#WE have shared trauma

[bylerpoet]

one of my greater fears is losing mutuals along the way while we wait for s5. i’m sorry guys every single one of you is legally entitled to mantain your stranger things interest until further notice

#no like seriously #i jump from hyperfixation to hyperfixation #i genuinely get sad thinking about not being on st tumblr when s5 airs #and not hearing from my mutuals #we’re all in this together!!!!! #you hear me #we’re bonded for life #WE have shared trauma #byler

[honey-tragedy]

the finished product and the wip

i have batman brainrot and dick grayson just hits different

this is in response to reading nightwing #93, for context

#we have shared trauma #slaps boy #look at how much eldest daughter syndrome we can fit in this bad boy #dick grayson #nightwing #dc comics #robin #fanart #dc fanart #dick grayson fanart #digital sketch #digital art #digital fanart #he is my blorbo #my baby oh my baby #the rat learned to draw #my old main got nuked so im reposting my art stuff #batman #batfam #dick graysons going though it

[mylittleredgirl]

public apology to everyone who dms me and then later sees the exact same thing i said to you in a public post. i promise we are having a real and honest human connection but also i'm trying out my material on you. it’s an unfortunate hazard of ever talking to anyone who thinks they’re a little bit funny. i really am sorry and it will happen again.

#what is friendship if not a low key comedy workshop #this is (obviously) (i hope) about fandom nonsense or similar #i would never publicly share someone's personal things without permission #i mean please don't come into my dms specifically to drop your deepest traumas if we have never spoken before like do first send me #your thoughts about the Character for four to six business days first #but your secrets are safe

[lotus-pear]

finally finished watching aot, rainah and berutolto were my fav duo out of the whole cast 🫶🏼🫶🏼

#oh uh spoilers in the tags so don't read if you plan on watching the show #rip birth control you would've loved s4 reiner he was hot af #idgaf about the historia and annie thing these boys were gay #friends do not look at each other like that while lovingly talking about going back to their homeland together #friends do not have an official duet about their shared trauma sang by the actual voice actors #and the most winning piece of evidence. friends do not share a bed #reiner and bertholdt 🤨🏳️‍🌈❓️ #ik we should support positive male friendships but reiner and bertholdt are most definitely gay #attack on titan #shingeki no kyojin #aot #snk #reiner braun #bertholdt hoover #reibert #???? is that their ship name #lotus draws

[statementlou]

So I see folks pointing out that Louis' circle A tattoo is more likely an aesthetic choice than an announcement of a political commitment to anarchism, and saying basically that that maybe makes him a bit of a poser and I mean- I GUESS. But I don't like to look at things that way and I don't think it's useful. As I see it the subversive sexiness of the symbols of resistance have ALWAYS been gateways for people who are drawn to the struggle in vague ways and that's GOOD. Aligning yourself with those values is good no matter the reason, in my book, especially given the wretched options available out there, but also the journey doesn't necessarily stop there. Gatekeeping queerness victimizes people who are just trying things out and starting to discover that it may run deeper than just trying on a new look who should instead be welcomed and helped along their path, and I fail to see how gatekeeping political affiliations is any different (plus how counterproductive to actual movement building is that?)

ANYWAY. What I really want to say about Louis is that while I KNOW that Louis is probably not secretly a theory reading anti-state communalist anarchist, I think that actually Louis' optimism and idealism (and his unwavering commitment to allying himself with the working class and embracing those roots) are a perfect fit for the philosophy and always have been. I know that anarchism is mostly understood as being about throwing molotov cocktails and fighting the state (and the allure of its symbols are that they signify this, a terrific aesthetic for him to choose to sign on with in my book), but that's honestly largely cartoonish stereotyping that comes directly from anti-anarchist state propaganda. That resistance is necessary in this hellscape of oppression we live in and is super important, but in its heart anarchism is only about the state in that the state and capitalism currently stands in the way of its goals. The whole point of anarchism is that it's NOT about the state! It's about being able to imagine something better than a state, it's about how we live and about how we SHOULD live, it's about HOPE and picturing something utopian and something free of the ways capitalism pits us against one another! What could be more Louis than that?

