#life of a therapist

[strangenewwords]

being a therapist is getting sauce on your shirt in the middle of your day and artfully moving your cardigan to cover it.

#therapist #life of a therapist #we all wear cardigans #they give them to you with the degree

[stonedchickens]

today has been a lil triggering and i hope i can keep it together for my next three sessions (after some food of course).

#text post #mine #life of a therapist

[ahotknife]

i will never stop being 6 years old and lonely. i will never stop being 11 years old and lonely. i will never stop being 19 years old and lonely. i will never stop

#lucinda.txt #my therapist said there was a common thread of loneliness in my life :( #i was like yeah :( there is :( #1k #2k #5k #10k

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

[irrealisms]

tired of medication positivity posts that assume everyone has a positive relationship with medication

here’s to people who don’t take medication that their doctors want them to take. here’s to people who get marked noncompliant. here’s to people who get sectioned or hospitalized bc they won’t take their meds. here’s to people who self-medicate w nonprescription drugs. here’s to the people in withdrawal. here’s to the people who would rather deal with their symptoms than medication side effects. here’s to the “treatment-resistant” people who have never found medication that helps at all. here’s to the people who are only on meds nonconsensually. here’s to people who refuse meds for “irrational” or “stupid” reasons. here’s to people for whom taking meds is a trauma trigger. here’s to people who are disabled from past medications. here’s to people who are constantly being pressured into taking meds they don’t want and having to defend their “no” over and over again

yes, lots of people need their meds. yes, meds can be important. but don’t forget us

fuck everyone who calls us anti-science or anti-recovery. who says we are hurting other ppl by talking about our choices. bodily autonomy includes the right to say NO. even to medical treatment.

#therapists dni #psychiatry tag #survivingpsych #fwiw I TAKE MULTIPLE LIFE SAVING MEDICATIONS #i am not trying to shame ppl who do! or deny that meds are important! #but like. as an unmedicated by choice schizo #it’s hard out here. with the medical trauma and so forth

[caffstrink]

Artist life hack

#original #its just like therapists say if change your mindset you change your life #well its true!

[defleftist]

May you live an existence that doesn’t require constant resilience.

#mental health #mental illness #mental health matters #trauma #resilience #resilient #trauma informed #trauma informed counseling #counseling #counselor #therapy #therapist #therapy is cool #leftblr #defleftist #leftist #life

[tei-to-tei]

December 16 - Mischievous Activities

1 | 2 | 3 | 4 | 5 | 6 | 7 | 8 | 9 | 10 | 11 | 12 | 13 | 14 | 15 16 | ...

#rottmnt #rise fanart #rise of the tmnt #rise leo #rise mikey #turtle tots #one could argue that mikey knows exactly what he's doing here #and just feigning ignorance #but... he's jus a wittle baby #so yeah #not cannon or even well-drawn at all i'm just feeling meh #hope everyone else is doing okay <3 #trying to spend more time writing this weekend instead of drawing and playing family therapist but... *shrugs* #it's a hard knock life #teidoodle #tei's dec23

[oatbugs]

last night i got home kind of tipsy and very much in tears and my mother told me the force you exert to keep someone in your life is proportional to the force with which they will leave your life. if you have to fight tooth and claw to keep them, their leaving will be just as hard, just as harsh, and just as definite.

#she said it like a law. its just momentum. #also she told me to get a therapist and start archery ASAP bc i need to get it together #and also she said even granting that this person u were in love w was So Special . as in hot motorcycle-riding iranian masc lesbian in ldn #they arent the only one on earth and that once i start my proper adult life outside of studies etc etc i will probably no longer live in th #UK. she said most non straight iranians u would like have left the country anyway . where do you think they went? theyre out there #and also she asked me to imagine how many hot gay iranians there may be in italy or amsterdam or smth and i was like ok points 😭 maybe #ur right. anyway i was having a feeling of dread bc crying into the arms of ur strict asian mother while buzzed usually results in #death chaos destruction etc in the next few days but actually i think maybe she has genuinely changed as a person and the fear is #unwarranted #anyway i need to eat breakfast and study w the date person i met yesterday #they are so nice ??? genuinely so so sweet i dont feel attracted to them at all omg i genuinely think i have a thing for hot evil ppl 😭 #but we could b besties . theyre a lot more romantic than the ex situationship person too like generally . ugh they should be perfect but #alas it appears i am shallow as fuck or potentially a lesbian actually #OH THEY MIGHT ALSO BE POTENTIALLY A LESBIAN BTW #i think i just tend to not date cis ppl entirely by accident #....feel free to rb if u want btw sorry for the rant

[loveindefinitely]

you, a therapist hired to see if there's any possible way to rehabilitate the country's most lethal killers. you, who becomes the object of desire for your patients. you, who comes to work with bruises from your abusive boyfriend.

soap, ghost, gaz, price, alejandro, rudy, könig and keegan who are gonna escape and find said boyfriend and make him beg for mercy.

