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best-fictional-cat · 10 months

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Alright I'm here to abuse my status of having a somewhat decent following of cat appreciators to talk about this nice little browser game

Because they're in beta and usually closed, but they're opening for new players from Fri June 23rd at 18:00 to Sun June 25th at 18:00 server time (which is conveniently displayed right at the top of the page)

Someone might remember this game from the competition, because we had a competitor from there, but ANYWAY I've been playing this game since February and just want to share in case anyone else wants to check it out!!

So, meet Nestor

Nestor is a giant moose with many floating eyes who came to Earth and took not-cats (basically hyper-sentient cats that still very much act like cats) to their home world, and that's where the game starts. You create your own cat (lots of genetics options and various pronouns!) and start your own village!! There's actually some deep and we'll thought-out lore going on, still in development.

Every day there are tasks you may do: check up on Nestor for a free daily gift which might include a cat or a kitten to adopt; feed your cats to increase their stats; make kitties do some jobs like gathering, hunting, even arts and crafts! to get resources; do daily scenarios which are basically very wholesome textual kitty interactions which can go different ways depending on your choice and give you a reward or intercat relationship change (they can have different options available based on the cats personalities!!!); check mail to see if anyone's sent anything; and they're going to implement something with magic at some point because the game is still in development!!!

Some fun scenarios I got just today:

This game also has such mechanics as something like a tabletop rpg adventure you do to get rewards, decorating your village, building stuff that unlocks new jobs and perks, electing a mayor or having your cats bote for one, getting your cats to become friends, enemies, partners and having or adopting little kitties!! Also there's tons of clothes to dress your cats up in.

Like this rainbow mustache I got from Nestor on April Fool's!

A rabbit! Or a whole bunch of pigeons!!!

And there's a whole shop (in-game currency) dedicated to pride-themed clothes!

And other things. I actually probably have no idea about half the things you can do, but there's a lot of guides! The game has so much to it while being super-chill! Perfect for, say, commute, or just taking a break from stuff. Oh, and there are also seasonal events (in-game seasons are shorter than irl ones) which can give you unique stuff and collectables!

Some resources I really like for their cat puns (also each season you can get different resources):

Oh, and also there are forums and an entire extremely friendly community there! There's a thread where you can share pics of your irl cats, and a not-cat roleplay one, and lots of others! And they have very fun emotes, here's some examples:

I'm trying not to go on about it for ages, but stuff just keeps coming to mind! Anyway, it's definitely worth checking out!

#pixel cats end #also you can message people and send gifts #oh and in case anybody wants to add me as a friend there it's KJMellow #I don't normally chat tho just hop in to do the daily tasks and chill :D

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shamelesstragedyenjoyer · 11 days

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Now I'm curious, how would you rank the batfam based on how you'd get along irl??

In a scenario where I know their secret identities, and there’s a professional, almost co-workers-like dynamic, I think it'd varie greatly from one wherein which vigilante roles are completely absent. Among those I'd resonate with most (in the event I was born in their world) are Stephanie Brown, Duke Thomas, and Jason Todd. It's mainly due to shared backgrounds and similar upbringings, I think. Conversely, interactions with Bruce Wayne, Dick Grayson, and Damian Wayne might be more difficult for me. Strained, even, due to differences in ethical frameworks, perspectives, class understanding and overall core values. So there's two ratings; one where I'm in their AU and one where they're in mine.

Alfred Pennyworth: 4/10 - He might perceive some of my approaches as unorthodox, but I believe he would grasp the reasoning behind them. Our interactions would be limited primarily to joint missions. We wouldn't be close. | 6/10 In my world about 60% of elderly people seem drawn to recounting their youth to me, perhaps due to my perceived trustworthiness, and I like to think he'd be part of that demographic.

Bruce Wayne: 2/10 - Disagreements on methodology would likely hinder rapport, especially given my skepticism toward billionaires, which might result in minimal interactions outside of vigilante duties. | 1/10. I'd see him as a man-whore.

Dick Grayson: 3/10 - Our interactions would likely be brief and casual, without the potential for friendship. His typical millennial demeanor might clash with my sense of humor. But he reminds me of my older sister, so I can't rate him lower than a 2. The age gap might lead him to treat me like a younger sibling, which I'd find condescending. Certainly not someone I would befriend. | 2/10 My personal envy would breed hostility, resulting in a reciprocal cycle of unkindness between us.

Jason Todd: 8/10 - Especially in a context where we were familiar with each other before his whole "being-adopted-by-Batman" thing. He'd likely resonate with my approach to tasks and comprehend the motivations driving my actions. We're not THAT far apart in age so he'd get my humor, I think. | 4/10 In my world however, because I'd be nervous and there would be a lack of common ground between us without vigilantism.

Cassandra Cain: 2/10 - It would unsettle me to realize she can discern my emotions merely by observing me. While I'm generally transparent, this level of insight would make me uneasy, prompting me to steer clear of her. | 7/10 She shares some personality traits of one of my closest friends. Given my penchant for chatter and her inclination to listen, we'd likely complement each other well and have a harmonious friendship.

Tim Drake: 1/10- He wouldn't understand why I dislike him. And I wouldn't have an explanation. | 0/10. Earth isn't big enough for the both of us (completely one sided beef).

Stephanie Brown: 6/10 - She'd get how I roll, but Tim might have complained to her about me not being nice, so she'd be protective of him. | 10/10 We'd be the kind of girls who were super close in middle school, maybe even a bit too much. We'd drift apart in high school or college but still think about each other now and then, though not enough to reach out and become friends again.

Damian Wayne: 1/10 - Likely would perceive me negatively, interactions would be minimal. | 0/10 I just don't see us getting along.

Duke Thomas: 9/10 - He'd totally get my approach and might even be up for joining in (Bruce would see me as a bad influence). We'd both be game for pursuing each other's not-so-great ideas. Would have tons of fun but also engage in meaningful discussions about race, religion, politics, economics, society, art and allat. | 7/10 I can’t see myself being 100% comfortable around a man despite that, so that's how far it'll get, sue me !

Barbara Gordon: 4/10 - Like Dick, she'd likely see me as a kid, which would irk me because I'd want to be seen as an equal. However, since she's a woman, it'd feels a tad less patronizing and more maternal, so she gets one extra point in my book. | 6/10 She's that nice employee at the bookstore who takes my search for a specific book I don’t remember the name of super seriously. But we would not be friends.

To @voiddaisy who asked me a similar question, this is for you too ! Thanks for the ask !

#batman comics #batfam #batman #jason todd #tim drake #dick grayson #signal #duke thomas #cassandra cain #alfred pennyworth

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ayphyx · 17 days

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tell me ab ur ocs.

YIPPEE

Ok so i actually have a shit ton of oc but the main ones are Maria and Aelius as they are the main characters of a story I’m making. My friend’s oc Romeo is also important to the story

I have two oc stories, one doesn’t really have a name but basically takes place over tens of years in medieval Europe (basic i know) but it follows the rivalry between a knight named Courage and an “oracle” named Destiny. They’re both immortal btw and they’re basically humanized concepts of courage and destiny. I do have a drawing of Destiny posted. It should be in my “oc: destiny” tag.

The other story is actually a collection of stories. The series is called god & goddesses bc i don’t have a permanent name for it.

