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wildwren · 1 year

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The thing about The History of Tom Jones, a Foundling (1749) is that it is fundamentally about women’s desire. I’m not saying that I like everything that Fielding has to say about women’s desire, or that his own obsession with women’s sexuality isn’t baldly plain on the page. It is! It definitely is! For every one of his culture’s biases about women’s sexuality that he aims to deconstruct, there are several more of his own that remain unexamined. It’s one of the knottier (and perhaps more compelling) parts of the text as a modern reader — to observe how these sort of proto-feminist threads are at tension with the lazy misogyny still on the page.

However, it is undeniably the female characters' desires that shape and propel the narrative, so it’s very interesting to see how modern readers who have never read the book or have only learned about aspects of it through osmosis apply a knee-jerk assumption that it’s Tom’s desires that are shaping the story. They know it’s about a man who sleeps with several women, so therefore Tom must be a seducer, a womanizer, a rake, a playboy, or even a rapist. When in fact, it’s a central conceit (if not THE central conceit) of the novel that Tom is never interested in a woman who isn’t interested in him first. The romance begins when Sophia decides she wants Tom, not when Tom decides he wants Sophia.

There’s certainly a lot to unpack in the fact that Fielding wrote an 1000-page novel about horny women lusting after his hero, but in as much as it’s possible to back something like that up, he does back it up. Women don't just like Tom because he's attractive, they like him because he’s genuinely good with women. He actually likes women, he enjoys spending time with them in both sexual and platonic contexts. He feels safe to be around because it's not his default mode to objectify women -- he literally never once considers sleeping with a woman until she has already propositioned him. He regularly leverages his privilege to defend and advocate for women who others around him have decided are worthless and maintains positive feelings towards his partners after their sexual relationship has ended. He remains friends with his ex-girlfriend Molly for the rest of his life!! He is -- literally -- the definition of a himbo in its truest form.

Anyway, I'm just really grateful that Gwyneth Hughes and Georgia Parris both understood this about Tom as a character and understood the opportunities in the text for actively centering the women -- giving the voice of the story to Sophia and adding much needed roundness and complexity to the other female characters on the page. It's really what I've always wanted for this book. Of course the story still has issues, some of which are baked in, most notably the execution of the HEA and how it requires Fielding to uphold the systems he's spent the novel critiquing (but that's a different essay.) But at the end of the day, I love these characters so much and it's just nice to read interviews with Hughes where she makes it clear: "I didn't update Tom. This is Tom."

#tom jones #the history of tom jones #henry fielding #tom jones pbs #tom jones 2023 #gwyneth hughes #tom jones meta #i wrote this post in the green room before my gig last night akljdhfasfas #i just have so many feelings #tom my boy my actual son and heir

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stolen-wolfbread · 24 days

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There is absolutely no heterosexual explanation for this.

#batman #dc comics #batman comics #talia al ghul #selina kyle #catwoman #dc universe #my wives #i cannot stop looking at this #they deadass look like they're about to make out #i just have so many feelings #they should just forget bruce and date each other

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legeebeeteequah · 8 months

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I just hope that us millenials are the last generation that sees something like ofmd s2 trailer and feels like they are being seriously seen by cishet people maybe for the firs time and also, also, that is ok being lgbtq on main.

#ofmd #i just have so many feelings #like #is this just a shitty cliche af romcom series but they're gay #in front of my salad?#and i say shitty with my outmost admiration #and in the most i love this shitty ff trope way #am crying #our flag means death

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haventacluewhatimdoing · 2 months

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I love House MD. Because it is not a show about solving puzzles and medical malpractice. I mean, it is, of course it is. But that isn't what it is about at its core. It's about how we're all fallible, we're all human, life is pain and suffering is inevitable. And yet without diminishing any of that, it ends with joy. It ends with light. It doesn't try to tell us that bad things won't happen, because they will, to all of us. It tells us to enjoy life BECAUSE bad things will happen. They are unavoidable. We watch 8 series of House trying everything to avoid pain, and yet it ends with him riding off into the sunset with his best friend, the one who will die in 5 months. He's not avoiding that pain anymore. He's embracing it, and experiencing the joy that he can anyway. This show highlights the worst aspects of living, and yet it ends with happiness. Because yes, happiness is temporary. But that doesn’t mean you shouldn't experience it.