"I need you and you need me and I love that" is as beautiful a way of talking about the cornerstone of anarchism that is mutual aid as any long winded essay I've read (even if what he meant was contextually different), and I think when he talks again and again about how special the space fans have made around him is he is expressing an intuitive understanding of the importance of autonomous zones, places and moments outside of the shitty life imposed on us by the system (also a huge part of anarchist thought). Maybe I'm just being an optimist but I think that Louis DOES understand that caring for people and wanting self-determination and freedom for all and allying himself with the working class involves a certain amount of resistance to and positioning yourself in opposition to the state. Thinking the symbols of smashing that state are cool isn't meaningless; it's a CHOICE. There are other cool symbols out there and I just happen to think that feeling a resonance with certain ones is something in and of itself, even if at this moment he does not choose to start a fight with the media about it all.

#long version of this part maybe later… (orrr maybe here and now oops lol): #I believe we are all born natural anarchists with a desire to live in mutually supportive ways and in freedom #it only gets beaten out of people by the trauma of the system and being forced to struggle to survive #Louis shares with many privileged people a certain immaturity of not understanding those struggles #but I think that 'immaturity' can include- in smart and good people- not having lost sight of that utopianism #because they are able to conceptualize it because they live the way we all should be able to #free of so many of the survival struggles #(I think that in some areas maturity is code for 'beaten down to a good capitalist') #anyway and that's why autonomous zones are important: #because you HAVE to have the experience of freedom sometimes to be able to move towards it #you have to experience wins to be able to keep fighting #it's the candy crush theory of organizing lol like: people will simply give up and lose hope if everything is struggle and despair #and nothing is hope and success #you don't have to win the whole fight to get glimpses but you have to have moments #anyway a song I love that is about that is Saturday Night by the Coup it's a BOP go check her out she feels like winning #boots is a commie but that's okay he Gets It :P #anyway #anarchism #blah blah blah #I love being a louis apologist I should add that to my header what can I say: I love him #also look how many WORDS I can churn out when there's no show😂gotta fil the time somehow #send me questions I beg you we've got a long couple months ahead #comrade louis

[chthonic-cassandra]

[abuse discussion] The petty hill I will die on is that Dracula should never be handsome. Oh, it's easier if he's pretty. Then it's love; these poor maids who are his victims take one look at his face and can't believe something so evil could look so nice. [...] But I'm not in the business of ease. The Brides have always fascinated me, in a very different way than the could fascinate male writers, because I know them. They interest me in the way Melania Trump does, in the way Georgina Chapman Weinstein does. In the way that every woman, at least once in her life, wonders, "Could I just...?" Most of us could never go through with it, of course. But some do. What if the Brides did? What if Dracula wasn't a handsome Romanian prince, but a nameless, faceless, ancient terror? What would you trade for a life of enormous wealth, released from the cruel rigors of ageing into a state of eternal beauty? How much would you be willing to fake, and for how long? Of course the deal is bad, and the monster turns out to be even more of a monster than you suspect when you make it. But again, this is no surprise to most women. And ask any abuse survivor, you have to become a little bit of a monster yourself to escape it.

Alex de Campi, "On monsters," afterward to Dracula, motherfucker!, Alex di Campi and Erica Henderson

Okay, I know I am absurdly biased on this topic, but this is the second time in the past few years that I've seen Dracula's brides discussed in this very specific framework and both times it's made me very uncomfortable so I want to consult with all of you, my friends - how does this land for you, as a way of discussing abuse and as a way of discussing these characters?

#I am still turning over in my head how to articulate what precisely is making me uncomfortable here which maybe I will share later #but it's something about lack of nuance when talking about different kinds of complicity #and cheap analogizing in general #but I'd really like to hear from all of you how it lands #it is a curse of my present life that we have entered a moment of Feminist Vampire Bride stories and all of them feel Wrong to me #ugh #dracula #abuse #trauma frameworks

[itsyourstarboy]

Baby 2.0 is in a psych ward, just so y'all know.

Ivan really fucked them up.

#i don't care if their memories were wiped they are TRAUMATIZED #y'all ever heard about Sherman Sizemore? #very tragic what happened to him may he rest in peace #but just because there are no memories of what happened does not mean the brain has forgotten #trauma literally rewires your brain #anyway thats my 5 am angst i had to share today #poor Baby 2.0 #redacted audio #redactedverse #redacted headcanons #i have to tag as headcanon because we don't actually know where they are >:( #redacted theories #redacted baby #redacted baby 2.0 #redacted ivan #redacted angst

[raisedbythetv89]

I just absolutely adore them in all of their insane, unhinged, obsessive, borderline stalking glory.

