#pet death cw

[am-i-the-asshole-official]

WIBTA if I told my sister I think she should put down her dog?

(cw: animal death, animal erection mention (I shit you not), suicide mention)

So, I (21nb) have a sister (Amelia, 23f). She’s been living with a friend for the past two years, but she still stops by the house every now and then. Most of the time, it’s just to drop off her dog (Max, toy poodle, 16?m) so that we (Dad and Mom, 63m and 55f, and Jamie, 25f) can dogsit him while she’s at work. We’ve already got three dogs of our own, and because both of my parents work full-time (and Jamie works from home part-time), I’m usually the one who has to take care of him during the day (along with our other dogs).

Unfortunately, because Max is an older dog, he has a lot of health issues. He’s mostly blind, fully deaf, and he has intense separation anxiety. He also bites when he’s startled, which is often because he’s deaf and blind. So most times he’s over he’ll pee in the house because he doesn’t know he’s inside, we’ll have to carefully pick him up and put him in the backyard so he can do his business, then stand outside with him so we can keep him from getting lost in a bush or bumping into a tree or freezing to death because he can’t find his way to the door, then we have to carefully pick him up again to bring him back inside. After that, he’ll often walk around the house while screaming because he can’t see or hear anyone and he thinks we’ve abandoned him. It’s hell to deal with, and I’ve had breakdowns on several different occasions while trying to deal with my other responsibilities and also keep him from screaming 24/7. When he’s not aimlessly wandering and screaming, he’s asleep in his dog bed for most of the day. It’s depressing to watch him so sad and unmotivated. He doesn’t know how to be a dog without her.

Recently, Amelia’s been dropping him off more often and for longer stretches. She works retail, so I can understand that her schedule is fucked most of the time. But she’s also been dropping Max off because he’s so overwhelming for her to deal with. He has the same issues when he’s at home with her, but he’s also like 10 times more energetic when she’s around (and he screams when she’s around but not holding him or giving him attention), which is hard for her to deal with after three days of back to back shifts. She’s called my mom before to ask us to take Max for a night just so she can get some sleep.

The most recent time Amelia dropped Max off, she said that he’d been having painful prolonged erections, and that we’d probably have to wipe his penis down with a damp washcloth to get it to go back in. Now, I’ve had dogs for most of my life, I’m not exactly a stranger to having to wipe down doggy nether regions (hell, I’ve dealt with so many clingons you could call me a starfleet ambassador). But having to do that for a blind dog who’s known to bite when he’s startled? Just the idea of having to hold him while someone else wipes makes me want to cry tears of frustration. I’ve already got two scars from him biting me, I’m not aiming for a third.

With all of his health issues, I’m convinced that it’d be much more humane to put Max down now rather than letting him (and quite frankly, everyone who has to take care of him) suffer indefinitely. But at the same time, he’s Amelia’s rock. She’s struggled with depression and anxiety all her life, and she was even hospitalized for severe suicidal ideation two years ago. She’s told me herself that some days, the only thing that gets her out of bed is having to take care of Max. I’ve had a dog like that before, and when he passed suddenly, it destroyed me for months. I’m worried that if Amelia did have to have Max put down, it might lead to her being hospitalized again, or worse. I can’t keep living with him, but at the same time, I can’t expect her to live without him.

TL;DR: my sister’s dog has many health issues that require special care, and I’m responsible for babysitting him while she’s at work. my sister has mental health issues, and taking care of her dog is both incredibly stressful for her and one of the few sources of joy she has. I believe it’d be more humane for everyone if she puts her dog down, but I also don’t want to take away one of the few things that makes her happy. Would I be the asshole if I told her I think she should put down her dog?

What are these acronyms?

#aita #am i the asshole #pet death cw #suicide cw

[incendavery]

HI IM BACK DID YOU MISS ME HOW HAVE YOU BEEN

#comics on tumblr #artists on tumblr #diary comic #post it doodles #corvid #davedrawsstuff #no image description #long post #pet death cw #death cw

[intriga-hounds]

oliver is being PTS tomorrow afternoon. ❤️ some of you have followed me since before the silkens, when it was just houston and oliver. we’ve had him since i was 17. i will miss him so much.

#oliver #pet death cw #pls don’t message me #i don’t really want comfort messages #just look at him and love him with me

[ruffboijuliaburnsides]

Our Queen Jellie will never be forgotten.

