#for my family

[insomniac-ships]

There's something hopeful and empowering about saying "no, the cycle of abuse ends with me."

#t.k. talks #tw abuse mention #i refuse to become my father #i refuse to hurt others the way he's hurt me #i refuse to carry this torch #i will be better #for my friends #for my family #for my amazing wifey #i WILL be better #the cycle stops here #recovery #therapy #abuse survivor #emotional abuse #verbal abuse #proship #im so sorry for the rambling #the last few days have been a lot

[beyondglass]

Me when I get soup for my family

#it's just soup #for my family

[tedoculus]

#I cooked #thanksgiving #dinner #for my family

[king-author]

Do you think when it’s slow the Old Guard volunteer at abortion clinics?

I can totally see Nicky giving words of wisdom to scared patients. Andy deals with the protestors. Nothing fatal but enough to scare them off (when Nicky isn’t looking) I believe both Nicky and Joe are medically trained. Andy too but probably just triage.

Back in the day, Andy and Quhyn performed abortions for women in their village, but back then is was much less precise. A collection of herbs, a long needle. Now, she lets the experts handle it.

Tbh Booker seems pretty pro-life to me but once he saw first hand how much damage pregnancy can do to a person, he does what he can to help out. Covering the patients faces as they come for treatment, calming them with kind words.

And good, kind Nile, new to the gang but not to the United States, sees the news that the right to abortion has been stripped from U.S. citizens and turns to Andy. “How can I help?”

#this is my meditation #I am so fucking scared #for my friends #for my family #but I love the old guard #the old guard #tog #nile freeman #andromache the scythian #booker #joe and Nicky #immortal husbands #yusuf al kaysani #niccolo di genova #trigger warning #abortion

[tweething]

the mourning bells have been ringing

not just since this morning's phone call

but since that stubborn lump pulled the rope

set a pace to our grief and its growth

my grandmother lived as well as she could

spun pure class from this world's raw material

you couldn't catch her without her pearls of wisdom

a hospital wouldn't suit her even still

as she took her dying breath in her boudoir

her three children took on the legacy of her potential

her delicate hands, her keen eyes, her strong head

i promise her they will never fall into disuse

the sun has finally set on my grandmother

the bells have stopped ringing

i release her with this topical psalm

in the silence of our separation

#for my grandma #for my family

[bookslutskye]

so i recently got top surgery and this was on my discharge papers after a mild complication

#me and my family have been laughing about this nonstop #transmasc #top surgery #book talks

[tigerjpg]

nothing makes me go "ooooh we are NOT the same" quite like reading some post about how people talk with their parents about their interests. what do you mean you told your father about stevebucky. what do you mean he asked further questions

#i won a poetry contest years ago and not a single person in my family asked what it was about. you're an alien to me #not even saying this in a self pitying way i just can't conceive of a dynamic like that

[notherpuppet]

Three darling daughters #girldad

#I do hc that alastor immediately changes his tune when someone compliments him #found family trope ftw #hazbin hotel #hazbin hotel fanart #charlie morningstar #Vaggie #chaggie #niffty #alastor #angel dust #husk #my doods #liked by creator #she reposted it!

[cookiekappa]

Klimt + The Addams Family

#it just feels right 2 me #the addams family #morticia addams #gomez addams #morticia and gomez #my art

[multidimensional-trashcan]

THE QUEEN'S BEEN DEAD FOR ONE SLUTTY SLUTTY YEAR!

#queen elizabeth ii #the queen is dead #british royals #british royal family #queen elizabeth #royals #my post

[sunglassesmish]

no judgements at all here. i was thinking about the possibility of moving out and wanted to know what age other people did

#i don’t know a lot of what i want in the future but i do know i want to at least get my driver’s license and have my own place #hopefully in the next few years after university #in my family it’s typical to get married and then move out but i’m not sure if i ever will so i want to at least live by myself

[cemeterything]

are we still doing this because i have a late submission

#🐉 #this is less about fan content and more about that awful lazy one size fits all #'10 years later theyre happily married with a cute little nuclear family' trope #because ive read some genuinely incredible fics about characters who would Not fucking have kids #ending up with accidental pregnancy scares or child acquisitions that get treated with all the nuance #and thoughtful handling they deserve #but also. i reread one of my favourite fics yesterday and when one character jokingly brought up the idea of children #and the other reacted with genuine visceral disgust and said what hideously awful parents theyd be #i lit up like a fucking christmas tree

[teaandspite]

#tumblr polls #curses #family #i do! #on one side of my dad’s family #but i lived bitch

[nymph1e]

On Discomfort and Morality

My father finds gay men uncomfortable.

