#you do not deserve to be distressed

[girlcalledwhatsername]

Making my separate post because I don't want to derail the other one but yk that post that says (rightly so) that even if you aren't able to sleep just lying down and not doing anything is more restful than doing something to pass the time? That's 100% a fact, and it has helped a bunch of people myself included, i think about that often.

However. As someone who has also been told this same thing in situations where it absolutely does not apply i do want to add some caveats.

If you are unable to sleep because you are experiencing a manic/hypomanic episode, don't force yourself to lie still, your restlessness might make matters worse, it will absolutely not be restful, and it is better to find something to do that will tire you out (for eg my therapist recommended jumping jacks)

If you are unable to sleep due to a sensory issues and find yourself barreling towards a meltdown, don't just lie there hoping things will get comfortable on their own. A meltdown is not restful. You do not deserve that suffering, change what you need to till you feel at ease enough to rest (even if not sleep)

If you are unable to sleep due to severe anxiety, don't just lie there and wait out the night. If you are that tense and high strung that is not restful. If a distraction is the only thing helping you with certain obsessions or paranoia then depriving yourself of that will not help. Take a while to practice your self help techniques till you feel unwound enough to rest (even if not sleep)

If you are unable to sleep due to some kind of psychosis, likewise allow yourself to work through it till you aren't as tense or distressed by it

If you are unable to sleep due to disturbing intrusive thoughts/impulses, allow yourself to find a release and talk yourself down to calmness, especially if you find the distress intensifying when your thoughts spiral out from a lack of something else to focus on

Lying down and doing nothing even when you can't sleep is good because it is restful. If it isn't restful this will not help. Remember that only you know best what is helping you. And please if someone says that just lying down won't help them then believe them and let them solve their issues the way they feel best. Maybe there is more at play than you know

#again absolutely agree with lie down even if you can't sleep in most cases #but some of us also have a lot more going on and that advice might not always apply #and i promise you aren't being a petulant child if you refuse to 'try to sleep' when you know it will make you more distressed #you do not deserve to be distressed #mental health #mental health stuff #mental health awareness #anxiety #depression #bipolar #mania #psychosis #paranoia #intrusive thoughts #ocd

[twinstxrs]

so much happened in this whole episode but i’m still on fig infiltrating ruben’s dream, making it look like the place where his friend was murdered, and then disguising herself as kipperlilly & repeatedly saying different variants of “somebody needs to take the fall for this, and it’s not going to be me. it’s going to be you.” while adaine as the elven oracle shows up next to her. can you imagine waking up from that, the idea of a horrible truth being pinned on you by your friend to save her own skin while the personification of fate and destiny stands there, almost as a promise that this is GOING to happen to you. we don’t even know if this kid is guilty. my god.

#fantasy high #dimension 20 #fhjy #fhjy spoilers #fantasy high junior year #fig faeth #ruben hopclap #lucy frostblade #the rat grinders #adaine abernant #kipperlilly copperkettle #watching fig terrorize him like girl!!! we don’t even know if he’s guilty!!!! #this might just be for me but i do not think 5 teenagers willingly brutally killed their friend idk #like there just has to be some other element to it and i am very scared to find out what that was #what if they were put in a position where they felt there was/there was no other choice… like oh my god #my comedy brain is having fun but my ‘this is a teenager’ brain is in such deep distress all the time this season #the rat grinders i trust brennan to not make u cartoonishly evil so i am holding u as gently as i can in my confused shaky hands #also with the devil’s nectar i’ve been wondering why they all seem so well-adjusted & now i’m curious if they’ve been intentionally- #changing their memories in a way so that either the trauma is lesser or they think they aren’t guilty. idk #but it seems like from how gertie was talking she was making it more recently so the well adjustedness from early jy doesn’t quite add up #they could have another source maybe??? idk i’m just low stakes 4 a.m. spitballing here #there’s also the strong possibility that they’re aware of what happened but they weren’t the ones who killed lucy. idk who knows #the way you could probably devil’s nectar yourself into believing it wasn’t your fault someone died… CRAZY IMPLICATIONS!!! CRAZY IDEA!!! #anyways the bad kids & the rat grinders don’t ever have to like each other but i do wonder if at least some of those kids deserve a chance

[plistommy]

Oh my god someone hold him already????!!

