#it just has to be done

[viacursecasting]

One of the last things my professor told me before I graduated is that in our field, we spend a lot of time making decisions, deciding what looks right. If we have doubts even after something's "done," we have to trust that because of the time spent on it, we've made the right decisions

#via living #it doesn't have to be perfect #it just has to be done #something i kept telling myself those last few weeks

[toboldlywrite]

NaNoWriMo Day 1

I made a cover! That counts as productive, right?

I mean, I did also write.

Word count for the day: 2163

Total word count: 2163

Notes: Wrote all of chapter one. Hurray!

Excerpt:

She hit it, and everything exploded into electric blue pixels.

She wasn’t falling anymore. She was laying on something solid. Something hard. She opened her eyes to see not the colored tile, but a sleek, dark floor. A dark floor with a warped reflection on it. Reflecting something looming over her.

And then a voice spoke, breaking the sudden and complete silence.

“What the hell?”

#wip: error 404 #my writing #nanowrimo2022 #trying to get over the urge to not share excerpts because i feel like nothing i write is good enough to share #it's just a first draft it doesn't have to be perfect or even good #it just has to be done #where's that graph of skills vs perspective or whatever the heck it is #anyway #hello i'm alive i wasn't on for a bit oops

[bl00d-bunny]

i swear im gonna do some writing today

#it doesn't have to be good #it just has to be done #bunny thinks

[stargatebarbie]

#has this one been done yet #i just got here and im very confused #boop #juno.txt

[embraceyourdestiny]

to any americans who feel "paralyzed" and "dont know what to do" to help with gaza:

reading a fucking book. i beg of you.

in a time of knowledge suppression is it your duty to arm yourself with knowledge.

read about americas occupations in the middle east.

read about 9/11 from outside of america and see how they inflicted senseless harm and violence to countless amounts of people and have been suppressing your rights for the past 2 fucking decades.

read about any of the countless wars from the past 30 years. especially from a civilian's. and the victims and survivors' perspective. listen to the horror stories and do not plug your fucking ears as to what your country is doing.

and read about fucking gaza and palestine and keep up with what is happening no matter how "sad" or "uncountable" you might get.

dont look away from this.

you dont have the right to be comfortable during countless active genocides.

if you're knowledgeable, you're powerful, and our current state doesnt fucking want that.

you have the power to change things if you open your eyes and scream to the world.

wake the fuck up.

Edit: please check the reblogs there are readings and ways to help

#og #truly if youre not about it your against it and i dont fuck with you because you're complacent #wake the fuck up #we're all responsible and dont you dare say you're not #americans need to stop living in the world with their eyes closed and their ears covered #look at what your fucking 'glorious country' is doing to people #everyone should be against america no fucking exceptions because america is violent and evil and needs to be stopped #then read about what america has done to the natives of their land #radicalize yourself #decolonize your mind #free palestine #land back #palestine will be free #theres too many fucking movements of just the past couple years all happening at once to act like the world is fucking fine #we are in a human rights CRISIS #WAKE THE FUCK UP PLEASE

[clementine-kesh]

like literally if i didn’t want to see some weird nonsense i wouldn’t be consuming scifi

#embrace the genre!!!! stop being annoying!!!! #how many times has acclaimed podcast friends at the table done stuff just because it’s sick as shit?? #exactly!!!

[must-be-mr-boggins]

Taking a 5-second break from the Bagginshield angst to bring you this meme I created after an all-nighter, enjoy.

#lotr #lord of the rings #aragorn #books #movies #tolkien #what about second breakfast #like yeah girl what ABOUT it #I’m both parties in this scenario tbh #sorry if this has been done before #I’m just a girl #a girl running on 3 hours of sleep

[snarkspawn]

the devil you know

#baldur's gate 3 #bg3 #bg3 fanart #bg3 raphael #stuff and things #userpharawee #yeah I know everyone and their mum has already done something like this #with the shadow and the exact caption and all lmao I *know* ok #I just. wanted to do it too #and I've had it in my head for months it needed to get out #anyway. moving on!

[lady-lessobian]

We’ve been played for fucking fools

#I’m sure this has been done but I only just noticed #harrowhark the ninth #htn #tlt #the locked tomb #I hope this curses everyone who sees it

[slowburncowboy]

#dm #dungeon meshi #delicious in dungeon #sorry this is the second one ive mad lmao #im gonna tag as spoilers just in case #spoilers #dm spoilers #sorry if anyone else has done this ive been trapped in a van for 8 hours

[thekaiserroll]

Zosan comic inspired by videos of otters holding hands so they won't float away from each other.

#roronoa zoro #sanji #black leg sanji #zosan #zoro x sanji #one piece #I have finally finished it! #I posted a rough sketch of this on discord server about 9 months ago and then I just abandoned it ;-; #this psd file has been staring at me for so long and now this comic is finally done!!! #I'm so happy but also now I know I can't post my WIPs because that's what happens to them XD

[time-woods]

bro really just said that like he just brought those words into existence just like that

#like wow he really just said that #thats insane man #adventure time #fionna and cake #simon petrikov #the winter king #fionna and cake spoilers #what has this man done

[marshmellowtea]

sighs heavily. i have to wash my sheets

#it just has to be done #even if it makes me wanna cry and throw up #it’s a pain in the ass but it needs to be done #marshy speaks

[chloesimaginationthings]

FNAF movie Vanessa meets Glamrock Chica

#myart #chloesimagination #comic #fnaf vanny #vanessa afton #vanessa shelly #fnaf vanessa #glamrock chica #security breach #glamrock animatronics #fnaf #fnaf movie #fnaf fanart #five nights at freddy's #Glamrock Chica moment!!! #Vanessa doesn’t care that Chica is eating trash that’s part of her charm #Tbh same I wouldn’t care I too would hug Chica #Vanessa just loving the animatronics is like one of my favourite quirks about her #Only Vanny knows the horrors Chica has done #I drew Glamrock Freddy so it was only right to draw Chica next 🩷 #hopefully I’ll draw all the glamrocks sometime!

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

[artschoolglasses]

Americans not giving a shit about the wildfires burning down forests and homes in Canada until smoke starts spreading across the border. Meanwhile Indigenous communities across the country are far more likely to be impacted by the fires and I’ve seen all of one link to a charity and about nine million memes. 🙃

#yeah yeah hashtag notallamericans or whatever the fuck #I’m just irritated watching people whine or centre themselves #like sorry your clothes smell like smoke gladys but people have lost their fucking homes #and the government does fuck all for indigenous communities #so you know who’s gonna end up getting more aid #but sure brad can’t go out for his usual morning jog because of the canadians #also all these fucking news articles making ir about america as if canada has somehow done this on purpose out of spite #someone buy me a punching bag for my birthday thanks #artschoolrambles