#no boundary

[nemainofthewater]

Best character surnamed: Shangguan

Come and vote for the best characters with the same surname!*

What does best mean? It's up to you! Whether you love them, are intrigued by their characters, love to hate them, or they're your '2 second blorbos whose personality you made up wholesale', these are all reasons for you to vote for your favs!

*note, the surnames are not exactly the same in all the cases, as often there will be a different character. I am, however, grouping them all together otherwise things got more complicated.

Propaganda is very welcome! If I’ve forgotten anyone, let me know in the notes.

This is part of a larger series of ‘best character with X surname’ polls’. The overview with ongoing polls, winners, and future polls can be found here

NB: Shangguan Jing is a contestant again as I hadn't realised her surnamed was 'Shangguan' and not 'Shang' in a previous poll

#poll #under the power #white cat legend #my journey to you #new life begins #in blossom #no boundary #fairyland lovers #a clear and muddy loss of love #the legend of flying daggers #xiaoli feidao

[dangermousie]

Man, being a killer in Ye Olde Times must have been great! You can do so much murder for fun and profit and evil spirits get blamed.

Or cats:

#cdrama #in blossom #no boundary

[simply-whump]

No Boundary (玉昭令) Season 1 - Whump List

Whumpee : Zhan Yan played by Darren Chen

Synopsis : Follow an upstanding goddess and a constable with a cold exterior who join forces to solve crimes and find love along the way. Duan Mu Cui descends to the mortal realm and establishes her own sect with the intent to vanquish demonic forces who seek to harm humans. Imperial guard Zhan Yan receives orders to help her, beginning their journey against ghosts in the pugilistic world. (MDL)

Genre : Historical, Mystery, Romance, Wuxia, Fantasy

Other name : The Storm of The World

Warning ! Possible spoilers below !

Ep 1-2 : None

Ep 3 : Willingly enters some dangerous illusion world, falls into slumber — Stabbed

Ep 4 : (Replay) Stabbed, collapses, passes out, concern for him — Helped to walk, wound treated, in pain

Ep 5 : Still trapped in the illusion world, his body in the real world is starting to rot and won’t wake up, concern for him — Finally wakes up, told he has to rest to recover — Given medicine

Ep 6 : None

Ep 7 : Worried, detoxifies the poisoned female lead by sucking out the poisoned blood, cuts his own wrist to give her human blood (so she can stay in the human realm) — Worried, offers more of his blood, wrist bandaged

Ep 8-10 : None

Ep 11 : Attacked by some silk monster, silk “wraps” around him (kinda like mummified) — Missing, friends worried for him — Found wrapped around/mummified in silk, concern for him, female lead tries to remove it with no success — Finally freed from the silk, unconscious — Unconscious on his friend’s back

Ep 12 : Attacked again by the silk monster (not his real name but seems appropriate), wrapped/mummified again in silk, struggling to get free, memories read — Found pretty much completely mummified by silk, concern for him, freed, not breathing, given mouth to mouth breathing — Wakes up

Ep 13 : None but that episode was so sweet

Ep 14 : Shields female lead with his body, a heavy object falls on his back, concern for him, spits blood — Feeling down

Ep 15 : Feeling down, says lots of things he doesn’t mean 

Ep 16 : Hit by magic, passes out — Recovering in bed

Ep 17 : Trapped inside a magical barrier 

Ep 18-20 : None

Ep 21 : Hit by magic, falls to one knee — Hit by magic again 

Ep 22 : Worried for someone, crying — Bleeding from the mouth, passes out — Wakes up in bed, dizzy, tries to get up, almost falls down, walking unsteadily, concern for him, recalls painful memories, agitated — Depressed

Ep 23 : Fighting multiple people, countering powerful magic, arm bleeding — Trying to counter more powerful magic, spitting blood 

Ep 24 : (Replay) Trying to counter some powerful magic, spitting blood, concern for him — Attacked by some dark magic, passes out, concern for him — Unconscious in bed

Ep 25 : Coughing blood, collapses, passes out, concern for him — Unconscious in bed, concern for him, given medicine

Ep 26 : Put to sleep with magic — Thrown away by some magic field — Fighting, hit by magic, stabbed, sword dug deeper in his chest, sword dug out, stabbed again 

Ep 27 : (Replay) Stabbed again, passes out — Still unconscious, concern for him — Willingly enters “the Abyss” (a bad place) — Walking unsteadily

Ep 28-29 : None

Ep 30 : Manhandled — In jail, stabbed in the shoulder, digs the sword deeper in his shoulder — Fighting — Treats his wound — Knife at his throat

