I think what might actually help the families of trans loved ones is to actually engage with where the trans person is at - especially if the family isn't quite understanding yet. When I came out, I was completely alone in figuring out my manhood. I had peers and I had exposed myself to so many trans people who explored gender, and while it was amazing, it isn't quite the same at times. I grieve quietly, sometimes, about all the missed opportunities that might have just made it easier for my family to have seen how utterly happy I was. It took them a very long time to actually notice that I was happy, especially once I got on testosterone. I'm lucky that they saw that happiness eventually, and slowly accepted it. My manhood is completely detached from their influence, both to my relief and chagrin. It's sad to me that I learned to shave from a kind online stranger, somebody who didn't even have a father and yet, I do. I have a father. I grieve at the loss of a potential shared experience. I grieve about the pain I went through when I was in that stage of transition, especially because it was raw and vulnerable. I grieve that many trans people today are traversing the path I had to, because it's sometimes lonely (even when you do have other forms of support).
It's hard to know that I will never have gotten my sense of being from my family. In many ways, it has severed a lot of connection with them because there were so many times that I was begging them to see happiness when they were focused on the idea that I was almost in a state of purgatory - flesh which felt warm but held no familiarity to them. I don't harbor ill-will toward them, I hope I don't leave the impression that I despise them. I understand what they felt, even if I can't conceptualize it myself. However, it's a raw wound in my heart, and I don't want to leave anybody else feeling that way, either.
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I can’t get over Kageyama Ritsu…everyone says he’s the more popular, more attractive and cool Kageyama Brother but literally every scene of him at school ever is him avoiding anything that’s not School Council and not talking to anyone or so much as SMILING at anyone. He’s literally Mob if mob styled his hair.
Like honestly Mob and Ritsu are the SAME amount of socially awkward but the issue is that Mob is just more blunt and WILL say he’s not enjoying your company and leave (he’ll try to be polite but it’ll fall flat) but Ritsu is Bound By This Mortal Concept of Social Politeness and wouldn’t just say that to people’s faces so everyone thinks he’s the nicest guy when in fact he’s been hoping to spontaneously learn invisibility for the last half hour
Like that time Tsubomi came to Spirits and Such did you see his face he wasn’t even as intense fighting for his life against Claw as he was hiding from her lmao
Ritsu acts like he’s completely chill but is in fact a pathetic loser (affectionate). He calls his brother Nii-San. He hates Reigen with all the hate in his heart. He found the kid that kicked his ass when he was kidnapped and then let him into his home. He let that guy burn his house down for kicks. He became best friends with that kid. He keeps a spoon in his pocket. He can and will kill people if he feels like it. He got psychic powers and immediately became a villain about it for like 3 whole minutes before getting his ass humbled. He’s literally 13 and it makes everything about him 300% better.
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How does the Hivemind you keep mentioning work/what does it do/what’s it’s purpose? 👁 (eating all of your headcannons up yummystyle
SO!
an Iterator is made up of the shell/environment/the structure and multiple creatures (therefore also of multiple spirits) of varying sentience and consciousness that group together by focusing in on a singular point (traditionally the puppet) to Kind Of pretend but also to genuinely become an individual. aka the funny guys we recognize as Moon, Pebbles, Euros, whichever other Iterator
the creatures individually Can have certain personalities n sapience to them, like Inspectors. some Inspectors in Euros are very cuddly with Sparrows, some just yoink her by the back of the hoodie to ferry her wherever it wants to and some just leave her alone. some creatures, again, like for example neurons, don't have any personalities and are like dubiously alive electric radioactive boxes carrying information. the little spiders in Memory Conflux are like actual spiders
none of them are Quite sapient/sentient enough to qualify for a person, but they are still pieces of one. it's like a jigsaw
the "we" kush happens when they all come a Lil bit loose to the point where logical higher thinking takes a backseat and most of all responses are based around instincts and emotions, that the half formed individual presence of the Iterator can recognize as coming from a certain part of themself. for Iterators that have troubles with emotion-capability like Suns, they become basically completely unresponsive
the Iterators were made like this because with being made out of multiple spirits they are incapable of truly dying and reincarnating (boom, sucky immortality). if one piece (or 375 000 pieces and more) die, the rest is still here and carrying the conjunct individuality
the ideal state of a Hivemind is set as this presence as an Individual, so each time it can, it tries to assert itself as this person they make together. a single neuron is enough to carry this whole idea of individuality and it's torture cuz it desires to Expand and Reach Out to form this person that it has coded into its genome, but it just cannot. it's like mentally choking on something, stuck in a circle of it constantly happening
which is why Moon is still kicking as herself despite losing most of herself and needing to be reset and what that "reformatting" neurons thing she does essentially is. she wipes the neuron's goal to be a Five Pebbles Component and inserts her own "I am Me" indviduality in to expand a little
the Individualities then can have different relationships with their idenity as a Hivemind, from being super attached to all of their components (almost Euros when healthy), to being kinda "eh, whatever, a single neuron means nothin to me" (pre-collapse Moon), "whatever i can always regrow all of these things. it is only tools." (Boreas), to absolutely ignoring it (victims of the cabin fever like Nish n Euros later on)
some Iterators somehow manage to disregard their supposedly encoded goal of being an Individual in favor of being in the "we" mode almost all the time. one of those was actually Spore here <3
some accept being a Hivemind (combined with a lot of machinary) without.. like giving much of a shit about it at all n therefore still refering to themselves with "I" instead of "we". that's the case for Notos
i Think that's all 🤔
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