#and everything she’s insecure of?

[idrinkwetcementasproteinshakes]

i would be such a good boyfriend honestly

#I would get her gifts frequently #and have a trash can in my bathroom #ya know for periods and allat #speaking of periods #I would always have a box of pads or tampons under the bathroom sink if she forgets to bring some or whatever #and I would also be EXTRA nice to her and buy her chocolate on her period #and I would make sure to compliment her and tell her how much I love her everyday #like I would always make sure she knows she’s a wonderful fabulous gorgeous talented amazing perfect woman #I would also use a bunch of dumb pick up lines while we’re together #and some of the pickup lines would just be from songs she likes #if she likes Tyler the creator? “They should call you sugar cause you’re just so sweet” #if she likes MCR? “I just wanted you to know that the world is ugly but you’re beautiful to me” #etc #and everything she’s insecure of? #I would try my best to make sure she loves them #she has a bigger belly? #girl don’t be insecure of that it’s fuckin gorgeous and if anyone ever tells you otherwise then just call me up so I can bitch slap their #dumbass #I’m not even lying though #girls with bigger stomachs are so cute istg #or if she thinks she’s too tall? #more hight just means more skirt to twirl sister #but ima cis straight girl so idk

[joejoeba]

Hi!^^ what do you think would happen if the characters of Diamond Is Unbreakable were girls?(if it seems that the question is strange, then I'm sorry, plus I'm from another country writing through a translator )

it is probably one of very few pieces of media where I wouldn't mind a gender swap at all. Also WORLD-SHATTERING HOMOSEXUAL ROMANCE

#Josuyasu #Gender swap #I usually do not like gender swap at ALL. Never have. But for DIU? I would enjoy it. #I think everything would be about the same! #Except Okuyasu is insecure a out being Pretty Girl and therefore transfers that to Koichi who is a modest and tiny girl. With some insanit #Josuke is exactly the same just more of a struggle to be the man she wants to emulate (HE/HIM LESBIAN JOSUKE..) #Sorry my brain got clouded with Girls

[bottombaron]

Something about Nadja mentioning trying to lose her virginity multiple times on a beach in Antipaxos in episode 2

Something about Nadja's ghost wanting to lose her virginity too this season (meaning Nadja never had sex before she was a vampire), as seen from the trailers

Something about her relationship with her Sire, The Baron, knowing they had/have a sexual relationship and that he was most likely the one she lost her virginity to

Something about how Guillermo's turning is framed as a metaphor for his first time having sex

Something about her and Guillermo having time to possibly talk about all this in episode 5

#guillermo de la cruz #nadja of antipaxos #wwdits #what we do in the shadows #guillermo and nadja's relationship is one of the most underrated and most important to me #i really really want them to connect on this and everything that guillermo expected from his turning and the virginity metaphor #and how nadja probably only felt comfortable truly acting on her sexuality when she was a vampire #i think her and guillermo actually have a lot in common especially when she was human #she actually has so much insecurity that she acts out as this ambition for power and status to hide how fragile she actually feels #i love her so much and if nandor and laszlo are getting serious emotional moments with guillermo i want her to too

[mala-santa-radfem]

i'm so fucking sick to my stomach to hear how college girls (GIRLS MY AGE, GIRLS THAT LOOK LIKE ME, THAT LIVE LIKE ME, THAT HAVE THE SAME DREAMS AS ME) disappear and the next day they're found dead in their universities. i see cases like that almost every month while feminist groups in my uni are BEGGING for safety protocols every day because we're fucking scared, while those girls' families beg for justice. THIS IS FEMINICIDE.