#this has become a ramble i'm sorry #i just have so many feelings #this show means fucking everything to me #house md

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redrocketpanda · 1 year

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WAaaAAHHhhh. I just finished playing all the boys DLC's and HOLY CRAP?! What a time????!!

I have soooooooooo many feelings (esp about episode Ignis which everyone in the tags of my other post was encouraging me to play) so I'm going to do a breakdown post for each of the boys' episodes but DANG. Here are some initial thoughts:

They absolutely did my man Gladio dirty with that episode?? I personally got a lot of mileage out of the amount of innuendos from it (daddy swinging his big column around anyone?) and I will not turn my nose up at any Gladio content but damn. Comparatively to how long and story rich the other 2 episodes were... could've done him so much better :'(

My sweet cinnamon boy Prompto's episode... When he fell off the train I was like oh, he'll be okay and then his episode came along and slapped the hell out of me for my naivety. Love getting all the different glimpses into his back story and I know he would've been living for the times Aranea climbed up behind him on that snowmobile. But oof, my little fragile heart and love for our baby boy

And ofc absolutely no competition for whose episode was the ABSOLUTE BEST. YO. YOOOOO. Ignis is the character who I connected with the least in the main game so I appreciated getting a chance to play from his perspective, using his sick as FUCK fighting skills, and experiencing his absolute unfailing love for Noct. And then that alternate ending absolutely sent me. That is the true ending in my mind, the one I want to live by, with and in. Cue me being a sobbing wreck at the end of it again.

FFXV has just been an absolute gift to me at the end of an otherwise shitty year and I just have so, so, so much love for it, for these boys, that I cannot even do it justice with words. It is just a powerful feeling that has absolutely seized my body, mind and soul in its grasp and I imagine will never let me go.

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honestlydarkprincess · 1 year

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sorry i went insane i thought about a fictional character for too long

#this is about eddie #like im going feral #i just have so many feelings #eddie diaz #jess.text #textposts

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dilemmalion · 2 years

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Some Crystallized doodles as we wait for part 2

#ninjago #art #ninjago fanart #ninjago kai #ninjago jay #ninjago zane #ninjago cole #ninjago lloyd #i just have so many feelings #ninjago crystallised #ns16 #ns16 spoilers #my art #ninjago crystalized spoilers

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sablegear0 · 1 year

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Thinkin bout Dark Samus

I’m having Thoughts about Dark Samus so now you all have to hear them.

Specifically, I’m having thoughts about revising old fics and/or potential interactions between Dark Samus and Adam because of course I am. Headcanons ahoy under the cut. (This one got inordinately long, like four pages long, so brace yourselves.)

We don’t know what was going on in the GF Capitol during the Phazon Crisis. I’ve taken some guesses at it over the course of Electrochromic, but we don’t have any canon material. I imagine things were tense, obviously, knowing that the Space Pirates essentially had planet-killing weapons at their disposal.

I’ve toyed with concepts of what Adam might have been up to during this time (some of which may make it into EC/EC-adjacent pieces later), but one thing I’ve pondered over but never really been able to put into a fic is the possibility of Adam encountering some facet of Dark Samus.

I have a headcanon that any creature exposed to phazon radiation becomes connected to the “collective”/hivemind of Phaaze in some way. Only badly corrupted creatures become a part of the hivemind, but something as simple as a radiation burn can loosely connect a creature to other creatures who have been exposed to phazon. There have been no officially documented cases of “phazon sickness” among PED Marines, but I imagine exposure to the substance has caused a handful of unusual anecdotal symptoms. Afflicted troopers often feel as if they are being followed or watched. One extreme – and concerning, given the distance from the front lines – case involved a test trooper on Daiban hallucinating the presence of “a woman in black” observing his test along with the science team.

