Your f/o(s) would never judge or shame or bully or infantilize you because of your triggers, no matter what they are. No matter if they don't have a problem with the thing themselves, no matter how silly or weird the thing may seem. No matter what.
They will always be more than happy to help you avoid your triggers whenever they show up because they love you, and your safety and your comfort are what matters most to them. They will immediately do whatever calms you down, be it distracting you in some way, getting you to another area away from the trigger, or anything else that helps you.
Even if it happens in the middle of a movie (even if they were super invested in watching it), they'd immediately turn it off. They would never treat you like an inconvenience or a burden. They just want you to be okay and be happy. They'd even check on that trigger website (if it covers yours) before you watch something together because they want to be extra sure that it'll be safe for you.
If you suddenly encounter something that triggers you when you're playing a video game, after calming you down your f/o would figure out how to get past it for you so you don't have to deal with it any more and so you can still play the rest of the game if you wanted to (unless it stays like that of course).
Your f/o has the utmost respect for you and it really shows in their care for you. And if anybody ever mistreats you because of your triggers? Even if your f/o isn't the confrontational type, you better believe that they're standing up for you. There's no way they're letting anybody upset you further, no matter who it is doing it. They will always have your back.
Your f/o loves and respects you more than anything. Even if it feels like nobody else does, your f/o always will.
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I also think it’s really sweet that they take photos with fans and that they actually smile and look pleasant in them, I’ve seen some celebs look absolutely miserable in fan pics and not smile at all and like I get it if a bunch of people are harassing you but it also makes me sad for the fans and dnp always seem grateful and kind to fans
i have never heard of a time where dnp were rude--fan interactions, employees, nothing. and while no one is perfect, it does make me feel, as a fan, validated in my support of people who are generally good humans. the reason we watch dnp is for their personalities. it would be hard to reconcile their on-camera nature with knowing they're regularly shit people behind the scenes, so any time there's a new selfie and story about how nice they are, it makes me smile. they've been at this a long time, and now that they're not at their 'peak', one could argue they could be tired of it. but they're always so lovely to fans. if it comes out that someone has had a bad experience with them, it won't shatter anything in my eyes cause they're humans, we all have off days or moments--they've got over a decade of extremely positive interactions, and i think that's worth a lot, especially in this industry.
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this is the one blog in particular that i cannot believe is still up, and haven't been deleted by tumblr. i-am-aprl. this person has posted, on the day of the hamas terrorist attack, Oct 7, a photo of a dead body of an israeli man being driven into gaza by a gazan man riding a motorcycle. She added celebratory words and emojis. Celebrating desecration. On the same day, while civilians were still being murdered, hunted down by hamas terrorists, this blogger posted screenshots from the video of a terrorist pulling israeli Naama Levy from the back of a truck, by her hair, while she's covered in blood. again, this blogger was CELEBRATING it!!!
at the time, she didn't get many notes. she wasn't popular at all. the fact is, this disgusting behaviour made her famous on tumblr. her posts containing antisemitism, blood libel, lies, and misinformation, get thousands of notes, tens of thousands of notes sometimes. instead of being told off, she has actually gained something from this behaviour. I don't have a bottom line here.
[I hate giving her more attention, but going through her archive is crazy.
on oct 7 she was also celebrating rockets being shot from civillian areas in gaza, later she's sad and heartbroken when the terrorists throwing those rockets are eliminated. she's a fan(?????? LOL) of fricking ahmed yassin who's rotting in hell. true supporter of terrorism. oh wow, tumblr has left this post UP!!!! she had a worse version of it which was deleted, but this one is... fine with tumblr?! another one celebrating the terrorist attack, while it is happening. no words, notice the date, and the hypocrisy! she's now crying screaming about the poor hamas terrorists being killed by the idf. google translate this celebratory post!!! maybe the worst one yet, she celebrated the oct 8 terrorist attack in Egypt, where two Israeli tourists and their Egyptian guide were shot dead! and TUMBLR IS FINE WITH THAT?! the post is still UP ON HER INSANE BLOG!]
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soooo the eddie walks in on fwb bucktalia fic is almost done, is anyone interested in being tagged when i post? 👀
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'this is like wanting your kid to get better by yelling at them and hitting them… you know it won't change/fix anything.'
EXACTLY I have been saying this for so long!! it's not gonna work and it's just gonna make everything worse. it's not a form of activism to just bully people until they conform to what you want; humans are autonomous people capable of choosing good, and like. we could be in the fandom of another band that doesn't even try, whose fans have given up on them and are just there for the music and the drama, but it's like the minute they do try to do something good they have to do activism a certain way and it almost becomes a kind of purity culture and purity culture is famously about control and not good for anyone.
but it's also people trying to be funny in the comments with thinly veiled frustrations that come out as insults about their appearance (which especially gets to me bc like. does body positivity stop if you're famous? or are they just idealised figures/bodies/personalities for us to look at and pretend our bodies don't change over time and we don't like it when they remind us that they actually do?) or their partners or how they express themselves. and it's the aura of entitlement that erodes their right to autonomy and individuality that gets me, not only because the way we get the creative music they make is them expressing that.
anyway i do think we as a fandom can do better and i want to attempt to start a conversation about that rather than trying to call people out in the comments. still thinking of how. there's a lot of people in the fandom who are struggling and exasperated with life and relate to their songs and the pressure has to come out somewhere; it ends up being in comments they feel like won't ever be seen except for by people who agree with them, at people who seem to far away and too big to ever see getting hurt by their comments. at least that's what I assume happens. but yes, they were bullying a cat
I agree with everything...
Was it always like this? It can't be because this is too much, none of the hate was on me and I couldn't take it, I wonder how the guys (or any celebrity) feels, being judged about the tiniest move you do, it's crazy I would totally lose my mind.
That's not how life is... yes I would love to be a fan of good people but if the gf/partner of the artist you're a fan of is bad and their friends are bad what does that make them? Maybe it's on you, maybe YOU should pick better idk 😭.
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We have reached the "over-analyzing innocuous interactions" part of the crush, everybody cheer!
A few weeks ago, they told me what they do for work, and I called it sexy in a way that could be interpreted as either flirting or friendly ribbing. (It was both, really.) Any time they've mentioned their job since, they've called it their sexy job, and we arrive at the bit that I'm over-analyzing: Are they flirting back or are they engaging with the friendly ribbing part????? Damn my compulsive plausible deniability! Damn it to hell!
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