#theyre organizing a protest #ill try to go after my classes #i know authorities will try to blame this on how insecure everything is #and how dangerous this country is #but fuck you #this is about letting dangerous people inside your university #dangerous men #theres no security for students #i refuse to believe she simply put herself in danger #shes a girl like me #who wake up one day #and some sick bastard decided to take away her life

[stood-onthecliffside]

swiftie gift exchange for @catastrxblues

#yeah if anyone saw this before no they didnt i deleted the og post by mistake #anyway nadine!!!! hi omg it was such a pleasure to talk to you to get to know you and talk with you #when you told me that you're current favourite songs were champagne problems and lacy ik i had to make a parallel for them #unlucky for you that means gifs (i am the worst at them so apoligies for the quality ad everything in between) #in my mind i also viewed lacy as the other girl the champagne problems boy married and lacy being a part of the evergreen friends group saw #champagne girl as an insecurity she might have gotten the ring but she could never beat the first love and option #while the champagne girl would be happy but deeply jealous of lacy and that's on GIRLHOOD #you didnt ask for the story and i am rambling sorry but yeah that was the vision for the edit anyways i hope you have great day ahead :) <3 #taylor swift #olivia rodrigo #lacy #champagne problems #SwiftieGiftExchange2024 #tsuservio #tsusermels #tsusermeggie #tusertaylor #usersar #userelena #userjake #tsuserjen #userbymine #tsuserclaire #cascadeoceanwave #userelyn

[quinns-art-box]

and an extremely late thing i did for saimatsu week day 7!! tiny little comic the prompt was birthday :] absolutely adore the hc that kaede's bad at cooking but she is trying so hard and that's always good enough. plus they can just do it together <3

#danganronpa #danganronpa v3 #kaede akamatsu #shuichi saihara #saimatsu #noticed a critical lack in my art of them smooching on the mouth so here #once again i dont know about the dialogue but i tried jfhgjkf #i like that shuichi is somebody kaede feels like she can admit her fears and insecurities to.... 'i'd be a mess if you weren't here' yknow #she's like 'my food sucks again but i know you see and admire how hard i try and that makes me feel better about not being perfect' #'but still let me make food for you on your BIRTHDAY oh my god' #coming back to love languages i think she also does acts of service. touch is her real one but of course if she can make someone smile #with music or a nice meal?? she will #and shuichi just loves her sooooo much she is everything 2 him #also i think everything is just better 4 them when they do it 2gether yknow...... they are so besties for life good bf and gf ilove them

[jetlaggingbehind]

listen to me. in a swap au ramona's knives would NOT be matthew. matthew got over his heartbreak fairly easily once he had his own musical to perform on and knives does not have that kind of emotional resilience in the face of scott's shittiness she is seventeen years of age. matthew would more likely be like kim or something. he's hiding stuff and he never got closure but at least he has a healthy outlet for his emotions which helps him come to terms with it in some sense. knives would be ROXY. heartbreak central.

#ik ppl are swapping them like that bc 'both poc' and 'both gay' but matthew is Not knives it's a bit painful to implant him onto her ngl #more stuff under the tags #scott pilgrim vs the world #spto #scott pilgrim takes off #scott pilgrim #matthew patel #knives chau #roxie richter #ramona flowers #spvstw #scott pilgram #maybe wallace would be envy. can you imagine if scollace broke up in college??? Yikes #anyw hear my cries or whatever wallace would not be roxy their relationship w their respective ex is way too different #i will talk abt this forever if no one stops me #WAIT. WALLACE LISA MILLER. RAMONA'S INSECURITY COMPOUNDING AND SHE THINKS HE'S CHEATING ON HER WITH HIM. MESSY. #but their canon r/ship stays the same bc i like them #this is quickly becoming a 'swap aus r wrong abt everything' post im sorry i only started this for knives #scollace #fascinating as a qpr to me #meta #character analysis #swap au #juni speaks

[sluttylittlewaste]

One super fascinating thing about Kristen's current arc in JY is how much it reflects real-world conversations I've been following about effort and consistency and reliability in relationships. Specifically, I've been reading about the resentment in (primarily het) relationships caused by uneven distribution of mental load and repetivite, constant labor between partners.

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I've seen a few posts on here from people who have ADHD highlighting how realistic it is to their experience that Kristen is SO GOOD for doing grand acts and big miracles, but struggles so deeply with "the boring stuff". Upkeeping social media for Cassandra/YES!, consistently holding meetings to maintain whatever following she does develop for her gods, even just bi-weekly essays. I can't speak to the ADHD experience myself. However, from my relationships with people who have it and a decent amount of the posts I see on this website, that is a consistent manifestation of the disorder.