Ep 31 : None 

Ep 32 : Punished, kneeling with his hands tied, whipped , back bloody, spitting blood, concern for him, shielded — Back treated, concern for him — Hand briefly turning transparent 

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#no boundary #The Storm of The World #whump list #asian whump #whump #cdrama #chinese drama #historical drama #wuxia #darren chen

[rojaloca]

Why can’t the dragon boys ever have happiness

#ashes of love #no boundary #miss the dragon

[vikingfunerals]

the commodification of friendship is the most annoying thing to come out of the internet in ages. like actually i love to break this to you but you're supposed to help your friends move even if it's hard work. or stay up with them when they're sad even if you're gonna lose sleep. you're supposed to listen to their fears and sorrows even if it means your own mind takes on a little bit of that weight. that's how you know that you care. they will drive you to the airport and then you will make them soup when they're sick. you're supposed to make small sacrifices for them and they are supposed to do that for you. and there's actually gonna be rough patches for both of you where the balance will be uneven and you will still be friends and it will not be unhealthy and they will not be abusive. life is not meant to be an endless prioritization of our own comfort if it was we would literally never get anywhere ever. jesus.

#i hate twitter #like set boundaries but . #ok to rb

[everchased]

hahahahaaaa get safe and cared for, idiot

#baldur's gate 3 #bg3 #astarion #bg3 tav #astarion x tav #oc: finch #my turn to draw my tav being cute with his vampire bf heeheehee lalala my turn my turn #because i'm weak for a hug and tired bitches snuggling #and for astarion still being nervous about his boundaries being pushed #waiting for the shoe to drop but it never does #slowly lowering the hackles #because it keeps getting reenforced that. it might be okay #anyway i continue to be abnormal about this game bye #my art #bloodoath

[catcrumb]

#crumb #obviously i don't mean innocuous stuff im talking abt people crossing boundaries

[powdermelonkeg]

Fun fact: We know the size of the Pokémon world because Scarlet and Violet has framerate issues

I'm not answering any more questions

#i watched boundary break and have Feelings and Questions #pokemon sv #*sigh* very close to deleting this. sick of the outdated ver popping up in my notes #wait. i can turn off reblogs can't i

[thepeacefulgarden]

#recovery #stop enabling #self care #self care is not selfish #doing the hard stuff #self care is not an indulgence #codependency #boundaries #relationships #unhealthy relationships #family #friendship #mental health #make yourself a priority #self compassion #healing #low contact #no contact #dysfunctional family #people pleasing #fawning #love #find your people

[nerdpoe]

Phantom, the newest addition to the Justice League, pulls Wonder Woman aside.

He has...a strange request.

He's nervous, flustered, fading in and out of the visible spectrum. It's clear that what he's about to ask of her is important to him, and even though she has an uncomfortable voice in the back of her head telling her this young hero is about to ask her out, she resolves to listen before she jumps to conclusions.

She's glad she did.

"Can...can you put a grave for me in Themyscira? I know it's just for women, but it's the safest place I can think of for it! I just...I don't have a grave, and Clockwork says it's starting to stunt my growth as a Ghost, and I have too many enemies on American soil, so. It's okay if you say no, though, I'll figure something out, it's fine."

Diana lets him ramble to the end, already knowing what her answer is going to be.

"We would be honored to host your grave, Phantom. Do you have any remains I can take home? Do you require a funeral service?"

Phantom looks...he looks beyond grateful. Close to tears.

"No, no remains. A symbolic grave is fine, it just. It has to have my real name on it, my mortal one." He says, looking hesitant. "Please don't reach out to my family, Wonder Woman. They don't know."

With that, he hands over a small slip of paper, torn from a notebook and clearly folded one too many times.

She takes it as though he were entrusting her with the rarest diamond in the world. She wants to, but she does not ask how they could not notice the death of someone so very bright.

Instead she nods, tucking the paper away.

Phantom will get a grand grave, one worthy of a friend to the Crown of Themyscira. She will ensure it.

#dpxdc #dcxdp #dp x dc #dc x dp #phanfic #story prompt #she builds him a superb grave #and makes it a point to leave flowers at it whenever she can #the paper also had his birthdate and deathdate #she doesn't know who clockwork is but she's heard phantom talk highly of him #so she trusts that this clockwork fellow wasn't joking around #she also makes it a point to take phantom for ice cream or other treats now that she knows he died so young #she keeps her word #she doesn't contact the fentons #she doesn't look into them #she's not bruce and she knows how to respect a boundary

[hybrix-hidings]

Honestly everyone give it up for repulsed aces/aros. Yall get so much shit for having boundaries and its frustrating to watch. You're all getting sent complimentary gift baskets

#aromantic #asexual #aspec #romance repulsed #sex repulsed #I was very briefly romance repulsed due to An Incident and like #every time i tried being like 'hey theres a PDA channel can you use that for this' to my friends with partners theyd throw a shit fit #anyway what im trying to say is that yall are strong as fuck and deserve to have boundaries respected.