#Someone carry this pretty boy back like he deserves #Boy’s been through ENOUGHH #Eddie you know what to do #If Billy was there he would’ve carried Steve by now #Please he’s a damsel in distress #Doesn’t even have shoes on #PLEASE #😩😩😩 #steve harrington #steddie #stranger things #st #harringrove #lol

[thethingything]

as a side note on the morality OCD thing, filtering phrases like "reblog if", "if you can't reblog this", "can and should reblog", "reblog this version", etc has helped immensely with not seeing as much of the guilt tripping bullshit on here. there are probably more but these are the ones on our filtered post content list so far.

also if you're on desktop, the Xkit Rewritten extension has a "tweaks" section for a bunch of dashboard stuff that includes the options "use a slim layout for filtered posts" which makes those posts take up less space, and "hide filtered posts entirely" so they don't show up on your dash at all if you need that option

#personal #thoughts #🍬 post #OCD #we're at the point where we just kind of filter anything that's likely to be distressing if we're already feeling rough #and then if we think we can handle it we'll maybe click to see what the post is and the filter just acts as a warning in advance #but if we're feeling like shit it means we don't have to risk seeing anything that's gonna fuck us up for the rest of the day #I promise you're allowed to do this and having to avoid distressing content doesn't make you a bad person #and I know that probably doesn't help much because morality OCD spirals are hell #but you deserve to do the things that help you and are good for your mental health #(also I just realised if you do have these phrases blocked this post is gonna look wild on the ''filtered content'' box thingy)

[good-to-drive]

I totally agree with the general consensus that Ringo provided a lot of emotional support and coolheadedness to the other beatles to the point where they'd have probably killed each other without him but I do also wonder sometimes how much of that is being supernaturally patient and easygoing and how much of it is Ringo just having a tumultuous and isolated childhood where he was never taught to recognize and assert his own emotional needs so he became a blank slate on which others could process their emotions

(And tbh I also wonder how an inability to access or assert his feelings may have contributed to his tendency to process pain by numbing himself and the pretty shitty way he treated women)

#see also: george falling in love with his wife and paul routinely telling him he was easily replaceable #and yet ringo has nothing but warmth for either of these men #and of course I'm not saying we shouldn't appreciate how much patience and kindness that takes! #but also i guess it takes a certain lack of assertiveness or the ability to see/value your own emotions #and that's also something interesting to think about #speaking from experience here a lot of alcoholics want to be numb more than they want to be alive #and if ringo couldnt access his emotions it makes sense his only recourse would be to erase them #but for me it comes from childhood psychosis and i think for him it comes from isolation at a young age and a lack of emotional support #you need your caregivers to teach you what 'sad' is so you can then teach yourself what to do about it #or you may start to cope with that constant feeling of unease and dissatisfaction (that you can never quite grasp) in destructive ways #also his mom started getting him falling down drunk when he was not even twelve years old so tbh the alcoholism was probably inevitable #anyways all this is just to say that the fact that he could absorb pretty much infinite distress CAN definitely be construed as a virtue #but tbh it might also be symptomatic of some painful shit that he needed/deserved help with #ringo starr

[caffeinatedopossum]

I just had a friend thank me for letting him talk 😭 like sir that is just what a conversation is

#its distressing to me how little most people have had. socially speaking #like its come up a lot recently so im just thinking about it a lot but damn #so many people have just... never had friends? #never had anyone appreciate them or be affectionate towards them or care about them 😭 #its so depressing #like everyone deserves that #i had one person even tell me that i was THE FIRST PERSON to ever ask them how their day was?? wtf #they were COLLEGE AGED. what the fuck #thats messed up ;w; #anyways this is why i try my best to be nice to everyone even when i have anxiety about it because damn #the world really really needs it #this is your reminder to ask how your friends are doing and remind them you care and appreciate them

[diabollicallyangelic]

Wow.

#shes always fucking like this #shes akways mad at us #and talking like this to us #and shes like “i guess im the villain even though im just trying to help ” #NO THE FUCK YOU AREN'T #you FAIL to recognize when we're feeling uncomfortable scared or distressed. #i do understand I'M the problem sometimes. i fail to do things #but you make me feel like i want to fucking drown myself every time i do mess up #i never feel good enough #and you hsve said thst you've never wanted kids in the first place TO MY FACE #I'm sorry you're going through things #i understand and see that you are struggling as well #and i know it's hard to help others when you yourself need help #but you not recognizing what the limit is and what your words and actions say #has made me feel like i dont deserve to live #and i dont deserve love #i feel broken #and i feel inhuman #and its your fault #im acting more adult than you and that speaks volumes

[eggs-love-loki]

Me: I’ll watch one episode of my hero after dinner that’ll be fun :)

Me three episodes later, having gone from crying earlier to just pure distress by the end: Well that was the worst choice ever