#jellie #queen jellie #gtwscar #hermitcraft #mcyt #pet death cw

[bogcreacher]

guy who’s about to go John Wick on his ex

#my art #oc art #oc stuff #Trinket #pet death cw #ask to tag

[galedekarios]

this is probably a bit out of left field, but i wanted to thank everyone who sent me a message, be it a lore or character question or simply kind words.

i promise i'm getting back to answering them soon.

between monsieur's passing, family emergencies and work, i've been struggling to form coherent thoughts in the little free time i have, much less put them into words.

anyhow, i just wanted to let you know that you aren't being ignored and i do appreciate it when people interact with me on here. 🖤

#life can be a lot sometimes #text: personal #tbd #pet death cw

[geniusphilester]

lying about when norman died so as not to ruin the holiday season is bde (big dad energy)

#what good happens on jan 12 MY BIRTHDAY IS NOT LONG AFTER PHIL #not that it ruined my birthday but this is so rich coming from Birthday Month Lester lol #you can't put it off forever so that's fine #but still #anyway #my ramblings #confessions #pet death cw

[plumdale]

:(

#pet death cw #chiquis #duarte legacy #duarte g2 #the sims 4 #ts4 #sims 4 #ts4 gameplay #ts4 legacy

[jupiterjames]

The best boy has left our world today. Thank you for being with me through everything, Squall. I hope your next life is incredible.

April 4, 2004 - February 7, 2024

#jj with lime #floof with lime #pet death cw

[poetryoutloud]

The gift - v.w.

#yeah i miss my walking buddy:/♥️ #words #poetry #spilled ink #poets on tumblr #pet death cw #my writing

[am-i-the-asshole-official]

WIBITA FOR EUTHANIZING MY EX'S PETS

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This sounds bad, I know. Let me start with the pets in question are fish. I (24F) split with my partner (22X) around October and have spent the better part of that time trying to find a way to get rid of three fish tanks that my ex left with me.

The break-up was ugly, and I had tried to convince them into taking the tanks with them since the fish they had could be transported relatively easily with the right care, but they insisted that they'd be better left in my care. But they've been cutting into my life too much with the amount of time needed to maintain them.

Quite frankly, I don't like my ex after they decided to make ending the relationship ugly, and I'm struggling to figure out what reason I should have to care for the responsibilities that they dumped on me.

I managed to give one to my friend who was looking for a betta anyway and gave him an entire planted tank setup for free. There are no rehomers/rehabbers in my area since I live in a small rural city with the nearest major one being over four hours away, the local pet stores here have a strict no dumping policy so I can't turn there either. Humane euthanasia is my last option, I'm not exactly happy about using it on healthy animals, but I didn't exactly ask to have them in the first place.

What are these acronyms?

#aita #am i the asshole #pet death cw

[caterjunes]

two days ago i was ecstatic - peach had regained a ton of weight (back up to 460g from a low of 330!) AND his neck lumps had miraculously gone away. but today his bro lunchbox is breathing laboriously, not eating, barely moving, and looks like he's in pain & exhausted. 😖😖😖

#personal #keeping it fun and funky fresh #the wild brunch #grayson & i had just been discussing that when one of them needs to be put down we will probably put the other down as well #rather than try to introduce them to the babies who are full of youthful beans #intros are rly stressful and these two have been together their whole lives. i think it'd be unkind #but god. it feels so cruel to have peach bounce back so dramatically only for lb to immediately go downhill #pet death cw

[will-wood-confessions]

I had to put down my cat of 14 years recently. I dug a grave for him and once I filled it back up, I just sat at it, smoking and singing Euthanasia. I hope he heard me. Wherever he is.

#pet death cw #fuck man why do pets have to have such short lives #I hope he heard you too anon 🫂🫂 #will wood confessions #ww confessions 100 - 109 #will wood #will wood and the tapeworms #wwattw #wwatt #euthanasia #in case I make it #in case I die

[swashbucklery]

My cat died this week. I don’t really know how to talk about it here, because I don’t do a ton of personal updates on my Tumblr, but it feels weird to just post about television without saying anything at all.

Anyway. The thing that people don’t talk about when they talk about pet death is that if you have other pets, they also grieve at the same time as you do? And watching my dog and my other cat try to get their heads around the fact that she left and isn’t coming home is just. Heartbreaking in a way I didn’t know I could feel.

#she was wonderful and it was a big surprise #she kept it from us until her very last day and by then it was too late #but she was ready to go #so we let her #and it was the right thing to do and we gave her the best death and the best life #but i'm going to miss her forever #so anyway if you see some emo posts about grief like #i'm not okay but i'm ok #you know? #pet death cw

[sith-shenanigans]

Friskie went into the vet today, and this time she’s… not going to manage to pull off something miraculous. (She has before. Multiple times.) She’s 20—I’ve said she was about three years younger, before, but she had the wrong age down at the vet. She has no teeth because they nearly killed her, and she has a heart murmur, and she only has one (rather poorly) working kidney, and it was fluid buildup due to liver or pancreatic cancer that’s going to do it. It’s interfering with her lungs and diaphragm; the vet says she could go into respiratory failure at any time.

She’s lived a long time, for a cat. I think she was happy. The final vet visit is probably tomorrow.

We’re giving her a muffin, which she has never had before and always very badly wanted.

#pet death cw

[omgpurplefattie]

Mephisto Pa-Miu

April 6, 2008 - November 17 2022

Taking a page from @evillordzog 's book, I will memorialise my cat by blazing this post. Look what a wonderful cat I had until today! I loved him very much.

#cw: pet death #pet death cw #cat memorial #cat pictures please