#please stop being rude

[pikp0kcas3]

The Hazbin Hotel fandom’s issue with accepting aromanticism and asexuality

Now that it is officially Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week, I want to talk about this!

I find that, as an aroace myself, I am constantly grasping at good representation and coming up empty— it usually ends up in one of two ways.

One: the character is portrayed as emotionless, cold, and robotic in nature. It’s the question aromantic and/or asexual people are often asked: “Are you heartless?” The answer is no, of course, but general media makes it out to be the opposite.

Or two: Their lack of attraction is seen as something to “fix” because they “haven’t found the right one yet”, and they end up with a partner as a “happy ending”.

It frustrates me greatly because of how little people actually see aromanticism or asexuality as a true part of the LGBTQIA+ community.

So when I watched Hazbin Hotel, and I found out about Alastor being aroace, I was over the moon. I was on cloud nine. I also saw how his voice actor has looked up the term as an attempt to learn about aroaces, which makes me OVERJOYED?? Amir is truly a blessing, and I love that he’s proud to embody a character that’s part of our community. It’s so beautiful to finally have a proper character, a fan favorite at that, who just so happens to be aroace— and that’s another thing I love about this.

It’s never explicitly stated in the show (though it is stated in interviews), but it’s rather clear when you’re watching, isn’t it? Alastor’s aversion to any sort of sexual advancement, coupled with Rosie’s blatant “I know you’re an ace in the hole” comment sort of spell out his asexuality pretty clearly, as well as what side of the spectrum he falls upon. In addition, his Valentine’s day card was strictly platonic, which caters to his aromantic side. It feels so validating to finally be represented, to finally have a character in media who shares the same lack of interest in romance and sex as I do.

When I entered the fandom to look for more content, I kind of expected to see the same respect for Alastor’s orientation there too. But that… wasn’t the case? I am fully aware that aromanticism and asexuality are both spectrums— of course, aromantic and/or asexual people can enter those kinds of relationships. I’m not denying that and they belong in the community as much as anyone else on the spectrum.

But, the more I see the same line again and again and again, the more it feels like an excuse to just ship what you want.

Usually I don’t mind shipping? I’m often a firm believer in people shipping what they like as long as it’s harmless and they don’t go crazy over it. I also know for a fact that Viv doesn’t have a problem with people shipping her characters. They are fictional, after all.

But in this case, people are ignoring the very thing that makes Alastor a part of the aroace community! People are ignoring his lack of romantic or sexual attraction!

Is this not the same as changing a gay character’s orientation to suit a straight ship? If not, how so? I’m told that we are a part of this community, so why aren’t we being treated like it? Why is it so hard to accept the people on the end of the spectrum who aren’t interested?

Something I’ve been noticing throughout my life is that society has not exactly progressed very much on the idea of accepting asexual or aromantic identities. Maybe we have, a little, since the old days— but hell, people in “the old days”, which in truth wasn’t very long ago, believed that asexuality was a medical condition to be “fixed” by taking the right medication or having sex. That’s a pretty low bar to clear. And on the romance side, you’re seen as a “late bloomer” or “boring” if you don’t express interest. These days, being friends with someone is treated like a gateway to them possibly becoming a lover. Not getting married, not going on dates, not wanting a partner— it’s all treated like a crime when it’s not.

Maybe I’m selfish, or sensitive, or I’m butthurt over nothing, or I’m making it all about me. Maybe I’m gatekeeping or whatever the term is. But please, please, please, I just want an aroace character like me who simply is not interested in sex or romance.

And I want fandom to respect that. I admire the creations that fans make— the art, the animatics, the writing and the character analysis. And I want people to keep creating because creation is indeed a beautiful thing.

But I really would like people to treat aroace identities like they’re important. Like it’s more than just a spectrum to get wiggle room to wrangle in another ship.

#aromantism #aromantic #aroace #asexual #hazbin hotel #alastor #hazbin alastor #lgbtqia #alastor aroace #PLEASE i just want people to LEAVE HIM ALONE #“but it’s a spectrum” STOP USING IT AS AN EXCUSE #RESPECT AROACE PEOPLE WITH ZERO INTEREST IN ROMACE AND SEX #let us have this #we barely get anything as it is #but just to clarify i don’t believe that most people are being intentionally rude about it #nor am i discouraging people from creating fan content because it is FAN CONTENT and you can express yourself #i just would like people to understand a little more that #yes it is a spectrum and it covers an extremely wide range of orientations #yes ANYONE who identities as someone on the spectrum is completely valid #if you wanna argue with that i am showing you the door and kicking your sorry aphobic ass out #my point is that the spectrum is not a loophole. it is not an excuse and it is NOT okay to just use it willy nilly for your convenience

[heynhay]

will you break and take all the words from my mouth?

