#i need to get better at this

[piiinkfreak]

Stand Still Stay Silent doodles! Idk i was feeling a little bit bored so i drew them...

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#stand still stay silent #stand still stay silent fanart #lalli hotakainen #emil västerström #tuuri hotakainen #sigrun eide #mikkel madsen #just some expression pratice #i need to get better at this #also i think their outfits are a bit wonky #probably due to the fact that i was to lazy to look at proper references #art #digital art #illustration

[italic-doing-random-shit]

Finally fed myself

#That’s probably the least I’ve eaten in a while like damn #Fuck #i need to get better at this

[edenaziraphale]

stayed home from work today bc my wife is injured and needed some help around the house, very lucky to have a job where my boss is flexible with our schedules

#the life and times #beccah bby #honestly I could use the rest #i've maxed out my vacation hours and i'm not accruing any now #because i never take any time off #i need to get better at this

[violeteyedkiller]

give this a like and I'll work up the energy to talk to you ooc cx

#I need to get better at this #I wanna make more connections with my moots #out of screams

[howlofhades]

Skrunkle moot and r u like ok

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How do I answer these, but honestly that's valid

#i need to get better at this #blue posts #blue's asks #blue answers #from the galaxy

[onefriendeveryday]

Fur - 13/6/2022 (though drawn over 13/6/2022 and 14/6/2022 and uploaded on 14/6/2022)

The hundred and eighty fourth friend. A cat. She's very large and very fluffy. The large amount of fur on the top of her head is the softest. She likes to have most of it cut but always keeps the part on top of her head long and floppy. She loves falling asleep in front of the fire, especially on a cold, winter night. She lets more of her fur grow a little longer then too as it helps her keep warm. She greatly enjoys the company of others but doesn't offer much to the conversation. She prefers to just listen and be with them and those who love her enjoy her quiet presence. They find just comforting. She is attracted to both men and women, though finds she has a slight preference towards women. The most important thing to her is being able to curl up with them and feel safe and warm. That usually matters more to her than gender.

#art #cat #omnisexual #omnisexual oc #pride #Pride series #the swirling did strange things #her head was a weird shape to work with #her ears look so strange but I did what I could #her face is pretty good though #I like what I did with that #her back leg is also very strange #I want to do the one for today but I just don't have time #I need to get better at this #I'll get to it tomorrow

[captainjonnitkessler]

You know I used to think "tumblr's absolute refusal to actually engage with the Trolley Problem in favor of insisting that there must be a third, morally pure option that doesn't require them to make a hard decision and anyone who asks them to make a binary choice is just a short-sighted idiot is really fucking annoying, but I guess it's not actually doing any harm".

Anyway that was before we asked tumblr at large to decide between "guy aiding a genocide but making progress elsewhere" and "guy who would actively and enthusiastically participate in a genocide and would also make everything else much, much worse for everyone elsewhere" and the response was that there must be a third, morally pure option that doesn't require them to make a hard decision and that anyone who asks them to make a binary choice is a short-sighted idiot.

#there is not a third option. it is either trump OR biden #and one of those will be much MUCH worse for palestine #i'm really really sorry that these are the options. i wish they weren't. #but WHAT third option are you trying to take here? what on earth is your proposed outcome #that will actually make things better for palestine? #because letting trump win the election is NOT going to help them #i'm sorry but you need to set aside your feelings and take the option that will lead to less harm to palestine in the long run #you talk such a big game about how people need to be willing to make sacrifices to help palestine #but you yourself aren't even willing to hold your nose and vote to stop things from getting worse? #or did you think 'sacrifice' only meant not getting mcdonalds for a few months? #us politics

[stuckinapril]

Honestly the cliche advice is true. If you fill your life w things you’re passionate about, if you challenge yourself every day, if you give your own opinion of yourself more weight than you do other people’s opinions of you, you will actually thrive. Like no one can tell u anything

#I’m just in a whole state of mind rn #there will always be ppl who try to bring u down but pursuing the things u love will help u rise above it. #I absolutely still get anxious / annoyed at things but I’m over it sm faster. and soon it won’t bother me at all. #or at least it’ll have a healthy duration. bc negative emotion isn’t always bad. negative emotion is important and we should not ignore it #but overall!! preserving my energy better. just need to work on my knee jerk responses & I’ll be set #text

[nonexistent-triangle]

the most important parts of a bed are - pilow - banky - warm girlfriend

#not words #if you can get more than one in thats better #god i miss being physically near a girl i need to get back on that

[mxwhore]

i love you lab grown diamonds i love you slavery-free chocolate i love you community gardens i love you fact that the insulin patent was sold for $1 i love you locally produced meat and milk i love you streets turned into walkable parks i love you little reminders that Things Do Not Have To Be This Way and there are people working to build a better world!!

#having sad feelings today i need to remind myself that things can and will get better #tessas txt

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

[newttxt]

crisis of disbelief

#one piece #trafalgar law #zoro #luffy #‘what ship is this’ sure #lulaw? luzo? law…zo? or is it zolaw. none of these sound like words anymore #well i guess bc they aren’t. they aren’t real words #‘law and zoro never really saw gear 5’ yeah. law saw his giant head in the roof and zoro was basically dead #they felt That tho #and finally #‘i thought you were taking a much needed rest break after weekly comics’ #yeah well. i need a new brush bc my old one kills my wrist and there is a STEEP learning curve for me :// #it’ll get easier right. it’ll look better right. RIGHT?!

[italinafatlovers]

Candii Is so fat now 😍😍😍😍😍

#fatty #fat belly #get me fatter #feedee belly #i want to be fatter #help me get fatter #before and fatter #need to be fatter #cute fatty #big fatty #fatty girl #the fatter the better #fat to fatter #fatt #fat #fat tummy #fitness #candii kayn #big bootie #big round butt #big tiddy committee #big tiddy gf #fat piggy #fat girls #fatter and fatter #fat anime #fatty belly #fatty piggy #gaining fat #feeding you fatter

[idolomantises]

Oh god being sick for this long and not being able to draw is making me go insane. I need to draw Yuri. I need to draw boobs. Women kissing!! Sex!!!! I want to draw boobs and women kissing!!!!!!! LESBIANS!! I MISS DRAWING LESBIANS!!!! GRAHHHHH‼️‼️‼️

#txt #I FEEL LIKE IM GOING INSANE #THE LESBIANS #THE WOMEN #I NEED THEM #I NEED TO GET BETTER FASTER

[wasyago]

a random cleo in armor

#wanted to draw here but didn't have any ideas. when in doubt draw armor☝️ #cleo is fun to draw i like her color scheme. but i still need to get better at drawing different body types #this one isn't bad but i feel like i could've done better. need to practice more #hermitcraft #zombiecleo #my art #sketch #also im rushing to post all the backlogged hc art before season 10 starts so there will be 2(+) post per day until then #it's not necessary but i feel like otherwise it'll just drown in the new stuff

[bxnnie-bxwl]

some random doodle dump <3

#freddy is bonnie's babygirl fr #but also the other way around <3 #need to get better at drawing freddy in fnaf style...honestly in general i never get his face right #first one pretty good but second attempt argh #art #fnaf #fnaf security breach #glamrock freddy #fnaf gregory #evil!bonnie #glamrock bonnie #glamrock fronnie #fnaf au