So far there’s 4 stories which are all interconnected and two are sorta interconnected but the most developed, important, and oldest one (4 years old!!) is the last story.

I’ll try to summarize it in a way that is still understandable but it’s basically colonization and genocide through the eyes of a god.

Ok some background information bc you’re gonna need it:

There are several religions existing in the world. These religions are divided into major (large) religions and minor (small, folk) religions. Every god from every religion (granted that they have enough believers) exist

Gods from the major religions (major gods) created something called the Major Pantheon which is consisted of every major god

The major gods created a sort of government to basically make sure major conflicts between religions don’t break out

The people in the government are called Higher Gods

There are laws in the major pantheon that apply to all gods

There is a social hierarchy but its not as important to this story

I’m not gonna list all the laws out but the important ones are (the bully points after this isn’t indented bc idk how to indent on mobile):

Gods are not allowed to create cults, encourage the creation of cults, or engage with cult members

Gods are only allowed minor interactions with humans (there’s more to this law but the rest isn’t that important to the story)

Maria is a major goddess of spring, she has a younger sister, Anastasia, and two older sisters, Tatiana and Olya (if you recognize these names from somewhere, no you don’t). Theta recall based off of seasons, Tatiana is especially important because she is also a higher god. She is also mixed white and indigenous (located around Eastern Europe and north Asia)

Aelius is a sun god from another religion (which i will call the Old Religion). While he is powerful and trusted, he is not a higher god. He is white (would be Mediterranean irl)

Romeo is in love with Aelius and a human, he is a poc

It’s told as a myth from a young woman, a foreigner, to a boy who’s native to the village the woman has immigrated to.

The myth tells the tale of Maria who is forced to leave her home and disguise herself as a human after Aelius destabilizes the major pantheon, murders and influences gods to murder each other, including Maria’s family. After the village she was hiding in is taken over by Aelius’s soldiers, Maria is forced to relocate to the Empire which is under Aelius’s control. There she finds an underground revolution and joins in. When the Revolution breaks out, it seems to have a chance of actually succeeding until the military is called in and crushes the Revolution in a massacre. Maria is distraught but then creates a plan to infiltrate the religious system and get close enough to kill Aelius. She is taken in as a seamstress’s apprentice. She eventually meets a man named Romeo who wanders in, wanting to be taught how to sew. They end up striking a friendship and Maria becomes comfortable enough to talk about her ideals and goals of revolution. Turns out, Romeo is actually the leader of Aelius’s religion, and disguised himself as a commoner to escape his role that he feels uncomfortable and unfit for. Romeo doesn’t dare to expose his identity but he does end up internalizing some of Maria’s beliefs and working to subtly implement them. Maria does eventually find Romeo’s true identity and feel betrayed but decides to use her friendship with Romeo to her advantage. Before maria kickstarts the revolution, she does confront Romeo about being in universe pope, they basically talk it out and shit. Maria begins the revolution by fighting and murdering Aelius and then sets fire to the capital of the empire.

There’s more to this and i can explain it to you in detail if you want but yeah that’s basically the summary of story 4 of g&g. I also would love to talk about certain themes of story 4 like divinity as dehumanization if you want me to. I also have several Pinterest boards of Maria, Aelius, Destiny, courage, and more if you want me to share them to you. 👍👍👍

My oc tags start with “oc:” if you want to know a little bit more about their personality through tumblr text posts. Aelius also used to be called sunny so when you see “oc: sunny” that means Aelius

Have a wip of Maria burning down the capital as an extra for reading literally all of this

#oc: Maria #oc: Aelius #oc: courage #oc: destiny #TYSM FOR ASKING ABOUT MY OCS #SORRY THIS IS SO LONG #AND TOOK SO LONG TO WRITE #long post #oc stuff

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in-newjersey · 1 year

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Have some takes on BMC personality types:

So as we know, the binary of introvert/extrovert for real people is largely constructed, or at least is not as discreet as is often portrayed, but for the purposes of fictional people (especially ones from theater, designed to be open-ended enough for actors to choose to inhabit in different ways) we'll say we can use it.

with that in mind:

I know Jeremy often gets portrayed/described as introverted - kind of shy, nerdy, awkward, anxious, I can get why this would seem like stereotypical "introvert" traits

Whereas often, if not excessively, Michael gets cast as more extroverted: he's a lot more confident, passionate, and energetic, so makes sense for superficial and stereotypical traits....

But I posit that they're the opposites, just in different settings/life situations that suit their personalities differently

Jeremy at heart is an extrovert - he craves social and interpersonal interaction, and specifically a lot of it.....but he's not getting it. Now, this translates in his high schooler brain as "being popular:" when everyone likes you, you'll have tons of friends and never be lonely, right? Of course, a lot of the play is him learning that that's not necessarily the case. However, we can't deny that his loneliness is not based on quality of his relationships, but quantity/amount of time he gets to spend with other people. Which isn't a bad thing! People can be and often are gregarious by nature, that's normal and a perfectly appropriate way to be.

(I know myself, if I go too long without being in some kind of social setting, I start to wilt like a plant (COVID lockdown wasn't pleasant; I actually started liking my essential-worker retail position because at least I got to talk to people))

All this in mind, I would say Jeremy actually is just a very-unfulfilled extrovert; I think this is why headcanons about him getting into theater/having more friends feel so right and satisfying for his arc

By contrast, Michael is an introvert who is, luckily, perfectly in his element for his living and social situation. We see from the play he has one friend that he loves and more or less gets everything he needs from in that part of his life. He has his moms, who as far as we know are a neutral-to-positive force. And he has his online friends from WoW etc. The balance between these three - and I do think, subtly, we get the impression that Michael spends time away from Jeremy with his online friends, which Jeremy subtly resents even if he doesn't realize/voice it - suggests that while Michael's personal emotional/social outlet needs are pretty low, he's getting them satisfied. It's why his one IRL friend ditching him hurt so bad: it's not that he was unstable beforehand or anything, it's that one of the three pillars of his stability got yanked out.

Therefore, Michael's confidence/happy-go-lucky/bubbly attitude is because he's an introvert with most of his needs being met at the outset of the story

I also think, furthermore, that this is one of the roots of their conflict in the play; being teenagers and still working out the world, they haven't quite learned that despite knowing each other for most of their lives, their personality styles are actually quite different: this is why Michael doesn't really understand why Jeremy wants to change so much, and why Jeremy thinks Michael looks down on him for wanting to change

This is not to undermine other takes on the characters - I have ranted at length about the wonderful mutability of theater in that regard - but I think from the text itself, this reading/characterization actually explains a lot of their motivations and finer points in the story

#soliloquy #be more chill #bmc #I promise I think about other characters too but these two get a the essays #it is what it is #jeremy heere #michael mell #theater

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cozymochi · 7 months

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🌻 >:)

IM FOUND ONE OF THESE MEMES IN MY DRAFts! Im gonna rank my experiences in the major fandoms i’ve engaged with.