Them as the couple who has finally met their match in each other and it’s either them together or nothing because the collateral damage of everyone around them when they’re not together is TOO HIGH 😹😹😹

#scoffs disgustedly as rob making logan a cop and the therapy arch YOU DISGUST ME #veronica mars #logan echolls #veronica and logan #logan and veronica #my edit #neither of them needed to change #we should have gotten to just watch them learning how yo work around each other’s trauma and subsequent quirks #location sharing which so many people do these days would have solved so many of their problems lol #LoVe

[theitalianscribe]

Norman headcannons

In life, Norman was good at doing impressions. This carried over into his cyborg/android design with a program that lets him perfect replicate people's voices.

Building off the above point, Norman wasn't originally the one doing the company tapes. That person asked too many questions and thus were needed... elsewhere. Since he already was discreet and okay with all the shady stuff, Norman was put on voiceover detail.

Norman has/had a bird.

Norman having a bird probably works better in an au, but he has this bird, maybe a parrot, maybe a budgie, and it has a yellow head and its wings and chest are the same color. I picture them as pink or purple, but I'm having trouble finding birds with that coloring. When he meets the bird, Andrew/Morris is chuckling because Norman is wearing a jacket that happens to be the same color as the bird's and they look identical.

Just. Let Norman have a pet bird!

Also I have an AU where everyone is alive and in highschool. In that one, Watchful Eye Toys exists as a research company headed by Norman's parents and he is expected to take it over. (I wanted to ramble about this in the tags but I reached the tag limit so I am adding this back here as an extra bullet point.) He gives off heir to a big company and kind of sheltered vibes.

#welcome to Dreamworld #wtdw #welcome to dreamworld Norman #icy babbles #also i hc norman as demi amd pan #i have a storyline in my head where everyone is alive amd they are still in highschool #Sara and Norman start hanging out #amd people atart assuming that they are dating #Sara is like “well he's aesthetically attractions ve amd we get along and im supposed to be dating at this point #so might as well“ #or when she was younger and everyone was talking about crushes people asked her who she had a crush on and Sara picked Norman #because i dont have one and people think I should have one so ill have a pretend crush on Norman #but after they agree to be a couple both are waiting for the sparks everyone talks about to happen but they never come #amd neither tells the other that they dont feel anything #then Norman thinks “I think this is the situation where we are supposed to kiss” so he does #and Sara has a panic attack and doesn't know why #so she pushes Norman and runs out #she has a conversation with someone. Right now Dream and I are thinking Celio #and Sara realizes that she is aroace or on the ace spectrum #then she and Norman meet up and have a talk #They stay friends #then after a while of being friends with Andrew Norman starts getting feelings #and he is so confused #he vents to Sara about this and Sara is like “welcome to the aspec club” #also around the time Sara and Norman started dating #Wiatt and Andrew are having an adventure where they find an underfed shapeshifter #Andrew's parents work at a vet clinic so Andrew helps with the animal healing and Wiatt helps with the magic #(shinanigans with this universe's Litho cause this Au's Wiatt to have trauma and magic capabilities to help a creature that feeds on magic) #and by the end Wiatt amd Andrew have shared custody of a shapeshifting scrimblo they name Oddity #because i love the idea that Amdrew and Wiatt have joint custody over Oddity like two dads on an amicable divorce and Oddity gets two houses

[machinavocis]

btw Apartment Get did in fact occur. :D

tentative moving date has now been set at may 13th, though ultimately wholly dependent on how long it actually takes to actually pack up & clean & officially conclude all the lease things HERE first (because lol turns out the other housemate who had said he was staying suddenly changed his mind & didn't inform me of this until very recently grumble grumble.)