Dovetailing from that is the very real conversation I've heard time and time again about people whose family/friends/partners refuse to help with the little tasks of keeping a home in order or a project on track, but will pull through for big events under the assumption that it balances things out. It's a conversation that occurs a lot in spaces of studying gender dynamics in relationships - i.e. In a dynamic where the wife is responsible for doing all of the cooking/cleaning/grocery shopping/organizing, the husband will do a singular, high-effort task or grand gesture, "I built you an armoire!", "I took the kids out for a full day so you could relax!" and reference that singular event or task as a counterbalance for smaller tasks they do not aid in (daily dishes, laundry, running errands). This can also take the form of one partner doing grand gestures on occasion, but not showing up in smaller ways throughout the relationship on a day-to-day level.

-Ex. Partner A indicates that would appreciate more frequent affection in the relationship, such as date nights, flowers, non-sexual physical contact, etc. Partner B responds by planning a fancy dinner, gratuitous non-sexual contact/complements, and buying a lavish gift - but they do not increase displays of affection in their daily lives. Partner A mentions that though they appreciate the gesture, it didn't solve the initial problem, and Partner B doesn't understand why all of the obvious effort they put in isn't enough. The cycle continues and resentment grows as both people feel like their needs aren't being met/their efforts aren't being appreciated.

(Sorry if that's an over-explanation, I'm trying to be clear lol)

I think a lot about two things Cassandra said to Kristen:

"You're unreliable." and "It's not fair." in the context of these dynamics.

I've seen a decent number of people talk about how mutually unfair bringing Cassandra back was for both her and Kristen. I have also seen a lot of very valid arguments about Kristen being a LITERAL CHILD who makes a lot of impulsive (re: bad) decisions because she cares so deeply about specific things. We've also seen that Kristen CAN be so good in the little ways (Giving Lydia Barkrock the Help action, supporting Tracker through her bullshit, trying to do okay in school to help Riz). For all intents and purposes, there is no actual lack of effort on Kristen's part - she very obviously cares deeply. However, those efforts are more occasional and case-by-case than something constant, like going out every day to spread the word of Cassandra or doing something boring like homework.

Cassandra, whose entire thing is that she's always there to offer support -"I'm there holding your hand in the dark"- knows these things as well. She knows what Kristen is capable of. The hurt, then, doesn't come from the fact that Kristen can't but because, for some reason, she won't.

In conversations about how certain partners... underperform in relationships, one theme that often arises is that of, "I know he can do it, he simply doesn't." Whether that be daily chores or consistent acts of affection, Partner A has seen Partner B be helpful or put effort into things that they find interesting. There is no question of capability - Partner B can do whatever it is Partner A requests. Partner A thus concludes that Partner B doesn't because they don't want to. -Ex. "He refuses to help me because he doesn't care about me/He doesn't think I'm worth the effort."

While I obviously cannot make a true 1-to-1 comparison between this particular manifestation of Executive Dysfunction in people with ADHD and lackluster partners in relationships (I am aware that it is deeply harmful to imply that being a "bad" partner is in any way correlated to any singular disability), this is a degree of parallelism to be found in the Kristen/Cassandra dynamic and the type of dysfunction I reference in above examples. There is the caveat that if you have ADHD and know you struggle with doing things that are smaller or more tedious/repetitive, you can work with the people in your life to accommodate that. Additionally, men (at least in the US) are traditionally socialized to undervalue the traditional female labor that is caretaking.

That said, in universe, Kristen doesn't seem to know she has ADHD and thus could not articulate her limitations to Cassandra - and even if she could, it might not have solved the problem ( though it could have kept Cassandra from getting so upset).