#klance #voltron #vld #keith kogane #lance mcclain #IM BITING RIPPING AND TEARING #THIS IS IT. THIS IS THE SONG I PROMISED. #THE LANCE SONG. #i will literally guarantee satisfaction if you just go listen #not to mention its a fucking banger in general #it gets a fucking 99% klance match score. it has tension. some resentment. lots of love. overwhelming everything. god #this comic would be like right around the beat drop at 2 min btw. #me finally putting lance thru it for once instead of keith LOL #tumblr user heynhay be like STORYTELLING THROUGH COLOR CAN WE USE THE PALETTE TO BUILD THE NARRATIVE PLEASE!!! #BUT BACK TO THE SONG #IT HAS EVERYTHING. EVEN REFERENCES TO BOOTS. LONG HAIR. OUTDATTED 80s FASHION. #REFERENCES TO BEING RUDE TO THEM IN ORDER TO GET THEIR ATTENTION. #REFERENCES TO BEING ANGRY BC YOU CANT STOP THINKING ABT THEM #i unironicallyt must have listened to this one hundreds of times on loop while drawing this. enjoy. #art #my art #btw keith is explaining some deranged shit hes like: (with big sparkly anime eyes) do you wanna go build a pipe bomb and blow up that bldng

[leafyduckwebs]

As someone who has a bad relationship with most of my family, I really hope they handle Ga-ming's situation well in the next event quest. Aether/Lumine and Paimon shouldn't have even told Xianyun about it without his permission in the first place. I know they mean well, but still.

I'm just hoping that they won't trick him into being in the same place as his dad so they can talk. Even if Ga-ming misses him, he's clearly not ready for a reunion yet. Please don't force us to give him more emotional pain mihoyo

#genshin impact #4.4 spoilers #ga ming #aether #lumine #xianyun #paimon #still cringing from how rude they've been so far #seriously can the story NOT focus on paimon's gluttony for 2 seconds!? #its so annoying esp since traveler never stops her #they're being such an ipad parent #please i just want ga ming and traveler to interact on their own and be friends #i want to be nice to him but the quest dialogue said nuh uh

[thescarvedinsect]

I'm an OFMD fan, and I demand Season 3... Please?

#our flag means death #ofmd #stede bonnet #rhys darby #please renew ofmd pleeeeeeease #ofmd being cancelled had better just be a nasty prank #we love our silly gay pirates who need therapy #STOP CANCELLING GOOD SHOWS TOO EARLY #renew as a crew #renew our flag means death #renew ofmd #i was well into the anger phase when i typed the previous tags please forgive me if that was rude

[batwynn]

Someone please kick my butt into gear. I have an appointment and important calls to make tomorrow and my brain is doing the ‘panic and sit frozen not doing anything’ mode thing today.

Help me obi Juan whoever the fuck you are….

You’re my only ho.

#help me get to work #I actually genuinely really want to work on these arts #but brain is being mega rude about it #ADHD #bullshit brain #I get more anxiety the longer I sit here #Jfc please brain please stop #how do you get it to stop?

[fake-destiel-news]

Ok, So:

Yesterday I said I’ll change the colour of the memes, to make it clearer that they’re fake. I have now decided not to do that after all. I have a different solution though.

MY REASONS:

1. The joke with these memes is that you believe them for a second, then think about it for a second or read the blog name or google it and think: „oh shoot I got bamboozled“. If you know that if the meme is a different colour, it’s fake, that immediately doesn’t work.

2. If you don’t know that I change the colour for this reason, you’ll just be mildly confused why the meme is a different colour, and propably still believe it if you don’t look at blog names. I have seen that reaction in my comments.

3. if someone else makes a meme with real information, but puts a filter over it just for aesthetic, people will think that they are actually lying.

4. the memes in weird colours just look so bad.

WHAT WILL I DO INSTEAD?

I’ll put under the memes a source to a post on my sideblog @sudeblub-fdn , which will be a gif or picture that makes it clear that the meme you just saw is fake. I’ll also write that in the tags there.