🩵 YUGIOH! - Second longest running fascination. Upside!! Made life long friends. DOWNSIDE!! Was my first go at online engagement and in those 10 years so much happened that I still can’t help but feel a little sour. …Though ygo back in the day wasn’t good at tag comments, so I didn’t even know those were a thing for years until I branched out. 5/10. But grows to a 7/10 because i’ve settled into a niche area with so few people that it’s now a silly little club. 💕

🧡 Dragon Ball/Z - GENUINE CHAOS. Started off slow but intensified hard cuz get who got involved while Super was airing??? (I didn’t watch it lol), so the discourse and fighting was at an all time high. I have no idea how I even survived this in retrospect. My slight association with people netted me troll asks and my liking of Yamcha also set me up for those. …and frequent art reposting, and quite a few bizarre interactions. Pretty sure my art and edits have circulated more in latin america than I even know. This was also pre-tumblr purge so the amount of nsfw that got thrown my way is… something. That said!! Made also really good friends 💕 and DB/Z probably desensitized me to longer form discussions. 5/10 for insanity, but 8/10 for good reception and VERY PEAK and generous humans.

I think dbz hardened me.

💚 Invader Zim- started off fun (mostly irl with my friendo from days of YGO), but quickly devolved into territory that tested my patience. WHY ON EARTH THIS SERIES’ CONSUMERS had such a huge morality high ground base is beyond me. It’s this fandoms fault I learned about certain modern day online discourse terms and what instilled an irrational posting fear for a year lol. Fun at first and there’s super creative and receptive folk (then those people got kicked out) and left the most insufferable beings imaginable. There’s no in between. Shoutout to all 3 friends made who are still peak. 3/10, if I ever finish any remaining projects or decide to bite the bullet and show completed work, i’m not engaging again. The base just skews somewhere I can’t handle. Which is crazy given the ABOVE contenders have, on paper, done so much more.

dbz hardened me but iz weakened me. Which is probably why i need the formers bootcamp back. Don’t think I’m as fearful now, but i’ll still be salty.

💜 Twisted Wonderland - this is a work in progress experience. Will require further evaluation if all of the above experiences haven’t set my standards. Will stay in my corner. So far it’s 6/10 in vibes (they’re much calmer than the last one), tho I question how much of the interest is from what i do vs. what I did for others. Haven’t shared a ton of opinions yet and god knows lol we don’t want that /s. Still recovering from the former making me wanna just not do much. Baby steps I suppose.

💙 - Sonic The Hedgehog: This is a cheat, I have never interacted with the fandom directly (purely by happenstance, so thankfully no traces exist), but I have been into this since I was a child with no issues. So by default this is the best one. 10/10, didn’t engage, but I do lurk. Though all the stuff I see on tweeter isn’t exactly anything out of the norm for fandoms in general to do, so it weirds me out that people rag on this one for just kinda talking amongst themselves about innocuous things.

“omg this fandom is arguing over QUILL length ughhh can they never be pleased [30 yt videos about this drop]” ngl, this just feels like par for the course junk fandoms do. It really feels no different from DBZ where people go ham about the art style changes and which one is better. Or stupid shit in IZ where they fight about comics vs movie vs show. Like??? The only major difference here is that StH has more people in it (by the millions).

So literally nothing these folk do or say strikes me as anything more serious than what other fandoms already do??? Its just more outsiders see it then churn out content and perpetuate something worse from what’s honestly….pretty tame stuff. Maybe it’s just twitter’s setup given that’s all folk talk about.

#cozy texts #weirdly enough twst kinda involves things i always liked and went nuts for-#snuggles right in.#Side note: ever think about how the only visibility folk have is when u actively post #so when u dont people will just assume any other feelings dont exist?#no??? okay. but just keep that in mind lol #probably 70% of my experiences are behind closed doors

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rivetgoth · 2 years

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The thing with goth gatekeeping “discourse” is that literally all of it very easily dissipates and the truth becomes abundantly obvious if you actually engage with the community in real life in any meaningful way rather than your entire concept of “goth” coming from like online aesthetic images and like selfies you see in the instagram goth tag or ootd videos from rich kids on tiktok… if you are actually participating IRL in the scene it’s quite obvious very fast it’s about the music because you won’t be able to find a “goth space” that ISN’T centered around the music. Clubs and concerts are the most common avenue for goth socializing but even like, local goth stores… are playing the music over the store speakers, selling band shirts and patches and stickers and buttons, advertising upcoming shows, etc… I just watched a video about a goth cafe that had tables decorated after various major goth album covers like The Cure’s Disintegration and Bauhaus’ Bela Lugosi’s Dead single. It’s kind of unavoidable.

And like, realistically within those spaces nobody is “gatekeeping” baby bats and newcomers from entering, and if some music guy(TM) comes up and tries to do the whole “if you’re a real Sisters of Mercy fan name a song of theirs besides Lucretia My Reflection🥴” literally anyone would agree they’re being a dick lol. And hell, I’ll even go a step further and say that in a LOT of goth spaces, you will meet people who are openly not goth and nobody gives a shit. Tons of goth spaces are also fetish/kink spaces and I’ve known a decent chunk of people that basically exclusively go for that. I’ve met plenty of people who will admit this music isn’t their biggest thing but they just have fun going out dancing, they enjoy going out with friends who like it more than them, etc. Fuck, I have honestly known guys who show up to the club specifically cuz they’re into goth girls and they’re totally accepted cuz they’re chill and know how to act! Nobody is giving anyone shit for being a baby bat or a non-goth or whatever, and the majority of people (especially the artists/DJs/hosts/etc) are just happy to have people coming out and supporting the scene (including financially!).

That said it also kinda undoes the weirdness of the ultra extreme trad goth purist gatekeepers who honestly also come across as chronically online— I’m talking the guys on Reddit who sit around circlejerking about nothing but oldskool goth which basically amounts to reposting the same damn Bauhaus song 50 times and squabbling about whether or not “Disintegration is actually goth” because it’s “after the Cure stopped being post-punk.” Like the guys who genuinely seem to believe that goth music should be capped at like 1985 at the very damn latest and/or if it doesn’t sound exactly like goth post-punk from 1981 it’s not real goth music, “darkwave is inspired by goth but it’s not real goth music,” insisting that there is a clear divide between genres and subcultures and no industrial band will ever be goth and vise versa etc etc. These people also play stupid a lot of the time and push the “goth is a music subculture” to the furthest extreme of “nothing else is ‘actually goth,’ there is no goth ‘culture’ or ‘lifestyle,’ those things are just incidental and it’s exclusively about the music [which is 5 bands from the late 70s] 🙄.” It’s extremely detached from reality and is also behavior that can be easily dispelled and ignored if you just fucking go outside and interact with your local goth scene in good faith.

