A general tip for students who are sending those dreaded Religious Absence Emails to your professors: Rather than asking permission to take the day(s) off, politely let them know that you will be taking the day(s) off.
In other words, consider not saying this:
"May I miss class on [date] so I can observe [holiday]?"
It's not that there's anything wrong with the above, per se. But because it's phrased as a request, it risks coming across as optional — a favor you hope to be granted. Problem is, favors are not owed, and so unfortunately asking permission opens the door for the professor to respond "Thanks for asking. No, you may not. :)"
Instead, try something along the lines of:
"I will need to miss class on [date] because I will be observing [holiday]. I wanted to let you know of this conflict now, and to ask your assistance in making arrangements for making up whatever material I may miss as a result of this absence."
This is pretty formal language (naturally, you can and should tweak it to sound more like your voice). But the important piece is that, while still being respectful, it shifts the focus of the discussion so that the question becomes not "Is it okay for me to observe my religion?", but rather, "How can we best accommodate my observance?"
Because the first question should not be up for debate: freedom of religion is a right, not a favor. And the second question is the subject you need to discuss.
(Ideally, do this after you've looked up your school's policy on religious absences, so you know what you're working within and that religious discrimination is illegal. Just in case your professor forgot.)
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This is the only place where I know other trans people are in my life right now in a multitude, and I really need some gender affirming messages and support. I found out a family member I was starting to get closer to is transphobic, and it was quite traumatic for me. If any fellow pagan transfolk (or transfolk in general) could reach out through asks or whatnot, it would mean the literal world to me right now. Thank y'all, I appreciate y'all. Take care, everyone.
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Ey doc, can you replace my spine with something more flexible? I think being able to curl up like a cat would do great for me.
i am going to mess with your center of gravity and posture and gait so much, i hope you are as excited about it as i am!!
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Literally why aren’t bisexuals just allowed to be bisexual. You’re in a “straight” relationship and suddenly your entire relationship is called into question, you’re a default cheater apparently, you’re gross and icky and tainted from past relationships, you don’t face the same homophobia in society somehow bc you aren’t a *real 100%* queer. Bi women are fetishized and abused and bi men are tossed aside and forgotten or completely misidentified based on any perceived deviation from gender roles. Your entire identity is actually transphobic bc bi means two and how dare you not accommodate nb people when the identity LITERALLY ALWAYS HAS. Shut up AHUT UP.
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ramblings on Li Ming (and Heart) and homosexuality
moonlight chicken has so many things to offer in terms of technical beauty and interesting themes but what i cannot stop thinking about is the different ways they approach homosexuality in the story.
we have Wen who has a rainbow flag on his desk and pictures of him and Alan on the wall. Wen, who openly flirts with Jim and has no qualms talking openly about his one night stand. Wen, whose step father knows about his sexuality and is close enough with him to discuss his love life.
Kaipa we don’t know too much about. But his mom knows and is supportive and some of the vendors and the chicken family seem to know. But if anyone was questioning in what reality this show is set with all the class discussion and corona featuring, his part of the story shows that homophobia exists and he is worried about how he fits in with his own family, the expectations of his mother and possible the awareness that he makes the family he has “different”.
Jim is arguably even more visibly gay than Wen in terms of what we see throughout the show. He opened the shop with his ex, they prayed at the temple together and even though he objected due to proprities sake eventually they loudly declared their love to each other and the whole neighbourhood knows. Wen somehow feels like he is living in the remnants of a bubble: his circle of friends seems very queer, his closest friend and the whole gym seem to be all part of that as well. This only might change now with him questioning his work and breaking up with Alan: some gatherings he won’t attend anymore apparently.
And finally, we have Li Ming. At school he doesn’t seem to open up to his classmates on most things and additionally is in the closet. While there wasn’t anything alluding to homophobic rethoric being spread at school we can see how the heteronormativity gets to him and feel that there must be good reason as to why no one knows. And it could just be how Li Ming is judging the situation based on vibes, we don’t know. His mother is or at least was homophobic but at the same time he is raised by his gay uncle who is surrounded by other gay people. And I love how it feels like this might have given him enough security to be comfortable with his own sexuality but how it also isn’t enough to shield him from the world at large.
With so many great shows coming out of Thailand and most of them getting more and more political it just feels so real and 2023 to me that Li Ming is part of a generation that knows who they are but still have to battle with the shadow that homophobia has cast way before they were born.
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Hi everyone!!!
I am an Italian girl who loves Datastormshipping and would like to create several events dedicated to this ship.
I would like to know what you think about it and if you are interested in participating... in particular, I would love to organize the Datastorm Week (!) 💙💜
(This blog is newly born, a reblog would be a very welcome help 🥹)
Thank you for your attention!
You can contact me privately or here: @agnese-kogami (my personal blog)
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trying to remember how to use ink on paper while I’m in the library before my next class so the quality is iffy but anyways: trying to figure out snape body (snody) and snape clothes (snothes). level of success unclear.
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People are always complaining about lighthearted lgbt media being for straight people which is ridiculous. But when a historical lgbt show comes out with an lgbt cast playing the main characters it's slept on. All the people bitching about Red White and Royal blue or Love Simon yet when Fellow Travelers came out where were yall?
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