Like so Source

I think, instead of spoiling the joke immediately it adds another layer to it, because you’re now not just bamboozled by the fake meme, but also got rickrolled.

Also it stays on the post even if it gets reblogged to hell and back.

If you ignore all my tags, blog name, blog title, don’t google about the topic of the meme and ALSO don’t click on the source and just believe the misinformation?

Sorry, but that’s on you then.

(I will make new templates still I already got some and think they’re kinda fun. Btw if you got any characters in tv shows and stuff that cas could profess his love to please put those in my askbox and I’ll use them for a template)

#fake-destiel-news #destiel meme #also can people please stop being very rude in my askbox I’m trying my best to make this page both funny and safe

[tropotropotropo]

Siobhan said Laura is at the minimum 22 and that she likes all ships on her twitch stream and reposted hackearney ship art on her insta so can yall please stop being annoying about us shippers

#the quarry #travis x laura #hackearney #laura kearney #travis hackett #just please stop being so rude about it goddd #the queen has spoken #siobhan williams

[just-somedude]

Woke up bright and fucking early cause my upstairs neighbors wanna be carrying something down the stairs as if people aren’t asleep my poor cat left me😪

Ok

#asks #Me looking at this trying to figure out why anons are telling me their life story as if we're friends #i dont mean to be rude but it happens too often #please stop being parasocial #I realize some of you may feel comfortable around me and want to tell me things because you might not have anyone else #in that case keep doing it #keep telling me about those random things #but know I might not always respond to them as they can be quite challenging to say something to lok

[citrinide]

Saying this in the nicest way possible.

Some people really need to shut up.

#cecil.fm #DESPERATELY begging some of you to stop ignoring huge parts of a character JUST because you like them #He's an asshole. He's CONSISTENTLY an asshole. He makes slights and unnecessary judgements toward EVERYONE. PLEASE IT'S NOT JUST THE CHASSIS #yes this is about Wheatley obviously I'm going to be pissed over people misinterpreting characters from my special interest AGAIN #I was there when people UwU-ified him and treated him like a precious baby while demonising GLaDOS at the same time I'm bashing heads in rn #they're. fucking. FOILS!!! #THEY'RE BOTH BAD PEOPLE OH MY GOD THEY BOTH MAKE UNNECESSARILY RUDE REMARKS YOU NEED TO ACCEPT THIS OH MY GOD #I am begging oh my fucking god #there's moments where I see this behaviour and like desperately want to block people because oh my god what ELSE are you blatantly ignoring #like I'm not innocent either here I'll be the FIRST to admit my f/o is a shitty person too! He's a pathetic little suck up #he's annoying and so fucking rude but I'm not ignoring any of that! #The portal fandom has such an issue with this I swear to god. nothings changed we're going in circles. character analysis is dead. #I think thats what made me cancel LaaC originally too. fuck. #this is why I stay in my little Aperture Tag corner. Because at LEAST we aren't operating under the false pretense that Nigel is some saint #forcing you all (non-specific) to play the game again and TRY to explain away the blatant instances of him being all types of awful #just a general sentiment I've seen again recently that I REALLY despise. stop declawing characters im going to MAUL you #anyway sorry for the tag rant im just very passionate about this game and people misinterpreting characters WILDLY off is. Yeah :)) #extra note: blaming the chassis for his actions as if he wasn't predisposed to that behaviour is a stupid ass take and always has been <3 #i could go on for hours but I'd hit the note limit so <3 #one of my biggest pet peeves in fandom honestly.

[loife1m]

ok y’all stop associating me with lemons it’s getting annoying

#apologies if im being rude #im on my period and am very tired #but it needed to be said #stop please #thanks #the loife show #loife updates #lemon dude <3

[cinnamon-notes]

started reading the unabridged journals of sylvia plath. worst choice ever.

#girlie's too relatable #like- seriously sylvia just stop please #im underlining every single word you wrote writing a little “relatable” next to every single paragraph please stop you're hurting me #stop exposing me that much- how rude of you- you dont even know me !!! #txt #txt post #cinnamon notes #sylvia plath #the unabridged journals of sylvia plath #cinnamon being cinnamon

[danpuff-ao3]

Fiction Works 2/2: Storytelling, not Teaching or Preaching

See also: Fiction Works 1: Different Strokes for Different Folks

In part 1 I talked about exploring real experiences and potential in fiction. Here in part 2 we are going to remember that, while fiction can be a useful tool for exploration, it is not, in fact, real.