The Dark Hunter is curious and capricious. She likes to observe, but rarely appear or interact. She uses the network of both soldiers and victims the Pirate campaign accumulates to extend the reach of her perception. One version of the interaction with Adam I’ve pondered is him coming to be injured or otherwise exposed in a lab test (he’d be fine, of course, just a minor injury) and attracting the attention of the Dark Hunter. In some versions it’s just a mounting paranoia on Adam’s part – he knows something is present, observing or following him, there’s an unfamiliar figure in crowds and around corners. His peers chalk it up to stress; everyone is overworked because of the crisis, he’s shaken up from his injury and that trauma is affecting him, he just needs a break, to talk to someone. And they’re not wrong, and for a brief time Adam is convinced what he’s experiencing is just internal.

But Dark Samus (I want to give her a different name, I can’t imagine she would use this one for herself) doesn’t like to be ignored. Maybe her approach becomes more direct, maybe she starts to pick at the thoughts and memories of her new favourite thing to watch, push phrases into his mind, maybe she creates a more visible manifestation, even takes on a human-like form and speaks to him directly. I couldn’t decide.

But I want to know what these two would talk about, or clash about. Does Adam know what she is? Does she look like Samus, or can he make the connection? How does she feel about him? He’s interesting, certainly; a high-ranking officer in her enemy’s army, well-connected and highly capable and intelligent. Could she use him as a source of information, or is he merely a curiosity, a source of entertainment?

There’s another version of this scenario that I’ve been mulling over recently. Sort of a combination of a pair of fics I recently retired from DA. Part of me wants to rewrite them because their style is old and dated, and I feel like I could do a better job of them now with more material (both hc and canon) and experience to work from. I want to dig into Dark Samus on a personal level, which I tried to do a bit in the past, but I literally wrote that fic in my teens, so there wasn’t much emotional maturity or intrigue in it. Being just older and having existed more, I think I have more I can use a version of that fic to say (and maybe finish it this time).

And part of that is because I’ve been thinking about this interaction/scenario, and considering Dark Samus’s motivations and self more. What sort of instincts does a chimera like her have? What does a being with emergent sentience think like, what are her priorities and wants? This is where the sort of crossover and jamming Adam into the situation comes in.

His involvement begins when Samus is the last of the Hunters to lose control of themselves and turn against the GF (drawn from the other retired fic). Having some experience working with her, Adam is brought in to help/consult on what the heck to do with/about her. Through a series of contrivances where he comes into direct contact with Dark Samus, he negotiates a hostage trade – himself for Samus’s autonomy back – and is baffled when the Dark Hunter accepts.

Adam doesn’t see this as being terribly hazardous to him personally. Between his backup and training (despite not being psionic-sensitive, he’s been trained to identify and fend off psionic intrusion. Thanks Project Icarus.) he’s confident he’s both equipped to handle this, and disposable if absolutely necessary. His initial assumption is that the Dark Hunter sees him as a source of information more valuable than having one extra Hunter on hand, so it’s a fair trade. But over the course of his interactions with her he comes to realize that isn’t really the case. She doesn’t grill him for information or even really treat him as a prisoner – for the most part he’s stuck in her private quarters but it’s relatively comfortable otherwise. She treats him like a guest... almost like a companion.

The truth of it is that she finds him fascinating, not for what he knows but for who he is, how he functions. They’re not so different, she thinks.

