stuff happened #don't think I'll do all the days but I do have a drawing planned for the ballroom day so keep your eyes peeled #if I do other days they will just be doodles like this tho

[irradiatedrosegarden]

sometimes you just gotta lick the homies

#(and blatantly admit your dishonesty to them. yknow. normal friendship things) #friendship is a really strong word tho. at least for these guys #purposely gonna be vague about their relationship for now but i will say that they both consider killing the other on multiple occasions :) #and also they slow dance and kiss but that's unrelated #oh oh oh i should say for those who don't know - daisy (my courier) is a trans woman and uses she/her pronouns #she's got a bit of a beard here but that's bc the only sharp things in the sierra madre are knives #and lies #but those aren't great for shaving #:) #new vegas #dead money #fallout new vegas #fnv #dean domino #daisy correa #courier six #irradiated art #i loveeeeeeeee dead money so much i am kissing the entire dlc on the mouth #dead money <33333333 #forced cooperation between a group whose only motive to help the others (at least initially) is that if they don't they die <3333333 #a fuckn casino heist <333 !!!!! hello. insane dlc concept. insane execution (/pos). i love it to bits it makes me so sad and so so so hyped

[xx-just-a-demon-xx]

happy late holidays to my stob secret santa giftee @opalobsidian-wolf! i hope you had a great new year and have a good 2024

i really liked the prompts you gave and decided to focus more on the yandere/villain stone, i hope you like it :)

(some alt versions under the cut featuring no speech bubbles and a tad bit of blood)

#sorry it took so long dhkshskwbdjeh #loved your prompts tho #great taste 10/10 #stobotnik secret santa 2023 #sonic movie #sonic the hedgehog #stobotnik #agent stone #ivo robotnik #justa's art

[mamawasatesttube]

i think we also need simon valentine back bc his possessiveness and jealousy over kon is so funny (sorry simon). i need him to witness bart just casually using kon as a jungle gym and grind his teeth about it. i want him to try to infodump about frogs to kon but tim interrupts like oh thats cool. hey i modded my car this weekend do you wanna see!! and simon is like. excuse me. i was infodumping first. sims negative reaction. and bart is STILL sitting on kon's shoulder like a weird parrot.

peak comedy to me is simon valentine stuck in a room with tim kon and bart. kons in the middle of it and doesnt even realize. simon is radiating intense jealous vibes but tim and bart are both like lmao ok anyways, this is OUR kon. <3 Autistic Hostility (intensely one-sided) (but also somehow 3x combo?) (kon is oblivious but he can pick up on the vibes) (the vibes are rancid bro) (Autistic Hostility.)

#rimi talks #sajan and lori are NOT helping kon with this situation. not their circus. not their monkeys #like simon was sooo jealous over sajan. and kon just met sajan #he would be INSUFFERABLE about tim and bart #at least with cassie he could console himself that oh thats his ex... shes allowed to be close w him... #but with the Totally Straight Bro Dude Friends. bc no one in this story has figured out the gay thing yet. well #simon is having a terrible time. kon's not having a great time either. tim and bart are just chillin tho. #theyre not above being gatekeepers. the thing they are gatekeeping is kon. they are kind of assholes but its funny #(see also: tim and bart coming back to yj and them all just being like ok bye ray youre old and we dont need u so u cant sit with us!!!) #(gatekeepers. lil dipshits. but its funny.) #kon #bart #simon #tim