The entire reason I wrote all of this is that I've seen several responses to the most recent preview for FHJY wherein Kipperlily Copperkettle accuses Kristen of not caring (and, to be clear, Kristen fully does not care about the Presidency. That is very likely what KLCK was referring to, and she is not wrong in being upset if Kristen wins this thing she hasn't even bothered to campaign AT THE SCHOOL for). The trend in the responses has been people listing Kristen's miracles more than anything, and while those do prove that she does CARE about SOME THINGS, it doesn't address the fact that for most people care is displayed through active, consistent, reliable effort rather than big dramatic displays: While the shrimp jump was cool, it does nothing to prove that Kristen gives a shit about student government.

#this is barely coherent #there's just this wild juxtaposition that I feel like comes up a lot on Tumblr #it seems to happen specifically with ND characters that people see a lot of themselves in #where even if the flaws and complications of that Neurodivergence are being assessed and deconstructed #people will plant their feet on “she can do no wrong!” #and sometimes it's whatever because it's just a fictional character #but other times #like with Kristen Applebees #where the defensiveness has the flavor or being deeply honest #which concerns me #like I truly hope y'all are putting more effort into handling real world criticism than you do with fictional shit #the instantaneous demonization of anyone who isn't tooth grindingly supportive of the Bad Kids (namely Kristen) is worrying #kipperlily is allowed to be mad at Kristen for winning! She may have done some shifty shit #but you can't say she didn't try really hard to win #and Kristen didn't even do her own shrimp jump. she only ran because she immediately disliked kipperlily #and ever Kristen's reason for disliking Kipperlily isn't fair??? #Like it started before they realized the whole rat grinder conspiracy #she just didn't like that Kipperlily was a Type A overachiever #which has nothing to do with Copperkettle #and everything to do with Kristen's own insecurities #as for the relationship aspect #i have a lot of concerns about how people on Tumblr talk about relationships #let me die #if i die #d20 fhjy #fhjy #dimension 20 #rant #kristen applebees #i guess

[jakeperalta]

the "everybody agrees, everybody agreessssss" part of anti-hero is so sad. like if the entire world piled on every one of mistakes and celebrated me being 'exposed' and validated all my worst thoughts about myself I would literally never leave the house again

#a lot of anti hero is like oh this is relatable! i too have lots of insecurities! #but then I'm reminded that she had to deal with everyone just reinforcing them all right back at her #i would straight up give up on everything for real #talking #taylor swift

[themyscirah]

Vanessa didn't even die and yet her story is still sadder and more fucked up than jtodd's. He wishes he was on her level

#may be a controversial one but i dont care this is my house #dont think there are enough of you to get hate over this anything #anyways no she didnt die. she wasnt killed by voter poll. but like the stuff that fucked her up was so much more real than a psycho clown #like im sorry but what is “you get beat up and die” to essentially getting taken and having the bad guys confirm to you that everything you #thought about yourself in middle school was true and everyone thinks youre ugly and worthless and not special and no one loves you. and then #ofc the medical torture. like im sorry but one of these things IS worse than the other imo #especially as the teen girl in the wonder woman comic like jesus christ #and while of COURSE the stuff about diana not loving her and all that is NOT true its something we see her struggle with as insecurity for #years beforehand. and then dc goes and brings her back into continuity in the past few years only to basically say “yeah wonder woman DIDNT #care about her! what a loser to think so and get all worked up about it! abt a vers of her who only has the name in common #like she wasnt dianas baby freaking sister with 100+ appearances #blah #vanessa kapatelis #anti jason todd #she also literally did the red hood arc before he did #with the whole attacking the successor and everything #yet another woman for him to steal from lmao #(this is mostly a joke. i dont think anyone making anything about jtodd canon or otherwise even knows what a wonder woman comic is but the #comparisons are still there.)