I’ve been considering Dark Samus’s relationship to Phaaze. Phaaze isn’t evil, it can’t be, it’s just a superorganism that is driven to spread and reproduce, like any living thing. Dark Samus doesn’t take control of Phaaze so much as find a way to facilitate what it’s already meant to do, attaching the stolen Aurora Unit just gives Phaaze a nudge towards self-awareness and a direct interface with her. It can launch leviathans at targets instead of just at random, but it’s still very much the same self-perpetuating collective it always was. And of the two of them, Phaaze is the one in charge. Dark Samus helps it, guides it, but does not control it. And therein lies her perceived similarity to Adam. They’re both “middle management” – high up enough to lead, to be known and looked up to, even idolized by their subordinates, but both still obligated to the whims of a larger organization. In her case, the Phaaze collective, in his, the Galactic Federation as a whole.

What Dark Samus is interested in is how he performs and copes with his role. Adam comes to notice that when she isn’t out doing Evil Leader Stuff, Dark Samus just... sleeps. Or does nothing. She spends a lot of time resting, but it’s not because her position is all that strenuous. As they talk he comes to realize she sleeps so often because she’s bored. She doesn’t have any conception of what to do with herself when she’s not active. The only cultures she’s been exposed to are the Ing and Space Pirates, neither of which have any concept of “leisure activities” or “hobbies.” Pirates seldom make art, they don’t have a music culture, their sapient drive to create has been bred out of them in favour of aggressive or servile qualities. They’re just a step above a hivemind themselves, and when they’re not working, they’re sleeping. So Dark Samus thinks this is normal, even though she knows, deep down in the human parts of herself, that something about it is wrong.

She asks Adam what he does when he’s not working, she finds it fascinating, almost funny, that he’s in a similar position. He doesn’t have a very healthy work-life balance, not a lot of time for his hobbies because work wears him out, not a lot of friends because he tends to keep to himself. In a way, Dark Samus finds the minimal difference ideal. It would have hard for her to relate to someone more social, more creative, because the gap would simply be too wide. But Adam’s tentative step up from her utter inaction – and the depression it causes her slightly-too-human psyche – is a welcome education.

It’s such a novel experience the first time he plays music for her, dredging up a wonky keyboard patch to install on the console in her private cabin. (Yes this is a persistent headcanon.) He’s not even sure at first if she can parse music as something enjoyable or if it would just be noise for her. She tries to poke into his mind while he plays but he pushes her away; knowing what he’s feeling would be cheating, he wants her to listen and feel for herself. It’s rough, whatever he plays is all from memory and it’s not all there, but it’s good enough. When he asks her what she thought, she doesn’t respond much. She’s not sure, herself. It was so utterly alien to her. She asks him to play it again, and this time, he lets her sift through his thoughts while he does.

And this is where she finds something that truly captures her attention. The associated memories that surface when Adam plays – jamming with Ian, the sheer joy of making music with and for someone, the grief of losing him, of playing alone now that he can finally handle doing so. She realizes she’s never felt these feelings before. Joy and grief. Not alone, and never together. But she understands she could have, should have at times. But they’re new. She’s only ever felt self-satisfied: stealing from Pirates, freeing their metroids, taking over their systems, making them her own. There was never joy in that. She’s only ever felt angry: fighting and destroying, avenging her lesser kin, and herself, upon the Pirates or her rival-original. But there was no grief along with that. And now she knows there should have been. She should have taken pride and joy in her abilities, her wide-ranging explorations across impossible land- and space-scapes. She should have grieved the abuse and deaths of her brood-kin at the hands of the Pirates, perhaps even grieved her own deaths and transitions, the trauma she’s suffered.

There’s been a piece missing this whole time, and she hates it now that she knows what it is. Because it was a piece of that part of herself she most despises, that finnicky, sensitive human part. But it’s at the forefront, she owes her sense of self and her ambition to it, to forsake it would be going back to being just Metroid Prime; intelligent, but still just an animal a bit too clever for its own good. She comes to realize that some – not all, but a large some – of the discontent she feels is because that human part of her wants. It wants to be occupied, maybe even to create, it wants to socialize, maybe it wants friends, family – was that why it felt like such a good idea to bring metroids to Phaaze, did she hope to create other creatures like herself? That part of her likes this new human guest, too. Is it just because he’s male? Or because he seems so unafraid of her, treating her like an equal, letting her learn from him and holding so little back?