#my bf and I are watching ‘together’ by setting weekly episode goals and this week’s goal is three so I’m maxed out #I figured I’d watch one a day after school then it would be close to when he can watch them… #whoops #MHA s6 spoilers in the rest of my tags here: #WHY DID THEY DO THAT TO TWICE????? bro I forgot I liked him and then I was just sobbing when he died oh my word #and then almost hawks too I was like noooo I can’t take this #I’m glad tokoyami got a hero moment but also the kids being in danger causes me distress #uhhh laser guy that mic left with shigaraki was #was dumb as hell #like what was that dude #mirko SAID that he’d wake up with ELECTRICITY and you LEFT HIM IN A PUDDLE NEXT TO SPARKING WIRES????? #dumb bitch deserved to die but the rest of the people around the hospital that didn’t outrun the new power up didn’t!! #I thought they were going to kill mic then he got grabbed but then I thought they were gonna kill Aizawa and I was like NO #NOT HIM TOO YOU CANT DO THIS TO ME #but he’s okie for now #shigaraki’s power up is absurd #my live reaction to the spreading crumbling at first was like Gasp then Oh no characters I care about them Oh wow this is crazy #It’s gotten the whole building! then Okay- okay- woah there- alright now stop that. stop that this is ridiculous. knock that off #like there’s powerscaling the villain to be a bigger threat and there’s absurdity this was absurd #alright thanks for reading my review since I can’t talk to my bf about it till he catches up and I needed to say this somewhere

[strangerhands]

ohmygodddddd i am a fucking genius...👁️ the fic idea i just came up with. the Specific Line i thought up. its such a random idea but its so so cute and sweet and ugh its gonna plague me forever. kinda proud of myself to be honest so lets just hope i can Actually write it soon🧎

#mmm brain isnt always bad sometimes i guess. #its some unapologetic jake fluff btw #bc he deserves it #also i forgot i cant really spend time on tumblr today bc ill be busy again lol so tomorrow it is (hopefully) #but its gonna be a good day bc me and my bestie are going to see love lies bleeding And immaculate together😋😋 #and probably get some lunch and maybe ice cream too #excited #have been looking forward to today #and then after today im looking forward to finally crawling back into my little tumblr cave #hopefully i can Actually Read. #and yk. writing would be nice too. #also im goin back on sertraline today and apparently it can be used for ocd too so i will try to see if any of That feels different as well #raaaaaa #still havent fully researched ocd tho🧎ive been procrastinating🧎as i do🧎 #anyways goodnight its 5am. #shouldnt have had that 8pm iced capp #i downed that shit fr #ok bye bye love yall #talkin shit #FUCK YES THIS POSTED LIKE ON THE VERY SECOND 5:15 WAS ENDING YESSS #sorry i actually like am distressed when the minute(s) of my posts arent posted on a 0 or 5 or like the same as the previous number #and when it is i feel like actual relief and joy #and when it isnt i contemplate deleting and waiting until the desired minute to post again. #anddd sometimes i actually do. #i also will just wait several minutes to post something when its not the exact minute i want yet #or ill queue it for like. literally a couple minutes in the future. #yeah i have many issues #okay gn thank you for reading if you read🧍🫶 #i always either suck my own dick or beat my own ass. #rarely ever is there an in between

[mintharan]

not adding it to the tags of lrb because the art is beautiful and I have nothing against op, but like... I really don't understand why people think Ansur is the victim in that situation. it makes me feel a little crazy, could anyone explain it to me why that's a prevalent sentiment? i don't think anyone deserves to die for who they are...

#really nothing against op of that art #like i said it's a prevalent opinion #i just find it a little distressing #you don't need to like the emperor but he had done nothing but what ansur wanted for years #he just wanted to be free why do people think he deserved to die? #it honestly distresses me a little #but i've just accepted i don't have the same opinions as 90% of this fandom on anything

[fonkeloog]

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#you shouldn't be scared of adults #i should not be calming down someone because their dad is coming over #it hurts to see people you care about in distress because of someone they should feel safe with #im angry at the world for doing you wrong #you deserve to feel safe #britt is rambling #but this time its in the tags

[simayeeet]

if the "leader" mystics just had some more scenes together casually, this is the energy i would expect from them