[star--anon]

Minewt is so very very important to me

Minho, who is strong and confident, but not emotionally, someone who shies away from more delicate moments, squirms when it gets emotional, will do something nice for someone else but will not make eye contact as he does so

Newt, who is strong and confident, especially emotionally, someone who will grin as they accept help, someone who will willingly die to help someone else, someone who will hug someone in public and not show a hint of shame after, someone who will cry and not care if they're seen

Minho falling head over heels for that sense of safety, for that confidence, for that unabashed vulnerability. Meanwhile Newt is utterly clueless

while Minho is doing things that are the pinnacle of romance to his "affection is awkward" mind, Newt is just like "hey Minho left me a snack! he's been really nice lately :D"

#remember that Kung Fu Panda 2 scene? where Tigress hugs Po and says ''I can't watch my best friend die'' #and she's like. the strongest character out there. super aloof and stoic and powerful and brash #she's strong physically. and it's in that scene where you realize she's strong emotionally too #she's vulnerable and open in front of 7 people. and she just casually walks away afterwards. no shame or embarrassment #the whole movie is Po suppressing his trauma and refusing to acknowledge or feel it #and then there is Tigress. someone who he's kinda jealous of (remember their Fists Of Steel moment on the boat?) #someone who is powerful and strong and everything Po wants to be. AND someone who is willing to feel. #to be afraid. to care. to love. #anyway I was thinking about that while I wrote this #I probably don't have to spell it out but Newt is Tigress and Minho is Po #they are both very strong characters but only one of them is strong emotionally #and while I do like Tigress and Po's dynamic #the fact that Minho and Newt are BOTH confident (albeit Minho a little arrogant) makes the dynamic SO MUCH more fun #there is Po who is insecure and afraid and then there is Minho who is confident and afraid #someone who will kill without blinking but will flinch at a hug #just. AHHHHHHH #anyway #tmr Minho #tmr Newt #Minewt #I don't take constructive criticism because I'm not wrong

[mxnkeydo]

"you have nothing to be stressed out about you're literally in school wait until you're an adult and-" NO SHUT UP you have no clue what its like to be a teenage girl nowadays, you always have to look good and smile even when you dont feel like it, sometimes you feel so alone when your friends already have other friends, you feel pressured to be pretty because you like this guy and then you start feeling so insecure about yourself and you start to notice the tiny tiny flaws of yourself, you have to keep your grades up even when you're burnt out because thats what matters right, the grades? but then there are the kids who have the extracurriculars, the pressure from their parents that they have to do more even when they really dont want to and still through all of that we have to be happy. like damn. give me a break.

#sorry for the rant scroll by TT #just feeling overwhelmed lately #and its everything plus the pressure from my parents #rithi rambles #and like socially #i have a lot of friends #but like i'm not usually their first choice #and if i am it doesnt feel like it #and some of my friends are drifting #and i have this frienf who i lovee but she bullies me (as a joke ofc) #but sometimes she doesnt know that her “bullying” hurts #and liking jacob has made me sososo insecure #and i hate it #and my grades are great #but like im sacrificing my social and mental wellness #bc some of my friends kind of resent me for my good grades #ugh

[kaleidoscope1967eyes]

liveblogging watching ATLA for the first time, and i just gotta say that KATARAAAAAAA

#she is everything #to me #yes ik ik i'm late to the party leave me alone i'm already insecure about everything

[moonwoodhollow]

Jean's Life - before | next

Jean almost expected her mother to open the door and embrace her with a warm smile, jazz would be playing from the living room and the smell of freshly baked peach pie would be in the air, but no one opened the door and it was unnaturally quiet as if the house already knew that its owner was gone, only from the playground on the other side of the street could she make out the loud laughter of children.

Exhausted and overcome by her emotions, she sat down on the steps in front of the house, they were still warm from the afternoon sun, although a cool evening breeze was already blowing from the west, which carried the smell of autumn and decay. She knew what had to be done, what arrangements had to be made, and yet she couldn't even muster the courage to go to the entrance, unlock the door, and enter the house. Lost in thought, she gazed into the distance and gave free rein to her pain.

#ts4 #the sims 4 #sims 4 #sim: jean pollard #ts4 story #sims 4 story #sims story #Jean changed into a more comfortable outfit for the drive to Del Sol + she cried so her make up is a little messed up #you can finally see her freckles! #I felt like this post didn't need any monologue or spoken words. it didn't really fit the theme so that's why I wrote a paragraph #I'm pretty insecure of my writing in English so I hope I conveyed everything correctly #i always fear that my writing sounds 'not english enough' ugh #*mine #*mystory