But... can she confide these thoughts in her new guest? Can she dare to consider him a “friend” in some capacity? Has he already figured her out? Is there a way to learn more without exposing too much vulnerability? Is there a way to do more without becoming distracted? She has her war to wage, Pirate Generals to appease with new targets and strategies. She can’t afford to go soft on them now. Not that her position is as perilous with them as it started out, they’re all well and loyal, but she can’t afford to lose ground to the Federation by diverting her attention.

Adam, on the other hand, does come to realize he’s exposed a soft spot here. But it comes with its own risks and conflicts. The idea of dissuading, or even flipping the Dark Hunter from her cause is incredibly tempting. But also... this is something he’s learned in confidence from an incredibly dangerous creature. She’s kept her abilities toned down around him to keep him safe, but her mere presence could be lethal to him, and making a move like that too obvious would not only risk his safety, but risk the Dark Hunter doubling down on her tour of destruction out of anger and spite.

Therein lies the appeal and the trouble I find in this situation. I want to explore this conflicted nature I believe exists in Dark Samus, and I’d like a human character to help facilitate that (or if I revive my DS-centric fic, some slightly more introspective Pirate characters). But I don’t like the idea of it being framed like someone, esp. a male character, “saving” her. At the same time, it seems extra tragic after all that introspection to have her decide that no, she doesn’t want to know that side of herself, and commit to burning it all down instead – destroying everything in her path so there’s nothing to tempt her to “go soft” again, so she can be lonely at the top and try to convince herself it’s fine.

But I crave that angst and introspective interaction, you know? Just like with Adam and Raven Beak, I think there’s some interesting parallels and contrasts that can be teased out of these characters interacting. Tbh, I just tend to gravitate to Adam bc he’s muh favourite, which means I have to jam difficult emotions into him whenever I’m not (and sometimes even when I am) putting him in mortal peril. Anyway thanks for reading, this one got way too long but I had to get it out of my head.

#sable has a take #sable's fic #metroid #metroid prime corruption #dark samus #adam malkovich #this one got away from me #i just have so many feelings

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theghostnugget · 2 years

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I watch a lot of psychology stuff on YouTube (for reasons I will not explain lol) and so often I hear something (especially stuff relating to trauma and unhealthy coping skills) that makes me need to pause and think about Hiei.

My poor boy went through so much shit and had no time to process cause he was forced to fight for his life every single day (there was no time for him to sit down and evaluate “ok that was a shitty thing, how do I cope/how do I move on”).

This post’s length got away from me so…

By the time the series starts he is deeply entrenched in the unhealthy coping skills he had to develop (trust no one, they’re all going to abandon you if they don’t outright betray you - never address you emotions out loud or even in your own head because that distraction will get you killed - love is just a crutch for the weak who can’t fend for themselves that’s why I don’t even want it - etc etc). He doesn’t even realize that he has a support group and a safe space to start to unpack because he has no idea what those things look like. Then comes the process of actually unpacking which he has no fucking clue how to do because he never had healthy coping modeled for him. And he doesn’t even think he can ask for help because he a) doesn’t believe anyone cares enough to help and b) he’s still not completely sure they aren’t playing the long game to get him to lower his guard so they can stab him in the back

I think the reason he leaves for half of season 3 is he subconsciously starts to recognize he has trauma he can and should process and that terrifies him. He has no clue how to start and he knows it’s going to get worse before it gets better and most importantly: he’s found ways to make his poorly executed shit work. Anger and lashing out and self-loathing aren’t helping him in the long run but he can’t tell because they’ve been the things keeping him alive so far - and if he does learn to let those go, what the hell is he gonna find underneath?? What if there’s nothing? What if he’s even more miserable than before?? Then he’ll have to confront the idea that the world isn’t screwed up, it’s just him - he’s truly broken and there’s no hope of him ever being happy. So he chooses the devil he knows and actively chooses to walk away from something that has the potential to heal him