It’s a community lol it’s really not that complicated. It’s a music-based community. Goth events will have music spanning many genres and that doesn’t mean that fucking Dead or Alive or KMFDM are trad goth classics but it also means that they serve a place within the goth community because of the overlap that has existed historically. Goth nights always include darkwave, dark electronic, dark synthpop, new romantic, gothic metal, EBM, etc, alongside the classic post-punk music… There are key fixtures to the style and fashion that you’ll undoubtedly see, and this will vary by local goth scene too! There’s often a heavy emphasis or overlap with the local kink/fetish scene including in the way people dress. There is a lot of overlap with magic practitioners and witches and paganism and divination. But it’s about about the music that’s bringing people together… It is genuinely an issue that can 100% be solved by going outside and engaging authentically with your local scene with an open mind and heart 😭

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dykeotomy · 2 years

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i find self-proclaimed "marxists/communists/socialists" funny bc they're the same group who are hardcore TRAs but it shows they haven't read actual socialist/communist theory. Socialists/communists (if the main theorists were alive today) would be called "swerfs/terfs/misandrists" by the self-proclaimed "marxists" today lol communism/socialism is not pro-TRAs & it tells me all i need to know when ppl conflate the two (they don't read theory & aren't actual socialist/communist)

yeah lol. i actually find this an interesting topic because one of my close friends is a hardcore marxist (has read a ton of theory, is involved with irl political organizing, etc), and here's a direct quote from her a couple weeks ago: "my ex was a shitty abusive person, but i still hope her transition is everything she wishes for." i'm not even exaggerating. she dated this man that emotionally manipulated her, cheated on her, and hit her and he recently came out as a trans lesbian and my friend is 100% supportive.

it's easy to say that most self-proclaimed marxists aren't actually involved critically with socialist/communist theory but i think a lot of people just come from this place where they have been so convinced that radfems are hateful that they don't want to associate with the one thing that is notoriously linked with us: gender criticism. i agree with you on your base point of how the main theorists would be much more closely aligned with radical feminism nowadays than any other branch of feminism, but i think there's a little more nuance to be found in how people interact with theory

#turning reblogs off bc my friend's info #it's not really that personal but i still would rather it stay off other ppl's blogs lol #asks #anti capitalism

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sullina · 1 year

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As someone who has a switch... there are a handful of games that make ot worth it. Totk, the og BOTW, Monster Hunter Rise: Sunbreak (altho base rise is on console too), and Splatoon 3. Some ppl probly like Smash Bros and Animal Crossing and Mario Kart too but those are the main ones I was interested in. Oh and Pokemon Scarlet/Violet and Legends Arceus

I already have botw on the wiiu (don't judge me), that monster hunter sounds interesting, and i did like the smash game for the wii, mainly the story mode.

I got the first splatoon a few years ago and didn't reay like it at all, mario kart isn't really fun unless you play with friends (which i don't have a lot of irl), I'm really a fan of animal crossing and with the pokemon games in recent years, i feel like they're just getting worse and worse :/

I like the older zelda games, because of the puzzles throughout the worlds and because of the unique items you got in each temple that would unlock new secrets and places, and of course the big temples. Botw had pretty much none of these things, and no, 900 korok seeds don't count, because they don't do anything once you maxed out your bag space.

One of the first zelda games i played was twilight princess, which i loved. That reminds me, one of the things that botw also lacked was a companion character, which for me is a pretty big part of the game actually. And there's usually always some kind of central mechanic that the games are more or less built around. In twilight princess, it was the fact that you could turn into a wolf at will (though admittedly a bit later in the game i think), in skyward sword it was the flying and (admittedly very limited) interaction between the surface and sky.

But the central mechanic in botw was just... climbing. Which gets old really fast. Like, sure, you have an open world game, but getting around isn't really fun since you can only climb, walk/ride and glide. And the gliding is kinda fun, but eventually it just gets old, same with climbing. I would've preferred it if instead of giving us 100 outfits, there were items instead to enhance the basic abilities, because items can be taken on and off at will with a single button press without having to go into the menu for every single thing.

I also wasn't a fan of the shrines tbh. I felt the puzzles were too obvious and short most of the time and the reward was always the same, and trading the orbs in for heart or stamina containers was a bit annoying.

Also, this one's just a personl pet peeve, but i don't really like how links typical/default outfit color was changed from green to blue. Don't get me wrong, he looks good in blue, but like... nothing was wrong with green, you know?

One thing i also REALLY didn't like was the fact that you got all your runes at the start of the game and then that was it, there were no new mechanics throughout the entirety of the game. Which may appeal to some people, but for me that just made the whole game feel really same-y, like there were no new things. And I'm including the weapons, because sure there's tons of different weapons, but only three movesets, and the weapons were way too fragile, though i know I'm not alone in this point.

I could keep talking, but it's 3am, so I'll sum up what i wanted to say, which is that while botw wasn't a bad game, it wasn't really much of a zelda game and i didn't like it all that much, not enough to shell out more than 300€ for the sequel that seems to have all the same problems from what I've seen so far. But maybe I'll change my opinion, idk. If you want more of my ramblings on botw, you'll have to wait until tomorrow.

#sullina asks #zelda botw #zelda totk

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sparring-spirals · 2 years

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Okay, so I recieved an ask discussing Marisha and Taliesin's interactions last ep, and while I'm not going to publish the ask because it has a level of speculation wrt cast relationships/interactions I'm not personally comfortable with, I think the question was genuine, so I'm going to say a few things.

Firstly, to answer the base question: I don't think Laudna's actions were out of character, actually. I've already got some speculations on why this behaviour can be considered new to what we've seen so far, but that's not the same as "out of character". I can think of some reasons that are interesting and add layers of complexity, and honestly: we're still pretty new to Laudna? I'm much more inclined to adjust my understanding of Laudna than feel that it was "out of character".

Secondly- and this is more broad. I think if you find yourself speculating or worrying in-depth about the casts interpersonal feelings, relationships, possible tension or bad blood, etc, its very important, and helpful, to remember a few things:

1- The cast are adults

2- The cast are professionals

3- The cast are friends.

4- The cast are full humans that we don't know personally

5- The cast are not their characters

And I mean this kindly! With Critical Role you devote many hours of your time to watching these people talk, they all roleplay VERY intensely, you might spend a ton of time picking apart and analysing the minutiae of character expressions, speech, interactions. And with the way the cast poke fun at each other both in and out of character, it makes sense the lines get blurred. But, quite frankly, that only makes it more important that you can separate the two, and conduct yourself responsibly with these kinds of things.

(more in depth thoughts below the cut. Sorry, this got LONG)

The cast are adults, the cast are friends, the cast are professionals. This is my main "take" whenever I see speculation about "is ____ mad at ___?" "does ______ resent ________?" "do you think ______ is feeling upset/sidelined/offended by _____?"

They are probably not genuinely unhappy with each other, they've been broadcasting this game live for 7 years and friends- actual, IRL friends, for longer. They presumably like each other, and are used to working things out with one another, personal and professional. They are adults, they probably know how to hash things out, instead of passive aggressively vibrating with tension at a table. They can talk to each other, they know how to talk to each other, they have to talk to each other because this is also a professional venture.

Momentary disagreements, friction, tense conversations, are going to happen in this kind of format, when they all rely heavily on improv, roleplay, and willingly engage with flawed characters and realistic interactions. If they put you on edge, or you feel unsure about them- that's fine! That's okay! But attributing them to cast interpersonal relationships, trying to anticipate tension or secret simmering tensions- is, in my personal opinion, deeply unhelpful, and only going to cause you grief. We see these people interacting, uncut, for 4 hour chunks. If you convince yourself of something- its going to be very easy to find more evidence, and then, you can't really do anything about it other than worry about the personal relationships of people you dont know.

So, for me, this is my thinking:

1- Tension is largely in character, and intentional, and the cast loves committing to it and know how to separate the two.

2- If it isn't, sometimes heat of the moment or roleplaying Vibes can factor in, and that makes sense, and again, the cast know how to separate the two.