Writing gay Harry Potter fanfic does not make me a gay man (I am actually an asexual lady), nor does it make me a wizard (though c'mon, I wish!) By that same token, writing underage does not make me a pedophile.

Thomas Harris is not guilty of cannibalism, even though he wrote about a cannibal named Hannibal. Vladimir Nabokov is not a pedophile because he wrote Lolita. Bram Stoker is not a vampire because he wrote Dracula. We aren't arresting authors by the truckload for the spilling of fictional blood.

What we need to remember is this:

Fiction (noun) 1.literature in the form of prose that describes imaginary events and people. 2. something that is invented or untrue.

To sum it up: fiction is not reality.

I'm a Storyteller. Not a Teacher, or a Preacher. You shouldn't trust my use of em-dashes, let alone take an infidelity story as a how-to guide.

Stories can be a tool for so many things. Maybe it's catharsis. Maybe it's distraction. Maybe it's curiosity, philosophy, entertainment, exploration. Fiction is a safe avenue to learn, and think, and feel.

Creators are inspired by the world around them, and their own experiences. They're inspired by rainbows, and sunsets, and wildflowers. They're inspired by wildfires, hurricanes, and tornadoes. They're inspired by mythology, religion, folklore, and history. All that is beautiful and ugly and wonderful and terrible in the world.

Creators are shaped by their own lives. And, as stated in Part 1, we are all different. We come from different places, and are raised different ways, and we turn into different people. We have our own histories, our own stories, our own thoughts and opinions and preferences and feelings.

Throw it all in a blender, and maybe the tulip becomes a rose. Maybe the wildfire becomes an earthquake. Maybe the sunset is an inferno, and the night sky is the abyss. Maybe the those old ruins are the path to Heaven.

The reality of the materials used and the methods used aren't always evident in the final work. Our stories come from somewhere, sure, but it's never as cut and dry as people think.

Can stories hurt you? Sure. The way anything can hurt you. The world isn't a safe space, after all.

It's valid if a story hurts you. If you're triggered by it, or upset by it, or don't like it. Not all negative reactions are triggers, but they don't have to be. You're allowed your own feelings. But the existence of a work that upsets you is not a crime against you. A story that depicts evil deeds is not, itself, evil.

In real life, I have a zero tolerance policy for cheating. I have very strong feelings about it.

Do you know what I love to read and write? You guessed it! Cheating! It goes hand in hand with my other great love: toxic/dysfunctional relationships!

In real life, I'd never have a relationship with a person who cheated ever, even in the past. I'd not stay with someone who cheated on me. I have a very stable, happy, boring relationship. I have a good life now, because I built it from the wreckage of a chaotic upbringing.

My father cheated on my mother and left her for his mistress. He dragged his children through the middle of his dysfunctional relationship, which lasted a decade. We suffered the consequences of his choices. It's a pretty long and fucked up story, and I won't get that personal here, but the point is:

I never, ever want to experience any of that in my real world again. However, exploring those events in a fictional scenario is safe for me. There's an odd comfort in the familiarity of it. Seeing that one awful thing through different lenses, and playing out so many ways, helps me process what I went through. It soothes me now as it soothed me then, right in the thick of it, being able to explore it all in a way that was safe and that I could control. I could get off the ride at any point. I could close the word document, or close the tab. I could close the book, or turn off the TV.

My Real Father in the Real World hurt Real People with his Real Actions. That was my Real Life, and it Really Sucked.

Fictional People in a Fictional World who hurt Fictional People with their Fictional Actions...that is a story.

Real People in the Real World who hurt Real People and blame Fictional Stories...those Real People are to blame for Real Harm.

The Real Person who blames a movie for the Real Crime they committed...that Real Person is to blame. 100%.

And the Real Person who attacks Real People in defense of Fictional People...Real People who hurt Real People and use Fictional Stories as an excuse...those Real People are the villains.

#danpuff stuff #on my proship nonsense of course #follow up to yesterday's post #idk how related they are to other people #but they were all jumbled in my head together and had to come out #so here we are #please stop being rude to actual humans #fake events are not a good excuse to be an actual dick

[peterlorres21stcentury]

I rather dislike the implication that because I'm listening to classical symphonies at work, I'm one of "those people" who won't listen to anything else. Like... I promise, buddy, I'm not that snooty. This is the New World symphony, it's practically a late 19th century pop tune equivalent at this point for all the airtime it gets, and I'm listening to it now because I've heard it since I was a child and it's musical comfort food, is that OKAAAYYYY??