He's told me before that it's like a knee-jerk for him. Something he doesn't consciously control. He sees two men behaving romantically, and his body reacts with mild discomfort.

In the 1960s, when he was in high school, most of the boys in his form thought he was gay on the simple fact that he wasn't homophobic. He wouldn't participate in insulting queer people, he didn't care if someone was gay, he wouldn't have a problem hanging out with gay people. So people thought he was gay. That's how prevalent homophobia was in his formative years.

When I was 10, my dad told me very seriously that Holmes and Watson were gay. That it was obvious from the literature and the time period that they were meant to be a gay couple. When I was 14 and I came out to my parents as bi, when my mum was upset my dad ripped into her for it. Told her that she was being stupid, that it was my life to live how I wanted to and that she needed to get over herself.

My dad formed my views on censorship: that being that it was completely ridiculous and thoroughly evil. He didn't believe in censorship of any kind. If I asked him a question about sex, he answered it honestly. When I was 12 and I asked him about homosexuality, still young and uncertain, he told me that there was nothing wrong with it. That it was just how some people were. That there was likely an evolutionary reason for it. And that for some people it was uncomfortable on an instinctual level.

He taught me that just because you're uncomfortable with something, doesn't make it wrong. He also taught me that most people don't understand this.

I see a lot of this on the internet as of the last few years. The anti shipping movement, the terf movement, the anti ace movement. It all stems from discomfort that people have crossed wires into believing means wrong. Really every -ism and -phobia out there stems from this same fundamental aspect of humanity.

The next time you see something and you automatically think it's disgusting, or wrong, or immoral, I invite you to ask yourself: is this actually wrong or does this just make me uncomfortable?

#shipping discourse #anti censorship #anti terf #my mum isn't homophobic #she was upset because she thought it meant i couldnt have children or a family #and this is something important to her #she was also not upset around me but to my dad in private

[hanavbara]

wednesday as anime 🖤🕷️🕸️

#wednesday #wednesdayedit #wenclair #jenna ortega #wednesday addams #emma myers #fanart #art #my art #the addams family #wednesday netflix #enid sinclair

[laughingcatwrites]

As a reminder that good exists out there, a coworker recently confessed to me that he found out his child is questioning their identity (kid's gender redacted for this post). The kid is keeping it from him, so he can't say anything to them or show that he knows, but he's doing his best to get mentally prepared and educated so that he'll be ready whenever his kid does feel comfortable enough come to him.

For context, this guy is a big, bulky middle aged dude who loves sports and typical outdoor "manly" activities. As his coworker and friend, I know he's a kind and sweet teddy bear of a person, but his kid probably views him as a stern, authoritarian figure, the way most teenagers view their parents. His family lives in a conservative area, so I'm sure between that, their dad's looks and interests, and the fact that their dad is a Figure of Authority, the kid is worried that they won't be accepted.

But you know what? When he found out about his kid, the first thing he did was reach out to his closest queer friend and ask for resources for parents of questioning children. His biggest fears are that his kid will be bullied or discriminated against and won't feel comfortable enough to be themself. His second action was to find himself a mentor in another parent who went the same situation (kid coming out in a conservative town). The other person is preparing him for some of the struggles his kid may face and the fights he may need to take on as a parent to make sure his kid is safe and treated well.

Something I want to emphasize for people focused on language as the primary method of allyship is that when we spoke, he used some outdated terms and thoughts about gender and sexuality. That does not make him bad. These were the terms and thinking used about questioning teenagers when he was growing up and he never needed to learn more current ones. But now that he does have that need, he's throwing himself in head first because that's his kid and he's darn well going to make sure that his kid feels welcomed and has a safe place to be themselves even if they never come out to him.

#I'm so proud and happy for my coworker and I've been trying to figure out how to let him know how amazing I think he is #what gets me the most is that he's keeping this super down low to avoid giving any hints to his kid #he has a lot of queer friends so he already is known as an ally but there's always a chance it will be different if it's family #and he took that chance and crumpled it up into a ball and slam dunked it into the garbage for three points #and decided that even if his kid wants to hide it from him for the rest of his life he will still do what he can to make their life better #pflag #parents doing their best #parenting win #good news #allyship