#aro confusion

[dalvs-wife]

prototype got added to the f/o bucket..........

#i like him #either qp or r im not sure #aro confusion #i like to think my sona and him just like each other they dont put a specific label #my art #regretevator #regretevator fanart #rainbow wires <3 #f/o stuff #selfship #selfship art

[growinguparo]

Growing up aro is being so incredibly weirded out by boy bands and the way people talk about them and the way they're shown in media. Finding it all so bizarre and lowkey alienating. The way it's always centered around attraction to the boys in them. Like, why do you care? Why do the actual boys matter to you? Is nocreature else basing their boy band opinions solely off of the actual music? What is this?

REAL

#growing up aro #aro confusion #twigstarpikachutroll22 #my classmate in ninth grade was rly into 1D #I didn’t get it At All but she was the only other girl in the class so I had to learn all the 1D guys’ names so I’d be able to talk to her

[chaos-otter]

Nobody, not one single person:

Me: okay hear me out... is it just me or is kissing inefficient, that's where my food goes. I can't snack if you keep putting your mouth on mine for no reason.

#aromantic #aro confusion #idk kisses for the sake of kissing confuse me #also sometimes even pecks are kinda wet or sticky #if your lipgloss or chapstick isn’t mint flavored don't peck me on the lips #i will accept fruit flavors that taste like the fruit

[dorseaa]

so what if, only what if, i want to be more than your friend but still just ur friend?? Like im asking you to be my friend, as if we're 7, i know you are my friend would you be more than my friend but still juat a friend??

#Aro confusion #Aromantic #QPR

[aro-and-ace-stuff]

I'm aro and autistic which means that I will talk about romance as a very strange and confusing social and psychological phenomenon, and ask allo ppl questions like I'm in a field research, in a normal conversation.

#aro #aromantic #i put romance under a microscope and i'm suprised and confused and disgusted and intrigued

[no-nightingalez]

I don’t understand the concept of sex as the natural progression of romance. I understand having sex, I understand how it can be romantic, I just don’t understand how it is seen as the only course that romance takes.

Like love confessions immediately turning to sex is always so ???????? to me. Like ok get it I guess but how did we get here???

#it’s just very confusing to me #i don’t quite get how romance and sex are connected #to me those are two very disconnected things #like yeah i could probably hook up with a hot girl at a club #but i don’t think id ever confess my love to someone and immediately #jump their bones or whatever #what even is love actually #might be aro #idk #asexual #aroace #cw sex mention #asexuality #cw sexuality #arospec #acespec #my txt

[p1x3l3d]

My friends talking about their relationships:

Me:

#arospec #aspec #acespec #ace #aroace #aro #aro ace #aromantic #asexual #lgbt #lgbtqia #lgbtq+ #romance #confused

[meowzet]

hearing [heteronormative] people talk about romantic relationships will never not be confusing

#huh??? #so many rules… and for what?? #beyond confusing #queer #going to tag my lovely aspecs because y’all understand what i mean :3 #aspec #ace #asexual #aroace #aro #aromantic #<2 to you all #i’ll also throw in a #queerplatonic #my meows

[ivydbomb]

I’ve been seeing a massive influx of Aroace posts. I am Aroace and completely unaware of what’s going on. What poll? What discourse? What happened 😭 do we need to invade another country again? Isn’t it the darn year of the dragon? DO I GOTTA BURN SOMEBODY????

#aroace #aro rights #aromantic #asexual #ace rights #ace #aspec #arospec #aromanticism #aroallo #aro pride #IM CONFUSED HELP

[aromantic-diaries]

There's people who think aromanticism isn't real but my brother in christ i'm not even sure if romance is real but you don't see me bugging people about it

#aro #aromantic #arospec #we are both equally confused by eachother hallelujah live and let live i'm just minding my business

[fanvoidkeith]

sometimes being aroacespec is confusing. what do you mean, most people can tell the difference between platonic and romantic and sexual attraction? what do you mean people don't "choose" crushes? what do you mean that people can imagine themselves in a physical situation with someone else?? isn't dating just Friendship Plus??? hell, isn't marriage just Friendship Plus?????????

what do they mean??????????? what are feelings???? why am i so confused????????