#oh & i am now formally requesting anyone who has ever had to take a cat on a plane to plz share some Top Lifehacks 4 Reduced Cat Trauma #like ok i already know salem will be Fine; we could probably carry him the whole way in a trader joes tote bag & he'd just be chilling #but poor zephyr's 2 grapes of brain are about to have A Time #there IS such thing as like a Kitty Xanax i can get the vet to prescribe him beforehand right? i'm not totally making that up? lolol

[janetsnakehole02]

stereotypical barbie: i want to do the imagining, not be the idea

my desi mother who’s been projecting all her unfulfilled childhood dreams onto me since my childhood: 👁️👄👁️

#first thing that came to mind #like mother we have been over this i am a human i am not your project 🥲 #also helloooo i’ve been ghost for so long #but i did watch barbenheimer on barbenheimer day and now a week later i’m ready to share my thoughts lol #barbie spoilers #barbie movie spoilers #barbie #barbie movie #stereotypical barbie #margot robbie #greta gerwig #desiblr #desi trauma

[flieslikeamoron]

Sleight of Hand | Chapter 16

Thiiiiis was a rough one. But look. Chapter 16. It is finished. It's so stupidly long. Featuring guitar lessons, science projects, double dating on the DL, and Steve putting a band-aid over a leaky pipe of feelings and hoping it won't burst. Spoiler alert: It bursts. (And it ends on a cliffhanger. I'M SORRY.) 

This is also relevant:

#People who read this once it's done are going to have such a better reading experience #But ya'll who are reading as it posts are in the trenches with me so we share a special bond #Is it a trauma bond? #Probably but that doesn't make it less special #my fic #my fic: sleight of hand #steddie fic

[mitchmarner]

not to be cheesy but i love sports so fucking much. i think it’s the coolest thing in the world how much it bonds the most random types of people in their joy/sadness/whatever. you’re all sharing a genuinely universal experience as you watch unfathomable athletic feats. it’s just sick.

#i love spotting other fans in the most random places and reading the dumbest fight between the most brain dead fans #i’m feeling emo tonight #i also love getting into a sport and just having this massive history i get to learn #getting into f1 has been so rewarding because i just get to learn so many new things every day #it gives me something to look forward to #and the leafs are just a shared trauma and i love having all these people to commiserate with #i love days like today #the fact that justin bieber and i are sitting here feeling the same exact emotions is wild #sean durzi just existed today and now a million people simply decided to hate him and we are all in agreement. thats so funny. #obviously tv and bands and whatever also bond people and 1d/5sos fandoms were my first experience with this #but sports are a very unique bond and i really really really love it #anyway this post is embarrassing but idc #*

[clover-patches]

99% of you are gonna have no idea what this means and i don't care /lh

#lobotomy corporation #lobcorp #lobotomy corp oc #the silent orchestra #double-whammy on self-indulgent posts today #anyway this employee's name is Evgeni my partner and i have given them immense trauma #please ask us about her we would LOVE to share #shut up clover

[tinogiehd]

girl shut the fuck up nobody is outing the guy who’s been extraordinarily open about liking men 😭😭 like george is dropping hints sorru for picking them up

#aya asks #negative #like sorry he’s not releasing basically I’m gay 2 where he unpacks a lifetime of trauma about sexuality goddamn #but you can’t act like it’s a crime to see a duck and say it’s a duck like he went out of his way not to deny being gay or a twink #or even him and dream sharing a bed in cancelled when he denied other things we have pics of him kissing them we literally saw him #change the pronouns to a joke so he’s fucking a man not a woman #like be SERIOUS don’t talk to me about common sense #also it’s not outing it’s speculation technically and it’s happening on a platform with zero ccs get over it

[inadragon]

I love GaaHina arranged marriage aus bc Gaara is so aromantic and awkward and too insecure in his ability to love to seek a close intimate relationship for himself. But also he wants to be known and loved and intimate with somebody and share his life completely.

And Hinata is socially awkward and anxious and sweet and caring. And maybe she's romantically attracted to gaara and maybe she isn't, but she knows he'll always take care of her and she'll always take care of him.

#Like every time I see gaara as an adult #Knowing that Naruto is one of his closer friends and they don't even get to see eachother that often #Like #Is he lonely? #Especially with any guilt gaara might still carry #Yes he has his brother in the village still #And he has his son #But who does he really *talk* to #Who is he vulnerable with #I'm sure he and kankuro are close but I don't think he'd share everything #Especially working through his trauma in childhood #Like sometimes you have to talk to someone who wasn't there #Some of that is going to be guilt relating to his siblings #And we don't really see gaara have other friends #He's kazekage and he's respected #But it feels like the village holds him on a pedestal now #Which is better than him being the village demon #But it's a lonely position either way #Lol the tags are longer than the post #I have a lot of thoughts about gaara #Blorbo #Gaara #Hinata #Naruto