Cw for forced body hair removal(?)
Does it count as physical abuse for your parents to force you to go through cosmetic procedures against your will? Specifically stuff for body hair removal (waxing, threading, laser, for example).
My mom keeps making me thread my face and it hurts so badly, I beg her to stop but she does it anyway. Last time, I just…collapsed afterward, and I remember feeling like I was a doll. Everytime this happens it feels so violating, I feel so disgusting, but it’s not like it’s anything sexual. My head was fuzzy the whole weekend and I remember feeling numb but scared at the same time.
My parents say that I’m making a bigger deal of this than necessary, and that as a young woman (I’m in my late teens) it’s my job to always look and dress nice.
Idk anymore. My mom started forcing me to wax my face at 11, and I’m not sure if that’s normal or if I’m just being sensitive. At this point I kinda hate wearing anything that shows my skin
TW for physical abuse and body torture
Yes it absolutely is abuse, and horrific abuse at that! Your body is yours alone, nobody, not any authority in this world is allowed to make changes on your body, or do to it whatever you don't want done to it! What you're feeling is absolutely correct, this is a violation, abuse, and so painful it counts as torture! They have absolutely no right to do this to you, I am so sorry. It's not your job to look any certain way, and forcing someone to remove something from their own body should be illegal. You're not their doll, you're not their property, you are a human being, your body should be left completely in your power, only your own choices affecting it.
I am so sorry, this sounds horrendous and I hope there's a way it can stop. Your mom cannot be allowed to do this kind of horrible thing to you, from your fuzzy and numb and scared reaction, it's clear this is traumatic to you, and it would be for anyone. This is torture and nobody should be doing this to you. Your hair never hurt anyone.
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Didn’t realize that saying “I hope that the endogenic system who I comforted in DMs and became anti endo due to harassment from others is doing well. Shout out to them for proving that anti endo means so, so much more than ‘I don’t think endos exist.’” was apparently a free for all on a user who did, in fact, get harassed off of a platform.
Apparently it’s okay to suggest they weren’t ran off the platform while actively continuing to discuss the harassment they faced while pretending they were only aggressive because of “well thought out arguments.”
Jfc if this is how y’all treat them now that they’re gone, I’m glad they aren’t here now to see it ):
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yo lay-off Haiku you fkin fruitcake
I–
Bro you're abusing your students–
Like holy shxt
Haruka got Looney-tuned while Haiku’s over here getting his shxt rocked (like with boulders)
Yes but do you have to punch me in the face while you do it ?????
…..(fvcked up)
NOT THE CGI DOG TOO
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Then you have to get punished.
People are supposed to get punished.
You think we weren’t?
I'm always in that house.
I'm always in that room.
I can't get out.
Maybe I did some things I shouldn't
have done,
but I didn't deserve that.
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you ever think about how Zuko had 3 years to come to terms with the fact that his father never loved him and Azula had like. two hours. like Zuko had this whole dramatic character arc where he struggled to do right and Iroh was there to support him meanwhile Ozai was like yeah here’s a hollow title shithead. gonna go burn the Earth Kingdom without you lol. if i got done dirty by my dad as bad as Azula got done i’d start shooting lightning with my hair down too.
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one of the things about being an educator is that you hear what parents want their kids to be able to do a lot. they want their kid to be an astronaut or a ballerina or a politician. they want them to get off that damn phone. be better about socializing. stop spending so much time indoors. learn to control their own temper. to just "fucking listen", which means to be obedient.
one of the things i learned in my pedagogy classes is that it's almost always easier to roleplay how you want someone to act. it's almost always easier to explain why a rule exists, rather than simply setting the rule and demanding adherence.
i want my kids to be kind. i want them to ask me what book they should read next, and i want to read that book with them so we can discuss it. i want my kid to be able to tell me hey that hurt my feelings without worrying i'll punish them. i want my kid to be proud of small things and come running up to me to tell me about them. i want them to say "nah, i get why this rule exists, but i get to hate it" and know that i don't need them to be grateful-for-the-roof-overhead while washing the dishes. i want them to teach me things. i want them to say - this isn't safe. i'm calling my mom and getting out of this. i want them to hear me apologize when i do fuck up; and i want them to want to come home.
the other day a parent was telling me she didn't understand why her kid "just got so angry." this woman had flown off the handle at me.
my dad - traditional catholic that he is - resents my sentiment of "gentle parenting". he says they'll grow up spoiled, horrible, pretentious. granola, he spits.
i am going to be kind to them. i am going to set the example, i think. and whatever they choose become in the meantime - i'm going to love them for it.
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