#people need to stop being rude af #can someone please fix my laptop?? I have no idea why my headphones stopped working in it #but now I have to listen to music out loud like a peasant #and I kept it really quiet too and some asshole who doesn't even work near me had to ask me about it #ugh

[licorishh]

Hey as a super introverted but not shy person I'd just like to say the jokes about extroverts "adopting" introverts to "get them out of their shell" are actually completely unfunny and it just goes to show how little respect a lot of y'all have for the fact that we genuinely don't want excessive social interaction and that y'all are forcing us to do something that brings us extreme physical and mental discomfort because you perceive our introversion as a failing rather than as purely a difference in personality.

We don't need your "help" to socialize. We're not children. We're simply not interested in spending every waking second of our lives talking to people and being talked at in return.

#again i scream from the rooftops that there is a monumental chasm between being shy and actually being an introvert #a shy person is someone who's afraid of social interaction. an extrovert can be naturally shy. #a shy person can WANT lots of social interaction but simply have not learned to feel comfortable in social situations. #people who are just very introverted simply have little desire or capacity for excessive human interaction. #we're not “afraid” of it. we just don't enjoy it and it wears us out. #you don't need to swoop in and save us because we can't handle ourselves. we're perfectly fine thank you #extroverts are constantly demanding that we get out of our comfort zones but few of you are willing to make the alternative more comfortabl #if you're a very extroverted person please do not take it upon yourself to jokingly “adopt” introverts you meet. #it's not funny and it's not helpful. it's irritating that you perceive our quietness and low social battery as something that needs “fixing #we won't miraculously learn to love and be comfortable with excessive human interaction. that's not how we're wired and that's OKAY #i'm honestly getting so sick of the “the lonely introvert and the extrovert who adopted them” memes #i can guarantee you that if you are an extrovert who operates this way then your introvert “friend” is actually probably very uncomfortable #and just don't want to say anything because they think it would be rude to bring up the fact that they don't want what you want from them #this does NOT mean extroverts and introverts cannot be friends nor am i saying all extroverts are annoying or that they all do this #i'm simply saying that if you are very extroverted and you have a friend who's very introverted #then it's on you to be aware of your introvert friend's limited social battery and STOP pressuring them to just “put up with it” #don't spend every second with them constantly talking. be willing to spend some time just in the quiet. #be willing to let them bow out of something if they're exhausted and are low on social energy. #don't expect them to want to come to every meeting or party or get-together because it WILL drain them completely. #be willing to let them spend time alone when they need to to recharge. #letting an introvert cool off and recharge when they need to is ALWAYS going to make social situations less stressful for them. #PLEAAAAASE take their feelings into account and understand that they do NOT perceive social interactions the way you do. #most very introverted people do not find socialization relaxing or invigorating. they don't do it to unwind #they have to unwind AFTER lots of social interaction #that's about it. thank you and good night

[bandomgay]

I'm to dissociated to rationalize anything about the situation still but like man...we know there's a fanonized reality vs like real one and like that's just like how it's been?? It's no body's fault that those lines blurred for yall

#like i get it shes a bad person its a bad situation its an even stranger situation for him #but everytime something happens its just so exhautinggggggggggg to be in here like whatever ur allowed to express whatever but do u guys #even know where your coming from with all this #its just so whateverrr #i cant say what i really wanna say but like im so sick of everytime something foesnt happen to our liking everyone gotta suffer about it #well whatever anyways uhm also stop using miles as a thing to focus on when Alex qoute on qoute dissapoints u thats weird im not rockin with #that but uhm yeah besides all this ONE MAN BAND SOOOON!!!! AHH #and please dont sent me anything about this lmao like #please like..leave me alone not judging or being rude about it just like...im not in the mood for that #james talks

[jarognieva]

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#i'm at my fucking limit #why am i like this #why I'm useless piece of shit #with nothing worthy to say #and nothing worthy and positive to offer #maybe that's why I'm so alone #people are done with me #and i understand them because I'm done with myself too #I wish I could just stop existing #what's the point of being alive human if you're so alone #and so worthless #I wonder how my life would look like if I could gain this superpower of knowing how to normally talk with people #somehow everyone around me knows it #and they think I'm just shy #and they're like 'just stop being anxious:))))' #if it would be so simple #even if I'm not anxious I just don't fucking know what to say #i wish i could not be just weird/rude/annoying/a burden #end me please...