#would you believe me if i said i made this only because i needed a reason to draw the three sovereigns and susanoo in the same canvas #well thats not the truth exactly i just had a random meme lying around and started sketching faces and then it snowballed #truth be told this did not need to be made #but i had fun doing it #sure these guys don't exactly look 30 but they give off 30+ energy while being possibly millennia old #trying to find a purpose for this shitpost #um...when you somehow have no gold to buy weapons in the camp and your team is susanoo fuxi and shennong #warriors orochi #a very hyper specific shitpost #susanoo #fuxi #shennong #nuwa #oh um this was a its always sunny meme btw #i didnt intend for shennong to look that concerned/distressed but im glad it turned out that way #im continued to be confused as to why fuxi looks so different from the other mystics #warriors orochi 3 #warriors orochi 3 ultimate #i think i put too much effort into this but its ok they deserve it #all of the wo deities are a singular blorbo for me #this genuinely might have no purpose other than to amuse the audience of one that is me

[phoebespenglers]

and on that note that if your activism involves guilt tripping people and telling them that they're a horrible irredeemable person for not vocally supporting your cause or horrible for needing a break and putting their mental health first: shut the fuck up.

#HOW MANY FUCKING TIMES DO I HAVE TO SAY THIS IM DONEEEEE #it's triggering. it is IMMENSELY triggering to people with ocd/anxiety/whatever else. #“oh you're the cause of everyone's suffering because you're sitting at home not posting about i-” SHUT THE FUCK UP. shut up. i literally #-have not been able to eat these past few days because i thought i didnt deserve it. shut up. #that is not what activism is. activism is not making others feel like shit it's helping lift others up. #just because i am posting about fandom does not mean i don't care. i come on tumblr to take a BREAK i am in HIGH SCHOOL please. #what do you think im going to do. i wish i could do more i really really do. it's distressing and horrifying and disgusting what is #-happening right now but you are not doing ANYTHING to help by making people feel evil for not reblogging one post about it. #bee.txt

[oscill4te]

stan her w my entire life. if she asked me to walk off a building i would (tag rambles)

#i dont really talk about dorothy cramp much but she is such an interesting character to me... #i need to write up an analysis on her. I would now but i have to go to work soon :[ #grandmas piano and agent x really illuminate how much dorothy struggles w depression and being raised #by an abusive mother #she is also not a good parent and even if you watch the show casually w/o a “edgy headcanon” lense (aka me) you will see that.. #the way she treats her children is probably because of how her mother treats her.. i wish the grandma got more screentime too #i wish cramp twins season 2 was as interesting as season 1 #i just. ughhh #dotty.. i love u #txt #cartoons #the author describes dotty as a “voluntary stepford wife” ... which considering the way her mother is; it makes so much sense!! #Dorothy spends so many episodes in distress and fear bc her fear of contamination too. she is far from your usual cartoon mom #idk she is such.. an interesting character im not doing her much justice here #and i feel bad bc she has no support group other than her 2 fake friends who backstab her when convinient #and she was forcibly sent to a medical institute in another ep.. society is harsh on mentally women #esp mentally ill moms #yeah i read way too deep into this dumb cartoon oops #her husband is also an absolute useless dope no offense horrace.. i love horrace but he is sorta useless as a husband and dad #dotty deserves better okay. she may be a shitty parent but i stan her regardless bc that is who I am. #i luv imperfect flawed characters #its also good she had sons and not daughters bc dotty is. yknow. she has very flawed views on how to raise daughters #as seen in the pageant episode and other episodes. she would be so harsh on a daughter jfc #ok enough rambles i need to like. go lol

[thesnivy123]

enrichment for funny beasts <3

#bug fables #bug fables spoilers #zommoth #bug fables zommoth #original image is from the toronto zoo website #i think they deserve this #clearly they wiped out the lab because they were understimulated and distressed! #cmon roaches you can do better than this #snivs scribbles

[localghostgorl]

Another WIP that I probably will never finish, but needed to get out of my brain because I already have enough mental illnesses in there as is. Grisha is having a Hard Time(tm) trying to shovel the shit the Count has been causing, and got a little too angry after said Count sent his very smug and untouchable lap dog to collect taxes from Vallaki for the first time in some 100 years.

I do commissions!

#curse of strahd #cos oc #dungeons & dragons 5e #rpg oc #original character #grisha vallakovich #bruh he destroyed the mirror in his bathroom and for WHAT #made for a cool scene thats been rattling around in my brain tho so cant argue with that #oh also dont mind the eyes. hes just a regular guy and theres nothing to worry about in regards to his mental state :) #the CoS group liked this piece so i will choose to believe that my art looks fine. just this once #idk if i should tag eye strain or blood or something so let me know if you want me to do that! #i love causing my ocs severe emotional distress. its what they deserve for wanting character development :) #ghostart