3- Even if its something that extends out, or sticks, the cast know how to interface, check in, etc, with each other to address concerns and communicate, and will probably work it out.

4- It is their job, and their responsibility to do that, if something came up. Me doing rampant speculation and catastrophizing on the side does nothing but ruin my own experience.

5- Furthermore, they're actual people, and extending the analysis and speculation I do on their characters is... uncomfortable, and I personally don't want to do that.

6- They seem like reasonable enough people. They've got a good track record. It'll probably be okay.

So- I don't think you've got anything to worry about. But more importantly, for your own sanity, and enjoyment, remember that the cast are people- generally nice, reasonable, fully fleshed people we do not know, not their characters, or props or figureheads. And proceed accordingly.

#woof this got long. Initially i was going to leave the ask alone but i do think this separation is something some people struggle with so.#critical role #cr discourse #cr cast #spar speaks #c3e16 #cr spoilers #(in the barest sense)#anyway listen: its important to know how to consume media critically but also in a way that like. you are enjoying your media.#know how to separate your reactions and your assumptions from each other. and if you need to step away or arent enjoying something anymore:#thats okay! it doesnt make you bad. it doesnt make the media bad.#i dont think ill really follow up on this- i dont want to Actually Discourse Ive just seen enough discussion in this vein that #i wanted to provide what helps me enjoy my own experiences with fandom. do whats good for you. dont be an ass. yknow.#anyway sorry ill get off the soapbox now. ... and back onto the meta soapbox :')

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luvdsc · 2 years

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miss cat can i ask for some advice? how do i make friends irl 😅 online it’s so easy because you can see a person’s interests, take breaks from the conversation and you’re more likely to be talking because you already share an interest so you can just talk to them about that. but irl i have no clue 🤧

like how do i meet ppl?

how do i keep in contact with them without coming on too strong?

and any other tips you have please please 😭

tysm 💔 ~ 🧋

hey, lovebug !! 💘 omg yeah of course you can ask, and I’ll try my very best to give you the best advice to my knowledge :’) i totally get it, everyone has a bio and facts about themselves posted online and you can gauge what kind of person they are based on their blog and responses to others since it’s all public, but irl, you’re just going in blind 🤧

personally, I’m a huge extrovert so I just put myself out there and introduce myself to anyone whom I think seems interesting to me or whoever’s within my proximity shdjdjdj one of my friends once told me that she didn’t even have time to judge me yet because I just walked straight up to her and started talking LOL I met my close friends via random roommate assignments or at parties / clubs, through mutual friends, or just randomly sitting next to them in class or being put in the same group project !! 💕 I know it can be super scary to put yourself out there, but the worst thing that can happen is that you two just don’t mesh well and that’s okay, not everyone can get along - you just move on and introduce yourself to someone new!

I tend to strike up conversations with whoever I sit next to in class, like an easy one would be “hey do you mind if we can swap numbers in case either one of us misses a class and we can borrow notes?” and then ask them what their major is and what classes they’re taking and kinda lead the convo from there !! or if I think a girl has a really cute top or something, I tell her !!! And that usually sparks a convo like she tells me where she got it and all that and we keep that conversation going and bam, new friend 🤩 I paired up with a random girl in my math class for peer correcting our first homework assignment and I started talking to her after class ended and asked her if she was getting lunch too! We ended up getting food together, and that’s how I also got a lunch buddy after my math lecture every MWF for the first quarter and she introduced me to her friends and I introduced her to my friends 💓

I don’t think you can come off too strong! I mean maybe for starters, you can ask someone to get lunch with you one day and just talk to them and see how that goes 💞 if you feel good about the interaction, you can ask if they wanna get lunch again next week !! I personally think weekly lunches wouldn’t be coming off too strong, and once you get comfy and potentially become closer, then you can start inviting them to events or ask if they wanna go to a party with you or something !! With my friends whom I made in class, we first started off by texting each other for homework help and then we studied together and then eventually we hung out outside of studying 🌸

aaa I don’t know if this is helpful for you, honey bee, but this was my experience with making friends and how I did it, but it all really depends on your personality and how open you are to putting yourself out there 🤧 please let me know if you need me to clarify anything or have anymore questions, lovebug, and i hope you make tons of fun new friends !!!! 🌷🌷

#asks #anonymous #🧋 anon

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bookwyrminspiration · 3 years

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WAIT. I'm late to the party but I just remembered all those anons were sending in "why I send you asks" and their reasons and I actually really want to participate, so I hope you will accept late applications?

The reason I send you so many asks is because you've just...built such a nice feeling that anything can be discussed, and it's never too niche or cringy or boring, and that's really relieving and amazing.

I'm sure you (along with many others) have realized by now, but I suffer from....really bad anxiety, both social anxiety and just in general, and it very often gets in the way of my life. Because of this and past experiences, I'm always very scared and hesitant to talk about my interests and my thoughts on anything.

But every time I've sent you an ask, even if it was, in retrospect, probably really annoying to read through the one hundred "sorry"s and "my bad"s, you've always been nothing but kind and interested in my ideas, and that was just...so surprising. Because I never really knew anyone who was willing to talk about anything, and it was just...really amazing to meet someone who was! Especially because I love and am interested in so many different things and kind of need someone to bounce ideas at. And it was really cool to see someone that was unashamed of their own interests and thoughts, but didn't make others feel bad for having different ideas.

Every time I send you an ask, you always have something interesting to say back. Something I hadn't thought of or considered, or a query that would make me rethink my own theories, or just a very well-thought-out answer to a question. I remember sending in tons of asks about the wings AU before it was released, and writing those was probably the highlight of my day, because I knew you'd take them and run with the ideas, and do your best to match my energy, and I was really grateful for that. And you were always willing to dig deeper, to think "but what if there was more?" and that's just...incredible! I don't have any other word for it!

I love sending you asks because you don't dismiss an idea or deem it as stupid, and you're just...such a kind and wonderful person that can make even the most obscure subject infinitely more interesting than before, and you never fail to make me consider things again, to expand my thoughts and views, and I'm really grateful for that.

So, because it should definitely be said by now, thank you!

And, well, that's why I love sending you asks :]

- pyro

there is no timeline so there's no way to be late! and I'm answering this a few days after you sent this, so if you believe yourself to be late then we can both be late together :D. you are fully welcome to participate if you want to (which you said you did)! it was mostly just a random question I had because i'm just as analytical with myself as I am with keeper, and knowing how other perceive and think of me is helpful for that--and I was curious about how i'd aquired so many asks so quickly, and then you all just turned it into complimenting quil hours for some reason !! (but on to your ask before I get even more distracted)