*edit: changed "aroace" to "aroacespec", since several aromantic people felt that this was not an Aromantic Feeling. i see you, i hear you, and so i changed it to be more accurate to me personally, since i am Confused About Feelings Always

#void keith talks #aroace #aromantic #asexual #aro #ace #aromantic asexual #i'm so confused as an autistic aroace person #about every emotion i have about another person ever #and i also read a lot of romance so like. i know what romance is *supposed* to look like #i know the ideal and the not ideal #but i have no idea about any sort of romantic social cues irl #because i'm bad with social cues. i miss them a lot or i misinterpret them #i'm good with body language because i was taught a lot of it early #but social cues are different and some change over time which is INCREDIBLY confusing #and also like? i don't feel stable enough or mentally healthy enough to be in a relationship #i feel like it would be unfair for a potential partner(s) for them to be in a relationship with me #because i just Don't Have My Shit Together. like at all #i Only Like Fictional People That Way #fictoromantic #lgbt #lgbtq #lgbt+ #lgbtq+ #lgbtqia #lgbtqia+ #arospec #aromantic spectrum #aroacespec

[growinguparo]

I relate to that person who thought people made up romantic attraction to justify sexual attraction (which you don’t need to do), tbh a part of me still has trouble believing they don’t at least exaggerate it . I thought, like, if they are feeling both types of attraction toward the same person that’s quite a coincidence, before I realized that for most people they’re connected or whatever. It’s just so hard to wrap my mind around it.

referencing this post

#every-reason-shes-fine #asexuality #aro confusion

[vroomvroomwee]

As an aroace I have a genuine question: why do people kiss?

It's so weird man. You just mush faces? Literally why? And everyone acts like it's taking you to Heavens doorstep. How? You're in someone's saliva and it's messy and awkward. Why do that when you can gaze into each other's eyes or HUG?

#confused aroace here #ace #aro #asexual #aromantic #asexuality #aromanticism #aroace #aspec

[aroace-and-has-a-mace]

let aromantics raise the dead

#aromantic #aro #aro people are very cool #not to be confused with aromatic #we don’t smell nice #well maybe we do but it’s not related to us being aro #or is it

[angryaromantics]

There really does come a point when you've been aromantic long enough that you no longer wish you weren't. You will learn to navigate amatanormative society, and you'll carve a little piece out of it where you can be happy. The happiness you find might look different than the average alloro person's, but that's okay. It won't be theirs, it'll be yours. And it's worth the struggle and uncertainty getting there. I promise 🌱🌻

#koko thinkin thots #aromantic #aro #actually aro #aromantic positivity #I'm just thinking about how much happier and settled I've been this past year Especially in contrast to when i was 16-22 dazed and confused #sure I'm still pissed off a lot but there's a joy in that too!!!!!

[fun-k-boards]

I've never understood the excitement around marriage. I've never understood the 'rush' around the idea of a relationship. I've never understood the heartbreak or annoyance people feel when they're alone for valentine's day, or when their partner doesn't give them a gift for it. I've never understood why someone would like kissing with their tongues or on the lips. I've never understood why naked bodies are sexual. I've never understood why I should feel my world shatter when someone rejects me. I've never understood why I should be expected to 'just give the relationship a try' when someone confesses to me. I've never understood why friends will demean someone by implying they just 'aren't good enough' because their friend got rejected by that person, no matter how gentle or respectful the rejection was.

I've never understood why sex and romance need to be brought up and hyper focused on in every conversation imaginable.

I'll probably never understand.

#aromantic #aro #asexual #ace #aroace #acearo #there's nothing wrong with people who enjoy romance or sex by the way #this is kind of just a vent post #i guess? #im sort of just confused about romance snd sex so thats what this is about #to be clear i dont want to experience either #im not at all ashamed to be aroace