There’s this quote from Just Between Us (an excellent YouTube channel that I definitely recommend) that’s something along the lines of “a miserable person gets to live with the hope of one day being happy while a happy person has to live with the fear of one day becoming miserable” and I think that sums up Hiei’s thought process pretty well - he’s terrified of being happy because it doesn’t last but at least, if he’s miserable, he can hope for the abstract concept of it

It used to bug me that Mukuro was the one to pull him out of his bullshit when the only reason he trusted her enough to let her in was because he was already starting to trust Yusuke, Kurama, and to an extent Kuwabara (and I have so many feelings about why his antagonism towards Kuwabara is also rooted in his shitty mental health but I’ll sum it up to this - when you’re traumatized and miserable, you start to hate everyone who’s not miserable because why the hell does he get to be happy and coping with this shit while I’m spiraling out of control here). But I think it boils down to, he feels too broken to really open up fully to people he thinks are stable - (He’s too wrapped up in level 20 mental illness to realize that they’re all coping pretty poorly {except Kuwabara - he’s best boy and he’s killing it}) - but he meets Mukuro and she’s a disaster just like him, she’s been through so much but she still manages to cling to happiness - she’s him 1 or 2 steps into healing (which gives him hope) but she’s still close enough to his level that he feels like he can open up for the first time without the fear of judgement

This post is so rambly and all over the place but if I didn’t express these feelings I felt like I would die so… thanks for reading?

#yyh #yu yu hakusho #hiei #I just have so many feelings #someone please help him #Once again I’m begging Hiei to get therapy

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disembodieds · 7 months

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I Can Not Stop Thinking About Madoka Magica.

#SORRY.#i just have so many feelings #my middle school lesbian self was asleep for some time and now is wide awake grown up and nostalgic #we repeat the same loops until we make a new one.#habla txt #pmmm

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cicadidae-tm9899 · 1 year

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A Hollyleaf, for your troubles.

This design comes with my own headcanon! It doesn’t really make sense but it was fun to come up with. I’ll put it under the break bc it’s quite a bit of text lol.

So i thought it would be cool for Holly to be a chimera? and the lighter half is from her sister Dove who was the kinda first pass at Dovewing. It’s difficult to explain in a way that makes sense? But basically Holly had powers like Dovewing’s but WAY less powerful, because of the circumstances of their birth. So instead of being able to hear across the entire clan territory, she can only hear in whatever one territory she’s in. After Dovewing is born, Holly loses her heightened senses completely, along with most of her lighter coloring (don’t ask me how that works. I like to thing of it as starclan/the ancient cats taking the bits of Dove out of Holly and remaking her to continue the prophecy bc it didn’t go to plan the first time.)

I also like to think that Holly herself has a power, but it’s less like being unkillable or dreamwalking like Jay and Lion, and more like god just poured all her skill points into charisma So she can easily influence people into being on her side, but she doesn’t use it often because she thinks it feels like betraying the will of her clanmates. Because of this power, Leafpool almost dies in the deathberry scene because, in her anger, Holly uses it to make her eat them until Jayfeather intervenes and saves her.

I’ve also toyed with the idea that Dove’s ghost (half ghost??) follows Holly around in Thunderclan until she finds a suitable cat to reincarnate as, and because of the nature of Holly’s powers, Dovewing gains her powers slowly as opposed to being born with them immediately.

Also I like to think that Holly is almost unrecognizable when she comes back from the tunnels because by that point she’s lost most of her lighter coloring. Dovewing being the reincarnation of the Dove half of Hollyleaf means that she looks exactly like the Dove side of Hollyleaf, minus a couple of the black spots, so Jay and Lion are constantly reminded of Holly when they look at Dovewing.

I saw someone draw Dovewing with red eyes and I liked it a lot, so I’m giving it to my Dovewing. I also think the heterochromia is cool with one side being red as holly berries and the other side being as green as holly leaves.

anyways, this was basically my first somewhat-coherent warriors headcanon/au, so I hope you like it!