(note from a quil who has answered all of this: got very long so that's why there's a readmore! i love you /p)

this means so much to me--specifically your use of "built" because I do try pretty hard to maintain a positive atmosphere and welcome everyone in and treat everyone with the same attention. it didn't just fall into place, i try to be encouraging to everyone and support all the amazing work--art, writing, ideas, etc--I see from people. (note: i've been wanting to do a thing where I ask for fic/art/other recommendations from others (can be friends or their own) so i can go through and reblog a bunch of them with comments and the like, I just want to get through more of my asks before I start something like that). But you're right--nothing is too niche! there's so many details in the story it's impossible for one person to notice anything, so people bringing up the obscure and their own thoughts makes the story richer and more fleshed out for everyone else! and i think it's really cool to just see what other people focus on (like I said, my analysis isn't limited to characters, but I'm not like dissecting you all to understand each of you in a creepy way or anything. I just like to get a better sense of someone so I can respond in a way more tailored to them when we interact)

anxiety can really suck, so as someone who also has anxiety i am giving you a comforting hug if you'd like one. it genuinely impacts everything you do and think about, rewriting how you experience life. a single, inconsequential experience to someone else can literally change major aspects of how we think, which makes interactions so scary sometimes. i remember things people said years ago and still base my actions around them, but those people have absolutely no recollection of ever saying it, but just the fear of having done something wrong once permanently altered my thinking. (this is not to make this about me, I'm just trying to show I understand by sharing an experience of my own).

reading through all your "i'm sorry"s and "my bad"s wasn't annoying and never will be. you have never had anything to apologize for, and I know that sometimes you feel you need to enter a conversation and first apologize for being there, but I'm thrilled to have you here and always love seeing you in my inbox. I don't know how to articulate this properly, but I'm going to try. i saw your apologies and your apprehension as...a puzzle? that's absolutely not the right word but I can't think of the right one so please let me explain (I don't mean to imply you're like something to be solved or a problem in any way. words can be difficult and I'm trying to describe something very intangible rn, so I hope this doesn't sound bad). I didn't see it as annoying (you're never annoying), I saw it like it was something to work through, and while it's not my job or anything to help other's with their personal problems, it was like if I could just provide one space where I could encourage you (not just you, but anyone) as a friend to try shifting your language and start thinking of yourself more positively, then I wanted to give that.

because I am interested in your ideas! and I want to be kind and welcoming to you! but I also want you to be kind to yourself, so any impact I've had to give anyone a safer, less scary space is really cool. I don't know if that made sense, but I'm not trying to talk down to you or anything or be like I'm this high and mighty figure harboring lost souls or something, just that connection is important and I like being there for people. kinda worried that sounded bad because it feels worded strange but I'm trying to reciprocate and say i appreciate you and am happy to talk about anything!

i love bouncing ideas back and forth and you are more than welcome to say anything and everything you're thinking about. talking to you is always an absolutely joy and I get so excited when you send me an ask and when you're reading my response, because it often feels like this like...buzz? like we're just vibing on this frequency and it makes it so much fun to throw ideas back and forth and just listen to each other talk. i am very glad to have surprised you and met you! I don't know a lot of people like myself either, so having someone like you interact with me and just go all out on these little things and what we personally like about different parts of the so much fun. a lot of the other people I know irl feel like they just scratch the surface, they say things just to get credit for it and to appear like they know what they're talking about while ignoring all these other things that have such an impact, so it's amazing to have found someone else who looks at everything and anything like I do. my brain really is "a little bit of everything all of the time" so knowing you have so many different interests too is really cool. i am giving you an internet high five and pretending you aren't so far away.

I spent so much of my life being quiet when I had so many thoughts, so now that I have this kind of outlet I just! want to say everything I can! i want to look at everything from every perspective possible! the world is a huge collection of things tied together and I love following the strings to find the connected pieces! but I think that's a way of approaching the world not a lot of people share (I could be wrong), so it's really cool to hear you think my thought process is interesting!! my brain is practically composed entirely of questions. any subject at any time of the day and nearly all of my thoughts are just wanting to know more and trying to understand things, so having that opportunity to ask further questions and just learn things (about what other's thing, how things work, etc) is so much fun. you might've seen me ask some questions of other's in a few of the asks I answer, but those barely scratch the surface of just how many I have. my handle is in_quil_sitive (inquisitve) on nearly every social media platform (except for this one) for a reason.

I remember some of your asks from before the wings au was published, too. those were absolutely incredible, and I got a rush of excitement every time I saw you sent another. those were the the highlight of my week, too!! your enthusiasm and excitement for something I hadn't even posted yet gave me so much motivation to continue and you helped me think through so many future ideas and consider things from new perspectives. i know i specifically wrote that you inspired one chapter in the notes, but you've had an impact on every single chapter of this story/ it wouldn't be what it is without you, and I mean that with complete sincerity. you were the one who made me think "what if there was more" so I could make this au even better and work towards something bigger. I just have so many thoughts about everything all of the time, I can't go more than a few minutes without being distracted by a different train of thought, but knowing there was someone who would want to hear all the weird, disjointed ideas i'd strung together and composed into a more cohesive format was so cool. there's just so much to think about!!

I probably sound repetitive at this point but I love answering your asks because you're so receptive to the way i say things and it's like you're actually listening and want to hear what I specifically have to say, not just the general ideas. you want to know my unique, personalized opinions and perspectives and don't just dismiss them when they're not what you expect to hear or aren't generic. you're incredibly kind, too, I hope you know. I love the description of how I can "make even the most obscure subject infinitely more interesting than before." that is such a meaningful compliment to me. I just keep thinking about this line over and over again and it just...it really means a lot. because you're saying it's me that interests you and not just what I talk about. I could talk about anything and you'd still want to interact with me and that's so fucking nice. I hope you know the same goes for you. we can challenge each other's thinking together and make things even deeper and more complex before together <33.

thank you for being here and being my friend, pyro. talking to you is always one of the highlights of my day and gives me a very positive feeling that I carry around for a while. I do this thing sometimes where I film myself to later observe my behaviors in the middle of intense emotions to understand myself better (back to that whole analysis thing again), but it's not just negative things, it's also when I'm really excited or pleased with something and jumping around and stimming and all that, and some of those are from when I interact with you. that might sound a little weird but I mean it positively, as in talking with you makes me ecstatic.

I have said. so many things. so I will stop (for now). but I really appreciate having you in my life <33

#this response is 1757 words long i--#i have written shorter essays for my college classes #pyro this better convince you that i care about you #you're one of my favorite people #just in general #i really value our friendship #and hope none of this sounded weird #i tried to articulate it but some of the concepts didn't want to become words #so please know this is meant to be loving and supportive of you #in all aspects #i wrote so much and still didn't say everything I wanted to #you should be asleep when I answer this so hopefully this is something nice to wake up to #still don't feel i've articulated myself fully #but I have tried #worried about that puzzle part but I'm trying to say I want this to be like a safe space of kinds #where I can support you and encourage you to stop apologizing when you don't need to #and do that without judging you #ah anxious about that #if you cannot tell I don't want to mess this up and am worried I will #hnnnng #if I said something weird please let me know so i can fix it #quil's queries #pyrokinetic-loser #nonsie love #long post

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pawpunkao3 · 3 years

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Why I Think Video!Bdubs has BPD

To be clear- I don’t think IRL!Bdubs has BPD, nor do I claim this analysis is at all accurate to his real-world behavior. Instead, I want to analyse the choices Bdubs and the other hermits make in their SE7 videos and how these suggest that Bdubs has Borderline Personality Disorder. Let’s look at the signs of BPD and how Bdubs relates to them under the cut:

(Trigger warnings for discussion of self-harm, death with respawn, unhealthy relationships, and mental illness)

1. Fear of Abandonment

Bdubs is very clingy to his friends. With Scar and Keralis, he sucks up to them during collaborations with excessive complements, physical gifts, and time put into their projects, or projects they work on together. An example of this is is Bdubs’ enderpearl trap during the Turf War arc, when he put a lot of effort into a complicated redstone device and fully decorated dungeon (with lava!) just for a few words of praise from Scar. In both these cases, Bdubs sees his friends’ other friends as threats- he puts tons of effort into keeping Keralis away from Doc, and Scar’s claiming Cub as the Employee of the Month in the mayor arc clearly upsets Bdubs.