#🗯 : love's rambles #no but #need a rh therapist/patient fic in my life #might do it myself #call of duty #cod mw2 #cod x reader #mw2 #tf141 x reader #task force 141

[strangenewwords]

I do this move regularly now. One of these days I'm going to do it in a session, and a client is going to know.

And then I'll be really sad, coz we can't be friends.

#Therapy #a day in the life #life of a therapist #my shrink said 'we're in the darkest timeline' once #we were talking about the world #it's accurate #and just a blissful thing to know about your shrink #i have notes and i'm avoiding them #don't judge me

[stonedchickens]

potential client messaged me that she's on her lunch break and ready for our call whenever, which was 30 mins prior to our scheduled consultation. I am hoping that she is just anxious and excited, and not someone who will push boundaries. 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

#life of a therapist

[thattheater-kid]

You know what’s wild about being a fictive? Missing your old life even though it was shitty because it’s a shittiness you were used to. The life you’re living now is a new kind of shitty that feels unpleasant in a different way.

#maybe it’s stupid to miss the life I had #it sucked #so much #I hated it actually #I prayed every night that I wouldn’t wake up the next morning and cried when I did #I’m still doing that tbh #this is a different kind of suck though #I want my old life back #those people were shitty but they were MY shitty people #maybe I just got used to the horrible conditions I was living in #and now I miss it even though it was horrible #just because it’s familiar to me #maybe it’s the difference between the physical discomfort I felt in my old life #vs the emotional discomfort I feel now #maybe I should talk to my therapist #or go to bed #did system #plural #plurality #actually plural #actually did #plural system #system things #dissociative system #fictive #fictives #fictive culture #system culture #plural culture

[livwritesstuff]

Aaaannddddd another ask because I’m Insatiable and you’ve enabled me (ily ❤️) AND because I’m Terminally Online and have been fully consumed by the brainrot.

ANYWAYS I saw this and immediately thought of Steddie. Would they? Who would instigate it? How would the other respond? Who would win?

This is so funny because Hazel would 100% show this to Eddie and be like "Dad, you should so try this on Pop," and Eddie loves to mess with Steve so he's obviously game for it.

Later that same day, Eddie waits for the dryer to go off on the load of laundry Steve's been working on, and then when Steve goes to grab it, he follows him.

"First one to move has to fold everything," he says once he's got a hold on half of the pile of laundry in Steve's arms.

Steve just looks at him for a second and then he's like, "You fucking idiot."

Eddie: Huh?

Steve: You are literally the poster adult for undiagnosed ADHD.

Steve: And I was about to go fold all this voluntarily.

And in the three seconds it took Steve to say that, Eddie had already forgotten what they were doing, so he throws his hands up to gesticulate wildly through his own self-defense.

Eddie: Hey, that's — oh shit.

Steve drops the rest of the clothes, steps over the pile, and says, "Lots of socks in this one. Have fun."

(He kisses Eddie on the cheek as he leaves, because he's not a total monster).

#it's undiagnosed because steve doesn't diagnose people in his personal life and Eddie won't go to any therapist that isn't steve #he lost the same battle with robin too #liv’s steddie dads verse #steddie #steve harrington #eddie munson

[aholefilledwithtwigs]

I have to say, as a full ass adult it is so satisfying to respond with ‘Tumblr’ when asked if I’m on any social media. It’s great. Just a conversation full stop. No ‘what’s your handle/username’ like with instagram or twitter. Absolute roadblock— and usually derails people from the whole goal of getting your socials

(other tumblr users also don’t ask username, but for entirely different reasons)

#people outside tumblr don’t seem to get it #and fear even venturing in #people from tumblr are wary because they DO know what goes on here #and looking at a real life coworker’s tumblr can change how you see them #my old therapist was also on tumblr #and was terrified of crossing paths with her here #though i know we inhabited wildly different circles #(she had never heard of plinko horse when it was at its peak #which seemed impossible)

[ikol-art]

Everyone always assumes Arthur is gonna come back in 'our' time in fics, but when is someone gonna write an 'Arthur returns because Aliens have invaded Earth' futuristic one

#the possibilities! #let merlin go to space #also he could be obi wan #still talking about the magic in his time #and meanwhile they have laser guns now #dont even ask its the middle of the night and Ive decided to put all my thoughts in posts now #also im ignoring the fact that merlin would have to wait even longer #its fine he saw a therapist and found good coping mechanisms #he's gonna have the time of his life fighting in space when arthur returns #bbc merlin #arthur pendragon #arthur returns