(gonna tag @peppermint-moss bc her Hollyleaf content is what inspired me to write this)

#wc #warriors au #hollyleaf #dovewing #lionblaze #jayfeather #I'm constantly rotating her in my brain like a microwave #i've been watching every hollyleaf map or pmv i can find #I cry every single time i watch peppermint-moss's fine great and sin triangle amv's #istg #i just have so many feelings #so much love in my heart and it all belongs to Hollyleaf #wc 9899

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tachiisms · 1 year

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"Know this, Padawan," Qui-Gon said. "The Jedi Council will not change the rules." "But — " "They will not change the precepts. Not unless the whole galaxy changes, the whole Order changes, not unless an upheaval happens that changes everything. Then, perhaps, the rules will change. But with this Jedi Council? No. Make your choice. But do it with your eyes open." --Secrets of the Jedi

“No," Ferus said slowly. "I'm not. I can never really be a Jedi again. Not just because I left the Order." He looked back, in the direction of Bellassa. "I have attachments." "Once there was something I wanted, something forbidden by the Jedi code," Obi-Wan said. "Qui-Gon said something to me then. He said, maybe in a different galaxy things will change. The Jedi will change. Here is the change, Ferus. And I think... in the new order, attachments will be a strength. Maybe this is how the galaxy will be saved. So yes, you are still a Jedi.” --Last of the Jedi: The Desperate Mission

do you ever cry because when Ferus is talking about having attachments he’s talking about Roan, and when Obi-Wan tells him what Qui-Gon told him once, Obi-Wan was talking about Siri, and Ferus never even knew that he was talking about Siri? because I cry about it.

#i get SO EMOTIONAL about this.#they get interrupted by trever right after this so ferus can't ask what obi-wan was talking about even if he was going to ask #I just have so many feelings #:: the stuff of legends ( legends canon quotes )#q

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jochasada · 2 years

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Disclaimer: I love Kang Seo Joon with all my heart.

But boy, if you were one of my best friends, I would have told you to get your head out of your ass.

Sleeping outside his ex’s house, eating his food in his restaurant, integrating himself with all of Ji Woo’s loved ones - these behaviours are not normal. In fact, if it was anyone besides Seo Joon doing this, we would call it stalking.

It’s terrifying to see how dependant he is on Ji Woo. It is terrifying knowing how badly his mental health suffered and how his abandonment issues clearly worsened. It is of course not helped by the way Ji Woo left either, so thanks for that bud.

If this was real life, I would want Seo Joon to learn to be himself without Ji Woo. I would want him to realise he can stand on his own two feet and not need anyone. Instead, his unhealthy attachment may be romanticised.

I really hope his abandonment issues aren’t swept under the rug. I feel he is overdue completely exploding on Ji Woo (and according to the trailer we know that will be happening). No one can just take all this pain and do nothing but continue chasing the person who caused. No one - not even Kang Seo Joon.

I want someone to remind him that it is okay to feel these ugly emotions and to show them. Honesty is more than showing people your vulnerability. Honesty is being true to yourself about the hurt and anger you are feeling and communicating that. It is being true about your intentions and it is about knowing what you are worth.

Kang Seo Joon is worth so much more than camping outside his ex’s house, eating his food and forcing a place in his life. Kang Seo Joon is worth an honest and open love. I hope Han Ji Woo will be able to give that to him, but right now, he is too emotionally immature for that. It hurts but Kang Seo Joon needs to walk away with his final words to Ji Woo being:

“What you did to me is the worst thing a lover can do. Don’t use these words and my pain to allow yourself to pity yourself and hate yourself, so that you continue to stay away from me. Use my pain to open your eyes to what I am worth: An explanation. My pain shouldn’t have to do that for you; I should have been worth it from the start. If you can’t say it, then write it. Don’t keep me in a limbo like this, I won’t survive it.”

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