Bdubs also tries to keep his friends by asserting dominance. When working with the Boomers, Bdubs keeps a clear “leader” role, telling Impulse and Tango what to do and praising or berating them for their work as well as organizing all the jobs. This could be seen as an effort to keep them around by making them feel like they need his guidance, although it doesn’t work.

2. Unstable Relationships

Over the course of SE7, Bdubs has had a lot of “relationships” with the hermits (referring to hermits he has collaborated with regularly. All the hermits are already friends). At the beginning of the season, he was closest with Keralis as he tried to steal him away from Doc’s casino. Then, he founded the Boomers and collaborated with Impulse and Tango. After that, he started Scar’s mayoral campaign for him and stayed with him as a mayoral advisor, and recently he’s started working for Etho at Shade-E-E’s and joined Grian and Impulse in making secret bases. These relationships aren’t just one-off collaborations, but often last for three or more episodes in a row.

During these collaborations, Bdubs seems to switch between idolizing and despising his “favorite hermits”. For example, in his episode “A HUGE Development :: Hermitcraft #46″, Bdubs came across a shop Scar had made to sell land (similar to an abandoned business Scar started with Bdubs). Bdubs clearly felt betrayed at this and built his own realty business as revenge, stating “So he wants to go out on his own? I can go out on my own as well!”. However, later in the video Bdubs expresses positivity for Scar, saying “that’s what he gets for trapping sweet Scar” to Cub flying into a wall. Similar interactions occurred during the mayoral arc: Scar would wrong Bdubs by breaking his bed, making him sit on a lower seat than him, or treating him as lesser, and Bdubs would get angry, but quickly go back to adoring him.

Bdubs’ other relationships are similar. Etho makes Bdubs wear a pink uniform and puts him in danger from endermites, but Bdubs still goes out of his way to make Etho proud, verbally denying to himself his fear. Keralis takes all of Bdubs’ diamonds, and all Bdubs cares about is not losing him to Doc. And after a while, Bdubs seems to forget about his best friend and move on to a different person. Bdubs’ relationships are short, unstable, and constantly flipping between love and hate.

3. Unclear or Shifting Self-Image

Bdubs frequently plays up his own ego, praising himself and his builds excessively. A prime example of this is his Redstone With Bdubs! segments, where the main humor comes from his excessive proclamations of his genius despite not being terribly good at redstone.

While Bdubs does have highs, he does not necessarily have the extreme lows also linked with BPD. His obsessive attachment to friends whom he seems to worship despite their poor treatment of him could hint that he has low self-esteem, though.

4. Impulsive or Self-Destructive Behavior

Bdubs makes frequent impulsive decisions. According to the Hermitcraft Wiki, he has seven shops, plus his not yet added reality business, and his former realty business with Scar (Season 7 Shopping District). Although some hermits have nearly as many shops, Bdubs is less involved with his, often building on a whim and abandoning them quickly or building them with someone else before abandoning them to do all the work. This could show that his business endeavors are more impulsive than thought out.

Bdubs also made impulsive decisions in his feud with Doc. While most pranks on the Hermitcraft server are small and easily fixable, this prank war ended when Bdubs pranked Doc by accidentally blowing up a statue he’d worked very hard on (he and Keralis had intended for Doc to blow up the statue with a redstone device, but Keralis accidentally triggered it first).

Sometimes, Bdubs’ impulsive decisions get him in danger. Bdubs founded the Boomers, a group for blowing things up. During Boomers jobs, Bdubs frequently dies or is harmed, and he often insists on doing jobs without the help of Impulse or Tango (resulting in further danger to himself and lower quality work). (The Boomers)

5. Self Harm

Bdubs does not display anything that could be considered active self harm in his videos, unless you count his devotion to Scar despite the man’s seeming lack of care for him.

6. Extreme Emotional Swings

Bdubs appears to switch between emotions frequently in his videos. One moment, he’s serenely calm, the next angry, then nervous, then happy again in the span of a few minutes. These emotions are also notably more intense than the other hermits. While his editing and performance does play this up, the fact that the other hermits could make the same edits to their videos but choose not to makes Bdubs’ character stand out as especially emotionally unstable.

7. Chronic Feelings of Emptiness

Although Bdubs does not outwardly demonstrate feelings of emptiness, his devotion to Scar, the mayoral campaign, and the HEP Agency could be seen as an attempt to fill a void with the praise of others.

8. Explosive Anger

Bdubs sometimes gets explosively angry when with others. He gets very defensive over his height, yelling at anyone who even implies he is short, and also gets very angry when people refuse to let him sleep the moment the sun goes down. He was also very temperamental while working with the Boomers. However, Bdubs is patient with issues not involving other people, so it could be argued he doesn’t demonstrate this trait.

9. Paranoia or Feeling Out Of Touch with Reality

Bdubs does not display anything that could be considered paranoia or dissociation in his videos.

In order to be diagnosed with BPD, someone needs five out of nine traits, and for these traits to negatively impact them. Video!Bdubs demonstrates a fear of abandonment, unstable relationships, impulsive behavior, and extreme emotional swings, and may also demonstrate explosive anger and an unclear self-image depending on how one interprets his character. Regardless of whether he has enough traits to be diagnosed, Video!Bdubs is clearly suffering for them: his collaborations usually are less equitable than other hermits’, as he tries to cling to people that use him or boss around others.

Of course, though, the most valid reason to headcanon Bdubs as having BPD is Because I Said So.

#hermitcraft #hermit craft #bdubs #BDoubleO100 #bdoubleO #suicide mention

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highqueenofelfhame · 3 years

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I'm writing fanfiction for the first time, and I was wondering if you had any advice for me.

I'm currently focusing on the plot aspect, as I have no clue how to write romance (having never been in a relationship before). So advice on either would be appreciated.

(my fic is based on the b&n eos short story, if you wanted to read it)

so lately i also plan out plot (in multi chapters i do a handful of chapters first, at least vaguely by what the main event of each chapter will be, in one shots i like to generally know what is going to happen as a guide— some don’t have a ton of plot though and only have like a prompt as the plot which is also just fine) and then i go in for all the rest.

you definitely don’t have to have romance “experience” to write romance. it’s all about the character dynamic, and in fanfic it’s a little easier because we already know these characters and how they interact and speak with each other. i don’t pull on hardly any of my real life romance experience when i write romance. fiction romance is cool because it can be tailored to what you want to see in a fic, or how you would want to be spoken to, etc. you can pull from other romance books or movies you’ve seen for inspiration and feeling which is generally what i tend to do anyway. fiction romance is usually better than irl romance in my personal experience and opinion lmao.

i find that once i have a feel for what’s going to happen, it’s easier to fill in everything else. dialogue can be hard to write sometimes but sometimes it just takes like getting into the grove of it. dialogue isn’t my strong suit so i tend to just draw from what i know about the characters and how i know they interact and how i think they would act in the situation at hand.

also, finding a friend you’re comfortable with to help you bounce ideas and rework things helps a lot. for me, it’s @punkassbookjockey26, and she helps me so much and it makes the entire thing a lot easier.

i’m not sure if any of this is helpful, so i’m going to tag some other friends that might have useful advice! @punkassbookjockey26 @charincharge @noodlecatposts @city-of-fae @westofmoon @morganofthewildfire @whimsicallyreading

#writing advice

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ethnova · 2 years

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How in the ever-loving fuck do you use this site?