[give-soup-please]

we need to talk about the fact that for many of the posters in season one, they are literally on opposite sides and/or have a dividing line between them

and now they're literally crossed over in some way for the season 2 posters

THEY'RE LITERALLY ON THEIR OWN SIDE NOW, PEOPLE!

CAN WE TALK ABOUT THIS?

#good omens #aziraphale #crowley #losing my mind again #yeah uh #can we fucking talk about the crossing of established boundaries as a narrative device? #yes i know it's obvious #but like #LOOK

[shorthistorian]

Kink isn’t shameful because of the weird sex stuff. That part’s rad. It’s shameful because it is technically improv. 

#15k edit: this is not about consent this is about not being able to think of good dialogue mid-scene #obviously you establish and stick to boundaries

[simply-whump]

No Boundary (玉昭令第二季) Season 2 -Whump List

Whumpee : Zhan Yan played by Darren Chen

Synopsis : Continuing the plot from the first season, Duanmu Cui and Zhan Yan "return to the past" after entering the Abyss. Duanmu Cui has lost her memories and Zhang Yan dives deep into foreign territory to reclaim his true love. There are many variables in their new environment. War between the humans and the you tribe is imminent. Will history repeat itself or will it change due to Zhan Yan's arrival? The two team up to bring peace in the three realms.

Genre : Historical, Mystery, Romance, Wuxia, Fantasy

Other name : Storm of the World 2

Warning ! Possible spoilers below !

Ep 1 : Still in the “Abyss” so people in the “real world” are slowly forgetting him — Fighting

Ep 2 : None

Ep 3 : Hand briefly becomes transparent (If he stays too long in the Abyss, he will completely disappear), concern for him — Given medicine — Difficult fight, hand becomes transparent during the fight, has to use his non-dominant hand, hit several times, thrown to the ground, spits blood, concern for him, passes out

Ep 4 : Unconscious in bed, treated with magic, concern for him

EP 5 : Feeling unwell, pulse taken, concern for him

Ep 6 : People (including close friends) start to forget even his name in the real world

Ep 7 : None

Ep 8 : Hand briefly becomes transparent, stabbed, concern for him — In jail, chained — His friend in the real world desperately try to not forget him

EP 9 : Unconscious/sleeping in jail, woken up, concern for him — Coughing, half-collapses on female lead shoulder, concern for him, clearly unwell — Unconscious in bed, turning transparent intermittently, concern for him, wakes up

Ep 10 : Feeling unwell, hand becomes transparent

Ep 11 : Friends in the real world are carving his name everywhere to not forget him — Hands tied — Worried for someone, crying — Body becoming more and more transparent

Ep 12 :  Starting to completely disappear, weak, in pain — Tricked, cursed, has to obey everything the bad guy says or he will be in immense pain, collapses on his knees, ordered to kill the female lead, collapses on the ground, tries to resist the curse, in great pain — The curse keeps reminding him to kill the female lead, unwell, concern for him — Curse activated once more, black eyes, attacks the female lead against his will, manages to stop himself, collapses, concern for him, bleeding from the mouth, in pain, more bleeding, more pain — Curse lifted — Finally leaves the Abyss, friends really happy to see him again

Ep 13 : Passes out from exhaustion — Concern for him, won’t wake up, pulse taken, just in deep sleep (the poor guy is truly exhausted) — Coughing, concern for him

EP 14 : In jail, concern for him — (Flashback) Drugged, passes out 

Ep 15 : Worried for someone, crying

Ep 16 : None

Ep 17 : Fighting, hit, protected — Thrown to the ground by a magic blast

Ep 18 : His adoptive mother dies in his arms, crying 

Ep 19 : Fighting, stabbed, bleeding from the mouth, thrown to the ground, concern for him — Ready to sacrifice his life, difficult fight against the main villain, restrained by magic, worried for someone, more CGI fighting, spitting blood, passing out, concern for him — Buried under snow, missing, very worried female lead, found, dug out, unconscious, hand warmed, begged to wake up, given mouth to mouth breathing, wakes up, heavy lidded eyes, speaking weakly, bleeding from the mouth, dying (all that in the female lead arms who is worried sick about him), passes out (dies?) (Gif Set) — Saved with magic

Ep 20 : Wakes up, devastated — Depressed — Shocked, emotional, crying 

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[ziggy-solarecreator]

Proper boundaries

#mental health #boundaries #psychology

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop