#your support means the world

[thistlekatt]

Murrr my dearest floofs, our help is needed! A dear friend of mine is really struggling and their friend made this gofundme to help them out, so I'm doing what I can to spread the word. They are a lovely floof and even reblogs can help a lot 🥺🐱💚

https://gofund.me/7382cc6b

#gofundme #please donate #your support means the world #community support #my friend is important to me and deserves all the love

[marinaiguess]

thank you for all the prompts you sent me!! i've started working on them and i can slowly feel inspiration coming back:) though, disclaimer, it might take a while til i finish them due to my busy schedule this upcoming month. i'll try my best and keep in mind, i'm treating those prompts as practice more than anything, since i'm rusty. so, dont raise your expectations and i'll also try not to raise mine:)

#thank you thank you thank yo #your support means the world

[navybrat817]

Hi! I just wanted to say that the list you shared with us of writings you’re currently working on has me so excited! I’m really looking forward to reading all of them, and any other writings you post. Thanks so much for sharing your works with us, and for always being so kind. You’re awesome!

I appreciate that, nonnie! I'm excited to continue building these worlds and sharing them with you. It means the world that you lovelies support my nonsense. Hope you enjoy what's to come!

Love and thanks. ❤️

#navybrat answers #blog love #love letter 💌 #your support means the world #sweet nonnie #sending love ❤️ #asks are always appreciated

[knifearo]

this year my challenge for everyone is to unlearn the association between love and morality. love is not something that is inherently morally good, and the absence of love is not something that is inherently bad. sex without love isn't morally bankrupt, it's just an action. people without love aren't less kind or less good, they're just people. when we can get past this false (and often unnoticed) dichotomy of good love/evil lovelessness then i think we are going to be able to take leaps and bounds in sex positivity, aro advocacy, certain discussions of mental health...

#and also. not the direct focus. but love doesn't make things good. you can be in love and do terrible terrible things. #people do bad things in the name of love and in despite of love all the time. #but!! imagine a world where people could exist as people and not be demonized. #sex positivity means being cool about All sex. reexamine your internal systems of moral judgement. #this goes for sex workers. for aroallo people. especially aroallo men. for aro people in general who might enjoy sex. #and frankly i think it can easily bleed into discussions about mental health disorders around 'not feeling' certain things #especially demonizing ppl who don't feel as much empathy. i think there's definitely a correlation between that and the emphasis on love. #our support needs to go out to Everybody and i think these things are all structured together in one way or another!! #it might not be immediately obvious but when i tell you it all leads back to amatonormativity..... little bit wild.... large bit wild.... #anyway. horror movie psychopath 'oh he can't feel emotions or love' damn alright. well. let's take a closer look at that. #silly that there's an association between lack of love and Murdering. feel like that might affect some stuff. #love is just an emotion/a feeling it doesn't mean anything about you one way or another #same with empathy. you can feel it all you want but it doesn't inherently change the actions you choose to take #anyway. thesis statement. there is a socially constructed link between love and morality. unlearn that. #kiss kiss (<— lovelessly) #aromantic #aromanticism #arospec #talking #aroace #aspec #sex positivity

[noodles-and-tea]

hi !!! i’ve been following you on twitter and tiktok for ages (since luca) and have loved every single fandom you’ve transitioned through since then - your art is just amazing

but i cannot lie as a hardcore merlin fan seeing that you’ve entered this space after sherlock truly made me do a little dance with glee !! you drew them brilliantly and i can’t wait to see more if you happen to draw more of them !!

keep up the amazing work !! 💕💕

Oh thank you so much!!!!!

#genuinely getting emotional over here #thank you so much for the kind words?? #your support means the world to me- genuinely #also do not fret there will definitely be more Merlin to come!!! #my art #ask #Merlin #bbc Merlin

[ineffabildaddy]

"aziraphale needs to do this, aziraphale needs to do that" he needs to lie back on the bookshop floor and let crowley ride his face, okay?

#thank you amy and vol for encouraging me to post this #to say the important things that are sometimes difficult to say #your support means the world to me #good omens #ineffabildaddy

[ningadudexx]

I may seem like a fucntioning member of society but the truth is season 4 ruined me beyond a shadow of a doubt (i was shaking rocking and screamign during viewing)

Also the first idea with macaque and wukong sharing jin and yins capes were an idea from someone but i cant find who im sorry :( but that doodle is dedicated to that person!! it works perfectly with their color schemes heheheheh

#monkie kid #lmk #lego monkie kid #monkie kid sun wukong #monkie kid macaque #lmk macaque #lmk sun wukong #monkey king #lmk monkey king #sun wukong #six eared macaque #monkie kid spoilers #monkie kid s4 #lmk season 4 spoilers #lmk season 4 #not really spoilers very small #SEASON 4 KILLD ME I HAVE SO MANY IDEAS I NEED TO REWATCH IT ONE THOUSAND RIMES #This show means the world to me 😿 #please go support the show #itll change your life

[factual-fantasy]

I know who you are and why you’re here.

#But for real though thank you XDD #You guys keep surprising me every +1000 milestone #thank you all for your endless support #it really means the world #love you guys AAA!!!

[lazylittledragon]

i'm just going to say it, i think that billionaires who actively choose not to use their hoards of wealth for good and then die horrifically in circumstances entirely of their own selfish creation is EXTREMELY funny.

#ramble #don't say eat the rich unless you fucking mean it #being sad about this wouldn't be very punk of me #if you could end world hunger and every day decide not to i support your brutal death #“it's a horrible way to die” so is starving. PERISH

[pansear-doodles]

Thems @dieselpvnk

#i will support your cause #i mean i already have but heres art of your sillies lol #fanart #slugcat #enot #nightcat #rain world #rainworld #rain world downpour #rainworld downpour #dp spoilers #downpour spoilers #enight

[satans-knitwear]

soft vintage look ✨

Treat me ~ Tip Me ~ More of me

#lots and lots to do. i finally found my glasses again so maybe i will get a few less headaches now!! #satans knitwear #any tips or treats would be massively appreciated right now 💕✨ your support means the world to me 🥰 #bi girl #cheeky #uk girl #wlw #alt pinup #pinup girl #pretty lingerie #vintage vibes

[coins-that-never-land]

Y’all I was looking at my AO3 stats and…I sat down and did the math

I’ve written 504,771 words for hangster over the course of a year and a half

Truly I just have two questions: what the hell is wrong with me, and how has nobody stopped me yet? Clearly I have a problem 😂

#hangster #sereshaw #top gun maverick #top gun #icemav #toukojalorda003 works #y’all are the best #you’re all amazing #your support means the world 🥹💚

[yuriyuruandyuraart]

HAPPY BIRTHDAY @zu-is-here 🎉

I'm so happy I had the opportunity to join in a collab for once hhh xD especially when it's something as sweet as a hug bomb for one of the kindest souls I ever interacted with online waa have a great day zuuu >:'Dc <3333

#HugForZu #my art #my gif #my animation #gift #yuso #my skelesona #other's sona #i know i haven't posted in months but I didn't I didn't have time at all like gosh xd #all i know is that I really wanted to make something special this year since I didn't really like how it looked last time #but I think I'm a little bit more proud of this one at least HH xD I hope you like it and the others gifts zu!! #so proud to belong in a community as wellcoming and sweet as this one where I can meet people like you guys :'D #your support means the world and i especially didn't forget the bombshell of a drawing you dropped on me last year like GOOSHHH #if i had the time i would've painted something nice and edgy for dark cream but lets keep that idea until next year hehehe >;)c #happy bday and have an amazing tiiime muah muah<3333

[wavesoutbeingtossed]

The whole discourse about the privacy/secrecy/support thing has been sitting with me for a few days (I mean other than it always does to a certain degree) thanks to all the excellent discussion happening and I know I'm not saying anything that hasn't been said a million times before, but I think what we're seeing and what we're going to learn (e.g. from TTPD) is that it wasn't just the support issue, but how it was shown/handled.

We've all gone out of our way to show that introversion =/= lack of support. Someone can be shy, reserved, etc. and still show up for their partner, whether in public or at home. To chalk any of the differences up to the clash between introversion and extroversion is unfair to folks who count themselves among either tbh.

@thisisctrying said something the other day that hit the nail on the head about how if that support had been offered in private, there very well may not have been a Joever to begin with, or at least not at this point in time. (Sorry for loosely paraphrasing, and for namedropping you! Long time listener, first time poster.)

If this were a case where the "shy" partner said, "I am really uncomfortable with the spotlight personally and do not want to court it, but I will support you in your ambitions and offer you whatever you need to make them happen and make the glare bearable," I suspect that would have gone a long way to making Taylor feel seen and comfortable in pursuing her goals in the way that she now has. Again, that might have been more akin to the balance that seemed to have been struck around 2019 from what we can see, but even speaking in a general sense, there are lots of couples out there, celebrity or not, that have similar approaches where there are highly driven people and busy careers involved.

(A famous example being Dolly Parton's marriage. Tbh I know next to nothing about her and Carl, but she's always heralded as an example in this regard, because her husband is famously uncomfortable with the spotlight and hasn't accompanied her to public events in decades, but she's said that she never minded that because that was always work to her, and what was important was that he supported her in pursuing all her career goals and basically ensured she had a place to call home to return to at the end of the day.)

We're kind of in a brave new world with her current relationship because it felt like, at least at the start, we were maybe watching her figure out her boundaries in real time as to what she was comfortable with or not and adjust accordingly. Like so many have said, I fully believe the extreme privacy thing was initially driven by herself and her experiences in 2016, and she needed that quiet time to recover from all of the things and figure out how to exist in the world again.

Stating the obvious, it seemed like eventually privacy was equated with secrecy, turning the relationship and the celebrity into the elephant in the room and something to never be spoken of to the outside world. People are free to choose whatever works best for themselves and their relationships, and for some the separate public lives might work, but the “kept me like a secret but I kept you like an oath” theme is all over her work and it’s clear that it’s a sore spot for her, because she’s been made to feel shame just for the life she leads so many times in the past.

What I’m trying to say is that it’s pretty obvious something Not Great was happening behind the scenes, which didn’t just amount to “she wanted to be a public celebrity and he wanted to be a private hermit.” (Also, in case anyone forgot, this is a person who also chose a public-facing career who also has to engage in press for it, but I digress.) As her career reached new heights post-folklore, if she had the support at home to do all the things without judgment and with encouragement, and in turn offer the same support to her partner, she may have very well lived just fine with that, not unlike Dolly Parton’s case.

By reading between the lines in all the press since, as well as comments on tour and general ~vibes~ with TTPD teasers, it seems like one of the issues was that that was likely not the case. There was all the stuff that we saw — the reticence to acknowledge each other in the media (particularly on one side), the lack of public support even at events at which they were both in attendance for their respective jobs, the great lengths they went to not to be photographed together at events they attended yet no problem taking pictures with other friends and coworkers, the jobs that separated them, the withdrawing from the public even for work accomplishments, etc. Which could all be manageable if a couple chooses to do so together and are not inherently a sign of trouble in themselves.

But what we’re seeing now I think is a reflection of the things we weren’t seeing then, and it seems to indicate some very deep hurt. (I know, call me Captain Obvious.) And like so many have been saying, it feels likely that that part of that hurt is rooted in that very lack of private support where a person would expect it from their partner. Obviously as a Taylor fan blog I’m going to be more inclined to understand her side of a story, but tbh, it’s also because… this is sooooooo common, and something I’ve experienced in my friend group. (@taylortruther is right when she says most breakups are the same one way or another lol.)

One partner is resentful of the other’s success, or resentful that the other’s priorities begin to evolve as new experiences unlock new goals, or feels the other’s ambitions are not worthy of pursuit, and coupled with perhaps their own struggles in the same domain, it’s easy to see where that can chip away at the other partner’s morale and faith in the relationship. I know I’m just speculating here, but I also don’t think it’s totally unfounded. (Again, because a) I’m picking up what she’s putting down and b) it happens to sooooooo many women even among us dull normals.)

With all the pointed mentions about how much Taylor feels supported in her current relationship and how she in turn loves to offer the same show of support to not only her partner but other loved ones, how she’s stepped out more in the last year to a whole host of events, how she’s mentioned feeling like she locked herself away for years and she’s just proud of her partner and happy she can show up for him even if the chaos around it is unsettling, it paints a picture of what perhaps was happening before last year.

To feel like you’re all alone in carrying the weight of the relationship (or burden of it), of twisting yourself into knots to accommodate the other person’s boundaries (or insecurities) but not feeling reciprocity for your own has to be so painful. (The idea that it may have been even darker and to have a partner not only be unreceptive to your own needs but even perhaps resentful/dismissive/belittling of them is even more painful to think of. I guess we’ll find out when TTPD comes out if that was the case, too.)

At a certain point, that lack of acknowledgement will force your hand to be able to reclaim yourself. And it feels like the further removed Taylor in particular is from it, the more she moves from being sad about the life she felt she gave up by leaving, to angry at the life she felt she was giving up by staying. Especially being in a relationship now where it seems like everything comes much easier, where she can be open about the person she’s with and show up for them, all the stuff that seemed as challenging as climbing Mount Everest in her past is nothing more than a molehill at best in her current life.

TL;DR: I don’t think it’s privacy that inherently spells doom for a celebrity relationship like this; it’s the mutual support and respect that does. If Taylor had felt that in the later years of her previous relationship, I think we could be seeing a different, though not necessarily unfulfilled, person right now in 2024, who’d be happy on tour but whose personal life would look a little different. But it seems like by losing that support she lost parts of herself, and we’ve seen her reclaim that in spades in the last year, and perhaps to degrees she didn’t even realize she could from before all the Bad Stuff started happening in her young adulthood.

I know this was extremely long-winded and unnecessary, especially about total strangers we only know through scraps fed through the media, but I just always bristle at this idea that issues like these boil down to “personality differences,” as though one person wants to live in a city and the other on a remote island, or some shit like that. The whole support (and gender tbh) issue is one that’s just very close to my heart because again, I have seen it play out with so many of my friends in long term relationships and marriages and I just think people in relationships (and women in particular in some circles) deserve better than to feel like they’re being, well, tolerated.

#thisisctrying and taylortruther sorry for tagging you two! #can remove if needed! #but you guys made me think a lot #this was inspired by a conversation i had with a friend the other day #where she relayed an argument she had with her partner #who basically felt slighted that he wasn’t getting acknowledgement for all the housework he does — which is. just. the dishes #and she was like ‘wow congrats you’ve done the dishes — i do every other fucking thing to keep this household afloat in ways you see #and don’t see and i never ask for praise because it’s just stuff that needs to get done because that’s how you support your family’ #and it just reminded me that some partners (and a certain kind of man in particular) just… think their struggles take precedence #when their partners drown in them everyday but keep things afloat out of necessity and are never recognized or supported for it #(my friends have shitty husbands/boyfriends can you tell lol) #long post #again the way i just feel like i know the vibes of ttpd in my bones are 😵‍💫 #i feel like i have a lot more thoughts but I’m trying to be more gracious and less parasocial so #also just want to again defend the introverts of the world by reiterating that being introverted does not mean unsupportive #being a shitty partner does though! #writing letters addressed to the fire #it’s also just like… i feel like if Taylor had had even a modicum of the support in private and even public she needed #she’d probably still be with you know who and wouldn’t have considered leaving let alone doing it #because it would have felt like enough and like it was what was needed for both of them #whereas we’re seeing a completely new side of her open up now because this is the first time she’s ever had that support from a partner #in her adult life at least #and it’s like it’s opening up things she didn’t know she needed or wanted

[zariyen]

tysm for your patience! charms have finally arrived so i'll be packing them over the next few weeks 🥰🥰

#i'll put up another announcement once i've finished packing all orders! #tysm as always your support means the world ❤️❤️❤️❤️ #my merch #twisted wonderland #twst gashapon

[eikotheblue]

Behold! This absolutely incredible drawing of me as a Pokemon gym leader, drawn by my wonderful and incredibly talented friend Fen @salt-and-bramble 💙💙💙

I love it so much as a work of art and as a drawing of me and I'm using it as my profile picture everywhere now.

Fen did a wonderful job of - capturing lots of details that match up with things I actually wear (the heart gems I put on my forehead, my favorite top with the boob window, the galaxy print on my favorite dresses, the color of the glowy wheels on my skates), while also adding so many delightful little things that spark so much delight in my soul (the heart-shaped pupils, a much fancier design on my gloves than I currently have, the poi-pokeballs, a lil bit of embellishment on the cleavage) and. the hair.

Gods, the hair. Y'all have to understand - I've legit never seen a picture or depiction of my hair I've loved anywhere close to how much I love this. I've gotten a lot of compliments on my hair over my life, and despite historically really hating it, lately I've been figuring out ways to get it in a state where I can appreciate it myself, which has been a slow and strange process. But when I first saw this drawing, I felt like I understood for the first time what people are seeing, when they look at my hair and tell me it's beautiful. (When I told Fen this, they said I have the curls of the ocean... ;-; this has stuck in my head, and I think of it when I look at my avatar or my hair.) And the action lines in the rest of the piece really enhance the wave vibes...

it's just so perfect ;-;

#there's more to the story of how this image came to be and why the comment about smarthome bullshit and the other people involved #but - I'll be posting that later #because I've been writing this post in my head for the last several weeks and today it finally came out like this #and the perfect should not be the enemy of the good #and I know I've already said this but #thank you so much Fen #I love this I love you I'm so so so glad you're a part of my life #these last 2 months have been horrible but your support has made them so much more manageable #and this picture was one of the purist and brightest spots in that darkness #and it means the world to me #💙 💙 💙 #personal #art #gym leader sona saga