( also i’m not affiliated with any of the tags, i just want notoriety, whether anyone who interacts agrees or not. )

Anyways, I honestly through and through hate being asked my pronouns ( in real life ). When someone asks me my pronouns, what I hear is “ I can tell you’re transgender. “ because let us be 100% real. No one asks cis men their pronouns, unless they‘re effeminate in nature of course, only cis men that wear skirts and paint their nails can be the only cis men that have those gosh darn pronouns ( possible /s ). You would ask, who you presume, is a big burly hairy macho man their pronouns? Would you even assume they’re possibly transgender, whether they’d be a binary trans man, trans woman sure, or even a nonbinary person? Let’s not lie to each-other, and ourselves now. We all unconsciously, or even willingly assume gender based on caricatures if we don’t know a person, that’s how human brains work. It’s not inherently a bad thing. We also assume pronouns based on the gender we assume, unless you use they/them for everyone.

Like, of course you’d ask me, of all people, my pronouns! I’m short for my age, have skinny arms, have acne, have medium-length clearly dyed hair, have a high-pitched voice, no facial hair, tons of body hair and short eyebrows. My cis friends straight up tell me I look too young for my age, even though we’re all collectively around the same age. ( apologies for power-leveling, lol )

Even my cisgender friends have implied and/or straightforward admitted to me they only ask people who are clearly trans, or presumably anyone afab, their pronouns. In regards, they’ve shared the idea that they should ask Everyone, their pronouns, when that’s not even why I have this problem. ( bonus points: only girls ask me my pronouns IRL )

#trumed #truscum #transmed #tucute #ftm

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night-dragon937 · 3 years

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Sorry i accidently Unfollowed trying to hit the ask button: Im a little anxious about this but, I want to know how best to refer to you/yall? I know, the basics of DID and im sorry if this just, comes off as wrong/bad, but im, assuming that DID is specific to each system (I think im using that term right? im sorry if im not) and i just want to know how best to, like. avoid making you feel bad/wrong? (like, im anxious about referring to you as, you or do i need to refer to you as, like. them? or yall?, because i think all of you is valid and great and deserves respect? individually and as a whole?) and i saw the post where like, people think the Host (I am so sorry if i am messing up these terms) is more valid then the others, and that made me sad because, I think everyone is valid? and its like, i dont want to refer to you as the wrong thing (eg: a singular person, incase that strips away the importance of being known?, or as multiple, incase that invalidates?) like, im sorry if any of this comes off as tone deaf. i also got anxious about asking because, I dont want it to seem like the first thing i think about is, this? when interacting, but its why i get really nervous about using you/yall? not that anything was done to make me feel like that, i just want to be respectful? I also dont want to ask tons of questions cause, i know what it feels like to be bombarded with questions about something like this and being treated less like a person, more like a thing to gawk at i guess? like, ive done my best to read up on DID to, better try to understand, but if its unique to each person, I dont want to generalize it? I also am trying not to refer to this as a disability? as im not sure if its, ok to? because it just felt, strange, referring to, what to me seems like a Group of people? as a disability? Im sorry if thats, incorrect or wrong, or even ableist? im genuinely not trying to be. I just, think its important to give everyone individuality and importance? and if you all ? are, different people with their own personalities (if im, understanding that right, i know its possibly different from one person to another?) Then i want to respect that to the best of my ablity? Sorry for all of the rambling and if this is too much a wall of text. im also extremely sorry if anything ive said/done in our interactions, or this ask were offensive? Its alright if you dont want to answer this of course, or if any of this was too personal/touchy, im not gonna get upset or anything and thats completely fair ? I honestly second guessed asking, but figured i needed to before i accidently messed up and said something wrong?

hey no need to apologize! we are willing to answer questions about our experiences with did/plurality! (in fact, it's nice when singlets/non-systems ask questions when they're unsure bc it shows that they care about respect n stuff)

each system's experience with their diagnosis is unique, yes! we have did, but there are various types of osdd that are diagnoses for systems as well

we have what's called a singletsona, essentially a "sona" that's a single person. we mostly have this irl for safety reasons, but we also understand that a constantly changing roster of many people can be confusing esp for neurodivergent people. so, generally, we go by night (cause we're the night system lol it fits perfectly!) and use they/them.

some people do want to interact with us individually (like. maybe four singlets so don't feel bad if you'd rather just interact with us as a whole, but we will let you know if we switch or about alter-specific things) and they refer to us either by who's fronting or by "night sys" or "night system" and refer to us with plural pronouns

you're so very sweet <3

so that refers to people who act as if the body belongs to the host and no one else in the system, the life belongs to the host and other alters shouldn't get as much of a say, or as if other alters aren't really people, like the host is.

you're not being tone deaf at all! even if you were, we'd still be willing to provide info

so, referring to a system depends on a few things. if you're referring to a singletsona, then singular pronouns/preferred pronouns. if you're referring to a single alter, then singular, but if you mean the whole system, then plural. also, if you feel weird about using "you," just know that you was originally a plural pronoun (but has changed in meaning and usage, like they! and thou was the singular)

we're generally pretty understanding and won't get offended unless one is being intentionally malicious (understanding what one is doing, what the affects of the actions are, and still choosing to do it)

we don't know enough to comment on osdd but did is absolutely 100% a disability because this impacts every aspect of our lives, for several reasons. there's the obvious sharing every life decision with a multitude of others with their own personalities and opinions, but did is a trauma based disorder and thus has a lot of symptoms of trauma. did is usually concurrent with ptsd and c-ptsd, and often others. this is bc dissociation is a learned (unhealthy) coping mechanism where we put ourselves literally anywhere but the physical present rw to avoid trauma at a young age, which impacts development of the personality (talking specifically about did). did is... so much more than having brain friends, its freaking out bc someone used a specific tone of voice even if it's not meant maliciously. it's coming to front and having no clue where you are or what's going on. it's being held accountable for actions you have no memory of (and are often out of character). it's often dealing with depression, anxiety, flashbacks, anxiety attacks... you get the point lol

the group of people isn't the disability, it's how traumagenic systems form that cause them to be disabilities, and how that affects daily life. that sounds contradictory. it's... not that any specific alter is debilitating, but the cause of the condition (trauma) and the effects of the condition (dissociative amnesia, etc) that make it a disability. does that make sense?

and you've been nothing but respectful! but thank you for checking, it means a lot to us, truly.

feel free to send more asks/reply to this if you have any more questions or need any clarifications in regards to this (we've been awake for far too many hours lol). also we love talking about our system and info dumping about our diagnosis/diabilities lol

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